Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Visa APPROVED!	Congratulations!!!!!	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-04-23 21:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	U.S. Embassy Announces Monday Afternoon Walk-in Visa Reissuances ( Jamaican Embassy)	Sounds interesting, but I don't know. But if these people don't have to get an appointment, it might open up more interview slots.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-04-30 17:03:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	What to do?	QUOTE (bailey402 @ May 3 2008, 12:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> First of all I want to say congrats to All that have interveiws. On the other hands Im going crazy! My husband and I have a 9 month old and since both the I-129f and I-130 was approved in March. We thought there was a good chance he a be here by Jr first bday. I guess not. Vermont Center is really doing there job I CAN NOT say the same for CA! Back in (Dec 28 2007, 01:29 PM)I asked about if any one was having problems with the CA service center in a open discussion and I got blasted about having so patients and what notz!! I just dont know what to do anymore. I call the visa center they say we aint in the system and then call the 202 # put both rec # in and it say the same #######! I call uscis and they say it was sent!! To all that have there interveiws now trust me when I say You Are Blessed! Let Many More Come to You and Send Me Some along the way!! Bless )I asked about if any one was having problems with the CA service center in a open discussion and I got blasted about having so patients and what notz!! I just dont know what to do anymore. I call the visa center they say we aint in the system and then call the 202 # put both rec # in and it say the same #######! I call uscis and they say it was sent!! To all that have there interveiws now trust me when I say You Are Blessed! Let Many More Come to You and Send Me Some along the way!! Bless I am so sorry that this is happening to you but you have to keep calling them until you get some results. You can also try emailing Kingston and the NVC and if they have your case in Kingston, they will respond to your email. Good luck on getting some results in your favor	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-03 09:19:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Jawi876	Hey Jawi; How you been? Girl I miss you. I hope you are doing alright. Don't be a stranger.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-03 17:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	IS it k-3 or CR-1/IR-1??	QUOTE (bailey402 @ May 6 2008, 09:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (clairern @ May 6 2008, 07:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (bailey402 @ May 5 2008, 10:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> All Yardies, I filed an I-129 and a I-130 ok. I called the NVC at the 603-334-0700 # and they said the case # that belonged to the I-130 is being sent to JA embassy. So, since the I-129f wasnt sent to JA do that mean its a CR-1/IR-1?? What sould be are next move?? Can I a little? Please Help Congrats Bailey. I wound dance too. My question to you is, why did they tell you that the case is being forwarded to Kingston, when NVC does the document collection and processing and assigns the interview date? This really puzzles me. AnywaYy, not to worry. Just start collecting you documents for the DS-230 and get your financial documents ready. You should be able to pay your fee online which makes things go faster. This online payment will speed up your case by about 1-2 months. Goodluck to you and yours. Claire Maybe I alittle!! But, I still a little stuck on what I need to do since the game changed on me. You can go to the embassy info on top that gives you a little info. You will need to pay the NVC $70 for the financial info and then e-mail the DS3032. This is all after the systems says they were generated. Do not send anything to them before the systems says geenrated. The next step would be to submit the I-864. The petitioner can download the form and fill it out and get tax transcripts for the last three years to include with it. Then next the IV fee bill for $400 and after that is paid and entered it will generate the DS-230. You can also start preparing the DS-230 and documents to submit with it--original marriage cert, birth cert (new long one), copy of bio page of passport, police record. This is all for the beneficiary. This NVC Flowchart will help to guide you. Goodluck Edited by clairern, 06 May 2008 - 08:37 AM.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 08:36:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	IS it k-3 or CR-1/IR-1??	QUOTE (bailey402 @ May 5 2008, 10:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> All Yardies, I filed an I-129 and a I-130 ok. I called the NVC at the 603-334-0700 # and they said the case # that belonged to the I-130 is being sent to JA embassy. So, since the I-129f wasnt sent to JA do that mean its a CR-1/IR-1?? What sould be are next move?? Can I a little? Please Help Congrats Bailey. I wound dance too. My question to you is, why did they tell you that the case is being forwarded to Kingston, when NVC does the document collection and processing and assigns the interview date? This really puzzles me. AnywaYy, not to worry. Just start collecting you documents for the DS-230 and get your financial documents ready. You should be able to pay your fee online which makes things go faster. This online payment will speed up your case by about 1-2 months. Goodluck to you and yours. Claire	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 07:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	JUST CURIOUS	QUOTE (kimmykashi @ May 4 2008, 10:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> WELL..di 2 a oonuh baxide...wah oonuh waan do beat mi..mi tell oonuh mi back broad STILL!!.no cause mi a breed ..so lets get it on !!! so no mek di belly fool oonuh Mi glad him cyaa keep him hands oof a yuh Kish..tank God !! and mi glad seh yuh ave more dan just 4 yrs a marriage fi show dem as "proof" my insight no mean much at all....dats just wat it is..mi tired fi tell oonuh mi no know wah mi a chat seh...but ur welcome anyways !! So..Clairey..him cyaan keep him hands off a yuh too !! Yuh mad to raas. Edited by clairern, 04 May 2008 - 10:20 AM.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-04 10:19:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	JUST CURIOUS	QUOTE (kishmar @ May 4 2008, 08:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ May 3 2008, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (kimmykashi @ May 3 2008, 06:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> good JG..cause it's always nice to say year of marriage is all "you" need..but in reality you do need more and JGs list is nice...even if they never ask for the stuff at least yuh prepared...and the question may follow if you love each other so much and married for so long..why you just now filing papers for ur spouse....soemthing along those lines Kimmy's right. I was actually thinking that too. I am SURE that question is going to come up. Well well here goes as the post said "Just CURIOUS" My husband and i got married in July 04 he was then a LPR he we fileed in Oct that same year, was approved in Sept 05 (waited a long time for I-130 to be approved). He became a USC in Jan 08, our status was upgraded hence i have just completed our case at NVC April 08............thats why the wait i hope it is much clearer now. I have his British passport with his entry and exists out of JA every 3-4 months (5 months is longest he has stayed away he cant keep his hands off me i guess) . So i hope this answers any doubts you may have about our marriage being ligit. Photos, phone cards, greetings cards, Western Union'bill (i got them all) ooh better than that i have his bank card so i take money directly from his account when i need it. I was only curious of what might happen at the interview....you never know (from being here on VJ anything is possible) got to go thanks anyways for your insight and info Kishmar You've got that right my girl.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-04 08:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	JUST CURIOUS	QUOTE (kimmykashi @ May 4 2008, 01:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> well.. Clairey u affi tink di wuss wid dem ppl dere...and no mi no read timelines BTW..u ave shares inna dis !!! and again all mi a do a ask "hypothetical" question too ... Kish....dis is for di one Claire..not u OK !! Clairey..u baxide Guh wey Gal. Af course me have shares inna dis. Fi yuh baxide too	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-04 08:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	JUST CURIOUS	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 3 2008, 07:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (kimmykashi @ May 3 2008, 06:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> good JG..cause it's always nice to say year of marriage is all "you" need..but in reality you do need more and JGs list is nice...even if they never ask for the stuff at least yuh prepared...and the question may follow if you love each other so much and married for so long..why you just now filing papers for ur spouse....soemthing along those lines Kimmy's right. I was actually thinking that too. I am SURE that question is going to come up. There is no reason for them to ask her why they waited so long to file. If you look at her timeline you will see that they got married in 2004 and the petition was filed in 2005. If you guys remember when she first started to post, she did mention that when they got married, her husband was a permanent resident and he just got his citizenship in January of 2008. He had filed for her since 2005 and because he was a PR at the time it was taking longer. After he became a USC his petition was upgraded hence why they are where they are right now--case completed. Like she also said she has lots of proof. He visits her every 2-3 months and her name is on his insurance and they have a joint bank account in Jamaica. She was only asking a hypothetical question about possible denials and what the denial was for. She did not say she did not have proof. She has more than enough but was just curious.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-03 19:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Congrats to you Mz. Chen	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-07 00:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Good luck Dimps!!	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-03-17 21:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Totally Here goes. How are interviews scheduled anyways? Do they set aside certain amount of interview appointments for K-1, K-3, IR-1, CR-1, visitors, working visas? Or do they just randomly schedule them, as the applications are approved? Any thoughts or ideas on this for you experienced ones?	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-03-14 12:45:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	QUOTE (Dimples876 @ Mar 10 2008, 08:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Gill and Ken--------3/11/08-------0800 Jason and Marla----3/11/08--0830 Nbesaw---3/11/08----0845 I just want to wish the 3 of you best of luck tomorrow.......please keep us posted. Ditto!!	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-03-10 21:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	QUOTE (Tonya @ Feb 22 2008, 09:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OH WHAT A LOVELY DAY......... Much to my surprise this morning, I opened my work email about 9:30am........I had received an email from the NVC in response to an email I sent them on Valentine's Day........I received this email at 9:23 today...... This is what is said....... Good Morning, Please be advised that an appointment has been scheduled for the applicant April 15, 2008 at 9am at the US Embassy or Consulate General in Kingston, Jamaica. The agent of choice will receive further instructions shortly. Regards, NVC J2G OMG, girl I am so happy for you. Are you going down for the interview?. I am so excited and it's not me Hugs to all of you that have had to listen to me .........Thank You So Much..... Peace & Love, Tonya OMG, girl I am so happy for you. Are you going down for the interview?. I am so excited and it's not me	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-22 21:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	QUOTE (Tonya @ Feb 21 2008, 07:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Just a quick update........We did not make a March interview date.......Hopefully we will hit April....... ......Just keeping my head up and I know he will be here soon! Peace & Love, Tonya I have flown USAir out of Charleston into MoBay which is ok......The service is good and I usually connect in Charlotte or Philadelphia........I also have flown out of Charleston on Delta to Atlanta and then flown AirJA to Kingston.......That was ok also but I don't like changing airlines and having to deal with moving luggage from one airline to the other.......Just my 2 cents! Chin up my dear. I hope you are in the April batch of interviews too. I just sent in Mike's corrected DS-230 with the pics and just praying and hoping to hear "case complete" Edited by clairern, 21 February 2008 - 07:23 PM.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-21 19:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	MARCH INTERVIEW DATES (updated) Gill and Ken--------3/11/08-------0800--K-1 Jason and Marla----3/11/08--0800--K-3 Nbesaw---3/11/08----0845--K-1 Dimples--3/18/08-----1230--CR-1/IR-1 QUOTE (Dimples876 @ Feb 14 2008, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (jason&Marla @ Feb 14 2008, 01:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I know it does'nt matter but actually our interview is at 8am Also, I am praying that somehow my wife will get her visa 2-3 days after her interview, b/c our 1yr anniv. is March 15th. WHAT AIRLINE ARE YOU PLANNING ON BOOKING? USAIR IS HAVING A VERY GOOD DEAL RIGHT NOW IF EVERYTHING WORKS OUT RIGHT FOR MY HUSBAND TO FLY OUT ON 03/29 TICKET IS $297 OR 03/30 TICKET WILL COST ME $177. SO GO CHECK OUT USAIRWAYS.COM Where does USair fly from in JA? Kng or Mobay?	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-15 01:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	MARCH INTERVIEW DATES (updated) Gill and Ken--------3/11/08-------0800--K-1 Jason and Marla----3/11/08--0830--K-3 Nbesaw---3/11/08----0845--K-1 Dimples--3/18/08-----1230--CR-1/IR-1	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-13 23:35:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	QUOTE (Dimples876 @ Feb 12 2008, 10:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 12 2008, 01:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Dimples876 @ Feb 12 2008, 09:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 12 2008, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Dimples876 @ Feb 12 2008, 08:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My husband called and made his medical appointment that is schedule for March 5th. He was told that if he needs shots that will be JM $9000 for the shots.......bwoy dat ah robbery fi reel Which is why if he knows now that he needs any, he should go to the nearest clinic now and get them done. Just make sure he gets a shot record filled out when he does. He's going to follow up w/his doctor this week to make sure that the 2 or 3 shots that he needs is not the required shots on the list. dimps...a di same ting dem tell my husband tuh...dem no charge dat much..he paid a little over $7000 JA and dat a fi di medical and i think 2 shot...a no like him neva evea get no shots before..some a dem u cyant even get no more cause a age...dats why dem gi TB and sumpting else wah u get a booster ever so often..just send him go a di medical..weh him a go ? Kimmy.....he's going to Dr. Micheal Banbury...girl w/my luck mek him go ah di doctor just to be on the safe side. QUOTE (clairern @ Feb 12 2008, 06:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Gill and Ken--------3/11/08-------0800 Jason and Marla----3/11/08--0830 Nbesaw---3/11/08----0845 Dimples--3/18/08-----what time? Three people from VJ with the same interview date and around the same time. 2-K1 and 1-CR-1/IR-1. Good luck you all. Are there anyone else who have an interview date scheduled? Clairern....my husband appointment is schedule for 03/18 @ 12:30 I filed IR-1 Great	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-13 00:10:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Gill and Ken--------3/11/08-------0800 Jason and Marla----3/11/08--0830 Nbesaw---3/11/08----0845 Dimples--3/18/08-----what time? Three people from VJ with the same interview date and around the same time. 2-K1 and 1-CR-1/IR-1. Good luck you all. Are there anyone else who have an interview date scheduled?	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-12 18:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Congrats Jason and Marla. I see that Gill has got some company for that day.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-04 20:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Congrats to all that have an interview coming up in Feb/March. I am so jealous but happy none-the-less for you all. One day I will be sharing my good news and celebrating with you all	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-02 13:10:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	QUOTE (Tonya @ Jan 31 2008, 01:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello all..... Our case was completed as of 12/13/07 and we still haven't received an interview date as of yet......His police record was clear and as far as I know all is well.......We are keeping our fingers crossed for a March interview date........Hopes got crushed when we didn't make a February date.......I keep praying to the Good Lord that we make a March date........ Peace & Love, Tonya Are you back stateside? or are you still on the island?	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-01 21:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Feb./March Scheduled Interviews in Jamaica	Hey guys; Wanted to stop in and say great thread. I have seen many other interview threads started and wondered when a Ja thread would also be. I was hopin Mike would get an interview around Feb/March but because he is getting a RFE, he is looking more like March/April. I want to congraulate all those who have completed the process and are now waiting for their interview. Good luck all and I hope to be in your shoes one day.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-01-30 22:20:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE WHO IS APPROVED	QUOTE (Mz chen @ May 9 2008, 02:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> HELLO, I JUST WANT TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT MY HUSBAND GOT HIS VISA TODAY AFTER OVER A YEAR OF WAITING AND DISPUTING WITH THE JAMAICAN EMBASSY WHO BY THE WAY IS EXTREMELY SLOW. ANYONE WHO IS DEALING WITH THEM JSUT HOLE YOUR HEAD AND BE PERSISTENT. IT TOOK ME TO CURSE THEM OUT ALMOST TOGET A RESPONSE AND LOOK WITHIN 2 DAYS OF THE EMAIL I SENT TO THEM HE GOT HIS VISA. I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO MY NEW LIFE WITH MY HUSBAND GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE AND KEEP IN TOUCH Congrats and good luck to you and may you enjoy your time together.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-09 13:50:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	HOW ARE INTERVIEWS SCHEDULED???	QUOTE (Marlita @ May 10 2008, 01:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hopefully you'll hear something next week. So how do we find out when the interview is in fact scheduled? Do we have to call them all the time or do they email you, or send a letter? Also....when is the medical scheduled? After the interview is scheduled or is this a seperate letter we need to look for? Lita, I continued to call until I got the date. They will, in fact, send you a letter (pkt #4) which will give you the interview date and time and instruction on scheduling the medical and getting it done. The medical needs to be completed at least 10-14 days before the interview date. As soon as you get your letter, let Evan schedule the medical for 2 weeks before the interview. If he doesn't get his letter and you are not sure, you can either fax a copy or send it DHL to him. He absolutely needs the letter (either the one from NVC or one from Kingston) with the interview date and time in order to get the medical done. Mike has not gotten his letter from the NVC. I had emailed Kingston when it was getting close to his medical appointment and they responded with a date for him to pick up a duplicate of the appointment letter. He got the letter from Kingston one week later, but I had already faxed and DHL all the info to him. Good Luck. It will soon be over. Claire	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-11 12:52:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	HOW ARE INTERVIEWS SCHEDULED???	QUOTE (kishmar @ May 8 2008, 11:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi you all, My case was completed at the NVC on April 25th. I was wondering how the NVC goes about scheduling interview dates and in what oder it is done (does it have anything to do with when the case was filed??) My case will be forwarded to the Embassy in Kingston Ja. When i spoke to the rep at the NVC she told me that appoitments are scheduled during the second week of each month. Thanks for any insight. Me nuh knoa	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-09 14:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Happy Mothers Day!!	QUOTE (bailey402 @ May 11 2008, 03:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> To all My Yardies if you are a mother or soon to be. Happy Mothers Day. I Have 4 Pinkney how many do you have? Thank you and same to you. I have two. 25 and 18. All grown up. No more for me.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-11 09:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Are we wasting our time?	last year August my niece used the on-line scheduling and got her dte after paying the fees and she did have her interview as was scheduled online. I think this is only for visitors visa.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-12 16:03:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Fellow Yardies	QUOTE (TYMOORE @ May 14 2008, 06:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Just wanted to let everyone know I got my NOA2 approval email today. The hardcopy was mailed yesterday. I'm clueless as what to do next. Congrats TY and goodluck with the rest of your journey. It will speed up from here. Like English says, get all your documents together to complete the process.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-14 18:16:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	CR1/DS230 For Jamaica	QUOTE (Marlita @ May 16 2008, 02:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I think she's a CR1 or IR1 since she filed an I-130. Thats the only visa that goes with that application alone. Your sister needs to get all the forms that Clairen listed above from her husband, as she will need to send them to NVC. In addition to the above mentioned items, your sister will need 2 passport photos of her husband. She will need to write the NVC case number on the back of photos and on the top right hand corner of all documents. Then she should make a photocopy of all the certificates and send that in too. LOL.... I overlooked that one in her topic. You can tell I am tired. I here working the graveyard shift, as Mike would say. Edited by clairern, 16 May 2008 - 04:58 AM.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-16 04:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	CR1/DS230 For Jamaica	QUOTE (Awshaggy @ May 16 2008, 12:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am trying to get info for my sister who filed the I-130 for her husband. The IV fee was paid yesterday. We want to have the DS230 done in the mean time. However I am confused as to what part of the DS230 gets done here and what part for Jamaica. Does the beneficiary need to do parts I & II of the DS230 and send his police record and everything back to my sister so she can send it to the NVC? Or does he only do part I and send it back to my sister and she sends that to NVC and then the Kingston Embassy deals with part II? How does it actually work for Jamaica? Thanks in advance! Hello and welcome to VJ. You can also visit the yardie thread in the forums section and post your questions there. First of all it depends on what visa type your sister is filing for. For a K-3 she will need to have the documents ready to present to Kingston as K filers do not send their documents to NVC. If she is filing for a CR-1/IR-1 visa, she will need to collected all her husbands documents and send them to the NVC. She will need to have the following (an original and photo copy) to send to NVC:- Marriage certificate Beneficiary's birth certificate (long form) Divorce certificate (if applicable) Copy of the beneficiary's biographic page of passport (page with the picture) Any military records Police certificate from JA DS-230 completely filled out with part I signed and part II unsigned I hope this helps. That's all I can remember right now, but if anything else comes to mind I will re-post and I am sure someone else will come and add to this list. Tell your sister goodluck with the rest of her journey and to go over the DS-230 keenly.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-16 00:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Comfort	QUOTE (Hotlegz @ Jun 4 2008, 07:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> lita talk truth...they r not property... what r u talking about, Kimmy?	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-04 19:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Comfort	COMPROMISE, COMPROMISE	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-04 08:11:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Comfort	QUOTE (Jomo @ Jun 2 2008, 09:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Claire.....there is nothing easy about this whole process. Sometimes I think they wait and wait and wait out the process, all the while us telling them how great it is going to be, and them doubting they will even be approved. Then, suddenly, it nears the end and they get so scared. Moving to another country is a scary thing. They are leaving behind everything they know.....everyone they are comfortable with. I don't care what age you are, it's scary. We tend to focus on the formalities, so we rarely show fear. Like Marlita said, it's not like they can't go back to visit or if, God forbid, they hate it. My husband was ready to come. All his life, his (other) mother was telling him he should go to the US. And, Andre was feeling like he was missing something in JA. He wanted to come. He's done really well. However, the transition was still hard on him and took some time. BTW....besides trying to adopt Sean Paul, we are not going to have any children together. It's not an issue. I think you need to talk it out with him. Yes he will have you when he gets here. And, if I remember right, some family. He will get a job and make new friends. If he chooses, he will not lose any of the old. He can still visit. He will have a lot of new opportunities. He can make of them what he wishes. Let him know that you are scared too. And, of course, you will be there to support him every step of the way. Mindy's husband, Roy, is in his 40's. He's been in the US a little over 2 years. Roy has done really well at adjusting. You might PM or e-mail her. Perhaps she can give you some insight. Maybe Roy could even talk him through some of his feelings. Thanks JG for the real great advice. I really appreciate it.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-02 21:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Comfort	Thank you guys for your response. I stressed the same things to him. We are having some relationship problems, so maybe that is his way of dealing with it. His is in his 40's and I reiterated to him that he is not the first 40ish years old person to move somewhere new and start a new life. I also reminded him that he will be getting me as a bonus. lol. Anyway after I talked to him some more he changed his mind and is now planning to go take care of his business. Don't know how soon after he gets the visa he will come but at least he will have the choice as you guys have mentioned to see what life here holds for him and if it doesn't suit him then he as the option of moving back home. I also think he feels that way because he knows that my life is already established and you know some men want to build a life with you where you can attain things together. I have all attained all the material things and am past the childbearing age (a lie dat) so all we can build together is our lives. I am physically unable to go through a pregnancy because of a heart condition that I have. I plan to be as supportive as I can and have already been, but I can't force him to go against the way he feels. I want him here with me but as I stated before somewhere, he is going to spend some time in Florida with his dad before he joins me here. I am hoping that transition period will be enough to waken him to the realitiy of the situation that we have a life to build together no matter what. Thanks again for your frank replies to my query. Edited by clairern, 01 June 2008 - 08:51 PM.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-01 20:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Comfort	Hey guys, just saw this thread and it grabbed my attention because when I visited Mike in Ja last month, he expressed that he was not sure if he was going back to the embassy this month. He said that a man his age has to pack up from the way of life he has been used to all his life and move to a new country to start his life all over. What do you guys think about this? I was dumbfounded when I heard this because of all the plans we made and what my expections were.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-01 17:55:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	I HAVE A SIMPLE QUESTION	QUOTE (jgay80 @ Jun 5 2008, 11:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I don't know if I could give advice about this cause I'm impatient when it comes to this da** immigration stuff...i tried to withhold myself from calling but can't...i call like everyday to hear whats going with my case....i've been waiting over three weeks for just a case complete and still nothing...but anyway back to your question I would definitely start calling them next week since they say they schedule interviews in the second week of every month...you should be up to get an interview date next week...if you don't hear anything next week (hope thats not the case)...I would call once a week like every Fridays to hear if i got a date... My thoughts exactly	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-05 12:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY	Happy birthday fellow Gemini. I hope your day is very special and I wish you lots of blessings. Luv Claire	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-31 06:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Happy Birthday	QUOTE (DaniAndEnrique @ Jun 6 2008, 11:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Happy B-day Claire!!! I am Gemini too my b-day is on 14th. So is my dad's. Happy birthday to you when it comes if I don't get a chance to shout out to you.	clairern	Female	Jamaica	2008-06-07 20:32:00