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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
QUOTE (wifetobe @ Oct 14 2008, 07:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
MONEY or a credit card/debit card!!!! You're all set Mister P biggrin.gif


Hmmmm, all set apart from those damned W2 forms. - GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! mad.gif

Oh well, what I told ya in the PM stands! laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-14 07:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
OK, quick update: all the I-134 stuff arrived this morning, and apart from that one little issue, it's absolutely spot on.

Here's what I'll be taking to interview on Monday:

Police certficate
Birth certificate (long form)
Passport
U.S. spec passport photos (x2)
I-134 forms from sponsor & co sponsor
Last 3 years tax returns
Letter confirming employment on headed paper
Letter of intent to marry
Evidence of ongoing relationship

Have I missed anything? Also, just a quick question on the co-sponsors form: what should he have put down in the "relationship to petitioner" section?

Thank ya!!! good.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-14 03:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
QUOTE (Slightly Bonkers @ Oct 13 2008, 09:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just in case you're still waiting
My guy got my birthday wrong on affidavit.
I just changed it!
So 2 different handwritings and a cross-out and accepted
(probably wouldn't recommend the crossing stuff out too much though!)


Thanks - I am now completely secure in the knowledge that this really isn't an issue. good.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-13 10:01:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
QUOTE (marash @ Oct 13 2008, 08:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i had 2 different handwritings on my affadavit, before it was noterized. it caused no problems what so ever.

good luck.


And there is the answer I was looking for - thank you marash.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-13 08:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
QUOTE (Laura+Tom @ Oct 13 2008, 08:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm with Karen. There is no way the embassy will know it was written after the notarization.


See, I was thinking the same thing as you and Karin, but the thing is that my handwriting (albeit in block capitals) will still be noticeably different from the co-sponsor's, thus showing that the form was completed by two different people - you with me?

And Susie, 'er indoors could procrastinate for America, so there's no chance of getting another one over in time!! laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-13 08:10:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan an I-134 be altered in any way after notarization?
OK, here's my problem: for some reason known only to himself, our co-sponsor has neglected to write my name on the I-134. He's done all the "hard" bits (submitted his tax returns, letter from employer, etc) but he simply hasn't put my name down on the form. I can only assume something daft here, like he wasn't sure how to spell my name exactly or some #### like that, (and yes, 'er indoors should have proof read it before sending, but she didn't!) but obviously this causes me a problem. Would I be correct in saying that by adding my name to the form myself, I will be rendering it null and void due to its original content already having been notarized?

I figure I will just present it to the CO in London along with the one from 'er indoors (which is correctly filled out), look blankly at him/her, and shrug!! Seriously though, do you think common sense will prevail here (I mean, it's obvious I'm the beneficiary) or will they be ####### about it?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-13 07:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresUS visits per year?
QUOTE (wifetobe @ Oct 14 2008, 07:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Oct 14 2008, 12:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Must be nice to be able to get a Visa to USA that easy.

Try to get a tourist visa from Philippines to USA, it is almost impossible.

oh well.


rofl.gif rofl.gif rofl.gif rofl.gif

LOLOLOLOL!!! And I thought I was hard-faced!!!
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-14 07:04:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresUS visits per year?
QUOTE (sammills89 @ Oct 14 2008, 06:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My fiancee has just booked his tickets to the US for christmas (we're both ecstatic!) and I'm just wondering if it will be a problem as he has previously visited 3 times this year... Once in February for 10 days, once in April for another 10 days and just recently in August for a month... He's coming for a month this December and he's worried that there will be an issue with customs!

We understand about bringing all ties to your home country and he has a letter from his employer available after discussing it with him as well as some bank statements and vehicle documents. Hoping to get some advice from people in a similar situation!


Well, there are pros and cons here. On the plus side, he's only ever stayed for a few weeks at a time, and the visits have been seperated by at least a couple of months - that's good. On the down side, this will be the 4th time in the same calendar year that he will have used the VWP - you might be on dodgy ground there.

But in my opinion (and that's all it is) you should be OK - but he'd best be well prepared this time around.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-14 06:09:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAnyone that's used a co-sponsor help me out here please
QUOTE (panterchen @ Oct 15 2008, 03:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If both examples that you gave concern the same person you are talking about then I would write 'petitioner's brother'.
I think that implies more ground for financial aid in case you really need it than saying 'friend'. We just wrote 'father of petitioner' in ours.


Thank you kindly.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-15 05:29:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAnyone that's used a co-sponsor help me out here please
OK, a very simple question to which I trust there is a very simple answer:

What do I write in the "relationship to sponsor" box? Friend? Fiancee's brother? None?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-15 03:25:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBank Balance
The OP may pssibly be refering to self-sponsorship. That being the case, well, it seems to vary. I know of one person who self-sponsored with £9000 via the UK embassy, for example.

If the OP is asking the question more generally, than the reply re the poverty line is correct. If it's just the two of you, then I believe the petitioner has be earning a minimun of $18,000. If the beneficiary isn't making the minimum required, then you need to enlist a co-sponsor (very common).
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-23 03:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresPetitioner has a Criminal Record
OK, so I'm no kind of authority on this, but surely the only records USCIS are interested in, criminal or otherwise, are those of the beneficiary? I mean it's not like the OP is applying to move abroad or anything, is it?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-25 05:00:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresShell Shocked
QUOTE (pushbrk @ Oct 25 2008, 05:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Damian P @ Oct 25 2008, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Laura+Tom @ Oct 25 2008, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you suggesting they lie? That is a very bad idea.


99.9% of the time, you'd be right. This however, was the 0.1% of the time that the OP should NEVER have said what they said, truth or not - it was asking for denial. L&K, how I wish you'd found VJ before you went. If you had just said, "I'm on holiday visiting my other half" you would have been fine. Just fine. And it wouldn't have been a lie, either.

I tip my hat to you for your honesty, L&K, but this is a classic example of offering too much information at the POE - tough break, but learn from it.


There's telling the truth and telling the truth. One can be "honest" without disclosing their minute by minute itinerary. When asked "purpose of visit?" simply answering "visiting family and friends" would have been truthful and honest. If you also intended to have a batchelor party, would you mention going to a "gentlemen's club"? In all likelyhood the trip to the club would last longer than the wedding ceremony.


So basically, pshbrk, in your own inimitable way, you're agreeing with me?

I'm honoured. cool.gif

Edited by Damian P, 25 October 2008 - 05:43 PM.

Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-25 17:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresShell Shocked
QUOTE (Laura+Tom @ Oct 25 2008, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Are you suggesting they lie? That is a very bad idea.


99.9% of the time, you'd be right. This however, was the 0.1% of the time that the OP should NEVER have said what they said, truth or not - it was asking for denial. L&K, how I wish you'd found VJ before you went. If you had just said, "I'm on holiday visiting my other half" you would have been fine. Just fine. And it wouldn't have been a lie, either.

I tip my hat to you for your honesty, L&K, but this is a classic example of offering too much information at the POE - tough break, but learn from it.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-25 16:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAnyone...seen, heard or experienced this?
QUOTE (Marmite Lovers! @ Nov 3 2008, 08:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Due to the lack of replies I guess I'm unique!

star_smile.gif


If you're anything like your mate Shaz, then I'm sure you are pretty unique, MM! laughing.gif

With regard to your problem, I know of two posters from here that went through similar "NVC hell." For some reason, certain files take longer than others to reach the relevant embassies. I reckon it's because either:

A - You're in security checks

or most likely

B - Your file's gotten lost somewhere (it happens ya know).

If I remember correctly in the other cases, the USC got their elected representitives involved and that seemed to do the trick. Maybe you might want to look at going down that road?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-03 08:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAny way at all of extending/postponing a K1's life?
QUOTE (Gemmie @ Nov 13 2008, 06:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I might be reading this wrong and just be being dumb.. but if you're leaving in March, you could still technically stay here until May when your visa expires, no? And that gives you more time to gather more funds..


I leave on March 31st, the visa expires April 19th - I'm not gonna earn a whole lot in 2 weeks........
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 07:02:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAny way at all of extending/postponing a K1's life?
QUOTE (Chris & Mara @ Nov 13 2008, 05:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
They are predicting that the place that is going to be hurt the worst and crash the furthest is the UK, perhaps some food for thought.


I know that, but like I say, my job is totally recession proof (35 year contract with an NHS trust) so it doesn't matter how hard the UK is hit - it won't affect me here.


QUOTE
or is what your going to be able to make and save before your orignally planned departure date going to be enough to tie you over for 5 or 6 months?


Well it would have been comfortably before the bloody exchange rate nosedived!! I was looking at $12,000, easy, but now that looks more like $8,000 - and falling. Yes, it'll be enough to get by on, but it'd be nice to have a bit left over by the time I start work, ya know?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 06:08:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAny way at all of extending/postponing a K1's life?
QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Nov 13 2008, 05:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Jobs are plentiful and easy to find in USA.

If someone can't find a good paying job in the USA then it's their own fault.


I like the cut of your jib, TCO, and I hope you're right, but if you read this thread, then peeps seem to be saying different: http://www.visajourn...howtopic=160641
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 06:04:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAny way at all of extending/postponing a K1's life?
QUOTE (Marmite Lovers! @ Nov 13 2008, 03:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OH mate, sorry to hear this.

I'm going to look into it too, however, I think you might be unlucky and have to go if you want to use the K1. It's only good for 6 months...sure you know this.


I know, that's whaT everyone's always said, but surely there's got to be an exception to the rule? I mean, they can extend an NOA2 by months at at a tiem, why not a K1? Does it really mean having to go through the whole process again?

AAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!! wacko.gif

Edited by Damian P, 13 November 2008 - 04:41 AM.

Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 04:39:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAny way at all of extending/postponing a K1's life?
OK, so I've been approved, have the visa in hand, and am booked on a flight leaving on 31st March next year. Whilst that's great, I'm deeply concerned about my job prospects (or lack thereof) over there due to the current financial crisis. On top of that, my missus works in the manufacturing industry for a light metals company that makes valve covers for engines, and obviously declining car sales are putting her job at risk (if GM goes to the wall, then she's finished there).

It seems to me that BOTH of us being unemployed is simply unworkable, indeed I would then probably HAVE to stay here in my recession proof job, in order to support her and the kids. So is there any way that a K1 can be extended? Any way at all?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 03:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresevidence of ongoing relationship
QUOTE (payxibka @ Oct 27 2008, 12:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (HelloWorld08 @ Oct 27 2008, 12:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
maybe Quality and Quantity together would be good.


A few pages of quality will do far better than a 1,000 page of #######.


LOL!! laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-10-27 14:01:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresstill waiting for NOA2
QUOTE (tommys_girl @ Nov 22 2008, 06:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
mad.gif HI everyone, we were very late in getting our NOA1 due to the fact that a form wasnt notarized!! ughhh has anyone else had similar problems?? we have called the USCIS and they say we are still pending, people behind us in the IGORS list are getting their NOA2 its sooo frustrating, so now i think it wont happen til early dec ughhhhh im soooo over waiting....annie

Annie, according to your timeline it's only been 3-and-a-half months since you received your NOA1. That's not a long wait by USCIS standards. If you haven't received NOA2 after 6 months, then maybe you have cause to worry (it took 5 months for me to get mine, btw).
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-22 18:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDebt and its effects on my chances
QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Nov 25 2008, 07:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would rack up all the debt I could and leave the credit card holding the bag.


laughing.gif

I was thinking of doing EXACTLY that, but have thought better of it since.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-25 14:10:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresThis is what im talkin about...
QUOTE (stevew158 @ Dec 4 2008, 09:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I didnt mean for my post to be rude and dont see how it was, i was just offering so advise to help sorry if it came out the wrong way


She was talking to himher, not you.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 09:11:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
QUOTE (pushbrk @ Dec 4 2008, 10:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Trying this is a bad idea, IMO unless you see the CBP in Dublin where you have the option of turning around and going home without using your ticket.


Brilliant. So obvious when you think about it, but that's just it - I never would have thought about it.

Pushbrk delivers again - I'm gonna have to start calling him DHL. good.gif


QUOTE (Gage @ Dec 4 2008, 05:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The answer we're given is that the application of a K-1 (if the POE even can see a pending application, which is arguable) or the approval of same, shows immigrant intent. We wouldn't want to let you in on a B-2 because your K-1 makes it look like you want to move here! Does this just boggle everyone's mind, or is it just me? Of course there's immigrant intent, you idiots! headbonk.gif She's been approved for a K-1, hasn't she? She's going to move here at some point or another, that much is guaranteed once the K-1 is approved. Does it truly make any difference whether she stays now or later?


Yep, we're very obviously singing from the same hymn sheet here - it's utterly retarded.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-05 06:56:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Dec 4 2008, 08:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I understand completely Damian... hopefully it will all work out for you. smile.gif


Cheers, luv. wink.gif

QUOTE
Cutom member level in your profile is where you can change. I do believe you need to be a platinum member in order to change it.


Done! laughing.gif kicking.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 08:27:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Dec 4 2008, 07:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I must have read the same thing mama Nick did. Heard of it happening and also heard there could be a problem.

Hope it works out for you rock dude.


To be fair, Kim, the reason I'm not moving until March is money related, so it'd be pretty dumb to go over there at all, actually. I think I was just curious about it.

On another note, you know where you have a little quote under your user name? Where mine just says the bog standard "whatever" member? How do you alter that?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 07:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
QUOTE (payxibka @ Dec 4 2008, 07:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
theoretically but since the K-1 in the passport will be a big indication of immigrant intent,, no matter how much explaining you do the CBP Officer may not believe you...


I hear what your saying with regard to immigrant intent, but as you say, the K1 would be very obviously on show (so I clearly wouldn't be trying to conceal anything) and surely the CBP officer would realise that I'll be using an approved K1 sooner or later, and as such will be immigrating at some point anyway, so why would they mind me using a VWP in the meantime? I mean everything's completely transparent, right? Unlike someone who doesn't have a K1, and might be trying to stay having entered on a VWP.

Am I making any sense at all here? laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 07:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
QUOTE (Gemmie @ Dec 4 2008, 07:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I was thinking the same thing since I won't be moving until next summer.


Aren't you off today? For a holiday I mean?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 07:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHypothetical K1 Question
I was just wondering if were at all possible to enter the U.S. on the VWP, when you already have a K1 in your passport? The reason I ask, is that I won't be ready to move full-time until March, but might want to spend a week at Christmas over there.

Could that be explained at the POE, or is it simply not doable?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 06:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresage diference?
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Dec 5 2008, 12:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP... internet etiquette suggests that typing in all caps is "yelling". Please turn off your Caps Lock when posting.


If you could just pop over to the X Factor thread and remind Shaz of that, Kim, I'd be extremely grateful! whistling.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-05 12:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresage diference?
QUOTE (Wis-Can @ Dec 4 2008, 10:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (paullybear @ Dec 4 2008, 11:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
TO ALL WHO REPLY IN MY QUESTION THANK U SO MUCH..AND TO ALL WHO JUDGE EASILY THANK YOU TOO AND HOPE U ARE HAPPY OF WHAT UR COMMENT IS..ALL I KNOW IS JUST TRUST IN GOD OF WHAT EVER THE RESULT OF MY PETITION I KNOW GOD WILL NOT LET US BE TOGETHER FOR OVER 1 YEAR NOW IF HE KNOW THIS IS NOT THE REAL RELATIONSHIP...IN TERMS OF LOVE AGE DOESN'T MATTER IS JUST MATTER TO PERSON WHO IS SO JUDGE MENTAL.TAKE NOTE I'M NOT LOOK OLD OF WHAT U THINK AND SHE IS NOT YOUNG OF WHAT U THINK..BUT THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR UR ADVICE THERE IS NO IMPPOSSIBLE......



When I read this...I can't help but think its the fiancee that's writing it and not the fiance. Either way they asked a question and didn't asked to be judged. I think the age will definately be looked at closely but if they truly love each other hopefully they will have the opportunity to be together. GOOD LUCK!


Yep - the pidgeon English and constant references to God are kind of a giveaway really. laughing.gif

Edited by Damian P, 05 December 2008 - 06:48 AM.

Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-05 06:44:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresage diference?
QUOTE (Tsup2 @ Dec 4 2008, 04:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you are successful in getting the K1 you might want to get The Disney Channel so she can watch Hannah Montana while you are at work.


laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-05 06:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresage diference?
QUOTE (Gemmie @ Dec 4 2008, 08:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Damian P @ Dec 4 2008, 11:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (paullybear @ Dec 4 2008, 02:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
just want to ask if it is possible for denie my pitition to my fiancee bacause she just turn 18 last month and i'm going to 45..is everyone know got approve with big age gap like us..thank you so much hope to hear ur answer soon..


Phillipines, by any chance?


good.gif


Now there's a surprise! laughing.gif

Edited by Damian P, 04 December 2008 - 08:23 AM.

Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 08:22:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresage diference?
QUOTE (paullybear @ Dec 4 2008, 02:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
just want to ask if it is possible for denie my pitition to my fiancee bacause she just turn 18 last month and i'm going to 45..is everyone know got approve with big age gap like us..thank you so much hope to hear ur answer soon..


Phillipines, by any chance?
Damian PMaleEngland2008-12-04 06:19:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDeath of Fiancee
See, this kinda thing just puts everything else into perspective. Twenty-four years old? It's not right.

I really hope you get through this OK, mate.
Damian PMaleEngland2009-02-05 04:20:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresUSCIS, you win...sort of...and a question about canceling the K-1
QUOTE (Sinergy @ Nov 12 2008, 02:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
calm down, did you forget your meds?


Calm down!!??? Yeah, says you!!!! laughing.gif I'm sure Virtual Wife would agree!! I'll never be able look at Linus from Peanuts in the same way ever again!! rofl.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-11-13 07:47:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsAPRIL '08 Vermont K-1 Filers
QUOTE (brian87 @ Aug 6 2008, 04:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I guess the Norman Rockwell family paintings do not depict the people in this thread. unsure.gif

Brian


I've just googled him, Brian. And you're spot on - they don't.
Damian PMaleEngland2008-08-06 16:40:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsAPRIL '08 Vermont K-1 Filers
QUOTE (susita83 @ Aug 6 2008, 12:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brian87 @ Aug 6 2008, 12:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Anastasiya @ Aug 6 2008, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
our documents were lost between NVC and Consulate(((((( crying.gif we called them many times and today they began investigation (I hope so)


I am sure that it will all be cleared up by the end of next week. I think most of us would really like to be in your shoes right now. Especially if they are larger than Suzy's shoes. star_smile.gif

Brian


LOL

I have a question for all of you guys - nothing to do with the K1 Process, but relevant nonetheless...
What do your families think about it? Do they think you're crazy?
My mom, sister, and whole mom's side of the fam is cool with it. They are normally OK with whatever I do because they know I make good decisions, and that me wanting to marry Luis is HUGE because I didn't even want to marry my ex (the father of my 2 kids) and actually never did (thank god).

My dad's side thinks that I'm a complete idiot. They think Luis only wants to date me for a Visa to the US (he's actually not all that excited about leaving Peru, in fact he'd probably rather me go there), and that I'm making a HORRIBLE decision. They've never actually told me this, it's a thru-the-grapevine (AKA my mom) type thing. However, I'm not completely surprised, being as they criticize every single move I make although out of everyone in that family I'm doing the best in life. I got into the State University of NY at Stony Brook with a full scholarship, work full time and take care of 2 kids. My grandma thought my major was 'useless' Go figure.

I want to know your opinion. I don't want to invite a bunch of two-faced people who will talk about me at my own wedding, I also don't want to piss off my Dad or hurt anyone's feelings. The #1 trash-talker is my Grandma, and that would really hurt my dad if I didn't invite her. I'm just sick of their #######. What's your opinion on this guys?


Susy, you have empathy here. Both my parents are still alive, and I have a brother, but I haven't seen the old man in years, and my brother is a sad 34-year-old virgin that still lives at home with mum (I kid you not) so their opinions are completely irrelevant. That leaves my mum, whom I'm very close to. She's deeply unhappy about the whole thing, because she thinks 'er indoors is "totally unsuitable" due to the fact that she's a hillbilly laughing.gif . She just doesn't get the fact that that we have all these things in common (most notably taste in music, which is a huge part of our lives) and how important that is. She's desperate for me to marry a flaxen-haired, English virgin, fresh from dancing round a maypole! The fact that 'er indoors has 2 kids is also a factor. Mum is very old fashioned, and is unimpressed about me taking on someone else's kids - especially seeing as she has no biological grandchildren of her own. But you know what? TOO DAMN BAD!!! She'll get over it!

On the flip side of that, I also have to deal with 'er indoors' ex and the ex in-laws, who are also hillbillys and live in the next town along - you can imagine the #### I have to put up with from them!!! But you know what? They can #### off too!!!!!! In fact, anyone in the whole wide world that has a problem with my marrying 'er indoors can kiss my hairy English #######!! PERIOD!!!

I really hope you've found this advice helpful. laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-08-06 13:33:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsAPRIL '08 Vermont K-1 Filers
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Aug 6 2008, 07:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well I was very sick last night, not sure why, but it's still there. sad.gif I also found out this morning that Russell has his phone (cell from the US that let us keep in touch all day/night) was stolen by some low life thief. So just one more thing gone wrong. I'd hope for some good news today but i'm tired of getting my hopes up.


Oi you - that's quite enough of your moping! You are the VJ mother hen - you're not allowed to mope. We do the moping, you do the cheering up - got it!!??? laughing.gif
Damian PMaleEngland2008-08-06 08:01:00