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I think that's rude of her Peachey... I ran into some issues with money discussions as well, when we were originally planning to have a reception next year, and money was tiiiiiight. My fiance's parents are from the 'traditional' frame of mine where the bride's family pays for the reception... He was offering to pay for our ceremony 100%, but uh... on the beach, with us and 4 guests? That's hardly breaking the bank... I didn't even ask him to contribute to that. and not to downtalk my family, but his makes way more money than mine, guaranteed. His parents wouldn't give me an amount that they were willing to contribute until they heard what my parents were willing to contribute, as if that was some factor in what he was willing to give us. My parents are going through some really hard financial times right now, and just had to give up the house they've been living in for over 20 years, sooooo, I didn't really think that was fair... Some traditions really REALLY need to be brought into the 21st century...
Personally I think it should be based more on who's got more disposable income available to contribute.
Long story short, we decided to put off the 'reception' for a year.... sigh.
well, until one of my friends magically remembered that her parents have a great back yard that they might be willing to contribute in exchange for some gardening work LOL So the reception might be back on? I don't f'ing know... LOL
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ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-17 19:39:00
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lol!! great accessories minnew!! And, that sounds like an interesting party!! blink.gif lol

I went out this weekend, and saw no less than THREE girls out for their bachelorettes! Crazy!
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-14 20:21:00
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Lovely pics huggles!! I too love your umbrella!! Super cute!! I love the pic of you and the girls in the background. And yeah, beautiful scenery! smile.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-14 17:18:00
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OMG.... OMG... Have you guys seen this?!?! HAHA OMG. I don't know if I want to laugh or scream!!


ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 16:53:00
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but can't think of anywhere in the US that I'd want to go before I get my AP to travel elsewhere. lol

Oh! Speaking of which! On your website it had a poll. I wanted to say that a train trip across Canada would be totally awesome! But maybe as a 10 year anniversary trip or something. For a honemoon I would absolutely recommend Europe. good.gif


haha cool biggrin.gif Thanks! I'd love to go to Europe. i'm hoping we can make it work, even if it's a slightly delayed honeymoon. lol

As for appliances... are any of you familiar with Pampered Chef?!?! Well, they do 'gadgets' and cookware I'd say, more than appliances, but MAN their stuff rocks!! I heart.gif their can opener! laughing.gif


I voted for Europe too! While a train trip would be beautiful, probably not that romantic... have you seen the sleeper cars!? laughing.gif


LOL Well.. I've never traveled across Canada, so that's why I put that in. Plus it'd be heeeellla cheaper than Europe sad.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 14:53:00
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As for appliances... are any of you familiar with Pampered Chef?!?! Well, they do 'gadgets' and cookware I'd say, more than appliances, but MAN their stuff rocks!! I heart.gif their can opener! laughing.gif

I have a few things from them! SOOOOOOOOO expensive. Which is why I only have a few. laughing.gif But their pop can opener.... I love it! I want to get one for my Mom. Are you talking about a regular can opener or the pop can opener?

This is the one I'm talking about: Easy Opener.


yeah, they are really expensive sad.gif 2 of my aunts used to sell it.. which was bad for me.. LOL

i'm talking about this one https://www.pampered.....ds=can opener heart.gif
It cuts it just under the ridge of the top of the can along the side, instead of within the top, so that you can use the cut off part as a lid after... uh.. if that even make sense. LOL Either way :thumb:!!

I don't have the can opener that you linked too, but I'm developing carpel tunnel I think, so I should... lol I do have the jar opener though.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 14:09:00
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but can't think of anywhere in the US that I'd want to go before I get my AP to travel elsewhere. lol

Oh! Speaking of which! On your website it had a poll. I wanted to say that a train trip across Canada would be totally awesome! But maybe as a 10 year anniversary trip or something. For a honemoon I would absolutely recommend Europe. good.gif


haha cool biggrin.gif Thanks! I'd love to go to Europe. i'm hoping we can make it work, even if it's a slightly delayed honeymoon. lol

As for appliances... are any of you familiar with Pampered Chef?!?! Well, they do 'gadgets' and cookware I'd say, more than appliances, but MAN their stuff rocks!! I heart.gif their can opener! laughing.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 13:54:00
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Thanks for the tips and ideas everyone smile.gif

I don't want any gifts even though we'll need stuff for the house... I don't want people from Canada to send anything with me when I move (already hard enough packing my own stuff in! lol) or having to pay to ship things to us. A friend of mine suggested registering on Amazon? Apparently you can do that, or register for gift cards or something... then we can order what we want. I was also thinking about doing that honeymoon registry thing that i've seen, but can't think of anywhere in the US that I'd want to go before I get my AP to travel elsewhere. lol
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 13:41:00
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Speaking of the cash thing... I don't know what to do about wedding gifts... I mean, I can't ask people for anything, and would be guilty getting anything from people, since our wedding is so small... but sometimes people hear someone's getting married and close friends/relatives want to give stuff anyways, even if they're not invited, right? I don't know how to handle that... I mean, right now we're hoping to have a renewal of vows or something like that in 2011 for everyone to go to, but by then we might change our mind... lol

(btw, I found out that my fiancé's camera, which we used for the underwater shot on the website, is the Olympyus Stylus 850 SW: http://www.olympusam...sp?product=1365 ) smile.gif

Edited by ashenflowers, 10 September 2009 - 01:15 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 13:12:00
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I think it was posted here some where a while ago, but did you guys hear about the couple who ended up with a couple DOZEN toasters, sort of as a joke/prank because they asked for cash and had they didn't want to end up with a million toasters? LOL
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 10:10:00
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QUOTE (Danu @ Sep 9 2009, 11:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
laughing.gif feel free to steal it biggrin.gif I love that its partially up so I won't be so hot, and its more formal but not like...prom formal...if that makes sense.


laughing.gif yes, I know what you mean.


OH... I finally made a wedding website, btw! It's pretty simple since we're not having a wedding party, and don't need RSVPs at this ceremony. lol But if anyone wants to check it out it's http://www.ewedding.com/sites/daphdan
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(head's up, there's background music... LOL)

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-10 00:46:00
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I really do like that style Danu. I might actually do something similar for me. I want mine mostly down (my hair is straight and kinda flat LOL but i still look better with my hair down), but my fiance wants me to treat myself and make it look really nice.. hahah I think that style is a good compromise smile.gif Plus I love the flowers as well
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-09 22:32:00
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I think I am a little behind the times..lol what is the difference between the Save the Date cards and the invitations?


From my understanding (having not sent either) Save the Dates are sent well in advance of the wedding (6-12 months or so)... I think some people use it sort of as an engagement announcement as well... but it's usually sent to people you intend to officially invite later. I guess people do it mostly as what it sounds... 'save the date', as in don't plan any vacations or other stuff on that day cause we're getting married! lol Then the invitation is the official thing that you send to people within a few weeks or months of the wedding, with all the info about where/when the ceremony/reception is. smile.gif

ok thanks for explaining..


Gladly. It gave me something to think about other than this darn Packet 3 laughing.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-06 22:10:00
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QUOTE (Marilyn. @ Sep 6 2009, 10:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think I am a little behind the times..lol what is the difference between the Save the Date cards and the invitations?


From my understanding (having not sent either) Save the Dates are sent well in advance of the wedding (6-12 months or so)... I think some people use it sort of as an engagement announcement as well... but it's usually sent to people you intend to officially invite later. I guess people do it mostly as what it sounds... 'save the date', as in don't plan any vacations or other stuff on that day cause we're getting married! lol Then the invitation is the official thing that you send to people within a few weeks or months of the wedding, with all the info about where/when the ceremony/reception is. smile.gif

Edited by ashenflowers, 06 September 2009 - 09:58 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-09-06 21:57:00
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Sorry to hear you're postponing your big celebration Danu... We've decided to do the same thing though. lol. We are going to have our celebration in Canada in 2011 now, instead of 2010. It just was too much to deal with at the same time as moving and immigration, and we can barely afford that, so we were really cutting corners on our reception plans and it was bothering me. So we're going to do a renewal of vows so friends/family can have a little ceremony to view themselves, then we'll do a reception afterwards. Then we'll have time to save up, and really think about what we want to do. I don't really like having to do everything myself, and that's how it was getting!

Even now, I'm currently in California visiting my fiance, and we haven't accomplished anything wedding related, except a possibly ceremony site. sad.gif I leave in a week to go back to Canada, and we probably won't be any further ahead in planning! We don't have a photographer, haven't looked at wedding rings, haven't shopped with him to give him an idea of what to wear, haven't found an officiant.... blah I think I'm going to end up moving only about 10-12 days before the ceremony too, so it's gonna feel rushy!

Edited by ashenflowers, 28 August 2009 - 08:15 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-28 20:15:00
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QUOTE (Rhiann @ Aug 13 2009, 03:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I said to someone online earlier "THAT BURGER HAD A MOTHER ONCE."

Haha. But my mom really got serious and scary when I said to her "It's just a freaking piece of paper." So I think I'm doomed for her to at least be there during the signing of the "freaking piece of paper". laughing.gif


lol yeah...
I don't think the problem is having her there for the freaking piece of paper signing, it's the making you have a big ceremony thing. Can she just have a 'little' ceremony with you guys, and then you have a bigger ceremony and reception in May?
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-13 23:44:00
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QUOTE (JillA @ Aug 13 2009, 03:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Tell her potatoes come from the ground, so you'll eat as many potato chips as you want laughing.gif (that's what I'd say, LOL) chips are my weak spot tongue.gif


lol nice one! If that's the case, I'd say something like chocolate comes from cocoa! wink.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-13 14:37:00
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QUOTE (Rhiann @ Aug 13 2009, 03:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks, everyone. That makes me feel a bit better at least.

And I've told my mom, she can come for the signing if she wants, but I still want the ceremony in May.
She keeps insisting that the actual wedding ceremony be with the signing of the certificate.
Ugh, I guess I'll see how that happens.

And my mom's trying to lose weight herself, so I guess she's pushing me to do it too.
She's been pushing me to lose weight for years.
"You should only be eating foods that come straight from the ground or have mothers." is what she said today. Oi.


That sucks... tell your mom it's not her decision!!! And it's just a piece of paper that due to this stupid process you don't have the luxury and flexibility of signing when you really want to! You don't want your anniversary date tainted for the rest of your life. sad.gif Me, I NEVER wanted a January wedding! laughing.gif But I'm ok with my anniversary being 1-10-10 because I'm a dork and think it looks cool laughing.gif But if you really want your May 15, 2010 date, then do it! Your mom will understand if she knows how much it means to you. It's not going to put bad luck on your marriage if you don't have the big ceremony when you sign the papers. What if you made up some other paper, or some written vows to each other? Something else that you could sign in May too?

Edited by ashenflowers, 13 August 2009 - 02:25 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-13 14:24:00
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QUOTE (Rhiann @ Aug 13 2009, 02:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love your cake and your dress!
I love the dress straps in particular.


And... well. I guess I'm going to have to give up on my wanted wedding date, a date that actually meant something to us.
My mom pretty much has put her foot down and told me that they have to be there for the signing of the certificate, since it's the actual marriage. I hate how traditional my parents are, and I'll probably be stuck with a February wedding, or January.

It really doesn't help that my mom told me how fat I was today and that I need to lose weight for a February wedding. "You're not going to order a wedding dress in the size you are now, are you?"
I'm only 190lbs mad.gif


#######!??! That's so rude!! Both on being so stubborn about your date, AND about the weight thing. I weigh more than you, and thank god my parents haven't said anything. They struggle with their weight too though, so I think realize how hard it is.
I can somewhat understand your parents wanting to be there. Have you thought about just having the civil signing ceremony with just you guys and your parents? That's what we're doing. And still having another thing later on for extended family and friends. That way your parents can be there, but you can also have your own big 'wedding' on the day that you want it, in May. smile.gif


Oh... and Huggles... OMG!!! *squee* Your wedding looks like it was in a beautiful location! I know you posted about it before, but even just this little hint of pics is great! And I love your cake, and the topper. smile.gif

Edited by ashenflowers, 13 August 2009 - 02:13 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-13 14:11:00
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Yeah it's a fine line I guess.... I mean my Dad is contributing to the wedding in different ways, so I am inviting some of his friends and that I don't mind.... it's just my cousins that I personally dislike as people and they didn't invite me to their wedding.... I don't want to waste the postage LOL!

if it were me I wouldn't invite them.. why have people at your wedding you don't get along with... it is your day..



Agreed... ultimately the purpose is to share your wedding celebration with people that YOU want to spend it with. I really think it becomes too much about etiquette and loses the real meaning. It is tough with big families, and there are lines that once you cross into that realm of the family tree, suddenly you're looking at 10 more guests instead of 2-4... I guess it depends on how much you like or dislike them, want or don't want them there, and how much you can (or can't!) spend on feeding them. laughing.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-12 18:57:00
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eep... been absent a bit.. missed a lot! Congrats Huggles and July!! I'm so excited for you both, and July your pics are lovely!! smile.gif I love your cake! And how cute is your flower girl?? laughing.gif Huggles, I'm pretty certain that I will be crying too... LOL I AM emotional, thus, am doomed.


I'm doomed too laughing.gif


OMG 60 DAYS!!! AHHHH!! Still so much to do!

I am going to be an utter mess during the ceremony. I keep reading over the ceremony that the pastor emailed to us and I break down crying when it comes time to read the vows. Even the scripture makes me tear up! I told my fiance about how I will be crying most likely, and he's like well sheesh if you really don't want to marry me, you don't have to...and does his whole impression of a baby crying.... laughing.gif (He does alot of cute impressions) I love his sarcasm somedays! wacko.gif laughing.gif


LOL! This makes me wonder.. what would be worse? Breaking down crying, or breaking down in a fit of uncontrollable giggles. I can just imagine your fiance up there at the aisle doing a fake baby cry, and you breaking out in giggles so bad you can't talk.... laughing.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-11 19:40:00
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eep... been absent a bit.. missed a lot! Congrats Huggles and July!! I'm so excited for you both, and July your pics are lovely!! smile.gif I love your cake! And how cute is your flower girl?? laughing.gif Huggles, I'm pretty certain that I will be crying too... LOL I AM emotional, thus, am doomed.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-08-11 15:09:00
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I'm impatient and curious, so I figure it people send me stuff early, they really should know better tongue.gif LOL!

I'd probably have my fiance hide them on me though, so I wasn't tempted... blush.gif

And welcome Jennarationnext!! smile.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-30 15:41:00
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QUOTE (Ian and Lisa @ Jul 28 2009, 08:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There is a vent thread? smile.gif

I think sometimes you just have to go with what you can, and not worry so much about the dress. You'll be beautiful!


Thank you smile.gif smile.gif smile.gif
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And thanks for the website tips! I think I checked out theknot, but don't remember, so I'll look again. LOL I also looked at ewedding.com which has cute templates, but the 'free' features seemed limited. I'm so cheap, and picky! It's a bad combo.

And OMG Huggle! You're so close!! You're getting married on the same day I'm leaving to visit my fiance! haha!! We're both counting down to something pretty awesome, except you win by a mile. Can't wait for pics!
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-28 20:20:00
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Oh, I've also been wanting to ask... does anyone have a wedding website? Did I ask this already? I can't even remember. lol I'm trying to find a good host, but there are so many. I want a free one, and I found a great one that has TONS of features, but crappy template designs (www.weddingannouncer.com). Go figure sad.gif

Edited by ashenflowers, 27 July 2009 - 11:49 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-27 23:49:00
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I'm back! lol I went out of town for the rest of the weekend with my family (mom, dad, brother, sister in law, niece and nephew). It was really fun. We went to Niagara Falls. Sad that the fiance couldn't be there, since this is the last family vacation we'll have for YEARS, literally) but I kept him connected anyways via txt msgs once in a while. lol

Anyways, I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who had some tips and support re: my dress situation. lol I'm sure it will all work out eventually... hopefully without too much compromise and wasted funds. The deposit I put down wasn't A LOT, but 'a lot' is relative. It's still a lot to me, since I can't really afford to spare much change.. speaking of which, I'm unfortunately not in a position to save extra money for it (even a small amount like that... any savings are being spent on taking this leave of absence next month, and also on immigration and moving expenses), but am also glad now that my mom wasn't with me laughing.gif She even thinks that my original budget is too much (which was like.... REALLY LOW let's just say), so she would've been more cheap than me and probably had me shopping at Walmart for a dress... protest6wz.gif (I was looking for a little emoticon guy that was puking, but couldn't find it so this is close enough. LOL) She also didn't seem overly eager to come with, which was kinda disappointing actually. So i'll just keep shopping with my friend, because she's super excited. I could shop in the US when I'm visiting my fiance I guess. That's a good idea, if for no other reason than it would allow him to see what I'm up against here. laughing.gif

Also.. I want to clarify that I AM getting some support from my fiance, and we had a long chat about things, and he understands why I am frustrated. When I wrote those 2 original posts about this I was REALLY upset, to the point of tears, and angry and stressed and wasn't feeling the love. lol But we're fine... I've been dealing with a lot of things all at once lately, and he's worried that I'm taking on too much, and that I really could've used the money elsewhere. oh well. Apparently he also has some surprises for me when I am visiting him next month (omg it's actually next week!!!!) so we'll see what that means. I really don't like surprises... but he seems excited. lol


I'm glad you guys are bringing up the topic of wording of Save the Dates and what not... I've been wondering what to do about that too, since our reception is 6 months after the wedding and we're not having another ceremony. Just a reception.

Edited by ashenflowers, 27 July 2009 - 11:47 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-27 23:44:00
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QUOTE (Hugglebuggles @ Jul 26 2009, 01:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry about your crappy experience Ashen! But think of it this way... January is still a long time away, it really is. This is your first time shopping, and just with 1 friend, so naturally its going to be hard to make a decision when you're just getting your feet wet. Some shops make you order your dress in advance, but a lot of places also sell their floor models right off the rack, and places like David's Bridal for example have enough selection in different sizes that you can just walk out with it. I bought my dress at David's Bridal and I could have walked out with it that day if I really wanted. It fit perfectly and needed no alterations, aside from the bustle and a little sleeve adjustment.

Its weird to say, but a dress is like a prospective husband... when you find "the one" you really just know! I almost bought a dress I liked, but didn't love, then I found the one I'll be wearing on my wedding day and it was game over. It was just perfect for me and I knew it. What kind of deposit did you put on that other dress? Is it small enough that you could walk away if you really want? Also, dress stores get new stock in constantly, so maybe you should just go on your vacation, try not to worry about it then try on some other things when you get back. You might have a fresh perspective.

In the meantime, why not try some places while you're visiting your fiance in the US? I ended up doing this because a. there is more selection, b. things are cheaper and c. I wouldn't need to worry about shipping the darn thing down for the wedding. I went with his mom and grandmother and although I was sad my mom couldn't be there, I took some pictures and showed her before I made my final decision. If it was me and I was really unhappy with the dress I picked and the other dresses at that store, I'd just walk away and cut my loses. I know that weddings are expensive and staying in a budget is important, but if you're unhappy with the way you look then... well that's not cool at all!

Good luck! Have some fun on your vacation. Looking at reception sites was a fun experience for me, so hopefully things go well!



There isn't a David's Bridal in London unfortunately, so I'd have to trek to Toronto. It's only about 2 hours, but that just makes a huge ordeal out of it, plus it adds the cost of paying for gas, and paying for food while there, etc. The dress I put the deposit on was a floor model off the rack. Unfortunately, I do not have a body that is 'fit' (no pun intended) for something to work without alteration... But the other floor ones are the ones I think I will go back and have a look at, because I'm sure they will have different ones later. I will go there with my mom next time I think. When i'm on vacation, I'll be completely alone there, other than my fiance. His parents will be out of town. sad.gif I don't know anyone else in the area, except his boss. lol Plus, I'd have to store it down there at his parents house, and he'd see it. blah.

The problem was that I didn't want to spend more than $300 on the dress... we only have about $6000 to spend on this wedding... seriously sad.gif So going over budget is a HUGE deal, cause it's so hard already... I'm spending twice as much on this dress than I wanted to... and it's the cheap one!! The deposit is only $100, which isn't a lot, but... it is to me. Unfortunately the REALLY cheap, simple dresses that just kinda hang there, like the one I saw online, look like #######. sad.gif The reception sites are a bit frustrating so far. I think just because my fiance is not here with me, and because I want something outside, but also don't want to be forced to choose from a specific catered menu, so it's been hard to find a nice match.

Anyways... thanks for the tips. smile.gif I'm just really frustrated, and this whole wedding planning thing has been completely ###### so far, so I'm getting really discouraged, and haven't really been getting any support from my fiance, which sucks sad.gif

Edited by ashenflowers, 26 July 2009 - 12:46 AM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-26 00:44:00
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oh, and I forgot to mention, that next Wednesday I'm also going to try to meet with someone about a reception venue... and Friday I'm going to a going-away party for an acquaintance moving to Korea next month, and Saturday is a going away bbq for my brother and his family who are moving to Cambodia next month. sigh.


Also... my mom wasn't with me when I was dress shopping.... That made me really really sad... sad.gif

I think I'm going to end up going back to the store that I made the deposit at, and asking them if I can try on dresses again. They have a HUGE selection... so I think I am going to just take my chances and try on some other stuff and see what I can find. Worst case scenario is that I'll just find another one that I love that's way too expensive, or I'll either decide again that I really like the one that I DID pick, or else I'll end up finding a better deal on one I like more! The ladies were really nice there at least, and I certainly don't REALLY mind being "stuck" buying from them now that I put a deposit down. I still wish I hadn't now, but whatever...

Can I just add that I think it's absolute BS that we have to do this ####### so far in advance?! I mean really? January is still kinda far away.. yeah it'll go fast, but I really should not feel like I HAVE to pick a dress now.
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-25 23:26:00
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so... went dress shopping today... My friend wanted to go with me, and was more excited than me I think. Anyways.... We went to one shop, and i found NOTHING... everything just wasn't right, and looked like #######... then we went to another one... they kept bringing over more and more dresses... I could only fit into about 2/3 of them (I'm plus sized)... most of them looked ... just.... yuck.
But then... I found one that I liked, and it looked great... of course it's too pricey.... found another one that I liked... it was ok... looked great on me... everyone else liked it... I thought I liked it. It was a little over budget, but it was on sale (i.e. 'clearance rack'), and the lady at the shop even said she'd give me an additional $200 off, which I thought was very nice of her.
I decide ok.. yeah this is the one.. it's nice, looks good, cheapish ($399... but with alterations and tax on top... blah... was still over budget for me, but at least not as much, and didn't look like complete ######).

Anyways... It's getting to be about an hour before closing time, and I need to make a deposit if I want this dress (considering it's the LAST ONE, I knew that I had to decide kinda fast, cause otherwise with me moving and going on vacation, it'd probably be a month or more before I can get back to the store to try again).... but I know there's another bridal shop down the street so I want to rush there first. Had to go to the bank anyways to take money out of my savings to put the deposit on the dress... So we go to the other shop... I find a dress that I REALLY like... REALLY... I was excited about it (the sales ladies weren't as excited though, cause I caught them at the end of the day, and unfortunately that was a bit of a let down)... and my friend wasn't as excited, but admitted it wasn't her decision, and she really DID like the one that I liked, but liked the other one better (follow? LOL)... anyways even though it was in a really great style, looked nice, flattering, really quite a beautiful dress.. It was $240 more expensive than the one I had decided on at the other store. crying.gif So I had to say no to 'the' dress... and settled for 2nd or 3rd place...

And I had to put down a deposit on the cheaper dress at the other store... because in a week and a 1/2 I'm leaving for a month, and every one was freaking out that it was only 6 months to January as is... so I was like great, if I leave this for another month and a 1/2 later I'm essentially more screwed than I already am, since apparently dresses take 6-8 months to come in. So I REALLY felt pressured, by time constraints, and financial constraints, and I'm settling for a dress that my heart is 'CONTENT' with, but not OVER JOYED with.... And then my fiance freaked out on me for putting a deposit down if I a) didn't overly love the dress, and cool.gif can't afford it right now anyways... I tried to explain to him that I spent three hours looking, which isn't a LONG time, but still... I don't really want to waste money driving up to Toronto to look... don't really want to order online... am apparently running out of time ALREADY... he was angry that I didn't just ask the store to hold it for a day without deposit so I could think about it... I told him they're closed tomorrow. So he says Monday. I say I'm going out of town and won't be back until after they're closed. Tuesday he says... I say I'm meeting with someone after work to see if they can watch my cat next month while I'm gone.. Wednesday, I'm packing, Thursday I'm moving.. suddenly we're at about a week later. So yeah, they can't just 'hold' it for a week without some sort of deposit. And he's upset that I didn't let him in on the situation before making a decision. I tell him most women don't call their husbands while they're trying on dresses to ask him if it's ok. And I'm sorry? But Mr. Dual Citizen isn't HERE when he could EASILY just come back to Canada and we could be together through this whole process of wedding planning and immigration instead of 2,500 miles apart... so screw him.

so yeah... that was my crappy wedding dress shopping experience... sad.gif

I mean, don't get me wrong... the one that I picked is really nice, but it doesn't feel like ME. I started second guessing myself when I looked back at the pics that we snuck in the change room LOL I was like 'oh... hmmph, I don't think I like it anymore'. sad.gif

On the plus side, apparently I can use my deposit on any dress in the store if I decide to change my mind. But again, I'm leaving for a month, so when I get back they'll freak out more on me if they have to order stuff, then I likely won't get the dress in time.. OR I'll just have to shop off the sales rack still as well. This blows. Of course the dress I WANT is at a different store than the one I put the deposit at...


wow, I should totally put this in the Vent thread... wacko.gif
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-25 23:12:00
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QUOTE (Hugglebuggles @ Jul 24 2009, 12:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (minnew @ Jul 23 2009, 05:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I was tearing up and laughing at the same time too during that processional video! So awesome!

My future MIL would be so mortified if we did something like that, I think so would my mom and dad. I don't think I could convince my fiance to do something like that. He is a bit more traditional than I am. I don't even think I could convince him to do the funny first dance, I don't think I could do it because I would be way too nervous and well he is a better dancer than me, I am not at all coordinated!! He at least knows how to follow steps for the electric slide! laughing.gif


I was just thinking the EXACT same thing! laughing.gif Everyone would be mortified, and my fiance would look at me like I was completely insane if I ever brought it up. The funny thing is that he's actually a really goofy and fun guy, but if you ask him to do something in front of a group of people like that? It just wouldn't fly. That and there are a couple members of the wedding party I couldn't see doing it. Neither one of us can dance at all! We thought about taking some dance lessons but the idea was abandoned.


lol yeah that's basically the same boat I'm in... my fiance is funny and goofy, but only with me and close friends in a SMALL group... not like that. no way... lol
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-24 23:44:00
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OMG minnew that video was AMAZING!! I was totally laughing.gif and crying.gif too! haha! I would TOTALLY do that, but my fiance really wouldn't, and well, we reeeally don't have that many people we could put in our bridal party! HAHA wow... just... insane!!


We want to do a montage for our first song too, but not sure what. I don't know how much my fiance will do because he claims he can't dance... LOL I actually have a cousin who rents out inflatable party supplies (like those bouncey things for kids), and they happen to have sumo outfits... umm.. yeah we might actually do Kung Fu Fighting in sumo outfits for our first dance rofl.gif I'm actually totally serious... LOL
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-23 17:55:00
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a few things to catch up on! lol

1) I'm so glad someone pointed out that July wasn't in Hawaii yet, cause one of my thoughts about the rocket on I-275 was 'hey, isn't she in Hawaii? Doesn't the I stand for 'Interstate'? how can Hawaii have an Interstate?' whistling.gif

2) 300 IS a lot of people! wow! We're keeping out list cut to about 80, just because we want to mostly, and because some of our distance (as in actual 'distance', not distant relation) relatives won't make it I'm sure, and because we're poor.. lol but that sounds like a great party!

3) Speaking of which, we are too poor for a limo... I envy you guys! I want to see pics and live vicariously through your limousines! LOL

4) Joyce, that is a super cute topper! Where are you getting it from?
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-21 17:32:00
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Awesome!!! Congrats smile.gif Glad you had such a great time!
p.s. I can't believe it's come and gone now! I remember thinking July seemed soooo far away! lol

Edited by ashenflowers, 19 July 2009 - 07:42 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-19 19:41:00
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We're coming back to Canada for a later reception, mostly because I know 90% of the people we'd want to come can't afford to fly out there for our actual wedding... laughing.gif I think I might just do emails as well just after I move, then can include some wedding photos... oooo that's a good idea. It'd be about the 5-6 month mark.
We don't have a venue yet... *sigh* It's hard figuring out how to do an outdoor reception with a dance area on a tiiiiny budget.
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-15 16:45:00
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When's a good time to start sending save the dates? I'm not sure how far in advance to send them. I kind of want to before I leave Canada, cause then it will be cheaper postage... LOL
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-14 23:16:00
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Sapphire, no I haven't yet tried on any dresses. I want to avoid buying from a bridal shop, only because I don't want to spend a lot of money and I know that it would be impossible there laughing.gif And also because trying on clothes isn't that fun for me, unfortunately...
But I do think that I will go to some other shops that have dresses similar to the style I might want, just to get a better idea. I do think this style will work on me though, due to it's ability to hide certain areas... laughing.gif !!

You'd be surprised at how helpful the bridal shops are and at how inexpensive it can be - they can show you bridesmaid dresses that come in white which are often a less expensive option! The place I went to was very very helpful. I also don't like trying on clothes these days, but they left me alone and only came around when I needed them.

I'm not really that skinny but I was shocked at how flattering all the dresses where on me!! I swear 75% of the dresses I tried on were so flattering. They are all very thick fabric and a lot have built in corsets...it was amazing!


Do you think they'd be willing to work with me if I walked in and said I wanted to spend no more than X # of $s? I've just looked online so far, and have tried the bridesmaid dress trick wink.gif It works pretty well... haha Maybe I could do that... just say that I'm going for a bridesmaid dress in white and/or ivory... oohhh that's sneaky. Then they'd understand the lower budget and not feel like i'm ripping them off... lol... :thumb:

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-11 23:23:00
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HAHAHA OMG... so my fiance went for a walk on the beach this afternoon, and what does he see? A wedding!!! Seriously! I asked him if he chatted with them at all to get some good info for us, but he said no. I was disappointed. We could've had some great tips, right from the source!! He said they walked by just as the bride said 'I do'... I told him that was rude tongue.gif hahaha
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-11 23:20:00
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Sapphire, no I haven't yet tried on any dresses. I want to avoid buying from a bridal shop, only because I don't want to spend a lot of money and I know that it would be impossible there laughing.gif And also because trying on clothes isn't that fun for me, unfortunately...
But I do think that I will go to some other shops that have dresses similar to the style I might want, just to get a better idea. I do think this style will work on me though, due to it's ability to hide certain areas... laughing.gif !!
ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-11 23:15:00
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omg you guys... I might have found my dress...... ohmy.gif
Only problem is I need to lose 20lbs, because with the recent weight I've gained in the last year or so... well... they don't have my 'new' size.. lol crying.gif
Good motivator though, right???




It fits all my criteria...
our ceremony will be on the beach so I didn't want anything draggy.. check
didn't want anything too short... check
didn't want strapless... check
didn't want halter top... check
didn't want something TOO simple... check, the beading is verrry pretty
didn't want anything expensive ... check!
didn't want anything that's TOO hip hugging... check!

omg!!

here's the back view

Edited by ashenflowers, 11 July 2009 - 05:48 PM.

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-11 17:44:00
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QUOTE (JillA @ Jul 9 2009, 07:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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Have you thought about putting together your own playlist, and having a trustworthy friend take care of it for you?

Just throwing that out there... I think that's what I'm going to do, but then again I have some friends who have DJed before, and I know they would totally be able to handle it properly. lol .... then again we're also not really going for the typical reception either, but we ARE still having dancing and what not smile.gif


I don't think I would do that.... I want professional equipment, speakers, etc. and I wouldn't have nearly enough music to last 4 hours.... I wouldn't trust any of my friends to be my DJ laughing.gif


You could still rent the equipment anyways and have it run off a computer. It'd probably be cheaper. But yeah, if you wouldn't trust your friends to do it, i'd go with a professional.. laughing.gif

ashenflowersFemaleCanada2009-07-09 21:31:00