ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
I'm not a morning person either, but not sleeping at night is no fun when you have to get up and go to work, I'll tell you that. I'm like a zombie for about one/one and a half hours from when I get up. And I always make my bed and cover 'mohamed' pillow, and i envy that it gets to stay home. Which is totally crazy. But I guess, we wouldn't be here on VJ with our problems if we weren't at least a bit crazy - to go and meet a guy who knows where and fall in love with him...
I consider that at least a little bit crazy. Don't gang up on me now, girls - I'm just like you!

That's what I kept telling my husband, that we both were crazy when we met online and started all this.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 21:52:00
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
I use Al-Fatiha. That's all I know for now. It does get me relaxed and then I just fall asleep. Could you PM me, RAHMA what you're talking about? I'd like to learn more. I saw something that you're supposed to say 100 times a day, but don't remember what. What you're talking about looks kind of like it.

Oh yeah! I went to Target with my son, it was fun! They got lots of nice imported stuff, mostly from China and India. Very nice! Got some stuff, mostly useless stuff - something on clearance. They didn't have anything made in Morocco, but I did get a camel for $5.99 and some nice Chinese bowls. My son is a very slow eater, and they have soup bowls with lids. Look pretty neat.

Then we went to Subway and got 4 1/2 hoagies for $9.99.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 19:34:00
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
I actually have a few of him oils and i put them on whenever i miss him. That helps a little. Too bad my patient hates one of my oils. I also make some Moroccan dishes and mint tea a lot! Not that I'm there, but tricks my brain or takes me to a 'happy place' :D

And no, Doodle, I can't go! My son's 14, another one one 18 but has his problems (lots of problems - spent too much time with the ex - years). So, now I'm stuck! as much as I hate it, I'm stuck! Maybe there is a way, but leaving my kids doesn't seem to be a good one...
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 15:34:00
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
Doodle, I thought only I was that crazy! :lol: :lol: :lol: Welcome to the club. I actually keep his clothes in a ziploc bag, so they still have his scent. But I do have "mohamed" pillow. I've never been like that! I never talked baby talk before I had my kids and was pretty down-to-earth at least in that.

My bedroom is the lonliest place in the house, my cats might come in, but then they leave. I don't sleep with pets - I have enough problems sleeping as it is. I just stare at the ceiling for good 30 minutes - and I'm so tired! Have to make myself turn the light off and get under the covers. Then I manage to turn it back on. That goes on and on sometimes for a while. The trick is to let myself believe that 'mohamed' pillow IS him and that I am hugging HIM. Then I can go to sleep! How crazy is that? I laugh at myself but this helps! Also I don't have coffee after 3 pm,know for sure it affects me. When I know I don't have to get up too early, I might take antihistamine - that gives me a headacke in the morning, but helps me have at least some kind of sleep.

Now I just called him and told about the lawyer, that nothing can be done! I don't know if he's crying, but he's not talking. We had longest pauses on the phone and he sounded crashed! I had to tell him something - he's been asking me to get a lawyer for a long time and made me promise to get one this week!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 14:32:00
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
sorry, you're already filed. I edited, but didn't delete something - didn't notice it.

T
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 13:00:00
Middle East and North AfricaSleepless on Sat night/Sun morning
I'm not saying, I don't get what you're saying, PatientlyWaiting! I get it very very very well!

I had to wait just 7 month for divorce to be final! Then wait to go back and get married to Mohamed. Then wait for papers to travel back and forth, so I could file. Now I'm waiting for AP or whatever and nothing can be done at this point! I've consulted with a lawyer, nothing he can do or anybody right now! I've complained to any place I could find out about regarding this K-3 shoved back to US almost a year ago!

It's been 19 months since I've filed! :( :( I can't even dream of my husband - can't sleep either and then I can't get up to go to work. Can't chat - once in 3 months maybe. Phone calls? Once a week. So, if you compare.... but I know you wouldn't want to compare this sh... with your waiting period. Hope you'll get thru it fast and hang in there! It's going to happen sooner or later, hope sooner than later.

It doesn't get any easier, you just get used to it and find some distractions. I haven't had a good night sleep even since I've met him and that's 33 months! I can only sleep next to him! Find distractions! Work on your paperwork since you didn't file yet and try to address all red flags before filing!!!

And then back to waiting,sweetie. We're in the same boat. Work on your papers real good and hope for the best, but be prepared! Hope you have a better visa journey, then me!
(((hugs)))

Tanya
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 12:52:00
Middle East and North AfricaYou know you are an Arab....
Me too!!!

But drinking 6 cups of tea...... we Russians do that too (everybody calls me russian here, even though I'm not, so ... whatever :D ). In fact, I just wanted to make some more tea - that's how we stay warm.

And "open the light"! That takes me back to Morocco! Where did you find that? :lol: :lol: :lol:
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-25 23:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaTravel to Morocco
Janine, where are you going in Morocco and how are you getting there? Based on that you'd be able to find out the temperature and other stuff, because it varies in different parts of Morocco.

It's been a pretty long time since I've been there. How are you going there? JFK or PHL? I didn't drive to any of them, took Dave's limo. Sometimes it's OK, sometimes they take too long. PM me if you want the phone number and it's cheaper if you're using them for round-trip.

I'd love to go with you in your laggage too :D or for you to bring my hubby with you.

Enjoy your trip.
Tanya
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-23 19:25:00
Middle East and North AfricaFebruary 2 is National Wear Red Day
And here I thought it was somehow MENA related and wanted for sure wear red for that!

I have red scrubs, sure, I'll wear them. How about we invent something unless it's already out for girls who can't wear a hijab some kind of unity day? I'd love to participate in that!!!

My nasty patient keeps saying that she'd chase any muslim from her house in a heartbeat! :lol: :jest: :jest: :bonk: :bonk: :dance:

Little does she know....:lol::dance:

Edited by firelion65, 01 February 2007 - 10:46 PM.

Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-01 22:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe most useless thread evvvvverrrrrr
Thanks Noura, the kitten sure is cute. But I should also post a pic of my hands - they look terrible! The kitten is a killer: all he does is bites and scratches! Which doesn't make him less cute!

menyou/Ahmed. You should start a new thread with your question, so everybody could see it. I don't know what to tell you besides WELCOME.

T.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-03 00:41:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe most useless thread evvvvverrrrrr
Are we trying to keep it alive? I was thinking to post pictures of the stuff I got from Target 'WORLD BAZAAR', but thought, the thread looks abandoned...

Do you like my new avatar? It's my new kitten, the pic was taken by my kids. I might add more later.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-01 22:32:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe most useless thread evvvvverrrrrr
I'm with backpages. Welcome to VJ Tisha. Hope you have a nice one!

Tanya
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 19:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe most useless thread evvvvverrrrrr
Actually, I think it's GEG's pics that got me eating for 2 days! So, thanks for no food pictures! It's almost 3 pm and I haven't eaten anything yet!

And pictures of Moroccan places make me sad. Guess, everything makes me sad these days. Now I have to get to Target and get my son to the Haircuttery. They have some nice things at Target from around the world but not for long! Dont' worry, i'm not in a buying mood, but if I find something that looks Moroccan... who knows. I'm trying to get my bedroom redecorated myself to look Moroccan for whenever Mohamed's coming.

OH YEAH! MY CAT IS BACK!!! constantly crying for attention and trying to start a war with the older cat and a kitten. Hope my son's not letting any more cats out!

T
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-28 14:46:00
Middle East and North AfricaThe most useless thread evvvvverrrrrr
Nothing good! I've been depressed lately and started eating like crazy - today's second day. Think I need to change my screen name to show how depressed I am, but that would make me more depressed.

What are you up to?
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-01-27 22:35:00
Middle East and North AfricaHe got THE Call!!!! I get my Valentine
Great news, Maggie! Congratulations!!! :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-05 20:12:00
Middle East and North Africaellabentalha
That's great! I'm happy for you! Vermont never responded to me, not even to my letter in Aug 2006. Way to go, girl!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-07 21:08:00
Middle East and North AfricaStop the personal attacks as well as Baiting Other members
Right on, Captain!!!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-08 22:43:00
Middle East and North AfricaI am needing some good advice before I go to Morocco
I agree with everybody, you should wait and see what's really going on and not worry yourself, let alone your Moroccan relatives. Something might get lost in translation, it might turn out to be nothing when you get home, inshallah and you'll worry everybody for no reason.

I wouldn't be able to have a nice vacation having these thougths on the back of my mind (i'm sure it'll be more than just on the back of your mind). Maybe, you should tell them something, cause they'll know there's something going on even with the language barrier - I spoke with my MiL in english and she spoke arabic, and we knew what was going on... when we needed to. So, I'd suggest you tell something, but sugar coat it somehow - let them know you're worried, but it's not definite... OK. I hope it all goes well and you'll be fine, inshallah


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That girl is soooooooo ADORABLE! I hope I won't become a grandma soon, but when I do, I want a girl like your Lexi, jmagayreh!!!

T

Edited by firelion65, 09 February 2007 - 11:29 PM.

Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-09 23:25:00
Middle East and North AfricaHENIA--STOP HOLDING BACK
I wish I could go see my husband! My kids are such bad a.....!!! I hate being home on my only day off - they fight and argue all the time! I wish I was in Morocco instead!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-14 15:30:00
Middle East and North AfricaI am so excited!!
It's a start! Great news, now .... get some patience! I'm not being negative, just realistic. I run out of patience and now got onto medical prescriptional helpers, stronger than mint tea. Haven't seen my husband for 9 months and not even getting excited about anything!

I'm even getting used to this not going anywhere process!

Anyway, didn't mean to rain on your paraide. Good luck, hope you'll get there way faster then me!!! Way to go, girl!!!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-17 20:53:00
Middle East and North AfricaWednesday

Not having a bad day, try having a bad half year! And it keeps getting worse and worse! And I'm talking about good kids (no drugs, good grades)! When they are separate - they're fine, but together - i don't know what to do with them and how to deal with them! It's like talking to my foot - I bet it'll hear me and understand much better!

I'm just not used to having 2 teenagers at the same time - one used to live with the ex, but decided for whatever reason to be with us. Without a man in the house and no father figure around.... I'm just glad they're not girls! I imagine at the ages we're at it would be even worse!


Do they see their dad at all throughout the week? If not why don't you set up a schedule? I count on every other weekend off to have "me time" and to regroup. Raising two kids alone is hard work and harder when you have a fulltime job on top of it all. You need a mental health day off every so often or you will start telling people that "kids suck". :dead:

I'm sure you don't mean it and are just having a hard day. See if someone can take them for a weekend so you can have a break.


No, doodle. They don't see him very often - they hate him now. And it's not because of me, I don't tell them that he's bad or anything. He complains about me, said 'she's dead to me' and still talks ####### about me all the time! That's one of the reasons my oldest got back to us and doesn't want to stay with ex.

The ex cares about our kids so much, he owed a Christmas and a B-day present from 2005 to my son up until recently. And what did he do? Instead of getting him an I-pod or something cool, he gets him a cheap a... clock for maybe $10!!!

So, they're both discusted with my ex and don't want to have to do anything with him. I keep telling them that he's their father. I know I missed mine when he left!

Ok, let me re-frase what I said be4: "TEENAGERS SUCK!" not kids. They were pretty sweet and nice when they were kids. And you're right, I need some alone time, when I get home it feels like a war zone - they argue or do something noisy all the time. Maybe, I'm just tired of everything, don't know.

And now this 'snow day' is catching up with me - i have to work extra time on top of 50 hour week!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-17 21:08:00
Middle East and North AfricaWednesday
Not having a bad day, try having a bad half year! And it keeps getting worse and worse! And I'm talking about good kids (no drugs, good grades)! When they are separate - they're fine, but together - i don't know what to do with them and how to deal with them! It's like talking to my foot - I bet it'll hear me and understand much better!

I'm just not used to having 2 teenagers at the same time - one used to live with the ex, but decided for whatever reason to be with us. Without a man in the house and no father figure around.... I'm just glad they're not girls! I imagine at the ages we're at it would be even worse!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-14 17:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaWednesday
My patients told me to stay home today - I have 3 patients and none of them wants to see me getting out there on the icy road!!! YEY, my patients! SNOW DAY ROCKS!!! But I'll have to go see all of them on other days, so probably, no Sunday off for me!

This day would rock even more if my kids were at school or at least would be doing something productive. Instead, they argue with each other and me, not wanting to help out. I don't know what I'm even doing here, they're so bad, they don't deserve me suffering here without my husband! I'd rather go to Morocco then hear one more argument today!
I'll end up doing what I can and shoveling all the snow by myself and mad at them even more!

Having kids is so over-rated!!! Kids suck!!! Even the good and smart ones!!!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-14 15:43:00
Middle East and North AfricaDarija
i forgot the new word i've learned my last trip flus (where 'u' is used like it sounds in alphabet) - that means 'money'
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-17 21:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaDarija
i know 'safi' Noura, but when i used 'baraka' i was told, that i'm now moroccan :lol: :lol: :lol:
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-14 17:50:00
Middle East and North AfricaDarija
baraka - 'enough' or 'ok' ->surprised nobody said that yet!

waheshni - 'i miss u'

dush (with 'u' pronounced as in alphabet) - 'shower'

kuli (same 'u') - eat

bsmilia - what you're supposed to say be4 eating, taking a shower or whatever good thing you're doing if you're a muslim(a)

aji nti (nta) - reply to 'aji' - you come here, 'nti' for a man, i think, 'nta' for a woman

behher - 'how ru doing?' (i think)

bliati - 'later'

Edited by firelion65, 14 February 2007 - 04:06 PM.

Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-14 16:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaHello from Tanger, Morocco!
Janine, that's so nice of you to post for the rest of us who didn't go! Enjoy your visit! Take a lot of pictures! Try to go to as many places as you can. See you later!

Take care, girl!

Tanya
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-19 20:46:00
Middle East and North AfricaFinally!
Pozdravliay, vstrecha! That's great! Judging by your name I'm guessing you're from Russia, that's why I congratulated you in Russian.

:dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:

Tanya
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-19 20:37:00
Middle East and North AfricaLazy Sunday
The weather here is fine for now. Might be bad tomorrow morning.
So much to do, so little time!!! It's my only day off, so I stayed in bed late. Now I have to kick myself to get something done. As for help from my kids :lol: , yeah, right!

I got high blood pressure on top of my medicine and low hemoglobin, have to take Iron for now. So, I don't feel energetic at all!!! Guess, I'll take it easy and do what I can.

BTW, I got a robotic vacuum cleaner, not Roomba, but something cheaper - I watch it while it works. Still haven't decided if I'll keep it - doesn't do a very good job, but better then my know-it-all kids!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-25 11:49:00
Middle East and North AfricaDo you have a song?
Our song is Here without you by 3 doors down. When we met it turned out into something pretty dramatic after a few chats, I wonder why. Now I'm thinking, maybe it was his 'method' to get me interested? When I hear it on the radio, I know, he's thinking about me. Call me crazy. Then there was If you're not the one by Daniel Beddingfield.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-24 22:43:00
Middle East and North Africatired of the amman embassy
I'm sorry you're going through this stuff, I know as well as you, it's painfull and frustrating. If you compare our timelines - they're almost the same. Except my husband had 2 interviews and still nothing. I keep hearing the same BS over and over again. If I knew at the beginning what I know now!!!

Somebody gave me an advice before I filed and it was not to give them extra info, now I think it was a bad advice. I came to this site too late for anything and now just waiting or STILL waiting but trying to live my life the best way I can. I mean, I'm at home with my kids and cats, don't go out. Kind of like many people have said here 'fourty year old virgin', but what can you do? I've contacted anybody whom I could except the President and Mr. Rice, I've heard it's no use.

Just be patient, try to enjoy your life and try to be happy today and not wait for tomorrow! I know it's easier said, than done! There's also some tips on handling 'the wait' on this site. I used to read cards before going to sleep, but it seems like a waste of time after a while.

So, now I'm just pretending that everything's the way it's supposed to be and my life is just fine like it is! And try to find some little things that bring you joy and make you happy or at least make you laugh every time you can!

One thing that keeps me going is a little story about arabic coins. I've had that coin for about 10 years or so, but couldn't find out from which country it was. When we were getting married in Morocco, I looked at his coins (he was paying for everything and I don't speak the language, so I didn't have to deal with the money over there). So, I looked at the money and coins and saw the same coin that I have at home! That was at the time when we were about to give up getting married cause it was too many obstacles! That's how we knew that we are supposed to be together! So, we didn't give up! I had to buy another ticket with a later date and loose the other ticket, which was over $600 and stay a few days more to get married!

I just got the movie "Secret" - it's very good stuff! The funny thing, I knew it all along. If you can watch it online for $5 or get it somewhere to watch, I'd highly recommend it! It tells you not to think about the bad stuff you don't want, but think about what you do want!

I know my husband will be here eventually! If you need more tips from me personally, feel free to PM me - I don't have all the answers, but I try to stay positive no matter what!

Good luck and I wish you the best! VERY IMPORTANT: Contact the Congressman and Senator and ask them for help as well real soon!!! Right now!

T
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-25 16:09:00
Middle East and North AfricaA Little Help Please...
there's also http://www.islamonli...article04.shtml
and islamicfinder.org
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-25 23:29:00
Middle East and North AfricaEmail from US Embassy in Amman.
Sorry, don't know what to tell you. But it doesn't look bad to me, maybe I'm wrong. What kind of visa is it?
T
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-26 22:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaLifestyle Changes
Man, I wish I could add something here! OK, 10+5=15 :dance:
Now I don't feel so bad!
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-24 22:58:00
Middle East and North AfricaTotally frustrated
Sorry, I didn't read the whole 2 pages. Just wanted to say, what you said 'Some people are so darn judgemental without even knowing everything.'

I don't have relatives here, so no such problem. But I got a lot of s.... from people who know my story. Keep getting it almost every day. And I'm OK with it, but it annoying!

Hopefully, it'll blow over! Maybe not. But you're doing what's right for YOU and nobody else. So, don't take it 'close to heart' - russian expression - don't know any similar in english. It could be just a temp thing, I hope.

If you need to vent - vent all you want - we're here for that!

Good luck and keep us posted.

T.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-19 20:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaWHAT DID YOU PLAN FOR YOUR SO UPON ARRIVAL?
I think "Bic" is what they use in Morocco, single blade. So anything that's better then that is good. For shaving cream - my husband was using SOAP!!! So, next time I went there I made sure I got him enough and I've sent him some in a tube, since I wasn't sure if it's going to make it by plane.

"Old Spice" and "Addidas" are pretty good ones, I took a lot of "Addidas" for gifts and stuff. My ex loved "Gilette", so now I'm avoiding them and all of his favorite colognes! I also got some cotton A-shirts, socks and "Suave" shower gel for men. I wanted to get more stuff, but then his visa was denied, so now I'm waiting for the right moment.

I'm sure, he'll have fun going to the stores and picking stuff by himself accompanied by me, of course! We went to lots of stores over there and surprisingly, he wasn't like other men, bored by shopping! I have two weeks vacation time and I'm keeping it for when he comes over, inshallah, for SS office, shopping and stuff like that! Should be fun! I hope soon!!!!

Also, I have to clear his part of the room (closets and drawers) for his stuff! Too much to do, so little time!

Edited by firelion65, 01 March 2007 - 08:16 PM.

Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-03-01 20:14:00
Middle East and North AfricaIT IS SUNDAY ISNT IT???
Happy Sunday! My only day off! Wish I was somewhere else! For at least a few weeks!

I need to do my taxes and it's so annoying, but who else whould do it, if not me!

Got a new cat and had to leave him at the vet's for declawing - $200 for that? Every time I think, finally I can get myself new eye glasses, something else comes up and I've managed to sleep with my old glasses in my bed! How silly is that? :jest: :jest: :jest:

Hey, Janine! Are you back from Morocco yet? Haven't seen you posting.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-03-11 10:39:00
Middle East and North Africapassport photos
I had no problem with Moroccan passport photos - sent them the way I got them!!! NO REF for that or anything else! They are actually about the size I'm used to from Russia. So, I didn't worry too much, as long as the height is right. I know what you're talking about, the widht is a little smaller, but it was fine.

I also used the same photos for 129 and 130 and they got approved.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-02-01 22:41:00
Middle East and North AfricaYet Another Delay
Not funny at all! I hear your pain! Sorry about all this, I am in even worse predicament - nobody knows a thing! I'm just tired of changing my signature, it's the month #20 now.
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-03-11 14:06:00
Middle East and North AfricaMy Update
Amal, sorry to hear your news. I sure hope YOUR case is treatable and you'll be fine afterwards!!! Wish you the best and to find a fast and easy solution for your health problem! I hope that now since it's been diagnosed, they'd be able to do something for you and you'll be as good as new, inshallah!

(((hugs))) (F) (F)
Visa4habibi!FemaleMorocco2007-03-13 16:31:00