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PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
Can somebody explain how this CFO thing is done? Coz I am very confused now. Like you have to attend a guidance and counseling first before registration? What's that?
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-03 17:27:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I read something about attending the PDOS.. like.. you have to pass certain interview as well in the seminar before they can issue you a certificate and sticker? Wow, i thought i'm over those interviews already? sigh...
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-03 17:13:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,

Congratz on receiving your visa so quickly! :thumbs:

You can attend the CFO Seminar at PRISM on Taft Avenue in Manila or at St. Mary's in Quezon City.


Meaning.. Either of the two? Coz I am near St. Mary's I guess.
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-03 17:03:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
Thank you.. I have to know what's the thing I have to attend before I go?
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-03 16:19:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
GUYS I DONT KNOW WHAT'S THE NEXT STEP.... AFTER GETTING MY VISA?
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-03 16:01:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I DIDN'T EXPECT THIS FAST.

TO ALL MY VJ PEEPS WHO GAVE ME ENOUGH COURAGE FOR BEING PUT IN THE ADMIN REV.. THANK U SO MUCH!!!!!

MY VISA ARRIVED THIS MORNING!!! I WAITED FOR 3 WEEKS..

THANK YOU ALMIGHTY GOD!!!
brijFemalePhilippines2010-01-02 01:46:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (lery @ Dec 23 2009, 10:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i think we both fell on the same consul for the interview.. i agree, he is very sensitive on what he wants to hear from u.. what particular question did he ask u? think it through.. u may have missed something or may have delivered the answer wrong.. just don't lose hope.. there are cases like that.. sometimes they even ask the applicant to go back in a week or so for them to have enough time for further checking.. God is in control.. NOTHIN'S IMPOSSIBLE FOR HIM WHO BELIEVES.. Il include u in my prayers.. Let HIS will be done smile.gif


Thanks Lery!

Why do you think we fell for the same consul?

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-23 21:29:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
Thanks again!
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-23 16:46:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
and to those who were in AR as well.. please tell me more about it and share your experiences.
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 22:14:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
waiting sucks!~
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 20:16:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (Jasman0717 @ Dec 22 2009, 06:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am too lazy to read all the posts, did the embassy keep your passport?


YES

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 18:34:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
My fiance and I.. hoping we'll be together already...

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brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 18:08:00
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brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 17:28:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
All im praying is for the CO or the review officer to approve the visa. My only wish for now is for me to be with my fiance.. Include me in your prayers as well my VJ peeps.

Thanks!
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 17:12:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
Hope this whole AR thing will not take 65 years~
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 17:08:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (john & jean @ Dec 21 2009, 08:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
it is important to show ongoing interest, call them daily!!!


ACtually im doing it. I hope they're not pissed at me. But I guess I have to. Thanks for the support.

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-22 16:59:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (joe_guillen @ Dec 21 2009, 07:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hey brij,
We were in AR for what they called "questions about bonafide relationship" we met not long after my other relationship ended, it sounds as though you are in AR for the same reason, but different circumstances. But there is a lot of reasons it can be put into AR. The following came from an attorneys web site, it sort of makes some sense of AR.

II. ADMINISTRATIVE REVIEW
"Administrative Review" refers to a Consular Official placing the case "on hold" because the Visa Petitioner or Beneficiary FAILED TO PASS the security name check or background check, or because the Consulate or State Department or Homeland Security NEEDS TO INVESTIGATE some issue or matter in the case more closely. Cases placed into Administrative Review can ADD WEEKS OR EVEN MONTHS to processing time and final decision on visa issuance, typically in most cases AT LEAST 4 to 8 weeks additional time. Under current regulation, there is no right of appeal within State Department or Homeland Security for administrative review status. It is suggested that visa petitioners and beneficiaries keep track of the status of their case as best as possible, and secure, if possible, the reason or reasons their case has been placed into administrative review, which at least helps to relieve some anxiety during the waiting time.
**STATUS CHECK OF CASES IN ADMINISTRATIVE REVIEW: Status Checks of cases in administrative review should first be addressed to the Consulate in question. Click Here for List of Consulates. The State Department's Office of Visa Services can also assist in status checking of cases which are unusually delayed. Tel: 202-663-1225 (Punch 1, Then 0, Avg. Wait Time Approx. 15 minutes to Speak with a Live "Visa Specialist", ET 8:30 AM to 5:00PM). E-Mail: usvisa@state.gov Click Here for More Information. For people who want to be active during the painful waiting period, especially if it becomes protracted, here are two suggestions: 1. Request in Writing Information from Immigration Service and the State Department under the Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) regarding the reason for the Administrative Delay. See: USCIS Freedom of Information Act Request. and State Department Freedom of Information Request. 2. Order the Visa Applicant's FBI record directly from the FBI and have it ready in case the Embassy requests same. See: FBI Criminal History Record.

Your fiance can also call the Department of State, but also call the Embassy (011-632) 301-2000 ext. 5184 or 5185 I had the most success calling 5185 ext. the lady on the other end is Denise, she really doesnt have a lot of information, but it is logged that you called concerning your case. I called once a week till she finally gave me an exact date then after that date past I called once every 2 weeks

The following is also the fax#s to:

CO - 011-632-301-2591
Fraud Unit - 011-632-301-2005

I would give them at least a month before the faxes, but I would start calling now. I hope this is helpfull......DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!


THANK U SO MUCH JOE! My fiance and I are both stressed and sometimes.. it's hard for us to laugh around ... and this is killing me... and sometimes i wanna give up already...

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-21 18:23:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (Tito Jorge @ Dec 21 2009, 04:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is my thought too ...

It seems that she is leaving a large part of the story out ...

What was it that she is being accused of not being truthful about ???

It seems to me ... there is nothing wrong with her documents or none missing ... the interviewer suspects something ... the fact he called her a liar says he believes something is suspect and I would imagine the "review" is to investigate his suspeicion further ...

If the original poster can please provide more information about why you were called a liar ... maybe things will make more sense to the readers here and better advice can be given ...

-- George


Uhmm..sir .. i posted everything there already and the interview itself.. so pleas check it .. thanks

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-21 18:04:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (yogib37 @ Dec 21 2009, 03:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Steve

your making her out that is is at fault. Sounds like this guy is a bitter old man. I think she did find and I do not think in any other way. Even she did some things differnt I think it would be the same result. I think he is a bitter person and very rude and has very bad costomer skills. I can tell the way she describe him he was sour face right from the begining.

Take care


Thank you so much for the support! Actually you're right. He was too cold and rude since the very start!
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-21 16:48:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I am very happy for those who passed and received their visas. Yet Im so sad about my situation. I still wonder if someday I can read my own testimonial here saying.. " WOW I GOT MY VISA ALREADY! " cry.gif cry.gif
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-21 00:41:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
ahh ok.. My vj peeps.. do you have any ideas about how they do this AR?
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-21 00:15:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I wonder for the others who experienced being in an AR if they were told to submit some docs? And I read something about verification of documents. So by the time we submitted our docs it means to say that they havent scrutinized it yet?
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-20 23:48:00
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QUOTE (brij @ Dec 20 2009, 04:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks my friend. Your case took 3 months in AR, that was long.. I wish mine wouldn't take that long or even longer... crying.gif


So joe.. what was the reason why your case was put into AR? Did they ask for any documents?
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-20 23:43:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (joe_guillen @ Dec 19 2009, 10:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dont worry for now we had our interview 9/25/09 and was put on AR, and was approved 12/21/09. I think it is to soon to contact senators, but I will give you the fax #s for the fraud unit. I faxed everyday after the month the USEM told us to wait. AR happens everyday, I know it is easy for me or anyone else to say "dont worry" We too felt the sameway when it happen to us....but it is not as bad as it is.....


Thanks my friend. Your case took 3 months in AR, that was long.. I wish mine wouldn't take that long or even longer... crying.gif

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-20 16:43:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
To those who experienced same thing.. pls tell me more about it.

Thanks
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 08:18:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I think your case will be okay...they took your passport and its a good thing =) Divert your attention to other things..focus on your relationship.. continue to do the things that both of you do before - have a date, an online date. =) My fiance and I watch the same movie together while on the phone (with the popcorn, fries etc,and lights off =)..just to feel the movie theathre atmosphere) We eat together while on skype. Mushy =) but these things makes the waiting time bearable. Have more fun with your fiance, and soon the visa will be on your hand =)
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I hope so. Well, as of now.. me and my fiance both are stressed. We couldnt even tell jokes for now. And we both barely smile on cam. But he is more optimistic than me. And telling me that we'll get over this. In fact, his giving me enough courage. But my heart as of the moment is in pain. YEAH<ONLY PRAYERS AND MIRACLES CAN SAVE US.

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 06:06:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
well... i hope i can sway my mind into a more positive outlook.. but right now.. geez so hard.... even my fiance got severe headache after hearing these things.. more work for him too. I hope it'll be worth the wait as others said earlier.. but what if you wait for long then.. at the end.. denied.. whoa.. then you appeal.. meaning lots and lots of work .. time ..effort and MONEY. crying.gif crying.gif
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 05:00:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (TripleG @ Dec 18 2009, 04:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
After reading your account of the interview, it seems like your mom's status really raised the red flag to him. I think he acted very disrespectful and could have handled it alot different. I guess that was his technique, but it sure seems hateful. I met my wife while working in the RP, so I wasn't familiar with the dating sites. After reading your story, I went to filipinaheart to check it out, and you can tell just by the front page without signing up its a dating site. Surely he has interviewed other filipina's that met there fiances from this site and is aware of it. So basically he just used that as a scare tactic. Like others said, your just in review so hang in there. I wouldn't be suprised if you have your visa within a month.

P.S. Good job not crying. Way to stand firm, that took guts.

Wyatt



Thanks for the support Wyatt.

And yes I guess that CO didn't just want me in anyway to talk more. Maybe .. he tried his best to intimidate me.. but you know I almost did cry. But my daughter was there and I didn'l like her to have this impression that her mom is being harassed by an american. And my daughter might be scared of him as well. Actually, my daughter did understand that this guy hates her mom. She even told me this morning.. "mom, that guy is a monkey. why did he talk toyou that way? Do you know him mom? Im scared of him."

See, it's not only me who was traumatized ...
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 04:42:00
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QUOTE (chinese_mutt @ Dec 18 2009, 12:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brij @ Dec 18 2009, 12:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.
CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.
CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..
CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....
ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?
ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?
ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?
ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?
ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there
ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.
ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...
CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.
CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.
ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?
ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?
CO: yes..
ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.
ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.
CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.


>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?
ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)
But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?
ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?
ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.
CO: Are u sure?
ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)
ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.
--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....



Here's how it looked to me (MY own opinion only).

1. The CO knows you have relative in US, your mother went there as a tourist/worker whichever it is and got married.. probably adjusted status there. It would look to a regular CO that you are doing the same to escape your life here. Hence, he might think that your relatives 'arranged' this meeting for you to meet this 'cano' so you can be reunited with them.

2. The CO was probably testing you about the website. You should've been wiser and brought a printed copy of both your profile in the said website. Or an early communication of both of you where it can be established that you two met totally on your own ways.

3. You are not denied. Like the person said, PRAY that nothing comes up negative. If what you tell us true (you are not married, this was not arranged by your relative, your relationship is real) then sooner or later they will issue the visa. Be prepared to wait at least a month. Continuously have contact with the embassy or USCIS.

Good luck to you. You are in AR, some embassy would even take 6 months... as far as I know the one in the Phil. works pretty good.


by the way.. my fiance is not "kano" he's a pinoy too... smile.gif

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 02:53:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I called the Embassy a while ago and said.. that they dont need docs for now and it'll be in review. Then give them one month at least and wait for a letter ...

sigh...

gosh 1 month is already long .. how much more if it'll take 3-6 months

i dont know until when i can hang on


gosh...
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-18 02:32:00
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QUOTE (chinese_mutt @ Dec 18 2009, 12:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brij @ Dec 18 2009, 12:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.
CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.
CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..
CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....
ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?
ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?
ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?
ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?
ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there
ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.
ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...
CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.
CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.
ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?
ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?
CO: yes..
ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.
ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.
CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.


>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?
ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)
But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?
ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?
ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.
CO: Are u sure?
ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)
ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.
--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....



Here's how it looked to me (MY own opinion only).

1. The CO knows you have relative in US, your mother went there as a tourist/worker whichever it is and got married.. probably adjusted status there. It would look to a regular CO that you are doing the same to escape your life here. Hence, he might think that your relatives 'arranged' this meeting for you to meet this 'cano' so you can be reunited with them.

2. The CO was probably testing you about the website. You should've been wiser and brought a printed copy of both your profile in the said website. Or an early communication of both of you where it can be established that you two met totally on your own ways.

3. You are not denied. Like the person said, PRAY that nothing comes up negative. If what you tell us true (you are not married, this was not arranged by your relative, your relationship is real) then sooner or later they will issue the visa. Be prepared to wait at least a month. Continuously have contact with the embassy or USCIS.

Good luck to you. You are in AR, some embassy would even take 6 months... as far as I know the one in the Phil. works pretty good.



yeah you're right. I should've printed the copy where we met.. but too late.. our accounts there were deactivated already.. and im sure we both deleted things there since we met.. and esp when we're bf's g'fs already.. our rule is.. deactivate our account there and never go back there. since we found each other already.
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 23:19:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (mariposang_gala @ Dec 17 2009, 11:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Hopp @ Dec 17 2009, 11:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brij @ Dec 17 2009, 07:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..



You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.




Hopp,she said he's assistant manager of BOA...

Dont know what BOA means though... blush.gif


>> Bank of America


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QUOTE (brij @ Dec 17 2009, 07:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..



You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.



His job is stable as an assistant branch manager of bank of america ...
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 22:51:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 22:41:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.
CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.
CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..
CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....
ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?
ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?
ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?
ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?
ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there
ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.
ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...
CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.
CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.
ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?
ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?
CO: yes..
ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.
ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.
CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.


>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?
ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)
But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?
ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?
ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.
CO: Are u sure?
ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)
ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.
--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Edited by brij, 17 December 2009 - 10:14 PM.

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 22:12:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
GUYS, I DONT KNOW WHAT A SENATOR IS? CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME THIS? SO I CAN TELL MY FIANCE ABOUT CALLING THE SENATOR.
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 21:33:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (davra @ Dec 17 2009, 07:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know how you feel,just keep on praying and hope it wont take so long!!!i was in the same situation before..



So what's your experience about this?
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 21:29:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (Nelly228 @ Dec 17 2009, 12:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brij @ Dec 17 2009, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Dec 17 2009, 10:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As a few others have asked? Did they keep your Passport? If they did, then you need to give them what they want. The white slip should say what is needed....


As I stated earlier.. they didnt put anything. The white paper.. which is a size of the whole bond paper...

they just check

_ WAIT UNTIL YOU HEAR FROM US....

no check at all above.. they didnt put check what doc/docs.. as in nothing... that's why im confused now.. and left super clueless


hi, i had a white paper before too..no check in any box with "wait until you hear from us" and i was approved. they just need to check your documents.. that is what my CO said to me after my intertview. dont worry..you will be approve..enjoy christmas with your family while you are there. Good luck. smile.gif


Really Nelly? I hope you can share with me your experience with this. How long did you wait for their letter?
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 21:05:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (evemonte @ Dec 17 2009, 11:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brij @ Dec 17 2009, 08:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just had my interview this morning for K1 visa. My most awaited one. I had mine at 8:00 Am at window 29. The guy was a good looking one, but behind that gorgeous face was a horrible character. I know that their job is to scrutinize people, but wasn't expecting him to call me a liar where in fact I said all truth and nothing but the truth. I just don't understand what went wrong. Docs were all good and complete.. Questions were answered honestly. What more should I say? And when my name was called at the counter 37, the pinoy guy told me my case is for further review. They didnt say if i am denied or approve. Im so nervous that I wanna die now. Like my whole world and dream to be with my fiance all vanished. But my loved ones said, you said all truth and we don't know yet what will be their decision about it. But I don't want to hold on anymore. My dreams were all shattered and felt so humiliated.
I just want to know if this case really happens? I am now praying hard..really hard.. that somehow God will listen to me and hoping it'll be approved. Or will I ever have another interview? I don't like another humiliation from a consul.

Is there anybody here who has the same case? Or experienced same thing? Why do they need further review? Where all i said were true and honest. crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif crying.gif



hello! so sorry you had a bad experience. as details of your posting is slightly sketchy, maybe you can narrate to us exactly what happened so we can give you more advice (helps to get it out of your system). why did the interview become awful?


Hi! I guess i didpost the whole interview already.. uhmmm.. let me know if you've seen it yet

brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 21:02:00
PhilippinesI HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,
QUOTE (DARUMA07 @ Dec 17 2009, 10:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As a few others have asked? Did they keep your Passport? If they did, then you need to give them what they want. The white slip should say what is needed....


As I stated earlier.. they didnt put anything. The white paper.. which is a size of the whole bond paper...

they just check

_ WAIT UNTIL YOU HEAR FROM US....

no check at all above.. they didnt put check what doc/docs.. as in nothing... that's why im confused now.. and left super clueless
brijFemalePhilippines2009-12-17 10:10:00
PhilippinesXOOM.COM
QUOTE (shanleybelle07 @ May 26 2008, 02:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Happy Memorial Day America!!!

hi Folks...am back! i will just want to share what i have experience lately with XOOM.COM...i sent money last week and when the reciever went there to pick up after 48 hours,the teller in Cebuana Lhuillier said that its on hold and need my permission b4 they can release the money...i was confused that time and i was thinking maybe it was not yet updated from my bank account and so my reciever went back again today,Monday.but then...they teller said that it was already bill out..so he asked when and then they give him the date and time but then it was the same date and time that he was there and told him that the money was on hold...so i called the customer service today and asked whats going on,they promise me to trace it and i will call them again later...i am freaking mad with this service right now...i am using xoom for couple times already and now i encountered this stupid thing...for sure i am not going to use this service again...never.
now i am hanging on here waiting for their answer...
is there anyone here who encountered the same thing like mine?


hi were using xoom too here in davao and I get it from cebuanna so far did not encounter this kind of problem. theres only one time that they were unable to release the money and i need to call my fiancee in usa for verification something.... I asked why but the incharge cannot give out an answer. I called him (lol that was 3 am his time and bugging him hehehe sorry hon. well he understand) coz I was panicked already it may went somewhere. while honey was checking whats the problem. I went to banco de oro. right there and then they told me its offline thank god.. at least its only offline. uhmmm ure case may serve my lesson will i never go to cebuana or trust them with the money?
dannyannemjFemalePhilippines2008-05-29 20:15:00