ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresConsulate requiring guarantee money?
Sorry but this sounds like a scam.

A friend of mine had her interview a few weeks ago and she didn't need any of that (apart from the Affidavit from the USC). It wasn't a consulate in Turkey but still, it doesn't sound right.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-24 15:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMarriage based immigration- how do I get started?
QUOTE (chibihorsewoman @ Apr 25 2009, 11:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My not quite fiance (no ring, no date set until after he graduates from college- but we've both informally proposed to one another on numorous occasions) is a Canadian citizen and I'm an American. I'm curious as to how long I should wait to get the forms. He graduates in 2011 and has been told by a friend of his mother's whose relationship in the states didn't work out that we'd have to be married in six months. But neither of us have any idea where to start or how early to start.

Should I go get my paperwork started now even though he won't be moving here for another year? Or should I wait until the beginning of 2010? Questions questions.


The whole process usually takes 6-7 months, so take that into account. Whenever both of you are ready to live together and go through the PAINFUL and LONG K-1 Fiance Visa Process, then that's when you should start (don't mean to lecture!). Good luck on your journey!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-25 21:29:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAre k-1 visas approved constantly?
Eligibility for the K1 fiancee visa depends on the following requirements:

* the visa sponsor must be a U.S. citizen, and the beneficiary must be their fiancee;

* both the U.S. citizen and foreign fiancee must be free to marry, meaning that they are not currently married to other people and have no other impediment to marriage (prior marriages that ended in a legally valid divorce or annulment, or because the other spouse passed away, are not a problem);

* the U.S. citizen and foreign fiancee must have met in person within the two years before the K1 fiancee visa petition is filed unless either:

(a) meeting your fiancee in person would violate strict and long established customs of your fiancee's foreign culture or social practice; or

(cool.gif the U.S. citizen can establish that complying with this requirement will result in extreme hardship to them (please note that financial hardship alone is not considered to be an "extreme hardship" by the USCIS); and

* you and your fiancee must intend to marry within 90 days of your fiancee entering the U.S. using a K1 visa.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 19:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAre k-1 visas approved constantly?
QUOTE (Fei Hung @ Apr 26 2009, 03:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my mother came to work to the us, then she send people to bring me, at the border, the officers did not ask for
documentation and let us in. I have been comming to school since then, I fell in love, and want to spent the rest of our lives together. I have informed myself, that a person starts being illegal once they turn 18, after 180 days of illegal stay I wont be able to come back for three yrs, only with a pardon, if I stay for more than 1 year after 18, then is ten yrs, I believe the pardon can still apply. I will leave to my country before 180 days. My criminal record is clean. My fiancee is the US citicen and I already have a co-sponsor. We do not have evidence of luggage stamps, nor passport stams, or trips, it's just pictures, e-mails, letters, letters from other people testfying our relationship, and that is it... Are k-1 visas denied easily or usually? Would my situation be a problem?

Thanks


The petitions are usually approved but you must meet certain conditions to be eligible for the Fiance Visa.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 13:40:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresQuick engagement...
QUOTE (BridgetEM @ Apr 27 2009, 12:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Future Mrs Disney @ Apr 26 2009, 10:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (BridgetEM @ Apr 27 2009, 12:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My fiance and I met online and within a very short time decided to marry. We are both young. Between those two details, should we have anything to worry about? Will the lack of a "courtship" period affect us? unsure.gif


You didn't mention if you two had met in person. That's one of the requirements for the visa.


Yes, we have met in person.


Excelent! biggrin.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 22:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresQuick engagement...
QUOTE (BridgetEM @ Apr 27 2009, 12:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My fiance and I met online and within a very short time decided to marry. We are both young. Between those two details, should we have anything to worry about? Will the lack of a "courtship" period affect us? unsure.gif


You didn't mention if you two had met in person. That's one of the requirements for the visa.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 22:49:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresIs my situation appealing?
QUOTE (RoxcieJoe @ Apr 26 2009, 03:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Future Mrs..... when they are reviewing your (everyone's) case they will look for a legal entrance into the USA, by looking into the database system for valid visa entre. They will know before you are interviewed if the applicant has entered the US illegally or legally.

All visa entrance are entered into the US govt database. HOMELAND SECURITY.


Oh, yeah, that is true. Thank you!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 19:33:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresIs my situation appealing?
QUOTE (RoxcieJoe @ Apr 26 2009, 03:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Question #11 on the I129 form that ask if your financee ever been in the USA, this question must be answered correctly. If you answered YES, then you must show the USCIS how you entered into the US. This is where your trouble may begin.... Becasue you just staed that you entered the US illegally.



I thought you only needed to explain how (with I-94 number and such) on the I-129F if the beneficiary is still in the US. Right? Because on the form they ask if the beneficiary has been in the States. In my case, we answered YES. And then they ask "IF YOUR FIANCE IS CURRENTLY ON THE US, COMPLETE THE FOLLOWING...". So since he's not in the States anymore, I think he won't have to answer that second question. Or am I wrong?

But nevertheless, hire a GOOD lawyer, as stated before.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 13:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedurespassport photo
Well, I'm hoping they won't mind. Thank you!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-02 17:56:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedurespassport photo
My fiance is confused as to the different sizes of our passport pictures we submitted.

Here in Brazil the passport pictures are a little bigger than the American ones (2x3), which is the size of the one I sent him. My J1 Visa has a 2x3 sized picture too, so we thought it wouldn't be a problem. Now we are wondering if it will be a problem, and if we will get an RFE because his picture is 2x2 and mine is 2x3.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-02 17:38:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresmailing address confusion
Glad I could help. smile.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-04 11:10:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresmailing address confusion
Well... US Army, Air Force, Marines etc. I meant Armed Forces. smile.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-02 22:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresmailing address confusion
QUOTE (Quail @ May 1 2009, 12:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I posted awhile ago about my concern about my finace (the USC) being deployed while we are filing for our k1 in regards to his mailing address. He leaves late July and we are mailing off our package tomorrow so the likelihood of having our k1 approved and completed before he leaves is low.

The general response was that we should put a family members address as his mailing address so she can recieve mail while he is away. But now that I am looking at the I-129F I am confused on how to do that. Do we list his family members address as his present address? In which case, how to we explain that not matching the info G325a?

There is a section about providing an alternative address if you are overseas.. But I do not think that applies to him, as he won't be overseas until late July. I don't want the uscis to be confused huh.gif

Any thoughts would be much appreciated! We would love to get this sent off tomorrow..



If your fiance is in the US Army and is going to be deployed there's a way you can speed up the process. Oh, Just write his address down.

You will mail your I-129F Petition and once you receive NOA1 you can call the USCIS Military Help Line. Here's the link, it will explain everything. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask. And good luck!

http://www.uscis.gov...0004718190aRCRD
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-02 22:13:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresilliegal border crossing
QUOTE (crazytown4u @ May 4 2009, 02:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
it can be 5 to 10 years depending on his case " My step fater got 5years and he had his green card he could have waiting for a court date but after 4months in jail he said he wanted to be self deported* everyone highley advise him to stay it was a miss understanding he should wait for his court date but he got tired of waiting and wanted to see his wife and kids so * He got 5yrs and had his green card now someone who does not i hate to know how long it is but i belive its 10 and lol my step dad 5 yrs are up but he is not coming back to the u.s.a he is still upset about how immgrants are treated i dont blame him "" ** He was in jail for failure to not show up in immagraion apointment, which he swears he had no idea he had thats why he did not go, and i belive him b/c he was crossing mexican and american boarders and working in his name::



Triple HUH? blink.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-04 12:21:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresKEEP YOUR NOA2 (K-1 APPROVAL), YOU WILL NEED IT FOR AOS
Yeap, good advice. smile.gif

I don't remember exactly how much but if you need to order a second NOA2, it's quite expensive. And I'm not sure if you are able to get another one such a long time after you got your first NOA2.

Keep everything they send you, and make copies of everything you send to them. Better be sure than sorry.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-04 12:17:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresRFE
Sorry about the RFE's. Hopefully you won't have to wait so much for NOA2. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-04 20:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresok
QUOTE (mackenson @ May 4 2009, 11:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
for a k1 visa if I arrive in the United States with my husband I engaged a week after my arrival there any problem if I send the paper before the USIS 90 days



I'm not sure if I understood your question.

Those 90 days after arrival on the United States are for when you already have the K1 Visa. You have 90 days to get married once you arrive in the US.

In order to get the visa, you (well, the US Citizen) must file a I-129F Petition with USCIS. Once that petition is approved, you'll be requested to go to an interview in the American embassy/consulate in Haiti. Now, the whole process is not as easy as it sounds here and both you and your fiance must be single and free to marry. If you two are already married, you'll have to apply for another visa, perhaps K3 Spouse Visa.

Please, read the guides for a better understanding. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-04 22:06:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresfiance's parent's info unknown
QUOTE (fulamuso @ May 5 2009, 11:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my fiance's parents have not been a part of his life since he was young and he does not know exact birth dates and locations.. can he simply put "not known" for the whole thing? or should he guess the year and put the country (they were definitely born in the UK). he's still working on getting his birth certificate, so that might have more info, but just wondering if it's even necessary. thanks for your help! smile.gif



I like the "no lies" policy better, so if I didn't know any info about my parents and weren't able to call them and ask for that info, then I would state that it's not known, since you have that option on the form. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-05 09:41:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures129-Filing fee
I think you should be ok since your check has been cashed and you received NOA1 already. If something was wrong you would have received a RFE. Now your package is probably piled up with all the others waiting to be checked out. Good luck in your journey!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-05 21:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI-129f packet, dates on forms...
QUOTE (baron555 @ May 5 2009, 05:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (fulamuso @ May 5 2009, 02:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
thanks so much! you never know. that's it for now, promise smile.gif



Agreed, nothing to worry about. I think my I-129F was the last date I used, Letters from her were way before mine and her G-325A was before mine. My check had the latest date. everything was accepted no problem.

Of course the first thing they do is cash the check!!! Even before giving a case number and issuing the NOA!!!!!


Of course...
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-05 21:44:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI-129f packet, dates on forms...
My letter of intent was signed WAY before my fiance's (the USC). It should be ok, considering the beneficiary needs to sign and send the letter to the petitioner, which can take a while in the mail. Good luck in your journey!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-05 13:16:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresPassport Stamps - ugh
If you included copies of birth certificate (front and back) then you don't need to provide copies of all pages of your passport. We did, just to be safe, but it's not necessary. You're good, good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-06 11:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCheck is cashed
Yes, congrats! kicking.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-06 11:23:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedureshelp buddies
QUOTE (dwaeeb @ May 6 2009, 07:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
on 6-2009 februaryi got a denial decision notice for my case I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E ..because my fiance sent the additional evidence to unvalid address ..my lawyer told me that we should reopen the case
she appealed on 17 february

i check my state onlin but i find the same thing ..i mean the message has not updated yet ...so my question is when the uscis updat the mesage on the site and what it should be ...thanks in advance
please i need help coz i am so worried coz i am so far from my sweetheart
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When you reopened the case, you resent your petition with a valid address, right? So they sent you a NOA1 and now you check your case online and it still says your case is denied? Is that what is going on?
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-06 17:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 Visa (packet compilation prior to interview)
QUOTE (Gary_UK @ May 7 2009, 11:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi everyone.

Just got back from my final visit to the US prior to the (hopefully) final legs of the K1 application process.

I am the beneficiary (UK Citizen) My fiancee being the petitioner. I am currently putting together and tripple checking the DS-230, DS 156, DS 156k and DS 157. I have new full copies of my birth certificate, Police record check and so on. And plan to use our wedding invitation as well as copies of the payments for the wedding venue as proof of our engagement.

I have been suggested that copies of the police docs, birth cert have a hand written " Certification " that they are copies of untampered originals and may be requested at a future time. (or something to that effect) and not send the original copies as they will be needed for my interview when it is scheduled.

I have my medical booked for two weeks time and plan to ship the paperwork off to the US Embassy in London by Monday at the latest then the IV-15 a day later to say that I am ready for Interview.

My question to you all is this. As "paper paranoia" is setting in ( I am at work at the moment mulling over all of this ) But recall from memory that one of the above mentioned papers asks for "proof of financial support" or something similar.

My financee earns just above the 125% base line above poverty and after talking with her this afternoon and aranging to have a full copy of the i129F to be sent to me (in scanned electronic format) which she submitted to the USCIS the "financial support" question popped up.

She does not recall including any financial information in the i129F !!!!!

Is this right ? (she is under a lot of stress at the moment due to her sitting her finals this week). Should I hold back sumbitting my paperwork and putting HER financial information into MY Packet being submitted to the US Embassy ?

I am sitting on nearly completed forms about to be sent but im worried that I am missing critical information as part of the application. I plan to leave the UK in early october and the possibility of having an RFE at this late stage is filling me with dread.

Any assistance you guys can offer I would be VERY grateful.



Indeed, no financial information is needed when you file the I-129F Petition. Now, for the interview they are going to ask you for that. The Petitioner must earn above 125% poverty line. The petitioner will fill out an Affidavit of Support (form I-134) on behalf of the beneficiary, and then send it to you (the beneficiary). If the Petitioner doesn't make 125% above poverty line, they can use a co-sponsor (a parent, a sister etc) or you (the beneficiary) can be the sponsor, if you meet the requirements. Read the guides, there's even a sample of the form I-134 to help you out. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-07 09:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVSC Processing Stopped Week of May 3?
QUOTE (Ed+Cindy @ May 6 2009, 07:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Future Mrs Disney @ May 5 2009, 07:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just can't accept that HB's are more "important" than family visas. It makes me wonder... unsure.gif


Lots more money is made on H visas..makes our $500 fee for the K-1 look like pocket change.


Mmmm... that is easy to believe in.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-06 17:20:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresVSC Processing Stopped Week of May 3?
I just can't accept that HB's are more "important" than family visas. It makes me wonder... unsure.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-05 21:40:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresphone logs
QUOTE (Mike B. @ May 11 2009, 07:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Calling cards are not going to provide proof that you have met your fiancee face to face in the past two years for your I-129F.


True, calling cards work better as proof of ongoing relationship.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-11 19:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNeed some info. Pls. help..
I have never gone through such a thing but I would call them ASAP since they told you to call them. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-11 19:22:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresApproved I-129F, can she enter the States?
She hasn't been interviewed, a Fiance Visa hasn't been issued yet so she would not be using that one time entry.

Congrats on your NOA2!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-11 19:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresi-129f Mailing Options
We sent USPS Priority with delivery confirmation. We were going to do overnight but she said that "today all overnights are taking 2 business days, so if I were you I would send it priority". It's cheaper and they got the package in 2 days. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-12 09:16:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFiance came to States - relationship went sour
QUOTE (john & jean @ May 11 2009, 09:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
if you call enough lawyers you will eventually get an answer that fits the need. they have no vested interest in the outcome. only how long they can keep the case open , therefore keeping the checkbook open...

what the "friend" has done is, commit visa fraud. any other of his intended plans will also be fraud.... PEOPLE LIKE HIM MAKE THE PROCESS HARDER FOR THE ONES TRYING TO DO IT RIGHT.

I HOPE THIS AZZ HOLE GETS DEPORTED AND BANNED FOR LIFE...


I was thinking about something similar. smile.gif
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-11 19:41:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFiance came to States - relationship went sour
He entered the US on a K-1 Visa to marry one person, the person who filed the I-129F Petition for him. I don't think he will be in a good situation if he marries someone else other than the Petitioner. I don't think he'll get away with it when he files for AOS. But I could be wrong. Tell him good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-11 19:08:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresShould I go to my fiance's graduation.
QUOTE (R&AINC @ Apr 26 2009, 11:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
She is graduating middle of may. I am afraid that because I am waiting for the k-1 visa, I will have problems at the POE. Also I am collecting unemployment now, so it will be even more difficult to prove that I do not want to stay. (Although I probably make more money here being unemployed that in theUS smile.gif

Also money is an issue. And she is also planning to come here in July.

Should I just go? I was thinking of a surprise trip. I can only stay a week but, it will cost like 800 euros(ticket etc etc).... Is it better to save it or to go.?

Thanks.

sorry if i posted in the wrong place


If you don't need to apply for visitor visas, and can somehow prove you don't intend to marry her on a visitor visa, then go. At least I would give it a shot. (read the other topics about vising the US fiance while on the K-1 Visa process, you might find some useful comments).
And if you plan on surprising her, I don't think it would be a problem. I think that's very cute. If my fiance came here and surprised me, I wouldn't mind it AT ALL. I would actually love it. And if I had other plans with family or friends I would postpone or include my fiance in those plans because I can always hang out with those people but not with my fiance because he lives so far away. Well, you should know how your fiancee feels about surprises anyways.
Good luck and I hope you can make it to her graduation!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-04-26 13:21:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedurespictures
QUOTE (chevieca @ May 12 2009, 09:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
when i had my pictures taken the form says its the same standard as the canadian passport pics but when i uploaded my pic when i filled out the online form it rejected it any help please


You uploaded your picture to attach it to the form ad then have them printed out together? If that's what you did, then I don't think that's correct. You should just mail you passport sized photo along with the forms (you could put the photos in a ziplock bag and attach them to the form with a paper clip or staple them to the form). But I could be wrong. Or could have misunderstood your question. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-12 22:38:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresno middle name
QUOTE (Krikit @ May 14 2009, 01:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (charles! @ May 13 2009, 10:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Karin und Otto @ May 13 2009, 11:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We wrote "No Middle Name" (Just like you see it.) so there was absolutely no chance they would mistake "None" as an actual name.

i've actually seen that happen to people

Me too. blink.gif I entered N/A so I didn't end up with a new name. good.gif


laughing.gif
I would definitely NOT put None. That would be so funny if they gave you a new name (and also more work for you).

I would go for N/A or No Middle Name, like mentioned before.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-14 10:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 Visa options.... to stop process
You mentioned she gets angry when you don't call for a few days. I know it's hard, but you're in the military, and if she doesn't get used to it, then it won't work because that's the toughest part and you both need to be prepared for that lack of communication.

Hope that this time you are giving each other will help you clear you mind and realize what's best for you and your children. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-15 23:31:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 Visa options.... to stop process
Also, my fiance is in the military too and we've spent long periods of time separated because of his job. Long deployments can be a ######, especially in times of war. It takes patience, A LOT of patience, and unconditional trust to make a relationship like this work. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-14 10:24:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK1 Visa options.... to stop process
QUOTE (maset09 @ May 14 2009, 08:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (getosled @ May 14 2009, 10:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow thanks for all the responses and thanks of course for not flaming tongue.gif

Everyone says that maybe its the stress of being apart, and maybe it is, but thats not going to help my situation at all because im Military and I will be away more often than not. I also have talked to her family and it was kinda weird first had to get use to the whole Po thing added to everything I said, but when talking to her mom it was a different conversation than im use to. IN a sense i felt like her mom was probing me to see if I was going to take her family wiht me when she left for the states.

If i remember correctly she kept saying the same story about a "friend" (you know those mysterious ones that everything good happens too) who took his fiance and entire family (brother sister mother father ect...) back to the states with them. It seemed to be all she was focused on.
she should be focused in starting your OWN family, not bringing her entire family in the US.

Her.... well she is a great woman, and we do talk ALOT, she cheated on me once while i was in the states and I respect the fact that she told me.

I respect both of you for this.

Maybe i just cant get over that fact, but she also has had some friendly relationships online to some younger american guys (sometimes i think she is just using me because i have some money to get to the states to see them) but she says they are just friends.

sorry, this one raised a flag on me too. have you told her that it makes you uncomfortable that she still chat with other americans? you should. and if she respects you, she will stop it even if she's just being friendly. coz i did when he jokingly said something about it. I didnt think twice. I even stopped adding MYSPACE friend requests (and deleted all) from americans . I used to reply to hi' and hello's to MYSPACE american friends, just one reply, nothing beyond that, even before i met him. I did it coz i dont want him to worry. I care for him, and I will do everything for him. Off-Topic2.gif
i would understand a little if these americans were your friends too, coz i also pm "our" friends in facebook or text while his friends are still here in Phil's. when my fiance was back in North Carolina (too, yes smile.gif) but only to arrange weekend nite out with all our filipino friends as well. nothing more than that too.

I dont doubt that because I have plenty of Pinay Pinoy friends. I may just be afraid of another failure?? There has been several several times I just said to myself ... forget it.... im still young and can still find the right one... but i seem to always give in and mend things (she does too so its not just me). We seem to fight more than my ex wife and that concerns me. When we are together we are mainly ok (yes hot steamy sex and all that, but also a good time out and about). I remember one HUGE fight we had when we were together.

She recieved a phone call from a number she didnt know and it was her ex that she cheated on me with... well everytime I said something she covered the phones as for him not to hear me. I just simply told her what she did wrong and why i thought it was wrong.... She disregarded my feelings and our relationship to protect his feelings and not hurt him by letting him know that she was with me. Well now that i typed a novel... sorry tongue.gif
this is soo wrong! she doesnt respect you. no0pb.gif im sorry for being harsh. you have to be number one for her, the ONLY ONE. She should have thought about your feelings rather first than her ex. RESPECT, TRUST and LOVE, omit one, then it might not work out.

I just dont ever want ANOTHER Divorce....

you really need to speak up. tell her how you really feel about everything. coz if not, it will just keep on piling up. even if she gets mad. it doesnt seemed right that you have to be on your own toes when you want to discuss some issues in your relationship. both of you should welcome any opinions, observations from each other, good or bad.
Thanks (salamat)




I agree with pretty much everything. She should respect you more. You are her fiance, she's supposed to be protecting your feelings, not her ex's, although I respect the fact that she admitted to you that she cheated on you and I admire you even more for forgiving. To me, red flags were raised when you mentioned she talking to American guys online and her family insistence about the moving to America. But of course, they can still be decent people, we can't just judge them based on that fact only. You should talk to her and express your feelings the way you did to us here on VJ. I have a friend from Brazil who's been dating an American guy for 3 years and they have a real hard time being apart. But when they are together, everything is perfect. Some people can't handle long distance relationships and I believe that's just natural. It doesn't mean they don't love each other. Hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-14 10:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresany opinion?
QUOTE (Gary and Alla @ May 16 2009, 01:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (philwithlove09 @ May 15 2009, 11:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hello people out there???

what is your opinion about a situation wherein Ms X was petitioned by her fiance and then she came here using that visa. after 90 days she decided not to marry him then go back to the philippines...her reason was because he have a better man (young & richer) and promised to petition her but he disappears. now she is still communicating and friends with her ex fiance and is begging her to go back to him.

do you think it is a wise move of the guy???

will Ms X encounter some problems on the 2nd petition???


I am not known to have opinions on many things, but on a few. My father always said it is just as easy to "marry a rich one as a poor one" but I never listened to that advice. More's the pity. smile.gif

I think the guy would be crazy, personally, to put it mildly. There are too many sincere women in the world who would love to be married to just a decent sort of man and not demand much else, to mess with her.

I am also of the opinion this is only maginally a K-1 topic, but I am not a moderator so I cannot move anything



Agreed.
Mrs. DisneyFemaleBrazil2009-05-15 23:11:00