Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Canada	Do I have to wait...	sends me the AOS package? We're finished filling it out/compiling it using the forms we got from the website. We have paid our AOS bill and it's been accepted and our barcoded cover sheet has been generated. On the AVR, it says the AOS fee bill was accepted and processed and that it will send us something in 6-8 weeks but we don't have to wait for that package do we? We can just send what we have? Thanks, just checking... Best, LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-15 15:57:00
Canada	Quick tax question	as my husband does is taxes electronically... he has all the copies and the copies of the W2s to go with, should he sign them? There is also this past year where he filled as married to me, I signed the one he sent in and the ITIN paper and such, but as I'm not there, should he sign his signature to the copies? Thanks all...	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-16 20:39:00
Canada	APPROVED!	I said it once, I"ll say it again! Holy COW!!!! That was fast... Good thing you slipped all those thousand dollar bills in between all the pages! I kid.... Best of luck on the rest of your journey.. . LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-16 15:43:00
Canada	Are we being too optimistic?	Hey... be optimistic, it never killed anyone, did it? I think you should, why not? QUOTE (Malrothien @ Jul 16 2009, 09:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well, we're already at the NVC stage. I plan to get everything ready this weekend to send to them once our case number is established. Just hoping our luck with the I130 will continue.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-16 21:07:00
Canada	Need Quebec french translation	et, big allo to la petite souris...	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-16 21:00:00
Canada	Need Quebec french translation	Aaah... Bon homme... I had a 'tragic' time one time at Carnivale... I kid you not. Those big horns they have there = trouble.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-16 20:55:00
Canada	Does Montreal	I saw this thread: http://www.visajourn...howtopic=185033 And I was wondering if it was possible to have that done in Montreal for myself? I would really like that as it would save me 100$ and all the time and running around it'd take to get new docs to procure a new passport when my present passport is still good for 3 years. I don't need all my stuff in my married name, I just really wanted all my new US documents in it. Any advice would be helpful. We're filing for a CR1 our of Montreal, Canada. Thanks guys... LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-19 10:09:00
Canada	what is to be done next.	Would have taken me 10 minutes in Sheho! QUOTE (*Len* @ Jul 21 2009, 10:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Also, for the Canada wide check... I can suggest you go to a small city - or call in advance to ask how long and how much, since it varies. I went to the Edmonton police and they told me it would take 6-8 weeks... WTH!!!! Then I went to St. Albert and it was done in 72 hours.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 21:45:00
Canada	what is to be done next.	I actually just got mine today. I got it from the Police headquarters in Downtown Toronto, as that's closest to me, and it was 25 dollars plus 5 dollars for another copy. It took them 2 weeks to get it to me, I have no criminal record, and it was pretty easy. Just make sure it's a Canada wide/RCMP check but that's pretty easy to figure out. If you need more information, PM me and I'll forward you the details. Best. LGG. That's all I know as I did not do a K1 QUOTE (Missa @ Jul 21 2009, 10:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> thank you for all of your information. i will be patient i was also wondering about the police certificate. i was told to get a canada wide name check as i do not have a criminal record and that this is what immigration expects for the interview. is this correct? is this enough? or will i eventually have to get the criminal record check that takes a long time ( i hard up to 6 months) and uses finger prints?	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 21:25:00
Canada	My Kitty	Oh man, a bouncy kitten at that! Even when my cat was a kitten she was so freaking chilled out I couldn't believe it. She's like little Zen cat. Oohmmmmm. Well, make that Fat Zen Cat... QUOTE (winifredbee @ Jul 21 2009, 09:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We flew with our 3 month old kitten in March. She did great! No meds needed. I was worried at first but she just watched people and stared at me when she could. With an older cat in a car I would think it would fine but you could get the medication to help her sleep and only use it if you need to. Good Luck! You can see a pic of our Mini on my profile.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 20:20:00
Canada	My Kitty	Hey Kathryn... 6 cats??? wow! I know, she's going to be a spaz, she doesn't even like it when I move her from the couch to the chair so I can sit down. Really, really good advice, thank you. She's been such a good friend to me and so chill, I'm hoping I can make her feel not so scared. Oh and I know she'll hide for days after this, it's her way as I've moved apartment with her before. Id' never put her in the back, either -- she's up in the cab with us most likely mewling the entire way. sorry your older kitty passed away -- that's sad. Heartbreaking. I'll be all broken up if/when my teddy cat goes. Thanks for your advice. QUOTE (Kathryn41 @ Jul 21 2009, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I moved with my 6 cats to the US on a two day trip. It will be a long day for your kitty. Don't sedate her, especially at 16 - that is a good age for a cat and the sedation may cause additional problems. I will say that the trip and the move will be stressful on her regardless of what you do. You will need to keep the cat in her carrier with you in the cab - she can't be in the truck body. Plan on 'rest stops' every 4 hours or so where you can let the cat use a litter box ( you may need to have something small and portable you can keep with you - don't open the doors of the vehicle for any reason while your cat is out of the carrier! See if your fiancee can have a room set up before you arrive with the cat that has a litter box with litter already in it. Your cat will be very stressed by the move and may retreat under a bed for several days. Also, have a good complete vet check for her before you go and address any medical problems then. As well, keep an eye on her after you arrive because stress can also cause medical problems and you may need to have vet treatment afterwards. My 15 year old was very stressed during the trip down and developed a urinary tract infection from the stress. She stopped eating and no matter what I could do I couldn't get her to start again. I force fed her and eventually did IV fluid drips with her but eventually she passed from hepatic lipidosis - initiated by the stress of the move. My other 5 cats did fine although it took them some time to adapt. One of my cats meowed the whole time - two days worth of driving! The others were intermittant. I covered their carriers with towels because everytime a transport truck roared by us they 'cringed' from the shadow moving over them. If you can keep your cat's carrier on your lap (I know that is a long time to do so) and talk to her and reach in and pet her it will go a long way to making her trip easier on her. And at 16, she does need babying.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 13:38:00
Canada	My Kitty	Seriously though? You wouldn't know it by looking at her --she's a chubby, fluffy teddy bear. Odd cat, she... never wanted to go out, never asked, just wants to hang out sleeping. Can't even get her to catch a fly. She's a good old lady though. QUOTE (Emancipation @ Jul 21 2009, 01:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> 16 yrs... holy flip your kitty is a geriatric!	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 13:33:00
Canada	My Kitty	Hi there. I as thinking the other day, my cat who's about 16 and the biggest sweetie-pie ever is obviously moving to the US with me. How did you all do it? We're most likely going to be driving for about 8-9 hours with a truck with my stuff in it. Did you sedate your pets? Did they freak the hell out? I'm a little worried about my fur-headed friend.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 12:42:00
Canada	Passport Photos	Ha! Oh no, not you Mal... Some poster before you decided I as stupid! Oh well, it is the interweb after all... I got mine done at Shopper's Drug mart, but i think I'll get a couple more done for the DS 230 and use the other two to scare people away from my lunch in the work fridge! QUOTE (Malrothien @ Jul 21 2009, 09:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> lol, I wouldn't call you stupid! We got our photos done at Costco and just told them we needed passport photos. QUOTE (lgg @ Jul 21 2009, 06:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks Mal... Guess I am stupid! Thought personally, I wouldn't call anyone stupid just for asking a question, IMHO... QUOTE (Malrothien @ Jul 21 2009, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> When I landed for my PR in Canada, they had a stencil box thingie to measure the photos to ensure your face fit correctly.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 21:00:00
Canada	Passport Photos	Thanks Mal... Guess I am stupid! Thought personally, I wouldn't call anyone stupid just for asking a question, IMHO... QUOTE (Malrothien @ Jul 21 2009, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> When I landed for my PR in Canada, they had a stencil box thingie to measure the photos to ensure your face fit correctly. Edited by lgg, 21 July 2009 - 08:21 PM.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 20:17:00
Canada	Passport Photos	What? Who? Who's stupid? Fill us in now! QUOTE (AnaGRicky @ Jul 21 2009, 09:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Are you guys kidding me?? Man are you stuppid or what?? Give your head a shake	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 20:08:00
Canada	Passport Photos	I have Barely anymore now! QUOTE (Krikit @ Jul 21 2009, 04:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> You still have hair??	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 19:40:00
Canada	Passport Photos	yep, that's where I got mine done too. After the commute home, I feel much better about it and I'll get a couple more done. Why not? maybe this time I can avoid looking like Cruella D'Ville in them. QUOTE (OBX @ Jul 21 2009, 06:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> All of the photos I sent throughout the process were 2 x 2 (US specs). Had mine done at Shopper's Drug Mart - 2 for $9.99. They had the templates for multiple countries. Oh and yeah, I wouldn't be surprised at them pulling out a ruler either. Oh well, it's just the way it is.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 17:19:00
Canada	Passport Photos	OH for #######'s sake, are you kidding me? Good. GODDDDDDDDDDDD! I got 4 passport pics done yesterday for the DS230 and the Medical -- please don't tell me that I have to get them done again for a 3rd of an inch or less? It's not like they're mounting them in a passport, are they??? God damnit. God. #######. Aaaaaaaaaagh.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-21 15:59:00
Canada	Looking for some feedback and a pair of	~posted in CR1 too, hope that's okay~ Our IV payment was just accepted, I have printed out the Barcoded sheet and am going to send my package tomorrow. I was wondering if you all had any last minute tips or whatever for me. I think I'm pretty well prepared so... I have the coded sheet, my cover letter, the DS230 Part 1 and part ii, only part 1 signed. My original B.C., our original marriage cert. copy of the bio pages of my passport, my original Police certification, 2 US standard passport pics with my name, birthdate and NVC # on the back and then a copy, verbatim, of the entire thing. have I missed anything? every single page, copies included, has our NVC # written on it. IF it's an original, I put our NVC# on a sticky note and paper clipped it. Everything is attached to white paper that is small and well... any tips or advice would be helpful. I'm planning on sending it by UPS tomorrow morning. Thank you all so much. LGG PS My husband was divorced and we had to send the USCIS an original copy of his divorce decree (he is the petitioner, the USC), I don't think I have to send it to the NVC again and I myself have never been divorced, is this correct? I plan on bringing it to the interview though.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-29 10:18:00
Canada	Question regarding Divorce Decree...	40 Bucks!!!! Well, we only paid 6$ dollars for it but, I am going to bring it with me to the interview; as far as I know, they're satisfied themselves with knowledge and validity of it and such via the USCIS and now it's onto checking into me. Thanks all... just doing my last minute checking. If you've caught me posting questions twice, guilty and sorry...	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-29 14:44:00
Canada	Question regarding Divorce Decree...	Hi there, I have been reading and not finding this answer... my husband, the USC petitioner, was divorced and we sent his Divorce decree to the USCIS. So, am I also supposed to send it again with DS230? I had thought that the DS230 was beneficiary based and since I haven't been divorced = no divorce decree sent. I was told by some good folk on the CR1 site that I have to send his anyway, I'm looking for a Canadian who might have been in this same situation. Thanks a lot. It's no big deal or anything, I have the certified copy and all, just want to know if it should be included. Thanks a lot. LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-29 12:19:00
Canada	How adorable...	Yep, I teared up too. ANd then, the antithesis of this... I saw a show last night about a wedding where everything had to be "perfect" no holds barred sort of thing. They had doves, a 15 tier wedding cake, a dress that cost 14k and well the total spent was 115 thousand dollars. HOLY ####. It was crazytown. No tears in my eyes for that one. OH, save the tears that would fall if I had to incorporate that into my budget. No fun, sweet dancing down the aisle either. Oh... and what happens to the doves???	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-02 07:29:00
Canada	How adorable...	I bet that was a doozy -- like giant head the next day and a very dry mouth and the need for a poutine and a cheeseburger. QUOTE (~Laura and Nick~ @ Jul 26 2009, 11:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (lgg @ Jul 26 2009, 09:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I thought this was really super cute -- i could never do it myself but good on these two for having fun.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-26 10:29:00
Canada	How adorable...	Ha! I am not cool, I just saw it today and thought it was hilarious. QUOTE (flames9 @ Jul 26 2009, 09:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Pretty cool! That video is plastered everywhere,lol	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-26 08:48:00
Canada	How adorable...	I thought this was really super cute -- i could never do it myself but good on these two for having fun.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-07-26 08:16:00
Canada	Help?	Yepper... I agree with the ease and comfort of it all. Your move is a lot more intense than mine is going to be. Good to get this stuff on the go, huh? BTW, that Broadway Express looks insane to me. Well, I'm off to downsize some more. Good luck... QUOTE (Danu @ Aug 3 2009, 01:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> as are you! I figure if I'm going to be driving all the way across country I will only take what I need and be comfortable in my car instead of uncomfortable in a uhaul. For a move from Ontario to California The quotes I've found (incase they help anyone) Uhaul - the truck alone is $1,677 and the smallest they have is a 10ft, I think with my stuff I only need about 6-7, plus $40 for a tow dolly. Can use up to 10 days and 5079 kilometers. Gas extra. Bonus - there to check my own stuff through customs ABF - 6ft of trailer space, terminal to terminal is $1,776 or $2076 for door to door, plus $13 for customs check. Gas and taxes are included in this price. If I need more space its $158/ft which isnt too bad. Estimated transit - 5 Days. Bonus - they check your stuff through customs for you. Broadway Express - I dont know why but they quoted me a 10ft trailer. $2, 953 for the truck alone. They also charge $595 for an origin/toll fee, and $430 for fuel charges. Total quote $3978. This is another pack it yourself company so the charges to me are outrageous. They also expect you to be at the border with them to help with customs on your goods. Rediculous.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-03 12:09:00
Canada	Help?	I know, right? Plus the expense of my husband getting down here and the stuff like that. I figure if we pay a couple hundred more for the stress we'll save, it'll be well worth it in the end. Plus, when I'm ready? I can get them to pick up all the stuff, make the move and I can spend my time here with my friends and stuff. Good plan, Danu... you're so smart! QUOTE (Danu @ Aug 3 2009, 12:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thats what we have decided too lgg, the uhaul rental is more then ABF is charging us, plus we would have to pay for gas and pick up a tow to be able to get my car there too. So much less hassle this way	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-03 11:38:00
Canada	Help?	Hey guys... lots of great advice here but... we are NOT going to be driving it. I have found a few companies so far and am getting quotes left, right and centre it boils down to about 1200-1500$ so far and that includes movers and such. I guess that's how it's going to have to be .But when I read that one of you rented a U-Haul for like 800$ and then had to pay for gas... well, that's about 1200$ right there. anyway, will keep you posted as to what I find for anyone who is interested. Thanks for all the great replies and advice and such. LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-03 07:35:00
Canada	Help?	Thanks guys... We're not going to to do the drive either and it's way shorter than yours Rhiann... I called PODS and they sound great, i just wanted to see if i could get a little cheaper than 2 grand. I don't have a lot of things either, or rather, I won't... but it's something like 1 small coffee table, a small antique sewing table, a stand but heavy stand up antique radio, and a rocking chair and let's call it 40 boxes of books and personal things. In my books, that's not a lot of stuff. but if you factor husband's flight to get here, renting the truck, driving the 9 hours or so with a cat and such... it sort of equals about 2 grand anyway. Getting someone to drive it down would just be saving a lot of stress and hassle. I'm just wanting to see if I could get it down to a grand. I'll let you all know what I find otu, okay? As I'm sure there'll be other Canadians in the same boat. More input is wanted if anyone else has anything to add. Thanks again guys... LGG QUOTE (Rhiann @ Aug 2 2009, 12:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It also depends if you want to drive your own stuff down or trust someone to drive it down. I'm probably going to do the PODS route, since I don't have alot of things... and I'm NOT driving from Toronto area to LA Area, haha.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-02 11:47:00
Canada	Help?	I was wondering about moving my stuff. I am downsizing ALOT and will have a very small move but I think that we've decided it would be best and easiest shipping my stuff down to the house in the US. So, i'm wondering if any of my fellow Canadians have gone this route and who did you use to move? And what the average cost was. I called a company called PODS and they quoted me 2 grand. While not SO bad, I was wondering if I could get it done cheaper as I have/will have a very small amount of stuff. Maybe 2 or 3 pieces of furniture and boxes of books and my clothes and LGGs 'stuff'. your help would really be appreciated. Thanks so much, LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-02 11:03:00
Canada	IR1 Electronic Processing	I'll send you an SASE so you can stuff all that postal money in it and send it to me,k? jk I freaking spent 50$ overnighting my IV package via UPS cuz I got so paranoid about all those original documents in it. 50$!!!!!!!! We're in the midst of a recession here! Good luck, Mal... I'm dying to hear how it goes. I have a scanner here at work too but... um, can't use it for this sort of thing. QUOTE (Malrothien @ Aug 4 2009, 03:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I've got a scanner at home and at work, which is great. If we do this, it'll save $$$ on the postage!	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-04 14:09:00
Canada	IR1 Electronic Processing	Check this guy out... http://www.visajourn...howtopic=210122 He did it. I decided not to as I don't have a scanner at home -- it was faster and easier to just mail stuff in. LEt me know how it goes,k? I'd be curious to see if it was way faster. LGG QUOTE (Malrothien @ Aug 4 2009, 01:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I just realized that I can do the electronic processing with Montreal instead of sending everything to NVC. Have any of you done this instead?	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-04 13:54:00
Canada	Favorite Things About Where You Live(d)?	Hey there... Did you live in High Park by any chance? That's the first thing I thought of when I read this. I live in Little Italy/Little Portugal... QUOTE (canadian_wife @ Aug 5 2009, 12:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Toronto - I LOVED the little Eastern European village I lived in. I loved the mixture of languages and food and cultures! I miss it Atlanta - Southern hospitality! No seriously! People here are so nice and generous. I also love the park across the street from my house.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-05 19:48:00
Canada	Favorite Things About Where You Live(d)?	Mal!! You live by Loughheed Mall!?! I am sorry for you, sister. I lived in Burnaby for awhile and in East Van (that's right, East Van!) and was mainly an Island girl (nanaimo) while I was in BC. Spent most of my life now in MOntreal or Toronto. Ha! Lougheed Mall... poor you. QUOTE (Malrothien @ Aug 5 2009, 03:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DeadPoolX @ Aug 5 2009, 11:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Malrothien @ Aug 5 2009, 08:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Issaquah, WA: I loved the same things about Auburn Hills that you mentioned, except in Issaquah! I also loved the amount of choice when it came to different cuisines in our mid-sized town. I also loved how close to the mountains we were and how we always got more snow than Seattle. Currently in Vancouver, BC: Nothing, really. There is so much rudeness and self-absorbtion here that it's very hard for me to handle (I'm from the Southern USA..). I wish we had been able to live in the Okanagan. People were so friendly there when we visited! I'm from the southern U.S. as well (Texas) and I have to agree with you about Vancouver. The "nice and polite" Canadian stereotype is not alive and well here. To be fair, however, there are plenty of rude individuals in the U.S. (and Texas), but maybe I didn't notice them as much. Maybe I also knew who and what areas to avoid, as well. When you move to a new place -- whether or not it's in your home country -- you're guaranteed to notice things that you wouldn't normally before. Anyway... I certainly don't hate Vancouver. It's a very nice and beautiful city. The best part about being here is my wife and my inlaws. Yes, I said my inlaws. I really like my wife's parents and apparently they really like me. I'm very fortunate in that respect. Maybe so. I've been here for almost 4 years now, so I have no idea. I don't hate Vancouver either, but I think I'd like it better if I lived in a different part of it (*cough*north shore*cough*). I didn't realize you were in this area, too. We're by Lougheed Mall. *puke*	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-05 15:07:00
Canada	Name Change re: Police record check.	Thanks, TM... I know, I know... I'll calm down in a bit, I got into my, 'must learn all now' mode. QUOTE (trailmix @ Jun 25 2009, 08:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (lgg @ Jun 25 2009, 08:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wondering, am going in for my police certificate on Monday, I'll give them my maiden name as i've used that for all my years save for the past 2 weeks. Will NVC want a name check done on my new married name was well? Will I have to do two name checks? Thanks so much... LGG Just one check and you ask them to check both maiden and married	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-06-25 20:47:00
Canada	Name Change re: Police record check.	Wondering, am going in for my police certificate on Monday, I'll give them my maiden name as i've used that for all my years save for the past 2 weeks. Will NVC want a name check done on my new married name was well? Will I have to do two name checks? Thanks so much... LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-06-25 19:00:00
Canada	VJers who have outstayed their welcome	I really have a soft spot for people who say, jeeze louise.... Cutest thing ever... QUOTE (CanAmCharlotte @ Aug 7 2009, 03:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I guess some of you didn't read my entire orignal message. I said I tip my hat to those who hang around after they are naturalized and give good advice to those in need. What I don't like are those who 'lurk' (or even if they're still going through the process) and only make nasty or hurtful remarks. Jeez Louise people, I wasn't asking anyone to get off the website. I just happen to have seen some rather negative posts directed at people who were sincerely looking for assistance. I looked at the timeline of these folks and they were already naturalized. It boggles the mind. Anyway, I'm afraid some of the targets of these negative comments might have been run off never to return and that stinks.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-07 15:15:00
Canada	VJers who have outstayed their welcome	Sprailenes... You always tell it like it is and for that... I offer you a poptart! QUOTE (Sprailenes @ Aug 7 2009, 09:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> No offense taken... But if you're only here for one thing and one thing only then you need not make an entire thread complaining about others. Get your information, ignore the people who bother you and move on.	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-07 13:56:00
Canada	Ever had doubts?	Aw, man... I really hope she comes back and talks to you about it-- that is not right. Relationships are hard -- men and women are really different in how they process stuff like this and the distance and immigration does not help sometimes. But, I do believe that when two people have a good, strong connection -- they tend to understand each other well and accept each other without having to niggle/naggle over every little thing, despite the communication boundaries surrounding emotions and whatnot that our sexes have set for us, you know? Just my humble opinion. Also? I don't think it right for her to just go without a word -- that is unkind, to say the least. I agree with Jaucque (sp) when he/she said that hate is not the opposite of love, apathy is. Good luck with everything. I do mean that. It's not easy, none of it but I am of the opinion that it is well worth it, lumps and all... Best, LGG	lgg	Not Telling	Canada	2009-08-11 11:27:00