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PhilippinesLove Doesn't Conquer All

Thank you, I love him so much, I cant even imagine how can he do this to me.. All I want is to be happy, with him, I try my best to adjust here, to understand him, but I feel like everything is wasn't enough so far... even willing to forgive him, for some little condition but he cant do it, telling me that he loves me and only me is enough,to trust him again without any conditions.. C'mon! give me a break? That's it? he think is so easy just like that? How can I trust him again? if simple prove that I ask he cant do it?! :( :angry: :bonk: Anyway, about your question, been here for a year now. How about your wife? how long she's been here too?


Yeah, I don't know what to say, but I think if you both want the marriage to work, go see a counselor.

My wife and stepson have been here about 4 1/2 years. :) The first couple of weeks were the most difficult.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-02 20:19:00
PhilippinesLove Doesn't Conquer All

And now, when I caught my USC husband cheating on me, even he say his sorry blah blah blah... I cant even smile back at him, even he is trying some effort to let us start again, but its hard for me, as the BIG DAMAGE IS ALREADY DONE!

So my point is, if people's changes their attitude there must be a reason why... :(

I am sorry for my English and grammar. But thank you for reading.



Sorry to hear that. :( What an a$$hole. How long have you been here in the states?
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-02 15:41:00
PhilippinesLove Doesn't Conquer All
Based on the number of struggling Fil/Am relationships that air their laundry here, it appears that "love conquers all," is a lie. The romantic euphoria of believing that once you and your beloved are reunited, nothing will break the bond, quickly fades once the Filipina realizes she's left her entire existence behind, to be with a man she knows little about in comparison. In the context of her life, he's just a tiny blip on her timeline. This relationship was a huge gamble and when she sees her knight-in-shining-armor has some chinks, she starts to realize that she just bet the farm on a goose that doesn't actually lay golden eggs.

Meanwhile, the Kano stands his ground, feeling that his very core of existence is being questioned. Where are the sweet greetings that she once gave via the internet, that made your day? Why has that beautiful smile turned into a permanent scowl? You start to feel duped, cheated, the package didn't represent the content. Your nice-guy persona has been traded in for a spear and war paint.

So whaddya do? Send her back? Call immigration and report it as fraud? Or just maybe, you need to change yourself to make room for someone else. Changing doesn't mean you give up who you are, but you re-evaluate how you are, how you handle conflict, how you handle your emotions, how you communicate, how you deal with disappointment, because there's going to be a lot of disappointment in your marriage, no matter how perfect you imagined it would be.

Edited by DFH, 01 November 2011 - 07:51 PM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-01 19:50:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

I posted another thread here in regards to her daughter if anyone wants to input any advice. I really dont think that her 24 year old daughter should be an unwilling. unknowing part of this. Please let me know what you think

http://www.visajourn...ing-she-can-do/


Wow, sorry for the terrible predicament your whole family is in. I don't know what to say, except sorry. I hope you'll find some peace in whatever happens. IMO, I don't think she should be deported, but with a drug record, I don't think she's got much of a chance. A very sad situation all around.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-12 16:08:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

Umm what? Lol. YOU said "I have a hard time believing that immigration would do that because of her length here and the fact that her children are U.S. citizens.".. maybe you don't understand what the term "anchor baby" means. You suggested the USC children would "anchor" her to the US (making them "anchor babies")... I was refuting that. The term doesn't mean she had the children for that purpose, but you seem to think they will work in that manner.


Vanessa, I know you have quite a reputation on VJ for saying some pretty off-the-wall and outrageous things and really, I don't care to get into it with you in this thread, but the term, "anchor baby" is a derogatory term and quite frankly, IMO, should be a TOS violation. Here in the U.S., it is in our Constitution that we have Birthright of Citizenship. Now maybe that doesn't jive with your political view, but it is the law of our beloved land here, so don't call the OP's children anchor babies. That's an insult.

I honestly do not want her deported and if there was something that I could do to keep that from happening, I would. I mean she is still the mother of my son and we did spend almost 15 years togther. I do not hate her and I am sure she has reasons why she did what she did. HOWEVER, that does not mean I want to continue to be in a marital facade with her. The marriage could NEVER be right ever again. And it also doesnt mean that I do not want to protect my financial interests for my son and my future.


:thumbs: You are good man for saying that.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 18:04:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

You SERIOUSLY think Immigration wont deport her? Of course they will! USC children aren't anchor babies, especially in this case where they have a perfectly capable USC parent. Doesn't matter if they get awarded joint custody, she's still deportable and that will of course change the custody arrangement.

I think it's funny that you say immigration will consider her length here.. especially considering they were going to deport her long ago but she LIED and committed FRAUD to convince them she wasn't a bigamist and so eligible to stay. Now they have PROOF she is lied and a bigamist and should have been deported the first time... they are more than likely to deport her, USC children aren't a factor to prevent this whole "anchor baby" scenario.


:lol: You are something else....calling the children anchor babies. That's quite insulting. Good grief. If you think it's a simple open and closed book case, then why don't you represent him? It's all speculation at this point.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 14:31:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

You may understand what it is like having to go through a divorce. But you have no idea what its like going the things I have been through because of this. For years, her immigration problem (what I knew) was an issue and it impacted so many other aspects of our lives. And I stood by her. Without her EVER hinting that this was the truth. A sense of betrayal? Of course I feel betrayed but it goes way beyond simply a sense of betrayal. you make it sound like some insignificant thing she did like bought a pair of shoes that she never told me about. I have infact attempted arbitration with her and she completely declined it so yes, I do have an attorney that will more than likely end up costing me more than I really care to think. While I am not a millionaire, it is a little bit of money and half of that will make her life in the phillippines pretty damn luxurious while I have to rebuild the financial future for my son and I. While all along it was me who put 99% of everything into this. I dont care that she had kids..thats not even the point. Will I move on with my life? Yes. But stop comparing this to your average run-of-the-mill divorce. I appreciate your input but you have no idea what youre talking about.


When you say you put 99% of everything into this, are you inferring that she didn't work outside the home, or if she did, her salary was miniscule to yours? Because your lawyer should have explained to you that actually works against you in terms of how much she'll be eligible for alimony? Are you inferring that she only took care of the kids 1% of the time? Because if so, you'll have to convince the judge that in spite of you being the bread winner, you were the one who got the kids up for school, prepared their meals, helped them with their homework, did all the grocery shopping, clothes washing, etc., while she sat on her ####### and ate bon bons. If that's not the case, you'll have to convince the judge that during your 15 marriage, even though she did all the typical things a spouse and homemaker would do, she doesn't deserve to be financially supported.

As for her moving back to the Philippines, she won't be able to do that if you both have joint custody of your son, unless he's old enough to choose to live with his mother, but even that gets sticky. Most states now protect the bond between children and both parents, so she can't just take off. Unless of course, you think that she'll be forced to leave this country - I have a hard time believing that immigration would do that because of her length here and the fact that her children are U.S. citizens.

Good luck, whatever you do, but I still think you'd be better off negotiating with her through arbitration rather than hoping a family court judge is going to rule in your favor, because Family Law looks out for the best interests of the children first and foremost.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 10:41:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

Ahh no. His marriage to her WAS NOT valid because she used someone else's ID. She used fake ID to marry him. He needs to prove it to void the marriage but there it is. Her divorces might also not be valid as she divorced her first husband using her second husbands name (when she was never legally married due to the first marriage) and also, again, because she used fake ID to do the divorces.


What??? Good grief. You're encouraging the man to chase a rabbit down a hole. Divorce is expensive and it will wipe him out emotionally as well. Better for him to just accept that the marriage didn't work and move on. Speculating what evidence a family court might find admissible in weighing in on the division of assets and custody of children is futile, IMO. Family Court considers the children's best interest first and foremost, and most family court judges have little patience for spouses who try to play the game of 'gotcha' to each other.

Dude, save yourself a lot of grief and money and go through arbitration rather than divorce court. There are no winners in divorce, no matter what. Focus on a future with your child(ren).

Edited by Mister Fancypants, 11 November 2011 - 04:13 AM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 04:12:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

So this woman doesnt tell me the truth for 15 years for reasons still unknown to me, and I have supported her and her kids (not only our son)99% without asking her for a dime while I scrimp and save for what I thought was a long future together while all along she had many times to tell me and you think she should get away with it? Im not saying shes not deserving of anything..but half?Maybe there are more like her out there who doesnt seem to think she did anything wrong. :wow:


Look, I understand what it is like to go through a divorce. I was married for 15 years as well. You make it sound like you had no idea she had prior relationships, but she had children. I'm not excusing what she did wrong, but beyond you feeling a sense of betrayal (for her not telling you about her past), your relationship and marriage to her was valid. That's what is going to matter to the court (Family Law). My divorce was in California and we ended up using a paralegal. There's a formula for determining the custody of the children, which has leeway, but the division of property is pretty straight forward.

My advice would be to dump the lawyer if you can get her to agree to arbitration and then the two of you sit down with a paralegal to work out the division of assets as well as the custody of the child(ren). You'll save yourself a lot of money and possibly work out an agreement between the two of you that is more favorable than what a family court judge would rule. Seriously, it's just not worth fighting her in court over. Move on to acceptance and start living the rest of your life. Good luck.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 04:05:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

Very interesting. Thank you. But unfortunately, I think her divorces are valid in the US and she was free to marry me. For all these years of her scamming me, I cannot do anything to keep her from taking half of my assets.
:crying: and :angry: at the same time.


I'm sorry, but that's a p!ss poor excuse for not wanting to follow Family Law with regard to the division of assets and custody of children. Your marriage to her was valid, you spent 15 years with the woman as your wife - she's entitled to whatever the law says she's entitled to, unless you somehow think you too are above the law. Two wrongs don't make a right. It's best to accept the dissolution of marriage with her and all that it entails, rather than be bitter. The sooner you can accept that, the better you will be for it.

Edited by Mister Fancypants, 11 November 2011 - 02:05 AM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-11 02:05:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

I'm sorry to say, looks like your wife have made cobweb of lies- from first marriage to the second marriage to the 3rd marriage up to her status in the US.


Why? She "hid" her first marriage, which happened over 20 years ago in her home country where divorce is not legal. According to him, she had legal divorce papers for both of those marriages prior to marrying him in 1996.

So the real question is - why is this guy now taking issue with it 15 years later? Sounds to me like someone's going through a bitter divorce and is trying to get an edge on her. Perhaps he is trying to get out of paying alimony and child support, which explains why he hasn't given much details nor explained his motivation. :whistle:

Edited by DFH, 09 November 2011 - 04:47 AM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-09 04:47:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

However, since my wife is the Philippine Citizen, she should have never been able to obtain a divorce in the US


That's not accurate. She's lived here since 1991, and married a U.S. citizen at the time, making her eligible for legal residency here in the U.S.. If she's lived here all this time without any legal status (Green Card or naturalization), then she's got bigger problems. But assuming she's here legally and has legal documentation for her previous two marriages ending, then there is no issue, at least as far as this country's laws are concerned.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-09 04:35:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

Huh? Where did I ever state she was a US Citizen?

She is only a Philippine Citizen but was able to obtain a divorce while in the US.

Create a fuss over nothing? You know nothing of the situation so you have no idea whether I am trying to create a "fuss over nothing" or not.


Sorry, I misunderstood you. She married a USC in 1991, and moved to the U.S., correct? So then she and her husband at the time had to have filed immigration papers and I'm assuming she at least got her Green Card, yes? That makes some holes in your statement below:

Before her and I married, she was able to obtain divorces from both men. She was neither a US citizen nor a greencard holder and I am not sure if the Judge who granted her these divorces knew that at the time.


Immigration had to have come into play with getting divorce papers for her first two marriages.

Yeah, you are right - I know nothing of your situation, but you came onto this immigration website and shared details of your situation to strangers. You still sound like you are digging for something in attempt to get her without mentioning you are going through a divorce. Why don't hire yourself a good divorce lawyer and let him do the dirt digging on her?

Edited by DFH, 09 November 2011 - 04:31 AM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-09 04:30:00
PhilippinesIs this a Bigamous Marriage?

Thank you. But my question is whether the divorce is valid in the US or not. I am trying to prove Bigamy against her.


Wait...what? Why are you going after her?

First of all, you stated she is a USC and then you said she's a Philippine citizen. Do you mean she has dual citizenship? Assuming she does, her marriage to you here is valid. The Philippine government shouldn't take any issue with your marriage even if by law they don't recognize it. I'm guessing you both have traveled to the Philippines while married? What passport did she use? Does her Philippine passport show her married name (to you)?

It sounds like you're just trying to create a fuss over nothing. If she needs to get an annulment to make everything right with the Philippine gov't., then it's merely procedural at this point. If you are divorcing her now and trying to get an edge on her, I'd recommend you drop the issue.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-09 02:27:00
PhilippinesAge difference between fiance and fiancee

They go for the MENA region guys.


Are MENA men more attractive than Filipino men?
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-20 19:39:00
PhilippinesAge difference between fiance and fiancee

Because women seldom like small hot tight bodies :jest:



I'll bet many young Filipino men would be thrilled with idea of becoming an older woman's boy toy.

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one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-18 15:11:00
PhilippinesAge difference between fiance and fiancee
How come there aren't any older U.S. women petitioning young males from the Philippines?
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-18 14:47:00
PhilippinesWhy a Girl from the Philippines
I like that you can shop for them in the teen clothing area without getting arrested.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-18 22:43:00
PhilippinesWhy a Girl from the Philippines
I have no scientific proof, but believe me, Filipinas are absolute FREAKS in bed.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-18 18:13:00
PhilippinesA Very Special Announcement!

Update:

Jena had her a sonogram today. She's 21 weeks into her pregnancy. Thank God everything looks great and the baby and momma are healthy. And now...drum roll please...

IT'S GONNA BE A BOY! :yes:

Now we can get serious about naming HIM! :huh:


Congrats, Dad! Steven is a good name and hopefully he'll grow up to be a bleeding heart liberal. :lol:
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-03 02:00:00
PhilippinesWants to give up and Return to Philippines?

We were fighting cause she wanted to move out within 2 wks, and so we did and now it's rocky. If she wants something and doesn't realize it's possible, she blows up and gets mad and stays pissy for 2-3 days. She refuses to try to work things out, she seems to prefer to stay mad and make it seem like everything is so terrible. I try to hug/hold her, she pushes me away. If I find a way to make something happen that she wants, she's already pissed and will not do it no matter what. If she doesn't get it the first time she asks or says it, there's no going back, I have to deal with her being pissy. She is a very VERY stubborn person. I knew she was stubborn, but not this bad, lol


That's a confusing sentence. Why did she want to move out if the fighting didn't happen until she stated that she wanted to move out? It sounds like both of you aren't very good with handling conflict. If she came up to you asking to move out before any fighting took place, I would have asked her why? If she can't verbalize why, I'd try to reflect on the previous days/weeks as to what she might be upset about. Maybe she expects you to be more intuitive about her feelings instead of spelling it out for you? That's pretty common in most relationships. Take some time to reflect what it might be that you are doing or not doing that has gotten her so upset. Her being stubborn isn't the source of the problem and that's her personality so you might as well not even focus on that because that's only going to exacerbate the underlying problems.

IMO, the best thing to help a spouse who has left their whole life, family and friends, back in the Philippines, is to get them connected to other Filipinos in your area. We moved to an isolated town about a year and half ago and thought that we wouldn't see any other Filipinos, but we've met and are connected to at least 30 of them who live in the area. And it all started by us running into some Filipinos during Mass. That's where you're most likely to find some. So, even if you're not Catholic, take her to Mass every Sunday and that will help a lot.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-01 19:17:00
PhilippinesI avoided girls from Mindanao

When I started looking on "Philippino Kisses", I avoided girls from Mindanao because I thought it would be dangerous to visit them.


:lol:
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-08-05 17:23:00
PhilippinesFilipino Attitudes

I'm an American citizen by birth, but my parents are both Filipino, who immigrated to the U.S. many years ago. I'm fully aware of all the opportunities and privileges I've had growing up in this great country. My parents have always been humble and in turn, have also instilled in me humility, gratitude, and appreciation for those who struggle to make a better life for themselves and their family by experiencing first hand what my parents have gone through.

I love my Filipino culture and I've been to the Philippines many times throughout my life and lived there for 4 years. But there's one thing I've noticed that really bothers me… Why is it that after Filipinos immigrate to the U.S. and finally come back home to the Philippines… their attitudes change, and act like they're so much better than everyone? I'm not saying all Filipinos… but in my experience, I've noticed that many "americanized filipinos" come back with this arrogant, sometimes pompous, attitude like they are above everyone.
I'm curious to what others may think... Any thoughts?



Can you give an example?
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-03 01:23:00
PhilippinesEmotional Time For My Fiancee: Dealing With Moving To Another Country

Yesterday, I was talking to my fiancee online and everything was going great, but then the conversation moved to our life together in the US and how I was excited to be with her. She sort of got emotional about it and told me I didn't understand what she was going through and the reality of the situation really hit her the other day. She later apologized and told me it wasn't my fault. She told me that everything just hit her... she was moving to a foreign country and leaving her family, friends, culture, everything behind that she knew all her life to move to foreign country that she doesn't know everything about and only people she knows are me, my family, and a few friends scattered across the USA.


I've read posts on here where guys were rushing to get their fiancees over to the US even when their visas were not on hand... I understand how everyone wants to be with their loved ones, but it's also scary for our fiancees...

How can I make this easier for her?



A similar situation happened with my wife - it was really difficult to just walk away from family, friends, career. My wife was a dentist in Cebu and had her own clinic that her sisters (RN's working in Ireland) paid for. She had to sell her clinic and leave a career behind that she still to this day cannot practice here in the states.

All I can offer for advice is to really try to put yourself in her shoes. Perhaps write a well thought out message to her expressing your empathy for what she is going through. I wouldn't suggest you tell her this, but she also needs to accept that life is all about opening and closing doors - when we open one door and entering into something new, we're always leaving something behind. That's the bittersweet reality of life. Hopefully, she understands that but is just expressing her emotional difficulty in leaving something behind.

My wife's now been here in the states for over 4 years and hasn't had the opportunity to go back. She still misses her family and friends there, but she's also made a new life for herself here that she is fond of. That will happen for your fiancee as well, but it takes time and finding her Filipinos in your area will go a long way in helping her cope with the loss. Best wishes.

Edited by Mister Fancypants, 19 December 2011 - 03:52 AM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-19 03:50:00
PhilippinesMarriage Advice
BJ, have you two met any Filipinos in your area yet? Any luck finding Asian markets that sell Filipino items? Those two things might seem minor, but IMO, they can be a huge help with the homesickness.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-20 19:30:00
PhilippinesThe Pinoy Siri: Introducing VANGIE
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-23 20:42:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting

People are and should remain free to better their lives through marriage. No fault can be made of anyone for doing it, and the reverse would only be done by an idiot: purposefully make themselves worse off through marriage. That's why we have no right to judge this...


I agree with the part in red. Darren said that he wasn't looking for a Filipina, which aroused my curiosity how they "found one another," given her personal circumstances. What I think Darren seems to suffer from which appears common here among Fil/Am couples is that there's a certain level of delusion over the whole courtship process, as if two people just happened to bump into each other on sidewalk, made eye-contact and knew at the moment they were destined for one another.

You're right though - there's no fault in finding a mate online. However, when a person claims that they weren't really looking for what they ended up getting in terms of a mate, a little perspective is needed. Based on what Darren has stated, I think he got exactly what he wanted in a spouse.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-29 20:53:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting

Also, one must know, I WAS NOT looking for a Filipina or an Asian girl at all. I was looking for and talking to Russian/Ukraine girls. I even traveled to meet a girl in Ukraine. Even though that meeting failed, I was still taking Russian language lessons. It just happened Gretchen's "aunt" lived near the place I was taking Russian Language lessons. I love Ukrainian/Moldovan food. I only talked to Asian girls because of the "paris hilton complex" I was running into with some girls in Russia. (come to find out, this is a common symptom in some Russian girls.)


How was Gretchen, who came from a family with very limited resources able to find you on the internet? One of you had to have been looking. Do you think her family was providing her pocket money to spend time online at an internet cafe in hopes of finding a Kano? What were her ambitions or goals prior to the two of you meeting online?

Edited by Mister Fancypants, 28 December 2011 - 06:02 PM.

one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-28 18:02:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting

that should be an esay one to give a reponse. as far as part of the family, I'd just let her know you'll always be there as her brother and she's welcome into your family when she's ready to accept Gretchen as your wife.


Excellent response. :thumbs:


Darren, the truth is you're going to get a lot more of that because of the fact that you did marry a young, poor girl from another country. I think the best thing you can do to remedy that is to help Gretchen become an independent adult, capable of taking care of herself and her child. Help her get her driver's license. Sign her up for ESL classes (many of them are free). Get her a library card. Show her how to use the public transit. Get her AOS done quickly so that she's got her Green Card and is eligible to work, and even after the baby's born, either support her to start taking some college courses or help her find some part-time work if that is what she wants.

She needs to be prepared if God forbid something were to happen to you. I think once people like your sister see that Gretchan can in fact stand on her own two feet, your sister will be a lot more open to your new marriage.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-23 18:32:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting
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one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-22 01:53:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting

My ex caused problems during the divorce. The last time I EVER saw my parents I WAS kicking them out of my house. And as far as I knew, I BELIEVED anything I told my parents went to my ex. My goal was PROTECTING Gretchen. What my parents know now is EXACTLY what I want them to know and nothing more then I would TELL my ex. It is not cahones. It is a matter of trust. the old phrase is "hubba hubba hubba, who do you trust??"

the deal is the family just is not near me. They have their own lives. I live very far away. What is funny, my children talked to my parents and never mentioned her either.


Yeah, but you've already indicated that they will find out through the family grapevine, so it's no longer a matter of being able to keep it on the down low. If you go to your cousins, he will know, whether you disclose everything (marriage, pregnancy) or not, and then word will eventually get back to your parents. In the meantime, you're putting your wife through unnecessary drama on your first Christmas together. That's really not fair to her. Just stand up to the plate and make a formal announcement - be forthright and to the point. Do it right away before the get together with your cousin, or tell him you aren't going to be able to come. Do it for your wife and her peace of mind.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-21 15:27:00
PhilippinesWaiting..... Waiting
Darren, I would make a formal announcement to the whole family before meeting with your cousin or simply don't go over there on Christmas. That's only fair to your wife. Certainly, most everyone in your family has email and if not, the message can be relayed, but that way you can explain yourself.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-21 11:34:00
PhilippinesMarrying girlfriend who is in US and pending annulment

I'm here to help, as well as to keep it real.


You are one of the best at that, brother. :thumbs:
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-12-31 12:06:00
PhilippinesNeed filipina Advice

To all those who wish to know her age it is 19.


And she was just 18 when you got to know her. You don't think her age as well as the age difference between you has anything to do with the problems you're experiencing? What convinced you beforehand that in spite of her young age, she was mature and responsible enough to handle marriage?
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2012-05-03 14:40:00
PhilippinesReport her or Not?

Both types of woman have their proper place in a mans collection. The Philipina is nice when you want to do a little age roleplay. The RUB girls are nice when you want to pretend you're being taken advantage of by your busty boss.


Right now, I'm hankering for some busty boss business.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2012-05-02 13:11:00
PhilippinesReport her or Not?

You spent all that time typing and that's what you come up with? Your fans are disappointed.


Sorry, I started wondering why you don't hear about such behavior among the Ukranian wives, did a google search and got distracted.

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one...two...treeMalePhilippines2012-05-02 13:06:00
PhilippinesReport her or Not?
Sneaky Filipinas and their conniving ways. I'm writing a book.
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2012-05-02 12:56:00
PhilippinesHelping her to adjust to life here
I think every Kano who's bringing a Filipina home should be required to watch this at least three times.


one...two...treeMalePhilippines2011-11-08 17:39:00
PhilippinesExclusive Poll for Filipinas
I've disabled commentary to avoid this poll getting derailed.

Filipinas, please take a minute to do this poll. It will be interesting to see the overall results. :)
one...two...treeMalePhilippines2012-06-25 16:45:00
PhilippinesInternet Love or not to Love?

You dismissed what a woman actually feels, and poofed this conceited definition into existence so that you could judge others and put them down.

One of the ways you did that was to say that people get married under the pretext of love, but in reality it is just economic security. Since there is no justification for your love on USCIS forms, this accusation about false pretext is a lie. In your conceited world, a woman cannot love a man for rescuing her from poverty. The truth is there's no purer love than that. This is knight-on-a-white-horse Cinderella type love for those of us that have it. :)

So long as it is a fairy tale then poor young Cinderella is allowed to fall in love with the richest man in the Kingdom and live in a castle for the rest of her life. We all root for Cinderealla. But if she is a real human, now her love is not pure. Cinderella is just a ####### and the Prince is exploiting her. What that proves is how envy, jealousy, and crab mentality operate in real life: cut other people down rather than be happy along with them for how thrilled they are in finding the partner they love.

Instead you tell Cinderella how much you pity her living in the castle now and what a creep the Prince is. When someone stands up in the middle of our Cinderella story and drones on like a bore about how our love isn't pure, this is the kind of person we avoid interaction with in our lives. Because this person is always going to be looking for the malicious way to frame things and justify it by saying he is a "realist" with lies and conceited (nonexistent) definitions.


Go back and read my posts. You're projecting a lot into what you think I said. I used the word 'pretext' in reference to the income inequality that is a prevailing factor in most of these Fil/Am relationships and I only brought that up because the issue of being potentially conned or scammed by a Filipina was mentioned as it is quite often whenever the topic of finding a potential mate in Philippines pops up here from time to time. I've repeatedly said that this pretext doesn't make these relationships any less valid, but I take issue with the idea that somehow marrying a Filipina is out of pure love. That's just fairy tale BS. I've been on this site long enough to see this pattern - that many Kanos prop up their relationships as a fairy tale romances (she loves me for me) only to see a handful of them from time to time, come back here to tell us how their Filipina bride scammed them for a green card.

Perhaps some Filipinas could speak up about this here. I would imagine that most of them take offense to the accusation that when one of these marriages falls apart, it is because she was just after the green card.

Edited by Mister Fancypants, 21 June 2012 - 07:07 PM.

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