Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Middle East and North Africa	Tanya and Mohamed no more!	Dear Tanya: That really really sucks!!! I feel bad that you had to go through all that, but like you say now. It's better to live on your own then being treated "like a piece of meat"? I know it's hard to start over, to pick up the pieces of your broken heart. But nothing is forever. There is always a new morning, a new beginning. I went through a divorce from my ex husband who is from here in USA, but along the way after I divorced I met my actual husband who is from Morocco. And yes, they seem to live in another world so old fashioned. A lot of them still live with their parents. My actual husband I think is the exception, because even if he was living in his parents home. He started working to help them. He is a welder and went for training after finishing his school studies. He will travel out of town also. When I met him back in 2006 and filed for his visa. He was still working and after he got his visa he left a good job to come here to America. They are used to their ways and customs. In that regard about the woman following behind a few steps or going first when opening the doors anywhere, restaurant, car door, etc... My husband is open to learn the ways of our culture. I have taught him to open doors for me. Showed him that women here are respected and go first when opening doors at malls, buses, on the street etc.. He was not used to do dishes or any kind of housework at home, because his Mom, sister & sister in law will do everything for him. Here with me he's been learning the other way around. Learning to have more respect for women and pitching in for housework or cooking. He works as a welder and I am a Nanny to a loving family. So, we've been working out our differences. The only thing I do not like a lot is that by nature they are more thrifty and save more. I don't care to spend money if it's well spent. If I have a nice meal somewhere or there's shoes or clothes I need and like. I don't mind the price, but with him it's different. They like to save more. So, what we want to do is have our own savings each and have a combined account for paying bills, going out or buying groceries or supplies. And each of us put some money into that account to cover the expenses. Somehow that seem to work better for us. Anyway, there may be some other issues I may not like much, but he is very responsible and helps me a lot. He's very respectful and family oriented. He loves my three sons who are already older and on their own. Loves my two little granddaughters too. I really don't know what life may hold for me, but he's been there at the time when I needed him most. I came down with cancer leukemia two years ago and pneumonia. He was there all the time for me even through the distance. He's very respectful of his parents which is a quality I love in a man. So, not all the Moroccan men are the same. I feel bad that things have to turn out the way they did for you. I hope it goes well for you now and in the future. Take good care of you. quote name='visa4habibi??' date='Nov 15 2009, 05:44 PM' post='3491970'] I'm the member formerly known as Visa4habibi! Since I couldn't log in after not using my account for so long had to re-register to tell everybody this: my Moroccan husband SUCKS! HE RUINED OUR MARRIAGE!!! All this wait, all the tears, all the money and effort spent for absolutely nothing! If he's from a country that looks like it's still in 17th century - it's because it is and so is he and his mind! There's no more Tanya and Mohamed! October 19, 2009 - he's finally out of the house! Oh joy! No more being treated like a piece of meat! November 15, 2009 - went for counseling and as I suspected there's nothing to be done! Yes, the marriage counselor worked today since he was away for when I needed him the most, all three weeks since we got separated! The marriage's been dead since he came over here! I got somebody else baby from another country that just wanted to do his own thing and live his own life in my house on my dime and not help with anything! There's no happy ending here! All the attention all the promises I got in Morocco meant nothing!!! I was his star, his Moon, his Queen and now he's not my slave and how dare I want his paycheck to pay our bills? Now I hate him, hate my life and mostly myself for letting him do all this to me! God knows I've tried and tried and tried but they do know their job in Casa and age difference plus cultural differences is way to much for one adult and one man-child to handle! I was mad at the consulate all the time they kept us apart, but they do know a thing or two about lazy people who never worked a day in their life and can smooth talk others into spending time and money they don't have on them. Just so they come over here and be as lazy as before and help with nothing! Don't mean to offend anybody's culture but we are what we are and I'm not a Moroccan woman to take abuse and follow my man a yard behind him! Or pretend like he was pretending that we have no problems and hide from them! Tanya [/quote]	miredidi	Female	Morocco	2009-12-07 01:14:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & Procedures	ds230...	Hi! Read your message here on VJ and just wanted to reassure you. This thing about waiting for the visa seems at times too much, but everything comes to an end sooner or later. Waiting for the NVC or receiving the confirmation from them takes about two or maybe three weeks. Then it's sent to embassy in his/her country. The waiting also depends on each case. Not all cases are exactly the same and it also depends on the immigration officials, their workload, etc.... The waiting period starts when it's on the embassy depending on each state & country. For us it took 1 year and six months to get his visa, but finally he made it home to USA. There is a timeframe to get to each case according to the date they arrive in each center. Hope this helps in some small way. If you have any other questions you can reach me at my email address. Hi vj members, Congrats to those who have their interview date and everyone who are waiting for their visa in hand, im still here waiting for our case to be complete... Its been 2 weeks since we sent our ds230, till now no email recieved from the nvc yet to confirm they have it in hand. Any one experience this too? It really worries me... Edited by miredidi, 08 February 2010 - 02:03 AM.	miredidi	Female	Morocco	2010-02-08 01:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures	If Your Fiacee wants to visit the US	It's been quite a long time since my last post in 2006, right? I want to thank the person who did give information about applying for a permit. Well, so far since the time I filed for the K - 1 visa for my Fiance which was on February 2007. We are still waiting for the Embassy to get through with the administrative processing. It's been seven months since his first interview in October 2007. For me it's been quite a long time to get through with this administrative processing. Has anyone has gone through something similar? Will appreciate any response. Thanks!!! QUOTE (miredidi date= @ post=) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi! I am trying to get more informed on what's the process in a K-1 Visa. My Fiance lives in Meknes, Morocco. We are waiting for the process of the Visa, but I would like to know if he can apply for a permit to come visit to USA too. I am in the process of making a visit to him myself in January, but it's been more difficult for me financially. What exactly is required of him to apply for a permit? Only the job contract from his job? or what else? Will appreciate a reply to lumibe79@hotmail.com. Thanks! QUOTE (s-luvs-k @ Dec 19 2006, 06:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Just thought I would let everyone know these facts that I got. If you have applyed for a K-1 visa everyone knows it is hard for your fiancee to come visit the US. I talked to an Immigration agent wen I was coming back into the countryand she told me how that you can get your fiancee in to visit. (1) Your fiance(e) needs to have proof that they are going to return to there country. Examples: A lease aggreement on a house or appartment. A note from your job that you have a contract with that you are only on vacation. But this only works with countrys that you have to sign a contract to work at a job. Also, note that a return ticket does not constatute proof that they wil be returning to there country (2) They will check their bag when they coome to visit. My fiancee wanted to bring things to leave so she could have them for latter. But this is a bad idea,because they look for signs that they are not going to be leaving. (3) If your fiance(e) has ever visited the US. Make sure that the little green visiters card was returned when they left the country. If not, and they try to come visit they will automatically reject them. The reason I metion this is because if they came to visit and then cossed into Canada, they do not take the card which would happen if they flew out of the states. Without this card returned, the US computer system still thinks that you are in the US. Hope this is helpfull.	miredidi	Female	Morocco	2008-05-31 20:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures	If Your Fiacee wants to visit the US	Hi! I am trying to get more informed on what's the process in a K-1 Visa. My Fiance lives in Meknes, Morocco. We are waiting for the process of the Visa, but I would like to know if he can apply for a permit to come visit to USA too. I am in the process of making a visit to him myself in January, but it's been more difficult for me financially. What exactly is required of him to apply for a permit? Only the job contract from his job? or what else? Will appreciate a reply to lumibe79@hotmail.com. Thanks! Just thought I would let everyone know these facts that I got. If you have applyed for a K-1 visa everyone knows it is hard for your fiancee to come visit the US. I talked to an Immigration agent wen I was coming back into the countryand she told me how that you can get your fiancee in to visit. (1) Your fiance(e) needs to have proof that they are going to return to there country. Examples: A lease aggreement on a house or appartment. A note from your job that you have a contract with that you are only on vacation. But this only works with countrys that you have to sign a contract to work at a job. Also, note that a return ticket does not constatute proof that they wil be returning to there country (2) They will check their bag when they coome to visit. My fiancee wanted to bring things to leave so she could have them for latter. But this is a bad idea,because they look for signs that they are not going to be leaving. (3) If your fiance(e) has ever visited the US. Make sure that the little green visiters card was returned when they left the country. If not, and they try to come visit they will automatically reject them. The reason I metion this is because if they came to visit and then cossed into Canada, they do not take the card which would happen if they flew out of the states. Without this card returned, the US computer system still thinks that you are in the US. Hope this is helpfull.	miredidi	Female	Morocco	2006-12-19 21:15:00