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United KingdomLondon Embassy Graduates Thread

Alison, you have got to tell your daughter the truth! How is she going to feel when you're not back "in a few weeks" and she realizes you lied to her? She is most certainly going to expect to see you back in a few weeks, I would think. :(

You say she's your eldest; how old is she? No matter her age, she needs to prepare herself for the reality that she might not see you for a number of months, and be ready to cope with that. Please talk to her father about how best to level with her. If I were her, I would be absolutely devastated, knowing that my mother lied to me about something so major.



It was my ex partner's fault who suggested it that I should lie to her. He told me this yesterday that she kept thinking that she wouldn't see us again but she will. I don't want to lie to her, I couldn't do such a thing. But he's the awkward one and tries to make things more difficult. She's 11, she has special needs and one of her problems with special needs is understanding. I can cope to not seeing her, I mean, I'll have tears we all will but how am I suppose to say goodbye to her when she knows we are emigrating and that she will get very emotional, this is the hardest part of it all. Sorry I have tears now. We will be coming back for sure cause of my foster parents and my sisters too, we have the webcam and will have a routine that we all see her and vice versa at 4pm Scott's time where it will be 9pm UK time.

Pax is right, Alison. Also why would it be 2 years before you could go back? Once you have AP, you can go right then and there for a visit.



But I thought you have to wait until the 2 year period is up before you can visit? Sorry for double posting.
AlisonNot TellingUnited Kingdom2006-01-30 11:21:00
United KingdomLondon Embassy Graduates Thread
Hello all. Sorry I haven't been on the forum for quite a while, like everyone, everything is getting to me, just having second thoughts again over and over again. Things go to plan and then they don't. Sad news happening on top and most of all, my eldest daughter who's not emigrating with me, think she'll never see her sister and brother again which she will and she just doesn't understand this situation and just don't know what's happening. :( I have to lie to her and tell her that we're coming back in a few weeks time instead of 2 years. What if those weeks are up and expects us to come back then, then what. I'm in that "I don't know what to do" situation. I've got everything packed now and keep thinking, do I pack more or wait until nearer to May and then started to think, no I'd better not just incase my plans don't go to how I expect them to go. I just wish these remaining weeks would hurry up. I love my daughter to bits and would take her with me but I couldn't see my ex partner have more heartache cause he might think I'm taking them completely away from him. I know she can visit us in the school holidays but just can't see him saving money up to fly on a plane with her even if I met half way.

Sorry for moaning and whining as usual but I don't have no friends here to talk to and that's the truth. There's not a lot of people that I will be missing when I go.

Alison.

P.S. Congratulations to Huffy with the SSN and Rebeccajo and Wes with their interview and to anyone else too.

Edited by Alison, 30 January 2006 - 11:04 AM.

AlisonNot TellingUnited Kingdom2006-01-30 11:01:00
United KingdomBritish food stores
I like alsorts of food really but the treats I do like there are Twinkies, has anyone had them with the yummy cream inside and sponge on the outside? Mmmmm yummy. :)

Alison.
AlisonNot TellingUnited Kingdom2006-02-07 15:21:00
United KingdomBritish food stores
Thanks for putting up those British sites for us Frances, much appreciated. Scott gets some British stuff from a local market called Costplus Market which is good in a way but bloody expensive. But as for yorkshire puddings, I can make that myself from a recipe book I have which is a British recipe book too :) So mostly all stuff I will be able to make myself. But it's the kids I'm more worried about.

Alison.
AlisonNot TellingUnited Kingdom2006-02-06 11:42:00
United KingdomBrits in the USA
Our situation has changed to what's on the list where we are living. We're in Comstock Park, Michigan and not Otsego, Michigan.

Alison and Scott.
AlisonNot TellingUnited Kingdom2006-07-30 13:36:00