ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Africa: Sub-Saharanjust saying hi to you all!
Sorry, I don't know anything about the Embassey there, but wanted to say
welcome to this site!!!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-08 00:10:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanthe wait is over
Congrats to both of you.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-10 17:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWanna help me??
Dang Girl,

I missed the voting deadline, but I'm hopeful that you will win.
And I'm also waiting on them wedding photos. Congrats to you by the way !!!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-07 19:16:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHow Long Have You Been Away From Your Spouse?
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idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-08 00:41:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlease Help!! Confused and Don't Know Where to Begin...
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idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-08 00:46:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHusband Granted Visa
Congrats to you both !!!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-10 17:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanAOS- Finally!
Just go on and apply, as long as you send the right amount of money it should be
fine.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-10 17:39:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanFiling following divorce
I don't believe you'll have a problem if u follow the directions for the K-1. Your right concerning your fiancee's country being one that's monitored a little closer, my ex. from that same country scammed me with all his love talk only to take advantage of what he could get ( green card ) from me. However I don't think it's only that particular Country doing these marriages as a way to get them into the states.

Good luck to you!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-25 12:48:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanman told to bring in old passport
Welcome aboard Star Gal.

Sounds like your man will be here soon. I have no ideal why Embassies do
what they do but I'm sure they want what they want. Good luck!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-12 05:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat's next? Married 2 years I129 interview visa denial
Here's the site.

As stated earlier there are white women, Indian women and Blackwomen that are
members of this site living with their husbands in Nigeria currently; and have for some
time. Check it out.


http://www.nigerwivesnigeria.com/
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 15:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat's next? Married 2 years I129 interview visa denial
For those interested.

I have purchased a DVD called Learn Igbo from Borders book store. I wanted my son
to learn his fathers language so that he won't find himself in a crowd of Igbo speaking
people one day and not be able to understand what they're saying.

It comes Ipod ready.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 15:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat's next? Married 2 years I129 interview visa denial
Our tire blew out coming from the airport on this pitch dark street ( my second time in Nigeria) you couldn't see your hand in front of you it was sooooooo dark, cars passed us by and nobody stopped to help us we faced no danger.

We were left alone to solve our problem as many cars passed us by.

Even in America one could be robbed in their home or while walking down the street
I believe your man would protect you tho.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 15:27:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat's next? Married 2 years I129 interview visa denial
That's the thing. Alot of people that have husbands or fiance in Nigeria have been
there. When I went there it was in 2003, I read all could read before going and was
kinda nervous about the trip but I went anyway and while there nobody tried to attack
me, I even witnessed many women walking the streets alone at night there and came to
the conclusion that Nigeria is just like any other place. I say that because many many
people from other cultures go there and they are fine.

My feeling concerning Nigeria now is that if you go there and don't flash your money or
act out in some bosterious way you will be fine. Some women there that are from other
countries formed a group there in Nigeria and they show pictures of women of all colors
there living in Nigeria I can't quit remember the name of it but it's something like
NigerianwivesNigeria, if you google it you will find it. Nigeria has all kinds of people living
there just as we do here. Indian women, white women and black American women.

There still alive no harm has come to them, there still there living with their Nigerian
spouses, so it's all about you and him. One sure way of living your life with your
husband is going to him, that's a sure way of you all being together. I hope this helped.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 14:48:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhat's next? Married 2 years I129 interview visa denial
First I want to say welcome to the boards !!!!

This is just my comment.Seems to me that you are taking the right steps thus far. Have you tried making an infopass appointment and talking to an immigrant officer face to face? They may be able to give you further guidance, just a thought.

If all else fails couldn't you go and live with him, I know it would probably be a HUGE change for you but if you stop and think a minute he's making a huge chage to come here, maybe you can go there so that you and he can live a married life together.

If it's the not being together part that's got you down then you can resolve it by going and being with him in his country. Sometimes that's best at least you get to be together that way. I hope this helps.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 13:48:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Boye,

Where for art thou Boye.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 15:13:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Is there anything else you want to share with us poster ? Any more updates ?

We are here and willing to give our little 5-cents.


idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 15:04:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
The queen thing was a little out of line, and I apologze to all that reads it.
Your previous post susgest that some are narrowminded and it's without merit.
Please be more respectful of others post.

Now back to topic please.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 14:24:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Omoba You don't think my post makes sense.........okay you have every right to your oppinion. Why do you feel I have a problem with you Omoba? What I have a problem with is some of your misinformation and wanting to be the Visajourney Queen.

Every person that choose's to type on this board brings a thought behind their words even tho I or you may not agree this labeling has to stop.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 13:56:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
Some people have several accounts that they may use being whom ever they want to be at the time. Just as this is a free country they are free to do so until the moderators of this forum say differently or makes it impossible to do. Up to this point all of us could be just a few people posting here in Saharan.

This isn't the place to be calling anyone narrowminded based on some letters typed to form words. If a person choose's to troll around that's what they gonna do, name calling and accusing someone of being someone else without the proper proof opens the door for falsification of information unless they have the ability of a psychic. If you feel you have that ability then I welcome you to make known the person your accusing.

We here in SubSaharan come into the site to advise people on their journey and to share our experiences. Let's move away from name calling and such. It's just not beneficial. Newbies, I hope you see that we post to help each other, that's our goal here . Please over look those that resort to name calling and such as there are bad apples on every tree.
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 13:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMy Experience in the States
I think some parts must be missin from your story. Did your wife use a sponsor to file for you? It's situations like this when you just shake your head and think what about the love you both shared, and wonder if you married a stranger; didn't take time to get to know one another and how easily your both willing to throw your love away so suddenly according to you.


That I-360
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-25 13:03:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanhi there
Yum Yum enjoy!
idocareFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 14:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanVisa in HAND!
The feeling of being successful and feeling that the system does work is a vibrant
feeling, I can remember feeling that way.

Congrats, you have what you applied for.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-01-21 02:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHAPPY BIRTHDAY VICTOR!!!
He'll be 4-years old in June; Wow how times passes. His father continues to be absent
in his life; what a winner I picked!!!
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-07 02:09:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHAPPY BIRTHDAY VICTOR!!!
lol, It's on it's way.
idocareFemaleNigeria2006-06-09 03:35:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanHAPPY BIRTHDAY VICTOR!!!
Hello all,

On behalf of my son Victor Jr. I'd like to say thanks for all of the well wishes. He's truly busy at this age but I thank God that he a healthy Naija first son.


Hey Michelle, Jr. is still waiting on his present.....hehehe :thumbs:
idocareFemaleNigeria2006-06-08 16:03:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBest of Nollywood
For those culturally inclined, I'd like to susgest a Indian movie called Chori Chori Chupke Chupke. It's a wonderful love story; each time I watch it; it brings me to tears. It has the India fashion, lots of dancing and in my oppinion it keeps anyone attention thru-out. I just love the story line !!! It's a 5-star in my book.

Edited by idocare, 12 February 2009 - 12:28 AM.

idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-12 00:27:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBest of Nollywood
wow, okay Chipas I'm gonna turn into some Ghanain movies. Thanks
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-12 00:19:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanBest of Nollywood
What's funny is that most of Nollywood movies has something to do with someone
outsmarting the other; manipulating the other or killing the other.


I just don't like the way they end; usually without a ending. All movies are interesting
and hold a good plot. Have you seen the one depicting Beyonce? I didn't finish it but
it was good.


idocareFemaleNigeria2009-01-29 23:23:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanCan someone explain "Keeping Track" to me
From my understanding; a K-1 or K-3 visa request is separate from the alloted visa programs. Say for instance; if your an American requesting for someone from another country that is your fiance or spouse to join you here, they have no bearing to the amount of visas alloted to America. You as a U.S. citizen have a right to petition for your fiance or spouse to come to join you here in America.

I believe the petition times are refering to how long it takes to process your petition. But by you requesting a visa as a American citizen; it lessens or pretty much gives your Alien a clear entrance in to America as long as you nor he don't have questionable history that would disqualify one of you.

The wait on filing a K-1/K-3 (from my understanding ) is the time it takes the USCIS to get around to processing your petition. ( They get many request from all over the Globe Countries that I never heard of except for watching the introduction at an Olympic game ) ( It still amazes me how some Americans travel to these not too much talked about countries and find love ) ( Wait; I thought I found love on the internet)

So in short; your case that you filed is based on how fast that our Country can process it; it has nothing to do with a limit of people (entering America) in their particular Country, nor the alloted amount.

My understanding is that if your an American in good standing; you can petition for your loved one to join you here. The wait times exist cause there are a enormous amounts of petitions that the uscis have to process. Even with mentioning that; it's a short cut for your loved one to come into America.

I hope this helps.

Edited by idocare, 12 February 2009 - 02:15 AM.

idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-12 02:11:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanK1 proof of relationship
I believe if you make available all the items that you mentioned in your post, that you should be ok. Bringing more evidence to an interview is always much better then bringing less.

Even pictures of you all that you may consider not to be too clear; the more the better.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-15 13:42:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWe passed!!!
This is a exciting time for you both, congrats !!!!!
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-21 01:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (Niel&Femi @ Feb 16 2009, 09:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (idocare @ Jan 19 2009, 04:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In Nigeria I hear that your suspose to be financially stable before you marry; if
someone is always telling you of situations or occurrences that would prompt you to
send money; I'd be wary. I'd let them solve their own problem, many peeps milk money
out of others that way. Your love interest shouldn't need you to rescue them; sounds
a little cruel; but I say that for a reason. Just my little two cents.


I think i would totally agree with you on this one, because this are some red light you have to look for when someone is want to defruad you, i also believe that Idocare is talking from experience, but neverthless that should not make you to generalise it because some are still genuine in there relationship with their foreign spouse.

Again as for sweet... so also you when you mention that all those people that are going to cyber cafe are fruadster, that mean anytime you find yourself there also you are qouote/unquote that is that.

what about the people that has internet on their offices, and are being brutalite by nigerian girls in the name of love, but they now trying to spread there net somwhere else.

please refrane your defence and think very well before you start generalise the your posting

thanks





Nigeria is the country that I have been too twice, read and continue too read books about and where my ex-husband is from, thus my experience. I can't talk about South Africa , nor any other place that I don't know nothing about. I write about my personal experience and the experience of others that have contacted me and shared information with me but didn't want to post, some still remain here lurking and (Just as I do )feel as sense of relief/duty to see some of their experience out there on an open thread. If your taking this as a generlization; I can't stop you from feeling that way, but again I can only post about my experience and that's Nigeria.

Edited by idocare, 28 February 2009 - 09:18 AM.

idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-28 09:15:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Felshen, I do remember you. Thanks for sharing ! I wish all the best to you both.

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idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-28 08:56:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
When people would tell me that it was probably a scam (even some I knew that are here from Nigeria) I would just smile and tell them thanks for your concern. I did end up getting scammed, but I didn't listen to others; I listened to my fiance who was in Nigeria at the time. He assured me in no way was he a scammer.......

Bottom line is you have to do you!

Still waiting to hear from some peeps that married Nigerians and it's still going well.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-14 02:26:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I watch that too from time to time. ( BBC) On this channel they talk about what's going on in many other countries not specific to just one.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-12 00:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Well Whibeygirl,

Your from the same place as I'm from and I don't hear much about Nigeria on the local news or Cnn . They especially don't mention anything much about international couples that I have heard. I'm a avid listener of CNN. What your experience?
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-12 00:09:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I admit that I did take a statistics course in college.....LOL I guess with the training and all; I learned that I should not jump out there with solid numbers claiming them to be exact. Thus I said approx. That's what this forum is about; hypothesis, except for the lawyers and employees of USCIS that enjoy imputing from time to time. The approx. comes from hanging around all these years, reading on forums like this Sub Saharan and Effects of major family changes etc. (within this visa journey site)

If my memory server me correctly, they came up with the Effects of major family..... maybe a year after I joined because so many people were posting about being used or dumped.
It may not even be that old. But the administrator saw a need and added it within his site. Many many peoples journey take them to that site. My journey took me to that site; I knew there was a chance of me ending up there posting but my love for this man and my belief in what he told me was strong enough to take the chance. Even after reading the few others before me that posted of being scammed; I just couldn't see it happening to me. ( No way would a Medical Doctor be that manipultive, after all; his training is too help and heal ) Met his family and they were very nice to me. It's truly hard to figure out a scam until it too late in many cases.

Even tho I post mostly in Sub Saharan, this scam issue occurs in many Countries as mentioned earlier by many; it's not biased to Africa alone. My ex-husband is from Nigeria so approiately I post here.

I enjoyed reading the post from Boaz; and I know she understands why I continue to post. I appreciate her for openly encouraging me to continue to post. It's mature people like that; that can be a bit biased to reading a post (that sounds similiar to them ) but stick to what's real. Hats off to you girl !!!!

Finally, it's refreshing to read of some couples coming foward and reporting a loving relationship. That's the topic...... I want to say thanks to those who took the time to share with us that they and their Alien spouse is still together and I hope more take the time to post. You know I've been around since 2003 reading and posting.......LOL I'm hoping to see more from the past post. It would be nice to read from some people who married around the same time as I did........so if you care to share please do.....LOL. I hope the many that married when I did are still together and possibly have a new editions to the family to report.....LOL

I continue to post because I do care.

Edited by idocare, 12 February 2009 - 12:01 AM.

idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-11 23:57:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I would go farther and say that nobody should let others tell them whom to Marry or
not. Nobody can predict the outcome of anyones marriage. Although the percentages
are high nobody can tell you 100% that you will surely fall prey to a marriage scam.

Information that's provided here comes from people experiences; it's to help you in your
journey; be it negitive or positive. People stay together for all kinds of reasons. I know
if I was from another Country and had someone taking care of me and letting me go to
school I'd take advantage of it. I would be more then willing to put my true love and kids back in my country on hold to better positon myself and to let the paperwork go thru.

This is just my opinion, some are barely still together with their mates; and they know who they are, but that mate isn't as loving as they were when they were trying to get here.

My wish is for all to be happy and find a mate that loves them and that they can love. Because I do care; I continue to post my journey. Since my journey started I've met alot of wonderful couples. Regretfully I have to post that I personally know of approx. 70% of the people that married an Alien are no longer together.

For the couples that are still happily married I say wonderful !!
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-11 15:00:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I don't think Babenurse was lookin to make a decision. She was merely seekin other
married couples that were still together. they don't have to be happy; but sitll marreid
Oh, the topic Nigerian; she was seekin Nigerian couples I think; if I wrong
Babynurse3be let me know.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-07 02:27:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Readers,

I hope you all read NigerLA post. I got two very important points out of it.
1) They are BOTH Professionals
2) They dated a while before becoming engaged; then waited another year to marry.

They didn't do the internet rush me into America thing.

It's always refreshing to hear of successful interminglings. Thanks for sharing. Over the years what I'm finding is that Aliens usually marry twice if not more. They marry the one that they scammed to get here; then they set out to either marry/ re-marry there
real pick.

Even some from other countries won't look in their own country for love for the fear of being scammed by their own. In any thought; we all just need to really get to know the person and their friends.

I hope to read more from people that Married years ago and are still together with their husband/wife.
I don't think any has posted, I could be wrong; I didn't read this entire thread.
idocareFemaleNigeria2009-02-06 01:47:00