Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
US Embassy and Consulate Discussion	I HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...	QUOTE (ellmvl @ Dec 18 2009, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I have learned from a travel agent who process the US Visa of someone that I know that you will never tell the consul you have met your fiance on a "dating" site...because it is consider like a mail-order bride thing and that will raise a red flag on your case. Another thing, they are more suspicious to those who have relatives in the US or those that are being introduced by a relative or a common friend...because they thought you just made an arrangement or pay someone to get you to US. Maybe that's why the consul was being rough to you. Well, you are not denied and you still have the chance to be approved. So hang on there...you know your relationship is genuine, you told them the truth...God will bless you with a good news. I understand it will be hard to talk to your family and friends about this...but trust me, it helps a lot to have someone to be there with you at times like this. Dont give up sis! The question is: How would you answer that question, if you guys really met online or from a dating site?! Is there anyway you can change the way to answer it? NO, because that's how you really met...	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-18 03:39:00
Canada	Who is still waiting for NOA2?	QUOTE (Amanda2020 @ Nov 11 2009, 05:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello Thought Id ask who is still waiting for NOA2? I filed with Vermont in Sept and still waiting for mine, the times show 5 months now so we expect around January or so. Anyone else? Ditto. Although in our case, we filed in California last October. Hopefully we'll get our NOA2 early next year (Jan or Feb). Good luck to us! *crosses fingers*	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-21 08:34:00
Philippines	Bringing a baby/minor immediately with you in the US	QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Dec 18 2009, 08:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Have you went to NSO recently and pulled a BC on your child. It is possible that the Biological Father has filed a BC at NSO also @tallcoolone: Will get an NSO birth certificate of my daughter first... @DianneWalgreens:Will check out the sample form as well... Thanks, guys...<3	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-18 07:42:00
Philippines	Bringing a baby/minor immediately with you in the US	Hello guys, I hope you can help me with my concerns.... I am married to a US citizen and we are currently processing our papers. He has filed for an I-130 already, have received NOA1 and waiting for our approval from USCIS. My husband wants to petition my 7mo. old daughter as well (not his biological daughter, we'll bring her a few years from now) and thought that he had included her in the petition. Here are my questions: 1. Should my husband file a separate I-130 form for my daughter? 2. What are the requirements? 3. One of the VJ members answered my other post (in a diff section of this forum), that "You have a potentially big problem. You cannot get a visa for your daughter unless you get her biological father's notarized permission to let her immigrate to the US."---- Is this still needed considering my situation (story below)?!? Here's a little background of my life before my hubby: I was a single mom before and was never married with the man in my previous relationship but had a daughter with him. When my daughter was born, I did not acknowledge my daughter's biological father. He ABANDONED us prior my (our) daughter's birth, so I decided not to use his surname nor put his name in her birth certificate. I have no problems answering questions about the biological father IF it's going to be asked in the interview. My concern is that, why do I need the biological father's consent if he did not care about us in the first place??! Please help me...Thanks in advance...	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-18 06:48:00
Philippines	1st wedding anniv... forever ruined.. sad	QUOTE (rheanick @ May 22 2009, 03:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I have simple rule... if there is no kids, NO COMMUNICATION with the EX. Take it or leave it. I STRONGLY AGREE. Haaay...mga EXES na pasaway!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-21 09:43:00
Philippines	1st wedding anniv... forever ruined.. sad	QUOTE (T_and_A @ May 23 2009, 05:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> kaso nga sis ang hirap kasi si x parang mahina ang utak <pardon my words>... kinda special nga.. if you know what i mean... di makagets. sobrang needy... LOL Pansin ko nga din	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-21 09:34:00
Philippines	LDR's or Long-Distance Relationships	First, obviously, being apart was the most painful. We were so happy and complete during the times together and the times apart we both felt miserable, desperate and consumed by angst, emptiness and living half dead. ----->>Very true. It feels like a part of you's lost. I felt this one the first time he left for the US. It took a while before we let each other go in the airport. And then the crying. Oh :S When we first joined VJ, we observed that CSC applicants were being processed much faster than VSC. That made us feel aggravated and perplexed as to why VSC was taking so long. In fact, most CSC applicants were processed in less than 4 mos. and VSC gave us our NOA2 at 6 months and 5 days. We then got stuck at nvc (AP) for 3 1/2 weeks, next, a long week to be in the USEM system, a quick interview date only to find out a sputum exam was required (ouch!). The whole visa journey took almost a year from start to finish. Fortunately for us, my husband was able to make multiple trips to be with me which helped us cope during the separation. My husband would return to the states to work his a$$ off and return home to me as quickly as possible. In fact, my husband would usually come back every 3-5 weeks. ----->>The Christmas 'til New Year trip to Manila was my hubby's second time to see me. He was supposed to be here early December but had to change his schedule at a later date due to business concerns. My dear hubby told me if only he could jump on a plane and be with me whenever he would please--but that's not possible. Of course, I want him here more often, but he has to take care of stuff their as well for us...so I understand if he can't... During the times apart we would...chat via ym every morning every evening, abused our cp and landline budget , sms or txt each other the events of our day while the other slept (this helped us feel more together). I was always happy to wake and see my cp was overloaded with 20-30 new messages. To advise another...communicate obsessively, use the the waiting time to discuss every aspect of your relationship and express your love for each other with reckless abandon!!! ----->>That's exactly what we're doing as well! By the way, I love the way you describe it! Hang in there, the time will pass and when you are finally together the pain will be forgotten. I've been here four months now and we're still honeymooning! ----->>	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-01-21 08:16:00
Philippines	LDR's or Long-Distance Relationships	That's wonderful! My husband (my fiance then) was deployed in Iraq for most of the time we were preparing to send our packet (we wanted to wait until he was back in the U.S. to file - just to get everything set up and ready for when I got here; especially moving in to our house). It was so hard when he would be gone for days - he called or emailed me the minute he got back and I could never explain the relief I felt... I will never forget what we had to go through just to be together. =') Gosh I'd super relate to that as well! There was one time he didn't call for almost a day and I'd panic! It turned out to be something I shouldn't be worried about. *sighs* Talk about me being paranoid.	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-01-21 07:46:00
Philippines	LDR's or Long-Distance Relationships	Take this time to grow as a couple. Hazel, and I used skype every night. It is a long process with it's ups and downs, but in the end. The time you spend apart without the "intimacy" helps making you best friends. You're absolutely right. Thank you for making me realize that I mean I know he is my bestfriend, but being apart from each other will make both of us realize how precious we are to each other...	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-01-21 07:34:00
Philippines	LDR's or Long-Distance Relationships	Hello to my VJ family:) This topic is for you guys and gals who are currently with their partners in the US. But all other thoughts are welcome as well:) I am currently on my fourth month of being in a LDR with my husband in CA He came in the Philippines to see me last Christmas and stayed 'til the New Year... and once again *sighs* left for the United States Our visa application is still being processed and I know it will be 7-9 more months ( or less God willing) before I will be with him... I know I'm getting really sentimental right now. I really miss my hubby... Our communication is by constant phone, email and chat. We also send each other photos. I guess what I miss most from everything is his physical presence and the (we're all mature individuals here) the intimacy I just wanted to know how did you guys have kept the love alive within the months you've not been together. How did you survive the long-distance relationship before being finally with your husband/wife/fiancee/fiance/boyfriend/girlfriend? I hope you can share your stories. Thanks so much. Cheers. Edited by CC JC Forever, 21 January 2010 - 04:46 AM.	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-01-21 04:42:00
Philippines	Is there any way I can find out if my USC husband divorced me?	Unfortunately, this is not him. Although he has some arm disability though. Last year i know of another man , that did the same thing to another woman in PI. he was from cali also. his name does not happen to be Dan, and he has a bum leg. like cripled?	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-07-04 19:23:00
Philippines	Is there any way I can find out if my USC husband divorced me?	By the way, we got married in the Philippines. If my husband wants to marry from someone int he US, I think he should divorce me even if we're married in the Philippines. I am not sure about the laws on these. Please help me. thanks. By the way, we were married in the Philippines....	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-07-04 11:54:00
Philippines	Is there any way I can find out if my USC husband divorced me?	My USC (ex) husband and I got married last year at September 2009. Things were great, he even visited me here in Manila during Christmas2009/New Year 2010 and his birthday last March 2010. A lot of things have happened during his visits. Each visit was a cycle of a great happy beginning, a frustrating and traumatic middle, and a teary ending as we've made up plus he'll be leaving. I also saw a revelation of his true colors...he was unusually always in a hurry, was verbally abusive to me, was most of the time angry and get infuriated over small things that upset him... I remember he told me, "Don't worry, I'll treat you better when you're here ("here" meaning when I'm with him in the US). I was disturbed by this statement but I just shrugged it off. Each visit was like that every time, it really drained me during he was here... I attempted to leave him twice on those visits, but he would woo me back and win me over. I'd give him a chance. When he left last April 2010 (this was the end of his March-April 2010 visit), we were doing great. And then I slowly felt the change in him by mid to late May. His calls were less frequent, he would chat in YM rather than call, I rarely hear him say "i love you" or say "baby". My visa application status by then was at NVC and we already had a case number. He said that, he'd "delay" our application for now and wait at most a year before he'll bring me there. I was shocked at his statement but did not contradict him as he was also settling some major legal problems in the US. I felt hurt and sad...I wanted to be with him despite what happened every time he visited me. He was always in a hurry to bring me with him and now, he was slowing it down. By early June 2010, he was blowing off hot and cold. I cannot even be affectionate to him equally. If I say "I love you", he'd act as if he did not hear anything. If he was the one saying it, then I was supposed to respond. He'd always bring back the past over and over. He was very resentful and would send me ambush hate emails. What's weird is, he'd say that today and tomorrow he'd act as if nothing happened. So it really sucks because I cannot even bring it up to him as it would start an argument. A few weeks ago, he sent me another hate mail after asking him how his job interview was plus another email reminding him of his phone bill. His reply was mean...cruel...and sarcastic. He told me I wasn't his wife, f***you, yada yada, go care for someone else. I remember tears falling from my eyes like heavy rainfall as I was reading it... Once again, the next day, he'd act as if nothing happened. He replied he'd pay for the phone line but he NEVER did. I was so upset with him that I ignored all his calls the next few days. And then he stopped calling. I did not bother him anymore since I felt we(my daughter and I) were not important to him. So we made few final emails but he'd reply sarcastically and the freak also said that "I AM NOT A BAD PERSON. ALL I DID WAS GIVE." And another email that said that he would be calling NVC and tell them that I'm relinquishing my visa app. I did not care about the visa anymore if that meant being with him...So we separated, we just gave up on each other...We have no contact whatsoever for 5 days already... I apologize if I gave quite a lengthy intro plus my story before I bring up my questions: 1. Since my ex and I have separated in not so good terms, is there any way I can find out if he divorced me? My bestfriend who's also a US citizen told me before that he can divorce me anytime without my knowledge in the United States. Is there anyway too that I can secure the documents if I find out he did? My ex lives in San Jose, California. 2. I intend to have my marriage ANNULED...but I am not in a hurry. Can anyone recommend a good (proven) lawyer for a case like this? And I hope not too expensive. 3. If anyone in here has the same story as I do, can you please narrate to me how you handled your situation? By the way, I have no child/children from him. 4. How can I find out if he already terminated our visa application in NVC? Thanks in advance.	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2010-07-04 11:31:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports	VISA APPROVED!!!	QUOTE (God_is_Good @ Dec 1 2009, 09:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello guys,Would like to let my family here in VJ know that I got APPROVED Today and waiting for my visa to be in hand:)thanks for the help guys!!good luck everyone. Congrats to you! All the best Mine's gonna take a while. Me and husband has just started. I hope we'll get ours/mine soon!	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-01 09:39:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & Procedures	nervouse about interview ( venting and ranting forum )	QUOTE (epey_denz24 @ Dec 3 2009, 07:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (natt141 @ Dec 2 2009, 03:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> me too..I'm so excited about it..just try to be calm and make myself busy here..until dec 21. hehe.. g'luck for you all. hi natt... take it easy sweety... @Lily1: Congrats...you've made it this far! Brush yourself up for the Qs and speak slowly when answering the questions:) @epey_denz24: Congrats too! And wishing you the best:) Mine's gonna take awhile :s Me and my hubby had just started our visa journey.... I'm excited for you guys:) God bless! ~ceecee	BrowneyedBeauty	Female	Philippines	2009-12-02 21:36:00