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Illinois man married to a Filipina complains of bias by neighbors

Whats a big deal of it?? is there an "expiry date" of this thread??

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-25 18:54:00

Illinois man married to a Filipina complains of bias by neighbors

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There is always discrimination wherever you go..

Yes, I agree with that statement, even in our homeland,in the Philippines.

last year when I was on vacation,,my brother and I while waiting the pictures for develop in sm mall. I saw this sign:

wanted sales lady:

must be single
atleast 5''4' tall
atleast college graduate (even if you only apply as a sales lady)

there is discrimination every where. but its a different type of discrimination but still a discrimination.

Edited by lotus101, 25 June 2009 - 12:33 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-25 12:30:00

Hitting and Swearing

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Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home.

I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me.
When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts.

She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..

Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

You are both crazy.....

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-18 19:20:00

Hitting and Swearing

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Yesterday my filipina wife started hiting me several times, once in the mouth just slightly off camera when she was chatting with her family back home. I swore and said "ah, what the f..." and then she would not stop swearing or hitting me. When we were going to bed she slapped my face so I slapped her back, not as hard and told her to stop because its not nice and hurts. She then hit me some more times and swore some more and now will not talk to me..
Is this sime weird philippine custom that I never heard about? Did I break some custom by hitting back and telling her to stop?

Sounds a troll to me.

perhaps you bothering her while she's talking to her family......but

troll, troll,troll troll, troll,troll

Edited by lotus101, 18 June 2009 - 07:12 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-18 19:09:00

Hitting and Swearing

I hate hearing swearing. most american people are doing swearing as expression when they are frustrated or annoyed.

About the hitting thing. I do slapp my hubby's butt. its just a sign of affection.

but he dislike it so, I stoped doing it.

and NO is not a cultural thing...its kinda individual behaviour.

Edited by lotus101, 18 June 2009 - 02:53 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-18 14:52:00

Michael Jackson has died at age 50.

QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jun 26 2009, 01:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (maritoni @ Jun 25 2009, 04:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (maritoni @ Jun 26 2009, 07:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

May he Rest in peace

hindi na rin am edit:P hehe

Basta marami syang napasayang tao pero andami ding nag after sa milyones nya:))

Kahit child molester siya wala ako paki basta ang galing galing niya sumayaw at kumanta.

Favorite ko na song niya Somewhere in the dark at I just can't stop loving you.

Really? you don't care if he even molesting your "own" child?

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-26 13:20:00

Michael Jackson has died at age 50.

I just watched abs cbn news. according to Charice a Filipina child singer she and Michael Jackson have schedule concert this coming month. she suppose to be a guest of Michael Jackson concert. he saw Charice in OPRAH SHOW in the television; and he wants Charice to be a quest of his coming concert. so, he requsted her. sayang hindi natin mapapanood ang concert nila. namatay bigla si Michael Jackson.

Edited by lotus101, 26 June 2009 - 09:32 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-26 09:30:00

Michael Jackson has died at age 50.

I hardly remember his songs, may be just because I am not a fan of him. isn't he the famous singer who has a strange behaviour?....and what happened to his daughters? I thought he was living in Bahrain?

well... may his soul rest in peace.

Edited by lotus101, 25 June 2009 - 07:19 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-25 19:18:00

Communication with your (long distance) partner

QUOTE (Matt & Jovy @ Jun 28 2009, 05:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jun 27 2009, 05:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

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long distance relationship is really hard and a constant communication with my fiance really helps me to survive for 6 years.

excuse me, may I ask? why in the hell it took for 6 years for you to communicate before you reunited?... plenty of time wasted.

I don't think it was really wasted. Over that time we really were able to get to know each other very well. He was finishing law school and I was (still am) finishing my masters. He also works full time and so did I, so getting travel time was hard for both of us especially since his law school would not let him miss too many classes. As soon as that was done though he came to see me and has been here many times since, so it doesn't bother me. That time really allowed us both to get our school out of the way so we could enjoy a great future together.

Oh.. and he isn't married (never been) and our ages are just ten month apart, so no worries there either.

Ok,,great that you have not the big age gap because I've seen many Filipinas married to a very old men. I understand now why it took for you for 6 years. forget my previous post, it is natural people will judge us most especially they don't know us.

so, good luck I hope he's the right guy for you, as well as you for him.

Edited by lotus101, 28 June 2009 - 07:39 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-28 07:34:00

Communication with your (long distance) partner

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For 6 years? Wow, it's been a long journey for you.

Perhaps, she's waited the guy to divorce his wife...

if I waited that long I feel like old og sa pag kaon pa "nabahaw na" og bisan pag kami ang mag kadayon..feeling gihapon nako nga I wasting my time labi kong bata pa ko og tiguwang na siya.....

ka swerte niya noh..kong maohon, ka mahal gyud niya nga tigulang. paugat man gyud, unya pagka human human ako ra say mo ilis og diapers niya. bhawawa...I hope nga ang O.P og ang iyang bf pareha ra silag edad.

Edited by lotus101, 27 June 2009 - 11:15 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-27 23:12:00

Communication with your (long distance) partner

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long distance relationship is really hard and a constant communication with my fiance really helps me to survive for 6 years.

excuse me, may I ask? why in the hell it took for 6 years for you to communicate before you reunited?... plenty of time wasted.

QUOTE

. I call him everyday to wake him up. We chat on phone while he`s driving to work.

Tell your fiance he should be careful, talking on the phone while driving is a dangerous thing to do. just be sure he is safe.

Nothing much I can share..I'm sure every one here has the same story while in LDR. waiting for the process will be done, long distance calls,chatting on the computer, missing each other terribly, etc etc etc.. nothing much going on, or nothing new.

Edited by lotus101, 27 June 2009 - 07:30 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-06-27 19:26:00

Fast Way to Send money to Fiance in Philippines?

I uses xoom.com it is faster and alot cheaper than western union

edit: so far we never experience any problem yet. uses it for 4 years now

Edited by lotus101, 06 July 2009 - 09:44 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-06 21:42:00

QUOTE

mossycouple wrote:

At least there are more posters who have good values than the negative ones.

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mossycouple wrote:
didn't name names but you "come out of your closet", thanks for doing that and I am not going to argue with narrow-minded people here. Have a good day everyone!

..And this is your example of good values you have calling PEOPLE (PLURAL) "narrow minded " because their opinions are differ from yours.

Edited by lotus101, 10 July 2009 - 02:28 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-10 14:25:00

Geeezzz... you did not get it....let me clear it for you.

"you are reading too much" I mean you did not get it and you OVER ANALIZE MY POST INTO THE WRONG WAY.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-10 13:56:00

QUOTE (Pinay Wife @ Jul 10 2009, 01:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 9 2009, 07:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Nobody telling her negatives, all gave her a good wish...negative is only you, in your mind.

The posts below have negative undertones in it:

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 9 2009, 05:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

She seems more excited to get her SNN than seeing her husband to be.

“Worried” would have been the more appropriate word to use. I am sure that like the OP, when we all decided to move to the US, we all were worried about the next steps to be taken, especially the SSN since we've heard a lot of horror stories about it.

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 9 2009, 05:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

x x x I wish you're inlove with him, I hope he is inlove with you too.

We don’t know the couple and I don’t understand why you’d say that you “wish that they are in love with each other” as if they are in some kind of questionable relationship.

To the OP, please come back to your thread. You can request a moderator to make some of the posts invisible if you find them offensive.

You are reading TOO MUCH MY POSTS. YOU SEEM LOOKING MEMBERS TO HAVE FIGHT HERE. sorry I can't give you that. I'm into peaceful

Edited by lotus101, 10 July 2009 - 01:37 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-10 13:32:00

Narrow minded are those people who can't accept different opinions from different people.and likes to dictate people what to say.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 21:13:00

QUOTE (ScottThuy @ Jul 9 2009, 10:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I am positive she needs to go to Disney! Not Negative..... No SSN needed for Disney!

I agree with that...she's going to Disney land,Animal kingdom etc etc.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 21:10:00

Nobody telling her negatives, all gave her a good wish...negative is only you, in your mind.

and oh...you can't dictate people on what to say..they will say what they suppose to say it.

Edited by lotus101, 09 July 2009 - 09:04 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 21:02:00

O.P. just be ready for your flight and for your mother-inlaw and sisters -inlaw to be. don't worry the SNN you can have it after married him. I wish you're inlove with him, I hope he is inlove with you too.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 19:51:00

She seems more excited to get her SNN than seeing her husband to be.

Edited by lotus101, 09 July 2009 - 07:45 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 19:44:00

QUOTE (mossycouple @ Jul 9 2009, 07:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 10 2009, 03:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (phopho06 @ Jul 9 2009, 07:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hello hello!!!!

i want to know what i have to do when i get to us coz i dont have any idea about this!!!!i hear about SSN?
but i dont have any idea about it!! and i will be needing lots of help coz i will be going to US by july 14.. and i hope you can give me more information in whats the first thing to do..!!!

i will be sure happy to know and to receive lots of replies for this!!!!

Don't worry about it. your husband probably know everything on how to work your papers here. you will be super busy on your first month here in US.

Wrong! Not all husband's knows what to do next or what paper works that you're gonna prepare again, one of them was mine, when I told him what I have read here in VJ he ask some more proof of sites or where did the members get the infos so i research more and sent him the USCIS site where it talks about AOS ang stuff like that. \

Enjoy first but don't forget to do what you have to do that won't jeopardize your stay here in the US. HAPPY TRIP!!!!

You're wrong... I never said ALL husbands knows about it but they should know what to do about it. :

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 18:53:00

QUOTE (phopho06 @ Jul 9 2009, 07:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hello hello!!!!

i will be sure happy to know and to receive lots of replies for this!!!!

Don't worry about it. your husband probably know everything on how to work your papers here. you will be super busy on your first month here in US.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-09 14:31:00

What's needed for interview (and to schedule the interview)?

here's their website for more info:

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-13 20:37:00

What's needed for interview (and to schedule the interview)?

I think the USEM will let you know when is your schedule for interview. you can call the USEM anytime you want to follow up your case.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-13 20:33:00

sputum test

Where are you in PI?

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-18 23:15:00

Who is more affectionate Men or Women?

Some men are very affectionate; and there are women who are not really affectionate, but in most cases women are very affectionate and showy.

I love my man to be affectionate once in a while. I get bored if he will do that everyday. I think I like challenges,surprises something like that. I love to cuddle while we are watching tv,and holding hands while walking,or hug,I do that sometimes.

there are many ways to express our love to our spouse.

physical touching is normal and is NOT just your primarily love language.

Edited by lotus101, 21 July 2009 - 11:53 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-21 23:48:00

Petitioned Approved!

What!!! God is great if he only give you good things??

congrats anyway!!

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-21 07:13:00

Hobbies and Interest

QUOTE (Haole @ Jul 22 2009, 03:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

My anak and I fish almost everyday. Wife cleans and cooks them.
Talakito [Papio]! Masarap

WOw! I love those fresh fish. good for boiled.

you sounds familiar, is that you ampalaya??

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 10:52:00

Hobbies and Interest

We both enjoyed dining out in a restaurant, road trips,watching horror movies. I dislike most of his music.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-21 23:59:00

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QUOTE (john&louella @ Jul 22 2009, 09:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

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Hi guys, fiance likes lumpia a lot and i want to make as often and as much as he want

i know that there is a lumpia wrapper in the US (meron nga ba?) hehe
but my problem is i dont know how they call it there? lollol

Tulong naman po,Maraming Salamat!

j&L

It's called springroll...you can get it in any Asian store here in US. last saturday I bought one I made a turon because I found saging saba and I missed eating it, I also bought jackfruit in can. yum yum

turon + jackfruit...wohooooooo!

thank you po.

here's the turon...for all

Here's the saging saba I bought in Asian market

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 21:20:00

put the sliced saging saba and jackfruit in lumpia wrapper,then put some brown sugar on it then roll and wrap it and fry in a hot cooking oil (4 sp oil) now that's called "turon"

Edited by lotus101, 22 July 2009 - 09:09 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 21:07:00

QUOTE (john&louella @ Jul 22 2009, 09:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 23 2009, 12:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (john&louella @ Jul 22 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hi guys, fiance likes lumpia a lot and i want to make as often and as much as he want

i know that there is a lumpia wrapper in the US (meron nga ba?) hehe
but my problem is i dont know how they call it there? lollol

Tulong naman po,Maraming Salamat!

j&L

turon + jackfruit...wohooooooo!

thank you po.

here's the turon...for all

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 21:01:00

QUOTE (ccndyeth @ Jul 22 2009, 12:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

there another kind of spring roll wrapper yung made with rice.. it's good for lumpia but not as good as the one made with flour.

Yes, there are many different kind of springroll, the one I bought was made from Philippines. I don't like to use the other springroll.

Edited by lotus101, 22 July 2009 - 11:48 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 11:47:00

QUOTE (john&louella @ Jul 22 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hi guys, fiance likes lumpia a lot and i want to make as often and as much as he want

i know that there is a lumpia wrapper in the US (meron nga ba?) hehe
but my problem is i dont know how they call it there? lollol

Tulong naman po,Maraming Salamat!

j&L

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-22 11:33:00

marriage

QUOTE

Thanks for all the comments, i did sign because they will ban me for the whole life not just me and the entire family cant go to usa, My husband has already filed k1 for another woman before and that havent cancel until now.at that time and also i had tourist application before that was denied they really dont believe me that i love my husband He just came here in the Philippine one time, then we got married immediately then after 1 year he didnt come back after marriage,i explained to them(the consul) but they dont believe me, they think I married my husband because I want to come to America, the consul said why i didnt apply for immigrant why i choose k3 , consul told me i have to withdraw because im not capable to apply for k3 visa because its really many issues came out during interviewed husband cant reach poverty level,they dont accept my co-sponsor either,husband filed bankcruptcy,husband many debts,husband dont own a house, husband didnt cancel x k1 petition. The only thing im worried my marriage is it still valid after signed that statement that they wanted me to signed that married for immigrant puposes only and no love?I told them i dont care if his poor i married him because i love him, i said we can start a new life and solve the problem but they dont wanted me to become a public charge that's what they explained to me so i withdrawn and the word BAN makes my head crazy. after signed the statements the consul said anytime i can apply immigrant but i have to tell my husband to cancel the first k1 petition he filed for other woman that still active and he have to visit me sometimes here in the philippines, By the way my immigrant petition at that time was approve but we choose the k3 so that i can bring my daughter with me.well hope evrybody can understand me now

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-26 22:56:00

marriage

People Don't sign if you do not understand the statement. if you do not understand on what being said in the paper ask them to make sure you sign for the right purpose.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-26 08:49:00

Got that pink!!!

Wow,,your consul asked too many question...my experienced a long time ago, the consul only asked me a FEW question...I think it depends of the consul though.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 06:24:00

Got that pink!!!

congrats..I'm sure you're excited to be reunited with your hubby here.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 06:20:00

Activist in the Philippines?

QUOTE (anna_lyn9277 @ Jul 28 2009, 02:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 24 2009, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

What is the different kind of activist in the Phils? what is good about it and what is not? and why people are doing it? being an activist in the Philippines is important? is this a hard ting to do?

any input, is there anyone here had experience

There are many kinds of group in the philippines that promotes awareness, social change, political change they were often referred as activist. BUt you better be careful on what organizations you want to be part with. What is the good of it??? awareness on unequal opportunities for the poor, the human rights violation commited by the government , the business sector. Why people joining this group??? once you started learning about this realities, there is an eagerness that you want this to change you become idealistic, you want equal oppurtunites to everyone. Is being an activist in the Philippine is important??? Yes, as long as you know what your fighting for & your not taking advantage of the people who needs the help by pursuing your own agenda. Is this hard thing to do??? Yes it is, once you already in to or as they called "lubog sa organisasyon" it its hard to get out. When I was in college We together with my classamates join the mobilization, the first is during the Flor Contemplacion, we walked from taft avenue to the singapore embassy in makati to stop the death penalty for Flor. Then its been ordinary to Attend SONA, Senate Hearing, EVAT, so as rallying in malacañang. But Our passion was with the Human Rights Violation. We become member of Amnesty International a human rights group, that was when we were in college. But when I started working I seldom join the rally anymore.

But I applauded you for wanting to help the country in your own way, If you come out with the idea on how, let me know & I will join you.

Thank you for the info you shared, I will be in the Philippines in this coming late August for some very important reason;also I'm thinking of joining as activist, I like it much for human rights,child abused, battered women. I'm not into political. I'd like to be very busy and spend my time for a very important matters. I will find an organization there so, I can join. I will let you know.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 23:19:00