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Africa: Sub-SaharanAP in Nigeria
Hello One LOve,
After reading your timeline it seems like you had a smooth and successful first interview. Congratulations. Deb's and my problem is that our husband's are going for their second interview after being put on Administrative Processing for further regional verification of documentation and matrimony.

So we currently are not sure if a letter exist. Deb has made several or should I say numerous unsuccessful attempts to contact the embassy. My husband will attempt the embassy today. Hopefully he might be able to shed some light on this situation.


QUOTE (one love @ Nov 25 2008, 07:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (kelly1290 @ Nov 22 2008, 02:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi Missy,

They never said that to my husband about the 221g paper. They just told him that he would be called back in due time.

He has never received a call from the embassy nor an email about coming back. The only way we knew he had an interview was me calling DOS and being told.

I have called DOS three different times, talking to three different people each time, and they all said that they see that a packet was sent out via DHL on Oct. 30, but to date still has never received it. For your husband to go to the inquiry line is probably going to be a waste of time if they treat him like they did my husband. He came with the 221g paper with the case number on it, and they said the paper was old. Come back on the day your wife told you.

I did, in fact, send another email to the embassy yesterday. When I sent it to lagoscons2@state.gov, I found from their auto response that they are now changing emails and the new one for nonimmigrant visas is LagosNIV@state.gov, and that all correspondence should be sent to that address, so I sent an email to both places. Maybe that was why my others have not been answered, who knows. I sent a short, but sweet email because I know they don't want to see long drawn out questions. God, I hope they answer this time. Oh, also, DOS told me to write a letter explaining the situation and fax it to the embassy, and then call DOS back to verify the fax was received because DOS can see from there whether it was or not, so I will be doing that Sunday night before I go to bed so they will have it early in the morning on Monday.

Thanks so much for all your help and support Missy. I really appreciate it.

QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Nov 22 2008, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello Kelley,
I know we discussed this privately, but I remember my husband telling me that the interviewer on 7/7/08 said to keep the 221g letter to come back when they call him to come back. Does seem way too simple, but that was my impression.

He received his phone call from the embassy. She did not tell him to bring anything or that they sent him anything just to show up at the same time told your hubby to show .

Is the DOS positive that the Embassy sent your husband a package? Or is she assuming because that is what other embassies might do?
When my husband stated he was going to the embassy I really did not feel he needed to, but extra information didn't hurt.

Just relax we still have plenty of time to figure this out. Did you send an email to the embassy asking them about the appointment.

I did when my husband did not receive his packet 4 or when I heard that the NVC was finished with our case. The took just 24 hours to respond to general inquiries.

Keep the letter real simple to a couple of lines then the will read it. Just state that your husband has a 2nd interview but has not received a letter stating this information what should he do.


i sent email to lagos embassy ask for a copy of letter t get him in for his interview tey went i copied it sent it to husbands email he copied nad got in with it

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-11-26 06:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanAP in Nigeria
Hello Kelley,
I know we discussed this privately, but I remember my husband telling me that the interviewer on 7/7/08 said to keep the 221g letter to come back when they call him to come back. Does seem way too simple, but that was my impression.

He received his phone call from the embassy. She did not tell him to bring anything or that they sent him anything just to show up at the same time told your hubby to show .

Is the DOS positive that the Embassy sent your husband a package? Or is she assuming because that is what other embassies might do?
When my husband stated he was going to the embassy I really did not feel he needed to, but extra information didn't hurt.

Just relax we still have plenty of time to figure this out. Did you send an email to the embassy asking them about the appointment.

I did when my husband did not receive his packet 4 or when I heard that the NVC was finished with our case. The took just 24 hours to respond to general inquiries.

Keep the letter real simple to a couple of lines then the will read it. Just state that your husband has a 2nd interview but has not received a letter stating this information what should he do.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-11-22 08:57:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDear GOD
Thank you for taking the time to spread encouragement and support. Your kind words are appreciated and read with an open heart. This situation with my son’s father brought me so close to GOD. I have made it over another stepping stone. I thank God for that step back so I can take 3 steps forward.



I just wanted to let people know that posting on a board is not the same as communicating in person. There is not chance to look up and say..I am sorry I said that. Or someone understanding that it didn’t mean to come out that way, because they already know what I am going through.



Not one person thought…wow, I wonder what is hurting in her heart that made her say something like that. When kids say mean things that is what I try to teach my son. Wow, I wonder what is hurting him that made him pick on that kid.



Stay blessed.

Missy
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-24 07:49:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDear GOD
Dear God,



I want to say I am sorry for how I behaved the other day when I posted in a forum. I am under a lot of stress at work, my son’s abusive father is taking me to court and I can’t afford a lawyer and I should have stayed away from posting as I promised myself I would unless it was to encourage, support, or help. You know when I returned from work Elijah asked how mediation went and if he had to still go to supervised visits with his father. How do you tell your son that he still has to visit he dad who threatens, puts him and his mother down. I am working 10 to 12 hour days to make up for time I spend in mediation and court this week. I have no more earned benefit time, because I was in accident at the end of January and still have not healed from the trauma to my back and neck. I wake up every morning with headaches, stiff neck and soar back. When I returned to work I read an email in a coworkers bin discussing ways to fire me, because the accident happened on company time, which created a workers comp claim that is causing company money. I was up at 3:00 in the morning worrying about court the next day. Despite my head ache and pain I have to be at work at 6:00 a.m. This doesn’t even count the visajourney I am on. I should have never even logged into visajoureny that day. I thank you God for the strength to keep going and your open heart and ears today. Luke 24:47; Acts 2:38, 3:19, 17:30



I had just finished reading a post by tony and tess about posters thinking and being righteous, which I agreed with. Then I read a post where someone said staying away from scammers was common sense. The post got me upset, because it is not common sense.



I know you expect excellence, but how can I ever be that in this flesh?



GOD: 2 Pet 1:5-8





What should I say to the posters who thought it was meant to hurt, question my quest for excellence, and my love for you?



GOD Mathew 7:1-5



I am sorry to anyone who I offended the other day with my post. No excuse is acceptable! I just wanted to give you all an understanding of how life gets in the way. I did not tell you for sympathy or forgiveness, because GOD knows I wake up everyday with full intentions of fullfilling his dreams for me.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-20 05:56:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanI NOW HAVE MY VISA
Sweet words to your ears. Contratulations!


QUOTE (tummyode @ Nov 14 2008, 04:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy Happppppppppppyyyyyyyyyyyyyy,

Hello everyone,
I had my much awaited intreview yesterday.
It went well. The Consular Officer said: "You are qualified for the VISA, come back for pick-up on XXXXX day". Then, he gave me a blue information sheet.
I thank all the contributing members on the VJ.
Success for those of you that are still waiting.........

Thank you all biggrin.gif

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-11-14 08:04:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanUpdates on Journey
Congratulations on your accomplishments and your sense of piece. Your love, commitment, and dedication will shine through in the interview.


QUOTE (Aezeala @ Nov 25 2008, 04:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Guys!!

Wow, it's been a long time since I have posted, but I am always checking in and responding to everyone elses cases. Let me update everyone. I finally put all my stuff together to send to my fiance for his interview. It took me forever because I tried to get everything perfected! It was like making a petition folder ALL over again! I am not even nervous guys...you know when you feel as though God has everything under control...that is exactly how I am feeling. The feeling is the description of the strong Faith we have. If anybody wants to post any questions or anything that I or my fiance should remember as we come close to end this journey and embark on another we would greatly appreciate it! Hey, I know I do not know you guys but I have a sense of love for each of you because of your courage to fight for the ones that you truly care for no matter the distance. Now that is a show sign of determination for love. If anyone lives in Georgia or nearby and would want to meet up let me know!

Queena Adaeze Ezeala..soon Mrs. Emenalo

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-11-25 09:33:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S NOT COMMON SENCE
Hello Ido,
I have always supported you for posting your story. You must have me confused with someone else.

QUOTE (idocare @ Jun 21 2008, 06:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I believe that most of us here on VJ know of Americans or permanent residence sponsors , that were once active members of VJ that have fallen victims of a marriage scam. Tony and Tess mentioned that the fraud unit in NIgeria ( that interviewed her told her) commented thats the latest thing ( as far as they know ) since the 419 scam isn't working as much.

My heart truly goes out to each and every person that has been scammed, because I know what it feels like for them, I know the devastation on the family unit here in America amongst family and friends. I know how it affected my family, job, kids and health.

Thanks Lurkin for being for real !! I remember not too long ago you were bashing me for posting my story, now you see what I'm saying thru friends you have met here on VJ. Sometimes you have to walk against the wind for sake of being honest.

This Omoba poster has never met me nor knows the people I associate with, yet everytime I post my story she tries to generalize it and make it seem as tho I hate Nigerians and singleing out just one country. That's why I don't respond to her bashing post directed towards me. ( Nor the weak click that follows her ) Why should I, everyone that read the content of my post and have a memory can see thru her, it's only those that choose not to face the negative possibilty of this journey that are quick to bow down to her. Truth be told,( Omoba ) Not all people will be scammed. I have spent a little time in a 3rd world country, I truly believe that there are decent, honest hard working people within , but I will continue to post my story because I also know that some will fall victim to scams.

Thanks Lurkin for speaking up !!!!!


Oops... That would be buss.

QUOTE (tony and tess @ Jun 20 2008, 10:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jun 20 2008, 09:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Lurking @ Jun 20 2008, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
fell out the puss .





ohmy.gif KEGELS!!!!! *runs and hides*


Now I have to say that that's some funny #### right there, lol!

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-23 15:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S NOT COMMON SENCE
I said that there were two woman whos husband was scammed that were robbed. I did not say that there robbery was fake. I also have read of two woman on here that have posted about being robbed and loosing a passport. I do not know them or what there situation is.

My huband cell phone was taken when I was there visiting him. A boy was sitting next to him on mass transit. next thing my husband new he fell out the puss window. a little while later he realized his phone was gone.

These are just things to be aware of. I will never have to send my husband money if he is robbed. I am very fortunate of that; this i know.

I owed that appology to everyone and especially you. I felt so awful after I posted. Embarrassed. I am never ashamed to admit my faults.

Sorry to use the term "friend loosely" someone who corresponds with everyone in the random forums. I have posted her story already. She gave me permission to. The other person did not.



QUOTE (Omoba @ Jun 20 2008, 01:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
May God protect your husband that he never gets robbed because then , you would have the need to feel you were duped !

You did never openly apologize to me nor in a pm. I don't know who you directed the apology to in your other thread. I am not a mind reader.

You said there were TWO woman who said they were scammed due to a robbery , now you say there is only one ?
Don't underestimate what my close VJ friends have or have not confided in me, I would never brake the confidentiality that we share by hinting at their issues in an open forum and you have no knowledge of what I know and don't know or who my friends all are.


I said what I had to say and am not interested in discussing this further with you.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-20 12:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S NOT COMMON SENCE
Nothing to do with you. My life revolves around god not you. Sorry I created that need to defend your self. I apologized in my last post you think I am going to continue on with the error of my ways? One of these women is friends with you whose story has remained anonymous. Maybe she will share it with you. They other one is someone who has not even divulged that she has been scammed. I have also read from someone else who was also robbed right next to the interview process another lost the passport they needed.
QUOTE (Omoba @ Jun 20 2008, 01:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE ) 2 visajourney members SO were robbed right before their interview so the USC had to send money over right away so they could make it to the interview on time. Both of these women now realize that their relationship was a sham. QUOTE)




Excuse me, but it is well known that I posted a thread about my fiance being robbed. You feed off of that.
Your assumption that "both of these woman now realize that their relationship was a sham " is incorrect. I don't know about the other one and that may be true for her but that does NOT pertain to me. Still, you referred to it in your other post along with my personal typo visa issues and again you are referring to it here about the robbery.

Unless you were there and have talked to the police yourself please DO REFRAIN from making erroneous judgments. I want to clarify to everyone that this false information does not pertain to me. Do not make generalizations about it being a definite scam when your SO gets robbed.
Robberies in the US and Africa are NOT comparable and your own observations are just that, your own observations.
Though he was robbed, our relationship is real and genuine . I don't feel I have to defend myself in front of you but this is to clarify the slander and accusation ( in your subtle ways for the second time) against my SO for those who have read my thread and know what happened. Enough is enough.




Exercise your right to have common sense.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-20 12:23:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S NOT COMMON SENCE
My pleasure. I never married because I knew what I wanted and wouldnt settle for the disfunction I allowed into my life. Then I had my son at 30 and didn't want to put disfuntion into his life. He was my savior. I raised him on my own form day one.

This seems to be common problem amongst VJ memebers who have SO's from a improvished country. This makes it difficult because this is the reason why they are not who the claim they would be if they had the luxury of America. Then we take the gamble to get them here to this opportuneity to find out they are not going to share this part of the dream with us.

If you continue to pray, GOD will show you the way.

QUOTE (WestmorelandLove @ Jun 20 2008, 09:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dear Lurking,

I thank you for this post today. My husband is from Jamaica and I truly understand what you are talking about. Sometimes I feel like I'm a day late and a dollar short when I find out about him and his stand/views on women. Our biggest problems right now is that I am a very independent woman. I don't toot my own horn - I had strict parents that raised me to be a go-getter. My husband is intimidated by my independence.

I continue to pray for us - my husband tells me that women have their place and they should know that place. I explained to him that here in the states where divorce is rapid - women know their place and they surely have to find it once the rug is snatched from underneath them like in my case (divorced twice).

Thanks again for shedding light on the myths and truths - doesn't matter where they come from there is always some myths and truths. I just hate that I'm leading the truths late. wacko.gif

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-20 09:18:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanIT'S NOT COMMON SENCE
Common sense (or, when used attributively as an adjective, commonsense, common-sense, or commonsensical), based on a strict construction of the term, consists of what people in common would agree on: that which they "sense" (in common) as their common natural understanding. Some people[who?] use the phrase to refer to beliefs or propositions that — in their opinion — most people would consider prudent and of sound judgment, without reliance on esoteric knowledge or study or research, but based upon what they see as knowledge held by people "in common". Thus "common sense" (in this view) equates to the knowledge and experience which most people allegedly have, or which the person using the term believes that they do or should have.







First of I want to say that I am not singling out one group in this post or bashing them. I am speaking on knowledge of specific people and situations I know of through specific people’s knowledge or experience. 2nd we all have to own what we bring into our lives. We are a mirror of the company we keep. People from all cultures, creeds, races, religion, and any other demographics con and lie to people. I am speaking of this one specific because it is one I am familiar with, but anything I say can be related to anybody who engages in these behaviors.



Myth: They ask you to send money you are getting conned.



Truth: They will not come right out and ask you for money unless you are not picking up or falling for all the hints. First off they are still talking and chatting with us because we are kind, caring, thoughtful, generous people. There quest for money happens Weeks in advance they are sharing stories with you about family problems around illness, food, losses. We start having empathy for them. All of a sudden the extra $50 - $100 you might have spent on something unneeded seems better if we sent to help them.



Myth: Robbery is rapid there.



Robbery: Is just as common as it is in New York, if not less. What are the chances of you getting robbed in NY if you are visiting the theater? 5% Same in Nigeria. My friend from America has money on him all the time. He is not a violent man nor does he carry any weapons or walk around with body guards. He has not been robbed once. He spends at least 1/3 of his time in Nigeria rest in the US. Credit cards are not used there like here in the US. So he always has cash on him. Everyone there knows it because he lives in the US. Has several businesses in Nigeria. You have to use the same precautions as you would any place that has a high crime area. These areas are community driven. You will not get robbed in your community. Not like they can get away in a car and go where? Now they are visiting in a community that they are not familiar with. It would be like us walking in an area we are not familiar with a high crime rate. Scary, but we would use precautions. They know this. When I was dropped off at church they told me to keep a good eye on my purse. 2 visajourney members SO were robbed right before their interview so the USC had to send money over right away so they could make it to the interview on time. Both of these women now realize that their relationship was a sham.



Myth: His friends and family love you and accept you for the loving and caring American you are.



Truth: Many are in it to win it. You are their American dream. Friends and family invest in your SO’s cause, because they know that once he or she is in America they will be able to pay them back with interest. They will give him needed money to contact you via phone or the internet, because there will be repaid with interest. When you arrive they all pitched in for the clothing he got you, the wedding, and any other expenses spent while you were visiting. This is there investment to the cause. There is not to say that you did not experience friendship and fullfilling expereience.



Myth: The walk and talk the word of GOD so it must be god with in them.



Truth: Many go to church in gold that has been stolen or purchased with stolen money. They believe that their sins are repented every Sunday they attend church. It’s not like in America when you date someone that is not religious they could not fake it if they wanted to. They know religion inside and out, but also believe they are doing what they need to do for the family or to survive, which makes any type of wrong doing justified. IF they find out you are a believe of GOD they will use the scripture to their benefit.



Myth: They are interested in the same things I am, so we must be meant to be.



Truth: They are great listeners. The hang on everything you type and say. Then use this information to confirm to the man you want. They say everything you want to hear or don’t want to hear. IF you question them on something, they learn fast not to say it again. You can’t even imagine what is going on behind the scenes. You might not even be chatting or email corresponding with your actual SO. Someone might be going into or working at the cyber café. They will respond to your email for them. Oh yes working. Contacting and corresponding with American’s is considered a job there. 7 days a week. Real poor hard working people who are embedded in their community cannot afford to spend more then 30 min once a week in the café. This is a fact.



Myth: well we did not meet on the Internet. A friend fixed us up.



Truth: My friend fixed my husband and I up. We have been friends since college, 18 years now. He would never fix me up with someone he did not think would treat his God child and me great. But he expected to be rewarded for the fix up on the other end. Truth be told. I took steps to make sure this did not happen. I can’t be sure it did not. In Nigeria the thought is everyone who touches a transaction gets a piece. Our driver tried to handle the money as much as possible so he could get his cut. He hired the photographer, camera man, and arranged the making of our wedding attire. At first I allowed it, becuase he was a friend of my husband's. I caught on to the game quick and sent him home when we were in Abuja. He was paying my husband's rent through him for a room in his house he was renting. When he returned from traveling his things were gone. When he asked the landlord why, he said he didn’t pay his rent. His friend never paid his rent. This guy goes to church every week.



When I met my husband through phone and email he was everything I needed and should want in a man, but I did not have that warm fuzzy feeling inside like I had with all those American men who filled my head with what I wanted to hear. I was worried about feeling awkward at our meeting not to mention if I did not feel the love I had as a friend already to being a lover. After seeing the love, sincerity, and compassion in my husband’s eyes I fell right in love. He was so devoted and attentive to my son. It wasn’t until I was with him that I fell in love. I love him as a person and a friend, but it took seeing and being with him to fall in love.



If your last relationship was not a healthy relationship, your online relationship is not a healthy one. I can say this through experience. Unless you had a chance to evaluate and change what lead you to the unhealthy relationship you will attract the same. It is universal law. After I took 2 years out to grow spiritually, emotionally I ventured out on the dating seen. Boy what attracted me before could not get over on me again.



Myth: We that is what it said on the passport, birth certificate and school transcript.



Truth: Any document can be purchased in Nigeria. No documentation is safe. They can even say they work places. When USCIS calls to verify there will be false documents for them to look up to verify the information placed by someone there who made some money.



Myth: My SO can’t find a job there.



Truth: God has given us all gifts, talents, and knowledge for us to sustain a living to provide necessities to live. It could be herding, planting, building, art, music, farming, cooking, sewing and thousands more. If you believe in GOD you believe this to be true no matter what part of country you live in. Yes there is defiantly strife going on in many parts of Africa right now. If this is true for your SO they should not have time to chat with you online, but be protecting, providing by all means necessary for their family and community.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-06-20 07:09:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHalt!
Hello Lovin_famo,

You have an extremely difficult decision. I have similar views and situation. I have a ten year old son that comes first in my life. Every penny I have is his. When you are a single mom, that is just a priority. I am fortunate that my husband paid for everything including my vacation visiting him.

This is extremely expensive process not to count the cost of flying him here. The added financial burden could add more stress to an already difficult distant relationship.

His reaction to your concern I find disappointing and immature.

Sounds like you might need to wait a little longer before filing. Subsequently time is of the essence too.

Pray, pray, and pray! You will find the way!





QUOTE (lovin_famo @ Aug 10 2008, 11:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Peace and Blessings to All,

As I write type these words i pray for clarity, and discernment in my life. I told myself that i would not post again, due to different reasons, but here goes.

Last year i met a man online. We chatted, talked on the phone, e-mailed, maintaining constant contact with one another. About two months after we met, he offered to fly me to meet him. At the time i declined because of my child, my job (nurse), and honestly because I didnt know him from Adam.

Fast forward to may 2008, after much thought, and prayer, i decided to take a chance. Mind you I have never been on an airplane, so i was more nervous being on the flight than actually meeting this man. it turned out to be a lovely trip; i needed the vacation.

Here is where things get complicated. After my return to the states, i began to gather all of the required information to file, we gathered all of his necessary documents, with signatures included, before my return home, so i had all of his info. Wasnt really worried about my things, so i thought, I'm set. Halt! My brain starts working in overdrive, dont know if it is God talkng to me after I had asked him for guidance or maybe it was cold feet, i am leaning towards the former.

If you guys remember from one of my posts, I explained who I am, my way of thinking, and how I was raised. I asked questions, that's what I do. I was explaining to him that once I file, if things go as planned, once he is here there would be more fees, figuring he would know this since he reads everything, and he was the one that introduced me to the site. Well, to make a long story short, he politely told me and i quote, "If you cant afford the fees, dont worry about it, I just want you to do what is best for you and your daughter, what makes you happy". So, my question was, "Oh, you expect me to pay for your fees?" Although my question was already answered, just wanted to hear his response, or clarify; he didnt. My response, "Okay, since you cant answer the question, I will tell you, NO, i am not paying your fees".

In the past he would tell me that it is hard living in nigeria, that there are no jobs available. I have never been to Nigeria, only know what he tells me, but, one thing i know for certain is no matter what situation you are in, if you believe and trust in The Lord, he will provide. No matter what job you have , how small, if it is selling goods on the side of the road, as long as it is honest and you do it in good faith.

I am purposely omitting some things, but the gist of it is, you knew my stance as far as the role of a man and the role of a woman in a relationship, so this should not have come up, he should not be surprised, angered whatever. Yes, he is angered, i have not spoken to him since this conversation which was 2 days ago, no IMs, phone calls, nothing. I guess he feels that if I loved him, enough, I would do anything to see that he gets here. well, i think if he loved me he would do whatever, to assist in HIS being here. I tried to explain to him that yes, i love him, I do, but i had a life before he entered, i have a daughter that depends on me to amke sure she is as comfortable as possible. These are my priorities.

I knew this would be a stressful journey, and I have yet to file! Is it not enough that once they are here you have to care for them, while praying that soon, they will be able to work to contribute? I knew this, but help me help you.

I know some of you are probably thinking, i am selfish ,bitchy, whatever, that this seems very petty, maybe, but before i spent MY money preparing to file, i had to be sure of some things, now i am not so sure, maybe it is his reaction, or lack thereof. I thought he understood my views obviously not.

I dont know what is going to happen, my mom told me if he really loves you he will work just as hard as expects you to work. I agree. I leave it in God's hands, because with all this said, I do love him.

Thanks for listening!

Dana

P.S. Please dont make assumptions, or judge, I am entitled to my own views and opinions.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-08-11 04:11:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat Did Santa Bring You For Christmas??
I have a sugar & carb hang over today. I lack energy, motivation and I am a grouchy bear. I am paying for my sins today.

QUOTE (blah0323 @ Dec 26 2007, 07:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The Blessing of being with family and the best food.

brisket
sausage
ribs
chili beans
cornbread
potato salad
peach cobbler
banana pudding.....yummy
sweet potatoes
pineapple cake
5 flavor pound cake

LORD I sinned by eating too much food.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2007-12-26 09:16:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat Did Santa Bring You For Christmas??
I was blessed with good food and sweets, loving family, and a joy filled son.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2007-12-26 06:34:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan~My Journey To You~ (Naija Journey)
Thank you for sharing this beautifully written note. I am sure most of us have felt one to all of those lines. Your journey is blessed and will be smooth and expedited.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-02 11:06:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanEmbassy Closed
I am excited that he made it in. I was nervouse he would not get in. Good things are to come of his interview! I can't think any other way. If all goes well he will be here next Monday. That makes me nervouse.

Thanks!

QUOTE (LovinLiberia @ Dec 10 2008, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know you must be nervous! Good luck to him on his second interview. smile.gif smile.gif

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 08:27:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanEmbassy Closed
Ok, it is now 1:00 pm in Nigeria. I believe that my husband has made it inot the Embassy for his appointment. I am so excited. Pray or pass us some positive vibes.

thanks all!
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 07:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanEmbassy Closed
Atleast I was able to verify that there is in fact a Holiday today. He said Today and Tomorrow. The security gaurd told him to come back on Wednesday.



Eid ul-Adha
Main article: Eid ul-Adha
Eid ul-Adha (??? ??????), or the Festival of Sacrifice, falls approximately 70 days after Eid ul-Fitr (end of Ramadan) and is celebrated in honor of the prophet Abraham willingness to sacrifice his son as a proof of his loyalty to God. Celebrations usually include presenting an animal (usually a cow or a sheep) sacrifice, and the meat is shared with family, friends and those in need.

The festival also marks the end of the Pilgrimage or Hajj to Mecca.

As with Eid ul-Fitr, there is an early morning prayer for the Eid, and celebrations lasts few days.

In Turkish this holiday is referred to as Kurban Bayram?, and in Bosnian as Kurban-Bajram or kurbanski Bajram.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-08 10:13:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanEmbassy Closed
Hello,
I know that international embassy's acknowledge both us and their residing country's holidays. Would they schedule an appointment knowing that they would be closed?

I am about to pull the hair out of my head right now.
Thanks for any input.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-08 08:04:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanthe wait is over
Congratulations!
Your husband could have been with mine at the Embassy. My husband picks his visa up on the 17th.

We have blessed with an amazing Christmas gift.

QUOTE (xoxo @ Dec 10 2008, 08:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
HI,


Blessings in the name of JESUS. MY HUSBAND IS FINALLY COMING HOME . HIS INTERVIEW WAS 5 QUESTIONS , I KNOW THEY ASKEDHIM WHAT TYPE OF CAR I DRIVE . HE WILL PICK UP VISA NEXT WEDNESDAY, OH MY GOD IS SO WONDERFUL. PRAY FOR US AS WE ARE JUST STARTING OUR LIVES TOGETHER AS 1.


VEE

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 09:45:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
QUOTE (Kanyiri @ Aug 1 2008, 09:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't really want to jump in the middle of this, but I just wanted to say that I think Lurking was either referring to Lois or not realizing that this thread is trying to deal with two different stories at the same time and mixed everything together.


Yes thank you Kanyiri. I didn't realize that there were two stories going on. Some people are not familiar with the lack of internet access in Nigeria or the expenses associated with the use.

I do not judge scammers or agree with, but if I can prevent someone from getting scammed that would be good. Yes, I will be in every forum that discuss is scam possibilities. To help not and not to harm.

My post was made quickly (while at work) and I should have thought it out more quickly before I typed it. I apologize. I forget that you are not safe when you post in African Sub Sahara forum. Regular people like to analyzing, assign meaning and criticizing your post with out asking for a clearer explanation.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-08-01 13:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
You could be right. trying to quickly read the posts I might be in the wrong thread. Oops. I had a ahuh moment and came back to the wrong place.

Presumptive statements. Sorry they are. But it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that if you meet someone who is trying to scam you he doesn't just pack up and quit.

I am the captian. Thank you we_destiny! I wish I could change my profile name.

QUOTE (We_Destiny @ Aug 1 2008, 08:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Huh? What? Lurking very presumptive statements.... are you responding to the right thread or person, is this informative blink.gif piece of information (judgement) meant for the original poster or Louis from the other thread ?

The captain of the scammer police brigade..... wacko.gif (on duty) always ready to save the day....

QUOTE (Lurking @ Aug 1 2008, 06:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Something else that is concerning that has not been mentioned is the time you spent talking online. It is extremely expensive to get online in Nigeria. Only people with money have it at home that have to contend with the power outages to boot.
If he was trying to scam you, he is online trying to scam others while he maintains this relationship with you.

So even if your relationship has turned legit there is a good chance he is scamming other people. Scammers do not fall in love and just stop scamming. This is his way of life and if he found his way to it he will continue until another form of money is available. Would you want to be with someone who scams for a living? Even if it is there only way of making a means?

If someone is sick in the hospital in Nigeria you are not chatting online at all unless you are rich. Internet cafe's are expensive and per minute use. Some are owned by scammer so that is when a scammer is set up for free, because they are bringing in an income. Mutual people will pretend to be one person so that if one is in the cafe they can correspond for the person who might not be able to make it in.

I only wish you the best. No one doubt you or your capabliities or mean to insult you. These scammers are educated people with degrees and no place to use them.

You will get support with your journey no matter what you chose so keep comming back. It works if you work it! *wink


Edited by Lurking, 01 August 2008 - 07:24 AM.

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-08-01 07:22:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
Something else that is concerning that has not been mentioned is the time you spent talking online. It is extremely expensive to get online in Nigeria. Only people with money have it at home that have to contend with the power outages to boot.
If he was trying to scam you, he is online trying to scam others while he maintains this relationship with you.

So even if your relationship has turned legit there is a good chance he is scamming other people. Scammers do not fall in love and just stop scamming. This is his way of life and if he found his way to it he will continue until another form of money is available. Would you want to be with someone who scams for a living? Even if it is there only way of making a means?

If someone is sick in the hospital in Nigeria you are not chatting online at all unless you are rich. Internet cafe's are expensive and per minute use. Some are owned by scammer so that is when a scammer is set up for free, because they are bringing in an income. Mutual people will pretend to be one person so that if one is in the cafe they can correspond for the person who might not be able to make it in.

I only wish you the best. No one doubt you or your capabliities or mean to insult you. These scammers are educated people with degrees and no place to use them.

You will get support with your journey no matter what you chose so keep comming back. It works if you work it! *wink
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-08-01 06:36:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
QUOTE (Lois @ Jul 31 2008, 02:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would be worried too if I were in a hsopital with no insurance coverage. Like I said, I've known him for 14 months and man.....he should be on tv if he were acting. In any event, I intend to cover all of my bases before I do anything...whew....again, sorry for blonde thing.Lois


Common scam is ilness without insurance. He will never ask you for anything.

We are caring and considerate people, that sometimes spend money on things that do not seem so important when we speak with people from 3rd world countries.

My friend was scammed by a USC that told her all about his past. made her just feel like the lucky one when he confided in her about his past. This is often a ploy for you to trust them further.

You sound so happy and excited. I do hope you the best.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-07-31 15:20:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
I didn't show any paperwork or ID when I flew on Virgin from Lagos to Nigeria and back. WOW! My husband showed his ID when we went to the waiting area.

Congrats and Best Wishes!

QUOTE (lmnop123 @ Jul 27 2008, 04:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Also, does anyone know if you can fly domestically in Nigeria with your school card/paperwork only? Otherwise, we may have to nix the Virgin Nigeria flight plan.

Thanks

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-07-31 13:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
Thanks you everyon, for taking the time to celebrate our great news. I appreciate each and everyone of you for your support of me or others. This is an amazing site, which brings out the best in everyone.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-11 10:20:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
Thanks for the well wishes! The I can't wait for my son to get home from school to share the news.

My husband' quickly making garments for everyone for the Holidays. So sweet!
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 15:02:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
THank you! I will great him with a LL Bean winter coat. Our life commitment will be guided with the word of the Bible. We have a lot to learn about cohabitating. I have read several interesting that discussion that both humor and scare me at them same time, but I have full faith we will enjoy learning together.
Thanks for the blessings.

QUOTE (galaxy_2008 @ Dec 10 2008, 02:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
HELLO,
I JOIN YOU IN CONGRATULATING YOU FOR THE VISA GRANTED IT IS WORTHY CELEBRATED AFTER A LONG TIME OF AWAY FROM EACH OTHER. PLEASE JUST LET HIM ADJUST TO THE WINTER PERIOD NOW. I PRAY A NICE AND A SUCCESSFUL LIVING TOGHTER. PLS ALWAYS ALLOWED DIALOGUE AND UNDERSTANDING WITHIN COS AFRICAN AND AMERICAN ARE JOINING TOGHTER.TAKE CARES

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 15:00:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
I wish I encouraged you to encourage Mike to travel with my Mike. That was a mouth full. I know you were not planning travel until January so I could understand the wait.

if he get in the embassy he will be successful. Tell him to walk there with dignity and righteousness in Jesus' name.


QUOTE (kelly1290 @ Dec 10 2008, 02:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif Doing the visa dance!!!! Congratulations Missy! Hopefully tomorrow when my husband goes to the embassy, I will be able to come back with the same great news! Enjoy the holidays together! Thanks for being there for me and offering your help and prayers! I don't know what I would have done without you.

Best regards,

Deb

Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 14:57:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
Thanks everyone. I cried like a baby as did my husband when he tried to tell me. For those who do not know the overwhelming joy I feel, I hope you do soon.

I will know by days end what exact time I can pick him up at the airport.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 10:30:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
I am please to announce that my husband can pick up his VISA on the 17th and will fly home on December 21st if not sooner.

I enjoy posting this to give hope to other people struggling with the process.

Trust the process.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-10 09:35:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan8 hours and a Headache later!!! HE GOT IT!!!
Hey Galaxy,
what was something you learned the hard way about America that you wish yuo were warned first.

QUOTE (galaxy_2008 @ Dec 16 2008, 02:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello,
i rejoice with you on the visa granted so i pray for a better life within and i suggest you let him understand how cold it is now in states.lol. that is my first expriences when i first enter states last 3 weeks so also explain many things abt america to him too. so take cares.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-16 15:19:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan8 hours and a Headache later!!! HE GOT IT!!!
Congratulations! I know the joy you feel in discovering that all things come in God's time!

QUOTE (Aezeala @ Dec 15 2008, 05:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
no0pb.gif heart.gif YES, MY BABY GOT HIS VISA!!!!!! SO FREAKING EXCITED AND PRAISING GOD ALL THE MOST!!!! I HAVE NOT EVEN BEEN ABLE TO SPEAK WITH HIM HIS BATTERY IS DEAD BECAUSE OF NO LIGHT BUT HE TOLD HIS PARENTS TO CALL ME BECAUSE HE KNOWS I WOULD NOT SLEEP! BUT I AM ALMOST NUMB IN DISBELIEF HOW SMOOTH IT HAS BEEN AND TO IMAGINE A YEAR AGO THIS TIME I LAST SAW HIM AND NOW I AM ONLY IMAGINING RUNNING INTO HIS ARMS AND KNOCKING ALL OF HIS BAGS OUT OF HIS ARMS! MY PARTNER IN CRIME IS FINALLY COMING TO ME! MAN, I CAN'T HELP BUT SMILE AND GIGGLE. NO SLEEP AND A HEADACHE LATER MY FAMILY IN AMERICA AND NIGERIA ARE ON THREE WAY REJOICING TO GOD AND I STILL AM IN AWE! I LOVE GOD AND I AM THANKFUL HE ALWAYS TEACHES ME THINGS THROUGH MY JOURNEY WITH HIM. HE MADE ME WAIT A YEAR FOR THE BEST SO I WOULD TRULY APPRECIATE HIM WHEN HE COMES!! THANKS GUYS!!! I LOVE YOU ALL! THANKS EVERYONE FOR ALL THE PRAYERS HONESTLY. THIS WEBSITE HAS BEEN MY MAIN SUPPORT SYSTEM AND I THANK EVERYONE FOR SHARING THIER LIVES AND STORIES! I WILL BE BACK TO UPDATE YOU GUYS ON THE QUESTIONS THAT WERE ASKED AND EVERY LITTLE DETAIL...TRUST ME I KNOW HOW IT IS TO WANT TO KNOW HAHAHA!! MUAH!!! tongue.gif


**MRS. EMENALO**


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-15 07:21:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPackets 3 and 4
Hours you can pick up are 7:30-4:30 Monday through Thursday. No US or Nigerian holidays.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-18 14:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPackets 3 and 4
I have so far only heard of one person has seen a letter or packet from the Embassy.

You can use your NOA2 and NVC letter to the embassy and pick up packet on an information day. YOu can find embassy infor at the top under the gentlemans picture iwth the red bow tie.

good luck

QUOTE (CurvenCJ @ Dec 18 2008, 12:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Okay are you suppose to email the embassy asking if they received your petition and then pick package 3 and 4 or can you bring the NOA2 and the first NVC letter to the embassy to pick up the packets? I was told I could, but this was done a long time ago and I know things have changed. I do not want things to go wrong because we are rushing things. I remember seeing threads about this topic before and I now cannot find them. I called the NVC and they told me my package was sent to the emabssy, but I never received a formal letter about it being received. Can someone please assist us before any time is wasted? I appreciate all the assistance I have been receiving thus far. All prayers and blessing to all.


Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-18 12:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
Yes! Slow and Steady did win the race. good.gif My fingers, foot on gas petal and back are still soar from the tension of driving.

I was so excited to log on to let you know we were their waiting as he entered the doors to the luggage area. It was an overjoy of a reunion.

He shared with my about how his was trying to contain his affection until he got home. Traditionally it is not common for his culture to show signs of affection in public. I was funny to compare his greeting to his attempt to contain himself.

He is frozen to the bones. He went to bed in about 4 layers of clothing after a cup of tea.

It felt good to finish off right where we left off. Talked all the way home, which made the travel back less stress as the travel to retrieve him.

Funny interaction with the cat. We have one affectionate and one independent. I could see the uncomfort level. (Iseen this topic in a post during my first few months with VJ)




Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-20 09:12:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
QUOTE (Boaz @ Dec 19 2008, 08:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did he land OK in Atlanta?


Very funny story around landing in Atlanta. I seen that there was one missed call on my cell phone. It was a Nigerian number. Of course one thing came to my mind. He better not still be there. I did not recognize the number, which I called back.
A man answered the phone and quickly stated that someone used my phone earlier. I kindly asked, "who". He said I do not know who he is. I said, "You just let him use your phone". He said, someone in Atlanta.

Wierd huh. Someone with a NIgerian number in ATL.

I just got out of the shower. The snow is dwindling down. I am a pro in driving in the snow. So I am not worried.

Thanks everyone for checking in.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-12-19 22:12:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE
Chispas The New Has Come

Today's Scripture

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Today's Word from Joel and Victoria

As a follower of Christ, you are a new creation! You have a new spirit, a new walk, a new life! Are there “old” things in your life that you are trying to get rid of? Maybe you have old behaviors or addictions that you want to change. Remember, the new has come. It’s a new year and it’s time to be the new you. Let this year be the year you break old habits and addictions. Let this be the year that you move forward into a new life of victory. And your new life includes all the spiritual blessings the Lord has promised in His Word. You have a promise of peace. Health. Protection. Provision. Be encouraged today and know that no matter what is happening in your life right now, you can embrace the new life God has prepared for you. Make the choice today to leave the old behind—leave behind old behavior, old thinking, old words. Embrace the new by faith and you’ll move forward into the life of blessing the Lord has in store for you.

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, thank You for making me new. Help me to understand Your plan for me so that I can fully embrace Your promises. I choose today to leave behind the old life and ask that You empower me by Your spirit today. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-01-09 05:47:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE
QUOTE (monagoz @ Jan 8 2008, 12:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My favorite verse in the Holy Book is Isaiah 40: 30-31

Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall
utterly fall,
But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall
mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they
shall walk and not faint.

What a wonderful promise of God.


Very powerful! Thank you Monagoz.

AMEN

Expect Good Things

Today's Scripture

“Surely goodness and loving-kindness will follow me all the days of my life…” (Psalm 23:6).

Today's Word from Joel and Missy

What are you expecting today? Are you expecting to rise higher in life? Are you expecting good breaks? Are you expecting goodness to follow you everywhere you go? If you are expecting to get the short end of the stick, your own wrong thinking will keep you in mediocrity. Remember, God will meet you at the level of your expectations. Pay attention to what you are thinking about and make the choice to believe God for good things. Every day, imagine there are blessings, favor, increase, and promotion in your path. They already have your name on it! It’s just a matter of time before you come across them. Start confessing everyday “Something good is going to happen to me today.” Stand strong when trouble comes, knowing that your best days are ahead. Believe that God’s blessings will overtake you! Expect goodness and mercy to chase you down. If you’ll learn to raise your level of expectancy, God will pour out His blessings and favor on you. You’ll rise to new levels and live the life of victory He has in store.

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, today I expect your goodness and loving-kindness to surround me. I choose to believe that my best days are right out in front of me. Help me stand strong in You so that I can see Your blessing in every area of my life. In Jesus’ Name.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-01-08 04:44:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE
He is the Deliverer

Today's Scripture

“A Righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all” (Psalm 34:19)

Today's Word from Joel and Victoria Missy

No matter what “troubles” you may be facing today, God has promised to deliver you! And notice this verse doesn’t say He's going to deliver you from “some” of your troubles — “if you say and do everything perfectly.” No, if you are righteous today, God promises to deliver you from all of your troubles. How do you know if you are righteous? When you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior, when you accept His forgiveness and believe He is working in your life, then you are righteous. Your faith and belief in the goodness of God is His righteousness at work in your heart. The Bible says in Romans 4, that “Abraham believed God and it was counted to him as righteousness.”

If you are facing troubles today, expect that God has a way of escape for you. Expect that He is working behind the scenes on your behalf. Meditate on this verse and let it sink deep into your heart. Know that God is good and He is your Deliverer today. Believe in His goodness and faithfulness and He will deliver you into the life of victory that He has planned!

A Prayer for Today

Heavenly Father, thank you for making me righteous by the blood of Jesus. I receive Your promises and choose to believe that You are working behind the scenes on my behalf. Thank You for being my Deliverer today and always! In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Enlighten one :)FemaleNigeria2008-01-07 14:02:00