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Philippines	Heartbroken and deceived---need help/advice	JRMejia, Also painful for me... It has been over 20 years since my American (born and raised) Filipina (German, Spanish) wife left me after being unfaithful on several (maybe many) occasions. I remember what the pain was like at that point in my life and I have no desire to go through that 'hell' again. But, just the same I am now conversing with a young lady from Santa Cruz Isl. (PH) in hopes that I may see the end to being alone finally. I have to admit that this story has given me pause, but at this point I have no reason to doubt when she says 'I love you', even though I have what might be considered a rather strange definition of "love" (which may not align with hers), and do not understand HOW she can make that profession - having never met me in person - never looked into my eyes. I believe that 'love' is NOT an emotion or a feeling (that one can fall in and out of), although emotions and feelings ARE elicited and experienced as a product of 'love'. What I believe 'love' IS, is the willingness and stubbornness on the part of one person to place the needs, cares, pleasure, and health of another person above themselves (kind of like what God did when He sent His Son to die on a Roman cross for the sins of a world). As in your post, I have NO IDEA as to whether she is a good or bad 'apple', so the only recourse I can see now is to afford her a certain level of unearned trust and unmerited favor with her words. And hope with all my heart that this IS the end to my searching and waiting. I have noticed that it seems quite easy for a Filipina (and most Asian women) to say (type) the words "I love you", but to what depth do those words strike, when they are so seemingly nonchalantly expressed ?!? Is it an American thing to NOT understand this ? Or just a 'guy thing' ?!? Somewhat Confused, Bruce Hello, This reading is too painful. I just can't how a person can do that to another person. It is very difficult for me since I am in the process of bringing my fiancee to USA. I have no idea if she is a good apple or not. It is like flipping a coin. I know they say "i love you" but do they really mean it like we do?	RenaissanceMan	Male	0	2010-11-18 17:47:00

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Heartbroken and deceived---need help/advice

JRMejia,

Also painful for me... It has been over 20 years since my American (born and raised) Filipina (German, Spanish) wife left me after being unfaithful on several (maybe many) occasions. I remember what the pain was like at that point in my life and I have no desire to go through that 'hell' again.

But, just the same I am now conversing with a young lady from Santa Cruz Isl. (PH) in hopes that I may see the end to being alone finally.
I have to admit that this story has given me pause, but at this point I have no reason to doubt when she says 'I love you', even though I have what might be considered a rather strange definition of "love" (which may not align with hers), and do not understand HOW she can make that profession - having never met me in person - never looked into my eyes. I believe that 'love' is NOT an emotion or a feeling (that one can fall in and out of), although emotions and feelings ARE elicited and experienced as a product of 'love'. What I believe 'love' IS, is the willingness and stubbornness on the part of one person to place the needs, cares, pleasure, and health of another person above themselves (kind of like what God did when He sent His Son to die on a Roman cross for the sins of a world).

As in your post, I have NO IDEA as to whether she is a good or bad 'apple', so the only recourse I can see now is to afford her a certain level of unearned trust and unmerited favor with her words. And hope with all my heart that this IS the end to my searching and waiting.

I have noticed that it seems quite easy for a Filipina (and most Asian women) to say (type) the words "I love you", but to what depth do those words strike, when they are so seemingly nonchalantly expressed ?!? Is it an American thing to NOT understand this ? Or just a 'guy thing' ?!?

Somewhat Confused,

Bruce

Hello,
This reading is too painful. I just can't how a person can do that to another person. It is very difficult for me since I am in the process of bringing my fiancee to USA. I have no idea if she is a good apple or not.

It is like flipping a coin. I know they say "i love you" but do they really mean it like we do?

RenaissanceMan

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2010-11-18 17:47:00