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Africa: Sub-SaharanThink carefully before you marry a Nigerian, I regret doing so!

[quote name="RANNK1" post="6756507" timestamp="1389815169"]

Hi everyone.  I have not posted or even logged on here for years.   I met my Nigerian husband in 2008 and brought him here on  a K-1 visa in 2009.       I thought he loved me by all the sweet words he said,  the hundreds of hours on the phone and webcam, messenger.....   Well he was only here three days and took my bank card and purchased dating website subscriptions. He was on several sites.  I was not aware of this until three months later.  Meanwhile,  we got married and I got pregnant .    I was3 devestated when I found out and confronted him.  he said it didn't matter because he was just bored and wanted to talk to them for fun and wasn't planning to meet anyone.    He promised to stop,  but he fell into a habit of doing it every few months,  me catching him and then he would do it again.   We got into a lot of heated arguements and I turned into a detective in my own house.   He claimed to be addicted to it and it wasn't personal.    We went to counseling , we prayed and fasted,  he even fly to Nigeria to seek deliverance from his Pastor.   He still kept having emotional affairs,  often getting a woman's phone number and then talking to her secretly.  Twice he had physical affairs.        By August of this year I caught him again and kicked him out.  I told him to get help and if he could control himself, he could return.   He decided to get a second job, buy himself a new car, a new tv,  anything but get help.   On Christmas ev he announced that he want to have all the young pretty woman he wants now and wants to be single.  He said he cant stop going on dating websites and will cheat on me if he returns.   He is also emotionally and verbally abusive.   He never even gave our kids Christmas presents.     
      He has ruined my life and my kids' lives.   He sucked $15,000 from me overall,  he took my youth and beauty,  he damaged my relationship with my family,  I lost my best friend,  he took away all my hope and happiness in life.     I regret ever meeting him!!!!  Everyone told me he is going to scam you or treat you badly,  don't talk to him,  but I did it anyways.    
      In addition,    I many many other people on here who married a nigerian a few years ago and we all regret.  One lady married the guy and he turned around and married a Nigerian woman right after his interview  (meanwhile taking thousands from her over the years).   Another lady brought her husband here on a K-1 and he cheated on her allll  the time, was rude, unloving.  He was even doing romance scamming here in the states in front of her and the kids.  When he wasn't doing that he was in stip  clubs and bars picking up new girls.       another lady just found out her Nigerian husband of two years, has been having an affair for the past year with a co-worker much older than him.    
       Many of these men have no shame and no integrety.   Please use extreme caution.  Run

I cant believe you took out the time investigating marriages involving Nigerians and asking people to be careful about 160 Million Nigerians is not a good way to present your problems. I do not know about others but its affecting me psychological.






@ Justojai

if you cannot say anything to help RANNK1 please just stay off her case, i respect your opinion of being psychologically affected but you must also know that being a Nigerian you are susceptible to her goods and evils. What Rannk1 needs right now is some comfort and an understanding that not all 160million plus Nigerians are bad eggs.

 

@RANNK1, i am so sorry for the trauma you have been through. As a father i wouldnt want my daughter to go through that and as a man i cannot subject  a woman  to that( I SPEAK FOR ME AND FOR THOSE GOOD NIGERIAN MEN). having studied in the US where i have been robbed by a lady who i offered to help still cannot  make me bitter about American ladies, You must understand Nigeria boasts of some fine and respectable husband to foreigners both in the US and all over the globe.This is the time for you to heal and move on, your higher power will help you through. Actually your ex do have a big problem, addiction can be destructive but thats not an excuse to treat you like he did. for the sake of your kids be strong. meanwhile, for other Nigerian men who are hell bent on destroying others to get their dreams realized, well good luck nemesis still exist and karma they say always lurk around.I PRAY YOU FIND HAPPINESS PLEASE BE HAPPY AGAIN!!!


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-01-16 05:43:00
National Visa Center (Dept of State)F2A to IR1

Hi All 

 

My husband got his citizenship and we have posted a letter to NVC, to upgrade our petition form F2A to IR, we posted the letter on 5 August 2014 and after a week i called to NVC and one representative told me to wait for another 60 days, up to now they didn't issue me a case number, can anyone let me know the process after NVC receive the document. please help me on this.

 

thank you

 

(im so frustrated about this, please help on this even to make up my mind) 

 

 

I did my citizenship in June and sent a mail by post to NVC to do an upgrade for our case on 06/25/14. I also attached the naturalization document and email to them to do an upgrade from f2A to IR, i got a email 2 weeks ago that they do have it and working on it. When i called to get case complete last monday 08/18/14 i enquired about my upgrade i was told by NVC that my case was not an F2A case meaning the upgrade has been done. They are working slow but touching every case as it comes in. my case complete took 50 days aside the one month gone by before i got a checklist.

 

Be patient just call every monay and friday of the week you will certainly get the good news.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-20 07:40:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsSPOUSE OATH DATE COMING UP

Hello VJ members,

 

Is there anyone on the forum who has experienced upgrading from F2a to IR of a USC? i have my citizen naturalization oath ceremony coming up in June.:

 

1. can anyone tell me what i need do to help her upgrade?

2. how long does such take or in your own experience the wait time?

3. Any special requirement aside my citizenship certificate that i need present?

 

Thank you for your time.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-05-26 09:44:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsEmail from NVC

Dear Sir/Madam:  

The NVC completed its processing of OXXXXX SXXXXX's visa petition.   The petition is waiting for an appointment to be scheduled at the U.S. Embassy or Consulate in LAGOS, NIGERIA. When an interview appointment is scheduled, the petitioner, principal applicant, designated agent, and attorney of record (if applicable) will be notified.   **Please be advised that we schedule interview appointments based on the capacity of the respective U.S. Embassy/Consulate General.  We are unable to predict when an interview will be scheduled.                     

Sincerely,     Rowan   National Visa Center   Written Inquiry Unit FCi Federal, Support Contractor

YIPEEEEEEEEEEE.......CONGRATULATIONS FRIEND YOU ARE ALMOST THERE.


Edited by Kathryn41, 26 July 2014 - 11:42 AM.
to remove personal information from quote

COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-07-25 07:08:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFeel like such a loser.

I called NVC today and I was told I made a mistake on one of the forms and that I should be getting an email soon about it. I feel like such a failure. I checked everything so many times for mistakes. now this will add another 60 days to our process. Im just in tears. Just wanted to vent.

 

Well you are not alone buddy, it happened to me too and here i am still hanging in there. What choice have here, yep none other than to wait it out. Wish you Luck. we all need it.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-07 06:27:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFeel like such a loser.
 

I called NVC today and I was told I made a mistake on one of the forms and that I should be getting an email soon about it. I feel like such a failure. I checked everything so many times for mistakes. now this will add another 60 days to our process. Im just in tears. Just wanted to vent.

 
COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-07 06:24:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsHOW MANY ARE WAITING FOR CASE COMPLETE ?

I did get a checklist and they received the document  they supposedly didnt receive on June 11th. They did say is taking about 6 weeks. 

This is killing me :ranting:  :crying:  :cry:

 

Same here people got a checklist too. they got mine since 7/1/14.....game on!!!

 

Suck it up friends .....i can c my crystal ball telling me soon its gon be overrrrrrrrrrrr 


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-07-16 07:36:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS

Hello there brother , Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

 , I just wanna ask something do we need to wait 60 days or 60 business days from when NVC receive , nvc received our file in 60 June , so when i'm supposed to hear from them , Thanks in Advance 

 

hello there,

 

At first i thought it was 60 days then i read different views from people on VJ that called NVC and were told 60 bizness days, so i kept my faith for 60bizness days but to my suprise it came even less than the 60 days. MY TAKE SHOOT FOR 60 BIZNESS DAYS, anything earlier is a big bonus. 

 

best of luck on your journey.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-20 07:45:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS

Congratulations. Please when was your last scan date?


Got a checklist in June but re submitted my AOS on 06/25/2014.

COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-19 14:05:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS

Congratulations. Please when was your last scan date?


Got a checklist in June, and finally responded to it on 06/25/2014 by post.

COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-19 12:43:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS

How do people get IV and AOS fees invoiced at the same time?


Well, I did mine before NVC changed the way it was to this 60day wait time.
That changed everything.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-19 11:58:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS
Thanks everyone.......really appreciate it.
COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-19 11:55:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCASE COMPLETE IN 55 DAYS
Got case complete on 08/15/14........ Yippee
COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-19 11:21:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsSeptember 2014 Interviews

Hi everyone,

 

i am waiting for the interview scheduling to open next week. got case complete 08/15/2014

 

Anyone had the Nigeria experience aside the last week of the month and first week of the month scheduling thats been prevalent for a while now???


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-20 07:55:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsUpdated NVC Processing Times

 
I don't think we should let this conversation simmer into a social discussion thread, but if you guys are applying to become permanent residents in the US, you have a lot to learn about what it means to be an "American." These are children we are talking about. I'm sorry that it is going to take an extra 30 days to process your application, but I'm sure using the internet on your computer won't kill you. (As opposed to living in abject poverty in dangerous countries like Guatemala - look at their murder and violent crime rates.)
 
People have sought out the US for generations as a refuge from their difficult reality. While we may not agree on the method for entry, but it's hardly new. This has happened for generations - the most recent wave of immigrants turns on the "new" people arriving. Let's try to think rationally and compassionately. I'm happy that we are all doing the right thing and applying to live legally in the US with our loved ones.





Thanks for letting me know I am not alone in this 60 or 120 days updated processing time. Soon it will be over. As regards the 30,000 kids, well I understand other people's frustrations but remember these are children. Maybe
We need to feel the other side of the divide to make a good judgement.
 

Edited by Ryan H, 31 August 2014 - 04:10 PM.

COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-06 06:16:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsANYONE GOT THIS LETTER FROM NVC? Enter !!!!!

Oh my goodness..................... :sleepy:  :sleepy:  :sleepy: Wake me up in 60 days or 60 business days whatever NVC does. i am all game..


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-07 06:38:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsOctober 2014 Interviews
Its 10/31/2014..........INTERVIEW
PHEW.......ALMOST OVER.

COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-09-03 13:10:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsF2A upgrading to IR1/CR1 petition in NVC

Hello Guys, my hubby got his citizenship and mailed the copy of his naturalization certifcate and copy of our NOA2 to NVC last august 21. NVC confirmed they have received our request letter. Yesterday my husband called them to ask if they already upgraded my petition from f2a to cr1/ir1. They told us to wait atleast 30 business day and atleast 10 days to upgrade it. I dont understand why we have to wait within 30days. Is it standard answer that they can give to us whatever we are asking to them. I hope you could share your experience on this. Thank you! Dg

 

Hi Mrs.B,

 

I had the same experience and i was told to wait same 30 bizness day. while waiting the NVC change the wait time in August to 60 days for any documentation processing with their offfice. They notified me of this change and i got case complete in 55days and that same week i got an email saying my upgrade has been effected. As a matter of fact when i called to get case complete i was told my case has been upgraded and treated as an IR not a F2A.

 

Hang in there, its a standard response just a little more time.

 

KEEP THE FAITH.

 

Bless you.


COLOSSUSMaleNigeria2014-08-29 05:02:00