Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Canada	Taking My Daughter to USA	QUOTE (Delicia @ Nov 10 2007, 05:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> there is a big difference between sole physical custody and sole legal custody here in the U.S. Getting sole physical custody of a child is fairly common. Getting sole legal custody is very rare. The non custodial parent has to either 1) voluntarily revoke their parental rights; or 2) voluntarily revoke their rights to allow for an adoption (if the other parent has remarried, for example); or 3) have their parental rights revoked by a court because the noncustodial parent is incarcerated or deemed to be a threat to the child (child molester, violent/criminal history). Since your former spouse still has join legal custody, you are going to have to find a way to get him to agree to the move. If the former spouse is motivated by his wallet, this may be an option (and one I pursued). All my former spouse cared about was the measly child support that was garnished from his paycheck. So, when I told him he doesn't have to pay child support after he relinquished legal custody, he was all for it. It's a little hard to get it through a judge (but I had other issues such as my former spouse's history of violence and criminal convictions to support the action), but perhaps you should consult both an immigration and a family law attorney and see what your options are. I know you are dealing with Canadian law here, so things might be different. I am just trying to provide you with some alternatives you may want to explore. Is your husband planning on adopting your daughter? It's not joint custody....I have sole custody. He has access with reasonable notice. My future hubby would like to adopt her but will discuss it with her first.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-10 18:02:00
Canada	Taking My Daughter to USA	That jerk of an ex just called me and said he wouldn't approve the move. He claims he never gets to see her - well d'uh...he lives in BC and she is in ON. As well, he spent 3 months here in 2005 and saw her all of 3 times. All because she didn't call him. He expects her to make all the contact for visits, calls, email, online chats.... Now what? I certainly don't want to waste time and money in court. Has anyone been able to take their child(ren) to the USA with just their court order that gives them sole custody?	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-10 17:19:00
Canada	Taking My Daughter to USA	I noticed on Jeremy and Kristy's review about taking her daughter to the USA. Here is my scenario - I have sole custody of my daughter. However, my order states that her dad can see her anytime, giving my reasonable notice. In the past 10 years, since our split, I'm guessing he has seen her for a total of 4 weeks to maybe 6 weeks. He is very sporadic with phone calls or end chatting with her online. I've spoke to him and he is aware of my plans to move to Chicago and get married. Kelsie is not 100% thrilled about the move cause of friends, etc. So she will remain here until she graduates from grade 8. She thought she would be smart and approached her dad about buying a house here and her living with him. He told her she could live with him any time, but in BC. That, of course, was not the response she was hoping to receive. He has left no forwarding address for her to contact him. So I have no way of reaching him to ask him for a letter supporting this move? Will my court order suffice?	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-10 11:28:00
Canada	Montreal "Touches"	Is there anyway one could see when MTL receives a case online? Can you tell I'm getting anxious to get my package 3 and send it back so I can begin the wait for an interview date?	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-12 14:38:00
Canada	Misty's Interview Review in Montreal	Congrats Misty....hope that the visa is in your hands before you know it.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-10 19:28:00
Canada	We Made It	Congrats ... you must be happy to be home.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-15 07:58:00
Canada	WE GOT IT!!	Congrats....closer to being hitched.... Best of luck to you both....can't wait for my day to arrive	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-14 22:23:00
Canada	Food stuff at POE	I'll need to bring cases of Alpha Ghetti for my daugther, and Cadbury's chocolate...lol	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-11 22:41:00
Canada	Approved	Congrats.....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-16 14:54:00
Canada	I am no longer being held captive by the American Government!!!	Cool .... enjoy your trip "home".... I'll need to apply for AP once I get there so I can return for my daughter's graduation. Is there a quick way to get an AP just to be safe?	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-15 19:27:00
Canada	Liz's POE review	Sounds like you had a great move.... ...well except for the booboo with the "commercial" truck.... You definitely lucked out with the Uhaul. I don't see myself as being that fortunate. Unpacked - wow. Until we move to a bigger place, I know my stuff will not all be unpacked but put into a storage cubicle. Then again, could have a bigger place before I even move.... but I hope not. You'll be able to take some time now and relax somewhat till the next round of paperwork starts. Best of luck ... glad to see you made it safely.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-15 18:36:00
Canada	Off topic - Wedding officiant is a jerk - must vent	Wow...what a terrible person to have to deal with. He obviously didn't want to perform your wedding the way you wanted but how he believed it should be done. Go after him for a refund! He didn't give you what you wanted. Once I get to Chicago, Larry and I will be married at the courthouse. However, we will have a church wedding here in my home town performed by my minister. I've already given her ideas and told her to run with them cause we trust her to give us something special.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-17 22:56:00
Canada	Visa didn't come today	Congrats....best of luck with the move.....I won't have to wait for a "2nd" mailman as we don't have those guys way up here.....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-17 08:20:00
Canada	Canadian winters are killing me...ok not really but	Only moisturizer I use is Pond's Cold Cream for my face. I've lived in Northern Ontario all my life and we can hit some pretty cold temps in mid-winter. All I know is that Pond's does it for me. For my lips, I use Vaseline. Works great!!	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-16 14:59:00
Canada	Just Wondering	QUOTE (IR5FORMUMSIE @ Nov 23 2007, 01:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (BH45 @ Nov 23 2007, 12:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I received our packet 3 today and it will be back on it's way to MTL on Monday. I don't have enough time on my lunch to get it put together and back in the mail today or it would be....lol I am just wondering if any of the numbers in the case have anything to do with interview dates. For those of you who have already had your interviews, do you see any connection between the case number and your interview date? I know I'll be having a great afternoon and so will my fiance cause I'll be calling him shortly. It's really going to happen..... Ours is not to reason why.... It's supposed to be sequential but interviews have taken a month to come and in other cases, almost a year. MTL has been speeding up as of late so this looks like a rather fortuitous time to be waiting for the interview. That you will get an interview is inevitable, that's all anyone can say with any certainty (aside from death and taxes). Just a reminder, conscious thought avails us not..... IR5...my job is taxes and at one point it was also death cause I looked after the sale of cemetery plots tooo....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-23 16:43:00
Canada	Just Wondering	I received our packet 3 today and it will be back on it's way to MTL on Monday. I don't have enough time on my lunch to get it put together and back in the mail today or it would be....lol I am just wondering if any of the numbers in the case have anything to do with interview dates. For those of you who have already had your interviews, do you see any connection between the case number and your interview date? I know I'll be having a great afternoon and so will my fiance cause I'll be calling him shortly. It's really going to happen.....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-23 12:03:00
Canada	packet 3	QUOTE (Ontarkie @ Nov 24 2007, 06:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I signed them all but the one that says not too. Hope I did that right. For the medical i wanted the 31st so i dont have to take the bus with 4 kids. Charles will be here and can take us saves me 1000 bucks too and the stress of me getting lost. I hear you on the bus with 4 kids... Thanks .. I'll be signing mine too and sending them out.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 19:07:00
Canada	packet 3	QUOTE (Ontarkie @ Nov 24 2007, 03:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> got it mailed out didnt even think to send it express post dang it all oh well to late now. I knew about the 100 for each at the interview stage just wanted to check on the other stuff it was getting to me last night rereading it 20 times. it would be nice if we get the interviews at the same day, my older two boys will coming to Montreal too, my kids cant wait to move its like a big advendture for them. i called friday and made my appointment in Toronto for dec 31st Our appointments are on Dec 3rd. No point in waiting too long and the medicals, I believe, are good for a year. Did you sign the documents or leave them blank for signing at the interview? Edited by BH45, 24 November 2007 - 05:26 PM.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 17:24:00
Canada	packet 3	I got my packet 3 on friday too....Maybe we'll have our interviews the same day. Would be so cool to meet someone from VJ? My daughter will be coming with me too. I've got all my stuff together to send my packet back out express or priority post on Monday.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 15:08:00
Canada	I may have to go back to Canada and refile as a K3	I feel very badly for you right now. Even though we don't truly know each other, I wish I was close enough to give you a hug. It won't fix anything but it might just be the thing you need. In my situation, I'll be moving my daughter who is 13 into a home with 2 boys, 16 and 24. We spent a month living with them to see how everyone reacted to each other. It went well but for the 16 yo being a pest, which I remember my brothers being the same. It's not the same scenario as you are currently in, but I do concern myself with how things will work out in the long run. I hope that everything works out for you and your hubby finding a place of your own. I would dislike having to see you start this process again. I'll keep you all in my prayers that God will help you to find a solution that fits everyone. Kelly	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-21 12:13:00
Canada	Grey cup	So you know that Roughriders won 23-19	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-25 21:37:00
Canada	An Attitude of Gratitude	Thanks for sharing the hug. My kitty will sometimes give me hugs too and kisses on my nose.... When I move to Palatine, we will have 2 kittys...should be interesting.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 19:34:00
Canada	It's here	Congrats. On to the next phase of becoming a full fleged resident.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 18:01:00
Canada	Glady - Good luck on your interview Tuesday!!	Best of luck....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-26 18:45:00
Canada	So this friday...	Yes it is. Folks there might think we're nuts when we go out shopping on the 26th...	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-19 18:50:00
Canada	We're home! Abassador POE Review	Congratulations. What a beautiful event. It made me all giddy. Your pictures are wonderful. I can hardly wait for my day to arrive. Best wishes to you both. May God bless your marriage and life together.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 19:28:00
Canada	Our interview and Montreal Review	Congrats. Sounds like a smooth interview.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-24 19:29:00
Canada	Border Crossing & Wedding	Congrats....sounds like a beautiful event. A perfect joining after the long wait.....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-27 17:25:00
Canada	WOW Interview on Tuesday VISA in hand on Thursday	Great news...congrats. Hope your move goes smoothly.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-29 19:46:00
Canada	(S)he's sooooo Canadian. :P	Well...I live in Northern Ontario where it can reach temps of -50C. That's flipping cold. Somehow I don't see Chicago reaching that cold. I can completely understand your hubby's statement that "Canadians never get cold."	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-11-25 08:59:00
Canada	Country Wedding	Very lovely day for you both. Can just visualize it and all the wonders you shared. I drove home Monday from Toronto and took almost 2 hours to get from Cookstown to Gravenhurst. Yuk....can't wait to move to Chicago where I hope they don't get this much snow. Congrats on your wedding.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-04 18:33:00
Canada	Medical Review	QUOTE (Dylan @ Dec 4 2007, 02:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (BH45 @ Dec 3 2007, 09:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wow...what a morning! We arrived early at Dr Seiden's office. Kelsie and I were the first ones in. One of the nurses was a little perturb at the Dr cause he came in and spoke to us before they had time to do things in the order they are accustomed too. Usually the routine is - do the paperwork, get blood work done, x-ray, have the nurse / female dr do their thing and then Dr Seiden. It was quick and painless. We started the process about 7:20 am and were on our way an hour later. For a medical, it was an enjoyable experience. They will be sending my papers via courier on Wednesday. I should have them on Thursday and can really begin to patiently wait for our interview date. Hey, I was there Monday morning too. I arrived about 7:20 but they had the doors closed so I had to wait for someone to let me in. There where already people there when I was asked to join the waiting room. Were you the guy in the red hat? I didn't see Dr. Seiden, I saw a female doctor. She was really nice and we had some things in common. But I did catch some of the drama that you were mentioning. My medical went well other than I had a minor surgery and a mammogram recently and they wanted copies of the results, so I now have spent the last two days calling and faxing the other doctors offices to forward them to Dr. Seiden. After going threw the medical, I think that for some reason the Doctors in the Philippines must really grill people about drug and alcohol abuse and mental illness since I found that those questions were really short and sweet. Good luck. I was in a blue t-shirt. There were 2 other ladies with me besides my daughter. We sat directly in front of the windows and when I was in the waiting room, I sat on the grey covered area where the toys were. I was on my way by 8:20 am. I saw Dr Seiden and a female Dr. guess I was just lucky to get 2. QUOTE (Ontarkie @ Dec 4 2007, 03:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> did they charge you $20 for each medical to be shipped to you, were not waiting to pick ours up either having them send it to us just makes more sense. Nope...only paid $20 for them both to be shipped to me.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-04 15:48:00
Canada	Medical Review	I think Dr Seiden beat them all to work yesterday.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-04 07:42:00
Canada	Medical Review	Wow...what a morning! We arrived early at Dr Seiden's office. Kelsie and I were the first ones in. One of the nurses was a little perturb at the Dr cause he came in and spoke to us before they had time to do things in the order they are accustomed too. Usually the routine is - do the paperwork, get blood work done, x-ray, have the nurse / female dr do their thing and then Dr Seiden. It was quick and painless. We started the process about 7:20 am and were on our way an hour later. For a medical, it was an enjoyable experience. They will be sending my papers via courier on Wednesday. I should have them on Thursday and can really begin to patiently wait for our interview date.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-03 21:56:00
Canada	So we are official!!!	Here's hoping your journey is somewhat quicker than whats been with others. Congrats....	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-05 20:10:00
Canada	Epiphany.....that rhymes with Tiffany!	We are closer to being together as I am now waiting for the interview date. Larry and I have been chatting online, telephone and with cards for the past 2 years. We've met 3 times and have thoroughly enjoyed our time together. I believe our relationship is stronger for that time. We became good friends and our relationship grew from there. Neither of us were truly looking but still found that special love. I can't wait till we can be together. I have my fingers crossed it will happen soon.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-05 22:44:00
Canada	Off to Montreal I go....	Best of luck...you'll do just fine. Have a great time!	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-05 13:22:00
Canada	TIMELINE FROM MONTREAL TO PACKET3 AT YOUR DOOR	Montreal takes a lot longer cause they are the only consulate to do the interviews for CR1/??? applications too. I certainly wish they would find a way to speed things up for the K-1 ppl. Another thing I hope for is that it really doesn't take 4 - 6 months to get my interview. I miss my sweetie...	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-06 21:17:00
Canada	Montreal Review	Great review. Hope they are still as kind when my time comes....probably in the new year. Glad to see that everything went smoothly for you.	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-08 20:41:00
Canada	I can officially fall down a flight a stairs!	A little relief with that card, isn't it?	BH45	Female	Canada	2007-12-09 15:57:00