Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Middle East and North Africa	Friday	Angie that is fantastic news!!!!1 Sara...Happy Birthday to hubby You just gave me an idea of what to do with the pineapple I just bought. I am so glad it almost lunch time	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 10:46:00
Middle East and North Africa	Friday	Nothing like having my birthday on my favorite day of the week Dunno what the plans are but hopefully the weather will be nice this weekend and you all get to relax and do what you want. Amysaid hope you get all the last minutes completed. You should try to relax the 24 hours before you go. Such an exciting time. Send pics ok? Saw Harry Potter...it was good. Yeah the sun is coming out	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 09:01:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Anniversary a1angied !	That sounds real nice. Hubby and I went to Atlantic City last Friday to sit on the beach. I figured since we were there I might as well take him into the casinos for the first time. It was alot of fun! You don't have to spend a dime being in there but we spent a few dollars on the slots and got a few round of free cocktails...the boardwalk is there too! I hadn't been in quite a few years and he just loved it! We hit Taj Mahal and Resorts. Next on my list...BORGATA Have a blast! Edited by Sandrila, 24 July 2009 - 01:35 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 13:35:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Anniversary a1angied !	Dunno how I missed it but it is never too late to wish someone well. I hope God keeps you both close and blesses you with all you need to sustain you.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 08:25:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Birthday Maggie!	Happy Birthday Mags!! May God bless you with another healthy and happy year! Grrrrrrrrrr	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 08:23:00
Middle East and North Africa	Why is saying goodbye so hard?	It is such a heartwrenching situation. I had to leave my love 4x and each time got harder. Re-adjusting to life in the states wasn't easy either having lived in a foreign country. All I know is that life resumed pretty quickly to normal. The hustle and bustle of our life here, work, family, friends will soon occupy your time. It won't make you miss him less but it will bring some comfort to be around others, share your memories and pictures and make the time move along. Nothing anyone can say will make you feel better. Most of the time you think no one understands, but we all do. May God give you both the strength you need to endure this waiting period and expedite the time until you see each other again. Edited by Sandrila, 20 July 2009 - 08:39 AM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-20 08:37:00
Middle East and North Africa	dude vs dudette excursions	YEAH KID ROCK!	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 15:34:00
Middle East and North Africa	dude vs dudette excursions	I am always torn between what I want to do and what I think he wants to do. There are those events and sites he MUST see being here and I have already seen them. I think the guys would be fascinated to see some historic mansions. I don't think that is strictly a girl thing at all. Now if you asked him to go see "He's just not that into you" then I would give that a thumbs down. Edited by Sandrila, 24 July 2009 - 01:55 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 13:55:00
Middle East and North Africa	Free at last!	You know what is best dear. I pray GOD give you the strength to move on and the esteem to know there is still alot out there for you	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 08:26:00
Middle East and North Africa	I need a pic for kalentika with hummus	yummy looking but extensive cooking Edited by Sandrila, 24 July 2009 - 03:38 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 15:37:00
Middle East and North Africa	I need a pic for kalentika with hummus	That does look yummy. What origin is it?	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-23 12:34:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Birthday, Sandrila	awwwwwwwwwww	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 15:34:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Birthday, Sandrila	i feel special today cuz you. thanks again thanks.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 13:30:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Birthday, Sandrila	QUOTE (askfruitcakelady @ Jul 24 2009, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> have fun and its also Firday.!! Hope Godzilla can make it another 50 yrs!!! LOL, thank you dear	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 13:03:00
Middle East and North Africa	Happy Birthday, Sandrila	THANKS ALL OF YOU!!! It means so much to me. I thank God for the bunch of friends I have found in you! No plans yet. Going to think on it. Edited by Sandrila, 24 July 2009 - 08:22 AM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-24 08:21:00
Middle East and North Africa	Christian references	QUOTE (Sandrila @ Jul 28 2009, 11:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian Forward There is a joke in our household when I refer to the number of years Stormie and I have been married. I always say, "It's been 25 wonderful years for me and twenty-five miserable years for her." After twenty five years of marriage to Stormie, there aren't any phases of my complex personality left for her to discover. She has seen me triump, fail, struggle, be fearful and depressed, and doubt my competency as a husband, father and musician. She has seen me angry at God because he wouldn't jump when I asked HIM to.. She has witnessed miracles, as God redeemed something from the ashes to gold. Every step of the way has been accompanied by her prayers and this book was written from her experience over the years. I cannot imagine what my life would be without her praying for me. It gives me comfort and security, and also fulfills the mission the LORD has for us to pray for each other and bear one another's burdens. I can think of no better way to truly love your husband than by lifting him up in prayer on a consistent basis. It is a priceless gift that helps him experience God's blessings and grace. Stormie I love you. Your covered-in-prayer husband, Michael	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 10:28:00
Middle East and North Africa	Christian references	THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 10:19:00
Middle East and North Africa	Monday	Was supposed to have rain all this week but so far it's just a massively disgusting humidity ridden heatwave which may as well be rain since I can't tolerate it and am stuck inside with the a/c on. same here Jax...is that your cabinet?? My God the kids and hubster would love that......the peanuts.....somebody over there loves peanuts	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 10:45:00
Middle East and North Africa	Monday	109.4 MY GOD...does A/C even work in those temps??? Turia Amanda reviewed the thread and commented doll. HLM prayers for you MIL that she get approved so she can come and help ya with da babies! Angie...BIL too?? WOWEE!!!!!!!!!	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-27 15:17:00
Middle East and North Africa	Monday	Dorothy That you may have the clarity you need to find your way. Morning Peeps. How was the weekend? I am happy to say that I had a nice birthday weekend. Pool, sun, barbecue and goodies I hate Mondays	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-27 09:01:00
Middle East and North Africa	Calling out to my San Antonio friends	Amal what a very supportive and giving friend you are! That is very sweet what you have done and selfless. My prayers are with your friend. From what I hear, she should be extremely proud of herself	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 13:08:00
Middle East and North Africa	Finally interview date	Great News....moving right along	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 10:05:00
Middle East and North Africa	Not a religious Man	Tammy Sue God be with you and your family	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-27 08:58:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	QUOTE (Betsy El Sum @ May 27 2009, 09:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I have been in a mentally abusive relationship in the past and I can tell you that I believe it is worse than actually being hit. They destroy you from the head down. They creep into your mind and make you doubt everything that you believe. I posted earlier and stated that you will wonder what the H*ll you stayed so long for once the dust settles on this thing. I also had the crazy ex mother in law who perpetuated her son's bad behaviors. Once we divorced he moved back in with her. In the mean time they have had it out and he's living with his Aunt. All the while, I am here, remarried in my same house with my kids living a normal life. I promise it will all come out in the wash who was the crazy one in this situation. It always does. It is so sad that some actually need to protect themselves from the ones who say they love them the most. I feel that was a good desciption Betsy.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-06-08 11:17:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	QUOTE (Ganja_Girl @ May 26 2009, 06:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> First off you are not dealing with a normal human you are dealing with a sociopath. Sociopaths are people without a conscience, they don’t have normal empathy the rest of us take for granted. They don’t feel affection, they don’t care about others. They are good observers, and they have learned how to mimic feelings of affection and empathy remarkable well. Most people with a conscience find it very difficult to even imagine what it would be like to be without one. Combine this with a sociopath’s efforts to blend in, and the result is that most sociopaths go undetected. As far as taking the upper hand, REMEMBER HE IS NOT ON THE SAME PAGE AS THE REST OF US, what you perceive as love he sees as a weakness. Usually they go undetected, they wreak havoc on their family; on people they work with and on anyone who tries to be their friend. A sociopath deceives, takes what he wants, and hurts people without any remorse. SOCIOPATHS DON’T FEEL GUILTY. They don’t feel sorry for what they’ve done. They go through life taking what they want and giving nothing back. They manipulate and deceive and convincingly lie without the slightest second thought. They leave a path of confusion and upset in their wake. We know in the field that sociopath’s brains function differently than normal people. Their brains function in a way that makes their emotional life redeemable shallow. Yet they are capable of mimicking emotions like professional actors. In my field we classify them as antisocial personality disorder. Sociopaths don't have normal affection with other people. They don't feel attached to others. They don't feel love. And that is why they don't have a conscience. If you harmed someone, even someone you didn't know, you would feel guilt and remorse. Why? Because you have a natural affinity for other human beings. You know how it feels to suffer, to fear, to feel anguish. You care about others. If you hurt someone you love, the guilt and remorse would be very bad because of your affection for him or her. Take that attachment and affection away and you take away remorse, guilt, and any kind of normal feelings of fairness. That's a sociopath. So just keep safe and I would scrap taking the high road, you are not dealing with someone who would know fair and just, you are dealing with a predator. The big question is, of course, how can you know whether someone is a sociopath or not? It is a difficult question and even experts on the subject can be fooled. If you suspect that someone close to you is a sociopath, compare that person to the other people in your life. Ask yourself these questions: 1. Do you often feel used by the person? 2. Have you often felt that he doesn't care about you? 3. Does he lie and deceive you? 4. Does he tend to make contradictory statements? 5. Does he tend to take from you and not give back much? 6. Does he often appeal to pity? Does he seem to try to make you feel sorry for him? 7. Does he try to make you feel guilty? 8. Do you sometimes feel he is taking advantage of your good nature? 9. Does he seem easily bored and need constant stimulation? 10. Does he use a lot of flattery? Does he interact with you in a way that makes you feel flattered even if he says nothing overtly complimentary? 11. Does he make you feel worried? Does he do it obviously or more cleverly and sneakily? 12. Does he give you the impression you owe him? 13. Does he chronically fail to take responsibility for harming others? Does he blame everyone and everything but himself? And does he do these things far more than the other people in your life? If you answered "yes" to many of these, you may be dealing with a sociopath. For sure you're dealing with someone who isn't good for you, whatever you want to call him. "If ... you find yourself often pitying someone who consistently hurts you or other people, and who actively campaigns for your sympathy, the chances are close to one hundred percent that you are dealing with a sociopath." What he wants is chilling he wants to win,, take away the love and relationship and all you have left is winning the game, whatever the game is. A sociopath's goal is to win. And he is willing to do anything at all to win. Sociopaths have nothing else to think about, so they can be very clever and conniving. Sociopaths are not busy being concerned with relationships or moral dilemmas or conflicting feelings, so they have much more time to think about clever ways to gain your trust and stab you in the back, and how do it without anyone knowing what's happening. Boredom is a constant problem for sociopaths and they have an incessant urge to keep up a level of stimulation, even negative stimulation (drama, worry, upset, etc.). And here I might mention that the research shows sociopaths don't feel emotions the same way normal people do. For example, they don't experience fear as unpleasant. This goes a long way to explaining the inexplicable behavior you'll see in sociopaths. Some feelings that you and I might find intolerable might not bother them at all. There is no known cure or therapy for sociopathy. In fact, some evidence suggests that therapy makes them worse because they use it to learn more about human vulnerabilities they can then exploit. They learn how to manipulate better and they learn better excuses that others will believe. Given all that, there is only one solution for dealing with a sociopath: Get him or her completely out of your life for good. This seems radical, and of course, you want to be fairly sure your diagnosis is correct, but you need to protect yourself from the drain on your time, attention, money, and good attitude. Healing or helping a sociopath is a pointless waste of your life. That is not your mission. It's not your responsibility. You have your own goals and your own life, and those are your responsibility. Get him out now sweetie, and screw his feelings, because really, he doesn’t have any. Ganja Girl This was very informative. Even I learned something. It is hard to believe that someone you trust so implicity would actually go to great lengths psychologically or psychotically to manipulate you ,break you down and f&$! your head because they have nothing better to do. The fact that some people are so derranged from their own pain and misfortunes that they can turn everything around on you and actually make YOU think you are crazy. Whew...it gets to be exhausting. Edited by Sandrila, 08 June 2009 - 11:12 AM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-06-08 11:11:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	QUOTE (askfruitcakelady @ May 27 2009, 07:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I come in here on occasion , and its the same wretched story(ies) with no resolve.Dont see many the wives disrespecting the husband family or crying thier personals over in the desi threads. So i head back there. But hey thanks for trying to live in my head and deciphering what it is Im doing. i see the fingers of run the mouth are all pointing back to you Nag the Shah. so you just heading over here to get your daily fill entertainment? BTW I don't need to hear others defaming their husbands to get a bird's eye view of my own. The reason we are here is because we do share common experiences. You can seek a sociologist if you don't believe that certain groups of people exhibit some of the same characteristics when coming from the same culture and religion. If some people choose to post here they can do so, bashing or not, and still remain somewhat anonymous. If disrespecting one's husband is discussing personal issues about the relationship I think those husbands should stop disrespecting their wives thus the woman doesn't need to seek comfort or counsel from others. For some this is the only place they can seek comfort and guidance. Edited by sandrila, 28 May 2009 - 11:02 AM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-28 10:59:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	QUOTE (askfruitcakelady @ May 26 2009, 10:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> WOW This drama been going on and on for how long now?? Write a book purge and move on!! SHUT UP! This place is for any one of us to vent. God knows when you would be in a position to need someone and someone said something like that. And Kat I do agree with you, sorry, about him not being genuine from the get go but the best thing for you is to be as far away from him as possible. God has better things in store for you sweetie Edited by sandrila, 27 May 2009 - 03:31 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-27 15:31:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	You don't have to make yourself a doormat to be gracious. You can defend yourself, plan your strategy and make your point effectively without yelling or being revengeful. All the fighting and back n forth and uncertainty, pain and resentment does get very exhausting. I admire you for the way you choose to carry yourself I would say you definitely have exhibited the grace and forgiveness of GOD on this one. Edited by sandrila, 26 May 2009 - 03:28 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-26 15:26:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	I have to say that we are in control. If we are not we need to get in control. Enough is enough. You have seen this man CLEARLY for who is. Don't let him make you a victim any longer. I just see this man as a lazy, controlling, inconsiderate parasite. I don't think there are many women who would continue any longer doing what you have. The fact that is mother enables him is unbelievable. Tell him to let Mommy bail him out. He could stay on his conditional residence but why would you want him any where near you or in a position that he could come back into your life. YOU NEED TO GET ANGRY now...stop being so nice and trying to keep peace when all he has done wrecked your life and your sanity. The best punishment is not to allow him to remain in this country as a free loader any longer.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-26 10:58:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	I think you can get a PFA, that doesn't cost a dime. That way he gets OUT of your home and you can start to get him out of your life. LET HIM GO BACK, he never deserved to be here in the first place. I believe that any judge who hears the real hard core facts, there is NO WAY he will let this man get anything from you. He is just talking #######. He is trying to intimate you and kick you while you are down. I mean who does he think he is??? I would definitely inform USCIS of this poser and ruin his life. He has no right to be here at all and continue to pursue his dream while he has crushed yours and ruined your life. Start keeping journal of all that is said and done...that man will burn in hell for sure	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-26 10:22:00
Middle East and North Africa	advice and help	Kat I want to add that I too am very sorry that your husband continually just adds insult to injury. I know that when we are in a desperate situation you just grasp at straws and feel anything is better nothing but that is not true. I dont love you anymore is just too much to take, I know but all I would need to hear to finalize things. YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS! No decent person does and you have done way too much for this %$#!face to continue to take his abuse any longer. After all you have done and this guy hasn't shown one ounce of gratitude or support for you even when his own child has died. I want to offer you my prayers dear. It isnt much but I hope it helps to know that people DO care and I wanted to recall another thing you said about it is easy for people to advise when they are not in your shoes and know how your heart is breaking. That is true but after sometime people just want what is best for you and don't want to see you continue to suffer and be mistreated. The truth does hurt. I myself am going through a hard time with my husband and what turned out to be my dream has turned into a nightmare too. IT IS NOT ON THE SAME LEVEL as you but unhealthy just the same. Only you will come to know what your limits are and will act accordingly. I know you feel overwhelmed but you know this place and your rights better than he. Keep strong and protect yourself. I know an attorney costs alot but try to network and see what options may be out there for someone in your position. Clearly this a...hole didnt have any true intentions from the start. YOU ARE WORTHY but he is not. I can also relate to having an inlaw talk bad about you and try to influence your husband. I have had that same scenerio involving my own children and you know what it has been a battle that I refused to continue to fight. I stand my ground. IF SOMEONE LOVES AND RESPECTS YOU, you should never have to fight for that or justify yourself. If you need an ear. PM me. I hope you can get some resolution and soon. I wish that so called husband of yours would just go back to the hole he crawled out of.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-05-26 10:07:00
Middle East and North Africa	FIRST TIME	It would not be the first time I heard of the CO requesting RFE....request for evidence, after an interview. Some even have to return for a second interview. I can't speak of your specifics as my hubby is from Maroc. GOOD LUCK and welcome.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-09 09:44:00
Middle East and North Africa	Wednesday	The babe could very easily be toddlering around, not in plain view of Mommy, stick hand in diaper, examine and taste	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-29 13:23:00
Middle East and North Africa	Wednesday	Happy Hump Day!! It is so humid here these days. It isn't even that hot but with mid to upper 80 temps and humidity so thick it is really yucky. You get out of the shower and you can't stay dry. I am ready to find a nice big lake and jump right in! Have a good day Edited by Sandrila, 29 July 2009 - 08:44 AM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-29 08:44:00
Middle East and North Africa	I lost my husband today	Henna Rose I want to tell you how much I admire you for the strength and poise you have shown during this unimaginable, heartbreaking time. I will continue to pray for you.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-27 08:57:00
Middle East and North Africa	I lost my husband today	I am so saddened to hear that news Henna Rose. I am sorry but i know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I will pray for your husband and you and his family. Edited by sandrila, 31 July 2008 - 01:12 PM.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2008-07-31 13:11:00
Middle East and North Africa	Just thought I'd share...	CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!! THANKS FOR SHARING....GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR NEW DAUGHTER	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-20 08:25:00
Middle East and North Africa	Tuesday	Terri how is Aaron baby? Amal...no probs angie what did you and Hasan do again? Charles the only movie I recognize or even heard of is Fast Furious...all else looks blah to me. Anyone heard of the movie, "The Stoning of Sophia"? It is playing here at an avantgard theatre and I wanted to see it, as scary as it sounds.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 13:06:00
Middle East and North Africa	Tuesday	In light of things, here is a joke > Family Tree of Vincent Van Gogh: > > His dizzy aunt ----------------------------------------------- Verti Gogh > The brother who ate prunes------------------------------- Gotta Gogh > The brother who worked at a convenience store ------ Stop N Gogh > The grandfather from Yugoslavia ----------------------------- U Gogh > His magician uncle -------------------------------- Where-diddy Gogh > His Mexican cousin ---------------------------------------- A Mee Gogh > The nephew who drove a stage coach --------------- Wells-far Gogh > The constipated uncle ------------------------------------- Can't Gogh > The ballroom dancing aunt -------------------------------- Tang Gogh > The bird lover uncle -------------------------------------- Flamin Gogh > The fruit-loving cousin -------------------------------------- Man Gogh > A sister who loved disco -------------------------------------- Go Gogh > And his niece who travels the country in an RV --- Winnie Bay Gogh > > I saw you smiling . . . there ya Gogh! > > > > >	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 09:57:00
Middle East and North Africa	Tuesday	Morning. Amysaid have a safe and exciting trip! My God it seems like everyone has either just gotten back or is anticipating a trip overseas....boo hoo I wanna go too! Please Please keep in your prayers my mother in law in Morocco. She has been struggling with very bad diabetes and she is now in a hospital in a diabetic coma. My husband called last night for his routine round of calls and he got the news. I think this is her 3rd day in the hospital. I know that is so frustrating for him to be here and not see his mother, be there for her and really assess what's going on. I think he is thinking about going back there. I hope she is going to be alright. Amanda Have a good day peeps.	Sandrila	Female	Morocco	2009-07-28 08:43:00