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How much does it cost????

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And you should refrain from being nasty! I was just helping someone with the amounts I know! I stated I was not sure and I MEANT I AM NOT SURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope you have a better day, and find out who tinkled in your cheerios today! I was trying to help by offering amounts. WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE TO BE SO NEGATIVE RUDE AND NASTY ON HERE

! I wish the poster of this topic much luck!

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I am not sure if you have to file the I-130 that is the petition for the alien relative to stay in the country. We adjusted from the VWP so we had to file the following forms:

I-130 $355
I-485 $1010
I-693 $280 (Medical exam by civil surgeon in Orlando FL)
I-765 No cost if you file with the I-485 (I-765 is Employment Authorization)
I-864 No cost
I-864A No cost
G325A No cost

But filing from a K-1 I am not sure if you need all of those. Hopefully someone can help you with that. We are all toll $2000, plus the wedding which was small but still not cheap.

No I-130 is needed when adjusting from a K1. When you don't actually know the answer, I find it's best to refrain from posting. Somebody will be along soon who does know. It's saves a lot of confusion.

Take heart, we all have add, at one point or another pee flavored Cheerios! To me it happens once a month, then my husband starts thinking about pitching a tent in the backyard till the "storm" is over.

Also, I do the same as you. I offer my opinion and mention that I am not sure... I'm certain that very few people are 100% SURE of everything. And if they tell you they are, they're either lying or idiots. I think if someone asks a question and gets 15 replies, it helps them more than 2 or 3 replies.

Lastly, someone mention $131 for the interview. Do you mean the one you get at a USCIS' office? Cause I'm pretty sure those do not cost anything (then again, this is my opinion and nothing else

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-08 18:07:00

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uscis process files by date they receive them
i think a lawyer should be recommended when a case is complicated: many previous marriages,criminal records......etc,but normally all cases using a lawyer or by yourself doesn't make any diff.

hope that can help

I have no filed yet, so, this is just my impression from reading other people's experience. It seems like in straight forward cases, hiring a lawyer is like going to see your doctor when you have a stomach flu. Yeah, it feels like your dying, but deep down, you know it's nothing to worry about. And even tho your doctor tells you the same thing that friends and parents tell you, it still makes you feel better.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 17:21:00

QUOTE (1HappyGuy @ Oct 9 2009, 10:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Finally, the last aspect is what makes the determination for most people. Can you afford the fees? If you don't like paperwork and have the money, then the attorney process may be for you. There are a lot of people that just want to sign where you say sign, pay what you say and wait.

The decision is up to you.

I won't lie. If I was rich, I would probably hire an attorney. But I'm poor, and cheap.

Also, you should know that there are community help group that can act almost in the same manner of a lawyer. There are 2 that I know of in Ohio. They will file your paperwork with you, the can represent you in court. And, if you ask very nicely, they may even answer some questions on the phone.

My suggestion would be to call your state's bar association, or look up their website. Pay attention to the Pro bono work, or ask if they know of some organization that can help you.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 12:51:00

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I am just wondering if anyone knows the answer or has an opinion to the following question. Do people that complete their own I-129F paperwork seem to get pushed back and take a little longer getting their NOA2's than people that pay money for a lawyer to do it? My Fiancé and I did our own paperwork... (Researched a ton and got NOA1 6/23/09) and I am getting anxious watching people submitting their paperwork in August and September of this year already getting their petitions approved. Is it just time, circumstance, and Service Center - or is there any logic to the lawyer question?

I'm in the same boat as you. We however did decide to hire a lawyer, and to be honest I think had we thought about it better we would've never hired him. Why because we file last Nov2008, and got our NOA 1 in Dec,2008 then we got a RFE in May2009 if I hadn't called the freaking lawyer I would've never known about it

, now its freaking Oct. and we still done know NOTHING. I guess its really just depends if you really think its necessary or not. I, myself think I should've put that money to better use then to spend it on our "lawyer". BEST WISHES TO YOU GUYS!

This seems to be the general consensus. I think a lawyer is basically a $900 Valium.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-08 20:46:00

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We are doing it without a lawyer. I taught about hiring one, but decided not too. 1. AoS SEEM to be fairly straight forward. 2. Money is an object for us. We are rather poor, $900 spent on a layer... that's about what my husband makes in a month. 3. I find that VJ is aweome to answer questions, and most of all, help you stay motivated trough it all.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-08 18:20:00

Where to get married and how

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I recently was living in South Korea a year ago when I met my (now) fiance in Taiwan. I had to leave Taiwan about a month ago as I had some personal, non legal, issues to deal with.

So my girlfriend and I decided to get engaged so she could live here permanently with me in the States. She currently has a visitor's visa to enter the United States, what would be the easiest and cheapest way to make her a resident here?

Should she come here on a vistor's visa and then we apply for a marriage license, or should we sign the fiance petition to give her a fiance visa for the United States?

Cheers and thank you in advance!

Fiance Visa for sure. Coming here on a Visitors then marrying is visa fraud since you already have the intentions to marry. You may get discovered at the AOS interview, and she could be banned for life. Think very clearly about what you are doing.

Haven't we established, in another thread, that they cannot deny based on intent alone?

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 09:17:00

k1 inquiry call to my home

I say this with as much respect as I can, but I think it's shady to lie to people to get information. I can see why they do it, but I still don't like it. We have to be honest, but they can bend the truth. "Do what I say, not what I do".

However, I'm sure if you explain the situation to the embassy, they will understand. For example, on some of my forms, it asks for my mother's address and other info regarding her. I have even spoken to her in 10 years. If they were to call her, my marriage would seem like a sham, because she most likely wouldn't know I got married.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 12:47:00

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Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

My husband was asked what website we met on.

This question is asked because of IMBRA.

And please don't go on and on at me about my previous post. First you are moaning if I use "one liners". Then you moan because I explain my reasoning. And this coming from you anyway - Mr. Can't Answer Without Writing A Book?

How about we stay on topic without trying to pick fights? (Because, so far, that makes two people to go bat ###### crazy over silly things. Let's remember we're all adults.)

I agree with Gary. A truthful, shot answer is the best and is most likely all that will be needed. Even if the interviewer was to ask "What kind of website?", the only thing that will come out of this is that the couple might giggle and blush. I very much doubt that the interviewer will go into any more details than that... and quite frankly, I wonder if he'd have the right to? I can imagine the discussion: "Where did you meet? "In a chat room" "oh yeah? What site?" "oh it was www.allpornallthetime.com" "mmm what kind of website is that?" "...porn..." "and what were you two doing on there?" See where I'm going? It's not going to go that far.

So, you can relax, don't lie, be honest, but at the same time, don't volunteer information.

Edited by Kittyfang, 10 October 2009 - 09:04 PM.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-10 21:02:00

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Here is the OP! Wow, look at all these responses in one day. Thanks to all. No, I did not take anything in there as a personal attack, and I didn't really understand that discussion thread. No, there was nothing against the law in her country, and as far as I know she doesn't have any criminal record. I like the idea that we keep it generic unless pressed for details and then she can blush! lol. No, you may not examine the chatlogs or screenshots for evidence, and we will not submit those with the application either! No, I was not "busy" in an internet chatroom today, I have my own camgirl now! 23 hours before I came back to post, that is not so "friggin amazing" to me, I have a job. Thanks again for all the good advice. Still haven't decided whether to talk to an immigration attorney before we file.

Awesome, glad we could help ya. Also, no one said "friggin amazing" I just said "amazing".

Good luck to you guys. I hope you keep us posted on what happens.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 17:31:00

QUOTE (rebeccajo @ Oct 9 2009, 10:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Is there anybody here on this thread who can say with 100% accuracy that this "profession" would not be regarded at the Consular level as prostitution?

I can't. And I've been hanging around here for almost five years. It's my opinion this issue is potentially too critical for any of us to simply advise "careful wording" at the interview and when completing documents.

This is probably a subject better studied at the Consular level - meaning the petitioner and beneficiary should be sussing out how this subject is "viewed" by consular officers at their specific consulate.

True, I completely agree. But I think it's a nice discussion. Another way to look at it is how she was designated on her contract? I am willing to bet that she will be listed as "entertainer". As for prostitution, I don't even understand why it's a ground for denial. 1. from a moral point of view, it personally doesn't bother me, and 2. really, it's hard to prove it. I'm pretty sure no one files their taxes stating that they are prostitutes.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 13:05:00

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The sordid thing is that i met my fiancee on a porn site, Streammate. She used to chat with guys and do private shows. We have decided to marry. We have made up our minds, so i am not asking for advice about that. Question is, should we lie on the K1 application and when she goes to her interview? We could make it vague, but what if they ask detailed questions during the interview? We did not break any laws and it was not a marriage broker site. We have good evidence for the relationship.

Anyone else met this way, pls PM me.

Should I get a lawyer before we file K1?

Thx

Ummm. Before I can give an educated opinion, you'll need to send me copies of your pre-engagement chat logs. All of 'em. Don't forget to include the screen caps, as well.

lol. This made my day.

But as many have said before, choose your words carefully. We live in the year 2009 where a secretary is not a secretary anymore, she is (or he is) an administrative assistant, for example. It goes to incredible, and stupid, length, but I would use that in my favor.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-09 09:00:00

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webcaming isnt prostitution? the person doesnt leave there own room? no sexual acts with another person are performed?

your post doesd not add anything to the discussion. refrain from personal attacks as they are against TOS. reported,

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Sorry i was asking a question. i was trying to help the OP, im confused about the nature of this issue.

what was the personal attack?

I agree with Utopia. How is this even an attack? She has a different opinion that yours. You can be mad about it, but I don't see how making threats and lying helps anyone around here. We're all a bit old for bullying.

I for one agree with her. What she did was not prostitution. I would have no problem calling it performance art. Heck, nude painting isn't prostitution. People posing in Playboy and Hustlers are not prostitute, if anything, you can call it "modeling".

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-08 23:18:00

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...i find it hilarious how people put all americans in the same category...(quote)However, I would say that America, as a whole, is very judgmental... and pushy. For a country built on freedom and the right to happiness, they are very interested in telling you what they think your happiness should be and how you should acquire it(quote).....when it seems to me they are doing the very same thing....

...i see nothing wrong with age difference...it's the heart that matters not the age....my husband is 15 yrs younger but i don't go around bragging that i have a younger spouse...that's not why i fell in love with him or the main focus of our marriage...if you have evidence that the relationship is real then i don't think there would be a problem....

I really am not telling anyone how they should behave and I'm unsure where you got that impression. But, in that quote, I am talking about the typical T.V. American. The general feeling you get from TV, Radio, strangers, about how your life should be. That is what I was trying to adress. As far as the "typical American". I don't even think there is one. Every one is unique, we do have a similar culture, but when the lights are out, doors are locked and we lay in our bed with eyes closed, we all have different ideas of what the world should be like.

sadly, your words are very true though...quite a few are judgemental...i have had a few shocked looks when questioned about my husbands age...it seems women being the older spouse is more frowned upon here but i could care les...lol

The really funny part is that women usually live longer than men. You're just being practical!

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 14:27:00

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Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 14:14:00

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"Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point! "

You're only as old as the women you hang with (your g/f or spouse)

Recent government studies show men who are married to women with an age gap of at least 10 years tend to live longer and better than others without that gap ~ Federal Dept of Happiness for Men, Sept 08

I remember that study. It also applies to married men living longer than single men. It's all the nagging, it's good for you boys.

Please, men divorce the american old nag hag bag BECAUSE she nagged. Nice thing about Pinays, is they are known for NOT nagging.

Nagging is a Death Knell for a relationship.

Believe you me, I'm not the nagging kind either, but the nagging I do saves my husband's life.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 13:47:00

QUOTE (Gary and Alla @ Oct 11 2009, 12:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

THERE IS A FEDERAL DEPT. OF HAPPINESS FOR MEN!!!!!!!!????????? Is it staffed by feminists?

If it IS staffed by feminists, the coffee will be decafinated, the pop machine will serve beet juice. The work hours will be from 3:57am to 10:42pm and you will have to walk to work, uphill, both ways, in the snow, for 2 hours.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 13:28:00

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Another question....I have been with my Fiancee over a year now...and been to the Philippines many times and stayed together for long periods of time....recently spent 3 months together May-August......before we were together I had other Gf's there who were older.........she and I just click.....here is my question.

She is young and there is about 30 years difference in our ages....and while I know it is frowned upon in American Culture....

Only frowned upon by Jealous People

As for Us, I am more than double my wife's age

Ain't Life Grand...........

Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point!

And the "jealousy" seems to be directed more at my wife by Katty liberated American women. "oh, how nice, you are from Ukraine, how long are you visiting for?" Oh, I am not visiting, I am a permanent resident and live here with my husband. "Oh and is your husband a refugee from Russia also?"

No, my husband is an American, and I will soon be teaching your children to speak ENGLISH. "Grrrrrrrr...lost ANOTHER one to a Bond Girl"

Lmao at Gary and Alla

That made me giggle. I love America, I really do... but they are a bit... self centered. I've been asked if we celebrate Christmas in Canada, why thanksgiving is on a different day and, although it's never been honestly asked, I KNOW that some of them are dying to ask me if we live in Igloos.

I have not had any negative, racist comments so far, maybe because I am white, so it's harder for them to figure out that I'm not from there, but the accent (French Canadian) definatly makes me stand out. I don't care, I love it. It's not so big an accent that they can't understand me, most of them tell me it's lovely, or sexy, depending on who is doing the compliment.

As for frowning down on everything. I would add a correction. My husband's family is very loving and takes care of its own. They are old fashion, but I know that they wouldn't "cast us out" simply because they don't agree with something we're doing (luckily, I get along with them and it's never come to that). However, I would say that America, as a whole, is very judgmental... and pushy. For a country built on freedom and the right to happiness, they are very interested in telling you what they think your happiness should be and how you should acquire it . The key is to ignore it. Do your own thing. Live your own life. Because at the end of the day, you have to be able to live with what you do and say.

L'accent français/Canadien sexy est pourquoi je vis dans Vermont du Nord! LOL Mais j'ai aussi une faiblesse pour l'accent russe.

Just tell them you will teach their children English and with any luck they will speak English as well as Russian kids soon! (Or Quebecois, whatever) Maybe mention you brought along your 20 year old daughter and she has been dating some 40 year old men and should be deciding soon which to marry. LOL

You know the weird thing? One day a friend of my husband asked if I was Russian. I took a double take. I LOVE Russian accent, but I was like "how do both sound alike?" Oh well, I love my accent and I love the fact that, sometimes, it plays mind tricks on people!

Ok, we cannot do this with French here, there are too many Quebecois around. But we can do it with Russian. If not many people speak French near you and your husband speaks French...

Alla will say some really "naughty things" in the checkout line at the grocery store and flip me out. The cashier just keep ringing things up and I am freaking out! Until I start laughing and the cashier finally asks what she is saying...oh yeah, THEN what do I say? I have to make stuff up...but I have to make up stuff which sounds like something I would laugh at! Dammit, sometimes I wish she was a feminist and never thought of those things. LOL

More fun than blubber jello shots at La Cage aux Sports in Montreal. More fun, even...wait for it...than CURLING!!!!!!!!!

OMG! Curling! I had to explain that one! They still have no idea what it is. Now, on top of thinking we live in igloos, they think that our sport is trowing rocks on the ice and trying to stop them with brooms.

And my husband is ALWAYS trying to get me to speak French in public. Never mind the fact that, to someone who doesn't know French, everything I say sounds... well perverted, the really bad thing is that my husband doesn't even understand French. He just wants to get a... "auditory quicky" in a public place!

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 13:19:00

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Only frowned upon by Jealous People

As for Us, I am more than double my wife's age

Ain't Life Grand...........

Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point!

No, my husband is an American, and I will soon be teaching your children to speak ENGLISH. "Grrrrrrrr...lost ANOTHER one to a Bond Girl"

Lmao at Gary and Alla

well???????

We do. We build a big Igloo. It has to be really big, or else the pet moose gets his antlers stuck in the ceiling. We also having two tiny ones; one is where we keep the whale blubber, for blubber sandwhichs and blubber jello shots, the other is where we keep the seals.

Also, I meant to add in my last reply:

Gary, I hope I understood what you said correctly, I think I did. And I agree. American women (in general, please don't be mad at me

) seem to be very "feminist", but they don't realize that feminism is "having the right to make choices". To them, every woman should be Liberated and In Charge. If you try to tell them that you are a home maker... "How dare you submit yourself to the male agenda!" I know right, because my husband is totally about... agendas. He goes to work where he gets paid a salary that barely covers the bills, but he brings me food from work and always tries to bring me something he knows I'll like, because sometimes there is nothing in the fridge, all he wants when he comes home is a kiss, a beer, something to smoke and spend a nice evening with me, often telling me he loves me and wanting to know what "I" want to do... I personally love that kind of agenda!

Sooo. #### feminists.. They're just jealous because THEIR partner doesn't have *****.

Blubber jello shots? Where is the vomit icon?

For Alla "feminism" means high heels and stockings. I decided long ago NOT to #### feminists which is why I prefer Ukrainian women. Who would want to #### a feminist twice a day?

Now this will make you smile. We live in northern Vermont, right at the Quebec border, so of course the secoind langugae here is French. Not that so many people Vermont speak French, maybe 10%, but it is common to hear the langaugae being spoken, very common. Also given a very "homogenous" society with less than 2% minorities there is the ASSUMPTION that anyone speaking a language other than English is

1. Canadian
2. A visitor

I cannot count the times Alla has heard

1. Are you Canadian?
2. "Oh, you speak French so well!" To which I usually respond "Merci!!!" Alla doesn't speak French at all but I do! LOL

Not to mention, Yes, when they find out she is Ukrainian, they ask the same dumb questions "Do you have Christmas in Ukraine" Alla freaks them out. "Yes, but it is on January 7th" (TRUE! Julien calender!) Nothing about igloos yet, Ukrainians are assumed to live in mud huts, even though they are as far north as Quebec.

Oh well, it is fun. age difference is only the beginning

That made me laugh. I often get the "what language do you speak". I think next time, I will answer "Swahili!" and let THEM figure it out.

The Christmas thing never gets old. And for some reason, it reminds me that just because they're American, they're not all bad. Some are just... sheltered.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 13:16:00

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Only frowned upon by Jealous People

As for Us, I am more than double my wife's age

Ain't Life Grand...........

Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point!

No, my husband is an American, and I will soon be teaching your children to speak ENGLISH. "Grrrrrrrr...lost ANOTHER one to a Bond Girl"

Lmao at Gary and Alla

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 13:04:00

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QUOTE

Kitty, some how i knew you wouldnt let me down... thanks for the smile

I aim to please!

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 12:32:00

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I'm 79 and my wife just turned 19...we had no problems. We have a 8 month old baby even so don't worry about it!

Hey, love doesn't know what age...or time and distance is, so way to go!

Edited by Kittyfang, 11 October 2009 - 11:39 AM.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 11:39:00

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"Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point! "

You're only as old as the women you hang with (your g/f or spouse)

I remember that study. It also applies to married men living longer than single men. It's all the nagging, it's good for you boys.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 11:21:00

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Only frowned upon by Jealous People

As for Us, I am more than double my wife's age

Ain't Life Grand...........

Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point!

No, my husband is an American, and I will soon be teaching your children to speak ENGLISH. "Grrrrrrrr...lost ANOTHER one to a Bond Girl"

Lmao at Gary and Alla

well???????

Edited by Kittyfang, 11 October 2009 - 11:17 AM.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 11:16:00

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Only frowned upon by Jealous People

As for Us, I am more than double my wife's age

Ain't Life Grand...........

Hmmm. I am currently not more than double my wifes age, but I was at one point!

No, my husband is an American, and I will soon be teaching your children to speak ENGLISH. "Grrrrrrrr...lost ANOTHER one to a Bond Girl"

Lmao at Gary and Alla

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-11 11:07:00

USPS frustration

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Well if this is any indication of our luck so far we are in trouble....

When I tracked our I-129F packet today this is what I found....I mailed on Friday October 9th, certified mail with a return receipt........ I had a feeling that Columbus day was gonna screw everything up....

this is what i copied from USPS tracking ........

Class: Priority Mail®
Service(s): Certified Mail™
Return Receipt
Status: Notice Left

We attempted to deliver your item at 6:11 PM on October 12, 2009 in LAGUNA NIGUEL, CA 92607 and a notice was left. You may pick up the item at the Post Office indicated on the notice, go to www.usps.com/redelivery, or call 800-ASK-USPS 800-ASK-USPS to arrange for redelivery. If this item is unclaimed after 15 days then it will be returned to the sender. Information, if available, is updated periodically throughout the day. Please check again later.

Enter Label/Receipt Number.

Enter Label / Receipt Number.

Detailed Results:

Notice Left, October 12, 2009, 6:11 pm, LAGUNA NIGUEL, CA 92607
Arrival at Unit, October 12, 2009, 5:23 pm, LAGUNA NIGUEL, CA 92607
Acceptance, October 09, 2009, 11:55 am, EL DORADO HILLS, CA 95762

>>>>this really got me ANGRY!!!...a notice was left in their P.O box?? what does this mean.....now I have to wait to get my package back after 15 days?? More delays ARGGGGG!!!

I called USPS and FINALLY got through to someone that was breathing...according to them, there is no redelivery to P.O. boxes, all they said is they can send another slip in the P.O. box........from what I understand, the woman said that the postal carrier for that route will take the slip, find the packet and redeliver..im confused and I was a bit miffed so I couldnt really listen..... Has this happened to anyone here or anyone heard of situations like this??

This hasn't happened to me, but I can sympathize. I hate relying on USPS, Fedex or the Brown team. I know they're good people, but I just feel helpless when my stuff is in their hands. SO you have my support on this! I hope everything gets figured out.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-13 22:55:00

A day (or 6 months) in the life of a petition

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Sorry Everyone

While cutting and pasting his email to me I left out this paragraph which goes with his answer about petitions above...

"We run into problems when the USC petitioner has a criminal record. Depending on the record he/she may fall into the Adam Walsh or IMBRA realm and that can get sticky. I would strongly recommend that you tell anyone who may have a criminal history to bypass go and proceed directly to an AILA certified laywer."

From your other posts where you spoke with him, it seems like the rule is: Provide what we ask for, don't make a mistake with the fees, sign everything, bring plenty of proof and you should be golden.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-16 18:59:00

A day (or 6 months) in the life of a petition

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I continue my back and forth with the VSC director and thought this question would be of particular interest. He has responded to all my questions now and I will post them in appropriate areas and also in the pinned topic above. I am very grateful for his frank and direct answers and hope it helps VJ members to file better petitions and understand the process better.

Q. Some people have asked if you could outline the procedure for adjudicating a petition. A brief step by step.

This one could get a bit long so we'll try for the Cliff Notes version: When a petition arrives, they look for the two things that constitute a filed petition (signed and paid for). It is then data entered and placed into a receipt file. A receipt is sent to the petitioner when there are enough petitions to be processed. At this point, the names of the petitioner and beneficiary are scraped and run through a data base (same one you hear them bandy about on CSI and other cop shows) where we are looking for issues of criminality or immigration violations. If nothing untoward comes up it goes to "the shelf" to await it's turn. When an adjudicator asks for work the first petition in is the first one out. The first thing the adjudicator does is go through the file looking for other names or name variations to run through the data base. That takes 12 to 24 hours for the results to get back. If there is a problem (real or perceived) it goes to my area where the problem has to be resolved. Once the problem is resolved satisfactorily it goes back to the adjudicator. (my note...this explains some of the touches VJ members see) Most of them are fairly quick and if the required information was submitted it zips on through to approval. For an 129F or I-130 where the beneficiary is outside the US it gets bundled and sent to the National Visa Center where some more checks are made and if all is fine it waits for the next diplomatic pouch to the embassy. From then it is a DOS thing and we don't see it again until the I-485 is filed.

Always nice to see/understand the inner workings of something as huge as USCIS.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-16 18:38:00

I-94?????

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what is a i-94 and when do u get it and how does it look is it a paper is it a stamp in your passport.... my fiancee arrivedlast week and i keep hearing something about getting a i-94 at the POE she came in on a K-1 visa some 1 help plz..thanks

An affidavit is the paper you get at the border. Most people get one.

This is what it looks like

http://www.immihelp.com/visas/i-94.html

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-17 16:44:00

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Look at the big picture, VJ is a small part of the total number filed and denied or passed, we never no of these. Sounds a little high, and would vary between embassys some more some less. Lawer or no lawer...if your a detailed person with normal understanding (with no real problems in your case) you can do alone.I didnt use a lawyer many dont and have read where the lawyers actually are the ones that forget the details, let it lay for day/weeks before sending etc etc. Our first was returned for what reason we were never told but i refiled on my own and we got thru it. Read, study, plan and follow up most will be fine.

I agree. As I've said, the forms are not the problem. Those are easy. What makes people nervous are the consequences of messing up something in those forms. Then again, I too have heard the horror stories associated with attorneys who "forgot" things.

Another way of saying what you are saying is that unless you are adequately prepared and have the necessary abilty and confidence to read carefully, interpret literally and respond accordingly, filling out the forms and following the instruction is likely to be quite daunting indeed.

or

It's easy to fill out the forms incorrectly and easy to overlook critical instructions.

Let's face it. It's the rare individual that goes through the immigration process without help. VJ is "help". For some, VJ isn't all the help they need. For many more, VJ is never a part of the picture. For some, VJ is where they make the connection with the help they hire.

Well yes and no. What I'm trying to say is that some people are able to do the research and find the documentation and do the whole thing on their own. However, there are some who do not want to do that and hire a lawyer thinking that they are paying someone to do the work for them. What I say is that even if you chose to do that, you have to do your home work. Just because someone is a lawyer, doesn't mean he's good at what he does.

How many VJers have spoke about their lawyers saying that they had to explain to him what certain words/ terms meant? I agree that if your case is one of a kind, you can profit from some legal help. However, I think the outrage on VJ is agaisnt the lawyers who use scare tactics into getting clients.

I'll always remember a lawyer who said: "Would you do surgery on yourself? No! Then why would you initiate immigration without an expert". While this may me true, to some extent, it's worth asking yourself a couple of questions about that statement and the person who made it.

On a side note about the actual forms. Most of them ARE easy. It's mainly information pertaining to where you live, DoB, and so on and so forth. Where it CAN get confusing is "what forms do you need, when to send them, etc.

I had some questions when filing the forms, but no real "OMG! What will I put there?!" moment. The real stress is about "what do you need to send them to prove this and that"... and of course, the waiting.

I haven't even sent in my package yet and I find myself going from one extreme (I will soooo get my GC) to another (Man... I'm screwed!).

Yes, for some people, the needed study, research and action are well within their abilities. For others, even selecting and hiring competent assistance is beyond their abilities. Then there's everybody in between. I'm saying the difference is not the forms or how difficult or easy they are. The difference is the people's abilities.

I always get a kick out of people who come here asking about approval percentages, as if they themselves and their result would be nothing more than a cork on the statistics ocean. This is a process where our own actions can overcome the odds to a great but not absolute extent.

Blackjack has the best odds at the casino but if you don't know how to play or play stupid, the odds don't mean a thing.

I hate Black Jack... But I'm a Champion Hold Em player. So I don't care.

And I understand what you mean, but while I know there are people who truly believe that ANY attorney is a GOOD attorney, there is a small part of me that is screaming "Come on! At least look up the guy's name call the Bar, see if he's had any problems". Then again, I'm not one to talk. When I married my husband, we were in the group of people that thought that all we needed was to get married. The difference is that I've done my homework and figured it out.

As for statistics, I both love and hate them. At a glance, they're fun, but they don't mean anything. I remember my statistic teacher in University telling us of a mathematical equation (I don't remember which one) that could take a statistic and make it show the exact opposite (i.e. 89% of all statistics are made up --> have a bit of fun with the equation, look at your graph and you will now see that 89% of all statistics are pure golden truth). Man, I wish I remembered what it was called! lol

But people do fall in categories, their cases does anyway. What they do has an impact, but at the end of the day, it is a big impersonal organization that decides the rest of your life. Some people are here illegally, but they consider this their home. To think that it can be taken away... Maybe that is why there are so many people not filling.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 11:01:00

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Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 10:07:00

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Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 08:17:00

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NBB - Nothing But Bull$hit (as far as the Bar Association is concerned)

Any association that pretends to self-police itself is just fooling itself and the general public.

I found out first hand when I tried to ask my local bar association the procedures for firing one lawyer
and hiring another one. It turned out I got the right answer from the best lawyer in my organization
in about 20 seconds after a frustrating phone call to the bar association.

I think a lot of professions self-police itself. I know psychologists and doctors do. It's not bad in itself, but if you have the bad luck of running into someone dishonest, that is when you need to exercise caution. Many people don't know what a profession is allowed, or not allowed to do. It comes down to gathering information for yourself.

A good example for that would be a psychologist who, while treating a patient, becomes "involved" with them. Well not only is the psychologist going against the ethic code, the patient is not in a state of mind allowing it to correctly judge the situation. Same goes for attorneys. Some are sleazy and only want the money you have. However, it's your obligation to do some research and find out if yours is. Usually, a quick call to the organization they belong to will help and will tell you if they have ever done something you need to be concerned about.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 07:41:00

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"Consider that on immigration web forums, there are only about 10 to 30 active writers with just one "expert" being followed by a handful of confused individuals reporting their progress. The sum total experience involved is a few cases while immigration professionals have thousands of case experiences. Also remember that you don't find failed case commentators on these forums."

Is that something he said on his web site? Because if it is, he's in the wrong. I don't know about "expert", but I would say that the collective knowledge around here is pretty good. As for "failed cases", there are a lot of people commenting on them and sharing their experiences with others.

You know, all the attorneys and legal people... I can't help but think about people here who have hired attorneys, only to have those file incorrectly, or not advise them of an RFE and delay their case. I know there are good attorneys, but still. Immigration is complicated, but not so much so that you cannot file one form without an attorney.

You evidently haven't filed yet, if you think it's "one form". Do it yourself, is not for everybody. Some people really shouldn't try this at home. It's also true that many who charge for services, aren't qualified or are not diligent but that's not limited to immigration matters.

Unfortunately, some people are not only unqualified to do it themselves but are also unqualified to choose competent professional assistance.

No, I know it's not one form only. My point is that, the forms themselves, are easy to file out. Their implications behind them are where an attorney might be useful, then again, many people do it on their own.

Honestly, there is a lot of information (and misinformation) going around. The trick is not to listen to only one source, it is to listen to everything and figure out what's what.

Edited by Kittyfang, 18 October 2009 - 12:31 AM.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 00:29:00

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Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-18 00:12:00

G325A

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Hi All, I am filling in the G325A form and in the boxes where it asks for a DOB i put that in but when I print it off there is a little + sign covering the year of date you can't see the complete DOB. Even when I print off the practice form that is in the K1 Guide it does the same thing. Anyone help me out here, dont' want to send it out if its not clear.

print out your form with everything filled out sans the birthdate and write it in

I was gonna say, leave it like that, but add a note... but I like rsn's idea better.

Kittyfang

Female

Canada

2009-10-19 12:29:00

Time between I-129F Sent and NOA1

Not the case!
I just mailed off our petition this morning, on the date of Craig and my 6th month anniversary.
You just have to prove having met in person within the past 2 years.

Cass (bebop the great)

Hi Mike & Jennie. I'm still new here and my responds is out of the question but I want to inform you guys that before applying for a K1 visa there is a requirement of a TWO YEARS relationship. My boyfriend & I is still waiting for our 2nd anniversary and we'll apply for k1 visa asap. Goodluck guys. ; )

Thanks. Goodluck guys... :thumbs:

Hi Mike & Jennie. I'm still new here and my responds is out of the question but I want to inform you guys that before applying for a K1 visa there is a requirement of a TWO YEARS relationship. My boyfriend & I is still waiting for our 2nd anniversary and we'll apply for k1 visa asap. Goodluck guys. ; )

From where did you obtain this information????

Jen

I got the information here:
http://www.uscis.gov...wdoi/fiance.htm , said that "You must also have met with your fiancé(e) in person within the last two years before filing for the fiancé(e) visa"
It's my fault, I misunderstood it. Sorry for that. And thanks for all the correction made. Good day.

Mrs. Jaz

Female

Philippines

2006-08-16 00:26:00

Time between I-129F Sent and NOA1

Hi Mike & Jennie. I'm still new here and my responds is out of the question but I want to inform you guys that before applying for a K1 visa there is a requirement of a TWO YEARS relationship. My boyfriend & I is still waiting for our 2nd anniversary and we'll apply for k1 visa asap. Goodluck guys. ; )

Ms. Jasmine,
You don't have to wait for your two year anniversary, you just need to have met in the last two years, so if that is what you are waiting on, wait no more! File now and join in the waiting game!

Ohhhhhhh

I really thought that it should be a two yr relationship... But anyways, its never too late...

we will apply for the K-1 Visa ASAP! Thanks for the info guys. I appreciated a lot.

Hi Mike & Jennie. I'm still new here and my responds is out of the question but I want to inform you guys that before applying for a K1 visa there is a requirement of a TWO YEARS relationship. My boyfriend & I is still waiting for our 2nd anniversary and we'll apply for k1 visa asap. Goodluck guys. ; )

Oh my gosh! Ms. jasmine apply away....as others stated, you've had to have MET physically in the last two years!! You don't have to know eachother for a full two years before you apply.

Good luck!

Good luck Bebop!

Thanks.

Mrs. Jaz

Female

Philippines

2006-08-15 01:44:00

Time between I-129F Sent and NOA1

Hi Mike & Jennie. I'm still new here and my responds is out of the question but I want to inform you guys that before applying for a K1 visa there is a requirement of a TWO YEARS relationship. My boyfriend & I is still waiting for our 2nd anniversary and we'll apply for k1 visa asap. Goodluck guys. ; )

Mrs. Jaz

Female

Philippines

2006-08-14 03:13:00

got our VISA!!!

Congratz

Mrs. Jaz

Female

Philippines

2006-08-21 01:07:00