Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	hahaha, this is cute . my "VJ" name is "unononehigher" which is pronounced "ooo-NOE-nun-HY-errr" or "uuu-NOE-nun-HIE-yerrr" or just "OOO-no" or ....ahem..."UUU-no" for short p.s. I belive we had a similar thread aloonnnnng time ago Edited by unononehigher, 13 July 2008 - 01:37 PM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-13 13:34:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana	Leedah, this is to you directly. You dont have to justify anything to anyone. I think you are familiar with my motto "UNO dont give a phuq" and I adopted that mantra for reasons just like this. You asked a question, not pertaining to your personal situation and you had simplistic expectations of the results. I am sorry someone felt the need to dig into your background and "follow" your story. My opinion, if you wanted to update people, you would have...with out provocation. Do not allow one rotten apple to spoil your pie. Keep your head up and keep doing you. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-16 16:54:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana	QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jul 15 2008, 11:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I did not realize that Ewok had you all on the payroll as the Sub Saharan Po leese. I will not censor myself just because some people dont like what I have to say. Since when does anyone stay on topic in this forum. I was not malicious nor attacking in my questioning, if anyone took it to another level it was the Sub Saharan Po leese. I have had PLENTY of PMs to me about this subject. Edited by unononehigher, 16 July 2008 - 02:22 AM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-16 02:20:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana	QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jul 15 2008, 12:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Omoba, you know I you. But what was asked of the OP has nothing to do with her immigration case. She was not asking for advice. She was not asking for help with her kids' situation. She was only asking for places to stay in Ghana. Does it matter if she is going with her husband/brother/sister/mother? This thread was on track until TBT decided to dig into what the OP has posted in the past in regards to issues that were not brought up by the OP. Its like me posting for information on recipes and then someone bringing up a post about an argument with my SO and asking me to add more details. Two totally different topics. I appreciate that you are providing information on going through Dakar, people need to hear it. But it was not addressed by the OP. Asking the OP why she is not going to visit her husband in Gambia is walking a thin line. Asking for her to elaborate on the situation with her children is crossing the line. TBT, this is not an "us" thing like you suggested. I am only pointing out that this has nothing to do with the OP's original question and to keep in on track. The OP could very well come on here and elaborate. Maybe she has no problem sharing and if so good for her. Quite frankly I could give a rat's behind what anyone writes on these boards. I came here to get help with my process and in the process made some good friends and we have a good time on here. But when I see something that does not sit well with me I speak up. here, here	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-15 12:44:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana		Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-14 23:11:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana	QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jul 13 2008, 08:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hey leedah, check this link out, hopefully it helps. http://www.ghanahote...CFQnIsgod5mTmTA http://www.bedbreakf...814d0fb23b05b3e	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-13 20:58:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Rentals in Ghana	hey leedah, check this link out, hopefully it helps. http://www.ghanahote...CFQnIsgod5mTmTA	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-13 20:49:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Which song says it best?	amy winehouse (phuq me pumps) how many of y'all got some UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-17 22:41:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Which song says it best?	amy winehouse (me and mr jones; what kind a phuqery is this??) I love this song UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-17 22:38:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Which song says it best?	QUOTE (Omoba @ Jul 4 2008, 10:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ouch Uno , that was sizzling hot, hot, hot ! , or maybe...	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-05 03:40:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Which song says it best?	jill scott's "crown royal on ice" Your hands on my hips Pull me right back to you I catch that thrust Give it right back to you You're in so deep I'm breathin' for you You grab my braids Arch my back high for you Your diesel engine I'm squirting mad oil on Down on the floor Til my speakers start to boil I flip #### Quick slip Hip dip And I'm twisted In your hands and your lips And your tongue tricks And you're so thick And you're so big And you're so Crown Royal on ice Crown Royal on ice Crown Royal on ice Crown Royal on ice Got ya on ice baby this one is the lick, there boiii, whooo-hoooo. hollaaaaa UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-04 02:52:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	VISA DENIED ON TUESDAY & VISA APPROVED ON WENESDAY	I am so thrilled for you. Talk about the daughters of Zion going to war, you did your thing in faith and I applaud you for stepping out and walking in faith. To God be the glory. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-02 19:48:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	HE IS HERE IN THE U.S. AND THINKS U.S. IS SO BEAUTIFUL	You are most welcome	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-22 16:31:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	HE IS HERE IN THE U.S. AND THINKS U.S. IS SO BEAUTIFUL	dedicated to your honey UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-17 22:09:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	HE IS HERE IN THE U.S. AND THINKS U.S. IS SO BEAUTIFUL	QUOTE (Krikit @ Jul 9 2008, 11:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> How lovely. I know I don't belong in this forum but your post made me smile and I just wanted to congratulate you. everyone belongs and everyone is welcome UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-09 11:31:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	To Chis' and 'Moba, you all have just been enlisted as my "cyber mentors" for your loving, understanding and in your face explanations. Uno thanx you uummm....Omoba, you said I can "get the author as a speaker", question for you..."where is he going to speak, in my living room? Edited by unononehigher, 16 January 2008 - 11:54 PM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-16 23:51:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	Hey Y'all, I know this is about the "book club", but I have a question. Does the book address the "space" issues, I do believe you all touched upon the sending *cough* money *choke* back *cough* home issue (ahem) . Moving on, does it also discuss things like helping our SO adjust to western world norms, social issues, politics, and the difference between what the media pumps in to their country (BET, Videos, and such) and what true reality is? Alot of my husbands family and friends seem to think that I eat spinach and ####### "benjamins" on a whim . When I try to explain how things really are to them, I get the *feeling* that they think that I am lying about our "poverty". My husband has even told me "how can you compare poverty in the united states with poverty in africa ?" He just does not get "it ." Another thing, and forgive me for rambling, but...my husband has a degree in engineering , he seems to think that he can just command a job because he is "educated." His english is okay, (I understand him), but his grammer could use some brushing up, how do I explain to him that he is still not upto par with our written language . I suggested that he take an ESL class and he blew it off . I am mighty afraid that he is going to have a cultural melt down due to his perceived notions about america . Okay, I am done. (next person, to the mic) . p.s. is this book on tape or cd?	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-16 22:39:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	Now see, here y'all go again talking about important issues. I have finally reclaimed "my space" (I have had it for about 2 years now). It is just me and my 3 boys (ages 17,14,and 8). And we don't bother each other at all. My place is a 3 bedroom townhouse with a full basement. My husband is not familiar with a basement , but when I described it to him, he wanted to know if I can rent it out to another family, I'm like "hell nawl!" "Why would I want to do that!?" He thinks my place is "plenty big." I beg to differ. I already know we are going to have to move to a four bedroom so that I can maintain my "UNO land!" Just to keep my sanity. I also have a king size bed, so I'm use to having space, I don't know how the sleeping is going to work out either. {I can see me now, attempting to roll over in the middle of the night and him being right there, and me saying "don't you have some where else to be?" } Y'all pray for me, 'cuz its hard sharing my space!	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-16 15:31:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 15 2008, 08:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jan 14 2008, 10:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Salutations all, I know I said I can't fit this book into my schedule right now, but you all are touching on a very sensitive issue for me and "Peace". First of all, I am an only child and he is the eldest son. When we argue, its like thunder and lightning. He will ask me what is on my mind, and I will say, "I don't want to talk about it!" to that he'll reply "You can't keep telling me that!". Hmmm, I'm like, okay, "well how about I don't have my thoughts formulated yet!" to that he will say "I have asked you, my ears and eyes are ready to receive and you refuse to tell me, so never you speak of it again. When you feel ready to speak, tell it to the wind, 'cuz I no longer care to hear of it!" Okay, now 99.999% of what he has said has just pissed me off to no end. Then, he will change the subject. What kinda mess is that? The other thing he is notorious for is saying "oh, a baby, it has passed, so lets not discuss it any longer." Is that avoidance, or manipulation? I don't get the "tell me whats on your mind now" stuff. I'm used to gathering my evidence and presenting my case, he wants discuss the case as the evidence presents it self. Is that a cultural thing or just him. But on a lighter note, when I am having a terrible day and ranting to no end, he can zero in on the main issue of my distress and just soothe me and calm my spirit. I have never had such man like him in all of my life. In the midst of it all, I count my blessings and thank God every day for creating him just for me. Okay, next speaker to the mic! I can totally relate. I am the oldest of 3 and sometimes I just want to be left alone to brood over my problems. When I call and he can sense this I just say "I don't want to talk about it. Lets talk about something else" and he says "If you can't talk to me about it who can you talk to? Am I not here to share with you? You want to keep secrets from me? Go ahead and keep your secrets" .....it makes me madder than I was before we started talking!!!! If that is not one of my husbands most formidable phrases!! That just makes me wanna chew tree bark!! I don't know if that is (here I go again) manipulation, or what? But, ooohh, I just sit back and say, okay, you call it keeping secrets, I call it keeping the peace, "Peace". And then he will laugh and say "that one is for you' oh!"	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-15 23:41:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	Salutations all, I know I said I can't fit this book into my schedule right now, but you all are touching on a very sensitive issue for me and "Peace". First of all, I am an only child and he is the eldest son. When we argue, its like thunder and lightning. He will ask me what is on my mind, and I will say, "I don't want to talk about it!" to that he'll reply "You can't keep telling me that!". Hmmm, I'm like, okay, "well how about I don't have my thoughts formulated yet!" to that he will say "I have asked you, my ears and eyes are ready to receive and you refuse to tell me, so never you speak of it again. When you feel ready to speak, tell it to the wind, 'cuz I no longer care to hear of it!" Okay, now 99.999% of what he has said has just pissed me off to no end. Then, he will change the subject. What kinda mess is that? The other thing he is notorious for is saying "oh, a baby, it has passed, so lets not discuss it any longer." Is that avoidance, or manipulation? I don't get the "tell me whats on your mind now" stuff. I'm used to gathering my evidence and presenting my case, he wants discuss the case as the evidence presents it self. Is that a cultural thing or just him. But on a lighter note, when I am having a terrible day and ranting to no end, he can zero in on the main issue of my distress and just soothe me and calm my spirit. I have never had such man like him in all of my life. In the midst of it all, I count my blessings and thank God every day for creating him just for me. Okay, next speaker to the mic!	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-14 22:37:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Loving the African male	Salutations to all, I, regretably, am not in a position to add another book to my reading list, with Joyce Meyers, Stormie Omartian, Joel Olsteen, and school, (you get the picture), is any one able to give me a brief synopsis of his major key points for the book? One more thing before I go, has any one read the book in its entirety, analyzed his perspective, meditated on the content and found any of his insights/opinions to be credible or applicable to their current relationship? thank you.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-10 02:01:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	What has happened in this Forum?	QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jan 20 2008, 07:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Things seem to have calmed down a bit, I really do hope that everything will get back to the way it used to be and people will not be afraid to post when they need to. VJ can be just what people need to support them as they go through this process. I do miss Omoba though... Maybe if we all chant her name.... O-mo-ba! O-mo-ba! O-mo-ba! yeah, I miss her to along with ogele O-mo-ba-O-ge-le-O-Mo-ba-O-ge-le	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-20 20:49:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	What has happened in this Forum?	what happened in this forum?? it went to hockey in a hand basket! but I firmly believe that all phenomenal women and men of integrity that participate on this forum will restore the order. I am a firm believer that all things happen for a reason. Keep your head up UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-20 14:23:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	A Little Ray Of Light	I pray for a favorable review and an expeditious solution. keep your head up.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-22 17:52:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Changing your last name	I'm keeping mine for now. Just haven't decided to give up my family name, I've had it for so long, I have a hard time getting use to being called by my married name. My husband says all of that is going to change once he arrives...we'll see.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-22 00:09:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Update	congratulations to you and your family. I pray many more blessings be unto you. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-24 08:19:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	signifcate	QUOTE (We_Destiny @ Jan 20 2008, 01:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am good friends with some members of my SO's family in the states and Nigeria, and we initially met because of them. But my question to you is why a Nigerian man? You find love and or friendship when and how you find it. But to say that you specifically want to meet a Nigerian man? What are your motives? What do you think a Nigerian man can give you that a man from any other culture might not? Once you have searched your intentions; and you still want a Nigerian man, sign up for every international single site on the net and provide a smashing profile (include U S woman, wealthy (according to your standards, struggling according to ours ), want Naija man) and then sit back and relax They will find you!! BEST OF LUCK	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-20 14:20:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	signifcate	this is not a DATING website. if you truly want to go that route, GOOGLE what you are looking for and may the games begin. Edited by unononehigher, 20 January 2008 - 01:39 PM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-20 13:38:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	A little pick-me-up	QUOTE (Togun09 @ Jan 5 2008, 02:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Can a guy add to this? I will. I noticed most of the posts are from girls/ladies/women. You know what I mean. So here is something from a guy. What do I think about when I miss my missus? I will list two: Firstly, I go through the pictures of us on my phone. Particularly the one I took of her while she was asleep. Looking all so chilled, reminding me of all the reasons why I am crazy about this woman. I have got one of those PDA phones, with the camera and huge screen that even lets one zoom in to pics. So I get to zoom in and take a closer look. Enough details for now… Secondly, I think of one particular visit of mine to New York. It was a Friday and relatively quiet at work. By the way, this is in London. Right about lunch time I got an email advertising unbelievable flights to NY. So I called my brother-in-law (her brother in NY) and told him I was going to make a surprise visit, so he could pick me up at JFK. So I left the office, picked up a few things at home and caught a 4pm GMT flight and was in NY by 6.30pm EST. Her bro got me at the airport and we were home by 8pm. Before I go on, you must understand that my missus is not use to surprises like this. She wasn’t expecting me in NY for another, maybe, 3 weeks. My/our flights are usually booked weeks/months ahead. She says I am a very organized person. Anyway, so I arrived at the apartment and walked into the living room. I remember she was with a few friends and family watching the BET channel on TV. She said hello to her bro and then froze when she saw me. Then she started pacing backwards away from me and was looking around. I learnt later that at this time she was trying to confirm that every one in the room could knew I was there. She thought I was a ghost or something and was scared. Now that was beautiful. How come the rest of the men can't stand up like that. That was truly elegant and heart warming. Cheers to you.(applaus) By this time, I realized or confirmed just how fragile she could be. So I walked up and gave her hug. You know the mushy details. With her slender arms around my neck, her heart still beating and the mixed look of surprise and elation on her face, I knew I would never forget this particular visit. I think of this day quite often. Not long after this trip, we decided it was better if I moved to the US. T	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-10 01:47:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Having a flood of emotions	okay, lets dance , forward pelvic thrust, hip wind, and jirate....everybody..huuaaah dude in that video is somethin kinda special yo' cheer up Zaina, we can't all be fallin apart at the same time. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-28 23:43:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Having a flood of emotions	QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 28 2008, 04:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jan 21 2008, 04:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'm in the "quad cities" Iowa. Hella Snow anybody?? I used to live in Iowa City until last year. My sister goes to dental school there so I still get there about twice a year. But I live in Philly now QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 28 2008, 04:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'm a bit emotional today. I want to get my interview date. After the weekends maybe I feel a little sad. My schedule is less hectic then, so I have too much time to think. I'm going into my third week of waiting and I'm not happy about it. I wish they would schedule an interview date for me, so at least I have something to look forward to and I could get airline tickets and start some more planning. I must say, I've never hated anything quite as much as I hate this. I know the feeling....and Ghana is do darned slow Just hang in there. At least you know the consulate has it. It is just a matter of days until you get that interview date from Iowa city to Philly, thats a helluva change. so...how do you like it??	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-28 20:52:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Having a flood of emotions	I'm in the "quad cities" Iowa. Hella Snow anybody??	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-21 16:23:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp	QUOTE (Leedah @ Jan 28 2008, 08:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> You guys are tooooo funny! Especially you, Uno. Kind reminded me of this picture hahaha. Thanks for all the info and opinions everyone. Much appreciated! Leedah, girl, I can't stop laughin' that is tooo cute.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-29 00:15:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp	I forgot to add, I told my husband as of the receipt of his last care package (one week ago), the gift cow has officially dried up. He wholeheartedly accepted the message...,don't know what he thought about the messenger. But as y'all get to know me, my motto is "UNO don't give ah' damn about whatchu' think!"	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-28 21:17:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp	God bless!!	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-28 20:56:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp	QUOTE (Leedah @ Jan 20 2008, 12:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> not looking for someone to tell me what to do. was looking for other experiences of others. somehow, this topic started focusing on something totally different. hmmm... oh, okay, you were looking for other experiences...lemme see oh, yes...heres one: right around christmas, my husband told me that the jobs were going to close on Dec.21, 2007 and that they were going to open back up around Jan. 07, 2008. I said okay. Now mind you this is the small business owners and independent companies. So I'm like okay, sounds like christmas vacation to me . Okay, next up, the 20th of December, my husband called me with all types of enthusiasm in his voice talkin' bout "UNO, oh ah baby," I'm like "yeah...???" and see I knew it was coming. He said "I was 'tinkin' if dere's hany way you can find around you some petty petty money to send to your dear 'usband", and I'm going, "well, whats wrong, did some one die, is some one after you cause if it is, I can call my peeps and we go trans atlantic and take it to the streets!" well to that he goes "no, don't be ridiculous, I can call God for dat!" I said "oh, well continue". Then he proceeds to tell me about he can continue to work while the company is closed, he just needs to get a phone and purchase a computer to put in his flat and its only going to cost $1000.00. I said "wow, thats not bad for enginuity and telecommuting, so what do you want me to do?" Then he proceeds to tell me, "ah'gain, I was tinkin', if you could send your 'usband the petty petty money, I don't know if you can look into your purse and go to the western union and send it to me and I'll pick it up with in the hour!" I became silent... then I laughed my A$$ off (delirium set in real quick) . Needless to say, he asked me "oh, ah baby, why are you laughing at de 'usband?". I told him, "what makes you think I just a got "grip" sittin' in my purse waitin' on you?" and "how can you be so naiive as to think that I just ate spinach and I am going to sh!t out money specifically for you?" I also explained to him, "money don't live here any more!" and the sooner he loses his "african wisdom about america, he's going to be alot better off!" I continued to laugh at his ignorant (Noun 1. ignorance - the lack of knowledge or education) #### and hung up the phone. p.s. is that more along the lines of what you were looking for? if so, I have a few more	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-20 13:26:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp	Salutations, I can't tell you about your situation and I can not tell you what to do. I can however talk about me and my situation. First of all, I had to explain my finances to my husband i.e. (how much my rent is, how much my bills are), every thing you pay for monthly is a bill; how much my household needs are (i.e. laundry cost, gas, kids needs and recreational costs). Then I explained to him how much I bring in on a monthly basis. I also had to inform him that you were taking care of yourself before I came into your life, continue to do so now, the only difference is you are making plans to include me in your life as your wife once you make it to the states. I also told him I thought I married a man, not a boy (I had to tell him that because when I questioned him about important decision making matters, he would inform me that "I am a man, not a child"), so that being said, be a man! Now don't get me wrong, I do send him care a package every 2-3 months, (and I inform him anything that can't fit into the box, does not get sent)! So he makes sure he has his list in order. As far as his family and friends are concerned, they can beg until the cows come home, before I married him I had obligations and responsibilities. Those obligations and responsibilies did not go away since we got married and my immediate concerns are my household, not his family. He is my secondary priority, not his family. And besides, what would they do if I were not in the picture. So that is UNOz little monologue, I hope this helps. Next speaker p.s. excuse me, I almost forgot...you stated women go to his country for the ding ding, get real, a woman can get a wet azz here in the states for free let alone paying for a trans atlantic trip to the unknown to take a chance on the unknown. okay, I'm done. Next	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-19 23:36:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Another question Wedding attire choice	I wore a champaign colored gown with a bolero jacket. I thought it was a beautiful gown and so did everyone else. And yes, I can wear mine for multiple occassions. They have very reasonable prices and a variety to choose from. Good luck www.plussizebridal.com.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-27 19:23:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Interesting Video Report - Ghana	I have watched the video and I am at a loss for words. It is a shame that a nation of people have to exist the way that they do.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-21 17:15:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Interview date	I pray you the best.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-01-29 23:13:00