ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & ProceduresHow long should I wait?
I think the average for all the Consulates is about 2/3 weeks... Mine got shipped out Feb 14th.. At this point we have Not Received a Packet 3.. So I am most likely going to start righting to my Senator
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-04-15 06:41:00
IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & Proceduresi gave up

hey guys
i wake up today and i was holding my wife pic all nite i even was talking to the pic i do not know really what to do this people dosenot care about me and my wife feelings bad very bad and hurting too i miss her alot ifeel so bad and so sad i,m really thinking hard of giving my wife divorce i been in this process for 3 years and its not her fault to be like that she needs aman by her side and i do not think so i will be getting my visa so tell me ur opinions plz.


seka

I can relate too. there are times I want to give up..but, what does it mean to give up?
you cant give up.. there is nothing to give up. so vent, be upset.. but, stay by her side.

we been on AP - 2 years.

what reason did they give you for makingyou wait 2 years?


I think one of the Hard things of being put on AP.. As far as I know.. is that they DONT give you a reason
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-05-05 12:17:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI am afraid
QUOTE (Younes @ Aug 30 2007, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Caladan @ Aug 30 2007, 10:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Morocco is a tough consulate to get through. Lots of guys looking for American women to use as papers to get to the U.S., so the consulate is extra suspicious.

If your guy had a petition filed for him earlier this year, even though he didn't go to the interview, and you don't yet know whether the case has been formally closed or whether his ex is still trying to keep it alive, you will likely have a more difficult time convincing the consulate that this guy who had another fiancee eight months ago is not trying to use you for an immigration benefit.

Check out the MENA forum; the girls there have seen just about everything and they may have some advice for you. In any case, make sure you document the relationship well on both of your visits.

Thanks for what ya had to say Caladan its greately apperciated..i just wanna add something else ,before i fill out im planning to ask the Consulate in Morocco first ,which i did and their reply was,they could not assist me because i need to contact USCIS so im keeping this email and he'll have it hopefully for his interview and he is a talkative person he defends in what he belives so he'll give them a rough time lol he is a tought nut to crack....well i'll contact USCIS too before i leave for my next trip and i'll see what they would say i'll call this week ,he still have the email he sent the consulate to have them cancel his interview and all they just said thanks for the informations and we will cancel ur stuff .

wow... this is the dude... but trying to write as the finace???

wow

(crossed over from the MENA threads)

Edited by deemabrouk, 17 September 2007 - 02:26 PM.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-17 14:26:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
QUOTE (amira_ordonia @ Sep 11 2007, 04:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 11 2007, 11:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 11 2007, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
do I know you??? smile.gif

i dont know about bravery..

and i feel like a HUGE F up.. not a good mom sad.gif


QUOTE (Lost in NY @ Sep 10 2007, 10:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 10 2007, 02:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Prince of Egypt @ Sep 10 2007, 03:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
if you don't mind my asking, what happened?


hahaa.. you dont wanna know blink.gif



You are in my thoughts and prayers Dee - keep up the fight.

I admire your bravery and wish you a quick resolution to this horrible situation. Your children are so lucky to have such a wonderful mother. rose.gif rose.gif

Blessings,
D.



Wow, Dee! I know it's hard to see the forest for the trees, but you really do have a lot of admirable qualities. And, your boys (although they might have had a stressful time for a couple of weeks) will be so much better off after it's all settled. Some mothers never break away and have to make the best with the situation they are stuck in. You are so lucky to not be cornered into that option. I am grateful for you that you have dug your heels in and set an example for many mothers around the globe.







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rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif

that just made me cry sad.gif thank god there are no patients infront of me...

I am living out of someone else's house... my kids hardly sleep at night.. my little one has been having all these melt downs.. I have no $.. my house phone/ internet is shut off... soon my cell phone.. Some dickbag kid just stole 40 bucks from me.. Some guy hit my car.. took me a WEEK to get the $ from him(he begged not to go through the insurance) THEN i lost the FREAKING check!!!!!! My husband i think is mentally compromised.. he still doesnt get ANYTHING that is going on.
The kids are going to school late everyday... I didnt bring enough "warm" clothes for the kids.. they end up going to school in the same sh!t... I'm getting to work late everyday.. my work SUCKS.. my boss can bring me to tears or make me wanna run infront of traffic.. I've lost 99% of my muslim "friends" and Imam and faith though out this whole thing.....

my kids keep on begging me to go home sad.gif

everynight i think very dark thoughts and have to psych myself out of them......
nothing positive should be directed towards me... i feel like dirt


Dee Im really confused here. You moved out and he is in your house?

yes.. I left with the kids.. cat AND the fish.. lol blink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-11 15:50:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
QUOTE (monnik @ Sep 11 2007, 02:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 11 2007, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
do I know you??? smile.gif

i dont know about bravery..

and i feel like a HUGE F up.. not a good mom sad.gif


QUOTE (Lost in NY @ Sep 10 2007, 10:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 10 2007, 02:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Prince of Egypt @ Sep 10 2007, 03:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
if you don't mind my asking, what happened?


hahaa.. you dont wanna know blink.gif



You are in my thoughts and prayers Dee - keep up the fight.

I admire your bravery and wish you a quick resolution to this horrible situation. Your children are so lucky to have such a wonderful mother. rose.gif rose.gif

Blessings,
D.



Wow, Dee! I know it's hard to see the forest for the trees, but you really do have a lot of admirable qualities. And, your boys (although they might have had a stressful time for a couple of weeks) will be so much better off after it's all settled. Some mothers never break away and have to make the best with the situation they are stuck in. You are so lucky to not be cornered into that option. I am grateful for you that you have dug your heels in and set an example for many mothers around the globe.







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rose.gif rose.gif rose.gif

that just made me cry sad.gif thank god there are no patients infront of me...

I am living out of someone else's house... my kids hardly sleep at night.. my little one has been having all these melt downs.. I have no $.. my house phone/ internet is shut off... soon my cell phone.. Some dickbag kid just stole 40 bucks from me.. Some guy hit my car.. took me a WEEK to get the $ from him(he begged not to go through the insurance) THEN i lost the FREAKING check!!!!!! My husband i think is mentally compromised.. he still doesnt get ANYTHING that is going on.
The kids are going to school late everyday... I didnt bring enough "warm" clothes for the kids.. they end up going to school in the same sh!t... I'm getting to work late everyday.. my work SUCKS.. my boss can bring me to tears or make me wanna run infront of traffic.. I've lost 99% of my muslim "friends" and Imam and faith though out this whole thing.....

my kids keep on begging me to go home sad.gif

everynight i think very dark thoughts and have to psych myself out of them......
nothing positive should be directed towards me... i feel like dirt
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-11 13:47:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
do I know you??? smile.gif

i dont know about bravery..

and i feel like a HUGE F up.. not a good mom sad.gif


QUOTE (Lost in NY @ Sep 10 2007, 10:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 10 2007, 02:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Prince of Egypt @ Sep 10 2007, 03:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
if you don't mind my asking, what happened?


hahaa.. you dont wanna know blink.gif



You are in my thoughts and prayers Dee - keep up the fight.

I admire your bravery and wish you a quick resolution to this horrible situation. Your children are so lucky to have such a wonderful mother. rose.gif rose.gif

Blessings,
D.

Edited by deemabrouk, 11 September 2007 - 11:37 AM.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-11 11:36:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
QUOTE (Prince of Egypt @ Sep 10 2007, 03:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
if you don't mind my asking, what happened?


hahaa.. you dont wanna know blink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-10 14:16:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
QUOTE (doodlebug @ Aug 21 2007, 11:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
don't feel awkward!!! (did I spell that right? unsure.gif )

We need your sense of humor in here!!! kicking.gif kicking.gif


I actually have a sense of humor???

now I feel like eeyore......


deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-08-21 10:25:00
Middle East and North Africahello everyone
thanks for all your thoughts and inquiries...... wub.gif

everything is upside down in my life... but me and the kids are Ok... and yes he is still in the house

No other big incidents have happened....

We are working closely with the Imam to see where this is going.....

I miss posting on VJ.. but feel awkward unsure.gif

anyone wants to PM me... I have a yahoo IM that i use when i am at work
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-08-21 10:02:00
Middle East and North AfricaTattoos in Islam
i have a tattoo from 6 years ago on my back... I converted AFTER i got the tattoo..

My husband now is saying that he heard a Mulfti (how ever you spell it) say that a person with a tattoo can not fully make ghusl/ wudu... therefor the prayers are not counted blink.gif

I have NEVER heard that before.. and I REFUSE to get a tattoo removal...

oh yeah... i pluck/ wax my eyebrows... and most of the arab / muslim born DO!!!!!!

Edited by deemabrouk, 12 September 2007 - 10:01 AM.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-12 10:00:00
Middle East and North AfricaRaMaDaN ReCiPe
doesnt Semolina bascially mean Wheat??? so... pasta... couscous.. bulgur... its all in the same family
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-13 12:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaRaMaDaN ReCiPe
I want a good recipe for the baked Pumpkin Kibbeh
the Leb places here have it and its SOOOOOOOOO good...
plus I'm obsessed about pumpkin good.gif

AND as soon as i get in my house again.. I found a GREAT recipe for basboosa (sweets) i made it was margarine and it came out VERY GOOD..
QUOTE (MrsAmera @ Sep 13 2007, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That could be it. Sorry my Middle Eastern food repetoire is not so great lol Moroccan food is a long stretch from traditional Middle Eastern food. I am going to try to find the sauce.

I think this would be the lebanese version with the sauce. Which I am a big fan of,

Lebanese Baked Kibbeh

1 pound lean ground lamb (or beef)
1/2 cup bulgur
1 medium onion, finely chopped
2 TBSP walnuts
2 TBSP water
1 TBSP vegetable oil
1/4 tsp ground allspice
1/4 tsp ground black pepper
1/4 tsp ground cinnamon

Rinse and soak bulgur: Place bulgur in small bowl and cover with water. Pour off through a sieve (or cheesecloth). Repeat until water runs clear. Cover bulgur and let soak about 10 minutes. Squeeze out excess water.

Combine meat, bulgur, onion, and spices. Process by hand (similar to kneading meatloaf) until doughy.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Lightly oil an 8 inch square baking dish. Press half the meat mixture into the pan. Sprinkle in nuts. Cover with remaining meat. While still in pan cut into 1 1/2 inch squares. Brush oil over top. Bake for 30 to 35 minutes or until firm and browned well. Serve from pan or invert onto platter.

Notes: There are other variations of this common Mediterranean dish, including a fried version. And a raw one. The first few bites of this were odd to me. I think I was expecting it to taste differently. But then the spices started to mingle in the back of my mouth and I liked it better with each bite. Also, I served it with a cucumber yogurt sauce that I think helped make it more complex. Otherwise, it might be better as a first course and not a main course.

Cucumber Yogurt Sauce

3/4 cup plain yogurt
1/4 cup cucumber, seeded and diced
1 TBSP ground cumin
1 TBSP garlic, minced
1 tsp ground white pepper



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Does anyone know if semolina is the same thing as couscous? I've never heard of it but I want to make basbousa this weekend.

hahaa.. i didnt see this post...

Shaws has the semolia flour in the ethnic eile(sp).. well the one in Dedham that is..
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-13 11:54:00
Middle East and North AfricaS-A-T-U-R-D-A-Y
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QUOTE (mybackpages @ Sep 15 2007, 08:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good Morning!

Couldnt sleep last night so we had suhoor at 2 am. woke up again just before fajr and now away again. Look like there is a nap in my future whistling.gif

Not sure how many are fans, but Little Mosque on the Prarie's new season begins October 3rd. I watched the whole first season on You tube and loved it. http://www.cbc.ca/littlemosque/


last night I was upset and ate myself into a chocolate coma.... I slept through the alarm to wake up for suhoor sad.gif I didnt get to have coffee, food or a allegry/ cold med sad.gif Today is gonna be a rough day.. I feel a headache coming in and I dont feel like fasting cray5ol.gif Its rainy... cold.. and a perfect day to snack all day........ blink.gif


UGH I hate when I don't wake up for suhoor not so much for the food but for my pain meds and allergy meds, etc. I forgot twice so far (i started fasting a week earlier to make up for last year) and my whole day was toast. Hang in there a little more than 7 hours left. Just take it a minute at a time and look at each suffering as a blessing. I know that's hard but it's been really working for me.


Last night I decided to fix my broken toilet myself. The flapper chain which was plastic was broken so for the past five days I've had to open and close it manually, which obviously is a pain in a house of three with one bathroom. Went to home depot and got a new flapper for $5 and came home to do the repair. I had to use scissors to get the old chain thingie out and I cut my left index finger instead. I honestly thought I'd need stitches and I broke down hysterically in tears. I cried for like two hours. That was after I found the mound of bugs in the soup I had just made 'cause the rice I had bought was infested with little winged bugs. I ended up crying myself to sleep. I don't know why. I think I was stressed but was holding it in and cutting my finger with the scissors was the straw that broke the camel's back. Fasting all alone sucks. I"m not complaining about the fasting but I feel I am missing out on a big part of this season by not having anyone to have iftar with, you know?

I asked my girls if they would like to join me and I offered that they could do a half day only one day out of the whole month. The reaction was really strange. They both blocked their ears and went "lalalala---not listening!!". When they stopped I asked why and they shouted WE'RE NOT MUSLIM AND WE NEVER WILL BE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have no idea where this is coming from. I mean I thought I've been setting a good example and I have left subtle hints around like putting the magazine Muslim Girl on the coffee table, etc. I don't know where this huge hatred of my religion is coming from. They don't ever watch the news so they're not getting fed via that. The only thing I can think of is their dad and if that is the case then I'm gong to be livid. I was really hoping that they would do a half day and maybe even wake up before fajr with me to keep me company.

I am feeling sad today. sad.gif


I'm right there with you... It is tough doing it by yourself.. fasting etc.. if I ever get my house back to a normal soon I'd love for you to come have iftar with me smile.gif

I didnt think I was gonna make it today... Especially cause I was at a fair... with fried dough and other foods floating through the air... Free bowls of macaroni and cheese blink.gif it looked SOoooooooooooooooooooooooooo GOOD! Free cake... BUT i've made it.. I've got 43 more minutes to go...


and your Girls are Tween's right??? its all part of the age....... smile.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-15 17:11:00
Middle East and North AfricaS-A-T-U-R-D-A-Y
QUOTE (mybackpages @ Sep 15 2007, 08:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good Morning!

Couldnt sleep last night so we had suhoor at 2 am. woke up again just before fajr and now away again. Look like there is a nap in my future whistling.gif

Not sure how many are fans, but Little Mosque on the Prarie's new season begins October 3rd. I watched the whole first season on You tube and loved it. http://www.cbc.ca/littlemosque/


last night I was upset and ate myself into a chocolate coma.... I slept through the alarm to wake up for suhoor sad.gif I didnt get to have coffee, food or a allegry/ cold med sad.gif Today is gonna be a rough day.. I feel a headache coming in and I dont feel like fasting cray5ol.gif Its rainy... cold.. and a perfect day to snack all day........ blink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-15 08:59:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's Sunday
for some reason i couldn't sleep last night.. I went to bed at 11.. i think... and then up at 2.. I watched the movie 300..

I think I ate WAYYyyyyyyyyy too much cake last night whistling.gif good.gif

it's 10 30 now.. already did 4 loads of laundry kicking.gif

I honestly cant wait to go to work tomorrow... Staying at "home" has way too many temptations of food!!!!!
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-16 09:51:00
Middle East and North AfricaWake up everyone, it's Monday!
sooooooo sleepy........ sleepy.gif

cold meds are kicking in.. getting the dizzys and nausea... good thing i can eat today good.gif

hopefully i got $ to buy food whistling.gif blink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-17 10:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaWednesday
*blech*
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 09:38:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's THURSDAY
still feel like i'm puke unsure.gif whistling.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 11:41:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's THURSDAY
yes... sweet are GOOD... major sugar freak... I think this weekend I'll make basbousa.. thats wicked sugary toooo..


QUOTE (moody @ Sep 20 2007, 11:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mmmmmm I love their vanilla cake with chocolate mousse. I also love their all American cake...devil's food cake with fudge frosting. Soooo good with a glass of iced cold milk. I'm craving sweets in a big way today. blush.gif

QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Sep 20 2007, 10:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (moody @ Sep 20 2007, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love Costco cake! What flavor is it, Dee?


it is a vanilla cake with chocolate mousse in the middle... vanilla frosting..

I have grown VERY fond of freezing cake.. and eatting it frozen... It is not too cold to chew.. and it de thaws almost as soon as its in your mouth..


deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 10:14:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's THURSDAY
QUOTE (moody @ Sep 20 2007, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love Costco cake! What flavor is it, Dee?


it is a vanilla cake with chocolate mousse in the middle... vanilla frosting..

I have grown VERY fond of freezing cake.. and eatting it frozen... It is not too cold to chew.. and it de thaws almost as soon as its in your mouth..
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 09:54:00
Middle East and North AfricaIt's THURSDAY
I have been compulsivly been eatting a giant sheet cake from Cosco's for the past 3 days... My belly is swollen and I feel like I'm gonna throw up good.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 09:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaEid Clothes!!!
QUOTE (doodlebug @ Sep 20 2007, 12:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well this will be the first time I go anywhere for an Eid celebration so I'm going to treat myself to a new outfit. Has anyone bought anything yet for Eid? If so show it!! I love looking at pictures of pretty Eid outfits! kicking.gif kicking.gif


this will be the first year I dont buy a Eid outfit......
But I've spent PLENTY of time window shopping for one smile.gif smile.gif

What style are you looking for???
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 12:59:00
Middle East and North Africadid you change your name?- for the mena girls
I understand wanting to be called Mrs So and so... but.. marriage IS all about the love and actions... not the titles.. and words wink.gif

plus.. his last name didnt flow with my name blink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-10 14:15:00
Middle East and North Africadid you change your name?- for the mena girls
QUOTE (doodlebug @ Sep 10 2007, 02:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
For the ladies, when you married your mena man, did you change your last name? I know this topic has already been done in the past but I'm too tired right now to look it up. lol.

I'm struggling on what to do. I currently have my ex's name and want to obviously get rid of that but I don't know if I should take my husband's last name or my maiden name. helpsmilie.gif

I never did cause in Islam it isn't manditory... So i kept my last name.. BUT now I am catching some BS for it...
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-10 13:23:00
Middle East and North AfricaIts Ramadan time!
QUOTE (doodlebug @ Sep 20 2007, 11:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (monnik @ Sep 20 2007, 06:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, this is the first Ramadan I have experienced, so I didn't have anything to look forward to, really. But, I am enjoying the way the streets in Cairo seem to have calmed down. We sat out on the balcony and watched the evening prayers yesterday, and I enjoyed it. The people were overflowing from the masjid onto the sidewalk. Also, the traffic is non-existent in the evenings, and there are different foods available during this time (especially sweets).

So far, we have tried several new sweets this month; we made ataif, konaafa, and om 3aly - all of them we made here at home. They were delicious. I guess moody was right about desserts and sweets being eaten more during Ramadan.






how do you make that middle one? I"m about to plunge into the monitor to get it!! lol

yeah.. Ditto on that one...

Is it Lebanese style Kanifeh??? with the cheese in the Middle???
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 10:16:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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QUOTE (tammy sue kay @ Sep 13 2007, 03:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How does a woman go about obtaining a divorce from her husband in Jordan? The marriage took place in Jordan. Immigration is being processed. Should the filing be done here in the US? How to inform him of the divorce? Anyone have any ideas, or suggestions?


Sorry to hear you may be going through a divorce, Tammy. You would file here but also let the embassy in Jordan know by email with case number that you have renigged and filing for a divorce. When you divorce here, it's for everywhere. You don't have to go back to Jordan to do this. I pray you find peace in your life.

Andrea



I think people should renege on using words they don't know how to spell.

ahhhhh.. so thats how you spell it wink.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-20 12:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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QUOTE (sarah and hicham @ Sep 19 2007, 01:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't see any judgements being made here.

No I don't have kids, and no I have never been abused but I still said what I "would like to think I would do if I were ever in that situation". I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I think it's ok to share opinions and discuss topics even if those commenting have never experienced something. That's how we learn.

I think it's great that Tammy and Dee are so willing to share and be open about their situations.


Saying what you think you would do is one thing, but when you are actually faced with it, its another thing. Its great to share opinions and discuss but at the same time just because someone is being open about their situation doesn't mean we know everything.

The only point I am trying to make is that being in an abusive relationship is not always as simple as its cracked up to be. rose.gif


I have never come across as if I know what they are going through. I don't know what else I can say to make it clear that I am not pretending to know what they are going through. I also never said an abusive relationship is simple in any way. My words are being misconstrued.

I didn't know I wasn't allowed to post or make comments unless I have been abused.


I think it was the part were you wrote "it's sad" that struck a nerve with me.. cause I am trying my best to not be a stupid woman... not getting out of a bad situation

Edited by deemabrouk, 19 September 2007 - 03:57 PM.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 15:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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QUOTE (menmy @ Sep 19 2007, 04:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dee:

Ditto to what Doodle said. good.gif You are a far more stronger person to have experienced what you have experienced and continue to experience. You will have the ability to console another and have compassion for another that may need your help on down the road that is going through what you've been through. good.gif

lol.. are you sure your thinking of the right person?? blush.gif


YOU are exactly the person that I'm thinking of! NO ONE goes through what you've been through that isn't a strong and resiliant person. There is a reason for all you are experiencing and I think there are great things ahead for you because of it. For anyone to judge you or criticize you are only showing you and the rest of us their weaknesses.


lol...
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 15:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
QUOTE (menmy @ Sep 19 2007, 04:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dee:

Ditto to what Doodle said. good.gif You are a far more stronger person to have experienced what you have experienced and continue to experience. You will have the ability to console another and have compassion for another that may need your help on down the road that is going through what you've been through. good.gif

lol.. are you sure your thinking of the right person?? blush.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 15:09:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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this sounds too familiar unsure.gif


Then Deemabrouk will you divorce your husband? What did you ever decide to do? I have never felt better after leaving my abusive husband.

For now I am taking one day at a time..... This is all i can handle.



What do you mean this is all you can handle? Why would you subject your children to such a relationship? I think that's really sad. Do you really think he's going to change 100%?


wow talk about jumping to conclusions and passing judgement all in one post! mad.gif

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this sounds too familiar unsure.gif


Then Deemabrouk will you divorce your husband? What did you ever decide to do? I have never felt better after leaving my abusive husband.

For now I am taking one day at a time..... This is all i can handle.



What do you mean this is all you can handle? Why would you subject your children to such a relationship? I think that's really sad. Do you really think he's going to change 100%?

right now.. he is out the house and we are back in it SO obviously i DIDNT want to subject my kids to anymore thank you. .. and I am focusing ALL MY ATTENTION to getting my kids back to their norm.. and getting my head straight..

I never said i think he will change.. cause this IS the issue.. i dont think he will..

BUT getting my kids and me back on track is more important than instantly demanding a divorce... thats a whole new pile of poop i'll deal with in the future.. for now my plate is Full trying to fix the immediate mess


You are doing exactly what you should be doing and I totally take my hat off to you sister! Divorce is not something to focus on right now. You've changed the locks, kicked him out and are focusing on the kids and that is all anyone can do. rose.gif I admire your strength and courage and challenge anyone who judges you to spend ONE day in your shoes.


thanks doodle rose.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 14:58:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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this sounds too familiar unsure.gif


Then Deemabrouk will you divorce your husband? What did you ever decide to do? I have never felt better after leaving my abusive husband.

For now I am taking one day at a time..... This is all i can handle.



What do you mean this is all you can handle? Why would you subject your children to such a relationship? I think that's really sad. Do you really think he's going to change 100%?

right now.. he is out the house and we are back in it SO obviously i DIDNT want to subject my kids to anymore thank you. .. and I am focusing ALL MY ATTENTION to getting my kids back to their norm.. and getting my head straight..

I never said i think he will change.. cause this IS the issue.. i dont think he will..

BUT getting my kids and me back on track is more important than instantly demanding a divorce... thats a whole new pile of poop i'll deal with in the future.. for now my plate is Full trying to fix the immediate mess
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 14:46:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
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this sounds too familiar unsure.gif


Then Deemabrouk will you divorce your husband? What did you ever decide to do? I have never felt better after leaving my abusive husband.

For now I am taking one day at a time..... This is all i can handle.
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 14:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaMena Divorce
this sounds too familiar unsure.gif


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I think depression is playing a big part in this. He seems to have given up on ever getting the visa and being able to immigrate here. It has been almost 2 months since he last heard from the embassy and still no good word from them.



This is my BIG concern. If he is depressed it should be because you two are apart. It seems like this is all about the visa & immigrating here, which is not good IMO.



I kind of agree. My husband never talks about the visa unless I bring it up. It's almost an afterthought since he's so busy with his life there. Not saying he's definitely in it for the visa but just something to keep on the back burner you know?


I see it a little differntly. I think Tammy's husband's focus could appear to be on the visa, but the reality is what the visa means. The visa process is keepig him from his family , from carrying out his responsibility as a husband and father. so while he says visa, he might be thinking something else.

If he is prone to depression, think about how much more difficult it is not to have the day to day imitate support of your wife and family. Depression means our thinking is clouded. The visa may symbolize a lof of things to him not only the ticket to come here.


While this is true in many situations, I don't believe it to be true in this one. I have told Tammy my concerns based on extensive conversations I have had with her. We talked about all the possibilities and the depression being one of them. However even if a person is prone to being depressed it doesnt make it ok to shun your loved ones away. How a person deals with depression and hard times in their life says alot about that person.

Tammy is also going though her own depression and so are her kids. Times like this, and him being the adult, he should also be supportive that family that he is waiting to be reunited with, especially the kids. I know everyone deals with depression differently but this is also somehting that can weigh heavily on their marriage, now and later.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-19 09:15:00
Middle East and North Africawhat is your opinion??
well... I guess I could add.. he called MY MOM>. got her # off the caller ID.. and was talking to her about EVERYTHING.. including sex stuff blink.gif

and he doesnt even have any relationship with her..... my mom is really distant with him...
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-13 13:00:00
Middle East and North Africawhat is your opinion??
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Well part of me would want to do it, but on the other hand I don't think they would take my side anyway. I kinda went through this with my ex. When I left him, it was very sudden. I just work up finally and decided enough was enough. I thought about contacting his family but then I decided not to and now I am happy I didn't contact them.

When I left him, I walked out of the house with nothing and I was gone for a full week before he even called me to see where I was. He didnt think I was serious I guess but then he knew I was. What baffled me was after being together for 9 years, no one in his family even bothered to call me. So then I figured why call them? So I didn't.

My concern for you Dee would be who do you consider trust worthy enough at this point to make sure they are translating what you want them to say and without adding in their 2 cents. However if this is going to give you closure, then yes you should do it.

hmm... well they send text messages saying they want to know what os going on with mohamed... his mom is worried... And why should I just let him walk away...

I KNOW it doesnt matter in the end... but he paints the ugliest picture of me.. and I do love his family.. and I'd hate for them to hear the things that he says without hearing my side to it....

he has the BEST crocidile tears.. and sad puppy face... EVERYONE is buying it right now.....


and honestly maybe if they BEG for him to come home.. maybe it would pull on his heart strings enough for him to do that......

Edited by deemabrouk, 12 September 2007 - 03:08 PM.

deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-12 15:07:00
Middle East and North Africawhat is your opinion??
for anyone who knows my situation...


I have been floating around with the idea of having someone arabic speaking call my husbands family in egypt and tell them whats up...

they know we are having issues BUT they dont really know what is going on...

Should I call them and tell them everything?

Ramadan is starting...... but things are sinking quicker than I can think..

OR would this just be Gasoline on the fire???
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-12 14:49:00
Middle East and North AfricaMuslim Girl Magazine
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deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-24 12:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe hadith is not islam!
i agree about the hadith.. but disagree.. the abuse stems from a mis interpretations of the QURAN.. sura 4:34

my husband is Very Quick to open the quran and show me this Sura.. but again its a misinterpretation(if i am spelling that right )

http://www.ruqaiyyah...les/beating.htm

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deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-08-13 13:46:00
Middle East and North AfricaSpoiling your supper: pork in cheese
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I'm confused....cheese comes from milk that comes from cows.................cows are halal so how come cheese is not halal? unsure.gif

But some of the ingredients to make the cheeze can come from Pigs......
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-25 10:34:00
Middle East and North AfricaSpoiling your supper: pork in cheese
Polly O huh?? how do you know about them.. My kids would be happy.. they have be dying for string cheeze and Cabot doesnt make it sad.gif
deemabroukFemaleEgypt2007-09-25 10:23:00