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QUOTE (charles! @ Mar 26 2009, 05:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (charles! @ Mar 25 2009, 05:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good morning subbies.
chispas, that sounds like a stinky deal to me. kinda reminds me of my ex wife.

Are you in a community property state too?

dunno. my ex and i was divorced in texas, a community property state. i got all the debts biggrin.gif


Oh Gawd.... This is not good crying.gif . However, I did make one move today to locate the vehicle cuz its not insured and the tags expire then end of this month. Let's see what I come up with
chispasFemale02009-03-26 12:35:00
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QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Mar 25 2009, 08:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good moring Sub,

I know some of you know that i have been going through custody/visitation battles with my son's father. 3 moths ago I had to stop the battle, let go and let god. It has been difficult time watchign my son go through anxiety, smelling like smoke, and personality changes that were yet to be desired. But at the hight of the battle, my ex had it looking like I was causing my son's problems. So I step back, agreed to traditional visitation arangements. Well once I was out of the battle it allowed him to show his true collors. Have party's at 5pm that go on all night while my son has school the next day. Picking him up from school and leaving town on a night my son has practice, but leaving him wth his roomate.

Yesterday I got my final answer to my paitience and trust in God. The Gaurdian Et LItem is going to request the court stop the overnight visits. This has been a true test to my faith. Everytime I think the madness is going to stop it kept going. So I thank GOD for my lessons through the process and guiding the GAL to making a choise that is in my son best interest.

Trust me when I say this battle is not done. We now will be going to trial, which scares me to death. But this just built my strength for the next battle.

good.gif good.gif good.gif good.gif good.gif
That is my testimony for the day.



Sorry that you went through this, but it is a good testimony. Sometimes we, as individuals, get in the way or interfere with what God has in mind. Congrats

chispasFemale02009-03-25 12:36:00
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QUOTE (charles! @ Mar 25 2009, 05:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good morning subbies.
chispas, that sounds like a stinky deal to me. kinda reminds me of my ex wife.

Are you in a community property state too?
chispasFemale02009-03-25 12:31:00
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QUOTE (chispas @ Mar 24 2009, 09:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Como estan todas? Uno hope you feel better soon. As for this journey, I hope anyone else who lives in a Community property state will learn from what happened to me and protect themselves. So far I'm ok from the separation 'till now, but that debt that was run up during that one year will be a challenge to remove. I feel I did my family an injustice by bringing this man into our folds, and truly pray for mercy from the IRS and pray a judge will at least make him responsible for his own debts. I'll keep you guys posted.


Been there done that chispas (well still doing it I suppose). I got all the debt from my ex because he went to prison - probably for life - so my credit is screwed for eternity. Don't have any advice for you, sorry. I just ignore the bill collectors and collection agents for the non essentials (ie credit cards) and they eventually go away.


True dat. true dat. I was advised to get a prenup, but I don't think that would have helped solve the issue I have now. I pray for a miracle. I loved this man blindly and had trauma with him. Don't want any more trauma for external agencies. If I can get a postnup now I'd use it. How's your trip going?
chispasFemale02009-03-25 00:07:00
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Como estan todas? Uno hope you feel better soon. As for this journey, I hope anyone else who lives in a Community property state will learn from what happened to me and protect themselves. So far I'm ok from the separation 'till now, but that debt that was run up during that one year will be a challenge to remove. I feel I did my family an injustice by bringing this man into our folds, and truly pray for mercy from the IRS and pray a judge will at least make him responsible for his own debts. I'll keep you guys posted.
chispasFemale02009-03-24 23:50:00
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QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Mar 24 2009, 12:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The legal posting only takes care of futre debts not past ones. Put a flag on your credit reports that requires them to validate your ID before issuing new credit that will slow him up. But the legal separation should have stopped new credit from being on your head

Gracias,

I didn't any new credit on my or his credit report and it might just be that he ruined in credit in the one year time period of spending spree. The whole 30+ thousand was created in 2006 and 2007 while we were still living together. I don't know what he did with the money besides buy clothes, but he didn't pay bills or buy me gifts, that's for sure.

QUOTE (UNO... @ Mar 24 2009, 12:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ewwww, chispas; dont know what to say about that scenario, but you are in my prayers.
unsure.gif and where is "forchika????" she jinxed me, my sinuses are killing me....arrrggghhhh!!!!!!
and thanx all for doing the " kicking.gif dancin5hr.gif dancin5hr.gif of joy" with me goofy.gif
rose.gif


feel better Uno
chispasFemale02009-03-24 15:00:00
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QUOTE (reeses16 @ Mar 24 2009, 08:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Chispas, I've heard my family in Louisiana (a community property state) say that you can run a public notice (a newspaper add) proclaiming that you are no longer responsible for the debts, etc. of a person. I don't know if this is true...might be interesting to ask other people from Cali.

Also, it might be worth looking into forming a company (if they company could legally be yours alone). A sole proprietorship (or partnership) would not work, because spouses have to participate in the paperwork. But I think an LLC would be appropriate. You could set up the company, and bank accounts. Then have the company purchase the home and later once you are free and clear title the house in your name. Definitely, run this by a lawyer. But I think this is the line of thought I would pursue to see if it panned out.


Thanks for the information. I'll definitely look into this and ask legally about the newspaper posting. I sent information to the DA's office and they never answered and of course immigration doesn't respond either so I believe he's built up his confidence to abscond.
chispasFemale02009-03-24 11:50:00
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States like California assume that the spouse knows everything about the other. If one is a screw up, they assume that both are. Any debt he is considered mine and only if he tells the judge he'll pay for evrything does it split. The car he has I wanted to go get it since its in my name, but until a Judge splits it in property division, then he has a right to it. I never went through this with my first husband as he wasn't a con man or needed meds. However, this recklessness has cost me so much it is not fathomable to me any more. I know there has to be another out there who has been fleeced once by an immigrant and was able to move on and not let their actions drag them down. I'll post in Changes also.
chispasFemale02009-03-24 09:33:00
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QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Mar 23 2009, 08:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
California can be a pain that way, but yes he does have to sign off on the house or the house has to be titled in both names. All he has to do is sign a quit claim deed.


#######... He has $33000 in credit card debt. I pay for the car he left with and he owes taxes for using 99 dependents on his W-2. I feel screwed.

chispasFemale02009-03-23 22:48:00
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Goodnight VJers. I'm down in the dumps now and just came by to vent. I'm trying to buy my own house now, and because I live in Caly, the lender wants to consider my SO debts because it is a community property state. Also, we are separated legally but they say he has to sign a notice saying that he knows I'm buying a house and he lays no claim to it. WTH!!! What I'm so mad at myself right now for getting myself grifted this way. crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif The financial and emotional hole is so deep that I can't believe it. Taxes not paid by him and now this? Argh
chispasFemale02009-03-23 22:30:00
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QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Mar 20 2009, 03:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good morning! I have bad news to share. I lost the baby two days ago. I have been accepting the situation and working towards getting healthy for the next try.


OH NO!!! Hugs and prayers for you both. Sooooo sorry. Bigger hugs around everyone and the challenges of the week.

Edited by chispas, 21 March 2009 - 10:03 PM.

chispasFemale02009-03-21 22:00:00
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When I first went to Africa I was shown how to wash the fruits with a skin and to pass the bread over a flame before eating it. Not sure where the information is at the moment, but it is intended to reduce the chance of contracting parasites. We were required to soak our mangos and other items in cool boiled water with a little bleach in it. Then scrub it like hell and not bite the skins. Not to say it prevented me from getting sick, but I'm sure I didn't get as sick as I could have gotten. Hope all goes well.
chispasFemale02009-03-18 16:33:00
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QUOTE (WhidbeyGirl @ Mar 17 2009, 12:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello all. Am enjoying my visit here in Senegal, although have come down with terrible sickness today - headache, stomache and very weak can hardly stand for too long. I pray it ends quickly. I am ok if I am lying in bed. The hotel has free wireless internet which is VERY convienent.


Did you take your malaria prep before leaving? Also, did you take precautions with the way your food is prepared?
chispasFemale02009-03-18 12:32:00
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QUOTE (forchika @ Mar 6 2009, 12:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (chispas @ Mar 5 2009, 11:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I agree. What sent me running back to the US while in Africa was a mysterious swelling of my whole face and glands. I looked like a bullfrog with a huge lump under my chin. I went to see a "French" doctor who was supposed to be in the top of her field. I had no tests done or anything and was sent home with a list of medicine to buy at the pharmacy. I went from pharmacy to pharmacy looking for the meds as some of the pharmacies didn't have the meds in stock. The worst part was the flight back home with a fever and a swollen face. Do you have one of those walk-in clinics that you can go to?



Did you see a doctor upon your return to the US and if so what was the diagnosis? Just curious sounds like you may have been bitten by something.


Actually I did, and they couldn't find anything. Over there the doctor said I had the mumps. Africans I know here said it was Ju-ju. I was left with looser jowls since then.
chispasFemale02009-03-07 17:43:00
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Hugs P
chispasFemale02009-03-06 01:05:00
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I agree. What sent me running back to the US while in Africa was a mysterious swelling of my whole face and glands. I looked like a bullfrog with a huge lump under my chin. I went to see a "French" doctor who was supposed to be in the top of her field. I had no tests done or anything and was sent home with a list of medicine to buy at the pharmacy. I went from pharmacy to pharmacy looking for the meds as some of the pharmacies didn't have the meds in stock. The worst part was the flight back home with a fever and a swollen face. Do you have one of those walk-in clinics that you can go to?
chispasFemale02009-03-05 22:14:00
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I had hoped for closure, but as long as I know that he broke into my house and took the tapes, pictures, video, file papers and such, I won't be able to relax. Just the thought that he was capable of taking my budoir pictures from sixteen years ago and put them online is enough to cringe. Every so often I wonder what else he's done that I don't knoow about. For whatever reason, this man felt he had to make sure that I wouldn't be able to defend myself properly
chispasFemale02009-03-03 13:31:00
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Mornin' All. Couldn't sleep last night. Dreampt the SO followed me to a conference and turned into flesh eating slugs. They were all over my hotel room, and my son cleaned them up into a vacuum cleaner bag. Then they grew into a human sized slug and was eating his own extremities so he could slide faster after me. I told my principal and she was holding onto my shirt when I began to run away. She was stopping me from getting a head start on my sprint to freedom. This was one wierd dream and I have no clue what it means.


chispasFemale02009-03-03 10:38:00
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QUOTE (UNO... @ Feb 27 2009, 09:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
has anyone ever heard of the following internet sites?:

www.hulu.com
www.joost.com
www.tidaltv.com
www.veoh.com
www.ovguide.com

good nite'chall
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I've heard of them all. There is one website that my students go to that has them. They watch free videos there.
chispasFemale02009-03-01 11:50:00
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A quick post here. I went to a meeting yesterday and didn't log out. Acutally I don't logout hardly ever. Anyway,,, my sub went on to VJ and my other bookmarks. That is the last time this lady will sub for me. Nosey Witch devil.gif


headbonk.gif Some people are just nosey.



The kids all narked on her today and told me what she was doing. She looked like a nicely dressed old lady when she arrived and was very very quiet. If she's on VJ right now checkin' up on me, BEWARE old lady!

maybe that racy pm i sent her is why she's so quiet tongue.gif


I wish... That would have great
chispasFemale02009-02-26 17:01:00
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QUOTE (Zee Bee @ Feb 26 2009, 08:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (chispas @ Feb 26 2009, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A quick post here. I went to a meeting yesterday and didn't log out. Acutally I don't logout hardly ever. Anyway,,, my sub went on to VJ and my other bookmarks. That is the last time this lady will sub for me. Nosey Witch devil.gif


headbonk.gif Some people are just nosey.



The kids all narked on her today and told me what she was doing. She looked like a nicely dressed old lady when she arrived and was very very quiet. If she's on VJ right now checkin' up on me, BEWARE old lady!
chispasFemale02009-02-26 11:31:00
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A quick post here. I went to a meeting yesterday and didn't log out. Acutally I don't logout hardly ever. Anyway,,, my sub went on to VJ and my other bookmarks. That is the last time this lady will sub for me. Nosey Witch devil.gif
chispasFemale02009-02-26 10:40:00
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Hey Chica: Que Paso? Hope you are tired as hell today after enjoying your birthday. On another note I read the post you wrote under the topic of "still married....". That was pretty good information that you wrote there. Sounds like the beginning of a good manual to me. good.gif Very good information.
chispasFemale02009-02-25 11:31:00
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Morning All. A quick drive by post here. I get a free day from the classroom, but have to go to an all day meeting. Yucky. Congrats Mrs. J this is very good news.
chispasFemale02009-02-25 11:13:00
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I'm all late here even for Caly time. But I wanted to send a shout out to Boaz for her b-day. Wish you a slamin' evening and a very tired tomorrow morning. Hugs hugs rose.gif
chispasFemale02009-02-24 21:22:00
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QUOTE (UNO... @ Feb 20 2009, 06:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
has anyone heard of this....

http://news.yahoo.co...cle_mileage_tax


This sort of tax would kill Californians who don't live in the larger cities or those who live and work in the suburbs . A trip to the airport alone could cost practically the same as the flight
chispasFemale02009-02-21 01:12:00
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QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Feb 13 2009, 07:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Morning and belated birthday greetings. good.gif Last night I went to listen to 2 speakers from a charity I give to. One woman was the Democratic Republic of the Congo and the other was from Nigeria. It was great to hear how there groups do their work in each of the countries. The group is Woman4Women.org. You get matched with a sister that will correspond with you during her year in the program. She gets skills training and a small amount of money. Anyone that is looking for a good charity should check them out.


Hola Silvia,
How's your husband's changing of the guard process going?
chispasFemale02009-02-13 22:03:00
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QUOTE (Boaz @ Feb 12 2009, 10:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello Everyone!

Chispas - did you receive my voice mail from 5:00 AM your time? laughing.gif I wanted to be one of the first to say ... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif


Of all the days to leave my cell phone at home I chose this one. But girl you can sanggggg
chispasFemale02009-02-13 22:00:00
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Hey Ido. You remembered. Thanks everyone! For my birthday I got a not so nice text from the old SO but when I walked into my classroom it was all decorated with balloons hanging every where! The custodial staff really did a wonderful job letting the school know that I was "over the hill"! I'll take the balloons from the staff any day! The kids are testing today so hopefully I can be online.. tee hee
chispasFemale02009-02-12 11:52:00
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QUOTE (UNO... @ Feb 11 2009, 06:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good morning sleepy.gif


news flash for men:
Viagra now available in eye drops, you don't get an erection but you look hard!

rose.gif


Good one Uno. I needed that laugh this morning
chispasFemale02009-02-11 14:03:00
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Isn't your island rainy most of the time W-Girl
chispasFemale02009-02-10 16:23:00
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Its ok. Some days are great and others not so great. Its sunny here, but my whole body is aching the heck out me which I find disturbing and annoying.
chispasFemale02009-02-10 14:22:00
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Hola Zee,
Any more snow out your way?


chispasFemale02009-02-10 14:03:00
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Sunny Morning in Caly. Hello to all
chispasFemale02009-02-10 13:51:00
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Its a rainy bleak day in Caly
chispasFemale02009-02-06 13:56:00
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Just something light and perhaps funny for some people. Can't write too much because I have lurkers around me. Check this link out: http://www.sockandawe.com/
chispasFemale02009-02-06 13:01:00
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Hola Again,
We have finals this week and this is my free period so I am catching up with everyone. Too bad there isn't a VJ mobile which lets us choose our favorite forums to keep up with
chispasFemale02009-01-23 11:10:00
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QUOTE (chispas @ Jan 23 2009, 07:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mornin All,
Boaz you don't know how excited I am just knowing you were there witnessing history. The TV service in our whole school was out and the Interet even worse so I have not seen the whole broadcast yet. When you upload your pics, I'll pretend I was there too.


Lovin'
Here's an article I found today about caterpillars eating up the crops in Liberia. Creepy

Hordes of caterpillars swarm Liberia, Guinea
By JONATHAN PAYE-LAYLEH, Associated Press Writer Jonathan Paye-layleh, Associated Press Writer – 5 mins agoSHANKPALA, Liberia – Liberia's worst caterpillar plague in three decades has spread to neighboring Guinea after swarms of the crop-eating insects devastated more than 45 towns in the West African nation, officials said Friday.

Thousands of farmers have been unable to venture onto their farms. The 1-inch-long (2-3 centimeters) caterpillars were advancing in the tens of millions, devouring food crops and clogging wells and waterways with excrement, the Rome-based Food and Agriculture Organization said.

Agriculture experts from Liberia urged that the pests be attacked with aerial spraying quickly before they destroyed even more areas.

The outbreak, which began in central Liberia, has been blamed on last year's unusually long rainy season. The invasion already has affected two of the leading food-growing provinces in Liberia, which is still recovering from years of civil war.

On Friday, officials said the pests also had invaded Lofa County on Liberia's northern border with Guinea.

The FAO's emergency coordinator in Liberia, Tim Vaessen, confirmed that the caterpillars had entered neighboring Guinea and said the infestation "could be a regional problem" if it is not attacked soon.

Liberian Agriculture Minister Chris Toe said aerial spraying was needed in the central town of Shankpala, 120 miles (200 kilometers) northeast of the capital, Monrovia. The coffee- and cocoa-producing area has been hard-hit by the dark, hairy pests.

Bendu Jabateh, whose mud-plastered hut is located close to an infested coffee farm, said she no longer felt safe leaving her two children outdoors.

"This is becoming a no-go area for us. We cannot go to our farms and we can't have our children play around the town any longer," said Jabateh, cradling her toddler son. "They crawl and come into the house."

Toe said specimens have been sent to Ghana and the United States to confirm suspicions that the pests are army worms.

About 30 pest control workers were already using manual ground sprayers to try to contain the outbreak in central Liberia. But eradication is a problem — the pests dwell on the leaves of giant forest trees that can rise more than 26 feet (8 meters) and aerial spraying risks further contaminating water sources.

In Shankpala, an ill-equipped spraying team has not made any serious impact. Residents instead have lit fires to keep the swarms at bay.

"When we set fire to certain places around the town, the caterpillars will bypass and attack in different locations so we are ... tired of using fire now," said rice farmer Johnson Kolleh. "We need modern methods to fight the spread."

In Pelelei, a creek used for drinking water was polluted by the pests' feces.

Coffee farmer James Kolleh, 22, explained that some spraying had been done in the town "but we were terrified when the chickens that eat the dead pests all died. These caterpillars must be very poisonous."

The last time Liberia experienced such pest invasion was 30 years ago, but officials then were able to prevent its spread.

Liberia was ravaged by alternating civil war and coups between 1989 and 2003. The drawn-out conflict left about 200,000 people dead and displaced half the country's population of 3 million.

The country — created to settle freed American slaves in 1847 — is still struggling to maintain a fragile peace with the help of U.N. peacekeepers.




chispasFemale02009-01-23 10:49:00
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Mornin All,
Boaz you don't know how excited I am just knowing you were there witnessing history. The TV service in our whole school was out and the Interet even worse so I have not seen the whole broadcast yet. When you upload your pics, I'll pretend I was there too.
chispasFemale02009-01-23 10:46:00
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Trade jobs? That would be cool if people could do that more often and not have it affect their personal lives so much. We lived, worked, shpped and studied in what was considered a company town so I saw a lot of that growing up. Cough Cough some people call it communism, socialism or any of the other -isms around.


chispasFemale02009-01-05 17:52:00