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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOut of the Blue.....

I have just found out the real reason why she has done this.....

There is still hope.....



GO GET ON A PLANE AND FIGHT FOR YOUR WOMAN!



I already have a flight booked for next friday....

She has admitted to doing alot of 'not very good' things, she needs help to work through it all and come out the other end a better person.

And I want to be the person helping her, and loving her while she does.

She doesn't think she deserves me, I am going to prove her wrong


that is fabulous news. I am rootin for you two!
Anita CocktailMale02007-03-08 11:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOut of the Blue.....

I have just found out the real reason why she has done this.....

There is still hope.....



GO GET ON A PLANE AND FIGHT FOR YOUR WOMAN!
Anita CocktailMale02007-03-08 11:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOut of the Blue.....

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

BEHAVE YOURSELF that was Just plain rude!!! Posted Image


I am truly sorry that you are going through this Andrew, it must be really tough. I hope that time will heal your heart and that you find someone that won't hurt you in this way again. Hang in there and Stay strong (F)


I loved this emoticon! Posted Image Great!


How do you add them to your emotion list?


You can't. VJ emotes are set. You can use those or externally link to countless emote sites. Just copy the code and paste it in your posts.
Anita CocktailMale02007-03-08 11:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOut of the Blue.....
Andrew,

Go visit her and if you're going to have a breakup, at least do it face-to-face.

It'll give you the closure you need, or it'll show Myrna just how much she means to you. Often times, it's hard when you haven't seen each other in a while...kinda like 'what are we fightin for?' sometimes a good visit is needed to keep the passion alive.

I have you in my thoughts and hope that everything gets better for you.
Anita CocktailMale02007-03-08 10:09:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresApplying for a 2nd K1 visa
So your last woman came in April 06, you sent her home the next month, and now you're back again? Sorry for the long bump...linked from your prof page :blush:

Edited by LisaD, 27 February 2007 - 09:15 PM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-02-27 21:11:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresIs it worth hiring a Immigration Lawyer to file for a K1
Familiarize yourself with the process and then make your decision based on your needs. No one here can tell you yes or no...only you know!
Anita CocktailMale02007-04-25 10:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFiance visa advice

. I will be returning home for the summer, and we are unsure whether it would be better to get married now or after I return.


You guys need to stop exciting me that we could get married now and skip the separation part. ^_^



I think comments like these above illustrate the OP did not have immigrant intent upon last arrival.
Anita CocktailMale02007-04-25 12:13:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresoverseas K1 filing
Tearin this poor guy to shreds over a word or two? Fock's sake.

Darkhorse, I'd defer all my advice to that of your legal representation on your base. Good luck and keep us posted.

And thank you for serving our country. We all owe you! (F)
Anita CocktailMale02007-04-25 16:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresPassport Stamps/Boarding Pass
If you're not using it to prove citizenship, I'd only do the relevant pages. Why give them irelevant information to wade thru?
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-03 15:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresprivate information in the 129 sent to my fiance...?

I just sent in the dayum papers. I dont have any ID theft against me in pakistan yet.
then I wonder how many people in pakistan could pass as a babybunny.


Did you enter that as all first name, or first and last? :P
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-04 15:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMarine in Japan
OP...have you physically met your gf yet?

You're 'working' as a Marine? Your 'contract'?

Good God, the Marines I belonged too weren't a job. And I had a commitment, not a contract. What is the world coming too?

Anyway, with your K-1 Application send in your current orders and any that you have pending for a move to a theater of action where the biggest danger isn't getting run over by traffic after 'working'.

Jim
The Few, The Proud, The Contracted Worker.

Oh, geez. Semantics. Don't get your lil undies in a bundle, k?


Touche'


Ever been a Marine? If you had, I don't think you would look at it this way. And while one reference to being a Marine as a job might be overlook-able, two in the space of a dozen words is not.

You don't work as a Marine, you ARE a Marine. You don't have a contract, you have a commitment. Think what you will, if he'd been in my company in MY Marine Corps. (again, if you've never BEEN a Marine you won't get it) I'd have been adjusting his attitude. 'Working' as a Marine would be on my list of things to fix right below him telling his friends I was his boss Cap'n Powell. Neither would go over well.

Marines don't kick a$$ everywhere they go because they are better people. They don't because they neccessarily have better weapons. Rifleman to rifleman, it comes down to commitment and who you are.

I am glad none of you ever have to lay in a ditch and strain to see and hear what's happening over the embankment next to someone 'working' as a Marine. I can't even comprehend how that statement comes out of a Marine's mouth. When you are 'working' you have a job. When you have a job, you can quit. When you quit you will die. When you die next to another Marine, they are likely to die too.

Yes, my undies are always in a knot about some things. What comes out of your mouth is what was in your mind. And some 'jobs' aren't jobs to some people.


Hoo-Rah

FWIW, my dad (also USMC) would react the same way. But I think it was just poor wording and not meant in disrespect. I'd say cut him some slack :thumbs:
Anita CocktailMale02007-03-04 12:14:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan we get married at our wedding? (i think we're too late on the whole visa process)
It's always a bad idea to plan the wedding before the visas are in hand.

NOTE: IF YOU LEGALLY MARRY BEFORE YOUR FIANCE(E) OBTAINS HIS/HER VISA, YOUR K-1 PETITION IS USELESS AND YOU WILL HAVE TO START ALL OVER WITH A SPOUSAL VISA PETITION.

Edited by LisaD, 14 May 2007 - 07:34 AM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-05-14 07:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresTo get married while there's pending K1 application?!?!

WTH happened to my reply? I said that same thing. In complete agreement.

And, please, anyone else with this question who sees this post......if you don't want to wait, then please marry and then file a K-3 or CR-1. If you file a K-1, please follow the rules of the K-1 and stop asking questions like this.


You're in a diff thread, JG, lol.

This is the OT one.
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-24 11:11:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresTo get married while there's pending K1 application?!?!

Yep you would have to start over. That 130 and 129f approval was probably on a K3.



thank you guys for sharing your opinion..
anyway, im sorry for posting this message under OT category.. :blush:
i posted a new one under K1 category..


I don't understand why you posted the exact same question after you got the answer?
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-24 10:56:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresTo get married while there's pending K1 application?!?!
First of all, wrong forum for this. This is OT.

Second of all, IF YOU GET MARRIED WHILST A K-1 IS PROCESSING, YOU'RE ABANDONING THE PETITION. Your fiance will then be your spouse, therefore you will have to start all over again with a K-3 or CR-1.

Also, on a K-1 YOU NEED TO GET MARRIED IN THE UNITED STATES

Bad idea. I capped for emphasis, btw.
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-24 10:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEvidence for I-129F petition

Some photos could prove a meeting within the past two years...if you both took a PROOF OF LIFE style photo. But that's neither here nor there. They still are only secondary evidence :thumbs:


I think the issue many have raised is valid, e.g. the salient point about providing photos and evidence is to provide proof to US Immigration. We need to demonstrate that one has met his/her fiance(e) within the previous two years. I've agreed with this point from the start, repeatedly.

I took issue with someone's ridiculous assertion providing a photo of you and your fiance(e) doesn't prove you've met. That's what a VJer wrote and I took exception to it, as it's an absurd claim. The one who posted has brought up different issues wrt the K-1 requirements while ignoring what she wrote. The VJer tried to create arguments which simply don't exist. By calling attention to another argument, the VJer tried to avoid addressing my point based on what she wrote.

If one has a photo of the people intending to marry, then OF COURSE you've met in person. That was all I was trying to say. It's a requirement of the K-1, unless the couple has an arranged marriage ... which is equally acceptable. If a couple does not have an arranged marriage, then the next task is to demonstrate that the meeting has taken place within the previous two years. And people have provided many great suggestions to meet these requirements!!

I'm surprised by those who scream "fire" when no flame has been lit, and then assign blame. People are funny (and very odd) sometimes.


The point that was raised was a photo doesn't necessarily prove meeting within a certain timeframe. No one's disputing that pictures prove you've met.....it's met within 2 years that's the issue. I have pics of me and my boo from 2000. While it certainly proves we've met, it does nothing for the reqs of 'met within 2 years'. More hard evidence would best prove that....plane ticket stubs, cc receipts...things of that nature. Now, to be ridiculously technical, I'd say that receipts and whatnot don't prove really anything either...if there was a case of visa faud...a passport stamp showing entry into the petitioner's area doesn't neccessarily prove that the beneficiary was visiting the petitioner.

I had a hard time actually putting together the evidence because I was overthinking things. Like 'ok, so this shows he was in Orlando, and here's a piccie of us in Orlando, but how do I put a provable time on it?' I even had a piccie of him in my car...one which I bought in 2005, so I was like 'ok, if I send the bill of sale for my car, and the piccie, that places him in Orlando, in my car, within the 2 year timeframe'. But D told me tha I was overthinking things because it's not just one piece of evidence which proves the req...it's the entire body of evidence, much like pieces in ajigsaw puzzle.

I don't know what a 'proof of life' photo would be classified as. It's still just a photo at the end of the day.

VJers tend to be very technical about the reqs because many noobs to the process can easily misunderstand. It's not to insult noobs, cos when we first started, we thought we could get married on a carribbean cruise, lol. And yes, the information here is almost bordering on ####### retentive...but that's only because this is such an important process, and v important to understand following the directions to the letter of the law. Everyone here takes it seriously & not all willy nilly, so that's a good thing!

This whole issue of photos being 'secondary' evidence was not summat that someone here just pulled out of his/her backside...them's the rules as required.

Good luck to you!
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-02 13:50:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEvidence for I-129F petition
Some photos could prove a meeting within the past two years...if you both took a PROOF OF LIFE style photo. But that's neither here nor there. They still are only secondary evidence :thumbs:
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-01 16:32:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresInterent Relationships

Yeah, you have to meet in real and there's also The Poverty Guideline requirement...


Which can be taken care of with a co-sponsor, so that's really the least of her issues right now...needs to meet in person.


Asking a loved one to put their nuts on a potential chopping block for years for a man she's never met? I'd say the two issues go hand in hand.

I wouldn' be so cavalier about the severity of the favor to ask someone to be a co-sponsor
Anita CocktailMale02007-05-04 20:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresInterent Relationships
edit: wrong thread! :blush:

OP, you need to meet your fiance.

Edited by LisaD, 03 May 2007 - 03:54 PM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-05-03 15:53:00
Middle East and North AfricaAaaaand it's Friday
QUOTE (we_have_2day @ Nov 3 2007, 11:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sarah, you are so predictable its laughable. I see the cud chewers around here decided to lift their tails again. Whatever. Make up your soap operas about my intentions and sense of self. You do not know me or anything about my life. Its so easy to sit and respin the same old tired "I'm supposed to think like Oprah" mentality. If you haven't experienced something you really have no sense of the reality of it. No, Sarah, you do NOT understand. You do NOT understand that YOU are equally ABUSIVE. You just use your words instead of your hands. Its all the same. This was discussed in a group session I attended while working through all this. People like you are just as destructive as physical abusers. I've read some pretty foul and blatant violations of the TOS on this site in this thread alone, yet those who habitually violate it are left to flame and giggle. This site was I thought meant to share information. I asked someone to share mine so those who are in similar situations have something to reference. And there are some of us out here. Life isn't black and white, even for Dr. Phil. So what if I posted my experience. It gave another side of reality off the yellow brick road, yet very possible for anyone reading this, and some just can't handle the possibility that a couple CAN work through something like this. For those remarks about my husband being after a green card... think twice before you stick your foot in your mouth. It can happen to any of us. None are immune. THERE IS NO HAPPILY EVER AFTER UNLESS YOU MAKE IT HAPPEN. So cud munchers, scurry around bleating and flaming some more while the board moderators turn their biased eyes away. Bask in your own ugliness of your non-abusive natures.

For the people here with real minds and hearts, ignore this. It wasn't meant for you. Now if for the millionth time if someone would close my ID I would appreciate it.


I have been wondering about you and how you've been...someone called this thread to my attn, so I wanted to say hi and hope things are ok.

It appears to me that you're just lashing out at Sarah and making her the whipping post to vent your frustrations at the turmoil in your life...while Sarah is no shrinking violet, I really don't think that's fair of you. Sarah's words, however harsh you may find them, do not put your children at risk. For you to equate her with the abuse that you are allowing your husband to reign upon you, and for you to subject your children to witness...is life endangering.

I understand these are not the words you want to read...and you might not even do so, but I felt compelled to let you know that the very people you are lashing out at are the same ones who rallied around you when you needed someone to lean on. When you needed someone, they were all here for you. Your anger is misguided.

May God keep you and your children safe. As I told you in another thread...please think of your children. You are choosing this life for yourself AND them. They have no choice to what they are subjected to, and I pray that God keep them safe and emotionally healthy.

Edited by LisaD, 03 November 2007 - 06:52 PM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-11-03 18:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (amrssnowangel @ Nov 1 2007, 09:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I apologize Lisa...lets drop it and move on...

Lets all drop it...we are entitled to our opinions...lets just continue to share and support...


TYVM!
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-01 08:09:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (charlesandnessa @ Nov 1 2007, 08:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (LisaD @ Nov 1 2007, 07:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (wahrania @ Nov 1 2007, 07:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am not sure exactly why lisa is on our board terrorising you
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-01 08:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (amrssnowangel @ Nov 1 2007, 08:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (LisaD @ Oct 31 2007, 08:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sarah and hicham @ Oct 31 2007, 08:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jenn! @ Oct 31 2007, 12:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Some might perceive not being all torn up about not having your SO here as just not caring as much, i.e. not as deep of a connection, etc. It's all the way you look at things, and I don't think that trying to humiliate people for missing their SO via calling codependency is what this site is for.


Like I said- that's just me. We're all different and handle separation differently. I personally cannot understand how some people can't function without their SO and I'm sure that others can't understand how I and maybe even others are not in desperation while waiting for our SO's.

My intention was never to humiliate or bash.


Nor really was mine, tbh. So I should apol for sounding harsh, but I'm honestly just giving my POV without malice towards anyone.

Jenn, I am not bashing someone for missing his/her SO. But to say things like 'I'm obsessed...it's all I ever think about'...well that's really all fine and well for each individual person, but when one is speaking as a member of a group, it gives off an impression that everyone's like that.

Which is what I'm taking issue with...I think it paints all of us in that light of 'I cannot function because my partner isn't here'

If someone wants to bash me for implying or outright saying I don't care enough for my fiance...well, I'll just laugh in her face, really. Cos at the end of the day, I don't need to justify my feelings to anyone...so (s)he can think what (s)he wants....

I once saw a guy with no arms paint beautiful pictures with his toes. Hell, if he can function, so can I.

As my dad always says 'no one's shootin at ya!'



Its ok Lisa...but no where does the article even hint that we can't "live without our SO". Wendy is moving after a DENIAL. Thats enough to rattle anyones cage...read my previous post. I dont think the reporter made us look the way you think. Its about our site here...VJ...its about how we are pulled here to find our support..friendships and information.

I never said you dont care about your fiancee. If I did please point out where...if I made you feel taht way I apologize. Lisa, we ALL want our SO here. We ALL miss them terrible. We ALL roll over in bed at night wishing they were there, turn to share something then realize they aren't there, call out from another room and realize they aren't there...we ALL go through it.

If u can cut and paste the part of the article that makes it look like we are desperate or obsessed maybe i can understand better. But the part you are refering to isn't about our SO...its about VJ and how we all are pulled here.

Im open to comments...and difference of opinion..but NOT sarcasm or put downs...it got out of hand. Lets make up and continue...


I've already explained why *I* inferred that from the article. We look v needy. Words like 'fixated, consumed, et al' and the general tone of the article spoke TO ME of codependent neediness.

And I'm not the only one who felt that way. Now I personally don't care whether anyone agrees with me or not, but I mention it to illustrate the fact that if you think it's just me who 'got it wrong', you're mistaken.

MrsAngel...I have never made one attack on you, so please....if you're thinking of leaving VJ, do it separate from our discussion...because nowhere in ANY of my posts to you does it warrant you laying that at *my* doorstep. Do it or not, it doesn't matter to me...but own the choice yourself, please.
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-01 08:02:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (wahrania @ Nov 1 2007, 07:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There are others of us here in intense pain over seperation from our spouses and lengthy delays... I am not sure exactly why lisa is on our board terrorising you but she likes MENA and frankly if she is happy here she is welcome but you should not be bullied off the boards and pushed with one nasty comment after another..

Lisa I really like you and think you are funny but sometimes, especially when you are dealing with another board that is from an area that you have nothing to do with , you should start to see where your posts are going... IF you see someone getting distraught, lay off them.. She is at the point she wants to leave the boards and this is a board for her particular region and you are a visitor. I fail to see how bashing her has helped the boards on MENA. She has tried to do things to bring attention to the immigration plight and the article did not come out like she had hoped but that is not her fault.... I think we should try to care about each other on here because for some of us, this is a huge support. I have survived some god awful things in my life and frankly immigration is up there because its a machine that turns slowly and you can do nothing to make things faster or better no matter how hard you try

kat


Who in the heck is bullying anyone off anywhere blink.gif Whoa, now I'm a 'terrorist'...wow that's great.

It's so disappointing to not be able to have a conversation where two parties disagree without someone taking offense. VJ Sheesh.

Does your 'we should care about each other' extend to me as well? Or because I'm a 'visitor' here, it's ok to call me a TERRORIST? Hrm.

Oh, W...I think an apology for calling me a terrorist is the right thing to do. And show me where I bashed her. Money where your mouth is time. You can spew these hateful pejoratives my way...but prove them. How is my opinion concerning this article transferred to AMNA? How is my opinion considered to run anyone anywhere. Here's a clue for you...you'd (GENERAL YOU HERE) have to matter for me to feel so strongly one way or another...and I simply do not care who stays or goes. So how *I* got the blame for the whole 'this is my last post but really it's not' drama is quite frankly, ridiculous.

Edited by LisaD, 01 November 2007 - 07:51 AM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-11-01 07:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (sarah and hicham @ Oct 31 2007, 08:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jenn! @ Oct 31 2007, 12:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Some might perceive not being all torn up about not having your SO here as just not caring as much, i.e. not as deep of a connection, etc. It's all the way you look at things, and I don't think that trying to humiliate people for missing their SO via calling codependency is what this site is for.


Like I said- that's just me. We're all different and handle separation differently. I personally cannot understand how some people can't function without their SO and I'm sure that others can't understand how I and maybe even others are not in desperation while waiting for our SO's.

My intention was never to humiliate or bash.


Nor really was mine, tbh. So I should apol for sounding harsh, but I'm honestly just giving my POV without malice towards anyone.

Jenn, I am not bashing someone for missing his/her SO. But to say things like 'I'm obsessed...it's all I ever think about'...well that's really all fine and well for each individual person, but when one is speaking as a member of a group, it gives off an impression that everyone's like that.

Which is what I'm taking issue with...I think it paints all of us in that light of 'I cannot function because my partner isn't here'

If someone wants to bash me for implying or outright saying I don't care enough for my fiance...well, I'll just laugh in her face, really. Cos at the end of the day, I don't need to justify my feelings to anyone...so (s)he can think what (s)he wants....

I once saw a guy with no arms paint beautiful pictures with his toes. Hell, if he can function, so can I.

As my dad always says 'no one's shootin at ya!'
Anita CocktailMale02007-10-31 19:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
QUOTE (amrssnowangel @ Oct 31 2007, 04:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (LisaD @ Oct 31 2007, 10:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I read part of that thread on the Egypt site, and the only thing I can say I agree with is the sentiment that it makes us look weak and codependent for our partners to get here. Like 'omG! how can I eat when he's not here!'

Yes, the waiting is awful....yes, the disparity in wait times between family based petitions and work petitions is upsetting.....but that needs to be highlighted in a non-OTT way.



Easy for YOU to say...you filed after I did by a month and chances are you will get your noa2 long before me. CSC is working mid June already..Im being told I will have to wait probably past my 6 month mark BY USCIS. So before making comments about how "desperate" you dont want to seem...wait as long as US Wendy did...or many other from months LONG before yours STILL waiting for noa2's or visas to be issued. I wont lie...Im desperate to have my man here because I love him and want my life with him. In no way does desperate to have him here equal codependence. And no matter WHAT we say...even if the beneficiaries were ALL Irish in that article with NO age difference, the reaction would be the SAME. I KNOW..I married an Irishman and my sister in law swore it was for greencard. Doesn't matter what is said or how the reactions will ALWAYS be the same. Because they are not living here when we find them.


Sorry, I find it to be drama & histrionic. You (general you here) managed to make it thru the day before meeting your partner, didn't ya?

For reasons I shall not disclose publicly, my fiance and I haven't seen each other in the flesh for 16 mos.

And no it's not 'easy for me to say' but it's the truth as I see it. I'm not going to ball myself up under the covers and die because this journey of ours has taken so long. It's life. These are our choices and we both knew what we were getting into. And I actually find it especially hard since we lived together for 3 years and now all that's changed as well. So there were a lot of adjustments. But life goes on....we make due and get through the day...since every day is a gift, I'm not going to spend it crying over what I can't change.

So stick that in your pipe and smoke it before talking to me about wait times...

This is not real strife. There are people dying right now....mothers burying their sons right now....there are people fighting for their lives right this very second. If this wait is the worst thing that's ever happened to you (general you here), then I envy the life you've had up until this point.


And as far as you saying I was unfair.....well, with the response that this article got, let alone how ridiculously obsessive the author painted VJers, let alone how half azzed an article it was in the first place....well I can't really imagine how anyone could be satisfied with the outcome. It did serve one purpose...couples in int'l romances who previously did not know about VJ now might come here. So it's good for traffic. Ewok can be really happy with it.. As for 'getting the word out'....regular Americans aren't going to give a toss about the 'plight' of a chosen path that we've all willingly pursued. Write your Congressmen/women...lobby for change...but 'getting the word out'? In this day and age, that article will be of more comfort to those concerned with security issues rather than a call to arms for people to help bring about change because we're tired of waiting.

I'd love to be able to respond differently, but I honestly can't in this scenario...
Anita CocktailMale02007-10-31 15:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
I read part of that thread on the Egypt site, and the only thing I can say I agree with is the sentiment that it makes us look weak and codependent for our partners to get here. Like 'omG! how can I eat when he's not here!'

Yes, the waiting is awful....yes, the disparity in wait times between family based petitions and work petitions is upsetting.....but that needs to be highlighted in a non-OTT way.
Anita CocktailMale02007-10-31 10:39:00
Middle East and North AfricaEgypt AP list....
100% right Caladan.

To those happy with the article.....did you read it?

Edited by LisaD, 31 October 2007 - 09:51 AM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-10-31 09:51:00
Middle East and North AfricaI just need to vent
AJ, hang in there! I have not seen D for 16 mos now and I know how frustrating it can be when you go extended pds of time without seeing the LOYL. We are not on AR, but we have been apart due to ridiculous delays in our personal lives, but regardless, the heart doesn't care the reason...the heartbreak and longing are the same.

It's always good to keep your eye on the prize and be positive, but every now and again it's ok to just wanna scream and admit that it just plain sucks.

Heh, can you tell I'm not having a good night either?

Edited by LisaD, 03 November 2007 - 07:59 PM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-11-03 19:58:00
Middle East and North AfricaIs this all worth it?
QUOTE (Badrs Love @ Nov 17 2007, 08:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Maybe Heather didn't love Badr as much as he loved her. You would know that since you knew her so well, right?


I have read a lot of sick delusional things on here, but this, by far, is the most shocking.

I feel sorry for you. Not in the 'I'm going to insult you' way....in the 'I really and truly pity you' But I also am asking you kindly as a bystander to stop trashing Heather. Her name doesn't belong in your mouth...much less to blab her personal details on a mb.

Have a little respect!
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-17 21:12:00
Middle East and North AfricaIs this all worth it?
The tarzan effect is not healthy, tbh...you know, not letting go of one before firmly grabbing hold of another? Bad bad bad!
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-16 17:20:00
Middle East and North AfricaIs this all worth it?
I'm actually curious to know that if your ex had agreed to 'friends with bennies', whether or not you'd pursue that whilst being in an LDR? And whether or not you'd actually tell your current partner?
Anita CocktailMale02007-11-16 16:29:00
Middle East and North Africapast relationships?
QUOTE (sereia @ Nov 15 2007, 03:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why can't he accept me for who i am (and who i was)


I don't have advice for you as this topic is not an issue for me, but I just want to say that my heart broke for you when I read this particular sentence. I hope you both are able to get past this problem.

Good luck rose.gif

Edited by LisaD, 18 November 2007 - 09:43 AM.

Anita CocktailMale02007-11-18 09:42:00
Middle East and North AfricaAttention Fiance fraud
Wigena, I'm really sorry you're going through this. But if there were threats against you and your children, then you're wayyyy better off anyway.

I would like to express concern with posting someone else's picture without her consent. I know it was done out of good intentions, but taking someone's pic and attaching it to a story about how the man in her life is using her is kinda on par (albeit no where near as nasty) as what was done to some members here a while back. I know you're doing it to help, but I don't think that's the best way.
Anita CocktailMale02007-09-18 10:03:00
Middle East and North AfricaWill there be trouble with my age?
My speculative answer would be that it will be ok providing they have both proven they are legal to marry. Depending on the laws in the OP's state, if with parental consent, it is legal to marry at her age, then it's a legal petition.
Anita CocktailMale02007-12-19 20:44:00
Middle East and North AfricaWill there be trouble with my age?
Beautiful couple, best of luck rose.gif
Anita CocktailMale02007-12-19 19:12:00
Middle East and North AfricaFactors i've noticed about issuing visas in MENA
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Regions Wars

England Vs MENA

kicking.gif Go MENA CATS GO GO


I don't think this is a "RELIGION WAR". Cultural, maybe.



He said Region, not Religion.


I was gonna point that out, but you beat me to it.

But I didn't understand the reference to England. Did I miss something here ?



I figured he meant Lisa.


Ohh.

Well if so, it doesn't even make any sense. Lisa was expressing an opinion that was in *agreement* with many of the MENA folks here.

Maybe it was all lost in translation....


Thanks for pointing that out...as I said earlier, it was not meant as a poop fling...I was only repeating what I've read on this very forum, and I fig'd it was relevant to the convo.

good.gif

anyways, I'm goosed tonight! it was a biiiiiiiiig and productive day! go me laughing.gif

Have a great night everyone
Anita CocktailMale02008-01-08 21:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaFactors i've noticed about issuing visas in MENA
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QUOTE (LisaD @ Jan 8 2008, 09:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jenn! @ Jan 8 2008, 09:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
*waits for everyone to come and talk about how marry-able their SO's were*

whistling.gif


I didn't mean it in a bad way, but I've seen that said on here so often....I don't mean to insult anyone.


No, I know you didn't. TBH, I was hoping that by saying that people would think twice before starting the "my SO was so desirable because...." conversation.


I wasn't sure which way ya meant it, but I'm heading out for most of the day and I fig'd I should clarify before it started a poop fling! ;)
Anita CocktailMale02008-01-08 09:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaFactors i've noticed about issuing visas in MENA
QUOTE (Jenn! @ Jan 8 2008, 09:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
*waits for everyone to come and talk about how marry-able their SO's were*

whistling.gif


I didn't mean it in a bad way, but I've seen that said on here so often....I don't mean to insult anyone.
Anita CocktailMale02008-01-08 09:39:00
Middle East and North AfricaFactors i've noticed about issuing visas in MENA
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You guys just kill me.

I never said all Egyptian women are jealous of me. I was merly attempting to make more clear what Hitchoo was trying to say and some were having a hard time with by giving SOME examples of what I have experianced.


That is what I said.


You said this too:

"Actually it is not really about people being jealous of you Sarah it is more about, all you are aware of are your own thoughts and ideas and you can not see beyond that. You do not see what is going on around you and that other people have thoughts and ideas that might be as good if not better than your own. "

You said lots of things! Cool!


But I never said every woman was jealous and every look was a jealous look. But I still stand by the above statement to you. This counter was not directed toward the statements I have made about you Sarah it was made about the jealousy that alot of people have misunderstood or taken to another level.


Good morning Hitchoo!!!!!!!!!


What you're describing as 'jealousy' sounds a lot like 'disapproval'. But if you need to call it jealousy cos it makes you feel good, then go for it!

From what I've read in here, many MENA men who emigrate are those who are not really able/ready to marry in their own country. So I really fail to see where the 'jealousy' would come from the MENA women for 'stealing' someone who is not able to marry anyways...

Edited by LisaD, 08 January 2008 - 09:24 AM.

Anita CocktailMale02008-01-08 09:24:00