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Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Hugglebuggles @ Oct 14 2009, 11:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I think you should just order it Starburst! When I went dress shopping I found the one I loved and bought it on the spot. No second guessing, no looking back, It was the dress and that is it! I didn't look at it for 5 months afterward and when I put it back on I remembered why I bought it, instantly. Sometimes you just need to trust your instincts. You ever watch the show, "Say Yes to the Dress?" How many women have bought a dress or put a down payment on one then came back to the store because they weren't sure about it anymore? It happens all the time. I don't think I've seen an episode where the girl ends up in a different dress then the one they originally bought. They always leave with the same one. Instincts! Actually.... LOL My dress experience was BAD initially... but the problem was that i listened to my friend and the sales lady (NEVER DO THAT), and THEY really loved the one of the dresses I tried on, but I was hesitant. I actually still even went to another store to check other dresses. Found one I adored, but couldn't afford. Went back to the original store and decided to put the downpayment on the dress anyways, cause they were freaking out that I hadn't bought the dress yet (little did I know that with Montreal being so ####### now, I actually had more time). Anyways... I ended up REALLY REALLY regretting it, and cried, and fought with my fiance about it, and my friend was feeling really guilty... lol and etc. etc... It was ridiculous. LOL BUT.. it's all ok now. I went back to the store... tried on more, and found one that I liked a lot better and ordered it! I'm NOW really happy with my decision, but wish I'd trusted myself to say NO to the dress. (moral of the story, trust your gut if it says yes.. and trust it if it says no) Edited by ashenflowers, 14 October 2009 - 10:34 PM.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-14 22:32:00
Canada	Wedding Details	well... you tried it on once and it was 'the one' right? Not to mention if you tried on other things, and still couldn't stop thinking about it... I'd trust your gut instincts	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-14 18:31:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Has anyone seen Ghosts of Girlfriends Past? The cake mishap in that movie is pretty awesome.... lol	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-13 18:51:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 12 2009, 02:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My fiance keeps talking to his mom about wedding stuff. I kind of told him last night I don't really want to talk about it due to it making me sad, but he doesn't really seem to get that. Must be nice that he can talk to his mom so freely and easily about it. And I'm still debating if I want make up or not. I have pimples, so I'll probably wear foundation, but I dont think I want to do everything. I've never worn make up in my life. I know what you mean... my fiance and his parents kept trying to come up with plans and ideas, and really, it was just frustrating. I asked him to stop, and to explain to his parents that we literally have NO IDEA when the wedding will be, so trying to make plans is futile. I haven't heard anything more about it since, so maybe they finally got it. My mom picked out the outfit she's going to wear though, and seems excited. I thought that was cute. lol and she found some jewelry that she thinks will look nice with my dress, so we're going to test that out when it comes in. At least that stuff doesn't have to depend on what day it is. It might be fun to put on a little bit of makeup, just for kicks. I don't normally wear any make up except for mascara and foundation, so it'll be weird for me too... though I do like to add some eye shadow or something if I go out. I'm going to see if I can find someone to do mine for cheap. or maybe my mom can do it. lol I dunno, we'll see.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-12 13:20:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Hey, June 19th is my parents and grandparents (mom's side) anniversary. I wanted that to be our wedding day too, so it could be a 3 generation thing, but the finacé wants our day to be "ours". lol	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-12 12:56:00
Canada	Wedding Details	minnew is a Mrs now!! aaaah!!!!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-10 23:00:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Wow! That sounds great!! Can't wait to see pics.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-10 10:55:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I hope you have a lovely day minnew!!!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-08 20:05:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Danu @ Oct 6 2009, 07:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Oct 6 2009, 05:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Danu @ Oct 6 2009, 05:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I know how you both feel, i just delete my wedding planner site emails, davids bridal and alfreds when they come cuz its like...ugh. Can't do anything, don't even want to think about it. Thankfully I should get to start planning in the new year. Glad you're one step closer now though Have you thought about a 'revised' date? Are you having 2 ceremonies? Yeah doing the civil "get my AOS stuff" wedding, and then a bigger ceremony maybe in March 2011? not sure exactly. I kinda wish I could just do a civil one with only my fiancé and myself, but then we had the idea to have our parents join us... and i thought it would still remain simple, but it's getting kinda silly. I feel like I still need to worry about things like flowers, and photographs, and BS like that. I just need to stop thinking about it. lol	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-06 19:14:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Danu @ Oct 6 2009, 05:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I know how you both feel, i just delete my wedding planner site emails, davids bridal and alfreds when they come cuz its like...ugh. Can't do anything, don't even want to think about it. Thankfully I should get to start planning in the new year. Glad you're one step closer now though Have you thought about a 'revised' date? Are you having 2 ceremonies?	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-06 16:54:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Yep, both. Thanks hon. Sucks though eh? I dislike the not knowing. I've actually done almost NO planning, and I have like 4 bridal magazines that I haven't bothered to look through cause I just get depressed knowing that I can't really do anything.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-06 16:46:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Can you remove mine from the list please, as we have NO f'ing clue when either one will be. Don't put unknown either, it's just depressing. lol	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-06 16:39:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 5 2009, 05:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Oct 5 2009, 05:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 5 2009, 04:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Peachey @ Oct 5 2009, 02:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Aw, I feel so special We have a staff exchange program going on with the Certified General Accountants of China and right now we have a girl named Yasmine over. I really like Yasmine, I showed her around town when she moved n stuff. I decided to invite her to my bridal shower (which is at the end of the month) and told her she didn't have to bring a gift. She just came into my office and told me she wants to buy me a traditional Chinese wedding dress for my shower. They're apparently not that expensive. She's so awesome I like those dresses. I'm thinking about getting one for the wedding dinner, since I'm marrying into a Chinese family Well, Taiwanese if you want to be technical. Ohhh... I'm sure they're technical... lol Hard to tell if they are or not. Not like I care, lol. LOL I guess it's no worse than calling people from Newfoundland Newfies	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-05 16:58:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 5 2009, 04:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Peachey @ Oct 5 2009, 02:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Aw, I feel so special We have a staff exchange program going on with the Certified General Accountants of China and right now we have a girl named Yasmine over. I really like Yasmine, I showed her around town when she moved n stuff. I decided to invite her to my bridal shower (which is at the end of the month) and told her she didn't have to bring a gift. She just came into my office and told me she wants to buy me a traditional Chinese wedding dress for my shower. They're apparently not that expensive. She's so awesome I like those dresses. I'm thinking about getting one for the wedding dinner, since I'm marrying into a Chinese family Well, Taiwanese if you want to be technical. Ohhh... I'm sure they're technical... lol	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-05 16:52:00
Canada	Wedding Details	oooh...... very pretty!!! I have a pic of mine, but it's not a very good pic... so I'm going to wait until I actually get it in since they had to order it.. then I'll get some proper ones	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-03 15:48:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 3 2009, 03:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Peachey @ Oct 3 2009, 09:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Rhiann, you should go to Kleinfelds. Sign up to be on the show, I would record it I've never heard of that place, I just had to look it up. And they don't have Alfred Angelo. I'm so set on that dress it's scary I'm sure you've put up a pic, but I have a hard time keeping track of who's is who's... lol What's it look like?	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-03 15:26:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I wish I had someone willing/able to buy/make my dress... but I just get to pay for it myself!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-02 22:41:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Danu @ Oct 2 2009, 10:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Oct 2 2009, 09:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Seriously? What's up with the rest of the world having NO clue how much weddings costs. My mom didn't want me to spend $400-500 on my dress either, and I think it's really cheap! Especially when I see people regularly spending 2, 3, 5, and 10 times that amount. I think that's really good... I can understand your mom wanting to see the actual dress before paying for it though. Especially something that important. And yes...count down to minnew!!! YAY! My mom's dress cost like $100 when she got married so she thought they were farily cheep....till I took her shopping lol yeaaaah... things aren't like they used to be!!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-02 21:17:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Oct 2 2009, 09:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It wasnt like she thought that the dress was too expensive, she just was afraid that she'd be spending all that money for nothing if my visa got denied... and even with a crummy POE denial in my record I doubt I will get denied. (Or so I hope, I'm still scared trying to POE and adjust status without knowing it was illegal will screw me over. I'm a worrywart. ) Oh ok... sorry... I thought your mom was just being like my mom,and my fiance, who thinks that I should just get a $100 or $200 dress at Sears or something So nice of your mom to be optimistic... haha omg... if someone told me not to bother getting a wedding dress in case I was denied, I'd probably cry	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-02 21:06:00
Canada	Wedding Details	HAHAHA OMG... I'm looking through that wedinator site now... haha omg that's horrible...	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-02 20:55:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Seriously? What's up with the rest of the world having NO clue how much weddings costs. My mom didn't want me to spend $400-500 on my dress either, and I think it's really cheap! Especially when I see people regularly spending 2, 3, 5, and 10 times that amount. I think that's really good... I can understand your mom wanting to see the actual dress before paying for it though. Especially something that important. And yes...count down to minnew!!! YAY!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-10-02 20:51:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Sep 26 2009, 05:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> A wedding show sounds like fun. Ugh, I still feel so helpless that everything wedding related is up in the air. It looks like fun to plan one, but I don't know what to do about my parents. I have absolutly no money, neither does my fiance so it's not like we can start planning things ourselves. I keep looking forward to my cake though, I keep getting really neat ideas from the books at work. The gum paste decorations are awful expensive though. I think it's almost 150 bucks just for the flowers and they're not even sprayed pink yet. Us neither Rhiann... no money, no plans, it's all up in the air for us too... it's frustrating. I didn't even know what to put down on information sheets when they ask when the wedding is. lol I just basically went for fun and to hang out with my mom doing wedding related somethingorother. haha I got alot of neat ideas though. AND I got a lot of free samples, including free cake and a pair of cute earrings!!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-26 19:42:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Hugglebuggles @ Sep 26 2009, 05:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Sep 26 2009, 07:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good to know re: the dress Huggles!! I'll have to remember that. How long did it take for the wrinkles to fall? Like 3 or 4 days? I was pretty surprised. Its a David's Bridal dress, so Its definitely not made of fine silk or anything, but whatever fabric it was made of was pretty winkle resistant. My husbands grandmother was worried that my dress would get all wrinkly on the way to the ceremony, since I had to change and then take the limo over in the dress. It got a couple wrinkles on it, but most of it just came out naturally. I'd try to hang it on its own... I heard about the shower thing too, that was going to be my backup plan! It might be worth a try. In my experiences, a lot of elderly people have steamers in their house, so maybe ask around? I went to a bridal show down here a few months after we were engaged, and it was actually quite disappointing, there wasn't anything really looking at. They also made me fill out a questionnaire before I went into the room, which included asking me for my e-mail. I didn't think anything of it... then the e-mails started coming. I literally received anywhere from 2-15 e-mails from wedding vendors a day. I've almost been married for 2 months now, and I'm still getting e-mails! I'd never go to anything like that again... Yeah, I expect to get a lot, so I have a wedding-specific email address, so at least I can ignore it if I want to! lol That's ALOT though... 2-15 a DAY... yikes. And can you believe you've almost been married for 2 months!! Time flies!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-26 16:37:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (minnew @ Sep 26 2009, 11:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ashenflowers @ Sep 26 2009, 07:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good to know re: the dress Huggles!! I'll have to remember that. How long did it take for the wrinkles to fall? Side note: I'm going to a Bridal Show today with my mom... kinda scared. lol Mostly because I know I'll have to explain over and over again why I'm not getting married in the area, and why I can't commit to anything, and don't exactly know my wedding date. I mean, I guess I can pretend I'm just freshly engaged and we haven't picked it yet, and lots of people do 'destination weddings'. I'm just such a bad liar. Anyone have any ideas on what I might be able to find that would actually be useful? I have been to bridal shows before, and was even in one's fashion show one time (fun!), but it's a whole different perspective this time around! I don't know if any of it will be useful! I'm bringing a big envelope to put a bunch of pamphlets and cards in so I can sort them out later... haha Also going to show my mom the dress, since the shop is just a few blocks from here She's only seen it in pics so far My advice about the bridal show, just keep the answers short and sweet! I also had to explain that I wasn't getting married in the area, so alot of the vendors could not apply to me. But I definitely got some ideas from the displays of flowers, centerpieces..etc etc. OH and stay until the end!! The bridal show I went to, there was prizes they drew for at the end! Almost every prize they drew for they had to draw 2 or 3 times...because the original winner had went home already and not there to claim the prize!! Some stuff you wouldn't be able to claim like a photography package, but maybe the honeymoon package!? Yeah, I explained to a lot of them that I won't be in the area, but technically we will have a reception later in the area so some stuff STILL might apply in the area? lol. I dunno. It was neat anyways It was fun to tell people that our ceremony is in California, cause a lot of them were excited... haha One girl was like OMG I LOVE SANTA BARBARA and then we on talking about stuff there, then she made me a sample of an espresso!! hahaha she was fun. We didn't stay to the end. We went right in the beginning so I could get free samples of stuff (including a free pair of earrings!)... I'm ok with missing out on some draws, because there's no way I wanted to stay there for 6 hours, and I know my mom wanted to get going home cause they had a 1 and a 1/2 hr drive and my dad likes getting home before dark Some of the other things were ones I had to put my contact info on for the draw, so I'm waiting for a barrage of phone calls or emails My mom ended up entering a couple draws too... one of them was at a financial planner/insurance place, and the guy there ended up being the nephew of the man who did my parent's insurance when they first got married over 35 yrs ago!!! Go figure! I have SO many pamphlets and stuff now... I had to succumb, finally, to organizing a wedding binder... haha	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-26 15:05:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Good to know re: the dress Huggles!! I'll have to remember that. How long did it take for the wrinkles to fall? Side note: I'm going to a Bridal Show today with my mom... kinda scared. lol Mostly because I know I'll have to explain over and over again why I'm not getting married in the area, and why I can't commit to anything, and don't exactly know my wedding date. I mean, I guess I can pretend I'm just freshly engaged and we haven't picked it yet, and lots of people do 'destination weddings'. I'm just such a bad liar. Anyone have any ideas on what I might be able to find that would actually be useful? I have been to bridal shows before, and was even in one's fashion show one time (fun!), but it's a whole different perspective this time around! I don't know if any of it will be useful! I'm bringing a big envelope to put a bunch of pamphlets and cards in so I can sort them out later... haha Also going to show my mom the dress, since the shop is just a few blocks from here She's only seen it in pics so far	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-26 08:40:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I really like the dresses too Nice choices! Also your Save The Dates crack me up.. those are adorable!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-25 22:28:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Omg is it really only 15 days?!? That's crazy!! Good luck with getting everything in order!!! =D	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-25 20:46:00
Canada	Wedding Details	QUOTE (Rhiann @ Sep 25 2009, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Trilliums would be AWESOME. They're such pretty flowers. Maybe you can see if someone makes fake ones? Oh. And did you know it's actually NOT illegal to pick them? Quoted from Wiki: "While it is a popular belief that it is illegal to pick the common Trillium grandiflorum (white trillium) in Ontario, in reality they are only protected in provincial parks and land owned by conservation authorities. However, the rare Trillium flexipes (drooping trillium) is protected by law in Ontario, because of its very small Canadian population." During trillium season, my parents' backyard gets covered with hundreds of them. It's an amazing sight. ah.. I guess I just thought about the 'drooping' ones. Now I'm curious to see the difference. *googles* Ok, from what I can tell, there isn't much difference, except that the flexipes seems to have thinner petals, but longer thingies in the middle. lol Of course, that all depends on if the people posting the photos were correct, but I tried to find ones that were in the majority. graiflorum: flexipes:	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-25 17:59:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Ok, I just typed out a huge rant about what I've seen re: the price of weddings (trust me, I'm not naive enough to think they're cheap.. I KNOW they're expensive, it just angers me a lot)... but I'll spare you all and blog it instead.. LOL I do think your bouquet is very pretty Huggles.... but with this package I mentioned, I can't even tell them what I want to do with it. Just what colour. I've seen examples, but I just don't like it at all. It's really not me. It might suit other people, but not me. I've seen nice rose bouquets, but not the examples of ones I saw with that package. sigh.. I dunno. Since I'm having no decor, the flowers are basically it for me... I honestly am trying not to be THAT picky, but I'm giving up so much control over this day, and compromising so much on what I was hoping for... I just want SOMETHING that can be mine... I JUST started really thinking about flowers recently, and even THAT seems like it's something I can't have any input on. So far nothing about this day is at all what I really really wanted. Not even the dress (I mean, I really like it, but it's not WOWZA... LOL) I plan to dry my flowers somehow, and keep them afterwards, so I don't want to always been looking at it as a reminder of the sacrifices I had to make cause I was too poor to afford better ones... LOL Same with the photos! I don't want to look back at them and be sad about having to cheap out. Maybe with the flowers I could buy a few 'extras' and customize the bouquet myself! Anyways... that's getting us back into the topic of do what makes us happy I guess. I really just want white flowers... either calla lilies, or tulips, or lily of the valley, or something like that. I've even seem some made just of baby's breath, and they're so cute! haha... the bridal shop saleswoman said my dress kinda made her think of a snow princess (lol! #######?), so baby's breath would be hilarious, cause they look like snow tipped flowers. I think it'd make a good contrast to the California beach Lily of the valley also look a little snow-tipped... and my parents had lily of the valley at their house so it'd be a nice piece of "home" (my parents just had to leave their house last month, after 20+ years, so I'm kinda depressed about that... I really loved that place a lot) I also think it'd be awesome to have trilliums, since my fiance and I are both actually from Ontario, but it's illegal to pick them Edited by ashenflowers, 25 September 2009 - 05:45 PM.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-25 17:44:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I found a 'package' online that includes a photographer, videographer, officiant and florist for only $775.... sounds awesome right? Considering our ceremony is just us 6, we don't want to splurge.... no. The photographer will only be there for one hour, and we only get 50 shots, the officiant would only let us 'semi' customize our ceremony... as in select from a little of prewritten vows, rather than write our own, and the flowers would HAVE to be roses all in one colour.... I DON'T want roses... they're fine for other people, but I don't don't don't want them.... lol If we want the photographer there for another hour we'd have to pay $125 for 30 portraits/posed family shots.... and if we want a fully customizable ceremony we'd have to pay $100... and there isn't even an option to get a flower other than roses... @!$%)(*!^&$~!!!!! Like, it just seems SILLY to spend $1000+ on a ceremony for the 6 of us... but I want GOOD photos, and we both want to write our own vows, and I don't want a bouquet I'll hate... UGH. I guess keep looking.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-25 06:30:00
Canada	Wedding Details	My parental situation is a bit interesting, because my fiance is an only child, and my brother, my only sibling was married overseas (before we even MET his wife), so we were not able to attend his wedding. So this is sort of the ONLY wedding that our 'immediate family', i.e. parents... will be involved with. My brother, sister in law, niece and nephew can't come to the ceremony since they're in Cambodia and it's too far, so it's just us and our parents. I think I've mentioned that... ANYWAYS... despite that, my parents are still taking more or less a back seat, and are very much the 'if you're happy we're happy' type, which is great.n They pretty much just want to help me move and show up. LOL I'm sure they'd like to be involved, and they are in small ways (my mom's coming with me to a bridal show this weekend, for example)... My future in laws are sort of like 'if you're happy we're happy', but also are the ones IN the area that we're getting married in, thus consider themselves experts on all the good spots, and are excited, and want to be involved and giving us ideas, and this and that and OMG I haven't even ASKED for any help from them. lol It's hard enough having our wedding turn into this immigration fiasco, but I can't even plan it myself really. I'm sorry... I really need to stop ranting... but I've been really feeling negative and depressed about this whole thing lately. In a nutshell, KnJ and Udella&Wiz both had some great words of wisdom in there. Parents will still love their sons and daughters if they move away, and won't let a little thing like this get in the way of their relationship with their children. It's easier to say that from outside of the situation though. Just remind your parents that you'll still always love them too, no matter how far you move, or how much of a headache they give you Edited by ashenflowers, 24 September 2009 - 04:53 PM.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-24 16:49:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Our problem is we can't afford ANYTHING... seriously. So we've had a lot of arguments about who's going to pay for what, and where we're going to cut more corners... it makes me sad	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-24 11:23:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I'm starting to get really irritated with my fiancé and the wedding planning, or lack thereof. It's just a lot of stupid little things... mostly his parents sticking their nose in, and not realizing what we can /can't prepare right now, and also his naivety and lack of knowledge about the whole thing. There's a lot to it, but currently it's a discussion about keeping costs down (Hello... it's us and our parents on a BEACH.. #######.. I'd say we're already going pretty cheapo), and his parents suggested reserving a beach. Are you kidding?? Reserve a BEACH.... for SIX PEOPLE?! It would make sense if we had to set up chairs, and an archway, and aisle, and had 50+ guests, but we don't. We have NONE of that. It's us, or parents, our officiant, and hopefully a photographer. Done and done. Not to mention I'm sure reserving it costs something, if you can even DO that, plus we don't even know when the wedding will be! Like, I'm at the point where I just don't even want to plan anything AT ALL, because it just makes it into a huge ordeal and we can't move forward without knowing when the ceremony will be. I was perfectly content with something for just the 2 of us... no planning, just go and get 'er done.... lol Then plan a bigger thing later when we can afford it and have time. This is becoming a nightmare already, even with just a few other people involved. This isn't even supposed to be a 'big' thing! Simple. Us. Beach. Done. But now I just feel like I'm planning a huge wedding in a small scale. I didn't want to do that!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-23 23:51:00
Canada	Wedding Details	Unfortunately, I think 90% of us have to deal with some things not working out for our wedding days the way we want them too. I'm struggling with accepting that it's very probable that I won't get the wedding date that I want (have I mentioned that? lol)... I still firmly believe you should stick up for what will make you happy in this event though. We have to go through so much ####### that 'normal' couples don't need to go through. If there's ANY way for us to hold on to SOME sort of control over 'the happiest day of our lives' we need to hold on fast. Do you parents insist on having 'everyone' there for your signing? Do they think having another ceremony for friends in May is a bad idea? There will have to be some compromise, as I'm sure you've realized...lol But it becomes a horrible thing if the parents end up taking over the wedding day. I've never heard that ANYTHING good has come of that! And the problem isn't even that your mom is trying to be over helpful and shove her nose in with advice... she's just being stubborn!!	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-23 23:03:00
Canada	Wedding Details	I'm in SoCal too!! HOLLAAAHH! We should definitely think about doing a SoCal meet up, once we can all get settled? So maybe like.. next summer? LOL	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2009-09-23 21:07:00
Canada	Is it just me, or is this kind of overwhelming?	I have to be honest... other than the fact that K-1 was like a 3 step process, and AOS isn't mostly... I didn't find AOS any easier than K-1. Maybe it was just all the B.S. that we had to go through in our particular situation (I won't bother with the details again). We had a lot of extra headaches to go through, and we didn't even have an interview. lol But I got my green card about 5 months after sending it in, so I guess it's not that bad. I dunno... either way, don't worry about it until after the wedding. And good luck! Edited by ashenflowers, 08 September 2010 - 12:47 PM.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2010-09-08 12:47:00
Canada	AOS Question	You just need them to transcribe your vaccinations, not a whole new medical unless yours was over a year ago. Or if they lose your original medical ppwrk...	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2010-09-12 13:20:00
Canada	I live! Sort of.	Cool! Wow, las vegas. That's different. lol Good luck!! Are you on FB?	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2010-09-12 14:57:00
Canada	Employment Help	Is that supposed to be a stripper pole Rob? I'd agree about Craiglist, it's fast, but you know it's current... and it's constantly updating new jobs so that's nice. I haven't checked out our state's job website yet, but might do that soon. Technically I have a part time job, but I don't know what sort of hours I'll be getting (only 2 hrs this week so far, for example... lol). So it's ok for some extra spending cash, but not for reliable income. My husband ending up finding his job through the temp agency, and he's trying to push me to go through them. lol But I'm hesitant because I can't see them actually having any good, interesting jobs that don't involve sitting in an office/cubicle all day.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2010-09-02 19:41:00
Canada	Employment Help	Hi. Lots of people (me included) are looking for new jobs in our new homes after finally receiving EAD. It's not fun. It's bled into the Vent thread (obviously!), so as suggested, here's its own topic. I figured I might as well start it since as some of you know, for the first 5 and a 1/2 months after I moved here, both my husband AND myself were unemployed because he lost his job the day after I got here. Yeah, that was fun. Not. Anyway, I digress... Please share anything you want about the fun trials and tribulations of job hunting. Interview tips/stories, who's hiring where, did you get a job (let us congratulate you), how are you conducting your job search (online? door to door? etc), and so on... Please be kind, and realize that this is often one of the most difficult things about moving to a new place. We're all in different financial positions (some are more desperate for a job than others!), so keep that in mind too. Aaaannnnnd go (and good luck!). (p.s... this is NOT an 'Employment Insurance' help thread. We already have one of those!) Edited by ashenflowers, 02 September 2010 - 05:00 PM.	ashenflowers	Female	Canada	2010-09-02 16:56:00