ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
From what I have read here today it is nice to see so many posting after a long time hiatus or for the first time

interesting to see when somone touches a nerve

i wish i would have found this site before I got married, it sure is insightful
i hadnt a clue about a MENA man or this VISA journey

also it is reassuring to see that even those who went to school arent guaranteed a big paycheck

i never got to finish college and I feel like I am catching up at 36 years old

as far as the older woman, younger man thang...thank god for me that I looked my best 33 (after the 3 kids) when I met him and was self sufficient. I dont have any hang ups like he is younger than me or looking for someone more good looking than me. Go ahead and find yourself some good lookin, high maintenance, gold digga whose gonna foot everything and anything. I dont need a man but it is really disgraceful that so many women have been taken for the #1 evil in this world MONEY.

SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-05 16:53:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
I too want to offer prayers during your difficult time.

I cannot attest to what the others' marriages are like but it is true we have all taken a risk.
It is a sin for someone to trust in their spouse to be betrayed and taken as some women have.

The most important thing is realize the relationship for what it is and if it is not healthy
or true you need to move on.

I wish you the best of luck, every relationship needs to go thru it's trials and tribulations
we just hope we see the signs before it is too late. There is no doubt that you would feel
bitter and want to warn others, it is through others' experience those persuing this
journey would really think seriously before entering it. However the old saying, which I do
believe..."love is blind".


GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-02 11:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaNo no no no!!! He's being stationed in Gaza!!!
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what a relief for now.
I pray for his safety and also that this war there will end.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-23 14:16:00
Middle East and North AfricaNo no no no!!! He's being stationed in Gaza!!!
Olivia

How are you doing?

I heard that Israel would be exiting Gaza soon.

Is that true and what news have you heard from your husband.

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SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-19 10:02:00
Middle East and North AfricaNo no no no!!! He's being stationed in Gaza!!!
OLIVIA rose.gif

I pray for him to be safe and for you to be reunited ASAP

It is very admirable of him to volunteer although I know how upset you must be.

I pray GOD watches over him.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-15 14:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaFor the Members
pretty soon, it seems, most of us will all be average money making folks
as the tables turn with the economy those rich frivilous spending people will have to start
spending less, finding deals and finding themselves unable to keep up with their bills

as long as I stay out of the stores
and dont watch TV....I dont have to be reminded that I am not living up to par and missing out on anything

i get excited when I have an extra 40 or so bucks just to go out to dinner or see a movie blush.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-30 11:17:00
Middle East and North AfricaFor the Members
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 29 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (morocco4ever @ Jan 29 2009, 11:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Does anyone else see what I see? This is just a Troll to get us worked up. Oldest routine in the book in the MENA is to bring up the old woman/young man argument.

I think I will just sit back and laugh at this thread....we did need some excitement....and I bet I know who the troll is. devil.gif

ditto



i didnt want to say anything whistling.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-29 14:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaFor the Members
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 29 2009, 10:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>



whenever I need a laugh
charles, you are there rofl.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-29 11:03:00
Middle East and North AfricaFor the Members
1. her side

2. his side

3. THE TRUTH
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-29 09:39:00
Middle East and North AfricaFriday
QUOTE (Nawal @ Jan 30 2009, 12:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (amal @ Jan 30 2009, 10:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Jan 30 2009, 11:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ok ladies and Charles.... going to take my husband to meet my mother and sister today.....should be interesting to say the least... Harley riding tattoo ladies meeting my conservative muslim husband.. just screams of "interesting times" lol
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-30 16:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaFriday
QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Jan 30 2009, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ok ladies and Charles.... going to take my husband to meet my mother and sister today.....should be interesting to say the least... Harley riding tattoo ladies meeting my conservative muslim husband.. just screams of "interesting times" lol



good luck Rajaa....good to hear from ya

i was so nervous too when my husband met my mother and sister for the first time
but thank god all he was a hit kicking.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-30 16:22:00
Middle East and North AfricaFriday
I dunno if others found it hard to enter VJ
I dont see many of mah peeps here yet and it is lunch time

THANK GOD IT IS FRIDAY....the time just keeps moving faster and faster

not much lined up for the weekend
definitely laundry....house cleaning and sleepin in
SUPERBOWL on SUNDAY...just another day to drink and stuff my face whistling.gif

enjoy your weekend

Brni....OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
I hope he has a safe flight

Jeanne....I want to be in the sun with you.....where is it you are exactly???
That pix cracks me up laughing.gif


fireplaces are too cool good.gif
hey Amal.....i am sure you will be busy this weekend
but nothing like moving into your OWN DIGS kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

Edited by sandrila, 30 January 2009 - 11:57 AM.

SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-30 11:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday HLM!!
Many happy returns of the day HLM kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

another year and I hope it is your best yet
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-01-30 14:06:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Monday & February everyone!
I did not want to get up this morning

i am dying to take a sick day!

I think I will save it cuz I think I want to go tubing....I have never done that before.
My husband has never had any winter frolicking either.
I am going to look into it and we have to go during the week because on the weekends he works in day and the crowds are just too enormous.


Have as good of a Monday as you can.

I got married in this month of love and the year I got married I left my husband on Valentine's Day. crying.gif
Thank god we never have to leave each other again.

I pray that everyone waiting will hear news asap....I know how gut wrenching it is.
But keep patience and pray...god will give you all what you need innocent.gif

SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 10:35:00
Middle East and North AfricaSunday lazy Sunday..
QUOTE (Aymsgirl @ Feb 1 2009, 08:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Charles....Olivia...anybody...can you tell me how to make your last seen and last topics viewed private? I can't find how to do it.



I wondered the same thing Tasha.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 11:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday Tamara !!!!!!
Better late than never

Happy Birthday Tamara...did you do anything special for your birthday??
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 10:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaJust got fired from job!
QUOTE (teenutty @ Feb 2 2009, 11:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Really, I feel better since the weekend...

It was such a bad place anyway...In my 1 1/2 year there, 5 people were fired, 2 left voluntarily. That is in an office size of 8 people. So you know there is something wrong with the place. It is just that I tried so hard to make it work, even though the job was killing me...I see it as God gave me a push to do something I wanted to do, but instead listened to my husband who wanted me to keep working there. My biggest anger is not over losing the job (because in reality they did me a favor), but that for months and months I told my husband I wanted to quit the job, I had a job lined up, and he hindered all my plans to keep me working at my company. It was his lack of empathy that hurt the most.

QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Feb 2 2009, 11:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
yikes i am so sorry for this..... you know i had taken a leave of absence when i was in morocco that was approved when i came back i had no job and was filing papers for my husband when low and behold an even better job surfaced ... i am not going to lie it was scary but don't forget your prayers and God never forgets you.




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SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 15:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaJust got fired from job!
QUOTE (teenutty @ Jan 30 2009, 09:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 30 2009, 09:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
this sounds to me like a bs reason for your termination and i hope you nail their nads to the wall over it. good.gif



Yes, it is. After being "promoted" to legal assistant (after they fired the previous one) to the Chapter 7 Paralegal two months ago. A promotion I did not want to begin with. They just hired a JD to work in the Chapter 7 Department (total of 3 people then, me the legal assistant, the Chapter 7 Paralegal and then the JD).

So part of me thinks, "now they got a JD and the Chapter 7 paralegal, they don't want to spend the money on a third staff member for that department. So they are letting the person with the least experience go."

I admit that when I was thrown into that position, with no training, no program/instructions on how to handle the Department alone (the Chapter 7 Paralegal was out for surgery), the Trustee was regularly abusive towards me because I didn't know his working style. But I never worked directly with him prior to this, as I was the front desk administrative assistant.

I can only think that is the basis of the excuse, "the Trustee has a personal problem working with you."

Oh well, it just forces me to move my plans forward sooner.

This place has an extremely high turnover rate for a small office (8 people). 5 people have been fired in a the last year, 3 have left voluntarily.



I am sure it has nothing to do with you.
What you are describing makes no sense at all and certainly isnt professional of them.
How could you have expected to move up in the ranks, a different department even, and not have any training?
If you find that this company and/or Trustee were unethical in any way....reseach your rights but if you are able to swallow it and move on...it sounds like you got your life under control. Change isnt always easy but it does alot of good. I know that when I went to India it changed my life completely. I wish you all the best.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 11:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaJust got fired from job!
hugs Peanut

So sorry to hear that.
I hope you can get some sort of compensation

I will keep you in my prayers. rose.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 10:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Monday MENA (F)
only 1 1/2 more hours till i get to go home! yeah!

I think we are going downtown to see the Philadelphia Auto Show, hubby is crazy about cars.


wow.gif Rajaa back to work so soon?


SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 15:30:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Monday MENA (F)
Mornin Peeps

Today is my 2 year wedding anniversary and I am so blessed that we are able to celebrate it together.
It is hard to believe 2 years have passed but I feel like I am newly married. After living apart for so long we are still adjusting and "getting to know each other" since he has come.

Annie, I am surprised that she has the power to shop as much as you say she did. I wish I had the funds to shop like that. I need so much stuff right now. I just tried to use my digital camera and it is totally screwed up! I dont know how it happened but add that to the list of things I will need.
I just pray my income tax return is the same as always...every year that return is my green light to SHOP till I drop!

My weekend was extremely busy. Drama with my 12 year old daugther. It just isnt easy discipling kids these days unsure.gif People are right when they say "the older they get, the bigger the problems"
pray I can keep my sanity wacko.gif

The weather was sooooooooo beautiful on Sunday here, you didnt need gloves or a jacket even.
Spent some fun time with my daughter and walked around downtown Philly.
We went to the airport and got to watch the airplanes fly really low over our car, which was so cool.

It felt great to get some fresh air!!!!!!!!
Today is also a very mild day but I hear nasty weather is coming tonight or tomorrow.

Olivia....i admire you for all the hard work you are doing with your studies....good luck good.gif
Tasha...Malek has gotten so BIG!!!!!!!!!! Love that mohawk!
Ronell....you lucky dog! I am sure you are busy attending to your checklist. I am so excited for you! luv.gif

The game was great last night, did anyone else watch it?? I am not a football fan but I think I am starting to like it.
Before I couldnt even stand it. Definitely one of the best Superbowl games in history.

WAY TO GO PITTSBURGH
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 10:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaPictures from Iraq!!
It is a priviledge to get a glimpse of the other side of the world and how others live.

Thanks! good.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 16:02:00
Middle East and North Africahi
welcome it is good you are here and not painfully waiting to get here
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 16:28:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Tuesday!!!
sorry to hear about your friend Staashi rose.gif

when I hear things like that it just reminds me to be thankful for every painfree healthy day I have in life.
Also to be thankful for the things I have, not what I dont have

I will keep her and her family in my prayers.

You are such a good friend luv.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 10:38:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Tuesday!!!
Good Morning !

Just another day at the office and man am I tired!
I need to have X amount of sleep to feel rejuveniated. I dunno how some people can function on less than 6 hours.
Been there, done that...sometimes 2 hours sometimes no sleep at all. Those days are gone. Unless of course another baby creeps into the picture. I am not ready for that yet. I dont know if I will be. As cute as they are it is alot of work and I have done that 3x already. My youngest is 9. It has been a long time since changing diapers, sleepless nights and packing up everything but the kitchen sink.

Tasha...Kelly....CONGRATULATIONS....dont knock the small amount of pounds, actually that is quite BIG and not easy....I havent done one iota....keep up the good work...YOU CAN DO IT!!! good.gif

I am looking forward to hearing about some new arrivals this year tho....staashi....badr's love, charles and nessa....missing anyone???

anyway we got a tiny snow cover and little spritz of rain...nothing much...just wet and slippery out

last night for our anniversary I gave my husband a little 101 in public transit down to the city for his work and then we went to the auto show.....I hate having to see things I cant have....ah well maybe some day whistling.gif

it is ok to dream yes.gif

have a good day
i really hope we dont get 6 more weeks of winter unsure.gif

Edited by sandrila, 03 February 2009 - 09:19 AM.

SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 09:18:00
Middle East and North AfricaArab Valentines Day Party
Man that sounds like so much fun!

I wish I could find something like that around here for us.

I dont even know if there is an Arabic community around here. We have some "MiddleEastern" restaurants and
2 Moroccan restaurants called Casablanca and Marrakech. Both excellent real Moroccan food and ambviance.

I will have to see if they have any events coming up.


SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 09:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Hump Day!!!
hey!

well winter is finally here. I was so happy to go out at like 10 pm and see the snow had laid
and it was so white and pretty. It was the most snow I think we had in 2 years. About 6-7 inches.
And it really didnt feel that cold out.

I had to drive to pick up my hubby at 11 30 and it was the worst driving ever.
Snow doesnt scare me but I had to drive 30 mins away on 2 major roads...95 being one of them
and after 3 hours of snowfall nothing had been plowed. I drove 20 mph the whole way...it took me a little
over an hour to reach him.

So needless to say I am exhausted this morning. I didnt get home till 1am. Usually have my tea but today I'll take the coffee.

Have a good day MENA...I swear Fridays cant come fast enough whistling.gif

Jax....good to see ya lady biggrin.gif
positive vibes going a long way from here to Hatem

Edited by sandrila, 04 February 2009 - 09:34 AM.

SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 09:33:00
Middle East and North AfricaA 10-Year-Old Divorcée Takes Paris
It is amazing how smart this small child is.

I just about cried reading that, it is just something I cannot fathom.

Animals! And thank GOD for the Judge who helped her.

Truly disturbing but thanks for sharing.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 11:27:00
Middle East and North Africaamal needs her mena support
hope things are starting to improve

take care
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 16:42:00
Middle East and North Africaamal needs her mena support
O M G AMAL! unsure.gif

This just hasnt been your week. I dont know what to say whistling.gif

I hope things start looking up but in the meantime for your hands...try strong ibuprofen and some triple antibiotic cream to slather on them.

whew....it is enough to make any crack...and snap...

HANG IN THERE GIRLFRIEND! rose.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 15:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaThursday
rose.gif annie, your dad
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-05 12:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaThursday
Hey guys.

My night was bad and the day isnt going to be much better.

I hope you all have a good day.

Can I ask any tax experts out there, what would happen if the IRS found out that someone wasnt paying any taxes for all their working career, yet they had an accountant who was flipping numbers around and making it look like something was on the books just so that they could get a refund? mad.gif

Honestly this is not me but it relates to my situation and I want to know if people can anonymously report people if they know that?
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-05 09:29:00
Middle East and North AfricaGood Morning
OH TASHA!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

I hope you find some time for you and do something for yourself that is long overdue


Melinda.....good to see you smile.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 09:36:00
Middle East and North Africafaithful advice needed
QUOTE (TamaraLovesAdam @ Feb 5 2009, 09:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In all seriousness, exes and sometimes guy friends get a little nuts or overly protective when they find out US women are with a MENA man. If an ex was involved, maybe hes really the physco and wants to try to butt into things and make it seem as though it may not be. Dont just think about this one sided. You have no idea how exes can really be.
If you were the right kind of husband to your wife, then you would never hurt her in any way. Verbally, physically or emotionally. 2nd you would want to be her protector if she did have a physco ex, dont be the kind of jealous man as in OH MY GOSH they might get back together, but the loving protector as in Im here for my wife no matter how nuts the ex may be. Some exes really do hate to know the US wife is with a MENA man. Thats just how it is. Some exes no matter who the US wife is with will try to make a living hell for the lady. Think about all of that and check your own actions as a husband too.



very good Tamara good.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-06 09:46:00
Middle East and North Africafaithful advice needed
It is hard to remedy a situation when trust is lost.

When you are married it is not right nor easy to just throw in the towel.
People get angry, say things they dont mean, threaten.

Certainly we can understand your anger but we are only hearing one side of the story.

You talk about not being a man if you didnt want to "get revenge on her and that dog"
what kind of Man takes pleasure in disrespecting his wife? Getting revenge can only land YOU in trouble.

Hearing one side of the story doesnt allow us to really know what is going on.
Could be that it is a misunderstanding and it is really she that is being mistreated.

I pray that you both may find peace and happiness. rose.gif
After all isnt that why we get married in the first place?
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-06 09:18:00
Middle East and North AfricaTasha's Birthday!!
Happy Birthday Tasha

I hope you are able to spend it doing something you really want to do.

May this year be better than ever! rose.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-05 12:38:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Sandbox Party !!! (Tues. 02-03)
I think that is 8 pm for me....omg I would love to come but my computer is officially dead at home and no other way to get online. I cant believe it! So sorry gals, I am curious too and would love to get to know you all better.
Have fun anyway..maybe next time sad.gif

QUOTE (Aymsgirl @ Feb 3 2009, 09:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (ZaidsMommy @ Feb 3 2009, 07:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
java doesnt work on my laptop either. we should make a yahoo chatroom or something



That's a good idea....I hate to admit it but I've never been in a chatroom before at all..yahoo, here anywhere...wouldn't know what to do!



ME NEITHER!
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-03 16:27:00
Middle East and North Africaany suggestions pls
I hope all goes well with your changes.

My advice only is to give them exactly what they need and keep following up on it.
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-04 09:38:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday Henna!
Happy Birthday Henna!

May you find peace happiness good health and prosperity in this next year of your life rose.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-06 15:08:00
Middle East and North AfricaStopped cooking for my husband!
you know I knew that things would be different for me marrying my man.
I tried to think that my life would be the same or that we would be equal but we are not.
We fuss and fight about certain issues because now, that we actually live together, we see the exact expectations
and personality of the other under REAL terms.

I dont mind doing wifely "duties" I had to do wifely duties anyway, I have children and I am not a lazy slob.
I enjoy cooking, I want to have a clean house BUT I was thinking there would be some degree of HELP.

I dont think it is a MENA characteristic. Plenty of men around the world are big babies, who could never accomplish what we women do in one day. But I did notice how the men there would literally not do anything in the home.
I mean sit there and WATCH their poor old mothers slaving over everything.

I mean I work too. It is just that us women here can call our own shots. We are used to doing what we want, when we want and total EQUALITY for everything. My husband just feels certain things are my duty. I dont mind catering to my man but if you are a man then certainly you have 2 hands and 2 legs to do anything that I can do, why is that you work more? or you are more tired?? The work and exhaustion are the same only I have to feel that I have to keep going and going and going........and not really feeling that what you do is acknowledged or appreciated.

I guess I would have nothing to say if all my needs were being met and cooperation was apparent without having to say a word. whistling.gif
SandrilaFemaleMorocco2009-02-02 11:23:00