Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Prevention	QUOTE (Omoba @ Jun 18 2008, 04:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (tony and tess @ Jun 18 2008, 03:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (LovinLiberia @ Jun 18 2008, 03:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> A woman I met was telling me her scam story. She met a guy online who claimed he was an American guy from New York who had gotten stranded in Africa. They started dating online and he began asking her for money to get back to the US. She ended up dating this guy for over a year online. I asked her if she had talked to him on the phone and she said yes, he had an accent, but he told her it was because he had been raised in Africa as a child and she believed him. Eventually, she made the trip to Nigeria to help rescue her American man only to meet an African man at the airport. Can you imagine they had been dating all of that time and she had no idea what he looked like? She was walking around looking for a tall, blonde guy only to have a Nigerian man greet her. He explained to her that he had been lying to her out of fear (yeah right). She was initially very upset, but the fool decided to stick with him since he had come clean and she was already stuck in Nigeria. 2 years later, she has left him after he sucked her dry of her money. Talk about ignoring the red flags... There are so many stories like this one. I know a lady who talked to her white man working as a contractor in Nigeria, for two years and never saw him on cam. He was sucking her dry, she lost everything, house, kids, etc., when I met her, I started pushing her to force him to get on cam for her, knowing full well he was African. Once she demanded he do it, he confessed to her that he was Nigerian. Two years!!!! Dang.... such sad stories. There is a woman not far from me who thought she was dating a white guy in Africa also. She waits at the airport to get picked up and then turns around as a black guy calls her name...............he told her would you have come here if I told you I was black ? Guess what she married him a few days later and now he is due to arrive soon. I couldn't believe it ! He said his profile pic was that of his good white friend who got killed..........as if that would make it any better did I not mention having your senses in tact and not your coochies in control	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-18 16:45:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Prevention	to add to that, a person will tell you everything you need to know within the first 5 minutes of the pursuit, you just have be actively listening with your common senses in tact and not your coochie in control . oh, and believe a person the first time they tell you about themselves, even if they are speaking of how their past relationships or lack of relationships have soured . and last but not least, try the spirit by the spirit , if you dont know what that means, ask me and I will explain in greater detail. Edited by unononehigher, 18 June 2008 - 12:41 PM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-18 12:38:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Arrrrgggghhhh!!!!!	QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jun 7 2008, 01:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MEN!! That is all I have to say. I am here for you. UNO p.s. I pm'ed u.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-07 13:52:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Visa in hand!!!!	Zee, I am thoroughly happy for you . I had no doubt that you guys would be victorious . I pray that you have a safe journey going and that your return trip home with Inusah is just the beginning of your life long journey towards discovery, understanding and loving eachother forever . May God continue to bless you and Inusah through the hard times and the good times . All my best. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-07 13:47:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	U - turn	QUOTE (Omoba @ Jun 22 2008, 12:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> ...ehem....I think toof if he says "toof" then he says it right	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-22 00:25:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	U - turn	QUOTE (Omoba @ Jun 22 2008, 12:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> oh my gosh Uno, my fiance says the same thing about the teeth and tongue...... does he say "teeth" or "teef" there in lies the question	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-22 00:12:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	U - turn	QUOTE (4theloveofhenry @ Jun 21 2008, 11:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thank you so much for that. I was sitting here so upset and you really helped me to feel better now. I prayed that God would help me to not take it so personally and to help me to be understood and then I came back and read this. Thank you Jehovah and really with all sincerity, thank you Omoba. Helloooo, derre, girl, don't let these misunderstandings get to you. I have been there and done that, but then again; I also have the motto of "UNO, don't give ah phuq!! " anyone that has taken the time to "get" to know me, knows, I speak the truth according to my reality and I keep it centered in conventional wisdom along with tempered prayer. (did I lose you , he, he). there is still one person on here that does not speak/respond to me on forums and you know what (see motto). and she was clearly in the wrong when she attacked/misinterpreted/misconstrued my own african american knowledge, thoughts, heart and history. but, those are not my concerns or issues, to each his/her own. the only thing I can encourage you to do, is to try the spirit by the spirit. (that may be a bit hard to do via the internet, but the more you communicate with people, our personalities and hearts shines through face to face or not). so again, don't worry about the disagreements or misunderstandings, we come from different backgrounds and experiences so there is bound to be some strife; but the respect and acceptance of each others differences is what makes the experience unique and beautiful. oh, something else, its also kinda hard to convey what you mean, absent close personal contact, just as well as it is trying to actually understand another persons written thoughts. this can only be accomplished with familiarity, and that takes time. my grannie always told me "baybee, teef and tongue argue, what more of 2 people". take care of yourself and garner wisdom from others as well as do not be selfish with the wisdom you have	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-21 23:53:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Netiquette	QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jun 27 2008, 05:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I have to say something, I have been holding this in for a while now and I just need to let it out. I myself have been a victim here on VJ. God forbid you have a problem with your SO, and you make the mistake of reaching out to the people on VJ, you will not get lifted up and supported. You will further get pushed down by people telling you how your husband is scamming you. (or they think your husband is scamming you) I at one point was having trouble and I made the mistake of posting a thread about it, feel free to go find my thread and see what people who dont even know me had to say about my realtionship. (search for goodbye threads) It only upset me more. As a result I have also made the decision to limit myself to VJ. All relationships have problems. People here on VJ like to assume that if your relationship is having problems then it must be because that your SO is a scammer and you the stupid American did not take the time to get to know the person. Many people here on VJ really hurt me with their assumptions about my relationship and said some nasty things, to the point where I asked for the thread to be locked. I lost a lot of respect for people during that time, respect that I dont know will ever be restored. I now utilise the ignore feature and it helps a lot. I am not saying that I am innocent and have never had harsh words for someone here, not at all. I take responsibity for my actions. I dont see how anything I ever posted would lead people to say the nasty things that they said to\about myself and my husband. VJ can be a helpfull place but more often than not, people on here can be extremely judgemental about people life situations that they know NOTHING about. I want to make it clear that I am not singling out any one person, there was plenty of judgemental nastiness to go around. I have been on VJ for awhile, and while it is sad to say, I dont think that this issue is ever going to go away. P Hey girl, sorry to hear about your "naysayers" but opinions and arseholes go together. I, personally, dont give a phuq about others opinions, usually the negativity that they spew has more to do with them than the person/situation they are referring to. My grannie has always told me that "people will use you/your situation as a catalyst for stirring their bullsh!t." I have found that to be true. So to shield your self from the backwash, adopt the motto of "hell a way with them/their opinions" and your sun will still shine. Peace, love and hairgrease y'all... UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-27 18:00:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Baby Photos	he is a cutey.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-25 17:53:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	NO Regrets	QUOTE (LovinLiberia @ Jun 18 2008, 05:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> This is sooo off topic, but Naijaprincess's post made me think of something. Has anyone seen the Nigerian version of crank dat soulja boy? Wait...trying to re-learn how to post Youtubes again. Okay, got it. girl, I laughed so hard, damn'ner peed my pants	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-27 23:35:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Jun 28 2008, 01:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> You altered my original statements and changed their meaning. But I except as much for the people on this forum that delight in tormenting others for their own pleasure. At first I was amazed at the sick behavior but I see it is sub Saharan standard after someone suggesting that I review a prior harpy attack directed at them from basically the same shrews. QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jun 27 2008, 10:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> exactly, so be quiet. I distorted nothing , that is YOUR perception/interpretation of what I wrote, your problem not mine . but anyway, my point was not to you, I was merely demonstrating how easy it is to overlook a generalization/statement . so you should practice what you preach. and to your next comment {I know you have one}..... WHAT EVER lifes too short to worry about someone else's story but your own. peace and comfort to all I see you got me all kinds of phuqed up. I did not ALTER anything you wrote. Everything is word for word. But as I stated, my words were not towards you, it was an example. You take yourself WAY too seriously. And you can keep your descriptive insults to your dammy. I don't grow from that. Later Dude and Dudettes Edited by unononehigher, 28 June 2008 - 01:53 AM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-28 01:51:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	exactly, so be quiet. I distorted nothing , that is YOUR perception/interpretation of what I wrote, your problem not mine . but anyway, my point was not to you, I was merely demonstrating how easy it is to overlook a generalization/statement . so you should practice what you preach. and to your next comment {I know you have one}..... WHAT EVER lifes too short to worry about someone else's story but your own. peace and comfort to all	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-28 00:43:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Jun 27 2008, 08:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Akoto @ Jun 27 2008, 05:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Jun 21 2008, 09:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> You are right You have no idea of my relationship. We have known each other for years and I have known the family for over a decade. I have never implied that Joseph is lazy or going to live off me when he gets here. My comment about him not making as much as I do is a reference to my income level. I am not some welfare mom or some little old lady living on disability, so lonely for company and praying someone will drop a paycheck in my lap. Those are the types that will frustrate a hard working man as a burden and will find their home empty once again. I am not sure why you singled me out, maybe you have something against interracial marriages but whatever you trip is that is fine. Joseph has long admired white features and that is part of what makes us tick as a couple. He has never [b]really cared for the type of woman that spends hard earned money on hair and nails.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-27 23:26:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	I was always taught "starve what you want to die and feed what you want to live" and truth be told, none of us knows anything about any of us aside from what we decide to tell each other; so why get upset. if it aint true, don't apply to you, why respond??? everyone has opinions just like everyone has #######.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-27 17:38:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jun 22 2008, 12:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I like salt with my pepa Like this?? yes, like dat, I wanna shoop baybe'	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-22 00:29:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	QUOTE (przy @ Jun 22 2008, 12:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> sounds good to me! salt and pepper go good together, especially at VJ. U got dat shyyyyt rite	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-22 00:13:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How much, is too much?	QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jun 21 2008, 11:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ladies...LADIES!!! A little theme music for the feud...... you are more than wrong for that video QUOTE (przy @ Jun 21 2008, 11:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jun 21 2008, 12:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I think the requests for money are different for everyone. If he is asking you for money for rent, everyday bills, food, internet access......I would run the other way. If it is money pertaining to the visa process, then I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing. Inusah and I discussed the bills for immigraiton and our wedding. He is paying for the reception and furnishing a house that his dad offered us to stay when we go home. He had saved up money for his plane ticket here. I told him to use it towards the wedding so that we could go all out. Inusah has never asked me for any money, what I have given him has only been related to immigration. I already have his money for AOS. We don't want to wait on filing that once he gets here. I think requests for money should be judged on a case by case basis. Well put. My husband and I have split the costs for the visa petitions. We have taken trips back and forth, but it usually works out half/half always; as a marriage should be (and that isn't to say monitarily speaking.. that's goes across the board). You never expect your spouse to make the same, or the make more. You do what you do with the means that you have. Oh sorry that I'm a European in the Sub Sarahan-Africa thread... I just thought it was an interesting one. all are welcome, I like salt with my pepper	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-22 00:09:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	The need for clarity: from the perspective of a happily married Nigerian man	QUOTE (chinemeze @ Jun 17 2008, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It is with utmost joy and happiness that I am writing this note. I am one of those that do enjoy coming to this site to share in the joys, sorrows, agonies and ultimately hapiness of everyones journey. I cannot deny that everybody has a unique and personal experience as regards their journey with the immigration process. I do respect them for that and cannot interject into their own life experiences. That being said, I cannot call myself a true son of the soil if i keep quiet and see my name and those of so many millions being dragged in the mud. It is believed that all of us are adults and that whatever choices that we make we have to be able to live with them irrespective of the outcome. So be it known, that before I married my beautiful wife and had our son, I had dated women from different ethnic backgrounds, races and creeds. I came out of those relationships with so much knowledge, both good and bad. It is my belief that I should have learnt from my experiences and be able to use them for my future benefit. I am not going to come out here and start bashing older women, or younger women, or skinny women or plus sized women just because out of my own poor decision-making I found myself in a quagmire. In summary, I am a Nigerian man and very proud of who I am. It is not all Nigerian men that are scammers. And finally, if you dare get into a serious relationship without proper investigation and information, then dont blame anybody. We have a saying " a he-goat that goes to a fight with his horns, has to make sure that he has a strong and sturdy neck". I have just read your post and I must commend you for your honesty and integrity. I hope and pray that none of my posts concerning my own personal story has not offended you. I do not condone ethnic bashing of any sort and tend to recognize a situation for what it is. If two come together and then split, origin has nothing to do with it, one should be personally accountable for his or her own decisions and end results. But again, I thank you for your post. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-17 16:29:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Congratulations Bassi and Zainab	QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jun 29 2008, 08:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> WHOOO HOOOOO!! I haven't been online this whole time. I'm sooooooooooooooooooooo happy!! You can imagine that I'm floating now. We are coming home FINALLY!!! We are flying together. I saw K&A on Friday. They went back and spoke with a Senior Officer who approved their visa. They got their visa before we got ours on Friday. Thank God!! We are both bringing our men HOME!!! God is sooooo GOOD!!! Thanks VJ family. I'll write again when I get home. Blessings and Love, Z I-I-I'm sooo hap-happ-happy f-f-for youuu don't get honey-moon-itis (those in the medical profession know what that is and what causes it... )	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-29 10:04:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Inexpensive but Nice, Romantic, Getaways	http://www.allgetaways.com/ check out this site, hope it helps	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-30 18:16:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Inexpensive but Nice, Romantic, Getaways	QUOTE (Asante Maroon @ Jun 29 2008, 06:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Jun 29 2008, 07:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Snoring. I an sure Jen meant snoring. I remember being camping once and there was a man in another tent and his snoring was making the tent walls go whappita whappita .. in and out. Too bad this was prior to everyone owning cam corders It would have been a hit. I own tents and a 5th wheel. I fact about a 3 months from now I have reservations at a campground a bit south of here. Hopefully it will be Josephs first camping trip. With tents there is nothing like keeping each other warm in total darkness. If you are in fairly warm weather the sleeping bags that zip together are just the thing. And a weekend without TV, Phone is always good for a relationship. ....and it will definitely increase snoring Asante, elevate your mind	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-29 21:12:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	A Few Pictures	QUOTE (We_Destiny @ Jun 26 2008, 08:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Thanks Uno Girl, my SO and I are trying to express ourselves, and hold tight to our budget. Thanks a bunch We_Destiny budget...whats that ?? ( ) you in another country doing it big "we_destiny" style, gonnne floss, you only live once	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-26 15:47:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	A Few Pictures	why am I not surprised by your swagger??? all they way in another country and chi-town diva'ism is alive and kicking loving it, twerk it girrrllll UNO p.s. and that green ensemble, is on point	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-26 07:54:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (Asante Maroon @ Jul 7 2008, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jul 7 2008, 11:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> [ and double "WELL ALRIGHT" And the award for best comedian on a blog or thread goes to... drum roll please....UNONONEHIGHER! SPEECH! SPEECH! SPEECH! Asante...U. R. A. NUTT!!!	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-07 22:52:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jul 7 2008, 05:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> im never ashamed of us but it would be nice to just be able to go shopping and be considered normal. i do appreciate that we are changing what is normal for those close minded people and the more we are seen the better, but something I just feel like being ourselves and not up to reshaping the world But definately not hiding too late, you're hired QUOTE (stevi1123 @ Jul 7 2008, 08:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Asante Maroon @ Jul 7 2008, 09:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jul 7 2008, 08:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It must be because my man is home! I'm sure ... Well ALRIGHT! I hear you. and double "WELL ALRIGHT"	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-07 22:10:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jun 25 2008, 11:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Looking back me and hubby should have talked about interracial problems but honestly it never truly crossed my mind because I have never experienced it. Like I said before my family is mixed and it was never and issue. It still would not have deterred me from marrying my husband. Its just something you face but I got some good tips here that I will try next time. When my husband walks by these women who mad dog us he makes this disapproving clicking sound in the back of his throat and shakes his head. just know that people are going to look at you if you are fat, skinny, ugly, cute, short, tall, big butt, hell, no butt, little tits, tig ol' bitties or what have you. you can't please everyone, don't try. and besides, your reward is in heaven.... ::singin negro spiritual:: lawwwwd, don chu knowwu, daat IIIII'mmmmm jus passin by, alll my hopes, my dreams ahn luv ones, don allllll gone on be fo......cuz I can't, {I cant feel} feeel at home, down herrre...any mo'oh	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-25 13:23:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jun 24 2008, 04:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (4theloveofhenry @ Jun 24 2008, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It is sad and shameful that we as humans do not realize that we are ALL Gods children and offspring from one human couple Adam and Eve. But to be quite honest that is the way the world is and will continue to be until God steps in and changes things. The bible says that the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one and that is soooo evident by the spirit of the world. In the bible it talks of people in these times as having no natural affection,not being open to agreement,without self control,fierce, and without love of goodness. These are the kind of people the Bible fortold we would encounter and we should not be suprised to be disliked, hated, and ridiculed for every and any thing we can think of. I would tell you to get used to it but to be honest no one ever gets used to being mistreated. It hurts. But God has foretold of a time that this kind of thing will no longer be. The world is like it is but it will not be this way for much longer. The bible speaks of a time when there will be no more pain nor outcry and things like this will be a thing of the past, a distant memory! I, like many, am waiting for the promised paradise. Its the only thing that keeps me going sometimes, especially when I lost my brother. Im sure many can relate. However, the scripture that is really close to my heart is Isaiah 65:17 "...the former things will not be called to mind neither will they come up into the heart" I'm waiting for that day with great anticipation. I know alot of what we go through today still affects us tomorrow but imagine not even it coming to mind! Uno Im doing to try that thing your cousin does, that is hilarious! My husband will probably be so puzzled when I do but I cant wait to try it, but ill say "hey girl! how are you? I havent seen you in church lately, been busy, huh? Anyways I cant talk now but call me, bye! Yup, got it all planned out. Thanks for all the encouragement folks.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-24 21:02:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (4theloveofhenry @ Jun 24 2008, 02:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It is sad and shameful that we as humans do not realize that we are ALL Gods children and offspring from one human couple Adam and Eve. But to be quite honest that is the way the world is and will continue to be until God steps in and changes things. The bible says that the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one and that is soooo evident by the spirit of the world. In the bible it talks of people in these times as having no natural affection,not being open to agreement,without self control,fierce, and without love of goodness. These are the kind of people the Bible fortold we would encounter and we should not be suprised to be disliked, hated, and ridiculed for every and any thing we can think of. I would tell you to get used to it but to be honest no one ever gets used to being mistreated. It hurts. But God has foretold of a time that this kind of thing will no longer be. The world is like it is but it will not be this way for much longer. The bible speaks of a time when there will be no more pain nor outcry and things like this will be a thing of the past, a distant memory! girl, your words speak to more than Efia's situation. I was just looking for words of hope, just something to keep ME going and "bamm!!" there are your words. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-24 15:50:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	QUOTE (Boaz @ Jun 24 2008, 02:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity (Martin Luther King, Jr)	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-24 14:24:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Disheartened	Hey Efia, Glad you and hubby are doing fine. Sorry about the "mean muggz". There was a similar thread months ago that addressed some of the similar things you mentioned. The thread was started by "divine mercy". If you can muddle through the "mess" in the thread, there is some good insight given. But anyway, keep your head up and something that my cousin brought to my attention is this; when you notice a person having a questionable look about them, address it". Say something like; "Hello, do I know you? I noticed you were looking at me and I was thinking maybe we knew eachother from church or did we go to school together and I forgot to speak!" or she'll say; "Hey girl, how you doing? I aint seen you in a long time, how is your family? girl, tell your momma I said hello and take care or yourself, okay bye!" and then my cousin keeps walking like nothing ever happened. I have seen my cousin do this and it is hilarious as hell, not to mention, the naysayers get embarrassed and move on. Its just a way to claim your victory, break the ice, and have some fun. Much love	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-06-24 13:57:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Where is chispas???	QUOTE (chispas @ Jul 9 2008, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Kanyiri @ Jul 9 2008, 09:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I can't believe so much has happened to you! I'm so sorry you've gone through so much!! I really hope everything will start turning around for the better for you! ((HUGS)) Hola I pray there is something great and positive rolling this way and moreover that I recognize it when it comes. Yes, it seems like when the ball started rolling it couldn't stop. There were so many little things that I didn't consider when I got married and now have to deal with it. The tax thing is one that caught me off guard. I always filed head of household and had my deductions in line. I after the SO started working, I didn't think I had to spot check his paystubs to make sure the deductions would not affect me much. So what I'd like to share about that one is if you make a lot more than your SO does, they can't take out a high number of exemptions. OK 99 exemptions is drastic, but I never thought to spot check that. I hope Uncle Sam is kind to me and if he skips the country, I wouldn't know whether to rejoice or scream. both, the bible says make a "joyful noise unto the Lord"	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-09 17:44:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Where is chispas???	QUOTE (Perseverance @ Jul 8 2008, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am ALWAYS here for you no matter what. , Anytime Chis, A-N-Y-Time UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-08 15:53:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	HE'S HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!	congratulations, I'm happy for you. May God keep you in his loving arms forever. UNO	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-06 18:27:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Just wanted to share	QUOTE (Osagie @ Jul 11 2008, 12:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (stevi1123 @ Jul 10 2008, 05:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Osagie @ Jul 9 2008, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (stevi1123 @ Jul 8 2008, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Osagie @ Jul 8 2008, 12:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (idocare @ Jul 3 2008, 10:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Osagie, I don't understand why your trying to make this out to be something more. If you read my post you would of read that this girl is out in Liberia working on a mission. That's the end of my comments to regarding this post. For you to be so new to this site, you sound like someone that just want to get things started and I'm not in to that. I have yet to hear of a mission worker going into a country and serving the middle class to rich. Want to try to get this thread locked go on and do it, but I'm not gonna entertain whomever this may be. You can just go ahead and write whatever your gonna write I'm cool with that, I've already posted what I wanted and will continue to post within the guidelines, so you post what you want here and type what you want, cause I'm surely gonna post what I want, your sayin that I'm the original writer ? Say whatever you desire, I have nothing to prove to you. I will no longer entertain you type what you want. Peace to you and yours !!!!! Point of correction, I'm not making things up but simply telling you to stop hiding your motives behind that little girl who haven't tasted what life has to offer. She maybe be from an upper class in the US and haven't seen what she saw, so by looking at it; it was astonishing and exciting. She has more life to live, that's just her beginning. Secondly, being as new as you stated does not erase my ability to comprehend your motives behind this thread. You may denied it in this public forum but God knows your heart and you don't want to be honest to your very self. It is not my intension to get this thread lock up; my goal is to expose your hidden motives. Should everyone be asking: "can anything good out of Idocare"? That isn't a good question. You're always posting depressing thread at the wrong time. An example of what I'm saying excluding this is your happy New Year thread. I'm not looking for entertainment and don't deserve it, all I want is to be real. I hate to be a hypocrite; I tell you exactly how I feel about things and still be calm. Like you said that you will continue your trashing posts, keep it up; that's you but how long will you continue such a hypocrisy act? I give you peace, freely as I receive, freely I give. How's that? I think that there is a tendency to get caught-up when reading old, archived threads when you are new to the forum. But we must realize that archives are PAST TENSE. New Years was almost a year ago. We have all moved on since January. I'm all for reading archives, but I certainly don't think it's cool to start an altercation from something someone wrote many months ago. When I first came along here, I said some silly things back then too. I want to apologize for those comments, because after sitting back and witnessing some of the bickering that has come along lately.............. A great man once said "Why can't we all just get along." Ooops, well maybe Rodney King wasn't all that great of a man, but those words apply to so many aspects of life and living. Stevi Stevi, You are so right about your thinking, but guess what? We use the past as guidance for the future and if you can't realize that, you need to be reminded. Another thing, being new here as you claimed doesn't limit my reasoning. You did a good job by apologizing after you realized that some of your posts were silly but the creator of this thread haven't change. She is still moving on and promised to continue with whatever degrading post she has. You have moved on since January and that's interesting but she's still on her path. I wonder if you read all of my comments, my posts wasn't in regard to the past but this current thread and I used the past as a reference since she promised to post whatever degrading post she thinks about. Anyway, that was a nice quote. Oh.....ok, thanks. And you even researched the MONTH I was acting foolish You don't need to mention that, like you stated earlier; they are past tense. You have changed your ways of thinking or your styles of writing which is very impressive. Why should I remind you of the past? I just don't see it to be fair if I do. In life, people make mistakes and correct those mistakes after they realize the wrong. It's like we have learned enough from the media about how degrading Africa is and if we choose to be part of Africa, let us focus on our motives instead of injecting the media's ideas into it. It is very exciting to discuss African's beauty you haven't seen or heard, our love stories with our African spouse or just something positive about Africa. Such a thread is usually fascinating and long lasting.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-11 17:45:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	Just wanted to share	QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jul 8 2008, 09:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (LovinLiberia @ Jul 8 2008, 10:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Eww, it looks like he's tasting it, too. YUMMY maybe I should put it in the Chocolate thread!! ummm, no....no thank you	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-08 22:30:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	QUOTE (stevi1123 @ Jul 14 2008, 11:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jul 15 2008, 12:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jul 14 2008, 08:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> my name....... is self explanitory..... she did not ask "what does your name mean?" she asked "how is your named pronounced?!?!?!?!?! you don't get off that easy You two are turning up in every thread All this "fighting" has got to stop. Every night, you two "insomniacs" are up fighting each other. its love	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-14 23:19:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	QUOTE (Truth be Told @ Jul 14 2008, 08:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> my name....... is self explanitory..... she did not ask "what does your name mean?" she asked "how is your named pronounced?!?!?!?!?! you don't get off that easy	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-14 23:08:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	QUOTE (Zi Zi @ Jul 14 2008, 05:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Zi Zi pronounce Zee Zee. My name is Grace when I was a kid other children called me Gracie which was changed as children do to Crazy........ then they just shorten it to Zi. Always one to have the last laugh I told them that I was double crazy..... so I became Zi Zi.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-14 17:49:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	QUOTE (stevi1123 @ Jul 13 2008, 01:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jul 13 2008, 02:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hahaha, this is cute . my "VJ" name is "unononehigher" which is pronounced "ooo-NOE-nun-HY-errr" or "uuu-NOE-nun-HIE-yerrr" or just "OOO-no" or ....ahem..."UUU-no" for short p.s. I belive we had a similar thread aloonnnnng time ago See what I mean... I have been thinking/saying to myself that yours is "You know None Higher". (that is HILARIOUS!!!) but not far from the implication, "you know none higher" than God and I guess "UNO" was "you know????" I love it...hahaha	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-13 13:54:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan	How do you Pronounce your name?	hahaha, this is cute . my "VJ" name is "unononehigher" which is pronounced "ooo-NOE-nun-HY-errr" or "uuu-NOE-nun-HIE-yerrr" or just "OOO-no" or ....ahem..."UUU-no" for short p.s. I belive we had a similar thread aloonnnnng time ago Edited by unononehigher, 13 July 2008 - 01:37 PM.	Simply_Uno	Female	0	2008-07-13 13:34:00