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CanadaI am sick...
QUOTE (KarenCee @ Jun 18 2008, 10:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (hailee_marie @ Jun 18 2008, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am going through this right now too. Me and my fiancee are applying for our K1 and my ex (never married) is refusing to sign the childrens passports (6yrs and 3yrs old) and refusing to give me consent to move with them. I have a court order that states :

1.The Applicant (me) shall have custody of the children.
2. The respondant (him) shall have reasonable access to the children upon reasonable notice.

So because he is so unwilling to compromise with me I filed a motion to change our current court order to states:

1. The applicant shall have sole custody of the children and the children shall reside with her in the United States.
2. The applicant can travel with said children without the consent of non-custodial parent only providing him notice of travel
3. The respondant shall have visitation during summer holidays and major holidays. Both parties shall be equally responsible for any costs in regards to travel of the children back and forth.

Maybe once you get back from your vacation apply to change your court order if you have one. That way you dont need his consent and his ignorance of giving you a hassle everytime you want to travel and upsetting your child is nice evidence against him. I dont understand why some people who call themselves adults act in a childish manner.

My first court date is July 9th hopefully he comes to his senses and in mediation will agree to this as I am trying to be as accomidating and I am only moving 8 hr drive from where I live now.

I told him once that i dont need his consent to move within Canada so I could move to freaking Halifax which is further then where I am moving now ... he is just a miserable man and does not want me to be happy.

He does not want custody of the kids never has just thinks he has the right to control my life for the rest of my life.


^^^^ is the PRECISE reason I am having the issues with my ex that I do. In my situation, we *have* to share joint custody since we were married. Our divorce decree states that all I have to do is inform him of her travel itinerary. The issue is at the border, and I truly understand this as so many children *are* abducted. I would never do this b/c regardless of how I feel about the jerk, my daughter loves her dad...and I've never tried to change that. He does see her on his scheduled weekends and pays child support so in that regard he is active. As for all the other aspects of her life, he doesn't involve himself...and I only live 90 minutes away.

A court order seems to be the only way to go for me...and I hate it...but I don't EVER want to see my daughter cry the way she did when I told her we might not be going to visit Grand-Mére and Grand-Pére without the paper her dad has to sign. *sigh*

I hope things work out positively for you and your children. rose.gif Miserable people can make life sooooo difficult for everyone else around them.


They dont seem to think how it is effecting the children and they are who matters most. I hope everything goes smoothly for you too. Court is so time consuming but you have to do what is best for you and your child and to lessen the stress of his antics ... you are not trying to keep him from the child you just want the right to travel and have your child experience life without the hassles. If they could only understand that ...
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-18 10:04:00
CanadaI am sick...
I am going through this right now too. Me and my fiancee are applying for our K1 and my ex (never married) is refusing to sign the childrens passports (6yrs and 3yrs old) and refusing to give me consent to move with them. I have a court order that states :

1.The Applicant (me) shall have custody of the children.
2. The respondant (him) shall have reasonable access to the children upon reasonable notice.

So because he is so unwilling to compromise with me I filed a motion to change our current court order to states:

1. The applicant shall have sole custody of the children and the children shall reside with her in the United States.
2. The applicant can travel with said children without the consent of non-custodial parent only providing him notice of travel
3. The respondant shall have visitation during summer holidays and major holidays. Both parties shall be equally responsible for any costs in regards to travel of the children back and forth.

Maybe once you get back from your vacation apply to change your court order if you have one. That way you dont need his consent and his ignorance of giving you a hassle everytime you want to travel and upsetting your child is nice evidence against him. I dont understand why some people who call themselves adults act in a childish manner.

My first court date is July 9th hopefully he comes to his senses and in mediation will agree to this as I am trying to be as accomidating and I am only moving 8 hr drive from where I live now.

I told him once that i dont need his consent to move within Canada so I could move to freaking Halifax which is further then where I am moving now ... he is just a miserable man and does not want me to be happy.

He does not want custody of the kids never has just thinks he has the right to control my life for the rest of my life.

Edited by hailee_marie, 18 June 2008 - 09:33 AM.

hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-18 09:30:00
CanadaI'm leaving on a jet.....train...
Good Luck .... hope everything goes well for you and you can be with ur love soon
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-18 20:25:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (Carlawarla @ Jun 26 2008, 08:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (hailee_marie @ Jun 26 2008, 07:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Okay so I have been checking the USPS site tracking the package ... seriously how long does it sit in the damn post office ... it is still saying acceptance at 4:18pm blah blah that was two days ago .... quit smoking last night and it seems everything is getting on my last nerve this morning haha ... Chicago has to have the worst postal service ever!!!



So they accepted the package 2 days ago....you have to wait my dear! It will take a couple of weeks before you're going to get a notice saying they received it! This is what we call NOA1. You'll have a case number on that sheet of paper, and with that, you can sign up for on-line tracking of your application.

Best of luck on your quitting smoking! good.gif

There isn't a seperate Chicago postal system...it's the whole darn country's system! laughing.gif And you're going to find...that the US system is MUCH better than the Canadian one.

Take a breath and hold on tight for a heck of a ride until your approved! yes.gif

Edited to ask...how the heck can you check on your case status when you just sent your applicaiton in on Tuesday? wacko.gif


LOL ... i'm checking the package on the United States Postal Service not the USCIS ... I wish it was that quick haha ... no no just frustrated that the site is not updating or my package is still sitting there thats all ...
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-26 08:06:00
CanadaFinally
Okay so I have been checking the USPS site tracking the package ... seriously how long does it sit in the damn post office ... it is still saying acceptance at 4:18pm blah blah that was two days ago .... quit smoking last night and it seems everything is getting on my last nerve this morning haha ... Chicago has to have the worst postal service ever!!!
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-26 07:48:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (Carlawarla @ Jun 25 2008, 07:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello and welcome to VJ! I just wanted to welcome you, and let you know we're hoping everything is smooth sailing on the beginning journey of your K-1!


Thanks ... I hope so too biggrin.gif

Yes I know when I travel there to bring sufficent evidence of my ties to Canada just in case
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-25 07:43:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (CBR @ Jun 24 2008, 11:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Congratulations!! I wish you a short journey. Where do you cross the border when you visit? I'm in WI so I wonder if we take the same route.


I don't drive out there as I do not have my licence lol. I fly out of Toronto and into O'Hare. When we drove to try to come to Canada we were trying to enter at lexxington?? Near Sarnia
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 22:06:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (cattattude @ Jun 24 2008, 10:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Congrats - that is such a good feeling to have the papers sent away to officially begin the process. good.gif I am sure you'll become accustomed to the Vent thread shortly . . . . . its a good outlet for the waiting game of frustration tongue.gif

Chicago and the burbs are lovely - what a wonderful place to be calling home.


Ahh I am sure I will at some point venture over to the vent thread other then to read, I know what I am in for and know that this process will take sometime to get through.

I am looking forward to the journey and getting to know you all a little more wink.gif

Oh my Chicago and the burbs are so amazing I can not ask for a better place to start our new lives together.
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 21:33:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (o0pink0o @ Jun 24 2008, 10:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Congrats and good luck on your journey smile.gif


Thank you so much! I am so glad my fiancee found this forum it has helped us a lot in filing our papers and getting everything in order and I know it will only be of more help in the near future as we go along this journey.
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 21:17:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (SapphireDreams @ Jun 24 2008, 10:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The update in the evening thing is a lie!

They updated mine during the day smile.gif


Oh you should not have told me that lmao now I WILL be on there all day long haha
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 21:02:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (SapphireDreams @ Jun 24 2008, 09:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yay! Congrats! I know the feeling quite well as we just sent in our package. We'll definitely be going through this together!

I hope we both have a speedy process!!


I know he just sent me the confirmation # for our package and I set up email notifications and can see myself checking it all the time even though it is updated in the evening lol! I really hope all the best for you and your fiancee and yes I hope we both have speedy process!
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 20:57:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (kelland34 @ Jun 24 2008, 09:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Congrats! Another one bound for Chicago, it looks like?

We will hopefully finish getting our package together to send when I next visit there in a week and a half.


Thank you and yes Chicago bound (well the suburbs of Chicago) I can't wait it is so beautiful there I love visiting.

Good luck to you as well ... lets hope our process is easy and no kinks lol
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 20:32:00
CanadaFinally
QUOTE (Leafgal @ Jun 24 2008, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Congratulations to you both. I hope you have a quick journey, but if not we are all here for you.


Thank you so much we are both excited to get on with it but I know the months of waiting will be hard but hopefully I can make it over there for some visits (since he is not allowed in Canada) and don't get denied at POE ...
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 20:19:00
CanadaFinally
Well today the fiancee went to the post office and mailed off our I-29F!!! So happy to be finally starting the long process of waiting! I know the waiting is going to drive me insane as most of you can prolly relate but I know that everyday apart is just one day closer to spending the rest of my life with my soul mate biggrin.gif
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-24 20:11:00
CanadaThe Vent
Ahhh my first VENT ... So I quit smoking last night (with the aid of the patch) .... safe to say I am a lil annoyed with small things ... so we sent out K1 package two days ago through USPS in Chicago .... well I went online to check the tracking thing and it is still sitting in the damn post office .... this is the same message that has been on there since we sent it

Your item was accepted at 4:18 PM on June 24, 2008 in OAK FOREST, IL XXXXX. Information, if available, is updated every evening. Please check again later.

Ummm yah 2 days sitting in a post office uggh I guess I am just used to Canada Post being so quick my fiancee warned me that Chicago has a crappy postal service but I never thought something would sit in the post office for two days!!!

Okay I am done lol if I had those smokes I would be able to calm down quicker lol ....
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-26 07:53:00
CanadaDon't you love it when...
I loved it when I got home from the spa today and had an email letting me know my package arrived at the CSC (i was freaking out this morning because it had said for the last two days that it was accepted at the post office which to me it was still sitting there) it went from sitting there to the CSC so they dont update like they say lmao ... that was a great way to end the day!!!
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-26 18:19:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJune 2008 Filers
QUOTE (NYC Tiger @ Jul 1 2008, 02:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (hailee_marie @ Jul 1 2008, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We filed at the CSC on June 24th, they got our application June 26th and cashed our cheque on July 1'st (today)
although my fiancee saw #'s on the back of the cheque the # he gave me started with E but was only 9 characters long not 13 so guess we will have to wait for the NOA1 to be able to check our status online cray5ol.gif


There supposed to be 10 numbers after 3 letters. Good luck! good.gif


Yes I know it is supposed to be 13 characters in total ... the combo he gave me was like this (changing #'s for privacy)

E5693 1299

So that is obvi not the right one so when he gets home i'll have him take another look at the back of the cheque lol

Edited by hailee_marie, 01 July 2008 - 02:12 PM.

hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-07-01 14:10:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJune 2008 Filers
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Jul 1 2008, 11:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well if you have the last 4 numbers, and are quite anxious about getting it wink.gif , you can always figure it out. Here's how it breaks down...

Example - WAC 08 143 5 1234

WAC - California Service Center (formerly Western Adjudication Center)

08 - The fiscal year of USCIS, from October 1 to September 30. (Cases filed from 10/01/2006 to 09/30/2007 will have xx = 07)
143 - The working day of the fiscal year when your case is received. 10/01 = 001
5 or 0 - Either 5 (in database) or 0 (paper files) ... K1's are put into database
1234 - A serial number assigned to your case based on the number of cases received, starting from 0001


Thanks for the info, I tried it and no luck ... so he must have given me the wrong # or it just is not working lol ... I must wait for him to get home and ask him to check again and give me all the #'s on the back of it
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-07-01 13:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJune 2008 Filers
We filed at the CSC on June 24th, they got our application June 26th and cashed our cheque on July 1'st (today)
although my fiancee saw #'s on the back of the cheque the # he gave me started with E but was only 9 characters long not 13 so guess we will have to wait for the NOA1 to be able to check our status online cray5ol.gif
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-07-01 10:32:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAdvice on children
Okay so we have not filed yet for the K1 but are planning on doing so soon. We were waiting for me to talk to my childrens father to see if we could come to a mature agreement. That did not happen. So I need some advice.

We were together for 6 years but were never married and I have court granted full custody and he has court granted visitation every other weekend. I spoke to the passport office and because he has court granted custody i need his signature to get my childrens passports. Also because he is on their birth certificates and they have his last name I need a letter of consent to take them out of canada and to the states.

Well it looks like he is not going to give me the signature or let me take the kids to the states from canada without a fight.

Now a little background he has a marijuana habit and his gf that lives with him does not have custody of her children. I am wondering if this information will sway the courts on allowing me to have the children and ordering him to sign the paperwork.

I am looking for some advice if anyone has anything that could be of assistance.
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-06 21:53:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresInterview Question
Another question ... I see many people having interviews in Montreal and Ottawa ... there is a US Embassy/Consulate in Toronto and when on their website it shows they do Visa appointments and such ... do they do the K1 visa interviews there or just in Montreal and Ottawa??? I am so much closer to Toronto like 30 min
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-14 12:31:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresInterview Question
Thanks just wanted to make sure it would not be an issue before we applied!!!
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-14 12:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresInterview Question
Okay so me (canadian) and my fiancee (american) are preparing to file our K-1 soon we have everything together and just have one question about the interview stage before we file.

On my last trip out to Chicago we planned to spend half the vacation there and the other half here in Canada. So we drove to the border and he was denied entry due to a previous DUI from a few years ago. At that time he was told he cannot enter Canada and if he tried to enter without a waiver from the Canadian Consulate he will be arrested. We were told the process to get that waiver takes a very long time and there is no guarantee he will be approved that is why we are doing the K1 now cause we had originally planned for him to move to Canada.

So my question is for the interview he cannot come because he is not allowed into Canada ... is this going to be an issue or is it okay if he is unable to attend.

Thanks in advance!!!!

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hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-14 11:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCheck
QUOTE (pushbrk @ Jun 17 2008, 09:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (hailee_marie @ Jun 17 2008, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Okay dumb question lol ... i lost the posting of who the check is made payable to and for the life of me I cannot find it anywhere i have searched and searched so has my fiancee ... if you can tell me what we put on the check thanks



I guess you looked everywhere except the instructions that come with the I-129F. I hope that's not an omen for the rest of your package.


The 1-129F I downloaded was just the forms, no instructions, I asked fellow VJ'ers for some advice as i was sure I would get an answer from people who had been through the process. No it is not an "omen" to the rest of our package we have gone over everything more then enough times to make sure no spelling errors or anything is missing, that everything is signed. I looked in the FAQ's under K1 Guides and Info and did not see it there I had seen it here posted before but could not find it so figured asking was the best way to get an answer.

Thank you to those who responded so quickly I don't look forward to the wait but am very excited to begin the process!

wub.gif

Edited by hailee_marie, 17 June 2008 - 10:26 PM.

hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-17 22:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCheck
Okay dumb question lol ... i lost the posting of who the check is made payable to and for the life of me I cannot find it anywhere i have searched and searched so has my fiancee ... if you can tell me what we put on the check thanks
hailee_marieFemaleCanada2008-06-17 18:40:00