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PhilippinesInterracial Marriage Challenges
QUOTE (baxxy @ Jul 29 2008, 01:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (DanielParul @ Jul 29 2008, 01:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Daniel and I have no differences of the racial kind. We, just like any normal married couple, are loving and dedicated to each other. I have never really understood what kind of racial differences could be?
(I asked Daniel that question online - his reply was - what do you mean, like do we look different???) tongue.gif



Its NOTHING to do with looking different, so dont be naive here. What Brokensmile is trying to say is that different countries have their traditions and cultures, NOTHING is going to change that no matter how you try, so obviously there will be challenging times when it comes to this, if not right away, they surely will come to the surface eventually. And if there's a different religion thats another issue altogether.



For some, maybe. I do get tired of people telling me we SHOULD have racial issues. I've been married to him for over 2 years now. When exactly should I expect these issues to surface?

I don't think she was being naive. She was repeating what her husband said to her. I thought it was funny. Andre and I always talk about how much alike we are that we are practically twins. We often look in the mirror and say it. She was talking in that same vein.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-29 13:12:00
PhilippinesInterracial Marriage Challenges
I'll say it over and over and over again, we have no racial differences. If others would just stop trying to point out how we should, it would be just peachy!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-07-29 10:34:00
Philippinestransfering plane question imigration question also
I don't know about LAX. Never been there.

I bought the ticket and had no issues. They do issue it in whomever's name you tell them to put on it. You are just the billing person and address.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2009-12-03 09:54:00
PhilippinesDid you buy your ticket before or after the interview?
AFTER.......too many things can go wrong.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-22 09:20:00
PhilippinesMy beautiful wife is very irresponsible
QUOTE (~PalmTreeGurl~ @ Nov 16 2009, 08:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
maybe you should fix her smaller portioned plate for her... then IF she wants more she can go back.



That's what I was thinking. Or make a lot less when cooking.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2009-11-17 11:03:00
PhilippinesSoldier's wife and kids denied visa in Manila
QUOTE (TripleG @ Dec 22 2009, 12:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Anonymous wrote:

"The best advice I can give anyone looking to avoid a similar outcome is this: choose what information you wish to divulge to a consular officer (either in writing or during the actual interview) VERY, VERY carefully and VERY, VERY wisely. Working in a bar may sound like an innocent enough occupation but, through the eyes of a consular officer, it becomes a window to a personality"

Although I agree with that statement, the mods on here will see that as asking someone to commit fraud of some sort. So I don't think this post will stick around long. A topic about an OP's fiance being an ex-bargirl (which is alot different than just working in a bar in Korea) generated alot of banter about this subject. I personally think sins of the past shouldn't keep two people that love eachother from being together.

A friend of mines wife was asked about drug use during her interview. My friend told her to be completely honest to the CO. She told the CO she had tried shabu when she was a teenager blush.gif She had never told even my friend that. She got put in AR and delayed the process about 6 months. I think if he had it to do over again he would have told her to be honest, except don't tell them you ever tried drugs headbonk.gif This happened about 15 years ago, and the system was a little different back then.

Wyatt



It's the same way at Jamaican embassy. Admit to it EVER at medical and automatic denial.

QUOTE (Anonymous @ Dec 22 2009, 12:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Agreed, but why does it really matter if they are his kids or not? If he chooses to accept them as his and raise them as his own, then that should be his choice. People marry parents of young children in the US all the time. For that matter, US citizens marry foreign nationals with children (who are of no relation to the US citizen) all the time and successfully petition them for immigration to the US. Those children will have to, eventually, pass the US citizenship requirements if they want to become US citizens, but they are certainly not denied entry to the US. The only difference in this case is that the petitioner is claiming the children are his own, which immediately
*JG*FemaleJamaica2009-12-22 13:25:00
PhilippinesSoldier's wife and kids denied visa in Manila
If it weren't for people circumventing the system and all the falseness out there, this wouldn't be an issue.

But, that being said...........so many people get caught up in the BS when they shouldn't even be questioned. Makes me mad when you have to rely on someone else's judgement as to if your relationship is real or not.

2 edged sword.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2009-12-22 11:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsBoooooooooooo

and i quote

'We attempted to deliver your item at 1:22 PM on July 3, 2007 in SAINT ALBANS, VT 05479 and a notice was left. A second delivery attempt will be made. If unsuccessful, we will hold it for five business days and then it will be returned to the sender. '

what kind of business are they trying to run ova hea'?? lol does this mean that they will try again today? or tomorrow?

i sent it express mail for a reason...pfffft


If it has to be signed for and no one is there, that is standard procedure. If no one is there tomorrow (or in this case Thursday due to holiday), they will hold it at the post office for that person to pick up. Sometimes, a nice mail person will leave the package if the recipient puts a note on the door, with their signature, stating "please leave package......"
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-07-03 13:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsNOA 2 Hardcopy arrives the day after the interview
The whole process is flawed. Andre received his packet 3 at his house in Jamaica a FULL month after he had been in the U.S.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-07-09 13:06:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports2nd letter of intent to marry
We never wrote a second letter.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-08-10 08:12:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsWe're pulling for you FutureMrs!

Sarah,
I know that you and Marlon have waited so long for this day. Just to let you know, i'm pulling for you!!! I know that you will get that visa. Please share the good news ASAP.


They got it!

Go to the Yardies thread and see.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-08-14 09:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsWe got approved!
Sarah......praying you hear tomorrow that he has visa in hand.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-08-27 15:32:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsReality Check
I've never bashed them. Besides some phone frustrations....and that due to the wait times....they were nothing but helpful to me. And, they obviously were speedy cause we went through in a relatively short time without any issues.

I see what you are saying, though. Same kind of disagreement I had over people who work fast food restuarants on here last week. It's almost always the system and not the individual employees.

I also can see where people are frustrated and take it out across the board. Some of it I think is their own making cause some people want to control the process and call entirely too much to check on things.

You are right. Nice post.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-10-15 12:39:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsPlease Help
Sometimes when I called the automated line or checked the computer, I got nothing. Then, I called and got some answers. The computerized system is sometimes way off what is actually happening. Give them a call.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-10-23 07:06:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers

I feel like crying so bad today! :crying: :cry:


Don't cry Sarah. I warned you cause I knew it would be hard. I also warned you about checking every day and driving yourself crazy. Even with all the support from here, there, and everywhere, sometimes it is better to step back for a while and not focus on the waiting. You will survive it and you will be fine. Just hang in there.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-04-26 09:16:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers

Man,
I am soo tired of constantly re-checking my case status to see not even a touch! Yes I know January has started blah, blah, blah... I am happy for those who have received their NOA2s and/or on towards their final destinations! I guess I am just tires, senioritus, I am less than one month away from graduating from ASU. How do we get through this strenuous process???? I love my man and he is certainly worth it but I can't help feeling lonely from time to time and sneaking a glance at the hot new neighbor! lmao i just can't wait to hear some good news!

GO GO GO for ALL January NOA2s!!!!!

Thanks guys, I feel better after whining! lol


Girlfriend.........what did I tell you about that? You will drive yourself crazy, you know.


I know, you were so right! I envy you for your patience and wisdom. Did you ever go nuts?


Of course I did, Sarah. I knew the process was long and complicated and I chose to check only once a week to keep my sanity. And once it heads to the embassy, you move more in Jamaican time which is much more frustrating. In the meantime, I concentrated on getting things as ready as I could and like you, I work two jobs so that always kept me busy.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-04-04 08:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers

Man,
I am soo tired of constantly re-checking my case status to see not even a touch! Yes I know January has started blah, blah, blah... I am happy for those who have received their NOA2s and/or on towards their final destinations! I guess I am just tires, senioritus, I am less than one month away from graduating from ASU. How do we get through this strenuous process???? I love my man and he is certainly worth it but I can't help feeling lonely from time to time and sneaking a glance at the hot new neighbor! lmao i just can't wait to hear some good news!

GO GO GO for ALL January NOA2s!!!!!

Thanks guys, I feel better after whining! lol


Girlfriend.........what did I tell you about that? You will drive yourself crazy, you know.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-04-03 13:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFinally Starting
Good luck to you!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-11-16 12:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsDecember filers....

@Marina

Are you sure about that? It might not vary from state to state? John and I read something about applying for a marriage license in Florida and it said that they want the SSN from both...or just from both IF they are available??

It would be even better, if we wouldn't have to wait that long :D John and I can't wait to be Mr. and Mrs. :dance:

Diana

In Texas you need a SS #/Card to get married =( Other states too.. (Here's a handy link)

Here's the poop - you/we'll need to wait 10 days once entering the POE before filing/applying for the SS card (so you show up in their system), then it takes 2-4 weeks (even 'they' will tell you this) so it might be sooner, and of course, might be longer.

I (the good ole USC) went recently to get a new/re-issued card - they told me the same 2-4 weeks, but got it in about 2 weeks (give or take a day or so).

The SS Admin office (in Austin) has a sign stating the 10-day 'rule' - saying you can apply on the 10th day - sooner may result in a delay and/or having to reapply.

~Otto


This link may be outdated. I looked under Missouri (where I live) and they had all kinds of craziness on there about social security cards and taxe, and applying a month before.

When Andre and I went in June of last year, They wanted his birth certificate, passport, and A#. From me all they wanted was my driver's license and birth certificate. It took 3 days to get it back.

Call your individual marriage license office and ask.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-05-24 12:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!
I always think someone can do this unless there are extreme situations that need to be dealt with.

I'm sorry.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-05 11:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsWas it hard for you and your fiance to go through this process? How do you feel? Tell us about it. :)
Good things come to those who wait.....isn't that the saying?
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-14 11:24:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsWas it hard for you and your fiance to go through this process? How do you feel? Tell us about it. :)
It was costly and frustrating. Felt like we were forever filling out paperwork and one of us was running all over the place trying to apply for this and/or pay for that. Ours went relatively fast and for that I am grateful. I occupied my time as best I could and we both focused on the postives. I'm glad we sailed through it and never would contemplate ever doing it again for any reason. In the end, the whole process brought us closer together.

Funny thing is, just cause you get the K-1, the fun doesn't end. We are in the process of preparing for the 10 year unconditional green card next August. More paperwork and money. Fun, fun, fun.

And, then the year after that, we anticipate playing the fun and games for naturalization. The fun just never seems to end.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-10-09 11:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsDo you print your name on the back!
You need to sign and date them.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-18 11:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportsapprovals in less than 2 months
I think there are things you can do to cut corners. It's preached so much on here, I'm sure everyone already does it. Beyond that, it's the luck of the draw. Maybe some offices or embassies have more employees or something, a better system, more operating hours, whatever. But, in the end, there isn't much to do but sit and wait.

I think those who automatically jump on that call your senator or other elected official bandwagon, actually hurt others by slowing down the process.

And, in all fairness, our case did go a bit faster cause Andre was able to drop off some things at the embassy that you now have to have a scheduled appointment to do, and these appointments are sometimes impossible to get. There have been some rule changes in the last 2 years that have effected those in Jamaica after us, and not in the good way. I hate the thought of that.

I really feel for all of you still waiting. If there was anything I could do, I would. For now, I just hope and pray for speedy journeys for all of you.

Thanks so much for your picture comment. It's probably the best picture I've ever taken. I could not be happier about that. You are too sweet to say your kind words.

Edited by Jomo's girl, 30 December 2007 - 11:30 PM.

*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-30 23:29:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportsapprovals in less than 2 months
I thought ours went extremely fast, back in the day. Just didn't seem so fast when we were going through it.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2007-12-30 23:12:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFinally it's over!
QUOTE (Jeraly @ Jan 10 2008, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Huge gratzies!!! Now onto the next stage!! biggrin.gif



Exactly what I was going to say. Cause we all know it's never really over.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-10 16:41:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsExpedited Application
I'm not sure the word "expedited" is in their dictionary at all!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-04 09:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsK1 approved!
QUOTE (greedy @ Jan 29 2008, 09:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just back from the Embassy! We have been approved! I still have to wait two days to get the visa in hands but that's it! kicking.gif kicking.gif kicking.gif

They didn't ask for evidence of ongoing relationship... the only question was "how do you like Houston" (as it is where my fiance lives)...

I wish you all the same kind of interview with people as nice as those in Belgium!

Good luck to all!



Must be nice to be able to visit the states before approval.

Congrats to you!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-29 11:07:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFor those who have used the RFE trick
QUOTE (mox @ Feb 12 2008, 09:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I agree that people need to be patient. But nobody is trying to "cut" or jump the queue. People just want answers. They want to know what's going on with their case. USCIS have made this process as absolutely opaque as they possibly can, and this is the consequence.

I doubt very seriously USCIS would shut the RFE dump to a live CS rep. There are at least 2 ways to get ahold of a CS rep that I know of, the RFE trick and another jumble of buttons that I've never memorized, but I'm almost positive they go to the same switchboard, and I'm pretty sure the rep doesn't know which way you've come through the system. I could be wrong, but both times I've called I never made mention of RFE and they didn't bring it up either.

@Sylvia_n_Joseph: I've never heard of a case where someone's case was held because they called too much. Do you have a source?



I disagree with the "people just want answers. They want to know what is going on with their case." They know that nothing is going on with their case cause they are in line and the people in front of them are being worked on first. Calling the RFE line is trying to cut the queue. Plain and simple.

And, yes, I agree......as soon as they figure out it is being abused, they will cut it out completely.

This process takes time. Please be patient.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-02-12 10:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsIpods and mobile phones are not allowed at the US Embassy London
Regardless of what we think or are comfortable with, it's embassy policy in a lot of the embassies.

In Jamaica, you give electronics to some really shady characters and hope they aren't gone when you come back out.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-02-08 14:19:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportsgetting married in court
I've seen couples in wedding attire. I've seen them in shorts. Anything goes, as long as you are comfortable with it.

I always think if you are taking any pictures at all, keep that in mind as you pick out your clothes.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-02-15 10:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsSHE GOT THE VISA!!
Congratulations.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-02-19 10:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportshelp me I cant Understand this
Hang in there. This is all part of the process we all go/went through. This is the light at the end of the tunnel for you.....congrats and good luck!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-01-04 09:36:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportsdown in the dumps
We've all been there or are there now.

The only way I made it through was to not check on the situation daily. That only started to drive me crazy. I focused on preparing for my fiance to join me and to fill the time as best I could. I worked 2 jobs and made cards in my spare time. Time flew when there was little of it.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-05 14:09:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportsthis is just flat crazy
Did they give you a reason why? Extensive sounds pretty ominous to me as to what the reasons may be.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-13 10:36:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsTaking a break
QUOTE (rebeccajo @ Mar 18 2008, 01:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Saffyre @ Mar 18 2008, 01:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (katand7 @ Mar 18 2008, 05:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You should do what is best for you. Everyone handles things differently. If you feel a break is a good choice for you then go for it. You don't owe anyone any apologies for your feelings.

That being said, I wish you luck and hope that your wait isn't too much longer. I'm years down the road from K-1 now and dealing with a different sort of waiting. Once you reach removal of conditions you can't even check your case status online really.........well you can, but you don't get much!

So hang in there, you will make it! I've been there before and remember when NOA2 came. You'll feel a lot of relief once that happens. The way you are feeling now is temporary, even if it doesn't seem like it.

Best wishes,
Kathleen


Thanks! and bizarrely I look forward to waiting for that - because at least i'll be with Toby while i'm waiting!! Maybe I have seperation anxiety - you know like pets left when their ownders go on holiday!! LMAO!! Kidding of course...


Heads up.....

You'll be with Toby, but there will still be stressors. Big ones.

All I'm saying is this - the separation during the process tends to give people 'rose colored glasses'. I'm not saying your life won't improve once you are reunited. I'm sure it will. But living with a foreign born individual; the paperwork; the reactions of some segments of society to your marriage; etc. all of these things which seem so 'easy' to you now.

They aren't.


I absolutely agree with what RJ is saying.

There are huge stresses.....more then you ever imagined.....once he gets here. I think even more then waiting out the K-1. This is just the tip of the iceberg. You will make it through all of it....
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-18 13:05:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsTaking a break
QUOTE (Saffyre @ Mar 18 2008, 12:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Jason-Sasha @ Mar 18 2008, 05:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Saffyre, go and check out how many May, June and July filers waited 6 months and more. That's really stressful. and Rebeccajo is right. Just because we are past this point doesn't mean we don't remember. In fact, I think the process has scarred all of us. You must do whatever it takes to remain strong and patient. Someone is depending on you to be so. When Sasha and I got stressed we had to hold each other up with words of encouragement. And finally, after 220 days since filing, we will be together in less than a week! kicking.gif You've already made it through 40 days. I doubt you'll have to wait the full 6 months for approval. You're fortunate. if you would like some inspiration, I'd direct you to look at ZeeNusah's profile. Or OsLoraTam's profile. Or Charlene, or Virgillionaire..... See my point? wink.gif Everything will work out.


Yep - i've seen some of your timelines and you guys are stronger than I think i'll ever be!

He doesn't get stressed about it, the stress is all mine. He is very chilled and just tells me to relax and 'go with the flow'......Grrrr tongue.gif

QUOTE (Jomo @ Mar 18 2008, 05:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am actually glad I was not on this board much when I was going through the initial K-1 stuff. Sure, I could've used some of the advice on filing. But, I think it would've driven me crazy to hear all the news every day.

I only checked my status once a week on line and I refused to check for touches every day. That is the only way I kept my sanity.

I completely understand what you are saying.

Hang in there. Soon it will be just be a memory!


How in the world did you do that? I have limited myself to three times a day on USCIS site, Morning, Noon and Night....but i'm just itching for my file to be 'touched' so I know they're doing something with it....Ehh I just got myself a second job though so maybe that'l keep me out of mischeif.


I did it easily. No matter how many times I looked at the darn site, it wasn't going to effect a thing. I saw no point in stressing over something I could no change in any, way, shape, or form. I had enough stress in my life. I worked 2 jobs. I made cards on the side. I talked to my SO. That was all enough.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-18 12:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsTaking a break
I am actually glad I was not on this board much when I was going through the initial K-1 stuff. Sure, I could've used some of the advice on filing. But, I think it would've driven me crazy to hear all the news every day.

I only checked my status once a week on line and I refused to check for touches every day. That is the only way I kept my sanity.

I completely understand what you are saying.

Hang in there. Soon it will be just be a memory!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-18 12:33:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsTwo Very Quick Questions
The wait sucks.

I never checked for touches and only checked weekly for updates near when I suspected it was the end. Only way I kept my sanity!
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-18 09:51:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsCurious about how long you've lived with SO.
The thing is, there is no set way to do this to ensure it works out in the end.

Have you seen the stats on divorced people who lived together before marriage? It's no better then those who haven't. It's all a crapshoot.

No, you are not alone.
*JG*FemaleJamaica2008-03-19 10:58:00