Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	They must have seen my "Engaged to" and clicked on his name and sent him a message... I just changed his privacy settings to only receive messages from friends, it was set to "everyone" before... From experience, you might way to do that on every single thing on facebook. People are evil. Although, I don't think that was meant to be evil. I would've asked permission if I felt like doing that. I don't normally reach out though to anyone I don't know. Thanks for telling me who you are on there too JAP.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 14:22:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	You will have to forgive me, JAP; but I don't even know who you are over there. I have a few of you down; but the rest I just know you are from here. I usually only accept or friend if I see all the rest are friends of other VJ people.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 14:01:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Not dat mi have a ting mi would hide from di man... just that mi feel it a little presumptuous fi smaddy go message him an not know him... They his friend? How they get the message to him?	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 13:59:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Umm is boudoir a nude photo? A friend of mine had them done......lingerie. She had one topless. DADA, what are wedding VOWELS????? I was wondering when you were going to get your mustache trimmed... Man I wish I could get that massage with you. I got the mani and pedi and hair done yesterday. I skimmed over this at first. Had to go back and reread after I had a ####### moment.............I thought it said Man I wish I could massge you. I think someone slipped some alcohol in my diet mt. dew this morning.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 11:19:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Was thinking JaP should press them and keep the petals...maybe make something with them....they would have soooo much significance for me You read my mind....I press at least one flower from all the bouquets I get.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 10:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Morning Yardies DaDa, I agree with you, there is a lot of support on here, but there is also a lot of judgement as with anything posted on the internet... no one really knows what you are going through in detail from reading a post made in an on-line forum. My honey has been my rock these past months. He is right there in this boat with me, and we're paddling our little hearts out If we did not have the love and open communication we do, there would be no way we could have made it through the past year and a half... So in my time of need, I turn to him instead of here. He is always a txt away, and he keep his phone with him at all times same as I do. He still calls me every morning to wake me up, and he still says little romantic things that even my poetic mind could not think of He is truly my soul mate in every sense of the word and I am so blessed to have found him no matter how hard our journey has been. One of the best things he did that really made me understand how much he cares was my birthday... He has been asking me since last year how he can send me flowers, and I have looked into it, but without him having a major credit card I have come up empty handed... But you know April 21st (My Birthday) I heard a knock on my door and there stood a man holding this: I was so shocked They were so beautiful and they smelled divine! Apparently he called my friend and had her go through the FTD website to find the perfect roses, order them and he txt her what to say on the card and western unioned her the money to pay her back... All that trouble just to put a smile on my face, and lawd knows it worked We have been through a lot, and yes it has been hard, but every day we show each other how much this bond means to us. I never believed in love like this before I met that man. He has made me a believer! And I say, what God has joined together let no man put asunder. Amen. I have more to share, soon come... work a kill mi... Awwww...that's sweet. Beautiful flowers.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-14 10:42:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Really excited about my new printer....Prints photos in 17 secs for a 4x6.....Before took me 650 secs per print, so constantly had problems at an event when lots of people tried to buy photos as they were leaving.... Please keep unu fingers crossed for me that I get a event for Saturday that they were supposed to call me back about!!! Finesse, Tanya is an AMAZING lyricist...she comes from angles you don't even think about....love her vocal range too Damn, those things are going to be shooting out of there. Sounds cool. Good luck, JAE.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-13 11:42:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Lawd, it's almost 11pm and imma never finish reading before I pass out. I must say that I got MAXIMUM respect for this post JG!!! All I cared about when I came here yesterday was that someone I consider a friend was hurting ((Ells)) I have not read or posted in here since December because in truth it's painful and I am not through it yet... maybe when we know the embassy's decision I will come here and spill my guts in the company of those who understand as no one else could. ((VJ)) This board is still serving it's purpose IMHO. No one else could understand the things we have been through. No one else can help those who will be going through it. The back and forth leaves me feeling a little sick Nobody is perfect, each and every one of us has a crack in our #### Thank you to all who wished me well for June... the appointment is only to drop off the waiver package... the processing time from then is 2-4 months... Maybe by August he will be able to hold his first born child... see, now I am crying... this is why I do not post... I'm just trying to keep it together ya'll... To the people I have connected with on here, I thank you, I love you, I could not have made it without you... Bless Understand, JAP. I've had to step away when I've felt down before. Some days I'm not on here at all cause I'm feeling something vile and even the cheerfulness on here bugs me . But, in the end, this thread reminds me that anything is possible and if you keep the faith, you can pretty much overcome anything. I wish you the best.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-13 08:31:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	That's great! HotLegz Yup, but I missed it this week. Whose team are you on? The Mafia family or Danielle? Hello, SweetSugahDumplin. And KimmyKashi	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-13 08:19:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	NO PUN INTENDED HUH Ha ha....you are so bad!	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-12 15:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	#######!! my son said we need to go to target to get some condoms so he can practice "whacking off" in one so when "he goes into heat, he'll know how to package his meat" "....this is what he said they learned in sex ed class today... My head just exploded!	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-12 14:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	This is a public forum. I am a vet for all intents and purposes. And, for however many years I 've been on here, I've shared the good the bad and the ugly. Some days I talk a lot and some days I don't give a ####### about what anyone says on here. It's not any of you though. That's all on me. The statement that this board has changed has come up over and over. Of course, it's changed. Who said it???? Someone wise yesterday...Jamerican?....it evolves with each batch of newcomers and who decides to stay and who decides to go. And, it depends on what is shared. We still share the same ups and downs. We still yell at each other from time to time. We still love and we still support. The one glaring change (well besides Nat's coupon talk....smile) is the sex talk. Personally, I can take both Nat and the sex talk only so much. And, honestly, I am questioning my faith right now and think all the God talk is a bunch of #######. At the same time, I wish I believed as deeply. You see it? But.........if someone else enjoys it, who am I to say a damn thing. I have the option to skim over anything I want and to comment on anything I want. If I am not interested that day, I skim. If I am, I participate. This board does not live or die on my interests or comments. So, who the hell cares. Talk about what you want to talk about. If no one comments at all, maybe you should let it go. If there are comments, then, you are keeping this forum alive and it's what it was meant to be. When someone needs visa help, we'll go back to helping them. When they don't, we will entertain ourselves in other ways. I don't think people completely ignore or skip over talk they don't agree with. I've said many things on here over the years and even if no public comments are made, I get PMs to chat. This board still serves it's purpose. I try to be as diplomatic as possible, even when I've seen it all before or have my doubts. If I can't be, I will PM you with my concerns. You know who you are on here. If you tell me to STFU or move along, so what? I tried. I don't feel the need to be rude to anyone cause I don't see the purpose in it. If you are nice to me, I'll do my damndest to be nice to you. Can't say I agree with every word that is written here. The tone bugs me sometimes. The words bug me a lot....as evidenced yesterday. But, I can say I don't like how or what you said, without attacking you. I have never liked any of the attacks on here. If you don't like someone on here, please keep your comments clearly on the up and up. Say what you want to say; but leave the biting comments out of it. You aren't helping anyone on here by cutting down someone. Your comments that are truly helpful and insightful are actually lost when you do. You all could me and I'd probably never leave. I have been through much that I hope none of you ever go through. And life is as tough right now as it's ever been for me. I have a lot to say and some helpful advice. When it's needed, I will throw it out there. When a referee is needed, I will try my best. And, when I'm just plain bored, I expect you all to entertain me. STOP PICKING ON PEOPLE YOU DON'T LIKE. STOP TAKING EVERY DAMN THING SO PERSONAL. IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY, SAY IT......RESPECTFULLY. Those are the 3 rules I live by. Try to anyhow. There is no place else out there like this board.....shared adventures is what I like to call it. Whether good or bad, we have all been there, done that, going to do that, wishing we'd never done that, etc. It's where we were meant to be. And, I know personally, I need all of you goofballs.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-12 13:19:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	i just want to say- i love my husband more than i ever thought possible i am toooo excited b/c the embassy emailed me back saying they were going to schedule an interview for my step-son in june this loss has shown me how important my family really is i pray to God to cont. to bless us I'm sorry for what you have had to endure, A.........I see the unfurling of a plan here. Stay positive. Love you and D! Good morning! It's already Wednesday. Sometime after I went to sleep (midnight), my wonderful husband cooked a ton of food. And his food is ALWAYS delicious. However, I will not be eating any of it. Why? He left it out all night! That wouldn't make him sick because he's done it for years & developed a resistance to the bacteria (I guess). However, I don't have a resistance and am not trying to catch food poisoning. So how did I react when I woke up & saw all the food? A) I calmly shook my head and chuckled over his good intentions gone wrong, the put the food away & finished getting ready for work. B) I wailed, "Steven, Noooooooooooooooooo!" in a dramatic way & woke my husband up, then told him that he knows I don't eat food sitting out for more than a few hours. I wish I had done A, but I let my emotions get the best of me. His feelings were very hurt. Ha ha....I had the same issues for a while. It really won't kill you. I've eaten stuff sitting out for longer then I ever thought possible.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-12 12:52:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	This is for Ells, if it is real love with you and your husband then it will last. You and your husband has to work hard at it if you want to stay together. The reason I say this because I was once in a similar situation with my current fiance. When we first met we really liked each other. I came back to the states and we were good until I received a phone call from a female telling me he was occupied. It took us almost 4 years to get to where we are now. He ended up having a child with her and I had one with someone else and they are both the same age. I would visit Jamaica from time to time but was very hurt by how the whole thing went down. Although, he was trying to do right by his child the mother was unfit for him and his feelings were always there for me. One day I realized I deep down inside, I had more love for him than the guy I was with at the time. So we talked about what happened in the past and trying to move forward and agree to be faithful to each other. So, like I said if its true love you both have to work at it. If its only one person wanting to make it work then it makes no sense to try to make it work. Those are my two cents and I am keeping it real and clean. Awwww.....good luck to you.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-12 12:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Awww, bless his/her heart. Don't get me wrong I have no issues with the flaming, I love them. It's the ones that mask their true selves...that's dangerous and just plain nasty!!! These wanna be thugs and they dropping the soap every chance they get...oh no thank you! You are on a roll today!	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 15:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	We had five generations until gram passed now it's just four . Did anyone see Saturday Night Live this weekend? Betty really looks good! Dat be us and we got 9 guest who came to visit us too.. Someone will die if we have that now.....	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 15:16:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Naw that's not quite how it went...I wasn't looking for anything when I went to JA. I was actually dating someone from Atlanta but he didn't want any children and so when I went to JA I was at a cross roads. The "DL" is everywhere but the ones here tend to be very bold with it! One of my best friends is as flaming as they get......drag queen who does a dead on GaGa impression. And, I love him to death.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:54:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Me too !!! You know what's funny about that comment is I feel like a therapist sometimes. Chuck and I talk for hours and hours on my front porch swing. He will go to his therapist and when he says something, Chuck will say, Kelly said that same thing. He does it all the time. Maybe I'm in the wrong line of work.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:42:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Shemmy..........did you get a picture of the 4 generations? We had that up until 2 years ago when my Grandma died. Some of my favorite pictures. 4 generations of girls. When I was a baby, we had that for a very short time as well.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Wow they made you chose but the three of you are friends. Dang JG you doing something right you go girl!!! LOL Yeah, neither one of them was happy I was dating both. I couldn't choose.....one had to get his shyt together and one was just so darn adorable.....but unstable IMO. I took the leap with my choice about a year ago now.....it's been good so far. Yeah we still hang.....I went to Daniel's game last week and then he followed me down to Chuck's game and played for his team. Stuff like that. Ask Dillon, I'm with one or the other of my harem of man friends all the time. Wierd; but it works.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	In other words Nat, we have a high concentration of "DL" men. You have to be extra careful when dating cause they will not disclose their activities as being bi...the checking boxer comment was a joke since you might have to come to the realization that they might be "giving it" to you but "taking it" from someone else. On a side note, I never worried about actually dating someone that was DL but by concern was if who I was dating decided to be unfaithful with some woman who was messing with a DL...then you see how stuff gets started and the cycle can begin and spread So you went to JA? No chance of the DL there.......or at least, they say. I'm sorry, I couldn't resist.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	JaP!!! Welcome back! I'm still confused... Nooooooooooooooooooooo....... Someone PM her please.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 14:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Girl yes, it's rough up here being single in ATL...some of the men here are totally out of pocket! You gotta check the front and back of their boxers Ok.........Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 13:30:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Thanks for telling it like it is. I appreciate it. For real! Sometimes it's hard to swallow but it certainly makes me step back & take a look at my actions & again, appreciate the honesty when others might sometimes be afraid to say something for fear of hurting feelings or whatever. I know VERY well that I'm FAARRR from perfect & I'll be the first to admit I have pretty poor relationship skills so this is a huge learning experience for both of us. We want this to work & more than ever do I now understand what people mean when they say 'marriage is hard work'! I keep saying this but only time will tell if we can work through our issues & become the team/family we've always hoped for. Ells, I love you to death and you know this. So, please take this with a grain of salt. You are harsh. I see A LOT of myself in you. I tend to fight for the thoughts in my head because I KNOW they are right. And, granted, they probably are. But, you have to take into consideration the other person. It's been a long journey for me to get to the point to say even if I am right, I may not be right for this particular situation. Flexibility. Compromise. And, sometimes you just say aw, #### it....no one is going to die if we don't do it this way. And, if he crashes and burns, I say good try.... not..... told you so! But, he absolutely has to be honest. Everything else can be worked out. But, if he's lying about the little stuff, you tend not to trust him at all. Once that's gone, it's gone IMO. I mean really, if he lies about the sandwich he just ate, am I going to believe him about something big like talking to a woman? I think not. Ask him why he lies about the little stuff EVERY time you catch him. Maybe there is a pattern.....like.....and, I'm sorry, Ells....like you overreact and he can't take that. YOU have to work on the overreacting part. HE has to work on the lying. No one person is to blame for everything. Work on it one day at a time, my friend. Like Lady C, this will take time.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 12:03:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	You are a strong woman... Some days I think so. Others, I'm like jello!	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	LadyC, as I specifically said, my words were not meant as an attack, but more a REALITY CHECK. No-one can tell you what you should do in your house, but I am entitled to give my opinion in the same way you have the right to vent. My words were not meant to cut you down or to judge, but more to put yourself in your husband's shoes. And also, while I know you were venting, suppose he overheard you saying you would send him back? As JG said, if you aren't about to load him on a plane, don't use the words. Again, you are welcome to step past my comments. Now this board SHOULD be about supporting people, but at the same time, if one of my friends vented to me like you did to the board, I wouldn't be a TRUE FRIEND if I didn't say to her what I said to you. As for yelling, it's just how I emphasize words. Take it or leave it, no offence intended. JG, I hear on Ells. And I agree with you that it is probably a poor choice in words and perhaps in actions. But as someone with pride, I would not want to hear my husband talking about me being 'allowed'. And as for th sending back thing, as the IMMIGRANT in my relationship, I would take DEEP offence to my husband infering/saying/suggesting he was going to send me back. Nuh MAIL ORDER bride right yaso. If you haven't bought the plane ticket, you shouldn't be tslking about sending people back. A husband/child ain't for no damn Christmas. And YES things are said in anger, but PLEASE just THINK before you talk, because some things can NEVER be taken back!! Even if you apologise or rae rae, how can you expect a man to feel SECURE knowing this is how you are talking? And yes, I know 'sending him back' could really mean 'leaving him', but it's the whole CONNOTATION! If my husband said, you know what this isn't working out, I could move past that. And repair something after that. But if he said 'I'm thinking about buying you a ticket and sending you back' that's WHOLE different thing!! Affa dis a anno WALMART CUSTOMER SERVICE!!!! Unu fi watch weh unu a duh and a seh caws if mi nuh deh wid unu and feel suh, imagine how dem a feel? I had issues with my cousin and a friend saying she/they was going to buy Andre a ticket and send him back when he and I were having some issues. I blew a gasket. Only thing I ever said to Andre at the end was do you want to go back? He said no. I've never asked or said a thing about that since. It's not my right at all. He's here because of steps WE took and if he chooses to stay, it's his life. I wish him the best. I never made an attempt to force him somehow to leave. I never will.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:47:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	The same like he does every night girl. We put him to bed and he started to bawl as usual but we ignored him. When that did not work he kept coming out to go to the bathroom. G put him back to bed and then he started turning the lights on and off. I was trying to help G fill out all his employment papers so when I got up and told him to stop he kept up the bawling. We finally went to our room and I have no idea when he stop bawl. SMH Hope nobody takes this wrong, but he sounds like a baby. You know the whole they cry for no reason and if you pick them up, they learn how to work it. When there really is nothing wrong, if you just leave them there to cry, they learn to comfort themselves and go to sleep. Time and patience, C.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Nope its not BUT we cannot stop trying? and let me not forget to say it wasnt to begin with..got better over time Thank you for that, Kimmy. Some days I need someone to say, keep at it....it can get better.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Morning Yardies! Congrats Tee! Happy Anni Chiney! Good news KJ! You TOTALLY 'get it' JG! Thank you for understanding my point. It's the LIES that are getting on my last nerve, not his choice of friends. Of course, when he lies about who he's visiting with, it does make me wonder why he feels the need to, like what is he hiding. I also have mostly guy friends & he wouldn't ask me to give them up, nor would I if he tried to. However, by the same token, I don't spend a lot of time alone with any of them & if I were to, he'd have just as much of a problem with it as I would. What the heck do I need to be going over to some guy's house for a few hours a couple time's a week for?? I have no need for that, my husband (& supposed best friend) is at home. He'd be the green-eyed monster if I acted the way he acts sometimes. But the real issue is the lying. I really don't spend a lot of time checking on him but as his wife, I do have a right to ask things like "who was that?" when I hear a female voice on the phone calling him. When he tries to cover up by saying it's one of his guy friends, that just insults me to my core. And I completely agree with JAEnglish & what she is saying. (In fact, I think I'm going to read what she wrote to him tonight.) I give my husband every opportunity to act like a man, but when he's constantly lying about ish, he's acting like a child. Anyway, it is what it is & whatever happens, happens. Yeah, I would be bugged by the lying too. If you have to lie to me, then you are doing something you already know I will have a problem with. Why not just tell me first and we will come to some sort of a conclusion. I actually do spend a lot of free time with my guy friends. You know BF is a fireman. 24 hour shifts. He encourages me to go out with Daniel and Rob a lot. Takes a lot of trust for him to do that because early last year I dated Daniel for a while and actually stressed when they pretty much made me choose one of them. In the end, we are all friends and I know I made the right choice.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:38:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Sometimes, kids need more than what's called "handling" You can be the sternest parent in the world and your child STILL acts out, you could've raised 10 well behaved kids and child number 11 comes out a hot mess. Sometimes it has nothing to do withthe parents, it can be the environment that they're around, ie school and or they have something going on mentally. Just my opinion. Makes me smile And that's why the cycle of having problems in your relationship contunies, you have to accept your man/woman the way they are UNTIL they are ready to change. No pressure is the best way. Goodmorning chiney eyes, how are you? Or you are	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Tam..PLUS..just like adults have to adjust our children have to also!! Its no secret Kashi has 3 other kids..and there is never a thought of them not living or spending alot of time with ALL of us at some point...My bilogical kids NEED to know their sisters I send my kids to visit with her sisters and Kashi's ex LOVES my kids as I do hers..I think when the wife and child's mother develop a decent relationship things are better IMO. That THE ideal situation. I can tell you, though, no matter how much YOU want that, there are always 2-5 other people who have to go with that as well. I'm beating my head into a wall trying to develop relationships and just go with the flow. It's not easy at all.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 11:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	The only thing I'd like to say about this is that no one can possibly understand what another is going through unless the have walked a mile in "their shoes". I believe what Lady C is feeling is frustrated. I understand her because my own has been horrible. I thank my husband everyday for dealing with mine but its hard when you aren't functioning as a "team". Marriage, family, etc are life changing events and it takes time to get used to it all. I'm pretty sure this wasn't what she expected. And the little boy's own mother is saying she can't handle him. The minute you let a child dictate how things go is the day you've lost control of the situation. I think its best to be supportive of Lady C because I know when I was dealing with mine, I was very close to ending his life, thats how bad it was. When you try everything you can to help them and they still act an azz, its a hard pill to swallow. The courts even said my child "Exhausted all the possibilities of the juvenile system" what do you do? These "types" of children don't come with manuals. I don't suggest you give up but it's going to take time and effort on all parties to help correct the situation. Just my opinion, on the matter no hostility, no arguement. I just can relate oh so well. Lady C, I will keep you in my prayers and ask God to allow Jahiem to soften his heart and help you and husband deal with things and get through it... I am not currently experiencing any isses of my own; but I am on the outskirts, watching someone else deal with issues that I think will one day lead to some major issues. If BOTH parents aren't on the same page, those kids learn to play both parents. God, the stuff I've seen lately makes me sick. So, yeah, fight the fight LadyC. It's not going to be easy. I think I've seen enough of you on here to know you aren't the surrender kind. Hang in there. You can do this. LOl 1st 5 sure aint no walk in the park...BUT we love each other STILL after every argument or misunderstanding....it doesnt work when the love fades after every argument..he told me last night "i'm so proud to have to as my wife and partner" Awwwwww. That is sweet. Today is a good day, K. Doing well.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 09:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Hi Kimmy and JAE. Missed you guys. In Ells defense, I think sometimes her choice of words in poor. I do not believe she meant to state it that way. I get what she's saying though. It's not about having friends of the opposite sex. It's not even about telling your SO about certain friends in particular. JAE is right in that you will probably never know ALL their friends of the opposite sex just cause you can't possible be around 24/7. What I think Ells is all about, and correct me if I'm wrong, Ells......it's about LYING about the whole thing and then her catching him. It's about his pattern of lying over stupid little things. Her rant was more or less if he could just be honest, it wouldn't be a thing. That being said, I have mostly male friends. I would not do well if someone told me I couldn't have those friends cause of what MIGHT happen. In LadyC's defense, that child is a handful. And, it is going to be a long, hard road for them. Would she send him back already? I am guessing no. I don't like the whole inferring that she might, one bit. But, I get why. It's a hard road and more stress at this point is not really what she saw in her future. So, what if she's talking about it? It's called venting. God, knows she probably needs us cause who else really understands at this point? Dad doesn't want to really upset the child cause he's probably just happy the child is here. It's going to take a lot of time and patiences and for lack of a better word, "training". Manners, adjusting to a new life, behavior modification....it's all going to take time. LadyC, the only thing I would ask is that you not use the words "send him back" unless you are prepared to do so. I can't stand those words thrown out there so easily by so many. None of that is insurmountable. But, it's going to take a lot of time, patience, and communication. I'm so sorry both of you are going through tough times. I wish you both the very best.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 09:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Boy, a lot of stuff went down on here today. I just wanted to say I received a letter from the college today and they are letting me resume classes and I don't have to rush to take the math test. As long as I do it before I graduate and maintain a 3.0 gpa!!!! Glory be to God I am SO happy Boy, a lot of stuff went down on here today. I just wanted to say I received a letter from the college today and they are letting me resume classes and I don't have to rush to take the math test. As long as I do it before I graduate and maintain a 3.0 gpa!!!! Glory be to God I am SO happy That's great, T.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-11 08:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Awesome! Still busy with work and trying to enjoy as much time as I can with Den. We still in the eary stages with being married. We taking things one day at a time, we are now looking at furniture and trying to decide what we want to do for our living and dining rooms. Poe thangs, we'll get the house completely filled and hooked up one of these days soon! Girly, you are a homeowner now. It never ever ends. Enjoy every single minute of it.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 15:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	JG, I hope you had a great weekend and a fabulous Mother's Day! I did. How are you doing, Dens?	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 15:16:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	It sometimes makes me wonder why people are suprised that the babymothers don't want to send their kids to the States. Why??? I would NEVER send my child to the States to live with their father unless they are suffering. And the other thing that cracks me up is how EVERY babymother is an unfit mother.....My two cents! I just asked about you.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 15:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	JG its not just adjustment. I know adjustment takes time this kid has no form of behavior. He was allowed to get away with his mess so now that he see he wont be able to he is acting up more. He is used to people saying ok go do what you want, go to bed when you want, dont do your school work etc. He was spoiled rotten and now he see he wont be continued to be spoiled. C, I'm not saying those aren't serious issues. They most certainly are. And, yes, I see that his upbringing is going to cause you a lot of hardship in the near future till it gets under some sort of control. I'm just saying, it's not going to be an instant change. It's going to take lots of time. I do hope he has not overheard you say you would send him back if he didn't behave.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 13:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	No JG he was the same in JA too. Even his mother said this is how he acts with her but she usually gives in and let him do waht he wants. This boy is grown and he knows what he is doing but I dont give in and Im not scared of him like his mother is. When you give in to him he smiles at you like "Yea I knew you would". That wont fly with me. Then you can't possibly think just cause it was your household, he was going to change his behavior overnight then. This is going to take lots of time, C. I wish you luck.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 13:03:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin - Part 26!	Its not always that simple nor that easy... I know, my own was the spawn of satan the child version, now he is the spawn of satan the adult version, so I understand where she is coming from completely and guess what? The schools are only gonna tolerate but so much. They take on the role that they don't have to tolerate the behavior especially if he screams and cries all day long...Not to mention the "labelling" he will receive...I pray for her family, also her daughters are being subjected to things that they may not be use to. Its an adjustment for ALL of them. They are going to have to learn what to do about the behavior he exhibits. Just my opinion. He's way behind. He's going to need some special education. And, you are talking about your US kids. He's been here....what? a week? He needs a whole lot of adjustment time. He's scared. He's away from everything he knows in his daily routine.	*JG*	Female	Jamaica	2010-05-10 12:54:00