ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Middle East and North AfricaForgot marriage cert, in packet 3
Granted, our experience is now nearly 4 years old, but at the time, the embassy *thought* we forgot to include something, so they sent the packet back to us and asked us to send it back with all the information. That was only a few days after sent it.

I wouldn't send something in seperately, because I honestly wouldn't trust them to put it with your file.

But then, our experience with the embassy staff showed they were completely and totally incompitant, so I'm a bit biased. In addition to returning our packet 3, asking us for a document that was clearly *in* the documents they returned to us, thus causing a delay and costing us more LELELE, when AbuS had his interview, the initial interviewer couldn't find his folder and claimed his interview wasn't that day. Then after he found it, he went through the packet 3 and started throwing things in the garbage! Then, another person came to interview him and asked where forms x y and z were. AbuS tried to tell him they were in the garbage, but they made him fill them out again headbonk.gif

Edited by UmmSqueakster, 04 August 2009 - 11:18 AM.

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-04 11:18:00
Middle East and North AfricaPlease give a warm welcome to:
run away, run away!

er, um, ehm, weclome whistling.gif
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-04 11:19:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt is so painful
wa alaikum assalam,

Unfortunately, AP is a reality for MENA men. Although it may seem like forever now, inshaAllah in a few months you two will be together for the rest of your lives. What is a few months apart when you have decades (inshaAllah) together? Try to take the long view, and do your best to support your wife in that.

This is qadr Allah, and it gives her more time to prepare stuff for you and make things easier for you when you arrive. Keep yourself busy - read up on cover letters, fix your resume, practice interviewing, and do everything you can to get yourself ready for your transition to the US. It's going to be another huge shock to your system and to your marriage, so the more you are ready now, the easier it will be in the future.

Find something else to talk about other than the process. AbuS and I were apart for 3 years before he moved to the US, so we had a lot of practice being apart wink.gif Talk politics, religion, the weather, make plans for your future, imagine the different places you'll visit together, what you're going to name you kids. Play yahoo games. I can't count the number of pool games we played. Imagine what kind of house you'll buy in the future, and how you'll decorate it. Pick a book and read it together online. Play music for each other over microphones. Write love poetry to each other. Write actual letters and send them in the mail to one another. The sky's the limit!
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-07-28 15:04:00
Middle East and North Africathis is the end...
Sorry for giving ya'll a scare blush.gif I know it's not the happiest song, but for some reason it's what was running through my mind.

AbuS is celebrating his citizenship by defending the US to assorted arabs in random chat rooms. It's rather cute. I think Obama should hire him to do outreach and bridge building. He doesn't think the US is all peaches and cream, but he knows it's not as evil as many MENA peeps seem to think.

Just logging in to let everyone know I've moved by blog. It says it on my old one, but I thought I'd post here too, just to be on the safe side

http://umms.wordpress.com/

Edited by UmmSqueakster, 10 August 2009 - 11:57 AM.

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-10 11:55:00
Middle East and North Africathis is the end...
Thanks ya'll. I read AbuS the post last night and when I got to the part about leaving, he was like, but what if someone needs your help? And I was like, wait, I thought you thought I spent too much time on VJ? wacko.gif Men!

Still going to try to spend less time online inshaAllah, but I'll probably never be completely VJ free, lol.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-06 07:38:00
Middle East and North Africathis is the end...
...of our elaborate plans, the end...

Nearly 9 years ago, I was a college sophomore, attending a small liberal arts university in the middle of a corn field in Indiana. I was miserable and spent a lot of time online, chatting with people from all over the world. My ICQ friends list was long and I thought nothing of adding a young man from Egypt to the mix.

Months passed, ICQ friends came and went, but he stayed.

I transferred to the University of Wisconsin, Madison, and was much happier, but we kept talking.

In August of 2003, my Grandmother drove me to the bus stop in Madison, where I boarded a bus to O'Hare. 20 hours later, I landed in Cairo.

Hands shaking, I found my bags and looked through the crowd for a face that had become so familiar. He wasn't there. My heart sank. Then I heard a voice call, "Jen!" And there he was! He had convinced the security guard to let him stand right next to the door, away from the crowd.

Fast forward, October 2005. A flight was scheduled to arrive at Minneapolis Saint Paul International Airport at 5:00 p.m. I left work at 3:00 and was there very early. I drank way too much coffee and paced the airport hallway.

When he finally arrived, coming down the escalator, my heart leapt. He wore his gray suit and was carrying his briefcase. We embraced, and drove off into the crisp Minnesota sunset together.

Of course, there is no such thing as happily ever after in real life. Or at least I haven't found it yet. Over the years, we've had our fair share of arguments and difficulties. Moving to the US isn't easy. Leaving behind your family, your friends, your job, your culture, your life, it takes it's toll.

And here we are now, in August of 2009. 8 years and 11 and a half months from the day we met online and 6 years nearly to the day that we met in person. Today, my husband has his United States passport in his hands. At his citizenship ceremony a few weeks back, the judge who officiated their oath talked about how these new citizens need not leave their countries, cultures and religions behind them. Rather, they should bring it with them and create their own unique american experience.

I am happy to say that today, the United States has one more Muslim American in their midst (take that DS!). Alhamdulilah, Allah (swt) has granted us the blessing of living in this country together.

So now, this is the end of my visa journey my friends. With the coming of Ramadan, I am hoping to pull back from technology a bit, or at least the message board aspect of it. I haven't been sucessful doing so in the past, but in case I suceed this time around, I can still always be reached via my blog (points to link in signature).

Best of luck to those who are still in their visa journey. I hope that you continue to ride the roller coaster, have the time of your lives and end up with the one you love.

Salaam.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-05 19:16:00
Middle East and North AfricaSupporting your s/o through the big change...
QUOTE (MrsAmera @ Jul 20 2009, 08:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I understand that he's successful etc, but I honestly think he needs to be prepared to do whatever until he can get the engineering job. There are people here (I live in DC) who are doctors, lawyers, people who had successful careers at home that drive taxis, work in restaurants and do whatever they need to do to support their families until they can make the steps towards working back in their field. If he's only willing to work as an engineer and you're going to be in law school you need to be prepared for several months of limited to no income.



I think this is the sticking point that can make the adjustment very very very hard. AbuS worked some entry level jobs along the way (check cashing, which was beyond soul suck), but spent more of his time preparing himself for an accounting job here in the US and his certified internal auditor certification by studying, improving his english and doing an internship. We could afford that luxury because I was working, and I knew that he would repay me when I become a stay at home mom someday inshaAllah.

I remember hearing a piece on NPR several years ago about a doctor from africa who immigrated to the US, and the only job he could find was as a janitor at the hospital. *digs around in NPR archives*

http://www.npr.org/t...storyId=4240181
http://www.npr.org/t...storyId=5067269
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-07-20 08:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaSupporting your s/o through the big change...
Do everything you can do now to get him ready to work here. See how/where his degree can be evaluated and what you'll need for that. Anything he can do in Egypt to get credentials in the US. Prepare resumes, cover letters, practice interviewing, look for internships, etc.

And then make sure that you'll be able to survive if he doesn't work for an extended period of time. I put off law school and got my paralegal certification, so I could work and support us while AbuS got his feet on the ground here in the US. It will probably be another few years before I can go (if I decide to go), and it took 3 years for AbuS to get a comparable job to what he had in Egypt. It was an increadible soul suck for him. Just always be positive, prompt him to continue applying and massage his male ego if he starts to get down.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-07-20 07:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaRamadan 2009


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UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-08-05 07:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA FOOD
Kosher is complicated, which is why I specifically asked if the meat was slaughtered according to kosher guidelines as opposed to if rabbis declare something to be kosher.

Eating kosher meat:

QUOTE
"Kosher meat, strictly speaking, is considered halal. But this rule, it should be emphasized, does not apply indiscriminately to all kosher foods that are prepared and labeled as kosher, since it is possible they may contain wine or other ingredients that are considered haram. It is, therefore, necessary that we stringently inquire into the components of each food that is labeled as kosher; if a food is found to be free of haram ingredients, it shall be considered halal (permitted). Otherwise, it will be haram (forbidden) for us to consume."


The Qur'an tells us:
The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them.

This is where the scholars get the ruling above. If kosher meat is slaughtered according to their guidelines, it's fine. This isn't talking about the miriade of disagreements amongst jews over what else is kosher re: gelatin and everything else. Heck, Jell-o puts a little k on their products, even though the gelatin could be derived from pork. As I've learned from my husband's boss, who started being frum in recent years, it's a whole big mess. I'm speaking strictly about the slaughter of meat.


If anyone takes issue with what I have to say, I'd prefer if they talk to me me directly, rather than backbite. But then again, I can't help but thinking of something Hasan al Basri (ra) wrote:

"I learned that you sent me some of your good rewards to me as a gift by backbiting me. I cannot repay you in the same way; however, please accept this gift in return of your kindness towards me."

Where should I send the present?










On a somewhat related note, my university opened a joint kosher/halal kitchen after I graduated. Definately a positive step in jewish-muslim relations on campus.

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-23 19:55:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA FOOD
QUOTE (HannahP @ Jan 22 2009, 07:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (MrsAmera @ Jan 22 2009, 03:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If it's kosher gelatin it's fine.


Kosher gelatin can be made from the skin/hooves of cows, as well as from fish bones. It's not Halal if it's not slaughtered properly, is it?


Do the skin/hooves come from cows that are slaughtered in the kosher manner? Muslims can eat meat that is slaughtered according to kosher guidelines.

I know there are different opinions within the kosher certifying community as to what is considered kosher re: gelatin. I think it's probably best to email the companies and ask about the source of the ingredients of the gelatin.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-23 11:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA FOOD
When I used to eat non zabiha, I was uber excited to find Jennie O turkey sausage and turkey brats. Alas, they have pork casings. It should say right on the ingredients, but if you get them from a butcher, then it's best to ask.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-22 12:53:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA FOOD
QUOTE (Pattu Rani @ Jan 22 2009, 06:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is a very useful list:

http://www.vegfamily...ingredients.htm


Vegetarians have great lists good.gif We've become quite a bit more hardcore in the last year re: zabiha only meat. This greatly limits what we can eat from the supermarket. Thank God for the vegetarian cheese list.

Basically, at this point I've become tired of reading labels, so I make just about everything myself. Homemade desserts (with alcohol free vanilla flavoring), pizza, meatloaf, fried chicken, I've made just about everything. Ice cream is a project I'm eager to try, although I want to invest in a good ice cream maker, so I'm saving my pennies (very few ice creams are made without vanilla extract).

By coincidence, I picked up In Defense of Food and an Omnivore's Dilemma by Michael Pollan a year ago, and it's helped a lot in my shopping and cooking. He explores the food industry, and lays out some rules to shop and eat by:

1. Don’t eat anything your grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food (or someone's grandmother somewhere in the world).
2. Avoid foods containing ingredients you can’t pronounce.
3. Don’t eat anything that wouldn’t eventually rot.
4. Avoid food products that carry health claims.
5. Shop the peripheries of the supermarket; stay out of the middle.
6. Better yet, buy food somewhere else: the farmer’s market or CSA.
7. Pay more, eat less.
8. Eat a wide diversity of species.
9. Eat food from animals that eat grass.
10. Cook and, if you can, grow some of your own food.
11. Eat meals and eat them only at tables.
12. Eat deliberately, with other people whenever possible, and always with pleasure.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-22 09:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaFamily is telling hubby to shave
How many hijackers have ever had a sunnah beard? None that I can think of. But still, people can be freaked out by obviously muslim looking people.

My husband was clean shaven, wore a suit and carried a briefcase when he flew. He did spend most of the flight reading the Qur'an, but he had no hassles anywhere. He attributes that to his business attire.

What Tasha mentioned is a good point - don't alter too far from the visa picture.

On the beard front, the husbnad just now starting to grow a goatee after more than 3 years in the US. inshaAllah the goal is to work his way up to a sunnah beard, but he doesn't want to freak anyone out, so he's doing in gradually.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-20 10:01:00
Middle East and North AfricaTuesday
I've heard from bosco and WOM on occasion. Both are doing well star_smile.gif


Ok, now my moaning and groaning:

Some @#$!@# left their window open for weeks on end (when we've been uber sub zero), causing the pipe in the heating system to burst. So we had no heat when I came home. They "fixed" it, but it was 60 degrees when I woke up this morning. blink.gif We normally keep it at 74, so it was waaay nippy.

Also, the husband got 2 tickets to see Faust at the Minnesota Opera tonight...but...he can't go, and I can't find anyone to go with me crying.gif
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-27 16:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaWHAT 5 ADJECTIVES BEST DESCRIBE YOUR MENA MAN? (and yourself)
Devout, dedicated, determined, frugal, and stubborn.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-27 16:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaRick Steves' Iran
QUOTE (beejay @ Jan 28 2009, 01:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I caught this on PBS last night and was impressed. I thought Rick Steves only took his fanny pack to Europe.


yes.gif I remember an interview once with him on NPR, and he was giving advice to travel guide aspirants to specialize, like he specializes in Europe. I found it a very refreshing approach to Iran, to see it in the same way one sees Europe through Rick Steves.


Anyone who's been to Iran care to comment on traveling there as an american? It's one of the places on my list of places to go, but after this show, it's definitely moved up the list. Maybe when we go on our vacation to Turkey, we could do Iran as well.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-28 14:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaRick Steves' Iran
I know Rick Steves through his tour programs around Europe, but last night, I was flipping channels and came upon Rick Steves' Iran. Excellent excellent program good.gif

QUOTE
This past spring, my TV crew and I traveled to Iran to film Rick Steves' Iran, Yesterday and Today—a one-hour travel special which will appear on public television stations across the USA in 2009.

We produced the TV show to understand and humanize Iran. I've written this to share my personal experiences, lessons learned, and opinions that were shaped by my trip. And it's your chance to wander with me behind-the-scenes in this rich, perplexing society. I hope you enjoy this journal, and the TV show.


Unfortunately, it looks like it's aired most places already, but if you can catch it, it's an hour well spent. It's on again here this Saturday, and I'm definitely recording it.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-28 13:46:00
Middle East and North AfricaNew member, Egyptians & K-3 visas
QUOTE (amysaid @ Jan 28 2009, 09:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Cheryl & Medo @ Jan 28 2009, 05:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Welcome to VJ And I have never heard of any denial from Cairo. Yes they are damn slooooooow!!!! I wouldn't worry about it I'm sure your journey will be just fine.


I am a little fuzzy about how things work with the embassy. what are they slow with? the processing? or setting an interview date super far in advance? also, is there usually more than one interview?

Thanks smile.gif

Amy


On our end, the embassy messed up after we submitted our papers - they sent them back, claiming we didn't send the husband's birth certificate. In the papers they sent back, what did we find? His BC. whistling.gif I emailed, reamed em a new one, and they scheduled us an interview ASAP. We had to wait about 6 weeks after the interview to get the visa.

It's usually not getting the interview that's a problem, it's the processing afterwards. Awhile back, people were waiting upwards of a year or more after their interview for approval. During that time period, families were investigated, neighbors were interviewed, the whole 9 yards.

I do believe we're back now into more "normal" processing times, ie a month or 2 or 3 after the interview, and you get the visa.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-29 09:51:00
Middle East and North AfricaNew member, Egyptians & K-3 visas
Have we ever had an outright denial through Cairo? Incredibly long administrative processing yes, but I can't think of any denials.

Anyone?
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-28 08:52:00
Middle East and North AfricaThursday
QUOTE (sandrila @ Jan 29 2009, 08:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
However, my car doors, every one of the 4 of them were frozen shut this morning.
Just as I was ready to go run in and get the hot water...my 16 year old son managed to pull his open.


LOL, I hate when that happens, and that's about once a week up here. Usually, one of the back doors open, so I can manage to wiggle my way into the front seat. Not so much fun when the back is loaded with bins of recycling that I was too lazy to drop off at the recycling center the previous weekend.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-29 09:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaThursday
QUOTE (Aymsgirl @ Jan 29 2009, 05:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good Morning! My car has been running since 6am and it has so much ice on it that you can't even see the windshield wipers. I have no idea when it will thaw enough for me to go to work!!!


Not that it will help today, but go to a hardware store and get an ice scraper with a metal blade, not that wussy plastic crud they sell at big box chain stores. Also get some de icing spray. I usually only bust out the de icing spray once or twice a winter, but I couldn't live without my metal bladed scraper.

You can tell I'm from the upper midwest by my car - My trunk always has 2 winter weather sleeping bags, heavy boots, extra gloves, a few blankets, a shovel, more scrapers then you can shake a stick at, jumper cables, and a ton of salt.

Edited by UmmSqueakster, 29 January 2009 - 09:09 AM.

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-29 09:07:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
The Qur'an is what it is *shrugs* Either you accept it as the revealed word of God or you don't. Islam is a hardcore monotheistic religion that's stance on polytheism isn't a secret. Meh.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-21 14:15:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
Ah yes, sheesh that darn Qur'an. rolleyes.gif
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-20 11:22:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
QUOTE (almaty @ Jan 20 2009, 09:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (UmmSqueakster @ Jan 20 2009, 09:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Ihavequestions @ Jan 20 2009, 08:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Virtual wife @ Jan 19 2009, 08:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In Islam, we are to marry chaste partners; adulterers and fornicators may not marry virgins.


In other words, there's no way to "make an honest woman out of her"?


Fornicators marry fornicators. Chaste people marry chaste people.



i assume you have research on this and not just stating your personal beliefs...


blink.gif Is the Qur'an good enough for you?

A man who is fornicator does not marry but a woman who is a fornicator or a polytheist; and a woman who is a fornicator does not marry but a man who is a fornicator or a polytheist. And this has been prohibited for the believers. (24:3)
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-20 10:49:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
QUOTE (Ihavequestions @ Jan 20 2009, 08:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Virtual wife @ Jan 19 2009, 08:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In Islam, we are to marry chaste partners; adulterers and fornicators may not marry virgins.


In other words, there's no way to "make an honest woman out of her"?


Fornicators marry fornicators. Chaste people marry chaste people.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-20 10:07:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
Perhaps someone could put together a little list "your partner might be using you for a green card if..." with a full disclaimer that every case is unique and having some of the symptoms is not necessarily a diagnosis of being-used-itis.

For the newbies, there are many here who have happy, healthy, long term relationships with MENA men. And there are those who don't. And that's that.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-06 14:23:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
Whenever I'm confronted with "Not Without My Daughter," I like to point to the FBI's Parental Kidnapping Wanted Page. Yup, there are some MENA men on there, but also Mexicans, Taiwanese, Japanese, Americans, Fillipinas, etc etc etc.

As for Islam, what is odd to the modern american is that there tend to be suggestions as to what roll each gender takes in interacting with each other. Some people adhere more strictly to the gender rolls, where as others use them more as a general suggestion.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-05 08:19:00
Middle East and North Africagreen card marriages, ladies beware
Very sorry to hear this. I hope that you and your children can recover and continue to enjoy life rose.gif
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-02 08:18:00
Middle East and North AfricaNo no no no!!! He's being stationed in Gaza!!!
inshaAllah he'll be safe. Your husband sounds like mine. Tamer has been pacing restlessly since the bombing started, wanting to do something. It's an admirable quality, but one that doesn't provide a lot of comfort for wives. I am sure that many people will be saved because of his work, and for that may he be blessed.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-14 10:22:00
Middle East and North AfricaJust got fired from job!
Very sorry to hear it.

If you're not quite ready to leave the US yet, have you considered legal temp work? I'm not sure what other areas of the law you've dealt with, but it's not all soul sucking work like bankruptcy. I was a legal temp for a few years through Robert Half International before finding my permanent position, and got health insurance with them. It wasn't the greatest, but it was still something.
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-01-31 12:22:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Monday MENA (F)
Proof that time on the internetz is not wasted:

I just used photobucket to prepare .jpg exhibits for filing with a motion. Huzzah!
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-02 17:10:00
Middle East and North Africaamal needs her mena support
(((hugz and positive vibes headed your way)))
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-03 15:02:00
Middle East and North Africafaithful advice needed
First, if you are who I think you are, then I hope you'll appreciate advice from our Lord and our Prophet (saws).

The first is about calling your wife names. In the collections of Ahmed and Tirhmidi, we find that the Prophet (saws) said:

"A muslim is not a person who slanders, curses, speaks obscene words or is abusive."

The second is to think of the story of the slander of our mother Aisha (ra). People saw her in a compromising situation, coming back with Safwan ibn Al-Muattal after she was accidentally left behind while looking for her necklace. Aisha (ra) was innocent, but that didn't stop people from slandering her and accusing her of unspeakable things. Allah (swt) addressed this situation in surah 24, verses 11 through 20. Particularly look at these:

Allah admonishes you that you should not return to the like of it ever again if you are believers. (24:17)

Surely (as for) those who love that scandal should circulate respecting those who believe, they shall have a grievous chastisement in this world and the hereafter; and Allah knows, while you do not know. (24:19)


The third is how one should conduct themselves in the case of divorce. Again, straight from Allah (swt):

A divorce is only permissible twice: after that, the parties should either hold Together on equitable terms, or separate with kindness. (2:229)


So there it is:

1. Avoid slandering and cursing.
2. Avoid suspicion and accusations.
3. And if you must divorce, do so with kindness.

Edited by UmmSqueakster, 05 February 2009 - 08:31 PM.

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-05 20:30:00
Middle East and North AfricaTasha's Birthday!!

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-05 11:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday Rajaa!
QUOTE (Rajaa_Reda @ Feb 5 2009, 10:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
...really nice sushi restaurant for my birthday lol......



Ooo, make sure you call ahead and ask if they use mirin in their rice. Some places do, some places don't.

Now I'm craving miso soup. yum yum!
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-05 11:55:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday Rajaa!
So many birthdays, must find new birthday graphics!


UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-05 11:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaCitizenship Interview
Congratulations! It's surreal nearing the end of the visa journey.


UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-03 11:01:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's Monday
You know you're a hardy midwesterner when...

...you break out your spring jacket when it hits 33 degrees. It's a balmy 34 right now kicking.gif
UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-09 09:28:00
Middle East and North AfricaHappy Birthday Jackie!!!

UmmSqueaksterFemaleEgypt2009-02-05 11:48:00