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QUOTE (loveaboo @ Jul 24 2009, 10:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

You can be called an activist if you're advocating or opposing a cause or issue vigorously, esp. a political cause (as per dictionary.com's definition). I don't think you need to join an activist group to become one. You don't even need to go out of the street to voice out your concerns. All you'll be needing is a venue. With the advent of technology, you have more choices now. You can write in paper materials such as newspapers or create blogs online, etc.
Be sure though that you're fighting for the right reasons/causes and that you're ready for the consequences.

Goodluck!!!

Yeah you're right, that's what I'm thinking too. create blogs online about Philippines is a good idea. to voice out my opinions, ideas etc.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 22:00:00

QUOTE (maritoni @ Jul 24 2009, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Activists wants a betterment of the nation..i never experience nor think about joining those though it should not be wrong for us to also think critically about our society... The first president of the Philippines once said that he will rather see his country run like hell than be ruled by a colonial power.I think he got this wish,The corruption is so rampant from all branches of the government.Being elected in the office is a pathway to richest.Payolas is a way of life.Military is in cahoots with the executive branch whistle blowers are exterminated or silenced through intimidation.

Economy is dependent on overseas workers around the globe sending remitances to their love ones.There are no seperation between church and state when it comes to elections and the church that controls the members gets millions of gifts and money under the table from politicians just to get their endorsement....Health care is in the bottom of their agenda and regulations and red tape is killing efficiency in business and the day to day affairs..

Thanks for your input..if being activist in the Philippines is for a betterment for our nation, I think I might joint that. but I'm not sure how. I'm so sad seeing this news everyday how these poor people treated badly and a lot of homeless children. I'm not rich nor poor but I want to make a difference in our country somehow.

Edited by lotus101, 24 July 2009 - 03:28 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 15:26:00

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QUOTE (charles! @ Jul 24 2009, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Charles, your papers, please!

ja wohl, herr commandant!

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QUOTE (charles! @ Jul 24 2009, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Charles, your papers, please!

Yes, arrest this #######!! he's doing illegal

i'm not having sex with any illegals.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 15:19:00

QUOTE (Mister_Bill @ Jul 24 2009, 03:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (charles! @ Jul 24 2009, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Charles, your papers, please!

Yes, arrest this #######!! he's doing illegal

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 14:39:00

This is the OFF topic, for Filipinas only

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 11:12:00

What is the different kind of activist in the Phils? what is good about it and what is not? and why people are doing it? being an activist in the Philippines is important? is this a hard ting to do?

any input, is there anyone here had experience

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-24 09:45:00

Ghey Quotations

Another one, that I read somewhere

"Absence makes the heart grow founder"

These saws are constantly cutting one another's throats. How can you reconcile the statement that ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ with ‘Out of sight, out of mind’?

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 11:40:00

Ghey Quotations

To me, I feel like the following quote is ghey;

What goes around, comes around!.------ why? because good people can be a victim of bad things

I will add more

Edited by lotus101, 29 July 2009 - 11:34 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 11:34:00

Got a job..

QUOTE (belovedbyme @ Jul 27 2009, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Caregiver

That's a rewarding job;and a good start if you want to become a nurse someday or thinking to go back to school.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 14:26:00

Got a job..

p.s. don't be suprise if you didn't get your full salary in your first time salary.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 14:23:00

Got a job..

Congrats,,,what is your job btw.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 14:21:00

QUOTE (jom @ Jul 29 2009, 12:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

If you are a US citizen, you CANNOT own land in the Philippines.

If you still want to buy land the title will have to be in the name of a Filipino citizen, or a domestic corporation.

To make sure that the land you are buying is " clean"....get a zerox copy of the title from the buyer then go to the Register of Deeds of the city/province where the land is located and get a recent certified true copy of the title so you will know if there encumbrances attached to the land and to make sure that the seller is the owner and his/her name is in the tile of the land.

Goodluck!

Thank you jom for the info, I'm a Filipina...My father owned some land in the Philippines but since he's too old couldn't remember what the procedure; and he can't give me any advice about it, that's why I ask here because I want to have my OWN land but I have no Idea what the procedure so I will not be a victim of scam, we ALWAYS heard a horror story about it.

anyway, once again thank you for those people who gave me a good input.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 06:12:00

QUOTE (Haole @ Jul 29 2009, 12:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

What goes around, comes around!

What do you mean by that?

I don't believe that saying btw, good people can be a victim of scam.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 06:02:00

Anyone here have experienced?

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 23:25:00

I am thinking of buying a land in the Philippines, My question is, what should I do to make sure that the land they're going to sell me is LEGAL and NOT FAKE. what steps I suppose to do? should I hire a lawyer and go to the City hall and check it if the land I will be buying is Legal?

input will appreciated.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 23:07:00

Is this legal?

QUOTE

Php 40,000" then of course you have to pay them with the indicated amount.

Sound fishy:wow:

May be your girl was bragging that she has a kano bf, that's why they try to dig such a big a mount of money. they think that amount of money is nothing.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 21:05:00

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QUOTE (bulaklak @ Jul 31 2009, 10:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Oh NO! that words is NOT GOOD... look at this definition I've found.

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bukake ---
Japanese for "semen shower."

enjoy that new name of yours

It doesn't matter anyway...cause I am not like that, not into bukakke.

I'm sure some people here are into it and nothing wrong with it. everyone has a sex fetish eh.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 10:35:00

Oh NO! that words is NOT GOOD... look at this definition I've found.

QUOTE

bukake ---
Japanese for "semen shower."

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 10:17:00

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QUOTE (bulaklak @ Jul 31 2009, 09:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

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Why did you change your display name Lotus?

cause I like it and they allowed me to changed it. nothing shocking about it, a lot of people here did it .

QUOTE (charles! @ Jul 31 2009, 10:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

every time i see this new name i think it says bukakke.

What is that mean?? is that a latin words?

Japanese.
It's a sex fetish involving having multiple facials.

funny... I think I will change my display name into "bukakke"

Edited by bulaklak, 31 July 2009 - 10:04 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 10:01:00

Btw that is not my final display name,,last night I was thinking to change it again into my initial name or nickname but I think that's the only my chance and never allow me to change it again.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 09:57:00

QUOTE

Why did you change your display name Lotus?

cause I like it and they allowed me to changed it. nothing shocking about it, a lot of people here did it .

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p.s.

The topic is about sex not about god btw.

are you always talking about god even when you having sex with your hubby.

The phrase "Oh! oH! gAWD! GawD!!!!!" is pretty common during sex, actually.

I don't scream the god during sex...I just moan like..."ohhh,,,ohhh,,ahh,ohh"

I guees some women are screamer,some are moaner.

They can do both sometimes! but you have to excel in one lang.....Why did you change your display name Lotus?

every time i see this new name i think it says bukakke.

What is that mean?? is that a latin words?

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 09:52:00

QUOTE (scandal @ Jul 30 2009, 09:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 30 2009, 08:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

p.s.

The topic is about sex not about god btw.

are you always talking about god even when you having sex with your hubby.

The phrase "Oh! oH! gAWD! GawD!!!!!" is pretty common during sex, actually.

I don't scream the god during sex...I just moan like..."ohhh,,,ohhh,,ahh,ohh"

I guees some women are screamer,some are moaner.

edit: I see that you have some fans here...probably because you are a cool guy.

Edited by bulaklak, 31 July 2009 - 09:41 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-31 09:36:00

p.s.

The topic is about sex not about god btw.

are you always talking about god even when you having sex with your hubby.

Edited by lotus101, 30 July 2009 - 08:26 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-30 20:23:00

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QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 29 2009, 09:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

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Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"
"Haven't you read," Jesus replied, "that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"
Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT FOR MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS, and marries another woman commits adultery."
The disciples said to him, "If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry."
Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.
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I know it is easy to say that Marriage is sacred but that is the truth.....it is sacred. And I know people divorce their partner for other reason too but BEFORE you DECIDE to get married, "use discernment". If your partner loves God and faithful to God, then you will not end up divorcing your partner. I'm saying you will live happily ever after...of course there will be problems will cross on marriage life but not INFIDELITY if you and your partner know and love God. And that's part of life.
The OP's case is not INFIDELITY......he can work things out.....he can talk to his wife about their sex life and be open to each other. It's all up to him.

Are you trying to convert me into your relegion?? thanks but THANKS, I have my own relegion and I know about god. I have no plan changing into other relegion. We know people are not perfect;and no matter what type of relegion you have, it can't save you from SIN.

No offense, but you know what? one of the sign if the person is a truly good person...is to respect other people relegion. don't try to push your relegion beliefs to other people.

there are many people who are very relegious but they often cheated thier wives, and they also do gambling etc... not sure why? perhaps they think the more they talk about god the more god will forgive them that's why they are likely doing the bad things. I'm not trying to say you are one of these people.

Wooooh.....How many times you read my reply? You misunderstood it. Am I implying you to turn in my religion? I just posted a verse from the Bible where Jesus talks about divorce and share my own opinion about the OP's situation here. I respect all religion....even Islamic, who don't believe that Jesus is God. I respect their beliefs because that's what they believe. Sharing a verse from the Bible about "divorce" is not trying to convince, encourage or push you or people here to transfer in my religion. There's a freedom of choice, freedom of religion and freedom of speech and I respect that. And yes I agree with you when you say "no matter what type of religion you have, it can't save you from SIN." BUT you MISSED this point......Sinners (that's us) can be saved if we repent and if we realize that we are sinners and receive HIM as our Savior and Lord. Repentance is an old English word that describes a willingness to turn from our sin towards Jesus Christ.
You might be thinking again that I'm trying to convince you because I'm talking about Jesus. I am just replying to your message for me. I don't even know your religion. I'm a Catholic and I don't care what's your religion or maybe we have the same religion...I just share my opinion. And by the way it's not "RELEGION" it's "RELIGION". And it's God not god. If you have respect on your God make it a big letter.

I don't give a damn about the spelling or the capital letters..we are not in the formal or something. I know how and when to write a capital letter if needed, as well as the spelling. . :

and oh please stop using the name of god for the purpose of your Fu****Sh@t. is not fit of your behavior....you have a DOUBLE FACE.

I do not care what is your point about your god btw.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-30 20:06:00

QUOTE

Great post Lotus. I see we think alike. I also agree the religion issue is poison, it
will cloud their judgement and act like an angry parent unable to separate squabbling children.

May I say,,, "Great mind think alike"

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-30 11:43:00

QUOTE

I love my wife so much...

She is here now, since May 3. She still struggles with not being able to work. She was a school principal, her dream job, and had to give all that up in coming here, and it is hard for her still, but she sure does take it all well. She has her moments when she feels down because of not working and losing her career, but she overcomes that.

She laughs, and that is music to my ears. I adore her. I love her with all my heart and soul. She is sleeping right now...I work late. She was sleeping on the couch downstairs when I came home, but she woke up and came upstairs as I was putting the clean, washed sheets on the bed. I just watched her sleep for awhile. I got off work early tonight, so am awake, and will get some things done here. But it is the most wonderful feeling to know she is just in the bedroom, and I will be able to go there when ready, and cuddle up to her and hold her and breath in the beautiful smell of her hair and fall asleep with her in my arms.

I would have waited any number of years for her... I adore her.

Brian in Tennessee

That doesn't sound like someone who is ready to give up, but we should all wish him well and hope he gets to
the bottom of this dilemma, not to recommend divorce outright but just hope he can get her to tell him what's wrong.

It also seems that (I feel kinship in this regard because both his wife and my fiancee are school administrators)
his wife may have been resentful for him being the cause of her leaving her very stimulating and rewarding career.
In my case, I believe we have resolved that issue, but the final proof will be once she is with me in the US.
In his case, it's something not to be skirted around but explored in order for both to learn how the other feels.

Before I looked at Brian's posts and saw his profile, I thought they were both in their 20's but in fact they are
much closer to me (a really old fart) in age. That would indicate that if something is eating her, it must run
very deep indeed and will be harder for them to resolve it jointly.

Brian hasn't posted since quitting this thread on July 27. He's had many posts since he joined on August 24 2008.
There's no rule that he has to post again, but I hope that he & wife sort things out. More than that we can't do.

Perhaps she had a high expectation about life here in the US. when she already here and figured it out for herself she doesn't like it, she regret and developed a resentment towards him. if she always treated him cold, soon he will develop a resentment too.

I also thought that they are both in their 20's because they are acting like it.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 21:21:00

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You can't fool kids, they are too smart. Item #3 is the ONLY item with a checkmark, even though the divorce is 99%
a done deal.

Yes, that's true kids are too smart, even they have no idea what is happening with their parents but they know that there is something is wrong. kids should be raised in a healthy and loving family.

by leaving the bad marriage you had, you also teaching your kids that staying in the bad relationship is NOT healthy. it just that you and her are not the right for each other. sometimes people need to experienced lot of trials in life before we finally found a "good gem".

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 20:51:00

QUOTE

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 20:26:00

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DIVORCE is not a SOLUTION to the problem. Marriage is sacred and you know that. You can only divorce your partner if he or she is unfaithful. You can find it in the bible (New Testament) if you wanna read. I agree with you that his wife might have some worst experience in the past that made her to be what she is now. But DIVORCE????? I strongly DISAGREE!!!!!!

If the person, has NO other solution and he did everything his best to tried to work out the marriage but never getting better for both of them. then may be a divorce is the ONLY SOLUTION to his problem.

Yeah, "Marriage is sacred" it so EASY as it sound BUT the MAJORITY of PEOPLE TOOK advantages of it..... and it is very common in the Philippines a marriage people have LOVE AFFAIR BESIDES THIER SPOUSE. AND plenty of marriage are broken, plenty of spouse ran-away because of cheating, abused etc. this is not only happening in the Philippines, it is happening in the WHOLE WORLD WIDE.

People CAN DIVORCED if they have a VALID REASON; if your Spouse is cheating you over and over, you can divorce him. if your spouse is emtionally and physically abusive you can divorce him. if you are fell-out of love you can divorce him/her and that's a valid reason. all of that are valid reasons.

ALL PEOPLE wanted to have a long lasting MARRIAGE but some people do not try work harder. also it NEEDS TWO people to have a great and everlasting marriage...OVER ALL PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE, they do what makes them comfortable and happy.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-29 06:59:00

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I don't believe anyone has ever succeeded in changing anyone else unless the changee is in diapers.

I don't believe either, you cannot change someone unless they like it for herself/himself. haha he can only change the diapers, if she's much older than him.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 15:00:00

I agree No relationship 100% satisfactory but it bothered a lot for him, his wife being lacking emotion toward him. needless to say it is a big deal to him being 100% satisfied in this area. and it seems like they have this problem since the day they got married last year.and up to now year 2009 they haven't solved this problem yet;and he said he already told this issue to his wife but the wife it seems not listening and just ignored the issue.

not sure until when the o.p. waiting that she will understand on what her responsibilties to her husband, maybe 15 years or more? well..if the o.p. is willing to wait at that longer period of time.

she should know what her responsibilities are before she enter into this relationship.

QUOTE

I hope this isnt too forward a subject, but frankly I dont know where else to talk about this at.

Me and my wife got married in January 2008. The day of our marriage, she was going to go "home" which was 45 minutes away, so she could teach at her school the next day. The only reason she didnt do that is because it affected me so much, on our wedding day, that I cried.

We are together now. To this day I have not seen her naked. When we make love, the lights all have to be out. She wont let me touch her sexually unless we make love, and then only on her breasts. It really affects me....... We go round and round about this.

Is it cultural? Am I an idiot to be so affected? It is affecting our relationship.

Am very serious with this topic.

Thanks

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 14:52:00

I think the o.p. will not giving up soon, perhaps he STILL hoping that he can change her. she may be will change but also,there is a big posibility she will NEVER change. so, the o.p. must decide for himself whether he want to stay with her without it, or find someone else who will satisfy and make him happy.

edit: I hope he will find the solution to their marriage

Edited by lotus101, 28 July 2009 - 11:48 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 11:44:00

QUOTE

Len wrote:

I thought this was a joke. Why oh why would people post such personal stuff online??? Come on!

QUOTE

charles wrote:

don't be judgemental! or else i'll tell everyone about your love affair with starbucks coffee!

QUOTE

Len wrote

poor, poor me....

--apparently I'm not raised within the limits of good manners and composure. Oh well, some are raised by wolves.

Edited by lotus101, 28 July 2009 - 06:07 AM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-28 06:02:00

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'*Len*' wrote

the fact that I'm raised with no concept of personal decency is not my fault -- we come from very, very different worlds.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 12:59:00

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 27 2009, 01:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (*Len* @ Jul 27 2009, 01:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 27 2009, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Why not? ,it's his personal life and it's his choice; and he have the right to express or ask any advice here as long as he is comfortable with it.. unless there is a rule about it on Not to post such a personal issue.

the o.p. post his personal issue because he's wondering and wanted to know if the behaviour of his wife is normal or there might be something to do with the cultural thing. he didn't critized his wife.

I don't think his wife was exposed too much,,,he didn't even post her picture here. not even a name.

It is just not very adult behavior, to expose your sex life online. Really, are you THAT thick?

I'm not sure by that,,,but if you think his post is too much for you're taste, I guess you should stop coming and reading his post. ( his post are for adults only)

edit:

I repeat, If you think his post is too much for your taste, I guess you should stop coming and reading his post here.

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QUOTE (*Len* @ Jul 27 2009, 01:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 27 2009, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It is just not very adult behavior, to expose your sex life online. Really, are you THAT thick?

I'm not sure by that,,,but if you think his post is too much for you're taste, I guess you should stop coming and reading his post. ( his post are for adults only)

edit:

You poor, poor "woman"....

-- apparently you were not raised within the limits of good manners and composure. Oh well, some are raised by wolves.

That's your opinion my dear.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 12:56:00

QUOTE (*Len* @ Jul 27 2009, 01:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (lotus101 @ Jul 27 2009, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It is just not very adult behavior, to expose your sex life online. Really, are you THAT thick?

I'm not sure by that,,,but if you think his post is too much for you're taste, I guess you should stop coming and reading his post. ( his post are for adults only)

edit:

Edited by lotus101, 27 July 2009 - 12:43 PM.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 12:41:00

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-27 12:33:00

QUOTE

Am I an idiot to be so affected? It is affecting our relationship.

Am very serious with this topic.

NO, you're not an idiot, INTIMATE is normal and very IMPORTANT in marriage. it is one of the thing to express your love to her and to be more close emotionally. without it you are living with your sister or relative.

bulaklak

Female

2009-07-26 09:10:00