ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Philippineswhat is the purpose of the NVC?????
what do they do exactly?????? they havehad my case and still havn't sent it to the Malilla Embassy jet they said that it was because aditional processing???? what does that mean?????
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-05 12:19:00
Philippineshi

Are you in Az? If not, when are you planning to be here ?
We will be glad to meet you..



I am in az ...we are stuck at the NVC right now under AP just waiting for the paperwork to get to manila so she can get her interview
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-07 09:07:00
Philippineshi

hi hope to see you soon here! Take care and God bless!


send me a pm and i will send you my # so we can get together sound good?
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-06 14:05:00
Philippineshi
wahh....nice..i am coming also there soon...see u there,my fiance live at chandler but we move now at tempe...happy new year po,,,godbless,,,see u soon,,,a lot of filipinos there,dont worry u will see them soon...hehehhe.. :dancing: :D :P
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-05 21:18:00
Philippinesmedical passed...
that is great!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-07 10:59:00
Philippinesi need some advice

We are all family here, don't worry about it.

:thumbs:


just all the prssures from this process and work is getting on us...I am sure we were not the only people going through this emotional rollercoaster
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-11 12:35:00
Philippinesi need some advice
sorry fellow VJr's for her airing our laundry out here
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-11 10:29:00
Philippinesi need some advice
hello guys...need some advice how to deal with this feelings..i can't wait to be with my fiance,we still waiting another processing? :( it is too bad,,i am full of hurt now,charlie and i got arguments yesterday,just because of misunderstand..it is not my fault,he is...am i the one can understand it?do i need to say sorry with him?still..i love him so much..and we are already preparing for our wedding and i have already wedding dress.....wat will i need to do?huhuhuhuhu,,thank u guys...godbless
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-11 02:22:00
PhilippinesFiancee interview today at 7am and worried no repsonse from her
congrats!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-04 10:46:00
Philippinescalling the embassy
so is it easier for me to call the $18 dollar line or for Pam to call and set it up there herself??? If it is her what # should she call?
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 21:30:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

That's nice Charlie... wishing you and Pam a happy life together :thumbs: . Don't forget the LECHON! :P



LOL.....I swear that is all she eats !!!

Yeah i just talked to my wife earlier and she asked if i could just buy her a round trip ticket so she can go back to the PI for the winter... :no: I told her that she needed to see one winter there...we will move after next winter. Besides i told her that if she left for the winter in alaska (6-7 months) they might deny her entry back in....I know she was kidding about going back to the PI for winter...the only way that she will get to go back is if I deploy again.....and that is next to no chance right now.



lol
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-13 08:44:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

Congratulations, C&P!! :dance: :dance:
:ot2:


thank you
I was talking to another friend and he was telling me that the group that is out here that have pinay wives he is going to talk to them for the wedding so they can cook a bunch of food for her
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 22:27:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

She will have to stay with me. It is only one winter and then i will change stations in Sept 2011. We are looking to probably go back to korea. The only way she gets to go back to the PI is if I deploy to get some tax free bonus. I dont see another deployment coming up though. Yeah cold with windchill is no joke..but we have that cold with no windchill!! Last winter we saw 3 weeks straight of -30F or colder and i think our lowest temp was -56F....no windchill.


sounds like you have all your ducks in a row scotty I wish u the best where is your girl at in the phils maybe we can try to schedual their interviews the same day
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 20:24:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

Yeah especially since it is -40F right now :o



wow she would freeze in place when she would set off the plane!!!! She might just want to stay on it!!!.LOL
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 15:33:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

i would only hope that we get everything done...i guess only time will tell. It would be awesome to bring her back with me...but I think she will want to wait until june...it will be kinda warm in alaska... :lol:



yes she shouldnt be there now!!!....wow that would be such a culture shock for her
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 14:48:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

I need to call them to find out our case number. I was also under the impression that I would have to call the NVC to expedite it there too? Dont I still need to send the Affidavit of support and DS-230 packet to the NVC? I also still need to pay my fees there.



Yeah the only thing that sucks right now is I will be going to visit my wife in the end of january and all of feb. We will try to do the medical, but I will still have to go back and get her once the visa is issued. The only problem right now is i really want to visit her because i wont be able to take leave until about May if i dont go when i get back from kuwait. Yes it did all work out. I am assuming it was approved on 5 January, but the notice was never sent until 11 january...seems like it takes them a week to send the NOAs out. Hopefully i will be back in the states in a week or less



i hope so ....I was talking to another guy that the NVC sent it out on the 4th and they have their interview on the 17th so looks like you can get everything done while u are there
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 14:22:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

Congrats!! at least that was a short AP. We just got approved through the CSC...now i just need to wait a week and call the NVC. Hopefully i will be back in the states soon!


congrats man !!!!! I knew you were worried a little but see it all works out!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 13:35:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!

:dance: God is really great! Congratz and Godbless!


thank you !!! ......I really hope he blesses me so I can get all the money together buisness is real bad right now!!!.....but giving plasma pays!!!!...lol
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 13:09:00
PhilippinesFinally out of AP at the NVC!!!
I just got off the phone with the NVC and they sent it to Manilla yesterday!!!! finally here she comes home!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-12 12:39:00
Philippineshow safe is it to travel to manila?
i have been there 3 times this year and have been all around the phils from manila and makati the first time, the second time was angeles and subic, and my final time I was in Baguio and in Urbiztondo where I was the only Kano around so I was a big attraction!!!...lol..... To be honest everywhere I went never had a problem and always met good and friendly people except the people trying to sell u things !!!...peice of advice if you say one word and talk to them u will have 5-15 people run over to u trying to sell u different things !!!! Just be yourself and enjoy it and dont worry about trivial things like that!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-12-31 09:13:00
PhilippinesWhy a Filipna???? Tips?? Lessons?

Inappropriate post removed. Keep on topic and don't insult other members. The Regional forums are open to everyone.



katerine are you serious ....because i defend myself to what she said about me and she was the one that was typing bad words !!!!!....wow that is the first one here in 2 years I got removed!!!!! just jump on the female band wagon that she started !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-16 22:53:00
PhilippinesWhy a Filipna???? Tips?? Lessons?

YOU GUYS ACT LIKE YOU ARE CHAPERONING A JR HIGH DANCE :whistle:

LMAO @ CHARLES & DONNA :innocent:



nice !!!! :whistle: :whistle:
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-16 22:38:00
PhilippinesWhy a Filipna???? Tips?? Lessons?

Don't marry a Filipina or an American or an Irish or a Kenyan. Marry the woman you're in love with. Marry the woman that matches your goals, your ideals, your faith, your morals, your retirement plans, your ideas for size of family desired, your ideas of ideal financial success level.... etc. MOST OF ALL marry the woman who makes your heart rush, that you can't stop thinking about even if you try to because you're mad at her. The one you'll forgive anything... And, people will probably complain that I'll say this, but also marry the woman you are sexually compatible with, sex drive, open or closed-mindedness, etc. Without sex it's just a very close friendship and room-mate. Physical attraction is only important for the beginning until you develop deeper feelings, but it has to be there too.

Having dated a lot in my younger years (my first marriage was at age 33), I can tell you from very personal experience, NO TWO WOMEN are the same. I've dated mostly American women, but also one from Peru, one from Spain, and a previous Pinay. All were already in the U.S. and legal status. This is the first relationship I ever had from afar and didn't intend it to ever happen, it just happened. We started out friends from a social networking site, very casual. I always liked talking to her, joking and laughing and I just always wanted to talk to her more and more. We found we had more and more and more in common and I just became more and more convinced this could really turn into something very great.

The Pinay I dated before is COMPLETELY different from my fiancee. Like cast from completely different molds. To find anything they had in common besides hair color and gender would be very difficult.

Your topic is the same as "who's married to a brunette, what do you like or what don't you like". Or, "who's married to a Pisces/ Aries/ Sagitarrius and how is that going for you" (actually that group might have more in common than the 45 MILLION or so women you just lumped together), or who's married to a woman under 5'5" and how's her cooking?



dane that is a great way to put it !!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-15 21:04:00
PhilippinesWhy a Filipna???? Tips?? Lessons?

all i can say is if this turns into an american woman bashing thread like they all do, im reporting it so be careful!!



will you chill out !!!!!!! I can see what he wants to know but might not have worded it the proper way since it is obvious u are a female and assume people want to attack!!!!!.............To the OP all I can say is for me personally It comes down do careing and her being family orientated !!!!!! Also with the upbringing of only one guy for there life is very encouraging for me since I do have 2 children and she is willing to accept them as gher own!!!!.....And to Donna you should be the one reported since that is baiting and u just want that attention!!! we have a saying for that over here it is called an attention ........well i wont say the rest
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-15 20:53:00
Philippineswhat is the total cost I need to send Pam?

I hear you, bro. It's exciting knowing she is so close to getting her visa, realizing that soon you will be together again!

But, don't go too crazy during this agonizing wait. :)

Just remember to budget a cool grand to adjust her status.

Good luck with her medical and interview. :thumbs:

~ Tahoma



Thanks ....I am going to call tonight to see if I can get the date !!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-18 08:43:00
Philippineswhat is the total cost I need to send Pam?

Charlie, Arizona Mills wouldn't be too bad and the prices at J. C. Penney Outlet are too low to pass on, especially if you are pinching pennies!



I live right around the corner from the Mills!!!

Charlie...shouldn't you have done your budgeting before you bought all of those clothes? ;)



yes i should have I went a little crazy with the after christmas sales since I got the na02 on december 24th....I was just so excited thinking she was comming!!!!!
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-15 08:05:00
Philippineswhat is the total cost I need to send Pam?

Just a hint.... :blush: She just mayyyyyy want to do some shopping when gets here coz you know us guys can never get those colors right... :whistle:



yes i know!!! lol......she is happy that there is a mall withing walking distance
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-14 12:27:00
Philippineswhat is the total cost I need to send Pam?

:thumbs: Definitely agree on the baggage allowance. I actually plan to to go meet my girl in Cebu to help with her travel back here, coz I don't want her to do this alone and I will bring no bags and we can use mine and her baggage allowance. I know she wants to bring as much of her clothes and personal things as possible.

To OP, since you're not meeting her, you may want to check and see what overweight or extra bag cost with your airline. She'll be pretty down if she has to leave some favorite things behind.



well she is only bringing 1 bag plus carry on she doesnt have much and she knows I have already gotten her a closet full of clothes
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-14 12:19:00
Philippineswhat is the total cost I need to send Pam?

Charlie...here is a suggested budget:

SLEC medical exam..........................................$213.35.......Php9708
Visa fee at Banco del Oro....................................131.00............5961
Air21 visa delivery fee............................................6.00.............273
CFO seminar and sticker.......................................14.29.............650
Food/restaurants: four trips/seven days in Manila...100.00...........4550
Taxi to get around Manila......................................60.00...........2730
Shopping/manicure/pedicure/waxing/haircut.........100.00...........4550
Going-away party for family.................................100.00...........4550
Pocket money for flight to U.S..............................100.00...........4550
Load: she needs your support................................20.00.............910
Bus fares from province.............................................??...............??
Dental work: less expensive in Pinas............................??...............??

Total..............................................................$844.64.......Php38432

Note: the exchange rate is based on $1:Php45.5...your mileage may vary.

~ Tahoma


ok i am confused about the pocket money for the flight to the us? 100.00 ? if she is getting on the plane and I am meeting her at LAX why so much ????? Also If yuou wanted to add that you should of added the taxes at the airport and also the airfare so now we are looking at about 1500.00 total
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2010-01-13 14:29:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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I must have gotten lucky. The family didn't want any money from me. They even refused the town school from giving me a letter requesting money for the school. They wouldn't allow them to give it to me.

I wish you the best of luck.


sounds like you got really luck!!!!!!!!1 good for you

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Well, everyone is different, when My bf (now is my hubby) visited Me first time He asked me what kind of a gift He will bring for me and to My Family, I told him it doesn't really a big deal, just let see if We click in person cause it's different when We are communicating in the phone or in the internet. and if We click in person, maybe in your 2 or 3 visits you can bring me or send Me a gift, as long as that is what you like to do,but the most important thing is, just be yourself. innocent.gif What I'm trying to say here is, some women are not comfortable to accept a gift from a stranger. don't get Me wrong I never said accepting a gift from a stranger is wrong. however, if I have to request a gift from My fiance, I'm sure is not toys,soaps,or an old clothes. it should be flowers or a yummy good chocolate. devil.gif blink.gif tongue_ss.gif


anyway, o.p. go ahead and give them gifts.


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also what about the gift giving process she is telling me soaps & perfumes for the girls and toys and candy for the kids but what i don't understand she told me to bring my old clothes for the men????? is that really ok? ......and my last question is when would me a good time to formally ask her dad for his daughters hand? Do I do it at the party? Thank you all!!!!!



thank you .....she has alot of nieces and nephews so I was going to go to the dollar store to pick things up there...lol


Try go to the SALVATION ARMY I figured the things they sell are NOT ALL second hand, there are plenty of name brands clothes, toys etc. just went there yesterday bought a figurine; and an old dolls collection which you can't find in most stores.: blush.gif


good idea


No, giving gifts from the Salvation Army or any other thrift store for that matter is a very bad idea. You don't want your sweetheart's relatives and friends to be using recycled things, some of them coming from dead people. Your used clothes may be okay as hand me downs though. You could be in trouble now; she could have read your good idea about buying Salvation Army merchandise. whistling.gif



LOL..I expected this kind of answer....I was thinking the same thing about it too. headbonk.gif rofl.gif

I was not really serious about it. it's up to the o.p. He is adult and I'm sure He know's what He's doing... yes, it is not a good idea to buy used things as gifts. headbonk.gif tongue.gif biggrin.gif



If you are rich O.P. I suggest go to this store http://www.neimanmarcus.com/ innocent.gif



nope not rich at all middle class!!!....lol

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You'd be fine with the chocolates. Brand clothes are ok but you really dont want to show off as someone rich. Even when they consider 'Fruit of the Loom' a cool brand. Bring gifts specifically for the Mom and the Dad. In the Philippines, there is a saying that courting the girl means courting her parents.

Mano or putting the back of the hand to your forehead is a must. Dont kiss anyone, not even in the hand. They may look pleased, but theyd be disgusted if your lips touch their hands, especially because you're a guy.

Be prepared to answer questions like what you do for living, do you go to church, how's your parents and what do they do kind of stuff.

Oh and if the dad or brothers ask you to drink with them, dont drink too much. Sometimes they use that as a test to makes sure your not some alcoholic loser marrying their daughter.

When you eat the mom or the dad's cooking, always say it tastes good no matter what it tastes like.
I grew up in the Philippines so I know this stuff. Good luck!


great advice
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-19 11:19:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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You're basically gonna step off the plane as Donald Trump in their eyes. My girl was constantly bombarded with financial requests from just about every relative. The requests ranged from buying MP3 players for cousins, to paying other relative's debts off. Some of which were hundreds of dollars.
Quite honestly that was the worst thing about the PI for me. It seemed like EVERY SINGLE person wanted money from me. It got old real quick and even started to wear me out in a very negative way.
Be prepared, and be stern with your girl with regards to your budget.



really that bad???? so did it ruin your trip?


Nah man, not at all. My girl is worth every grief in the world. The second trip was better though cause i knew to expect it. I have helped her family alot, and will continue to as long as i am with my girl. They just have an old-school mind-set that if you're Amerikano, you're rich.
As far as being in public, if you've ever been to Mexico, it's kinda like that. You know, like if you're walking to a taxi, some random guy will jump in front of you and act like HE'S the reason it stopped. Then he asks for money. Or if you're pulling into a parking spot, some dude will run up and GUIDE you into the spot, lol, then ask for money.
Then there's the actual beggars. If you eat at a fast food restaurant near the street, be sure and sit away from the windows, or atleast YOU don't face the windows...it's hard to eat when 5-10 kids have their faces smashed against the glass with agonizing looks of pain on their faces.
If you watch them fter you give them money usually you'll see them run off to go gamble it away or buy something to huff on.
All this stuff is expected in any 3rd world country IMO.


I know exactly what you are talking about!!!!......this will be my fifth time there but the previous was all business in Makati mostly so I got a good taste of that!!! the first time was a culture shock and then I got used to it .....my girls sister worked in the hotel that I stay at as a waitress for breakfast we got to talking and that is how I met her sister
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-19 11:16:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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I just bought 1 big pig 2 months ago it cost about 3,500 pesos. but if you want to buy already roasted pig it will cost more than than.

I think 2 or 3 pigs are enough for the whole barrio.


OK....i talked to her last night they are getting one big pig roasted so it is about 160 american so the rest as sides and drinks sounds about right to me now!!!....lol


charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-19 11:03:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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I must have gotten lucky. The family didn't want any money from me. They even refused the town school from giving me a letter requesting money for the school. They wouldn't allow them to give it to me.

I wish you the best of luck.


sounds like you got really luck!!!!!!!!1 good for you

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Well, everyone is different, when My bf (now is my hubby) visited Me first time He asked me what kind of a gift He will bring for me and to My Family, I told him it doesn't really a big deal, just let see if We click in person cause it's different when We are communicating in the phone or in the internet. and if We click in person, maybe in your 2 or 3 visits you can bring me or send Me a gift, as long as that is what you like to do,but the most important thing is, just be yourself. innocent.gif What I'm trying to say here is, some women are not comfortable to accept a gift from a stranger. don't get Me wrong I never said accepting a gift from a stranger is wrong. however, if I have to request a gift from My fiance, I'm sure is not toys,soaps,or an old clothes. it should be flowers or a yummy good chocolate. devil.gif blink.gif tongue_ss.gif


anyway, o.p. go ahead and give them gifts.


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also what about the gift giving process she is telling me soaps & perfumes for the girls and toys and candy for the kids but what i don't understand she told me to bring my old clothes for the men????? is that really ok? ......and my last question is when would me a good time to formally ask her dad for his daughters hand? Do I do it at the party? Thank you all!!!!!



thank you .....she has alot of nieces and nephews so I was going to go to the dollar store to pick things up there...lol


Try go to the SALVATION ARMY I figured the things they sell are NOT ALL second hand, there are plenty of name brands clothes, toys etc. just went there yesterday bought a figurine; and an old dolls collection which you can't find in most stores.: blush.gif


good idea


No, giving gifts from the Salvation Army or any other thrift store for that matter is a very bad idea. You don't want your sweetheart's relatives and friends to be using recycled things, some of them coming from dead people. Your used clothes may be okay as hand me downs though. You could be in trouble now; she could have read your good idea about buying Salvation Army merchandise. whistling.gif


hehe ....i showed her the site but she said that she really doesnt understand it .....


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Bro, relax, these are a simple, kind and special people. Its the reason we marry their daughters. You will be very surprised to find You you will be treated like a rock star!!!!. will be called SIR, you will have doors opened for you. The girls will giggle and sneak looks at you. The men will shake your hand gladly and smile. Be yourself. The fact he is a Counselor should not make a difference.
The only hard hard thing about this whole trip? ...............Will be leaving. ENJOY and quit worrying so much.


People in the PI address the stranger "SIR" to Filipino or NON Filipino people. so, don't surprise about it. it's a way of respecting too.

People there will "OPEN DOOR" for anyone because most doors there are NOT AUTOMATIC. did you notice in the bank or in SM MALL there are 2 or 3 guards in the door standing up to open the door for the people to come in. not only that for other security reason also. innocent.gif devil.gif


lol
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:56:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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I must have gotten lucky. The family didn't want any money from me. They even refused the town school from giving me a letter requesting money for the school. They wouldn't allow them to give it to me.

I wish you the best of luck.


sounds like you got really luck!!!!!!!!1 good for you

Well regardless of all that - if it happened or didn't happen - the bottom line is that you love eachother and you want to be together. Just be sure of it, and if you are, you should be together, and you'll be happy.

Thats all.


quick and to the point i like how you think about it all

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ok thank you ......she said that her father is a councilman for something like that? what is that ????? Is that why they want it to be a big thing?



Probably because they want to invite the whole barrio, they're going to invite plenty of people; and that is including the father friends and co-workers etc. Her father is a COUNCELOR work in the barangay,a job something related for the goverment. helpsmilie.gif


SO THAT MEANS I AM GOING TO BE UNDER THE MICROSCOPE!!!! GREAT LIKE I AM NOT NERVOUS ENOUGH!!!!! LOL


Bro, relax, these are a simple, kind and special people. Its the reason we marry their daughters. You will be very surprised to find you will be treated like a rock star!!!!. You will be called SIR, you will have doors opened for you. The girls will giggle and sneak looks at you. The men will shake your hand gladly and smile. Be yourself. The fact he is a Counselor should not make a difference.
The only hard hard thing about this whole trip? ...............Will be leaving. ENJOY and quit worrying so much.

Let me suggest to you two tings to bring with you to give to her as a gift.
1. A Laptop. if she is chatting to you from a cafe, this will be the best gift anyone can bring.
2. a Digital camera. Let her collect photos of her family and friends and familiar places before she leaves her home.
Both gifts I brought to Naty and she was grateful and thanks me even now. Oh, make sure the camera uses AA batteries which they have plenty of. Also the Laptop will work as the adapter is rated for both 110 and 220.



great idea
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:34:00
Philippinesmeeting her family for the first TIME!!!
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I must have gotten lucky. The family didn't want any money from me. They even refused the town school from giving me a letter requesting money for the school. They wouldn't allow them to give it to me.

I wish you the best of luck.



Lol, that's kinda my point. The TOWN SCHOOL was even wanting some of the action, how much more her relatives. You lucked out that they didn't actually ask YOU, but i can almost guarantee you that your girl dealt with it when she was alone with them.


so you think that they are giving her a hard time? how should I ask her about that I know she is a very proud but timid person
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:30:00
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I must have gotten lucky. The family didn't want any money from me. They even refused the town school from giving me a letter requesting money for the school. They wouldn't allow them to give it to me.

I wish you the best of luck.


sounds like you got really luck!!!!!!!!1 good for you

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Well, everyone is different, when My bf (now is my hubby) visited Me first time He asked me what kind of a gift He will bring for me and to My Family, I told him it doesn't really a big deal, just let see if We click in person cause it's different when We are communicating in the phone or in the internet. and if We click in person, maybe in your 2 or 3 visits you can bring me or send Me a gift, as long as that is what you like to do,but the most important thing is, just be yourself. innocent.gif What I'm trying to say here is, some women are not comfortable to accept a gift from a stranger. don't get Me wrong I never said accepting a gift from a stranger is wrong. however, if I have to request a gift from My fiance, I'm sure is not toys,soaps,or an old clothes. it should be flowers or a yummy good chocolate. devil.gif blink.gif tongue_ss.gif


anyway, o.p. go ahead and give them gifts.


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also what about the gift giving process she is telling me soaps & perfumes for the girls and toys and candy for the kids but what i don't understand she told me to bring my old clothes for the men????? is that really ok? ......and my last question is when would me a good time to formally ask her dad for his daughters hand? Do I do it at the party? Thank you all!!!!!



thank you .....she has alot of nieces and nephews so I was going to go to the dollar store to pick things up there...lol


Try go to the SALVATION ARMY I figured the things they sell are NOT ALL second hand, there are plenty of name brands clothes, toys etc. just went there yesterday bought a figurine; and an old dolls collection which you can't find in most stores.: blush.gif


good idea

charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:28:00
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You're basically gonna step off the plane as Donald Trump in their eyes. My girl was constantly bombarded with financial requests from just about every relative. The requests ranged from buying MP3 players for cousins, to paying other relative's debts off. Some of which were hundreds of dollars.
Quite honestly that was the worst thing about the PI for me. It seemed like EVERY SINGLE person wanted money from me. It got old real quick and even started to wear me out in a very negative way.
Be prepared, and be stern with your girl with regards to your budget.



really that bad???? so did it ruin your trip?
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:25:00
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OH - and I gave the kids all chocolate and they were very excited. Thats about all I had to do.


lol.....good already got a bunch of mm's
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:23:00
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I put Ana's parent's hands on my forehead when I first met them, and every time i left, or came back to their home. Also in their church service during the hand-shaking, Ana and I put her older relatives hands on our foreheads. When I first did it to her parents, they were extremely impressed, and her mom immediately called me "good boy" and was laughing all giddy like. The final time I left, I gave them both a big hug on top of the forehead thing, and that was another good impression. I am IN!

Now when I talk to her on the phone they tell me how much they miss me, and want me to come back. I guess I made a good impression - WHEW....



GREAT INFO!!!! So whenever i leave the house and come in ????? good to know !!! ....i know i will be going to church with them so that was good to know also...i thought hugs were a no no


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Hello all, I love this sight so I finally set up an account. Well I am meeting my girls family next week for the first time and have some questions that I am hoping you fellow vjr's to help me with. her and her parents will pick me up at the airport do I do mano po when i meet them or is that old school? also I am paying for a party the next day for all her family to meet me ....i don't mind but is there a limit on how much i should spend or get? .....also what about the gift giving process she is telling me soaps & perfumes for the girls and toys and candy for the kids but what i don't understand she told me to bring my old clothes for the men????? is that really ok? ......and my last question is when would me a good time to formally ask her dad for his daughters hand? Do I do it at the party? Thank you all!!!!!


Hi,
Naty is just in from the Philippines and she said this:
Mano Po - Shake the hand or touch the hand to the head is fine. I shook hands and this was fine. NO HUGGING

if you wish to ask for the blessing, it is fine to say like this
Sir, I love your daughter very much and I would like to ask you and your wife for your blessing if you will accept me as your son in law.

As far as toys and gifts. Man, don't kill yourself with trying to buy everyone everything. That can be counter-productive. You can buy some things for the family there much cheaper then here.

Naty is saying 4 or 5 pigs is fine, depending on the nuimber of people. They will prepare the food ahead for you, believe me, with no problem. I guess you can get fish and other things. soda, san miguel beer, etc.

Do not try to impress everyone by throwing money down. Come across as a conservative American, generous, but show wisdom in your spending.

if you have old clothes, sure you can bring them, thats your call.

Good Luck on your journey there.

Brian & Naty


thank you that is very very helpful.....4 or 5 pigs?????


HAHAHA, ok, she said 1 pig is for 70 people. A large pig is about 150 US. JUST buy the pigs, no other main courses. Rice 2 50Kilo sacks. The drinks can be coke and San Miguel.


great ....i will tell everyone what she tells me tonight i will try to get what they are going to cook

charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:22:00
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ok thank you ......she said that her father is a councilman for something like that? what is that ????? Is that why they want it to be a big thing?



Probably because they want to invite the whole barrio, they're going to invite plenty of people; and that is including the father friends and co-workers etc. Her father is a COUNCELOR work in the barangay,a job something related for the goverment. helpsmilie.gif


SO THAT MEANS I AM GOING TO BE UNDER THE MICROSCOPE!!!! GREAT LIKE I AM NOT NERVOUS ENOUGH!!!!! LOL
charlie&pamMalePhilippines2009-08-18 15:14:00