ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
Would mga pinay change their mind, if PETA had their way?

"Would people think twice about ordering fish sticks if they were called sea kitten sticks? Learn more about our ingenious campaign to save fish by changing their names."


http://www.peta.org/...ttens/index.asp


Sorry. Go offtopic45vn.gif to discuss!

-- Bullwinkle

Edited by Rocky_nBullwinkle, 09 January 2009 - 07:06 PM.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 19:03:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (kawawa @ Jan 9 2009, 02:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (gladys @ Jan 9 2009, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jan 9 2009, 02:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (luntian @ Jan 9 2009, 11:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think you are talking about tuyo or dried fish


Yep. That is what she called it. Any ideas?


Don't be too fuzzy Rocky_nBullwinkle!! Taste it!! It taste good!!! Pair it with rice and dip it in vinegar with some chille!! You won't think of divorcing your wife.. you may ask her to marry you again!!



QUOTE (jasman0717 @ Jan 9 2009, 02:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing.gif Stay away from the duck eggs blink.gif


Is what you are referring to? This is good!! Taste it!!







oooooh, yum, yum, yummy!!!!!...exotic like us Filipinas!!!



Yummy! Masarap! --Rocky

p.s. At least he thinks I'm tasty blush.gif .

p.p.s. My new desktop!

Edited by Rocky_nBullwinkle, 09 January 2009 - 06:13 PM.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 18:12:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (HappyDancer @ Jan 9 2009, 12:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It sticks to the furniture and they really hate the smell of it. My fiance has experienced it here in the Philippines and he was not very impressed by it. He plans to make a dirty kitchen for me when I move to KY though so that makes me very happy!!! biggrin.gif

QUOTE (EddieandChe @ Jan 9 2009, 04:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jan 9 2009, 02:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Help! I have a shirt wrapped around my face as I write this post. Some sort of small fish she cooks in oil, produces lots of smoke. wacko.gif It smells like the warmest day in gym class, only 100 times worse. It has been two days now, and I can't even go in the house without covering my face. sad.gif

helpsmilie.gif -Bullwinkle



This is funny & nonsense hahaha.. i also cooked dried fish if my hubby is not here coz he don't like the smell.but he still knew it that i cooked dried fish lol!!! he said next time i will cooked outside but i said no way coz its so cold hahaha its ok if summer outside.my hubby no comments coz he know i love it hahaha!!!
Use air freshener but me not at all coz its only took few hrs. & gone hehehe...




Funny and nonesense, you're right. But I do want to have my own dirty kitchen too. It would make it easier for me to cook tuyo and daing without any protest from my husband. laughing.gif . maybe in the summer. I will need a stove and a propane tank. Thanks guys. -- This is Rocky --the wife
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 16:13:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 9 2009, 12:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
pray you get a cold, then you won't smell anything.


You just don't know, Charles. You just don't know! wow.gif

--Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 15:34:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (AJAnTESS @ Jan 9 2009, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jan 9 2009, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Help! I have a shirt wrapped around my face as I write this post. Some sort of small fish she cooks in oil, produces lots of smoke. wacko.gif It smells like the warmest day in gym class, only 100 times worse. It has been two days now, and I can't even go in the house without covering my face. sad.gif

helpsmilie.gif -Bullwinkle



Under California Code Section 2310, you can file for a divorce or dissolution on the grounds of incurable insanity. You can plead that your wife is incurably insane due to "persistent undoings in putting the house under unbearable odor"!

But then, your wife, being the law graduate that she is, might know that "provocation" is a very good defense for divorce. She may counter that she is provoked in frying salted dried fish at your house because you never brought her out to a Filipino restaurant that serves that stuff!

Okay folks. I know a nice Filipino restaurant in San Bruno. You can go there this evening; Marie can enjoy all the fish she wants and Bill can satisfy himself with the beefsteak and adobo!






Thanks AJ and Tess. We will keep it under advisement. Negotiations are under way at the moment. We just went to Seafood City in Vallejo just before the new year. She got her spiced vinegar with sili, (Chilis) and some lumpia wrappers. Next time, we will stop at Max's before we head out.

--- Rocky and Bullwinkle

P.S. What restaurant in San Bruno? The wife wants to know!
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 15:24:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Jan 9 2009, 11:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Use this for mouthwash




mmm, tasty! good.gif

- Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:58:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (kawawa @ Jan 9 2009, 11:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (jasman0717 @ Jan 9 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing.gif Stay away from the duck eggs blink.gif





i love it!!!



I love the duck eggs too (balut?). But my husband is too much of a wussy to try those. He is such a big baby crying about all that smoke. But I felt bad looking at him like that. He is not really used to the smell of dried fish. I don't know when will be the next time for me to eat dried fish again! --Thanks for the reply guys. I love tuyo, but I have second thoughts of frying them again. -- Rocky
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:53:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (luntian @ Jan 9 2009, 11:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jan 9 2009, 03:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (luntian @ Jan 9 2009, 11:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think you are talking about tuyo or dried fish


Yep. That is what she called it. Any ideas?

use scented candle or the long one that has flavor I forgot what it is sorry but it really can help....the tittle of this thread is a joke right????



Thanks. It was close, but I think I will keep her. huh.gif
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:37:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (kawawa @ Jan 9 2009, 11:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Jan 9 2009, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Help! I have a shirt wrapped around my face as I write this post. Some sort of small fish she cooks in oil, produces lots of smoke. wacko.gif It smells like the warmest day in gym class, only 100 times worse. It has been two days now, and I can't even go in the house without covering my face. sad.gif

helpsmilie.gif -Bullwinkle





just cooking dried fish, means devorcing your wife???? nonsense at all,
open the window, spray air freshener, do some cleaning, and ask your wife to cook dried fish outside next time.


I got home at she was coming out the front door with the smoking pan. She tried, but the "aroma" escaped before she could get outside. All the windows are open, and the smell is dissipating. Maybe I will still keep her.

-Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:33:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
QUOTE (luntian @ Jan 9 2009, 11:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think you are talking about tuyo or dried fish


Yep. That is what she called it. Any ideas?
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:29:00
PhilippinesCan I divorce my wife for cooking fish?
Help! I have a shirt wrapped around my face as I write this post. Some sort of small fish she cooks in oil, produces lots of smoke. wacko.gif It smells like the warmest day in gym class, only 100 times worse. It has been two days now, and I can't even go in the house without covering my face. sad.gif

helpsmilie.gif -Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-09 14:23:00
Philippinesi need realy help
Can we please move this thread to another forum, say MENA?

QUOTE (soulmateko @ Mar 22 2009, 05:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
a word of advice shanejean...never comment something if u can't even get ur mind into it...save ur breath.. headbonk.gif

Noob!
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-22 20:47:00
Philippinesconfuse about PDOS and CFO
QUOTE (spartan @ Oct 7 2008, 07:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You can attend the CFO seminar before your interview or after your interview.
CODE




She's right.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-23 14:17:00
Philippinesconfuse about PDOS and CFO
QUOTE (melissa/martin @ Oct 7 2008, 06:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hello everyone! I just want to ask if I can do the CFO before my interview? Isn't PDOS and CFO the same? Please enlighten me because I'm confused about the two. Thanks!



Before you go to the CFO (Commision on Filipinos Overseas) for your seminar for spouses and fiance(e)s of foreign nationals, and PRISM, for the fiance(e)s only, you need to have your passport with your visa attatched. By the way, make sure you know the mother's maiden name before you go. They will probably ask for that.

Edited by sonomacountygal, 14 November 2008 - 03:06 PM.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2008-11-14 15:04:00
Philippinesemployment letter and nvc
QUOTE (tata78 @ Mar 23 2009, 04:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hello everyone.i have two concerns here and i hope you could clear me with these things to ease up my burdens here.

first is that the NVC received our NOA2 on march 12, until now it's still on processed.we made a follow-up today and nothing has changed there.is this normal?

second is that about the employment letter of my fiance.due to a strict policy of his company, they won't issue him an employment letter.it's supposed to be just a certification that he is currently employed.shouldnt be a big deal but then his company won't issue such out of liability reasons.although we have a complete documentation of his w2's and pay stubs.will this be a problem for me?anyone out there with same case as mine?i hope you can enlighten me with these issues.


Yeah, it usually takes a couple of weeks before the embassy has your case number and will allow you to make an appointment for interview. If your fiance's employer will not provide a letter, then there's not much you can do. However, if you got a copy of the last ITR and his W2's, you should be okay as far as verifying income. You should have copies of his last few pay stubs. I recommend just to be sure to have the previous 2 ITR's as well, especially if you are running close to the guidelines or to show continuous employment for the last 3 years.

Good luck.
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-23 20:55:00
PhilippinesFINALLY!!!!!!! CASE COMPLETE!!!!!!!
QUOTE (Raeka @ Mar 23 2009, 06:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Attached File  DSC00047.JPG   108.2KB   5 downloads
QUOTE (Raeka @ Mar 23 2009, 10:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Mariel_Esteban @ Mar 23 2009, 10:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Raeka @ Mar 23 2009, 09:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Case complete guys!!!!!!.. another good news is that i dont have to redo my DS230 anymore. aaaaaaaaaahhh!!! Finally, the NVC thing is over.. kicking.gif



wow! that was a looonggg timeline you have there! wacko.gif but good things come to those who wait as they say...woohoo! Goodluck.....


Thanks guys!.. soooooooooooooo much!



Patience is a virtue. Congratulations. Start preparing for your medical and interview.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-23 12:23:00
PhilippinesA little something about the place where you live
QUOTE (AJAnTESS @ Feb 28 2009, 06:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocky_nBullwinkle @ Feb 28 2009, 12:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (AJAnTESS @ Feb 27 2009, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I live in Corona, Calif., a bedroom community in Riverside County. It’s the “Crown City” and was the lemon capital of California, before people from nearby Orange and Los Angeles counties flocked into town in groves and homes sprouted all over the areas where citrus trees used to grow.

Today, Corona is regarded as the Beverly Hills of Riverside County, but not because its residents have extra large wallets and palatial homes like the stars and tycoons who dwell along Sunset Boulevard and Rodeo Drive. But, it is because the per capita income in Corona is the highest in Riverside Co.

Corona is the ideal place for non-spectator sports. There are 8 golf courses within the city limits and one of them, Cresta Verde GC, where yours truly is a humble member, is just a driver, a 3-wood and a 9-iron away from my house. Freshwater fishing also beckons here, with trophy sized rainbow trout, catfish and crappie being reeled off regularly from Corona Lake.

Before we moved here 12 years ago, we have lived in various places such as Union City, Calif., a Filipino stomping ground in the Bay Area; Euless, Tex., a little town in the Dallas/Forth Worth Metroplex; Tallahassee, Fla., where I picked up a little Southern vocabulary; and Chula Vista, Calif., a town just 6 miles north of the Mexican border.


Hey, I learned some things from you guys. It feels good to know about these places. I hope someday I get to see some of them. Thanks for the replies.


You are welcome. How was the salmon run on the Russian River? I hope that a lot went upstream to spawn and then all the fingerlings survive and go back to the ocean. Salmon has been pretty scant for fishermen along the California coast for years.


As fasr as I know, there's a moratorium on salmon fishing on the Russian River and as fas as I know, for commercial fishing on the north coast.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-01 10:23:00
PhilippinesA little something about the place where you live
QUOTE (AJAnTESS @ Feb 27 2009, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I live in Corona, Calif., a bedroom community in Riverside County. It’s the “Crown City” and was the lemon capital of California, before people from nearby Orange and Los Angeles counties flocked into town in groves and homes sprouted all over the areas where citrus trees used to grow.

Today, Corona is regarded as the Beverly Hills of Riverside County, but not because its residents have extra large wallets and palatial homes like the stars and tycoons who dwell along Sunset Boulevard and Rodeo Drive. But, it is because the per capita income in Corona is the highest in Riverside Co.

Corona is the ideal place for non-spectator sports. There are 8 golf courses within the city limits and one of them, Cresta Verde GC, where yours truly is a humble member, is just a driver, a 3-wood and a 9-iron away from my house. Freshwater fishing also beckons here, with trophy sized rainbow trout, catfish and crappie being reeled off regularly from Corona Lake.

Before we moved here 12 years ago, we have lived in various places such as Union City, Calif., a Filipino stomping ground in the Bay Area; Euless, Tex., a little town in the Dallas/Forth Worth Metroplex; Tallahassee, Fla., where I picked up a little Southern vocabulary; and Chula Vista, Calif., a town just 6 miles north of the Mexican border.


Hey, I learned some things from you guys. It feels good to know about these places. I hope someday I get to see some of them. Thanks for the replies.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-02-28 00:05:00
PhilippinesA little something about the place where you live
Thank you guys for the reply. Appreciate it. We take pride in our new home. I have fun reading the replies here. Anybody else?
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-02-27 14:35:00
PhilippinesA little something about the place where you live
Senorita Teresita asked about your home town. Why don't you tell us about your neighborhood or the place where you live?

We live in Forestville, a small unincorporated town in Sonoma County located in northern California, a good 70 miles from the Golden Gate bridge. If Napa California claims that it is the wine capital of the world, Sonoma makes the best wines in the world. In fact, Kendall-Jackson Wine Estates, (Fulton Road, CA) sent two cases of the winery's chardonnay to President-elect Barack Obama as a congratulatory gesture in Nov. 6. A recent story in People magazine profiling the family life of then-candidate, now President-elect Barack Obama mentioned that a bottle of Kendall-Jackson chardonnay sat on the Obamas’ kitchen countertop. It seemed only fitting that the California winemaker send a few congratulatory cases of the brand to the incoming President for his new wine cellar on Pennsylvania Avenue.

My favorite are the giant Sequoia (Redwood) trees and they can be found in Sonoma County. These gigantic trees are breathtaking and not to mention the Russian River which extends from Sonoma County to Mendocino County. Come to Sonoma and experience free wine tours and wine tasting.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-02-27 01:41:00
PhilippinesSending money to the Philippines
QUOTE (Michael and Milahjean @ Mar 23 2009, 08:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We have been using PNB Rapid Remit via internet for a while with no troubles. See link below for fees, which are very low. My asawa had her father open a peso ATM account at a nearby PNB branch, so they grab what they need with their ATM card. We load up the account monthly from my checking account. The funds transfer takes about 4-5 days. Works good for us!!

M&M

http://www.pnbrcionl...s/newrates.html



Anyone of you guys who tried Money Gram? I sent money to the Philippines yesterday. It was my first time to send through Money Gram. How long will it take to transfer the money? Just wondering.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-23 12:18:00
Philippinesfirst day in US.
star_smile.gif Welcome to the Golden State! It took me two hours also at the immigration in SFO plus another hour from the airport going to Sonoma County. It's always nice to get some sleep first.
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-25 10:15:00
PhilippinesDiyos at kayamanan
QUOTE (Señorita Tessa @ Mar 24 2009, 09:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Pepe Alvaréz @ Mar 24 2009, 11:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
English translation, please!


Here's a translation. Pardon me for any errors as I am not a Tagalog.

God and Wealth

At times of crisis or economic hardship brought in by difficult times, two noticeable events appear in the horizon. Now, it seems that more people go to church and, also, more resort to gambling. In America, churches have their hands full in helping all those in need as lots of people depend on the clergy for emotional support as a result of the crisis. It is the same as what is happening in our country as more parishioners go to mass now. Before, churches were just more than half full and now it’s almost standing room only. Even other church activities, such as bible study and prayer meetings, have plenty of participants.

The same goes with the line at the lottery outlet. According to some people I have talked to, the lotto line fills up very much faster than before. Before, the lotto drawings with little jackpots were not too enticing, but, now all bets are in all drawings, big or small. Ever since the super lotto jackpot reached P300M and two people won, there are now many who play the daily games. Philippine culture is very visible here. Everybody seeks God during hard times.

We are a Christian country and it is natural for us to seek support from our Maker to enrich our well beings and also our minds. On the flip side, there is that Filipino habit to look for the easiest and fastest way to earn a buck. And that includes going to a casino to gamble away or invest in something that promises fast and high returns. That is why many of our countrymen have been victimized by these scams, some of which are currently being investigated by the Senate.

God and wealth! If my memory serves me right, during my school days, these two objects do not go side by side. In holy writings, you can’t see them together; what’s for God was different from what’s for Pilate, as they say. But in our culture, we seek closeness to God so we can attain wealth. But after church, we immediately buy a lotto ticket or go to the casino, thinking deep in our hearts that God might grant our wish as we prayed for it. God knows what’s inside our hearts. We have not realized that He has already captured our imagination. However, it is very good that many become closer to Him during these times. But it is better if we get closer every time and not just during periods of hardship. If our minds and intentions are clear, things will be rosy, even without joining the lotto line or dropping by the casino.


Thanks for the translation Senorita Teresita.
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-25 11:33:00
PhilippinesDiyos at kayamanan
Diyos at kayamanan

SA panahon ng krisis o matinding kahirapan, dalawang pang­yayari ang kapansin-pansin. Dumarami ang nag­sisimba, at dumarami rin ang nagsusugal. Sa Amerika nga raw ay nahihirapan na ang mga simbahan sa pag-aasikaso sa mga parukyanong humihingi ng tulong at gabay, dahil sa krisis. Marami ang nakasandal sa mga pari at pastor dahil sa bigat ng emosyonal na paghihirap na dulot ng krisis. Hindi ito kakaiba sa nangyayari rin sa bansa natin. Napan-sin rin ng mga simbahan na dumadami ang nagmimisa ngayon. Kung noon ay higit kalahati lang napupuno ang simbahan, ngayon ay halos napupuno na. Pati mga ibang aktibidad ng simbahan katulad ng mga bible study at prayer meeting ay dumami na rin ang dumadalo.

Ganundin ang pila sa lotto. Mas madali humaba ang pila sa tayaan ngayon, ayon sa mga ibang nakakausap ko. Kung noong araw ay hindi masyado tinatayaan ang mga laro na mabababa pa ang jackpot, ngayon ay halos lahat tinatayaan na rin. Magmula nang umabot ng higit P300 milyon ang superlotto at dalawa ang tumama, marami na rin ang tumatangkilik sa pang-araw-araw na mga laro. Kitang-kita rito ang kultura ng Pilipino. Takbuhan ang Diyos sa panahon ng paghihirap.

Kristiyanong bansa tayo kaya likas sa atin ang humingi ng tulong sa Maykapal para maginhawaan sa buhay, pati na ang kalooban. At sa isang dako naman, likas din sa Pilipino ang humanap ng mga madadaling paraan para kumita. Kasama na rin dito ang pagpunta sa casino para magsugal, at pwede ring banggitin ang paglalagay ng pera sa mga negosyong nangangako nang malalaking interes o balik ng pera. Kaya naman marami na sa ating mga kababayan ang naloko na nitong mga scam na ito, iba ay iniimbestigahan na sa Senado.

Diyos at kayamanan. Kung natatandaan ko sa aking pag-aaral noon ay hiwalay lagi ang dalawang panig na ito. Sa banal na kasulatan, hindi mo makikitang pinagsasama ang dalawang ito. Iba ang para sa Diyos, at iba ang para kay Pilato, ika nga. Pero sa kultura natin, kaya tayo lumalapit sa Diyos ay para magkaroon ng kayamanan. Malamang ay pagkatapos magsimba, ay tuloy sa tayaan ng lotto o sa casino, at baka nga naman sagutin na ng Diyos ang dina­langin. Alam ng Diyos ang nasa puso natin. Hindi pa natin iniisip ay huli na Niya ang kalooban natin. Maganda naman kung marami ang napapalapit sa Kanya sa mga panahon na ito. Pero mas maganda kung lalapit tayo palagi, at hindi lang sa panahon ng paghihirap. Kapag malinis ang nasa loob natin, siguradong susunod na ang biyaya, kahit hindi pa pumila sa lotto o magtungo sa casino.

http://www.philstar....ubCategoryId=94

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-24 22:31:00
PhilippinesDo you find this irritating?
QUOTE (jom @ Mar 25 2009, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.


You're absolutely right!
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-25 11:29:00
PhilippinesDo you find this irritating?
QUOTE (jom @ Mar 25 2009, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.


thumbs:
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-03-25 11:13:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (SMOKE @ Jan 20 2009, 03:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mykuls, tallcoolone & anyone i missed messing w/ the US/Euro/MENA/etc ladies:

i know you guys are just having a little fun. but, these type of threads always end badly. so what right? wrong. people might not remember your name, but they will remember the flag on your profile. someone might be mad at you & take it out on someone else w/ the same flag on their profile. someone that needs help, might not get it coz of something you say.

a true story(me & my wife). about a year & 1/2 ago (SMOKE is a new account, i've been around here for some time now) there had been several of these types of threads going. my wife was still in the PI & we were in the prepping for the interview stage. i told my fiance to log on to VJ if she had any questions & i wasn't around to answer them. she did. she was torched by some members, not for anything she said or did, but for things that had been said by someone w/ the Philippine flag on their profile. can you imagine what it is like to have your fiance/wife on the phone crying her eyes out because of something someone said to her on the site you recommended to her & you're 12,000 miles away & can do nothing to fix it. it sucked more than i can describe to you.

so if you like it or not you are 'representing' the PI when you're here on VJ. don't let having a little fun go to far & don't let your action effect someone else that truely needs this website. this place is for people that need help w/ immigration issues. if you make some friends along the way great. its a long tough process. please don't make it harder for people that come after you.


Maybe it is good for us, as a immigrant community, and the spouse of immigrants, that we work these issues out here, instead of in the greater society in which we live. If it is true, that the largest, and fastest growing group of OTM's, is, or soon will be Filipino, then this is an issue that needs to be resolved. And, if my attendance in the Fil-Am organizations shows what appears to be the norm, that this population is 90% Pinay, leaving just a spattering of Filipino men, the Kano spouses and their children, then we definitely have an issue that will need to be resolved soon.

There is resentment against us, here on VJ, for speaking our minds. I know as a group, among ourselves we are not afraid to speak our minds. So, should we watch our step? Maybe. Should we men also be docile and submissive? Ladies? But whatever the lesson is, let us learn it here on VJ.


--Bullwinkle

Edited by Rocky_nBullwinkle, 20 January 2009 - 07:16 PM.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-20 19:15:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (Y_habibitk @ Jan 20 2009, 12:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 20 2009, 08:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Jan 19 2009, 09:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have found the promise land, and now i share it with my friends.

blink.gif blink.gif blink.gif blink.gif blink.gif blink.gif


me too


Here's the deal. There are plenty of american men that are perfectly happy with their american women. If you have always found "bad" american women...guess what? YOU are the common denominator.

I would like to know how the wives/finaces feel about their husbands/men saying..."i just love phillipino women,they are the best!", instead of... I love the woman I found, she is from the phillipines.
It would kinda of cheapen the feeling of being special and loved for who you are, instead it sounds like...oh i scored one, like it didnt matter which one. just my opinion


I suppose it depends how things look in the morning: Are you comfortable waking up alone, or with that person that is in bed with you? Then things are okay. If not, something needs to change, either you, or what is sleeping beside you.

--Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-20 16:10:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (Mykuls Merry Ann @ Jan 19 2009, 06:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
http://newsgroups.de...6/msg00026.html

Brutal Truth Dating Advice to Asian American Men (by my consultant)

* From: "Eclectic007@xxxxxxxxx" <Eclectic007@xxxxxxxxx>
* Date: Tue, 26 Jun 2007 07:49:00 -0700

www.happierabroad.com/Advice_Asian_Men.htm

Brutal Truth Dating Advice to Asian American Men (by my consultant)

It is no secret now that Asian men in America have
problems dating. There have been several programs on
TV already describing the fact that as an Asian man,
you have harder time finding a mate than your
Caucasian, African-American or Hispanic counterparts.
There have been articles in magazines and newspapers
addressing the same problem and describing its causes
(and effects). Few such programs or articles, however,
offer solutions to such men, and many still find
themselves lonely and bitter, although sometimes
pitied. However, more often than not, they simply end
up lonesome and dateless.

The deal seems to be this: Many Caucasian women in the
US do not find Asian American men manly enough to
consider them dating material. Many Asian women also
prefer Caucasian men, and the ones who prefer Asian
men, are apparently not enough to go around.

The US media often portrays Asian men as dorky
buffoons, skinny and freaky martial arts experts,
mathematics nerds, clumsy immigrants with mangled
English of the 'flied lice' variety", noodle shop
cooks or laundry managers, and not as being as
powerful and confident as White or African American
males, or as romantic as Hispanic men. Plus,
throughout the history of the US, Asian countries were
enemies whose males were to be killed on the
battlefield, and whose women were to be taken home to
mom as war brides after their men lie dead in the
jungle or at the bottom of the sea.

In other cases, Asian countries were often suppliers
of poor workers or indigent immigrants of all kinds to
provide cheap labors in developed, most often
Caucasian countries. Also, in the past, Asian
Americans, period, were victims of serious
discrimination coming from the government, a practice
which has since been abolished but whose residues
still haunt Asian men even today as they are not seen
as fully American by the US society. None of the above
has helped to create an image of a virile and
dependable Asian male, a potentially desirable mate
for American women to date and marry.

With the great improvements in Civil Rights, and the
general feeling of guilt coming from mainstream
population groups (whoever they may be) the situation
of the Asian minority has improved significantly, for
sure. The pejorative word "Oriental" has been stricken
down from printed materials and is avoided in daily
speech. The proud term "Asian American" has been born.
Asian men are in the government and politics, they run
successful businesses, they are achievers in the field
of science and technology, law and medicine However,
as far as American women of all colors seeing an Asian
American man as a preferred dating and marriage
partner goes, the state of affairs still leaves a lot
to be desired. In short, if you are an Asian man in
America, citizen or not, native-born or not, fluent in
English or not, rich or poor, you will have problems
dating ladies there.

Those Asian men, who feel that they are being
discriminated against on the US love market, resort to
several ways of dealing with the problem:

1) Ignoring it and playing the numbers game. If one
goes through enough dating ads, attends enough parties
and invites enough women out, there will be a number
of women who will want to date, and possibly have a
serious relationship with you. The men who go down the
path of copious dating and selection will disregard
any flak that comes their way in the process, and come
out winners in the end. That is a good strategy except
that it is not very likely that one could end up with
a high quality female partner in the end if one stops
his search too early. If one still continues dating,
ignores numerous rejections, and sieves through any
unreliable partners that appear in the process, one
will end up with a prize- a good and honest woman to
be one's companion in life. But boy, it is going to
take a really long time, believe me!

It is a rather daunting course of action, and is
not suitable for every Asian man, especially not for
those who come from a background that emphasizes
modesty and non-aggressiveness.

2) Developing a complex and hatred of American men of
other races, particularly those of the Caucasian race,
and writing articles and posts on the Internet
newsgroups and bulletin boards complaining about lack
of dates and the prejudice against Asian American men.
Interviews with commiserating media and videos on
youtube.com also become a vent for the frustrations of
such men. The hope is that the US society will change
and they will suddenly become accepted and welcomed as
romantic companions and more. This approach, while a
good therapy for one's psychological state, is still
not very effective in procuring potential dates any
time in the near future. In the end, one is either
angry and militaristically racist, and supported only
by other frustrated Asian men, or one is felt sorry
for. In both cases, one still often remains dateless.

3) Bringing a female partner from the Old Country.
For some reason, this approach is seen as un-cool by a
big number of Asian American men. They see it as a
step back, and feel that a woman from the Old Country
will become a burden on the already Americanized
husband, what with her old-fashioned customs and
behavior which will interfere with the further
acceptance of the couple and their children into the
American society. Only very traditional, mature in
age, or religious Asian men seem to opt for that
route; not the majority of the Asian male population
of the country.

4) Finally, there has recently been a trend among US
citizens of Asian extraction to date internationally.
One can call this trend Romantic
Multi-Nationalization. What happens is that after
having discovered the US love market to be of
unsatisfactory performance in the area of providing
them with dating opportunities, such men have decided
to cross oceans and date in other countries. They have
finally had the courage to claim a very important
truth: It is not their fault that the US society has
such stereotypes of them. It is not their fault that
Hollywood often portrays them as emasculated persons
who are not worthy of being admired by the opposite
sex. It is really the fault of the modern (and past)
US culture and the media which reflects it. Also,
since the Hollywood culture has infused its
stereotypes into many other countries making things
harder for Asian men all over the English-speaking
world, one needs to find a culture in which such
stereotypes have not yet spoiled things for Asian men.


The trend of Asian Americans traveling to other
nations in search of romantic opportunities is growing
as they are now discovering huge areas on Earth where
they are seen for what most of them truly are:
diligent, intelligent, honest and dependable Americans
with excellent work and business ethics, a great deal
of talent, gentleman-ness, decency and a sense of
responsibility that should make any female proud.

Also, in many countries the stereotypes of Asian men
are very positive to begin with. They are seen as
smart, sexy, brave, adventurous and as excellent
providers, too. They are not viewed as poor
immigrants running noodle shops, but as progressive
and confident modern Alfa-males. Yes, it is true. Go
to such places and see for yourself.

International dating also allows an Asian man to
finally meet numerous Caucasian women who look like
Hollywood actresses, and who will be happy to be
involved with the man romantically and look up to him

If you are an Asian American man, I would urge you to
explore this past option. However, you will need to
know where to go. The world is a big place and it
would make little sense to leave the US and go to,
say, England or Australia. Or China for that matter-
what with its huge surplus of men. It would not be
easy for you to compete with an army of several
million bachelors scouting the Chinese countryside in
search of brides.

The best places for Asian men are probably the
following:

Thailand, Philippines, Vietnam, Cambodia and even
Malaysia. Go there will allow such men to discover
their true potential as respected and dignified dating
and marriage partners. Asian guys coming from the US
are highly sought after as husbands and lovers (even
more so than Caucasian guys), and, upon arriving in
those places, they will enjoy high status and be
treated extremely well by the local female population.

In Europe, it seems that the countries whose
ethnicities have had a high admixture of Asian "blood"
(Tat-C chromosome) through past Asian migrations
there, welcome Asian men in ways that the US ( or
British, Australian, Canadian and any other society
founded by British settlers) never has. Large areas in
Eastern Europe, in particular, the Baltic countries of
Estonia and Lithuania (currently EU members), have
shown to be very accepting and friendly to American
Asian males, and is a place where a growing number of
such travelers have been able to find incredible
opportunities for social life and romance. Many Asian
men's previously almost unattainable dream of finding
a "gorgeous blond and blue-eyed girlfriend", has came
true with ease as soon as they started dating in those
countries.

Belarus is another country where Asian men, even those
who are not American, have been able to feel accepted,
and where they have enjoyed good treatment and many
new possibilities for abundant "romancing".

Parts of Russia and other CIS countries (outside of
Moscow and St. Petersburg) have also been described as
very good for such Asian men although the growing
Fascist element in the country is making it more and
more dangerous for foreigners by the year. Still, if
one knows his way around these places, one will do
very well there and be able to avoid trouble in the
process.

Parts of Brazil, according to some sources, have
proven to be excellent, and some Asian men have been
able to mingle freely with the local population and
date beautiful women there.

France is another country in which Asian men (those
who can speak French- a necessity there) have reported
that they have been treated quite well by the local
females. They were finally able to date as normal
human beings should, and, quite possibly, get married
as normal human beings should. Upon arrival in the US,
however, they would more often than not again face
ostracism from the majority of the US women.

Yes, this ostracism seems to be a sad reality for many
an Asian man in the "Anglo Saxon" world, and it is
high time for decisive steps be taken to solve that
insidious problem. Waiting around until the attitudes
and stereotypes of the American society change for the
better (which may take decades) does not seem to be an
effective technique of solving it. Hence, such love
travel appears to be a surgically efficient way of
dealing with it.

So, maybe it is time to do some research, save up some
money and buy that ticket. You will be able to solve
the dateless-ness and gloom that many Asian guys face
in America by living in more than one country. Unless
you look like the Hunchback of Notredame or are the
Elephant Man, the success is virtually guaranteed
because quite a few Asian men are already doing the
same and are reporting excellent results.

It may not be an easy path to take, but the rewards
will be tremendous. You may have to learn new
languages, new rules and customs, and whole new ways
of life. However, your own life will be rewarding
beyond your wildest dreams. The only very important
condition that you need to fulfill is to be able to
support yourself while on the go, which is becoming
more and more possible with the help of the Internet
and the general globalization of the business
environment. Becoming a computer programmer online,
running a money-making website, living off rents, and
doing similar things whereby you are able to create a
cash flow from anywhere in the world, will liberate
you from having to be located in the US all the time
and depending on the unfriendly ( to you) US ( or the
UK, Australian, etc.) love market.

Life in many countries of the world is now very
similar to life in the US. The rest of the world is
now becoming developed and very similar to America in
terms of the variety of products, services and
business opportunities. You may even, one day, wish to
open a business in one of those countries. One only
need to dare to leave one's 9-5 job in the US as one's
romantic future does not seem to bode well for one who
dates there. Also, it would be better if one started
out as young as possible lest one end up a frustrated
middle-aged man who has missed his chance.

So, if you are an Asian American man (or a citizen of
any other immigrant nation such as Australia, Canada,
NZ, or even the UK), and you feel that life and love
are passing you by, do not become despondent.
Internationalize yourself! You will soon be living a
life that you truly deserve to live.



Careful! Some Bruce Lee type might just whip your butt!
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-20 11:46:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (missmissy @ Jan 19 2009, 10:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When your girlfriend really needed to talk to you during the game, she'd appear in a little box in the corner of the screen during a time-out.


That is why it was probably a woman that invented TIVO. (Pause live action!) Now, it is up to men to develope a remote to fast-forward through a woman's conversation!

--Bullwinkle
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-19 15:40:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (charles! @ Jan 19 2009, 10:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Men die first because they want to.


Peg, "Al! If you keep going doing that, you are going to die!"

Al, "When?"


--Bullwinkle

Now, I finally understand Married with Children!
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-19 13:28:00
PhilippinesAmerican Woman Bitter and Lonely?!
QUOTE (SteveAndTiff @ Jan 19 2009, 07:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why do women have legs..........

So they don't leave a snail track on linoleum floors.



Why do men have legs?

So they won't get stuck in gopher holes!

How many men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper?

Nobody knows! It has never been done!

What is the one thing lacking in all men?

A good aim!

--Rocky
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-19 12:08:00
PhilippinesA pinoy in New Jersey wrote this in his diary: (most are in tagalog)
QUOTE (rheanick @ Jan 23 2009, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dec 23
Lumamig nanaman!!! Dumami nanaman ang SNOW. Sabi sa tv na
a-abot hanggang Abril daw ang winter season!!! Ano?!! Ayoko na!!! Inyo
na!!!
BUWAKA-NG-INA! KAYO NALANG DITO. UUWI NA 'KO SA PILIPINAS!
Le*cheng bansa ito!!!



Poor guy! If you wanna know what hell will look like when it freezes over, quick, go and visit New Jersey now! He he he he! --Rocky
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-23 20:01:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (B&Gie @ Jan 12 2009, 07:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow such hatred for nickoftime! It's not like she is attacking your marriage personally. I know exactly what she is talking aobut and she is correct. I've seen it. Not allowing a wife to work CAN BE a form of abuse. Note, I said can be, not is always, or often is. I would love too let my future wife stay at home and raise our children. Heck I'd love to stay at home with her and raise our family if only I had that kind of cash. If you have a loving marriage where everything is shared and you want the wife to stay home, great. It's a good, healthy choice.

However, not everyone has such a relationship. The problem arises when you have an old geezer, a very traditional, religious guy, or a nutjob who gets himself a nice young submissive asian wife. Sometimes that young submissive asian wife isn't so submissive and traditional as he thought. Sometimes she is just really, really desperate. Sometimes she regrets making such a big sacrifice to try to support her family and secure a better life for her children. Maybe she even regrets marrying him. Now this is where the working thing comes in. Some of these guy keep her trapped at home, penniless, and ignorant of how the country she now lives in works. He has all the money, and all the power. If her family has an emergency, she has no money and has to ask/beg him to send money. If she needs anything, anything at all, she has to ask him for it. If she refuses him anything then he reuses to send her family any money, and yells at her about how much money he has spent to bring her here and how much she owes him. If she wants birth control she can't get it and he won't. She can't even divorce him or go home to the Philippines because she wouldn't know how and doesn't have the money. She is basically a slave. It's a form of human trafficking. Peonage or debt bondage. Now I'm in no way implying that this is the norm for stay at home wives. It isn't. but you have to realize that it IS a problem, and there are lots of women in this situation. Certainly they are a small percentage, but a small percentage of a lot is still a lot. That's why they have those laws. It's not to attack the institution of marriage, or force women to work. It's to protect the minority of women who really need that protection. Don't let your successful, healthy relationship blind you to the reality that not everyone is so fortunate, and some few even need some help and protection from abuse.



You need to fill out your profile so we can pick on you properly. laughing.gif . Welcome to VJ. -- Rocky
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-12 22:44:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (rockhouse @ Jan 8 2009, 10:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
And to the idiot calling the southern states, "whitetrash", it seems to me that a filipina would feel much more at home here wearing flip-flops, spaghetti strap t-shirts and being around other dark skinned people, like mexicans.
I guarantee that a filipina would feel WAY more at home in Texas than Massachusetts....you sir are an idiot.



Surf's up dude! We feel the same way in California. Madami din mga mexicano dito. The south shall rise again! rofl.gif
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-08 14:21:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (Completely @ Jan 8 2009, 02:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sonomacountygal @ Dec 19 2008, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 19 2008, 05:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (my_panacea = Greg @ Dec 18 2008, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Guys, I have a question... What if your husband doesn't want you to work?
he just wants you to stay at the house and be a dedicated housewife?
what are you goin to feel?, do?....


I will start to consider him a control freak and an abusive husband!

Seriously, your husband has no right whatsoever to ask you not to work and to just stay at home and be a dedicated wife. It's more of an economic abuse which may constitute an act of violence against a woman. To work. explore all your possibilities and maximize your potentialities are your basic rights that your husband should respect and which you must protect.


I think you are setting the cart before the horse here. If the husband wanted to marry an uppity liberated woman, he would have found one here in the US of A. But he didn't, and he deserves the respect he is entitled to. He went through great expense and effort to bring you here, and the least you can do is try to make things work. You have a lifetime to "persuade" your husband to a more equitable relationship. But for now, try to meet his expectations for an Asian wife.


Why generalized everybody.. Yes we came from one country but we were raised differently. Many wives in the philippines preferred to work but somehow there is no jobs available for them the reason why they ended up staying at home and taking care of the kids.. Working or not to work is based on the set up you both discussed before getting married.. As what I have said in my previous post that couple must discuss everything first.



Tama kayong lahat pero, sabi ng mga girls na co-workers ko, " Alam mo ba na ang suweldo niya ay pera mo at ang suweldo mo ay sa'yo lang." But I don't believe that. I want to help with the bills too. It's too much.
Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2009-01-08 10:32:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (Brian and Jopay @ Dec 25 2008, 07:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My gosh... "expectations of an Asian wife???". Come on...! How egotistical, racist, selfish and insane such a notion is. I pity such a one to be married to somebody with that attitude, for sure. .... LOVE... that is what it all pretty much boils down to. Loving the otehr so much that you want ALL that you can do to make them as happy as you can... whether it is to work double shifts every single day to make their life more comfortable, or to let them persue all their dreams such as in a career of their own... Love is about the other, not about your own selfish, self-centered, egotistical ideals... warped ideals, evidently, in some cases. Warpped and insane.

Sorry, just had to spout off about that one there... couldnt help it. hehe. That post made me angry, and to feel pity for the spouse.

Brian in Tennessee


We all go through life with "expectations". It is our character that determines how realistic those expectations are, and how we deal with the disappointments that follow, as well as accomplishing our goals. You would be misguided to completely disregard the enviroment in which either spouse was raised. Cultural pressures and observed "norms" lead to what some would call, "egotistical, racist, selfish, and insane," notions. Love happens, inspite of all this, and whether it is love, or just self-preservation, we all need to find ways to make our relationships work. Otherwise, one would find oneself left out in the cold, all alone.

So, both spouses need to work constantly to keep things working, and spend a lifetime, getting to know the other, and yes, fullfill the needs of the other. "Ego" is what caused the OP to start this thread, and perhaps a reflection on what "Egos" continue to be present in this thread, just might cause a few to swallow some pride, and look at life for what it is, and not what they "expect" it to be.



QUOTE (sonomacountygal @ Dec 19 2008, 10:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 19 2008, 05:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (my_panacea = Greg @ Dec 18 2008, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Guys, I have a question... What if your husband doesn't want you to work?
he just wants you to stay at the house and be a dedicated housewife?
what are you goin to feel?, do?....


I will start to consider him a control freak and an abusive husband!

Seriously, your husband has no right whatsoever to ask you not to work and to just stay at home and be a dedicated wife. It's more of an economic abuse which may constitute an act of violence against a woman. To work. explore all your possibilities and maximize your potentialities are your basic rights that your husband should respect and which you must protect.


I think you are setting the cart before the horse here. If the husband wanted to marry an uppity liberated woman, he would have found one here in the US of A. But he didn't, and he deserves the respect he is entitled to. He went through great expense and effort to bring you here, and the least you can do is try to make things work. You have a lifetime to "persuade" your husband to a more equitable relationship. But for now, try to meet his expectations for an Asian wife.


Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2008-12-28 13:51:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (sonomacountygal @ Dec 22 2008, 08:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Too many nested quotes! I will try again later!


"The point is, regardless of the race or where the wife came from, the decision to work should be more of the wife's than the husband's and I say that under the assumption that the wife is sensible and intelligent enough to know what will be the best for the family. As we say it in the Philippines, the wife must always be the guiding light."

I may not be a lawyer, but I did get my law degree from the University of Manila, and my husband is familiar with the laws here. Physical abuse and mental intimidation are crimes here as well, one being evident, the other more ambiguous. However, in a family court here in Sonoma County, a judge will tell both parties to knock it off, go out in the hall, and not come back until you both come to a decision. (Mandatory Arbitration) If they do not, the judge will find a solution guaranteed to displease both parties. Save a dollar. Work it out. Both sides need to swallow their pride, instead of swelling their egos!

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2008-12-22 10:27:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
Too many nested quotes! I will try again later!

Edited by sonomacountygal, 22 December 2008 - 10:04 AM.

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2008-12-22 10:02:00
PhilippinesI MISS MY LIFE
QUOTE (jom @ Dec 19 2008, 08:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (my_panacea = Greg @ Dec 18 2008, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Guys, I have a question... What if your husband doesn't want you to work?
he just wants you to stay at the house and be a dedicated housewife?
what are you goin to feel?, do?....



Its what you want, not what he wants.

Goodluck!

QUOTE (sonomacountygal @ Dec 19 2008, 10:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (nickoftime @ Dec 19 2008, 05:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (my_panacea = Greg @ Dec 18 2008, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Guys, I have a question... What if your husband doesn't want you to work?
he just wants you to stay at the house and be a dedicated housewife?
what are you goin to feel?, do?....


I will start to consider him a control freak and an abusive husband!

Seriously, your husband has no right whatsoever to ask you not to work and to just stay at home and be a dedicated wife. It's more of an economic abuse which may constitute an act of violence against a woman. To work. explore all your possibilities and maximize your potentialities are your basic rights that your husband should respect and which you must protect.


I think you are setting the cart before the horse here. If the husband wanted to marry an uppity liberated woman, he would have found one here in the US of A. But he didn't, and he deserves the respect he is entitled to. He went through great expense and effort to bring you here, and the least you can do is try to make things work. You have a lifetime to "persuade" your husband to a more equitable relationship. But for now, try to meet his expectations for an Asian wife.



Is staying home an expectation from an asian wife?


I wasn't tallking about expectations from an Asian wife, but rather the husband's expectations for an Asian wife. And, those expectations/misconceptions will vary from husband to husband. Probably the best thing to do is to work things out, talk things through. However, there is an expectation, misguided though it may be, that the Asian wife is inherently submissive and will bend to the will of her husband.

She always has the weapon of "Tampo".

This is what I am talking about. http://filipinawives.com/Tampo.htm

Rocky_nBullwinkleFemalePhilippines2008-12-19 11:03:00