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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFebruary 2010 Filers - California Service Center

Well there's a challenge if I ever heard one. If someone can find me an airline that'll fly us from London to Tucson or Phoenix, 1 stopover, less than 20 hours total travel time (take-off to final landing plus stopover time) and allow a cat on board, I'll quite happily and genuinely throw a couple hundred squid into your bank account. Delta don't allow animals on board transatlantic from the UK, Ireland, South Africa, UAE and somewhere else. Neither do BA, nor Continental, nor American. And only Continental will carry her as cargo and only to Phoenix because Tucson doesn't have climate controlled transportation from the aircraft to the .. wherever they go.
And those flight requirements are not just for the sake of the cat, but also my extremely anxious 10 year old. If it were only me, it would be an entirely different story. And yes, the £609 was using a company. And yes, a lot has changed in 6 months, nevermind 2 years.

Could you stop spitting venom around especially when someone's trying to help you? As you were informed, Air France takes cats on board. Check their website. They fly from London to Phoenix with 2 layovers in times between 16 hours 20 mins to 20 hours 42 mins. Lotsa choices for you. I'm sure your child (not the kid as you refer to it as if it was a thing you just had to drag behind) will be able to survive the trip just fine (even with 2 stops), especially if you bring her fav toys, nice snacks, the cat that she loves, she could watch some movie and you could give her some love too. Lots of kids travel on planes. Maybe your child would feel less anxious in general if you didn't keep stressing the small stuff (which can be solved easily btw) and provide her love, support and a fun life. I'm sure there are hotels in Phoenix that are pet friendly. And if you have to do the 2 hour drive, why don't you make it fun and stop on the way to show your child fun stuff and make her life more fun in general.

Edited by Ovaltine Jenkins, 24 April 2010 - 03:30 PM.

Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2010-04-24 15:29:00
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QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Mar 17 2008, 06:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks guys.

We didn't get the approval we want. But we didn't get denied either. They want more evidence (like spending $150 to send evidence is not enough).

Oh well, he wasn't coming until August anyways so its not like the separation is being prolonged. We'll just take it in stride.

Sorry to hear that rose.gif That´s just not fair sad.gif Hopefully June is gonna be a better month for you and you finally get approved good.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-17 12:07:00
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QUOTE (u2rsobad @ Mar 14 2008, 11:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well then...Happy Birthday and I hope it's a great one! rose.gif jest.gif Daisuke got here the day after his birthday.

And yes, I'm so very happy and so is he! Now he's just wondering why it took him so long to make the decision..oh well..he did and after so many years we're finally happily married.

Did you post on the AOS March filers thread yet? It's still kind of a quiet thread, but Feb is moving. Hopefully this part of the process won't be as long as the last, but either way, we won't be waiting without our SO's good.gif

Thank you smile.gif Well like you probably already found out I started posting in that abandoned March thread like you did. It´s cuz it´s the first thing that comes up if you run a search for the thread...so I already relocated to the busier one tongue.gif
I don´t mind this kind of waiting at all...it feels so nice when you can hug the person you love every day without having to count the days till you or him/she have to leave again...cuz now we aren´t just "vacationing" biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-14 22:59:00
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Btw EverPatient is getting married on my birthday biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-14 12:27:00
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Hehe yeah smile.gif Things are great. My family came over here for the wedding so it was a lot of fun smile.gif I must say I adapted very fast although I didn´t really wanna move to USA and live here. I have no problem with anything at all anymore. Maybe it´s because I spent 5 months in USA last year. We are very happy biggrin.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif You must be so excited after so many years things are finally working out for you biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-14 12:24:00
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QUOTE (u2rsobad @ Feb 26 2008, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Alane, the 7th is coming up quickly (although I know it doesn't feel like it!) I'm so excited for you!! And when he gets here, the days before the wedding will just fly by in glorious fashion. dancin5hr.gif And then you'll be joining me on cloud nine! I still can't believe that after 12 1/2 years as a couple, we're finally married!! Pinching myself doesn't make it seem any more real to me jest.gif

Zee, your time is just around the corner, too! I'm so excited for the both of you as well! They say that the best things in life come to those who wait and I think the three of us (you, Alane and I) have done more than our fair share of waiting! The best thing in the world for me is finally here...for forever and the best for you is coming very soon! I'll be here waiting to do the happy dance with the both of you kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif (I keep my dancing shoes under my desk here at work for special occasions!)

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Hehe, so I went to look up this thread to see how everyone progressed and it looks great biggrin.gif Congratulations to U2rsobad and EverPatient´s weddings good.gif biggrin.gif Sound´s like EverPatient is gonna be really busy on Friday and Saturday smile.gif
Zee good luck with your interview smile.gif Its just round the corner good.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-14 01:22:00
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QUOTE (bundy_138 @ Oct 22 2007, 02:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Scott and Marta @ Oct 22 2007, 05:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (bundy_138 @ Oct 22 2007, 01:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok, I mailed off my RFE information on Saturday, Oct 20 it arrived this morning (Oct 22) and has been signed for (before 7 am, WOW, they work early at CSC). Let's see how long it takes for them to get the approval done (NOA-2). My file was already touched this morning, so I hope that has to do with them scanning the RFE document. FINGERS CROSSED FOR A SPEEDY APPROVAL!

Oh yeah. I have been reading the sad stories about being without your SO's. I am sad for some of you, 1 year without seeing them!? WOW!!! I couldn't handle it. I travel to see my fiance every two months, but only because it is a 3 hour plane ride for me.

One day we will be able to wake up next to the ones we love and know that this long and rough journey was well worth it. Positive thoughts!

Bundy


Yeah lucky you with 3 hours good.gif Did you already write here what your RFE was about? I think I missed it..


Yes, I posted it earlier in this forum. Everyone's worst nightmare, the officer reviewing my paperwork OVERLOOKED a document that was in the packet. I got the RFE for not having it in the packet. I just resent the same info and hope for the best!

Bundy

mad.gif Overlooked! protest6wz.gif How can they keep overlooking things like that...I have heard this several times from people...they just happen to overlook...it´s not like the packet we have to send has 500 pages mad.gif If they put so much pressure on the employees due to their backlog, that the employees overlook pages, then they should seriously get much more staff...
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-22 16:39:00
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QUOTE (bundy_138 @ Oct 22 2007, 01:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok, I mailed off my RFE information on Saturday, Oct 20 it arrived this morning (Oct 22) and has been signed for (before 7 am, WOW, they work early at CSC). Let's see how long it takes for them to get the approval done (NOA-2). My file was already touched this morning, so I hope that has to do with them scanning the RFE document. FINGERS CROSSED FOR A SPEEDY APPROVAL!

Oh yeah. I have been reading the sad stories about being without your SO's. I am sad for some of you, 1 year without seeing them!? WOW!!! I couldn't handle it. I travel to see my fiance every two months, but only because it is a 3 hour plane ride for me.

One day we will be able to wake up next to the ones we love and know that this long and rough journey was well worth it. Positive thoughts!

Bundy


Yeah lucky you with 3 hours good.gif Did you already write here what your RFE was about? I think I missed it..
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-22 16:03:00
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Lotsa approvals are coming this week biggrin.gif
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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-15 12:03:00
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I remember some people saying they were having touches or something on the weekends...so they must be doing something there for sure good.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-13 17:18:00
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QUOTE (Mirla @ Oct 11 2007, 07:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Will someday the waiting game end?!?!?!?! I just wonder....I even hate when someone puts me on hold on the phone, wait for someone who is late, waiting on line....can you imagine how hard is for me to wait 155 days!!!!! On the other hand, I'm learning how to wait without getting pissed of....hahaha!

Well I think it´s a long waiting game...takes a couple of years of waiting for everything we in the end have to go through...but...if someone doesn´t have a problem during, this part should be the hardest part, since we can´t be with our loved ones...then the rest of the waiting should be a piece of cake compared to what we are going through now... good.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-12 02:48:00
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QUOTE (BYRON-LEIDY @ Oct 11 2007, 12:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Rub my eyes like 1000000000000000 times then look to the floor for the softest spot right before i FAINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! blink.gif

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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 14:13:00
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QUOTE (BYRON-LEIDY @ Oct 11 2007, 12:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VSC memorial service will be held at Byron's house !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif


Hehe, Byron what on earth are you gonna do the day you get approved? tongue.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 14:09:00
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Congrats!
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 14:00:00
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Lotsa people have been getting touches lately...sounds great good.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 13:43:00
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QUOTE (BYRON-LEIDY @ Oct 11 2007, 10:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
wacko.gif ....im losing it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 12:41:00
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QUOTE (BYRON-LEIDY @ Oct 11 2007, 10:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is with my hardest of heartaches to announce....but ...................VSC has died..... blink.gif

Hahaha good.gif That definately made me laugh even if it´s not funny....but sounding from you, it is biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 12:39:00
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Congratulations to everyone! CSC keep pumping it out kicking.gif VSC start pumping it out kicking.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-11 12:11:00
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Congratulations to all of you! That´s awesome!
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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-10 19:55:00
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Does anyone have any idea how many K1 visas are really filed at VSC and CSC? I wish everyone who filed was here on VJ so we had better numbers. I hope at least 80% of filers are here on VJ...I wouldn´t like it if there were less than like 50% of total number of filers here on VJ.. wacko.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-10 14:31:00
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QUOTE (Bazoookis @ Oct 10 2007, 07:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We were APPROVED last night!!!!! Email sent at 11:15pm!!!!! AHHHHHHHHH I'm so happy! I hope you all hear of your approvals soon! My receipt date was May 25th, and it was transferred and received by CSC on June 12th. GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!!!!!!


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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-10 12:18:00
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QUOTE (YanJeff @ Oct 9 2007, 07:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, I am off to China early in the morning. I am so excited to see her again.
I really wanted to take good news with me. But, nothing in snail mail. No touches. No Approval.
When I return on the 23. I hope NOT to see any of you on this thread! blink.gif
Good luck to all!

Have a great trip good.gif

QUOTE (ThaiStyleUSA @ Oct 9 2007, 06:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Bundy,

I'd received 2 emails today stating the same thing ...need more evidence. So you are not alone as well. I am frustrated too because it has been 153 days for me. It said they had mailed it off today Oct 9...so I will probably get it Thursday...hopefully something simple and I can send it back same day.

Sorry to hear that rose.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-09 21:34:00
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QUOTE (bundy_138 @ Oct 9 2007, 01:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
RFE??RFE??

I just received 5, count them, 5 emails from USCIS stating they need more evidence?? (All the emails said the same thing) Are you F'ing kidding me? I called CSC right after I got the email and the guy told me that he had no idea what the RFE was for and I would have to wait for the snail mail to get here. I followed the Guides to the T listed here on visajourney and even aded extra pictures, phone records, etc for our proof of relationship.

I am so pissed right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


There goes an extra week aded to my approval! Just wonderful!

Bundy


Sorry to hear that rose.gif I wish at least they let people know about an rfe much earlier than after 150 days of waiting rose.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-09 15:58:00
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QUOTE (BYRON-LEIDY @ Oct 9 2007, 12:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I need a pick me up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! crying.gif crying.gif Day 141 for me!!!!!!!!!!!


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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-09 14:23:00
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QUOTE (ramzis51 @ Oct 9 2007, 09:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I like your face with the TEETH


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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-09 14:21:00
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I can feel it too! biggrin.gif Like I said...rest of May filers get approved this week and June the next week biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-09 11:31:00
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That´s great! good.gif Congratulations kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif I also thought they had a day off whistling.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-08 22:24:00
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Congratulations to all of you guys! good.gif goofy.gif That´s great news biggrin.gif They sure are pumping it out now biggrin.gif kicking.gif dancin5hr.gif kicking.gif biggrin.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-09-29 21:27:00
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Hehe well I was checking the site all day and nothing was happening so looked like it was gonna be a zero tongue.gif So 3 is great lol whistling.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-09-28 22:39:00
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Yeaaaah kicking.gif That´s great news! Lotsa approvals today! kicking.gif Congratulations to all of you guys good.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-09-28 22:28:00
Middle East and North AfricaAnd Egyptian Joke sent by a friend
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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-13 21:48:00
Middle East and North AfricaMy journey with a Moroccan is over
rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif Sorry to hear that. Stay strong girl you will soon hold your baby in your arms and that´s the happiest moments kicking.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-24 13:04:00
Middle East and North AfricaWas wondering who else is waiting since 2006- we should keep in touch
Omg...really sorry to hear that guys...wish your stressful visa journey is soon over and you get to be with your loved ones rose.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-10-01 12:47:00
Middle East and North Africatrust issues
This is a sad sad unfriendly thread. How can you people be so mean to each other?

Back to the original question: I dont know you two but I can try give an opinion. I dont think there is anything wrong with helping out your man if you feel he is honest with you and all that stuff. If he is honest and a good partner to you he would help you out too if you needed it. You though seem to be smelling something fishy about whats happening to you so time to have a good talk cuz thats what couples should do...live an honest life and be open with each other. You said he didnt mind that you cut him off the monthly money so you will see what happens. Why did he need the money till now and now he says no money is fine? Have you visited him there in Italy? If your relationship is genuine from both sides I am sure you will work it out. Thats up to you to find out and I wish you luck good.gif

I have a question here. Does it just seem to me or do only US women fall in love with men from Islamic countries? I am not sure if I saw a US man here being in love with for example an Egyptian woman. Maybe I´m wrong, maybe it has religious reasons, please feel free to correct me smile.gif

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Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2007-11-14 06:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaINTERVIEW WASNT WHAT WE EXPECTED....
I´m glad and very happy it went so well for you good.gif Congratulations biggrin.gif You must be very relieved after all the stress you had to go through smile.gif Hope he gets the passport really soon good.gif kicking.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-03-14 02:09:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgyptian police bust butcher over donkey meat
QUOTE (christera22 @ Apr 14 2008, 09:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What type of Idiotic discussion is this ??? Is this forum section is for discussing Forign embassy and affairs or meat ?? Are u a Meat seller too .........why have u then discussed so much about meat here without posting it in the off topic section ??? Embassy section is not somewhere to make fun aand discuss about idiotic and absurd topics.I dnt think VJ ers are not at all interested to learn the meat rates & donkey meat details here in this forum. Pls keep your meat policy to yourself ....... what rubbish .... you come to usa and still want meat from your country ?? Why dnt you return back ?? rofl.gif
Moderators pls take proper action and arrange to move it .......... mad.gif

Did you go out of your mind?
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-04-21 12:32:00
Middle East and North Africacan I vent for a few mins?:(
You know it seems like sometimes they just loose it or something and send RFEs out. I have seen stories from people who were asked to send something again although they already sent it. I hope this time it works and it all gets solved quickly rose.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-04-20 23:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaDealing with SO's opinions about future children
QUOTE (sarahaziz @ May 22 2008, 02:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yeah those kind of men should just die for thinking they can play God and put anyone to death. But that's not how majority of men from there are like. Alot of women on this board can back that up because abuse isn't tolerated in USA so I doubt anyone would marry someone thinking they'd get beat up. There are some of those bad apples though who do beat on wives and sisters because of respect was broken. Usually happens in poor areas where respect is what can't be bought off with.

I know smile.gif It´s just very difficult for me to understand why it would break any respect to anyone if a woman is having a nice and polite conversation with a man. Maybe those men think a woman can´t speak of anything but sex cuz that must be all her brain is able to think about?
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-05-22 16:50:00
Middle East and North AfricaDealing with SO's opinions about future children
QUOTE (allousa @ May 15 2008, 01:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wouldn't say that he's become more religious because he doesn't pray at all. He is definitely not a practicing Muslim which is what grates my cheese about this. I always knew that when and if we had children they would have Muslims names and would be raised not eating pork and observing Islamic holidays. Even while we were apart I would ask him what things I could do to help raise our son in an Islamic way in his absence. I played the Adan often for him (just wasn't possible everyday) and have done more in reality than my husband to promote Islamic traditions and beliefs than my husband has. He's been real apathetic about the whole thing actually. He talks all the time about how important it is for our children to be raised as Muslims, but all the while, he's not walkin' the walk....know what I mean?

Sorry to hear all this is happening to you rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif I don´t know if I can give any advice since I don´t know your husband and I´m not walking in your shoes, but I know if something like that happened to me it would be very heartbreaking, especially since he never even mentioned anything like this before you got married and you said you brought up these issues before, cuz you were afraid of something like this happening. It´s also sad that you have to consider not having anymore children cuz of this issue. There are a few ways this can go. If you decide you want more kids cuz you never wanted only one child and it turns out to be a girl, he will either gradually change his mind about this or he won´t. If he changes his mind, great. If he doesn´t, not so great. I wouldn´t let my daughter suffer from being raised in double standards. I think if nothing would improve in this field, if it was me, I´d consider a divorce and raise the children without the father. It´s sad but I think it´s better than stopping daughters from living their lives and becoming successful in their future. Or you can decide to not have anymore children which is heartbreaking for you too. So not so great either. You could consider adopting another boy though. I wish you all the luck in the world and hopefully this will all work out well in the end(F)
Also I just wanted to add. It´s nice to raise kids (both girls and boys) to respect themselves and others and save their virginity till after marriage. On the other hand, there are couples I know who have lived together for a number of years, never got married and have several children together and can´t be happier. Therefore I think it´s even more important to teach the kids about how not to use other people and how not to be used by other people and teach them about safety. Cuz if it happens that they choose to make love to someone they have loved for 2 or 3 years or whatever and they are old enough to do so, then there´s nothing wrong with that. It´s more important that they don´t catch any disease. Or get pregnant when they still have a year or two of college to finish. Things like that, you know? smile.gif
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-05-22 16:44:00
Middle East and North AfricaDealing with SO's opinions about future children
QUOTE (wahrania @ May 15 2008, 12:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
All your objectiveness will never erase the cultural reality or double standards that are held within this particular community. They highly value female virginity and integrity. Boys can do what they want and girls can't.

All this (to me at least) is so sick and twistminded sad.gif Boys can go around the neighbourhood and rape anyone they wish without ever being blamed for it or judged or accused or sent to prison sad.gif Instead, "people" grab the victim girl, throw stones at her, sentence her to death or whatever. How about beating all the sick boys to death so someone realizes they are the attackers and the bad ones? These issues seriously makes me sick. No offence to anyone but I just wouldn´t be able to love someone who is willing to beat his sister up, break her nose and leave her bleeding, blue and purple or whatever. I couldn´t even ever respect such a person. These things are so wrong sad.gif Just my opinion.
Ovaltine JenkinsNot TellingCzech Republic2008-05-22 16:20:00