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Africa: Sub-SaharanIt's been a while
Linguere,
I missed your story. Thanks for sharing. I had shared the same story of sitting in Cafe's before I read your story. My husband had hand written items of what he would say to me in the cafe. I believe he was giving them to men in the cafe to email to me.



Well, I haven't logged on in a long while, and today I found myself lurking over here for a brief moment. I actually have my first day of rest in almost a year and a half, and so I thought it would be interesting to check and see what's going on these days. Idocare, I remember your story (your have persevered!) and how everyone used to attack you for speaking the truth. I do think that most people do not come back and share their stories, or they do so in the other forums. The reality is, and anyone who has ever spent considerable time in a so-called third world country will testify to this, that most people have NO IDEA what lengths people will go to to romance someone in Europe or America. The chat rooms are full of men doing just that...some even pay others to sit in the internet cafe all day to nurture that relationship. I have to say that I knew my husband's culture very well. I met him in his country. I spent time with his family, his friends...he was well-known in his country. Even if the family is good (and not in on the scam), it doesn't really help you because culturally, no one will come forward and say this guy is bad. It just rarely happens. People say they are good,even when they are suffering. I speak my husband's language well enough to navigate the country on my own. I was arrogant and thought that I couldn't get cheated because I have been around Senegalese people for decades. I think I am more assimilated into Senegalese culture than my husband is. At the end of the day, the immigration process doesn't allow us to really know them well enough to see many things prior to signing our lives away on the AOS. It's kind of a gamble (as is any relationship) of the highest degree. I don't think books or even knowing or reading about the culture will help you to see the scandals that may await you. People can pretend so well that you won't suspect a thing. For me personally, I am still unsure if I was used solely for a GC. I think my husband is not a good guy and has never had a responsible day in his life. He is a liar and a cheater. That has nothing to do with me. I was, however, used, while he had at least one relationship going (and many more conversations) since our child was a few months old. The conversations with other women took place a couple of weeks after that I know about, but I'm quite sure that he was cheating on me the entire time that I have known him. What is certain is that he had a plan. I don't know how many people knew what he was planning and he played his part well enough to fool every single person in my life. I think the best advice I can offer is to always ask yourself if you would date this person if they were in the U.S. and ask yourself if you would marry the person in the U.S. having known the person for the same amount of time/contact. Men can fool us anywhere, but for a person abroad, there is much more at stake than a relationship. I can be a future for their entire family. Most people you meet on the streets abroad don't have any real knowledge of life in the U.S. They think it is as they see it in movies. They think marriage to a U.S. citizen is a ticket to an easy life. If you are easy on the eyes, well, then even better! Certainly, having children with you makes for good evidence. My own husband was about to be denied his visa until they saw the ultrasound report of my pregnancy. If we keep those things in mind, we can make better decisions. Relationships will always be a gamble. This one, though, can be very, very costly to the USC once they have signed the AOS. THat's 10 years or MORE and divorce does not free you. I never thought that I would marry someone abroad (because of what I have seen both in Africa and here [greencard marriages in the states too!] ), but I did. Personally, I would never do it again. After this monster that I married, I'm pretty sure that I won't marry again at all. Having to deal with him for the rest of my life is painful punishment enough. That said, I'm sure that there are numerous happy endings. When I say happy endings, I mean 3-6 years out of the process. I think having a good understanding of the difficult adjustment process is also helpful. THe vets like Taurean are great about that. I think that we should celebrate the happiness!!! God knows we all put so much time and energy into the process. Let us be happy for those that are happy. Let us also tell the truth. Everyone has a right to share their story. Idocare, hugs to little Victor. Blessings to everyone on their journey!


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2010-05-26 08:21:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
Yes, WE have mittins, hat, gloves, and jacket ready to pick him up. Hot Cocoa... great idea. Let me get my thermest.

QUOTE (boo boo @ Dec 19 2008, 04:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That is so awesome, make sure you have a nice winter coat and hot cocoa for him smile.gif Keep us posted and many blessings



I remember feeling excited for everyone. Imagining just how great that reunion feels. I can't believe it is my turn. I have been floating around the office all day.

QUOTE (mstamiz2much @ Dec 19 2008, 05:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow. Congratulations. I get so excited reading these type of posts I feel as if it is my own SO coming home! I wish your family the best, Im sure you now feel it is complete.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 18:24:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
I promise that MIchael and I will have you both in our prayers morning in night until Monday.

Winter Blizzard outside. I am not afraid to drive in this weather, but i will be on the road really late for 4 hours. Might want to take a nap or get a hotel.

QUOTE (kelly1290 @ Dec 19 2008, 02:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Missy, I am as excited as you are!!! I am so happy Michael is on his way home. I hope there will be no delays to Boston as the ice storm we had last night is headed your way, so lets pray that he makes it before that arrives because it is quite a mess. Keep my Mike in your prayers throughout the weekend as his interview is on Monday at 1 p.m. I will be glad when this is finally over.

Enjoy your husband,

Deb


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 18:21:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
13 hour flight from Nigeria. Lands in ATL at 5:30 pm. Then leaves Atlanta at 10 pm.

I am so excited once I woke up to no messages on my cell phone saying he did not make the flight.

I am beside myself. My son sprung out of bed this morning. That is a miricle in itself.

God is Good!

QUOTE (faryan @ Dec 19 2008, 10:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
is he there yet???? kicking.gif


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 10:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
Hello VJ family,

My husband left Nigeria at 10:00 a.m. (4:00 a.m. my time) on a direct flight to Atl Georgia then to Boston airport. It did not hit me until yesterday around 3:00 pm when I said He is leaving tomorrow.

Well storm warnings in effect for the New England area. Hopefully he will not be delayed in Atl.

I will keep you all posted!

Thanks for your support and prayers.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 05:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
QUOTE (LovinLiberia @ Dec 29 2008, 08:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
MrsJibowu, I'm glad you opened your eyes and decided to take another look at the story. I was about to PM you because I was concerned when I saw you invite him (a stranger) to your home for dinner. It's okay to offer help to someone in need, but you gotta be careful with how much help you offer, woman. star_smile.gif

Thank you for your concern. I typed my first post from my heart with out any thought to consequences or what anyone might find wrong with my post. I get carried away on this site at time and forget that there is someone out there that is just waiting for you to write something they can find so sad and pathetic yet said nothing about my initial generosity.


My husband was rubbing of on me. How welcoming everyone is in his country, which makes me also understand what a predicament this poster could possibly be in if his post were true or with good intention. My husband is my true inspiration!

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-30 06:20:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Considering that someone sent me an email concerning my generous and compassionate offer. This particular VJ’r has not posted in this thread. Making me aware that she to though this post did not make sense and was worried I might be scammed from my generosity. This was not my thought, but I have to agree that something is suspicious.

Nah, I am not really the fraud expert, I just play one on the internet.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 16:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
I have to say my first response was compassion and trust, but as I returned for follow up messages and responses. There are red flags all over his post. Beginning with the fact that his post was 5 am. Now because I do not know if that is my time, his time or visa journey’s time I did not draw attention to this. He stated he was in a shelter that I am assuming does not have internet access at that time of the morning.
His note was very detailed, but at the same time awfully vague. Reading his first post again, it seems like he was in Maine. In his 2nd post he is someplace that he didn't even mention in his first post. His responses to our questions were vague and indirect, which just leads me to believe that this story is false.

Since I am chief fraud police and informant, I must render my determination that this post has con and fake spelled out all over.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 15:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
QUOTE (Aunt Bee @ Dec 29 2008, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Good morning all. Hope all is well with everyone on-board.

All I can say is "WoW"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


"One night with the King, changes everything, one day in his courts will forever change your course"


AMEN!
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 13:11:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Hello,
Your story is sad and distressing. Are you still in Maine? My husband will arive from Nigeria tomorrow. I would welcome sharing his number so you two could meet. Love to have you over for dinner, Christmas even service at my church. My husband is a pastor, I have several Nigerian friends in the maine area that could support you through this difficult time.

Best regards,
Mrs. Jibowu

QUOTE (boye @ Dec 19 2008, 04:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Top of the day,

Infact it's my first time of going through all these and to be real with you. I came into the STATE [US] on May this year and things never been the same it was when she visited me in Nigeria. 'm a rugby coach back home before I quit and came down and ofcourse she don't want me to pay the tickect and she did, now 'm thinking maybe that's why 'm going through these.

Ever since I was here, she's been complaining that 'm not eating what she cook but this shouldn't be harsh on me cos most of my foods back home was rejected by her and she called it ''horrible'' . Sure we got married in June and she used to keep my letters away from me saying that '' it's all junked, after all she paid for my ticket to be here '' she never allows me to talk to my manager or friends back home, I hardly spoke with my family back home [ parents ] I can't respond back if anybody says ''hi'' to me cos she'll be mad. She said it to my face that '' If you think in anyway you're getting your paper file , you're just wasting your time '' and she later says it's because she was angry that 'm not holding her or talking [ we're at the greyhound bus station in Virginia at the time ].

No stable place, we're just traveling around and besides 've travelled more than people that has live here for twenty years!

've being to Virginia from here [ New York ]. Virginia to Maine [ at motel 6 with her two sons '' keith-22yrs/Dylan-17yrs '' back to Portland in motel 6 and we ended up at her ex husband cos they all said [ mother & sons ] '' this is not their father '' there's a good job and I moved with them. We ended up sending out of his house though I figures some kind of game between them. I was helped with transport by some Nigerians down there and able to buy my own phone cos despite keith telling her I needed a phone, she never respond until August 06th,2008. And I got kicked out on August 15th cos I called my own mother back home [ $2.00 international call ] As of now, 'm in shelter [ Many story to say ] 've being to DSS and they put me here [ for two weeks, since Dec. 5th friday till 19th friday ] .

I was at Immigration Office that friday and they asked me to write how we met and all, and I did. They felt sorry and said they're going to follow my case and b'cos of my situations, they printed out the forms I-360 [ AMERASIAN ] . Infact they gave me some lunch [ was shocked and I appreciate that ]. A lot to say, I keep going back based on her email sent to me saying things will be fine but it keep getting worsen.

Thank you for been there.

A friend from VisaJourney.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 10:16:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPreparation of SO arrival
Congratulations!
We are going on our 2nd week together. Still amazing. Today I woke up (4:00 a.m.) to a pot of coffee and some toast. I come home to a clean house, which only happend once a week before.

We will have to work on the college thing too. This morning he filled out his SS application.

God is Good!
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-31 07:02:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam



Ok, spoke with brother in-law regarding the website. He stated he would go to his local African Market and purchase some pounded Yam to send to us. He is just so sweet.

I cooked some Jolof rice that would have come out right, but I left the African husband home alone to finish the last step of the African meal. My sister in-law at the last minute called to say that I had to pick my nieces up that should have been dropped off an hour ago.
All he had to to was ad the rice and vegetables to the pot when the timer went off. He created a new pot of water to cook the rice and vegetables. I had a little break down. LOL Communication and patience. He had cooked a pot of rice for the jolof rice already that day. I said honey, I cant use that rice. He wants to do everything he can to help and make my life easier. WOW I did not know these men existed. I told him that I needed to cook the rice inside the sauce I am going to make so that it absorbs the flavor and spices. Despite that already established communication, he still added the rice to a new pot of water. AAUUUGGGHHHH
Ok, I just found out that my husband never cooked. Ministers wives had always done the cooking or a close pastor/friend of his.

I did cook some beef stir fried rice for him. He said Honey; I did not know you could cook African rice. So he was very please with that meal. I am a great cook so good things are to come for him.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-05 13:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam
I just printed the recipe for Jollof rice this morning. I will make it for him thsi new years. Yes my husband is being fed, but not satisfied.

I checked one of our local AFrican markets that did not have anythign to do with yam, powder or pounded.

I looked in Yahoo yellow too. We have one that I will stroll to check out. They did not answer the phone very friendly, so I though a quick stroll would be better then asking questions.

Thanks!!
QUOTE (boo boo @ Dec 29 2008, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have not purchased anything online, but I have looked in yahoo's yellow page for some ethnic food markets. If you want to PM me your zipcode, I will see if I can find you anything. We have found pounded yam and other nigerian foods at a caribbean shop...that is where we get our fufu. Let me know if I could be any help, when my hubby got here..he ate alot of chicken stew and jollof rice smile.gif To this day he does not really like American food. I think that I really need to learn how to cook pepper soup, egousi, bitterleaf soup, etc so that Charles can say that his wife knows how to fill his belly smile.gif


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 14:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam
I spoke with a friend from Africa yesterday requesting information on African Yams. He stated thath the closest was Worcester MA or NY. I did not know about Powdered yam at the time. I will follow up with him. Where exactly are these african Markets. I work on Cumberland Ave.
I could take a stroll this afternoon.

Your phone is ringing.

QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 29 2008, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did you try any of the african markets in Portland?? There are several in the congress street area that carry African foods. I'm not sure if they have what ur looking for, but worth a shot??

Edited by MrsJibowu, 29 December 2008 - 12:17 PM.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 12:16:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam
Yes, I would appreciate the help.
I wouldnt mind getting the real yam, closest place to me is 3 hours in Mass or 5 hours in NY.

He is already tired of American food. He enjoys them, but they are just not satisfying.



QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Dec 29 2008, 11:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have several stores somewhat locally . I can make a couple calls to see if any of them ship or have a recommendation. I am on the wrong side of the country from you though


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 12:08:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam
Ok, I am interested in surprising my husband with Pounded Yam and some Pepper soup. This website sells the spice for the soup and the Pounded Yam flour, but I not trusted site verified. Has anyone ordered anything from this site or have a site they recommend buying stuff from?
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 11:48:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanhi there
Yes I know that excitement. The joy of experiencing his presences is overwhelming. I float through the office.

I found pounded yam online, but not at a trusted site.

This New years I will cook Jollof Rice.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-29 13:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanI neeed Help what to DO?
I have read in other areas where you petition for them both at teh same time. IMportant to use seperate forms

QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jan 8 2009, 11:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am sorry to ask this, but reading your story made me think of something.

I could be wrong about this but I am going to propose this just in case.

I thought that you had to bring the adult over first and then petition for the children (I hope I am making sense here) If I am correct that would mean that someone would need to care for your stepson until you petitioned for him. What if something in that situation has thier suspicions up? So they are looking extra hard for the mother\possible wife??

I dunno I could be way off here, I just thought of it when I was reading the story.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-09 09:17:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanI neeed Help what to DO?
If you have not been denied, you are in good hands. What form did he get after his 2nd interview?

If he was not denied did they give him another AP g221? They tooks his passport, which I had considered as usually a good sign. Until they make a deccission you can't determine what move is next. But you congress person will be able to bring attention to your case.



We never have any control unfortunately. This is a very trying experience. Wow 2 years is a long time. My husband had his AP and passed so there is a purpose behind this madness.

QUOTE (Heart Broken @ Jan 8 2009, 09:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm just frustrated that after all of this time.... This is what is holding the case up? Part of the investigation should automatically check things like this. If after almost 2 years of background checks and they never check this than what are they doing? What type of background checking are they doing? It seems more like wasting time!!!!! I am just clearly very upset and frustrated that I have no control.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-08 10:42:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanI neeed Help what to DO?
Another thought:
As I stated if they denied his case, because he was married they need proof. They thought that my husband age and status in his country it is unusual for him not be have been married. So they did their checks and come up with nothing. He is here now with me after being on AP. Now I think that it is wierd and unusual that such a love, paitent, caring generouse man was never married. I guess he was wiating for little old me in cold ars maine.

You need to get your congressman person involved. You need to keep your case at the embassy. You need to hire a lawyer, if in fact your case is denied. If they do not have physical proof of your husband's marriage then you can fight this. If they do, then it will be a hard battle I assume.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-08 07:10:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanI neeed Help what to DO?
I am sorry to hear your situation. If the Embassy is going to deny your case because your husband is married, They have to have documented proof or visited the home to discover his wife.

My husband was put on AP. Our documents were verified (4 fraud) and they visited his home to make sure he was not married. If they came back to say that he was married, I would not know if my husband was lying or not. I had only known my husband for a year. I am thankful for the additional security that went behind our case at the embassy level. People are married for two years for GG that do not know if their husband is lying or not.

So far in this forum I have never heard someone come and say, my husband's case was denied and I am thankful they found out what they did for me to prevent further heartache in the US.


Now here are some question that I have that might assist you in analyzing the situation further.
Where is the toddler's mother? She welcomes loosing her son so he can move to Africa with his father?
No obvious many people might think that I want the best for my son, so yes if going to America is the best then that is what should happen.
If the husband agrees with the son being taken away from the mother to move to America, we know that he agrees that prize for his son is America.

When my husband chose to come to US, my question was why didn't he want to stay behind to help his country. Now if I was in your situation, I (just me and not to make it true for anyone else) I would say..."why would a father take his child from his mother"'
Now I typed all this if the child's mother has passed, for nothing because it would be irrelevant.

There are several forums here that speak on men coming to the US to seek the GG through marriage. Maybe you should read through some for other peoples experience.



QUOTE (Heart Broken @ Jan 8 2009, 04:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I came here for help. Many people here are experienced and knowledgeable and I am hoping that in my case I can get some help.

I filed a K-3 for my husband and stepson. Our case has been delayed for administrative review. We have been waiting for about 8 months for a conclusion to our case.

In December we had a "second" interview where only my husband and stepson (toddler) were able to attend. During the interview my husband was asked very few questions. The focus of the questions asked were about my husbands marital status. The interviewer wanted to know if he was ever married or divorced before me, if he married his baby's mom and who he resided with. He answered the questions and was informed that someone will be in touch with him, he gave them his passport and was sent on his way. My husband has never married before me, had never had a divorce, and lives in a large house with his siblings, no other woman and no outsiders.

Since the last "interview" I have called the embassy for a conclusion to my husband's last visit at the embassy. I was told someone would call him by the end of business, to someone will call by the end of next week. The following week after that I was informed that all investigations on him have been completed. Please be patient that the counselors office must call him and give any further information and the conclusion for the last visit.

I waited for the holiday season to pass and called yesturday. The begining of my trama might I add. I called like I always do and spoke to the same person as usual. I know that the officer knows my voice by now because he only asks for the beneficiaries last name and no longer asks for the case number. I was placed on hold for like 10min, then he comes back and asks what did my husband say about the last visit to the embassy. I told him nothing except that you will be in touch. He pauses and says that my husband is married. I say yes I Know TO ME. He tells me no to someone else. I say who, to his baby's mom? The man continues that I must talk to my husnband and get any further information from him and if I need any further assistance or have any further questions to call him back. I press him again for a name and he tells me that he lives with this wife. But for right now to call my husband for any further information. I tell him ok I will call my husband. I called my husband immediately and told him that the embassay said that you are married. He said Yes to You. I said no the embassay is saying that you have 2 wifes and that you are living with her now. He told me that this is not true and that I am the only person that he has ever married and that there is no way possible that he is married to anyone else. I asked him if there where any legal papers that he signed for his son that may make him wonder if you are married to someone else. He responded no, nothing like that has happened. Now I know my husband and I know when he is lying and he is not lying. Our families are intertwinded and I see my inlaws and talk to my husbands siblings regularly so it's a little different situation as far as communication is concerned.

With this comformation in tow, I called the embassy again. I spoke to the same man and repeated to him that my husband is only married to me. He said ok that he would have to investigate this information. I asked him was this information that the embassy found out during there investigation or is this information someone has given to them. He said that it was given to them. Then he goes on to say that it will take time to complete this research and invesitagtion and that it takes time and they are not going to rush through the invesitgation and did I understand? I replyed that I understand and that was the end of the conversation.

I am so upset, confused and not sure what to think. I do think that the man at the embassy was talking to me like that so I don't call back like I was irritaiting to him. I wonder all of this time if the investigations were completed like he said or if he was saying anything to me to get me off the phone? I was calling like once a week for the last 2 months. Then I am pissed because I think that this should have been part of their origninal background check. And what also adds more injury to a bad situation, anyone can call and say anything to delay the process and they must investigate. I am okay with them being thorough. That's fine do your job, but if you are going to listen to people I want then to know where the information is comming from and if it's false they should be penalized for false allegations. They are wasting everyones time and the governments resources. I'm pissed that the officer was playing games with me. Instead of just saying there are allegations against him, he presented the imformation to me like it was factual. The extra stress and agony he has caused me and my husband is totally unfair. I am hoping someone has a thought or an idea of anything that I can do. This is rediculus, my husband and I have been in the immigration system for almost 2 years. I am pissed that the officer tried to push buttons to see what responce he would get. Please help frustrated and crying.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-08 05:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
QUOTE (xoxo @ Jan 10 2009, 09:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lol my hubby wanted to drive after 2 days he is ready . i am happy because all i have to do is sit therei dont like driving much. he had drove big trucks at home before, so this will work for him he just needs the licence. This is cool until he can go to school. please send me a pm on where he went etc .

Thanks


I can't wait until I do not have to be the driver. I think it is good right now, while I deal wth the learning curve of other things that I keep driving or reduce my coffee intake .

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-11 06:07:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
I called to ask what he needed to do to get he liscense. She said that he had to fill out an application to take the written test the once past hwe would take the road test. She said he could drive on his liscense for one year on his nigerian one.


QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Jan 10 2009, 03:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Jan 9 2009, 02:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Called Maine DMV.
He can drive on his internation liscense for one year. kicking.gif
Send in applicaiton for the test. Then they will schedule a drivers test.



Are you sure about this?? I called the dmv yesterday about this very thing. They told me they can only drive on their international license here if they are a student?? I'm not doubting you, just frustrating when two people get two different answers to the same question.............


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-10 15:50:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
That is great! I laugh how much he reads and studies this book. I would skim through the night before the test.
Today I talked to him about the road as we drove teaching him about signs and lines.

QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jan 10 2009, 01:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He drove with me until he felt comfortable going out on is own. He would drive and I would be the passenger and give him guidance. I got him a book and he diligently studied the laws. Now he has a CDL licence and he ia a professional driver.

good.gif


QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Jan 10 2009, 12:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My husband has been diligently studying for week. I printed it off the Internet in PDF.
He says he still doesn't want to drive until he needs to.

After all our learning experience, I feel afraid to send him out into the big world in a vehicle.

How did your hubby handle this"?


QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jan 9 2009, 08:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I recomend getting him a book to study the laws...you can get one from the local DMV. Driving in the US and driving in Nigeria are TOTALY different....




Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-10 15:15:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
My husband has been diligently studying for week. I printed it off the Internet in PDF.
He says he still doesn't want to drive until he needs to.

After all our learning experience, I feel afraid to send him out into the big world in a vehicle.

How did your hubby handle this"?


QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jan 9 2009, 08:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I recomend getting him a book to study the laws...you can get one from the local DMV. Driving in the US and driving in Nigeria are TOTALY different....

Edited by MrsJibowu, 10 January 2009 - 02:50 AM.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-10 02:49:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
Called Maine DMV.
He can drive on his internation liscense for one year. kicking.gif
Send in applicaiton for the test. Then they will schedule a drivers test.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-09 14:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
Hello,
My husband's here on a CR1. Does he have to have a temporary liscense? or can he just take the tests?
Thank you in advance for any assistance in this matter.
Mrs. J
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-09 12:08:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhy the long wait before interview is scheduled
QUOTE (aba anoma @ Jan 13 2009, 11:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
okay, i've never seen that attached chart before,

Chart was derived from VJ Immigration Timeline search for petitions going through Ghana then sorted by Interview date. I cut and pasted it into a spread sheet. Click link below to see actual data.

VJ Immigration Timelines
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-15 05:05:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhy the long wait before interview is scheduled

Average for most seems to be 4-6 months.


QUOTE (jamesandwanda @ Jan 13 2009, 04:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks a lot.

Are the K1's scheduled the same as the CR1's?


QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Jan 13 2009, 04:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Attached File  time.GIF   20.73KB   18 downloadsI gave you the days of wait time in this immage. They are scheduling April intervie nows. See attachement



Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-13 18:41:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhy the long wait before interview is scheduled
Attached File  time.GIF   20.73KB   18 downloadsI gave you the days of wait time in this immage. They are scheduling April intervie nows. See attachement
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-13 16:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanVisa in HAND!
I know that feeling that money cannot buy. I share your joy, so thanks for sharing.


QUOTE (WonTanNara @ Jan 20 2009, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

Finally! After 239 days of AP and waiting almost an entire year for this K1 process, my fiance has his visa in his hand.

Zee Bee, you can update your tracker, he picked it up today 20-Jan. AP ended 24-Dec.

Whoo hoo!


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-20 12:48:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanhubby got visa in 5 days through dakar, now on his way home!
Congratulations!
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-27 10:00:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanEmbassy wants MORE proof of Relationship. What Now??
Hello,
Wow, I have to say to your evidence. To be honest, I only spoke with my husband 1 every 3-4 days for no more then 10 minutes. We emailed each other on an average of 1-2 times a week often skipping weeks. I only visited him 1 time.

I think our age and his verifiable back round was what solidify our relationship. They had a hard time believing that at his age he had never been married. He has had a relationship that was not solidified. His travel with the ministry prevented him from settling down.

I collected all our email in a folder. Then I prented the page that showed the contents of the folder which stated the dates , replies, and forward. Then I printed about two emails within each month that had a long back and forth correspondence. I had sent him money orders for special occasions. He sent me items on a couple of occasions. Until I found out just how much it cost him to do this. I never once mailed him anything until the interview.

I think they are looking for emails that show some sort of typical behavioral communication. I think it is great that you will be there. Your love, commitment,and devotion will shine through with every answer!

Mrs.J
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-01-03 15:42:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPASSED K-1 INTERVIEW
Congratulations!

QUOTE (shefellfromheaven @ Feb 10 2009, 03:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi Vjers

I feel so humbled to let you all know that i have passed my interview ( K-1) kicking.gif kicking.gif picking my visa next week . It was from this website (thru vjers experience )that we got to learn and know a lot about this process. Thank you for your support and every person who made this journey worth waiting. We still have a long way to go, and we hope to be together in the journey. Thanks a mill.

HAve a blessed day rose.gif

Jaqi


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-10 13:47:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHELP
It pains my heart to read your story. Contact your congress people. I wish you a speedy recovery of your case to the correct embassy.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-25 05:01:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S OUTTA MY HANDS!
That is great news! Your journey will be expedited and smooth.

QUOTE (WhidbeyGirl @ Feb 23 2009, 07:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Today at 4:23pm I handed the postal employee my I-130 packet! It looked pretty, I pray find it acceptable. I had it in a binder at first but then took it out and just binder clipped it all together. Although I had it broke down into 7 sections and each individual section was clipped together - I just don't want things lost or misplaced.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-24 07:38:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S TWINS!!!
Congrats!

QUOTE (WhidbeyGirl @ Feb 22 2009, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We had our first goat births on the farm today! One girl and one boy. SO is thoroughly convinced that I will raise one of these beautiful babies for him to eat smile.gif. My camera batteries are dead, but as soon as I get some more I'll post pics of my babies.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-23 11:24:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWe are almost done? I think.......
South African Embassy timline in decending order by interview date.

QUOTE (gethere @ Feb 25 2009, 04:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Okay so here is the situation.........We have our third package telling us to send in the letter so we can get an apt date. The only problem is that we don't want to send it if we are missing like one or two documents b/c we are worried we will have an interview date within like 2 weeks and then he won't have my mail by the time it's interview time. Make sense? So should we send it yet or not? Are there any SA's out there who can tell about how long they waited before an interview? THANKS!


By the look at the below image the time line South Africa is quick.

Attached File  South_Africa.jpg   93.15KB   4 downloads

Edited by MrsJibowu, 25 February 2009 - 06:58 PM.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-25 18:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWe passed!!!
Congratulations.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-02-18 09:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
It is great to hear from you! Thanks for sharing Moon.

QUOTE (moon1968 @ Feb 28 2009, 02:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello,
So sorry its has been to long since I posted but I have been having trouble with my computer but now I think its ok.......Just to let everyone know that My Husband and I are doing great.....We have been married going on 3 years and this march 13th he will be here a year.....We are more in love now then before.......Things are going so wonderful I cant belive it......Just wanted to let you know that there are some that are for real and not all are scammers....Thanks for listening.....


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2009-03-01 04:27:00