Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 8 2009, 03:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> aftanoon massive! when ppl have 2 different ideas about raising children, im not sure what can be done besides trying to find some middleground.. i had this problem even w/ my kids biological dad, he stayed on them, sometimes unnecessarily in my eyes, and my idea was that "they are good kids overall, you don't have to be so strict" we fought sometimes about it, but not enough to cause a major rift.. well not that issue anyway lol roger believes i should punish my youngest more than i do, he has mentioned it a few times, "steph needs a whooping" . and in those instances he was right, i don't notice until she is out w/ others.. becuz she is such a smart and mature child, i try to give her the benefit of the doubt, but in the end she is still a child and i can't let her act so dyam grown.. i may not put my hands on her as much as roger would on his kids (HE SAYS) but i am gnna start laying the smack down more often.. good luck finding ur middle ground irie Quanna you are always the voice of clarity! I love you Sis! QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 8 2009, 03:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> lol well thank you, i will have to let him know.. He mustve been reading what I was saying today because he just called me and enrolled himself into a medical assistant program at Lincoln Tech... GLORY BE TO GOD!!!! Yes that is great news!!! QUOTE (Ellsinlove @ Dec 8 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Morning/Afternoon Yardies! Just in & out real quick....we are back from the AOS interview & we are approved! God truly blessed us even with a really nice officer....Officer Thomas who just so happens to be married to a Grenadan man. She's also a Florida gal so she understands how it is to be from a warm place. We seemed to chat more about food, weather & what not more than interview questions. Lehi ended up answering the bulk of questions & the lady was really understanding of his lack of knowledge of details on things like dates. I'll tell the full story & review this evening when we get home. We are back out to have some lunch before poor honey has to have a root canal at 1:00. Thanks Yardies for all your encouragement! You all are the best! Ells God is good Sis I knew you would get through! QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 8 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> i'm not a professional in any kind of therapy..i'm talking about kids and behavior..based on my experience with my child and my husband her bilogical dad..i recognized alot of my faults..and he did what he felt was the best thing then and that was to allow me to parent her thinking that would take care of the issue..of course it did not..i'm just saying we cannot dismiss the step parents parenting..we should always give the backing..no one is perfect...and alot of us spoil out kids and we feel no one else has the right to speak to them any kind of way..and that affects a step parent I totally agree Chiney , its important for us to recognize our faults and individual parent, communicate and stay consistent together.	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 15:38:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (jamerican @ Dec 8 2009, 03:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly---I am about to order some of the Nollywood movies...The prices are sooo cheap wow!! Any favorites??? They are extremely cheap I get them for 2.50 Letters to a Stranger Passion of the soul 1-4 In the eyes of her Husband 1-4 Beyonce the Presidents daughter Pt 1-4 Beyonce and Rihanna LOL these are just a couple to get your started I have along list I can send it to you QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 8 2009, 03:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 8 2009, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 8 2009, 02:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Chiney, I know it may not solve everything one time. But I can only take it day by day. I would love to go to family counseling but that is not in the budget right now. I also now how stress can effect Louis' attitude. Louis has no children so this is all new to him. We will have to work this out as a family. right! but dont u see he has a different view on how a child should behave? stress is no good for anyone..does Tierra say any after he speaks to her or are u the one feeling the "hurt" for her? so ur reacting on his words many children are resilient and until they develop the understanding they will let things "roll" of their shoulders..I see it with Kimora..and she is the only child..and so is Shems daughter Tierra told me she feels like he does not love her. She has even talked about it to her counselor at school. She is in a group for kids with divorced parents/step parents. Awwe Irie, my son feels that I don't love him so I know what you are going thorugh..... QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 8 2009, 03:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wish I knew what you were talking bout but I don't because I never received a e-mail from six months ago . UH oh shoot I'm about to say call me on the dang phone LOL QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 8 2009, 03:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> beat them all I say!!!! Just playin... I love kids, it amazes me the skills they have - manipulation, brutal honesty, coniving ways, kindness, some are leaders, some are followers..... PREACH!!! QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 8 2009, 03:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> On the real, I love my children, they just don't show me as much respect as they should. They are at a "selfish, gang up on mom stage" They know not to go too far because they know im "touched". They try to pull together to gang up on me. Its all good though cause I have faith in God and a good bat! Im a realist, I tell them what they aint ready to hear sometimes, but there it is. My children are going to have to learn their life lessons the hard way and when they do, I will tell them "I told you so" but I will also be there to let them that it will be okay. Steve is the one who sits down and talks. I can only do that for so long, then "Rashida" comes out and its ON!!!! that is me too!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 15:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 8 2009, 01:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OMG! I just had the best sandwich for lunch... fresh mozzarella, mesculin, sweet onions, yellow peppers and this spicy apple pepper chutney! I want more!! Philly... I am sorry about your family stuff. You know Louis and I have been arguing about Tierra lately. He gets on her about EVERYTHING and when I ask him to cool out it usually ends up in a big argument. I am not sure what to do. I have tried to tell him that he needs to show more love, patience and caring... dont sweat the small stuff. Of course he thinks my way is all wrong... * sigh * .... one day at a time! That sandwich sounds sooo good, I just ate steamed carrots and squash with jerk seasoning ( BORING) I'm sorry Irie, I know its so frustrating with these family issues, one thing I try not to do is let the boys come between Damian and I. I know it's extremely hard in your situation but you both have to sort it out come to an agreement and be consistent cause if not it will cause a rift.... I pray everything works out Cat, the family drama is the worse! QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 8 2009, 02:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> in this American culture its easier to say dont sweat the small stuff..we have to remember the step parent is looked at as the outsider..ur child will play on the fact UR MY MOM and HE"S NOT MY DAD..u have to set the rules and make sur eshe gets it..if he "gets" on for something..make sure u speak about it..don't dismiss his discipline...in the future ur going to need his backing and he wont give it because u have set the pace of "its not that serious"..one day it will be THAT serious..Tierra is a big girl..she understands.. You always have words of wisdom for us, I need to add you to my list for updates about these pickney ( hush Lawny mi slow) QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 8 2009, 02:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well my kids treat Steve better than they treat me! Girl I would be happy with that at this point LOL Coming along great *whispering, I still have to get shoes - don't tell JG or Philly* lol Seriously things are going well, just a few last minute things to get... The nice part is 3 of the vj couples will be attending.. Mad Yardie representation!!!! Yes we will be in the building Hubby with his pointy shoes and all ( Hush Lawny ) LOL QUOTE (sus @ Dec 8 2009, 02:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> But Kimora fresh like her mommy.................. No wonda he ave issues! SUSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS QUOTE (jamerican @ Dec 8 2009, 02:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly....so sorry you have to deal with this MESS.....why can't everyone just get along?????DAMN!!! Really?? Well, hopefully you will look back in 3 months and say....wow-we got through it and we all survived! My son (remember I sent him away to Louisiana after he was acting an azz) will be back for good in 2 weeks.....hmmmmm, so I may be with you in the frustration soon.... He was supposed to stay all school year but there were "issues" so home he comes! He did improve his grades and he does realize that home was really not so bad...so we will see.... Thanks Jamerican, LOL about the 3 months its been 8 months since Hubby arrived and it seemed for a brief stint it was easing up a likkle but it just got 100x's worse! I wanted to send him to either JA or Haiti with family but timing was all messed up and I realize I need to deal with these issues here... That is great your son improved his grades that means he is trying and that is a great effort on this part. I hope that when he comes home he doesn't fall back into the same cycle....	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 14:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (JAPrincess @ Dec 8 2009, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> awwww, honey I am sorry I know the older the kids are the harder it is for them to adjust Time, Philly... give it time you! I'm trying I thought we had moved past the foolishness but now its the older son and refuses to accept Damian period end of story and its not helping that my parents are basically entertaining his tantrums. I try to keep them out of my business especially when it comes to raising the kids cause they treat them like babies but my son keeps bringing them into it. I have a feeling someone is gonna get cussed out before the end of the day! QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 8 2009, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (phillyfashionista @ Dec 8 2009, 11:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey Dad how was lunch? I’m assuming yuh meant Dada not dad..LOL Lunch was good but the fancy lunch is next week I think the 15th. Yesterday was movies and Cheesecake Factory. I enjoy the Cheesecake factory their menu is just too darn long. I had Cookie Dough Cheesecake and it was so good I want to go back and get another piece matter of fact I want to buy a whole one now. Umm never mind my co-worker just told me those things are like 50 bucks and up. Oops Dada sorry girl, you know my mind is all over the place today. Hell to the yeah them cheesecakes are expensive but soooo good. Now I'm getting a sweet tooth UGHHH. Let me eat my darn steamed veggies ( as she cries in the corner) LOL	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 13:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Shemmy @ Dec 8 2009, 01:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (LadyC @ Dec 8 2009, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi Yardies...How is everyone doing? Hi LadyC. How are the wedding plans coming along? Hey Shem (((waving))) QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 8 2009, 01:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> so congrats to all ..sorry to all that their journey has ended.. Chiney and her fabulous white ruffle shirt! Gimmee LOL	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 12:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (JAPrincess @ Dec 8 2009, 01:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks everyone else for knowing prayers mean good things! So life is going by... the nursery is empty and mi friend dem ago paint this weekend! The trip to JA was amazing and wonderful, and sad all at once... Mi man love mi cyaan done and I sure do miss the belly rubbing and good food! Him and my son bonded better than I could have hoped The sunsets were beautiful: I got to meet JaHoney and Ms.Nelly Oh Ja Princess I love these pics. I especially love the pics with your Hubby and son that brings tears to my eyes cause my life is slowly falling apart and all due to family Phuckery. When I am feeling down I will look at your pics for hope that one day all will work out.	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 12:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 8 2009, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey Philly! Can you liven up the place today with some kind of FEVA...please don't let it be Jermaine, please don't let it be Jermaine LOL @ Dillon, ok ok no Jermaine Passion of the Soul 3 One of the Drama filled Nollywood flicks I was watching this weekend. Hubby couldn't take his eyes off the screen it was sooooo good! This is Pt 3	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 12:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (*JG* @ Dec 8 2009, 12:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Here's what I did last night: Chad's birthday card. He's going to be 13. He's autistic and gets a kick out of yellow cars. Says he's going to get one when he can drive. What do you think? My fireman's Christmas card: I love them both they are too cute, especially the photo in the middle! QUOTE (*JG* @ Dec 8 2009, 12:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> And the rest of my Christmas cards (Sus and Tre-----don't look!) You are great with crafts, I need to get on my Kwanzaa cards I am so late!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 11:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 8 2009, 11:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good Morning everyone! Hey Dillon ((( Waving))) QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 8 2009, 12:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (phillyfashionista @ Dec 8 2009, 10:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Mawning Ladies Dens Wifey, mstee, thisislove, JAPrincess, IrieCat, shermike Is Shermike a newbie or name change? I would like to know that as well Hey Dad how was lunch?	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 11:38:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 7 2009, 10:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Pics finally posted sheesh! they are too cute Mstee! QUOTE (jawi876 @ Dec 7 2009, 11:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I can't believe how much I have missed...there is no sense trying to go back because then I would miss even more of the recent stuff. I feel like my VJ life is slowly slipping away...*sigh* I don't get to come on at work...and there is no rest for the weary at home. I was able to get on tonight because hubby went to bed early...but I'm about to call it a night too. Much love to my ladies of VJ...***mmmuuuaaahhh*** Jawi we miss you so much!!!!!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 11:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	Mawning Ladies Dens Wifey, mstee, thisislove, JAPrincess, IrieCat, shermike	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 10:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (JAPrincess @ Dec 8 2009, 11:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Morning Good People Imma try and post some today... First I'm going to get the boy off to school and maybe pick out the paint for the nursery... Working from home my last week before maternity leave I should be back by 9am Pacific. Hope everyone has a great day! If you pray, my honey and I need your prayers today and tomorrow. Bless, JAPrincess Hey Mamma, (((waving))) glad you are back	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-08 10:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	LMAO	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 17:36:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (my2rmylife @ Dec 7 2009, 02:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 7 2009, 01:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hi my2...how long do you have to have your cast on? not sure yet got to go to the ortho doc to find out... thanks for asking ... Poor baby, I know how hard it is to work it out with the kids and have a cast I broke my foot when my kids were young so i know the feeling. I hope its not for long QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 7 2009, 02:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OMG... this is a Hot Topic on the home page... I think someone is bored.... QUOTE hello everyone, I married with a us citizen 4 years back and it was all fine and my wife left nigeria in january and i got my visa now i am on a 2 years green card and living with my wife here in usa since one and half year the problem is that when we sleep in the night my wife has a problem she can not help at all and problem is that she passes gas too much in the days i stay at work and when i am back from work we sleep together and she pass gass that turns me off and i want divorce please tell me how do i get a divorce and how much time it will take i love usa i want to live here but not with my wife. Sorry ... NEW topic.. not HOT topic. TAP IE!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 17:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 7 2009, 05:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Feel better Philly. Its so dark and cold here I wouldn't mind doing the same thing... Thank Irie, I strayed from my diet today and had some soup and applesauce LOL I feel like I need my bunny slippers he he. Hubby doesn't think the snow is a big deal LMAO I told him to just wait till you can't get out the door. I have all my tropical and banana plants everywhere in the house he was like you are kidding me right? Ummmmm nope and I have 4 in the ground but I have blankets on them LOL and will be digging them up soon.	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 16:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	LMAO I love it when you call me big pop-pa. Throw your hands in the air, if youse a true player. Hey yall I know I'm late as hell with the post responses LOL but work a kill me and I feel like ####### today! I just want to go home and take a hot shower and watch Nollywood flicks with hubby and drink some sorrel tea. I'm such a big baby when I'm sick haaaa	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 16:29:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Dec 7 2009, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That's good you get to go to nice restaurant for your company party. We had ours on Saturday night & it was at a hotel. I rather a restaurant than hotel-catered food. Here's a pic of us at the event: Nice pic Nat QUOTE (MoAcory7007 @ Dec 7 2009, 02:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 6 2009, 07:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I wanted to wish all the December Interviewee's best of luck!!!! Thank you very much Ms. Tee. I'm confident it will be alright and my sweet sugar dumplin will be in NY with me for the holidays!!! Lol Best of luck Mo Acory!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 16:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 7 2009, 11:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (*JG* @ Dec 7 2009, 10:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ms Tee.....speaking of shoes.....did you buy them yet? No I haven't JG, Im a bad girl, maybe this weekend... I did narrow it down to a pair though LOL girl what yuh a wait pon?mi a sen yuh some pics! QUOTE (Dens Wifey @ Dec 7 2009, 12:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> The fact that the baby was even born...I'm sorry that was mean! I'm just kidding. Baby was just born in Sept. from what he's being told it takes about 3 months for the birth certificates. OOh bad girl Dens (pos your hand LOL) 3 months for the initial BC to be generated or to recv a birth certificate period? QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Dec 7 2009, 12:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Steven's sister Princess Tia (who now goes by Princess Tiah) was one of the opening acts for that show. Nat how is Princess Tiah doing now since the competition? QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 7 2009, 12:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 7 2009, 12:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Irie...tell Louis to play his music really loud and keep them awake one night. They play music all night too. We had to call the landlord about that a few months ago. See, I think they are hard of hearing. I also know that one of them snores so loud I can hear it at night and they other must play music to try and drown it out. Their bedroom is right above ours. Sometimes I try to be extra loud!! LMAO Irie Bad gyal haaa QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 7 2009, 12:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We are leaving at 1:00 today. One of my immediate supervisors is taking us to lunch at the Cheescake Factory and then the movies afterwards. I think we're going to see Blindside with Sandra Bullock. Hey it works for me. Then on Friday its our dept Xmas party and then next week another immediate supervisor of mines is taking us to some fancy restaurant called Eleven. I just hope its not too fancy where I don’t care for or can pronounce what is on the menu. At the end of the day I’m just a meant and potatoes type of gyal. Times like this I love supporting so many people. Hey does anyone watch Harlem Height or Nights on BET? I hear its pretty good. LOL @ Dada girl you better get some of that good food I try everything at least once!! I haven't seen Harlem Heights yet but I may check it out this season...... Let me know how the outing was, we are doing a bowling party this year for our Xmas party. girl have fun and	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 16:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (charandivan @ Dec 7 2009, 10:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good Morning Everyone! I wanted to thank everyone for their well wishes and congrats. I wanted to give you guys and update on his arrival so I apologize in advance for being so long-winded.... Airport Ivan made it in on Friday around 5pm. It took almost a hour and a half for him to emerge out of the terminal so I was starting to get a little worried that he was held up in immigration. But he told me that the plane landed and did not have a gate so they were stuck on the runway for a while. Anyway, my brother and I just waited patiently. Him and my brother had never met, so he kept pointing at every dark-skinned brother asking if that was him. He finally emerged with his white t-shirt on looking so lost and my brother knew immediately it was him. I quickly ran over and we hugged a kissed. The whole experience was surreal because I could not believe my honey was finally here. We walked over to baggage claim to find that his bags were not there, so we came to the Delta baggage claim counter to see what was up. That was Ivan's first gay male encounter in the US. This guy was flamin' times 10 and Ivan couldn't even look him in his face to answer the questions. In the most feminine voice ever, he was like "Where is your baggage claim ticket?" Then he started humming negro spirituals!! Ivan is looking at my brother like WTH ! I had to step in and save the day! I answered all of the questions and found out that his bags could be arriving on the belt within the next 45 minutes. After we left out of the office, everyone fell out on the floor laughing because he was way over the top. Meanwhile, he was starving so we decided to grab a bite to eat while waiting. Of course, Ivan was looking perplexed at all of the menus . There was Wendys, A chinese restaurant, Domino's pizza and a soul food restaurant. He opted for soul-food and had his first experience with many more to come....After, we ate, laughed and talked. We were finally able to get his bags and walk to the car. Luckily, I had bought a coat, hat and gloves because when he walked outside to the car, he was like It was about 40 degrees. Friday Evening After we left the airport, we went to Atlantic Station. This is an area that has restaurants, shopping, movie theatres, bowling alley etc...We walked around to look at the Christmas decor. Then we went to Fox Sports Grille to have some drinks. After we left there, it was well after 9pm so we had to rush off to get my daughter by 11. I think he was really amazed by all of the buildings and scenery. He would often try to get me to describe what things were like, so I think he was just amazed to finally see it. We then drove home and on the way stopped at the liquor store to get his favorite drink, Appleton Rum. After we left there, we picked up my daughter from daycare (they had parent's night out from 6-11). When she walked out to the car, she was like, " I thought Ivan was supposed to be coming." Then mid-sentence, she looked up and saw him. She walked up to him, looked up and said, Hi! You are from Jamaica." "My mommy said she is going to take me there." He picked her up, kissed her and that was the sweetest moment. They had never met at this point and only talked on the phone so I couldn't believe they were finally meeting. After that we got home, he had his first encounter with the dog. We were laying on the bed and the dog jumped on his chest and stared him done. He started freaking out, like get him off. The dog finally jumped down. I guess that was their male bonding moment. Although, I don't think Ivan has gotten used to the idea of having da dog in the house. Saturday We woke up around nine and was immediately greeted by the kids (my daughter and the dog). Ivan opened the blinds to look outside and It was snowing!!! He was like OMG!! I was too...Because we don't get much snow in Atlanta. We then cooked breakfast together. We didn't get a chance to get to the grocery store, so we had to put some things together for breakfast. But, it was so nice to be able to eat as a family. My daughter is a very picky eater, but seems to like everything he has cooked thus far. After we ate, she then harrassed us about putting up the Christmas tree. I told her that we wouldn't put it up to Ivan arrived. And she had not stopped worrying me since he stepped foot in the door. We put on a reggae CD and put up the Christmas tree. Later we went walking through the n'hood in the 32 degree weather. After about 15 minutes, he was ready to bring his rass in the house. We hung around the house for the rest of the afternoon and watched movies. Later, my brother and him got out on the weight bench in the garage, took off their shirts and the testosterone kicked in. They are flexing, comparing back muscles and seeing whose smedium shirt fits the best. My daughter and I were looking like WTH!! That evening, we packed up in the car to get out. We found a local Jamaican restaurant that is attached to a grocery store. We ended up spending like $35 on a few things, but I was so happy that he has a place close by to get groceries. We later ate at the restaurant and the food was ok. We later took my daughter to Toys R Us. Which Ivan thought was way over the top. He then got his 1st experience at the mall, which was very overwhelming. After we got a couple of sweaters, shoes and visited Sephora to try on all of the colognes. He was ready to roll!! We got home chilled for a minute and decided we were going to hit the club. We had planned to go to Club Intrique where Serani was performing. It was free before 11:30. But we ended up making it there too late and the cover was $25. I was like hell-to-the-no. So we ended up, going to Club 426 next door. When we got there it seemed kind of dead, but Ivan was happy that they sold Magnum Tonic...After about an hour the club was packed and jumping and all you could hear was blop, blop, blop... We had so much fun and it felt so good to hear him day several times that he felt like he was in Ochi. We left about 2:30. Sunday We woke up and realized that we were late for church. Ivan made peanut porridge for breakfast and we decided to go the noon church service. Everything was good there and he seemed to enjoy the service. We missed our "Marriage Without Regrets" class so we will have to catch it next Sunday. I'm a little nervous about that because he seems a little hesitant to take the course. Its the typical black male mentality that, "no one can tell us how to be married. " But we will see how that goes. Well I have a meeting coming up so I need to get back to work. Sorry to be so long-winded, but I probably won't get to be on hear as much so I wanted to give everyone an update. Enjoy your day!! Char thanks for sharing, I know you are on cloud nine now that your fiance is here! LMAO @ the flaming Airline rep, that is too funny he will definitely have many more encounters of that nature in your travels haaaa	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 15:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (IrieCat @ Dec 7 2009, 10:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Morning Ladies! So sorry Philly for your loss. I am sure your friend understands that you cannot be there. Blessed… thank goodness you are ok, that sounds pretty scary. Hope you are feeling better… Jess … hope your foot is feeling better and don't work to hard! Hope the ladies with their men fresh on arrival continued to have a great weekend!! We finally got snow this weekend in Maine. It was just enough to make everything look really pretty. Tierra and I headed to LL Bean for new snow pants and boots. She looks cute in dark purple and brown. I steered her clear of PINK this year… LOL I was so excited to sleep in this Saturday.. Louis didn’t have to work Friday night so no reason to get up early… Well 5AM!! the neighbors upstairs had their grandson and he was running back and forth the length of the apartment for HOURS!!! Now I can understand the child getting up early… but c'mon! Can you not let him run around WITH SHOES ON at 5am? Oh man Louis was so mad. He finally called the landlord yesterday after it sounded like they were rearranging furniture ALL DAY! The landlord just called (after speaking to the people upstairs) and told Louis they were being "effing aholes"… landlords exact words!!! haha… he is such a "Mainah". I am the 1st one to empathize and say… well its their grandson, they don’t have him all the time, or… the guy is HUGE and walks heavy. But I think it is beyond that now. I really think they don’t care, or don't like us. Louis even wrote them a note once explaining he works nights and just would like a few hours sleep in the mornings. Its so weird how they can just not care. I would feel so bad if I were upstairs making all that noise. Now I feel all uncomfortable when I run into them outside. UGH… Oh Dang Irie, that ain't right just inconsiderate. I understand its a child but hours on with the running back and forth can be nerve wracking to say the least! I know how you feel with inconsiderate neighbors ughhhh and the landlord seems fed up too hot mess!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 12:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (LadyC @ Dec 6 2009, 08:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi Yardies... Always Blessed I'mj so glad you are ok. God is great and he kept you safe. Friday: Well Garfield came into JFK @ 9:25pm (Air J was actually on time) it took him about 45 min to get out. When I say him I was jumping up & down waving my arms so he cane see me. He gave me a kiss and said see I made it. Well I put on his coat but did not zip it up. When he step outside and felt the NY cold air he FROZE...me and my sister fell out laughing at him. I zipped his coat up and gave him a kiss. The reunion was off the chains...... Saturday: We got up ate breakfast and then went to see my sister, aunt, dad and a few friends all the time it was raining in NY then we headed home around 3:15pm. When the rain changed to SNOW his mouth fell open. I said baby its snowing. He call JA and told his mom he looked like a big kid. We got home after 9pm (after we went to see my daughter at her college, pick up another daughter, went to see my friend and did grocery). We finally went to sleep after midnight and did not wake up until 10:30am. Sunday: we went to the laundry and then I took him to the mall...when he saw the inside of Arundel Mills Mall he was floored. I have never walked the entie mall but I did today. The man wanted to buy everything but I talked some sense into him. Now we are home and he is cooking us a late dinner. I sooooooooo LOVE my Hubby HI Lady C thanks for sharing, LOL about the snow. Sounds like you 2 had a great welcome home to the US weekend!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-07 11:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies... I have a question for you	QUOTE (Bunzarelli @ Sep 3 2009, 02:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> something like that Bunz that is hot! Black is my favorite color so Black gold and silver	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-09-03 16:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)	Is that cute or what?????? Louis @ 9 or so....1st communion! Awwe he looks exactly the same! Congrats on the Louis Tierra news that is wonderful! luvs it want some more good news??? well the ex had a talk w/ our daughters and saw how much they wanted to be back in their house.. my youngest grew up in that house.. this is what i tried to explain to him since day one but it was a brick wall situation.. so anyway.. he said that he would sign the house over to me !!!!! i was skeptical BUT we couldn't find a renter anyway by the due date, sooooooo I WENT FOR IT!!!!! we moved in on this weekend, me and mister all by ourselves.. we did the dyam thang.. and i am soooo happy and SOOOOOO grateful to God for putting this all in place in the right timing.. it will have to grow on roger because he does not like the idea AT ALL.. but i told him i was not willing to risk forclosure and thousands of dollars down the drain for a male ego.. i love him to death, but i have sacrificed alot because of that love.. he has to meet me half way.. besides this is best for our whole family.. we can't have his kids over for the summer in a two bedroom apt.. now they will have their own room!! thanks to all my yardies who lent an ear during this time.. a nd jamerican! big ups to you for telling me bout the obama program!! you are an angel my girl Praise him!!!!! God is Good Q I am so happy for your Sis! irie.. girl it was soooo very hard..but i have to make some decisions for what QUANA want.. i thought i was gonna have the shortest marriage ever in yardie history, no lie .. i know my baby wants us to make our way together with nothing from the past, but like you said.. i have told him we can make any changes he wants, even sleep in another room if he preferred.. he said why can't we just save to have another house.. well, w/ jamaica trips and trying to rebuild credit for how strict these companies are gonna be on me w/ a foreclosure, how soon do you think that will happen??? he is coming around i think.. Q sometimes I have learned in life its not always about what you want but what you need!! God knows this is what you need. This house is only a structure your marriage is stronger than bricks cement and sheet rock! This is what is going to put you on the right track with your credit , saving and future. Rog will see this and know its best for everyone. I am really so happy for you, just to know the POWER OF THE CREATOR and how he always has a PLAN! thanks tee baby.. roger is like any other man and likes to think of me as being a virgin b4 him, even tho i have 2 children LOL.. he said he would always think bout what was "done" in the house and he would be miserable i finally told him.. "well lets go "cleanse" every room before we move, will that make it better?" he was so mad i thought he was gonna give me the side eye, but he said "ok, lets go" I know that's right and you should do a cleansing Bless this house for you and your family that is what i'm talking about we do that ritual as well ! LMAO @ the side yeye, he is gonna be ok Quanna trust me	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2010-02-09 15:09:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 22)	aww philly im so proud to see u sharing the tv wha ya deal wid yardies.. man is freaking 40 degrees out here and i feel like my fingers were gonna fall off on the way to work.. i don't have a driva anymore philly.. mi a fall dead a laff at you and hubby.. dang i wish i was gonna be there for the nuptials.. i have a feeling all of us would have a ball and dada back a yaad.. DANG. the heffa still been to ja more times than me even WITHOUT a man there LOL Hey Q mis s yuh Sis! LOL yeah Damian and I are a hot mess LOL let me tell you he was definitely hand picked for me by the creator we have so much fun in the midst of all the chaos. I wish you were there too trust me You could almost see his buttcheek lol Lef me alone DWL APPROVED! Congrats Sis see I told you! MY2 MOTHER IN LAW APPROVEEEEEEEEDDDDDDDD! YAY good news all around! Ells, are you sure she doesn't work at my company too? We have someone here is that exact same way. Can't go two weeks w/o being out for some reason or another. I work for a European company and we have unlimited sick days. I can't stand when people take advantage of privileges. And she call herself sick every other week. I'm like chile if you are that sickly you need to be admitted to ICU. LOL Char @ nee tot go to ICU you ain't never lied and when people take advantage like that it makes it hard on others. Damn shame! I saw drag race... "Lipsync for your lifeeeeeeeeeeee and don't ^&*( it up!" hahahahaha thank goodness Steve was sleep hahahahhahaha Girl I can't wait to see tonight!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2010-02-09 14:55:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 12 2009, 03:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (phillyfashionista @ Dec 12 2009, 11:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I have been up since 7 tending to my jungle inside the house and the enclosed veranda watering clipping leaves and mixing manure for their soil. Now I am of to bathe the cats and go to the market with my youngest son. My oldest stayed with my Mom and I am pretty sure she has him in a diaper and feeding with a bottle oops did I say that sike but damn near close she babies him too damn much! lol you so wrong Z lol LOL but yuh see it, too outta orda! QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 13 2009, 01:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Doing good for a rainy day... I purchased some lil stuff for the wedding.. no shoes yet lol Saturday I will be getting shoes and tie, next tues, nails did, pedicure and eyebrows... maybe eyelashes!!! Im getting there Mrstee that's what I'm talking bout DO IT, I got mine done last night! I think I will be getting the double long for your wedding though Yes I am extra! QUOTE (my2rmylife @ Dec 14 2009, 11:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> ladies i cant contain myself ... i got the best christmas present in the world... my parents were surprised me by purchasing my fiances ticket so he will be her by christmas .. they were trying to surprise me but as i was online yesterday about to book a ticket they had to let the cat out of the bag. Sweetie that is awesome Praise God!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-14 12:06:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Jamerican Queen @ Dec 11 2009, 03:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> philly I know you heard the request Please LOL @ JQ girl you know mi deh ya but I'm so busy during the day mi cyaa keep up wid ounno Snoop Dogg Malice In Wonderland LOL @ the Philly T-shirt yeah we an angry bunch haaaa enjoy the Feva!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-14 11:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (my2rmylife @ Dec 13 2009, 08:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OK LADIES I HAVE A QUESTION THIS IS MORE TO SET MY MOMS MIND AT EASE... THOSE OF YOU WHOSE FIANCES HAVE ARRIVED YOU ALL PURCHASED ONE WAY TICKETS CORRECT? ( SOMEONE AT MY MOMS JOB TOLD HER OTHERWISE AND OF COURSE IT WORRIED HER)... Hi Sweetie, we purchased 1 way tickets with no issues, you should be just fine! QUOTE (Dan-Dan @ Dec 13 2009, 02:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good Afternoon Ladies, I just got in from Church! I have to tell you that VJ's Yardies thread is addictive! I am SOOOO excited for all of you who are getting married, planning foryour men to come home with you, and going to the interviews soon. I havent even mailed my application in yet, I have gotten it all in order and I will sending it soon. I think I will have someone else just to look over it before I mail it though....Can't wait to be with my Sweetie soon, I am visiting JA 12/28 -01/07 but the hardest part is the day I leave. I will be glad when it is his turn to get on the plane and fly here to ME!!!! Thats wonderful Dan Dan you are going to see your man! Have a blast during the holidays a yaad PARTAY time QUOTE (sus @ Dec 14 2009, 07:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Morning all - Princess, I would ask your doctor to write a note and include it with your letter - Sus I love this pic QUOTE (my2rmylife @ Dec 14 2009, 08:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> good morning ,,, i hope everyone has a great day.... jap i agree with sus have the doctor include a note... Yup I agree as well JA P make sure you include a note from the Dr. all will be fine God will see this through!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-14 10:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Dens Wifey @ Dec 14 2009, 08:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 14 2009, 08:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good luck to MoMo and Acory on their interview tomorrow. Can't remember if Spanglas changed her date but it says the 14th on here so good luck to her and Dane. Good luck to Carmel who has her interview on the 19th! Sending positive vibes! I second that!!! Best wishes on all interviews today, tomorrow, and this week! MoMo, Acory, Spanglas, and Carmel!!!! Mi 3rd Congrats to everyone that has interviews this week Positive Vibes for all! QUOTE (Dens Wifey @ Dec 14 2009, 08:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Also congratulations and best wishes to Lady C! Getting married tomorrow.... Awwwwwww! Congrats Lady C I hope you have a fabulous day and that your wedding day is all you imagine~ don't be shy wid deh pics we need the fabulousity to keep up going QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 14 2009, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 11 2009, 04:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> man i hate this damn board!! peace..mi wish everybody the best !! finesse i pray for a save delivery and health baby girls!!! Q..i forgot it was u...congrats to u guys!!! u"ll should just bundle up and sing cumbayah..if u'll can't be honest about things whats the point again? just to hear congrats and he/she is such a good guy? come on now..and NO mi no give a rass wah anybody feel.. Umm what mi miss?? PM anyone???? LOL @ Dada you kill me mi PM soon come!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-14 09:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	Mawning Ladies, going to catch up Dens Wifey, JAPrincess, DaDa, LadyC ( (((waving))))	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-14 09:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Dec 12 2009, 11:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Definitely not! For some reason, both of us woke up tossing & turning. I think it was too hot in here with the sheets, throw, AND comforter. I turned on a fan, browsed the internet for a bit. To fall back asleep, I put on "Julie and Julia." That did the trick! \ WAIT you turned on the fan! HUSH stop gloating I am in here freezing and I have on 3 kerosene heaters throughout the house and Hubby is saying I am trying to cook him . LOL @ Julia and Julia so are you saying its boring? I have been up since 7 tending to my jungle inside the house and the enclosed veranda watering clipping leaves and mixing manure for their soil. Now I am of to bathe the cats and go to the market with my youngest son. My oldest stayed with my Mom and I am pretty sure she has him in a diaper and feeding with a bottle oops did I say that sike but damn near close she babies him too damn much! OK I will catch up later Ladies Holla!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-12 11:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Ellsinlove @ Dec 11 2009, 03:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly, I almost forgot to tell you...THANK YOU for the Rihanna DL....I've been enjoying it for a few days now! Cool I'm glad you like it, I have Alicia Keys but the file is all jacked so soon come. I love the CD it really is good! QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Dec 11 2009, 03:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly, your story about your son & husband bonding over the Wii is precious. Hope the bonding continues. I'm finding that I need at least 3 certified copies of my marriage certificate: one for AOS, one for JA Citizenship, and one for getting my passport updated. Plus I like having an extra for the occasions I need to show it, such as at the SSA & DMV. Had I known, I'd have gotten more copies the first time. thanks Nat, we all love video games. I am a Mario freak and I thought I was good but they tear me up in Mario carts LOL. Yes I hope the bonding continues too! I have Rock band as well but its for the PS3 which conveniently disapeared I won't go there I'm gonna sell it since PS3 and wii are not cross-platform compatible So you are going for dual Citizenship? QUOTE (Jamerican Queen @ Dec 11 2009, 03:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly What up with my DL I need that new SNOOP DOG Muy hubby sings the part :she wake me up in the middle of the night: since ima dog I give her what she like: his little head be bopping and eveything thats the only part he know Haaa yeah I can get that one and Gucci Man if you want it. QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 04:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> that was MEEEEE jam q, LOL. then try fi lie and say he didn't mean for it to come to me.. then why when it came on in the car, he gonna tell my kids, that he dedicates that to me.. 100% FOOL!! i don't know bout the cable jam q.. its been a year now, and i don't know how to decide what the kids can and can't watch which most of the time mean they watch everything.. roger didn't like that my 12 yr old was singing "smash the homeys" (rolls eyes) Q I heard my youngest son on the phone with a girl saying" You can call me Flintstone I can make your BedRock " Girl WTH I thought that was the corniest line ever, then he told me it was a song but still hot mess, this is what our children are listening too!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 15:42:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Dec 11 2009, 02:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Visit to the SSA office to change name on social security card: 1 hr Visit to the DMV to change name on driver's license: 1.25 hrs Knowing I won't have to visit those offices again for a while: PRICELESS Wow Nat you are good I am such a procrastinator I haven't changed a thing and Hubby is starting to bug me about it so I better get a move on! QUOTE (Ellsinlove @ Dec 11 2009, 02:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly, I'm so happy to read about the progress with your youngest & hubby! I really hope & pray things continue to improve this way. I also hope hubby can have a nice talk this evening with your oldest & maybe even breakthrough a little. If only that kid would come around....but at least hubby is really trying! YAY HIM! Thanks Ells I am praying on it too of course my Mom emailed me with some foolishness UGHHHH QUOTE (Shemmy @ Dec 11 2009, 03:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Today is Damien's birthday. I put a gift bag and a cake in his car while he was working. He always listen to music in his car during lunch. He was so surprised That is so sweet I doesn't it feel good when you do the little things to keep it spicy QUOTE (finesse @ Dec 11 2009, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> good God....mi back a kill mi...... Mine too but mi nuh carry twins I can only imagine girl yuh soon get home to a massage ! QUOTE (Shemmy @ Dec 11 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That's why I was so confused last weekend. We talked about it again last night...she's a great kid. We should be extremely thankful we don't have any issues out of her. He needs too loosened up some things. A guy asked her on a date last week. She put everything on her terms...she wanted to have a coffee date (walking distance so she didn't have to get into his car) so they can discuss film studies (two nerds) after school. I thought it was a good idea while Damien almost had a heart attack . They were home by 5. Plus she asked Damien her opinion because it meant a lot to her. I asked Damien how many teenagers would have done that??? WOW Shem you are right that is great that she confides in you both and I love that she controlled the terms of the date! Fabulous teen.	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 15:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> OMG!!!!!!!!!!! roger just tell me, he got the green card in the mail .. HOOORRAHHHHHHH this feels GREAT he is legit.. he is finally ----TECHNICALLY-- Legally--- here.. i don't know how to explain it.. it just all feels real now even tho ive had him here for 6 mnths.. i am so thankful today for finding vj 2years ago.. most of those ppl are gone, but i really wanna share how much this site has helped me, made me laugh, i really could not have done all this paperwork/relationship/drama and otherwise w/out the information and support.. i prolly would never have made it this far thank you Lord for VJ Congrats Q and Roger that is fabulous news!!!!! QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 02:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> already dillon!!!! we were already going out w/ some friends for a bday party, BUT everyone will think its OUR bday. i swear, we always taking over somebody event!! LOL thanks denswifey!!! thanks everyone.. i wish i was w/ him right now.. he actually used exclamation points on the email!!! he is so laid back, i wanna see what this looks like LOL LOL Q that's right Sis celebrate no harm in that!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 13:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 11 2009, 01:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly… Yayy one down and hopefully one more to go. I think your youngest might have been acting out to side with his brother. Maybe now he realizes that his step dad isn’t so bad after all. I think your oldest might still take some time. He might really feel like its him against the family but in time pray fully he will come around. I like that your hubby is trying to help and not just sitting back letting you deal with all of this. I’m sure it felt good playing the game with your son and we all know men can easily relax when they are on them games. Yes Dada finally a breakthrough! QUOTE (Shemmy @ Dec 11 2009, 01:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey VJ family...MsTee...that is great. My daughter and hubby also talk about boys and life. It's soo cute. She feels comfortable to talk to us about anything. I don't want that to ever change. Trying to catch up Hey Shem ( waving) that is great! I just bought some items, I will send you the pics QUOTE (*SunRay* @ Dec 11 2009, 01:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hey Yardies... I'm so far behind and I there's no way in hell I'm going to catch up now. Anyway, How is everyone doing on this awesome FRIDAY? Shemmy, what you going do girl, call me.... Hey Sunray hows it going ?	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 13:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hey everybody.. ms tee.. its not really that ells shouldn't be upset.. heck she should feel anyway she pleases like you said, and she should tell her husband how she feels about.. BUT, should those feelings be the deciding force in a mutual decision? i believe as a wife, we sometimes can use our feelings to manipulate our husbands to doing things WE want them to do, even UNKNOWINGLY.. NOT SAYING ELLS IS OR WOULD EVER DO THIS, this is esp easy to do w/ our husbands, men that are here away from everyone they know and love , and all he has is his wife (whom he loves as well LOL).. he will want to do what she wants, how she wants to make her happy and for life to be peaceful in the house.. this can cause problems down the line.. so i think what most of us are saying is she should take Lehi's feelings into consideration which she very well may be doing and try for both of them to come up with a solution together that BOTH his and her best interest in mind.. i hope ells or nobody else feels bad about things that are said, this is your venting spot and if it sparks a discussion, please don't take anything personal Thanks Q exactly QUOTE (DaDa @ Dec 11 2009, 12:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (phillyfashionista @ Dec 11 2009, 10:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok all caught up Hey DaDa, Dens Wifey, Chiney*Eyes, Jamerican Queen, mamajew Hey Philly!!!!! Hey girl, when yuh deh pon IM? QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 12:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> praying the transplant come soon dills ms tee and philly.. glad things are making a turn for the better.. Thanks Q 1 day at a time Sis God is good! QUOTE (finesse @ Dec 11 2009, 12:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hubby a cook and call me home fi lunch....soon come Cho! I have steamed veggies QUOTE (thisislove @ Dec 11 2009, 12:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> lucky you, im 30 min away, mi nuh even wan waste di gas fa no quickie!! LMAO yuh see it!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 12:00:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Chiney*Eyes @ Dec 11 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> wapen.....lef mi alone..mek mi chat..cause all a oonuh comeing like one bag a hypocrites That's what we have been missing Chiney! QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 11 2009, 12:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks Philly! Here is an update for you guys... He is out of ICU which is a good thing. He hasn't had to receive anymore blood and it seems that it has stopped. They found out that it isn't coming from the esophogus this time but rather the stomach. He has gone through A LOT of tests at the Mayo Clinic in Phoneix this past September to determine how serious the liver damage is and if he would need a transplant. It wasn't bad enough at that time so he was just on the standby list. However since this has happend they have moved him to the donor list and have been working with his insurance company regarding the transplant. Hope one come available for him and he gets one soon. Thanks for keeping him in your prayers the are working!!!! Dillon, I am praying that a transplant becomes available ASAP, so glad he is out of ICU! I have faith everything will be just fine! Are you going to visit?	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 11:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (mstee @ Dec 11 2009, 12:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Sounds good so far, you know us ladies here in the Yardie forum been sending them prayers out!!!! thanks Sis I need those prayers QUOTE (dillon @ Dec 11 2009, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Philly that is awesome...I hope the improvement continues and that your oldest comes around. I think sending him to Canada for Christmas break is a great idea. Have you booked his ticket yet? Hey Dills, I am praying that the improvement continues as well I can't manage any more of this stress.....I looking for tix now. We will send him then go and pick him up so I can spend time with my cuz too QUOTE (sus @ Dec 11 2009, 12:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> From my view point - not saying she doesn't have a right to be upset - But she has to allow her husband to make the decisions - To make him call his father back last night and tell him not to come is treating him like a child - I probably would have been annoyed to, and thought how ridiculous this is - But at the end of the day, my husband is a grown man and he has to make his choices - if he doesn't decide how much of a relationship he wants with his father, whatever - there is a potential that one day he could flip it and resent Ells for interfering, which would cause bigger problems down the road - We also don't know the full story of why his father didn't have contact for all those years - There could have been a zillion reasons why - including that possibly he tried and hubby's Mom blocked it - We can't place blame on the man when we don't know why - But ultimately, the decision needs to be up to her husband to decide how much of a relationship he wants with his father, and to speak up to his father for himself - He is a grown man - Sometimes our SO does something in a way we don't agree with - but they are grown - we have a right to share our concerns with them - We don't have a right to tell them what to do - they aren't our child. Well said Sus none of these issues are so straight forward we have to look at it from all angles QUOTE (sus @ Dec 11 2009, 12:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Nice post Dens -- I think sometimes (speaking for myself here) when we have seen SO much negative stuff / scams / pure phockery - it's easy to jump and see the bad possibilities = I pray and hope that it works out the best for you Philly, sounds like your kids (or at least one) and hubby are really trying - happy for you. Well said in regards to Dens post! Thanks Sus ( hugs)	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 11:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	Dillon, you were on my mind this morning. I prayed for you Father I hope he is on his way to recovery, stay strong Sis!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 11:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (finesse @ Dec 11 2009, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> that is so sweet! yuh husband a good man philly.....mi thankful for mine nuff times.....our boy pickney nuh easy.... Thanks Finesse he is such a good man I am so blessed. Say it again dem bwoys nuh easy at all! QUOTE (Dens Wifey @ Dec 11 2009, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hoping for the best for your family! thanks Den, I am praying hard on it!	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 11:16:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)	QUOTE (Dens Wifey @ Dec 11 2009, 12:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well I'm going to rock it like this...I'm grown and a big girl...I know what's what...at the end of the day, I will be okay no matter what...that's just how I'm built. I've prayed over the situation and given it a lot of thought. I love Den but was never so blinded by the love that I could not think reasonably and make a good decision. I think he is a very good man and he has been working himself crazy to do what he needs to do for his son. He is an excellent father...I can't say what the Mama will or will not do in the future, all I can do is handle myself and hold myself up to do what I need to do as a woman. If I do that, I will never go wrong. I'm going into this with the best intentions in the world. I'm keeping God as the head and everything else will be alright! Well said Den's I wish you the best of luck	phillyfashionista	Female	Jamaica	2009-12-11 11:14:00