ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)YAY Married (Pat on the back!)
April 18, 2008 we finally said "I Do". We are so very happy and working on the final papers for adjustment of status.

*Grins*

Dawn
starlaroseFemaleIreland2008-04-22 16:52:00
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)Irish Police Reports
QUOTE (Penguin_ie @ Feb 2 2008, 05:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow I didn't realise it takes that long!
Might get it done sooner rather than later then....


Yeah, they told my Fiance it would take about 2 weeks or so to get it back. He's in Wexford and there isn't much to pull for him. He has only been there since Oct 2 and prior to that was living in London for 6 years. The UK one threw us a bit off due to a) it is 10 quid and cool.gif they won't take foreign post cheques. We just sent cash in a registered letter. Hopefully it will work out. I wish we had started this sooner - I became confused with the process unfortunately. Right now we are holding off sending back the statement of reediness until the end of next week to try to give both police certs time to get done. sad.gif

I too want to pull my hair out.
starlaroseFemaleIreland2008-02-04 09:01:00
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)Irish in the US
QUOTE (jazzette @ Sep 9 2007, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (j&js @ Jan 28 2006, 09:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Amanda had started a great list of those of us in the US who have ties to Ireland. I know this thread wasn't getting a ton of use before, but I just wanted to restart it so that we would be aware of who is from where and can help each other out with ideas when we have 'em.
If you are new to this thread, please add you and your SO's name and location!


Name..............County ............ Name........State
Amanda...........Limerick...........Rob............Ohio
Wes.................Londonderry.....Rebecca.....WV
James..............Cork................Julia...........MA
David...............Cork................Erin............NY (Although we are currently living in FL)

Thomas (Theo) ------Meath------Marie Ann (US wife)-------NY



Please add us:

Vinny..............Dublin.......Dawn.........VA
starlaroseFemaleIreland2008-03-04 16:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDC Intl Couples
Hi all. I've just organized a yahoo site for DC International Couples. The purpose of the group is to provide support for international couples and to organize events in the DC Metro Area. For more information go to the website and subscribe.
http://groups.yahoo....ationalcouples/

Our first meet and greet is tentatively scheduled for Sunday, Jan. 14th from 3:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. The location has yet to be determined.

For those who have expressed interest, I will invite you today.

Best,

Southern
southernchicFemale02006-12-28 12:33:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDC Int'l Couples
Hi all. I've just organized a yahoo site for DC International Couples. The purpose of the group is to provide support for international couples and to organize events in the DC Metro Area. For more information go to the website and subscribe.
http://groups.yahoo....ationalcouples/

Our first meet and greet is tentatively scheduled for Sunday, Jan. 14th from 3:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. The location has yet to be determined.

For those who have expressed interest, I will invite you today.

Best,

Southern
southernchicFemale02006-12-28 12:40:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanlong distance relationship

WEll...long distance relationships do work. But I can't comment about meeting someon online since my husband and I met in person. Things that were helpful for us in making the long distance work were daily emails, talking on the phone, and IM with the webcam. He was actively invovled with my work in giving me advice and encouragement and I would help him write sermons and encourage him with his work with the youth. We had to deal with a 12 hour time difference and being seperated for 9 months was hard.

My personal opinion is that its better to have them come to the US as a fiance--wait out the 2 or 3 months--and then get married. I personally don't think that I would have handled very well the married and separated bit. Waiting to get married once he's here--gives you both a chance to adjust a bit before youa ctually get married.

Like Sweetee said, a year is a good time to get to know someone. My husband and I had met and married in 13 months. There weren't any big suprises once he got here. The things we fought about before are the same things we still fight over now. The more time you give it, the more time you can figure out what these things are. Provided, of course, that you are both honest with each other.

My husband has almost been here a year. I have no regrets and though hard at times, it is a really wonderful thing.


I think it's smart to come here and to ask questions before you get too involved in a LDR. There are tons of people who've done it the right way and some who've made a few mistakes along the way. I met my husband in person but mainly our relationship was LDR. The challenge of the LDR is that the everyday things about relationships are hard to see from a distance. In an in-person relationship you can't see the look on someone's face or you don't always REALLY know how your SO will respond to challenging situations. Also when you visit your man in his country, he's in control. He knows what's going on around him. When people move to another country, you WILL see a different part of their personality -- esp. if they are accustomed to being in control.

My husband and I emailed or chatting almost every single day for two years. I asked tons of questions that I was supposed to ask. He's been here for six months and its been rough.

I encourage you to continue with your own journey. Pay attention to the details. Visit him as often as you can. If things work out, which they can, bring him here as a fiance. Contrary to conventional wisdom, LDR can work but they are also risky because of the distance. Good luck.
southernchicFemale02007-01-06 09:13:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHe is HERE!!!!!!
best wishes!!!!!!!! have fun!!!
southernchicFemale02007-02-04 21:54:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanTo my African sisters

I don't know of any advice as to what to do. All I know is that I would be furious if my husband made me hide my natural hair every day. I would feel very hurt. My husband has certain ways that he likes to see me style my hair, but if I don't there is not any issue about it. All I can say is that you should tell him that it hurts when he wants you to hide your natural hair.

I'm so sorry that he is like that.



I'd be furious, too. Being patient and polite about it is very nice. Unfortunately, I'm not one of those sistas. Best of luck!!!

S
southernchicFemale02007-02-19 18:45:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanTo my African sisters
Your experience sounds like a black woman's worse nightmare. I am an African-American woman who wears her hair naturally (i.e. short afro). I can't imagine dealing with a man -- esp my own husband -- being fixated hair to the point where wigs would be mandatory. I wish you the best of luck but I can't imagine that the solution will be easy. Perhaps you should go to some counseling. I say this bc his issues sound very deep to me.

Also I can't help but wonder why this man would try to force this kind of aesthetic on you. Hang in there. Be strong. You're beautiful, sister.

Sonya :angry:


I am new here. I never thought I would ask for advice about my American husband, but I am very sad. I am from Ghana and my husband is a white man from Minnesota. No need to go into details, I just want to get to the issue.

It's my hair! He hates my hair. I am mad today, because he keeps asking me if I went and got my hair done before we are to go to dinner tonight. It's not just going to get my hair relaxed or washed. He wants me to wear a wig EVERY DAY! Many East African women live in Minneapolis (Ethiopian and Somali) and have long silky hair. He knows that I don't have that type of hair, as my hair is short and thick. He makes me get a long front laced wig to cover my entire head to make it seem as if I have long hair. It's real hair and real expensive. He gets mad if I take it off, even at home. I did wear wigs sometimes when I met him, but he knows what my hair really is. I feel he is ashamed of me.

At first, he didn't say anything, but now it's become his obsession. I think he is trying to hide my African looks. I am angry! I am sick of this wig!

Help me before I strangle him with this wig!


southernchicFemale02007-02-14 20:44:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanvalidity of overseas marriages
With all of the news coverage about Anna Nicole Smith and her marriage to her lawyer in the Bahamas, the news media keeps saying that her marriage may not have been valid.

I don't know the details but its raised questions in my mind. If you are married overseas is there something that must be done to "validate" a marriage once the spouse is in the US?? Clearly, my husband's here and everything but I just wanted to know if there are any additional forms to fill out or if we have to also get married in the states to make sure its 100% valid. Forgive me if this question sounds dumb but I just gotta know if I missed something.

Also best wishes to those whose spouses have recently arrived in the US.
southernchicFemale02007-02-08 17:35:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSpeaking with your African family???
I speak to my husband's family from time to time. Most of them don't speak English. I don't speak their language except for basic greetings. So they will say hi to me. I say hi to them but I don't try to jump on the phone to say hi, hello, how are you?, okay.........bye.....

It just so hard to really get to know people when you don't speak the same language. My husband will do a little bit of translations but....I don't chat with them much.

:dance:
southernchicFemale02007-03-27 20:13:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMoving to the US from African/non-western cultures
I'm glad that the thread can be helpful. There are a lot of important issues that come with trasitioning to America (or any other country for that matter). Learning the common language and getting used to the the everyday cultural issues are two examples of what people will have to learn when they get here. Since my husband has been here there have been hundreds of little things for him to learn.

And what I've observed is that it can cause a significant amount of stress --- esp. if you're trying to be successful,, start a business and make a ton of money. I really would love to hear more from people who have transitioned or who are transitioning to get a sense of how they dealt with it all -- esp. those who've never lived outside if their own country.

Sonya

This is a great thread because it made me reflect on my own expectations as the American already living here.

Right now I am a university student, so working full time is quite a challenge. Though I am doing my best, my thinking up until reading this thread was that as soon as my fiance arrives, he would be able to start working too so that we would actually have enough money pay rent and bills, etc...and I am not even sure what kind of pressure he will have from back home to add to that!

But it occurred to me right now...how soon can fiance visa holders start work? Does it take several months to get the right paperwork... I know the SSN will take some time, but I was under the impression that there was a way to start work before having that.

I really appreciate any info so that my expectations dont get too crazy!


southernchicFemale02007-05-28 21:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMoving to the US from African/non-western cultures
Wow. So many great points. ;)

I'm glad ppl are receptive to this discussion the person who gets off the plane from their home country will be a different person in 6 months, 12 months and even years thereafter. Things do change. Both spouses have to be patient and open to learn. Thanks for all the support and the shared stories.

Who's going to write the first chapter of our Visa Journey Guide book???? I think we should call it International Dating/Marriage for Dummies.

Sonya

Hola Ladies,
To me, this discussion is one that probably needs to be repeated on a weekly basis as things constantly change as our loved ones arrive here, learn something new etc.

I agree with everyone who said to keep their husbands/fiances busy. That is one of the best things that one can do until they find work or start school. To follow-up on the original question, perhaps we all know that there might be sadness, unmet expectations or even depression after arriving and seeing the reality of living in the United States. To me the important thing is how that depression or sadness manifests itself. If your spouse can share those feelings with you and verbalize their beliefs, that would be great! Anything to get the discussion out in the open is tantamount to weathering that bumpy road. As was said before in may different ways, no matter how you talk about it, hearing about and living in America are two totally different thing


southernchicFemale02007-05-16 21:12:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMoving to the US from African/non-western cultures
Aww thanks. My husband's family isn't calling him all the time pressuring him for money. But I have to say that I didn't realize how much pressure he put on himself to save money, to have money and to become a success right away.

Sonya


My husband has been here three years and is still dealing with the stress of sending money home and accmulating debt. He is freaking out about all the debt he has accumulated. We had continuous discussions before he came to the U.S. about how it REALLY is in American plus he knew how hard I was struggling. It's a different story now that he's in it and his family is pressuring him to send money home. He recently changed his cell phone number so they can't call him anymore. Southernchic, I'm feeling you girl.....big time.....


southernchicFemale02007-05-16 20:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMoving to the US from African/non-western cultures
I agree with Jomo's girl that a lot of people from other countries are caught up in the image of US riches and wealth and some people WON"T realize the truth until they see it with their own eyes.

For example, I constantly complained to my husband about money before he moved here and even after he came to the US but....he still didn't get it until he started working and had to contribute and help pay bills. He expected to have more money saved and more disposable income.

And I won't lie I think iit is very common for people who come here and try to live up to the American dream. Even when they go home I've heard that people try to make it seem as if they're living large when they aren't.

My husband told me that he can't go home until he has money. I never realized how much pressure there was to make money. I've heard of people who don't go home for years because they don't have any REAL money.

when immigrants don't live up all these expectations right way -- no matter how unreal they are -- its bound to cause stress. Part of my reason for posting this story to just to show that not every visa journey story is all roses and romance. People come to the US with a lot of high expections. People, like me, who bring them here also have expectations. It's a lot of work. A lot of stress. And sharing these stories, perhaps we can support each other.

Sonya

No kidding. People seem to think that America has money trees that are always in season you just go and pluck whenever you want.
My finace already has a brother who moved here a few years ago and so he knows the process is not easy let alone living here. A couple of months ago he made me give him a list of all my monthly expenses and when he finished adding it all up he just went quiet. He couldn't believe it. Of course he was comparing it to how much he spends in Ghana but in America there are so many other things that we pay for that do not even exist in Ghana. The amount of money I pay for one month's rent on my one bedroom apartment could get me a freaking mansion in Ghana for five months.
I am just happy that my finace is willing to learn about these things and understands that my salary, which sounds wonderful in Ghanaian terms, is not all that much when you look at all the endless bills that keep coming. But I don't think the reality will hit him until he is here seeing it for himself.


Absolute truth.

I am going to say it again........NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY THEY UNDERSTAND, THEY WILL NOT UNTIL THEY EXPERIENCE IT. The first phone bill nearly blew Andre away. For some reason, he thought phone calls to Jamaica were free (even though I openly complained about the bills for months, years.....)


southernchicFemale02007-05-16 20:52:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMoving to the US from African/non-western cultures
My husband's been living in the US for less than a year now but is having a lot of stress and anxiety issues. Neither of us expected this at all.

For examplee, my husband had REALLY high expectations for starting his own business, making tons of money and learning everything as soon as he came here. Well, it hasn't quite worked out that way and he's been having some challenges.

As an American it suprises me that he has such a hard time recognizing that he's stress or telling me that he's stressed. And even more surprising is that he doesn't talk to his family about it. I never realized the expectations that folks back home have once someone leaves.

So it just makes me wonder how have others -- esp from nonwestern countries -- dealt with the stress and axiety of moving to the US and getting established???
southernchicFemale02007-05-12 20:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanCultural Dishes You Don't Think You will Ever Get Used To
I eat this food alittle but I'm not 100% used to it.....its call Kitfo.....basically beef tartare......rare ground beef and very popular in Ethiopia. The first time I tasted and I said, "Are you sure this is cooked." My husband said, "yes, its cooked." But when I looked at it and tasted it it just seemed like raw meat to me. Later I realized it REALLY was rare ground beef.

Lord the foods we eat for love and relationships.

Sonya


Fufu... and how he likes to eat the WHOLE chicken, fish, whatever.... :o (although not as bad as some I have seen in Cameroon)


southernchicFemale02007-05-16 21:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanCurious...
This is the cutest thing I've ever read. My husband from Ethiopia LOVES cats. He even wants to invite strays into our house. But when it comes to dogs he doesn't really feel as strongly as I do for them. I think dogs are the cutest. But no, my husband wants the dogs to just stay outside.

S

sorry i dont have a african husband but my arab loves cats...its just the cat hates him.

he started out hating dogs but since he let me get one for our second anniversay he cant help but to love the one i got. mr. heard heart kept saying...keep that thing away from me. i dont want anything to do with it. then one day he looked at her and said...i dont know what u have done, but u make me love u. after that he started sleeping on the couch with her all the time and i lost my bed partner to a dog.

hopefully ur husband will feel the same some day.

really isnt it funny how animals just know when someone dont like them and they torment the heck out of them.


southernchicFemale02007-06-11 21:19:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDoes faith in God insure successful marriage?
I've read a lot of people's view of faith and how it insures success in marriage. I thought I'd share this passage that sums up an alternative theology for people's reading.

Best innocent.gif

http://www.rbc.org/b...wers/30841.aspx


Isn't it a sign of deficient faith when a sick Christian isn't healed or a Christian isn't delivered from danger?

It would be a serious mistake to imply that deficient faith accounts for all instances in which a person does not receive healing or deliverance.

It's true that Scripture tells of people who were healed or delivered from danger because of their faith. Some examples are Gideon ( Judges 7:15-23 ); Naaman the Syrian ( 2 Kings 5:14-15 ); Shadrach, Meschach, and Abednego ( Daniel 3:19-29 ); the centurion's servant ( Matthew 8:13 ); the woman with an issue of blood ( Matthew 9:20-22 ); the man with a withered hand ( Matthew 12:9-13 ); and Peter's deliverance from prison ( Acts 12:5-12 ). Even this partial list is impressive.

Clearly, faith in God may result in healing and deliverance. However, the Scriptures also show us just as clearly that there are times when a believer's suffering or sickness has nothing to do with a lack of faith.

When Job lost his family, wealth, and physical health, his friends "comforted" him with the message that his loss and suffering were due to his own moral failure (his lack of faith). But Job was confident in his integrity before God. God Himself had declared him perfect and upright ( Job 1:8 ). Later, God Himself denied the explanation that Job's "counselors" gave for his suffering ( Job 13:1-15 ). Even more importantly, God Himself denounced their words ( Job 42:7-8 ).

Job's faith wasn't the problem. In fact, Job's faith in God was so strong that he, without cursing or disrespect, defended his integrity to God and questioned Him about the injustice of his suffering. Yet, in the midst of his agony, he continued to trust:


Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him. Even so, I will defend my own ways before Him. He also shall be my salvation, for a hypocrite could not come before Him (Job 13:15-16).


For I know that my Redeemer lives, and He shall stand at last on the earth; and after my skin is destroyed, this I know, that in my flesh I shall see God, whom I shall see for myself, and my eyes shall behold, and not another. How my heart yearns within me! (Job 19:25-27).

Job's faith was eventually rewarded and vindicated. But he wasn't spared the terrible suffering that allowed his faith to be tested and proven.

Even at a time when miracles often occurred, God allowed Stephen to be stoned ( Acts 7:59-60 ) and James to be beheaded. Although Acts 12 tells of Peter's supernatural deliverance from captivity in prison, Jesus had already prophesied that he would eventually die a martyr's death ( John 21:17-19 ), as (according to tradition) did all of the other disciples except John.

In 2 Corinthians 11:23-30 Paul eloquently described the suffering and trials from which he hadn't been delivered. He also suffered from a particular "thorn in the flesh" ( 2 Corinthians 12:7, 10 ) for which God had not provided a remedy. When Timothy suffered from a stomach ailment, Paul didn't exhort him to have greater faith. Instead he told him to take some wine as medicine ( 1 Timothy 5:23 ). There isn't the slightest hint in these passages that Paul's trials and Timothy's sickness were the product of unconfessed sin or deficient faith. In fact, rather than proclaiming that our faith in Christ should deliver us from the suffering and trials of this world, Paul extols the spiritual benefits of suffering.

We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance [produces] character, and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us (Romans 5:3-5).

James also made it clear that strong faith is no insurance against suffering:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4).

On the basis of Scripture, we can say that faith is always relevant to suffering. Our reaction to suffering -- whether in faith or in despair -- determines whether it will produce spiritual growth or despair. But because spiritual healing is more important to us than our physical circumstances, faith is not a barrier against suffering.

Whenever we are inclined to presume that the illness or suffering of another person is the result of that person's sin, we should recall the foolishness of Job's "counselors" in attempting to explain the mystery of God's will. Although faith won't always deliver us from tribulation, it will keep us conscious of God's promises and of the assurance that He will work everything out to good of His children ( Romans 8:28 ).



Dan Vander Lugt
southernchicFemale02007-12-20 00:41:00
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)Frankfurt Airport

12h? I would sleep. They have nice beach like lounge chairs you can sleep on.



thanks, I would love to get a few hours sleep. do you know where these chaise lounge chairs are located :) I do fly in pretty early, so hopefully that means I can get a chair earlier than most
Bibi and BeebtiMaleJordan2010-12-27 09:34:00
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)Frankfurt Airport
Hi all,

Im flying back home for the holidays on Lufthansa with a LOOOONG (12 hrs) stop at Frankfurt airport, and cannot leave Terminal 1.

Is there much to so do there? like shop, spa, food etc ...this is going to be the longest confined wait for a flight i've ever done :crying: I don't know how I'm going to handle it without a little entertainment (besides the usual book/magazine)

Is Frankfurt airport bearable... any suggestions would be appreciated, thank you :blush:
Bibi and BeebtiMaleJordan2010-12-22 15:39:00
Europe & Eurasia (except the UK and Russia)Travelling to France!!
I'm travelling to Paris for work :dance: I'd like to bring my wife (who is Jordanian) along with me. I understand getting her a visa would take two weeks. I also noticed there's an employment requirement, but unfortunately she has not yet been able to find a job. Would my own documents (bank statements etc) suffice ?

thank you in advance !
Bibi and BeebtiMaleJordan2011-08-23 12:41:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanlong distance relationship
When encounting a long distance relationship you really build on communication skills...It's hard for me who goes to UK every 2 to 3 months...so I can only imagine someone who may see once a year or every six months...

But you have to have patience...Even as I talk I know it's hard from time to time...I know to try to make my other half feel more closer he can usually figure out the pattern of my day without me even telling him...because he is so use to me keeping in communication on that part...

Have faith & trust in God...
For many year my family would have someone send letters or notes from Nigeria introducing themselves to me...and I would turn them down vowed to never ever have a long-distance relationship....God have it be it wasn't until I found my own mate in UK I viewed differently...because I could never understand how one could date someone from another country & maintain a relationship....I mean you think hey is you guy hanging to close to another girl and so forth....but out of all my past relationships this is the first one where I haven't thought of those things....people are going to do what they wanted- granted...however, as you become older and more wise in your spirit...you tend to look into the bible and understand the notion of being responsible for one person and that is self- You can't control what other's do...

There are too many things in life to worry about and the truth will always prevail...

Having a unique family makes me divided in culturals, but whole because of who I am...So it's always a fun task...sometimes the Nigerians don't understand me and sometimes the Americans don't understand me...That's what happens...when you are Nigerian-American descent....

ONE LOVE
NKII
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-10 16:40:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanlong distance relationship
Greetings...Queen...in Igbo we would call you Ezenwanyi=Queen...I'm Nigerian-American born raised in the US
Do you still talk to you friend in Nigeria?...Well no one can predict what life brings and life is worth taking risk...However, I understand your plight...but girl my cousin just came back from Nigeria...and she looks 10 years younger...the food is so fresh and healthy...Being there is like being in the US...you can be in parts that look like Hollywood and you can also end up in parts that look like the hood...However, I incourage people to go see that eye of the world...God is everywhere...and if the opportunity permits go see the other side of the world...you will never forget it...

And you never know how life works...you all may meet at the cornerstone again...

READ MARK 11:24 NIV....It is the truth indeed...just have faith and believe...

Hello, I am both a believer and non-believer in this long distance relationship thing. Back in 2004, I met by total accident a man I would still marry 10 yrs. from now if things were different.

We just stopped communications this April and it was not an easy task. For us the hardest part of being apart was finding a way to come together. Him being from Nigeria getting a visit visa was almost impossible, I am a single mother and didn't want to risk traveling so far away from my daughter, so after years of trying to find every loop hole in the INS system I decided it was time to start living my life here in the U.S. and not in front of a computer reaching out to Nigeria.

The man I met was WONDERFUL!! His family was very warm and open to me as well (they even sent me the money for my airfare to come to Nigeria) and if circumstances were different I'd be his wife today.

I can't really say to you that the journey you are about to enter into will be an easy one, though I wish I could. But rather give it some time...get a feel for him, his beliefs, how he will/would react to certain situations, and most importantly be honest and prepared for a long battle and possibly a trip overseas. There are just as many honest people in Nigeria as there are scammers and its hard to know the difference. My only hope is that your man is a great as the one I had and had to let go. As it has been said before:

A bird and a fish can fall in love, but where are they going to live?

Best of luck,
Ugo


NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-05 20:42:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanlong distance relationship
Uche for Uchenna...or many other names with Uche being short...
Well for starters I don't know where you are in your relationship right now...but for starters it is quite common to see an African man say he loves you quickly...even in person...but you have to believe in your heart what's true...Imagine when a child is born you love it...and though only carrying that child for 9 months you have gathered a bond...but you gathering a bond with a little person that you have never seen before in person until you give birth...
Interesting...HUH...Well I was born here in the US and one parent is Nigerian and the other is American and I was bought up in the American culture...However, due to friends...and interacting...also in my Nigerian/African culture as well...

So maybe if I hadn't experienced it first hand I would say the guy is nuts...

But a geniune african man is taught to date or be seen in public with someone who is at high standards to be a wife...However, men are men so it doesn't mean that they aren't just seeing any girl before they decide to settle down with their other half...

I learned to spend more time now days figuring myself out...more than the other person...because 9 times out of 10 we know a person ways as time progressed and we tend to ignore certain things to spare our feelings...good and bad...

Take care and remain blessed!!!!!!!

hi all
im new to this site. i met a guy online a few weeks ago in a chatroom and he is from nigeria. we have been chatting everyday and emailing each other. we have talked on the phone also a few times. i like this guy a whole lot and am really starting diggin him. it's pretty cool. he has already told me he loves me and it just surprises me that he did already. i just want to know if this internet dating really works and if it does how do you handle the distance between the 2 of you.


NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-05 20:33:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLagos Interview Experience
THANKS FOR KEEPING EVERYONE POSTED....


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Nkiru
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-24 14:41:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPACKET 3 YES...60 days...since journey started...!!!!
MY HONEY JUST CALLED ME PACKET 3 CAME TODAY!!!!!!! IS GOD BLESSING US OR WHAT!!!!!!!!!! NOW ANOTHER HURDLE TO GET COMPLETE TO THE NEXT STEPS...
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-26 12:15:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHOW LONG CAN U HOLD ON 2 PACKET 3
Look please don't target out on me...1 is it that serious...have I done something wrong 2 you...2 if you look at this whole website...you will see more than likely that questions have repeated themselves over...I mean I have never had to go this far to justify myself with anyone on this site before...I won't be the first or the last to post something...and for the mere fact that my questions is pertained for whom ever choses to answer it...

Please have a nice day...I think we are both wasting time on here explaining view points that at the end of the day it has nothing to do with whatever I posted...

Now unless the whole VJ's are going to punish me...it was an honest mistake...however, it really isn't a mistake...OK...

Thank you and I hope that you continue on with best wishes of your Journey and plesant experience on here as many other VJ's...

HAVE A BLESSED DAY!!!!!!!
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-26 14:46:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHOW LONG CAN U HOLD ON 2 PACKET 3

Now is it necessary to post the same post 3 times? Or to the Africa:Sub-Saharan region if you are from the UK? :wacko:


Thank you for stating your opinion...however, it is a very important question for me...and this could be in regards to someone from any part of the world...therefore, not everyone looks into each post...and at this stage of the process and many of us on here with various issue I felt it was important...

However, if you weren't sure that you knew advisable information pertaining to my question...then I hope by me posting in other areas on the board has not affected or offended you in anyway...nor stop you from being able to surf the board pertaining to other topics...I find it best if I'm not sure about something to say nothing at all or direct the person as best I can...we are only human and all here as a support system for one another...

Thank you and have a blessed day...I wish everyone well...

Additionally I live in the US...but I am Nigerian-American (born in US of Nigerian desent) and my fiance lives in UK but a Nigerian-citizen...Therefore when I write I can post in UK area and Africa and US based on our cultural society...and it's a general question that could reach anyone...

Edited by Nkybaby, 26 January 2007 - 02:06 PM.

NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-26 14:02:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHOW LONG CAN U HOLD ON 2 PACKET 3
How long do you have to complete packet 3?...Like because we are waiting for a few things...what is the max time frame...On my noa2 it says valid between Jan 10th-May 10th...So would it be okay to turn the Packet 3 back in lets say March/April...as long as it is before the NOA2 expires...

Thanks in advance...
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-26 12:59:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHERE's ONE...make sure to always follow-up...

Naija all the way!!!!!!.............Ur guy in Jand has been keeping you in tune. Like that! Keep trucking and hey goodluck to u both


Yeah it's kind of neat...I was born here in the US, but I have one parent that is Nigerian and the other that is American...So I've kind of already gone down the cycle of blending both cultures...


Thanks...
NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-25 11:22:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHERE's ONE...make sure to always follow-up...


Kedu!!!! Odimma!!!...Yeah...you know I have to show my igbo pride...and of course...American too...HELLO...See what happens when you have parents (Nigeria/US) from different parts of the world...

And of course my honey...is Naija all the way!!!!!!!! So I'm back from my visit...in UK!!!! And things are moving along since I last posted in this section...


Okay I just had to change my timeline again...It seems that you can receive on thing in the mail...and when you call to speak to a live person you get another things...

Okay my NOA2 was approved via email on 1/10/07 and I got in in the mail on 1/16/07...Then on 1/22/07 I got a letter from NVC dated 1/18/07 that they received the approval I-129F petition...and that in 1 week it would be forwarded to the embassy in London...

Okay...

So I called today the NVC gave them my case # and found out that NVC had actually mailed my file out on 1/12/07 and it arrived in London (US Embassy) on 1/17/07....

I mean everything is cool and seems to be running smoothly...so far...but it's funny how they can mail you letters when the information is not written in updated format...but if we send in any incorrect paperwork they are ready to give you a RFE or find some reason to reject you or investigate you...

Isn't life grand...!!!

But it's cool to think that London got the file the day I landed in London to visit...my honey...

Also isn't it funny...this time around the immigration officer at the airport...wanted to give me a hard time about me have frequent trips back and forth to UK...1st time I stayed 8 days...second time 4 days and this time 5 days...They wanted to know what kind of work I did that allows me time off and blah, blah, and why I like visiting family/friends so much...

I was felt like geez lady it's 7am in the morning....I just want to get some sleep...

But all in all it was cool...and the trip was awesome...

Edited by Nkybaby, 24 January 2007 - 02:26 PM.

NkybabyFemaleUnited Kingdom2007-01-24 14:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaJamaica Interview
My sister said when she was passing by there she saw a long line and thought it was a big job opportunity to go to foreign :rofl: and I was telling her no it was because everybody got denied due to the date on the Police record date.
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-06-16 07:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaNo Copy of Birth Certificate
Hey Matt,

Did you file out the form for them to sent you the original documents or did you send for the BC? I am trying to figure out what to do in my fiance's case. I think his visa is ready, but he will call them DHL to confirm. I am having him look about his BC and son's while he is still there and have a relative post it to us here.
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-07-20 01:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies at home and a farrin, Part 27!

LMAO, Sasha!

After the recent discovery in Tivoli that was printed in the Star, I heard they made a new sign:

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I know I am late on this, but I don't remember seeing an Autozone in Jamaica and in particularly in the ghetto. I could be wrong its been a min since, I've been to and through Kingston, but Autozone would have definitely stuck out
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-06-18 22:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies at home and a farrin, Part 27!
Ha ha, second person on the new thread :dance: :dance: :rofl:

Also, if you squint very closely to the map you can see dudus swimming towards aruba :rofl: . Just playing!!
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-06-16 07:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaUpdated Packet 3 from Embassy in Jamaica

No, hit's only the medical he needs the embassy letter for :thumbs:

Thanks JaPrincess
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-05-18 21:22:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaUpdated Packet 3 from Embassy in Jamaica

The police record and non-impediment forms are good for one year and I suggest you get them ASAP!!


The RDG is no joke (took 5 months to get ours) and you want to know that you have a clean police report right away...


Lawny used to always tell people to get the police report before they file a thing.


Probably good advice!

I think it depends on which office you go to. He will be going to the office in St Ann's Bay. For the police record, dont they have to have documentation from the embassy to say why they need it or is it only when they go for their medical they need that from the embassy. If he doesn't need it, I will have him go look about it early next week.
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-05-13 21:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaUpdated Packet 3 from Embassy in Jamaica
Thanks MRSTee, I told my fiance about those. He is going to look about his son's passport at the RGD and do the no-imped same time. Police record I think he needs to wait until he gets the letter from the embassy.
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-05-11 09:45:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaUpdated Packet 3 from Embassy in Jamaica
Thanks sugarapple, because the ds-160 was throwing me off. I am goig to get started on two of the forms ad prit them at work ad sit down with fiance and go over ds-156 with a fine comb.
Sasha_CoolFemaleJamaica2010-05-10 22:54:00