ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
Middle East and North AfricaAnyone else hate this question as much as I do?

Maybe I should write the answer on my forehead..............."I DON"T FREAKIN KNOW......STOP ASKING ME!!!"


Yes, it's an annoying question. Ever since I told people at the hospital where I work and the church where I attend that I'm engaged, I've been asked this question. And mind you, this isn't just 20-30 people...try a couple hundred. Including people who've forgotten what you told them a week ago...so the conversation has to be straightened out all over again! I got asked more annoying questions by a few other people who've tried to pry, but I won't go into those. But back to the original question, over time that question does dissipate as people finally understand that it will take a while. I told most everybody in my most recent spiel, "I submitted the paperwork to get her here, and also after conversations with Jacki, it appears she will be here around January of next year." So now most people get that...but there are always stragglers who haven't heard the details. But one thing I've learned is, answer as politely and as methodically as you can...because most of the people who ask are only asking because they care...sure, some are gossipers, but treat everyone as if they genuinely care about your situation. Perhaps you can give them something to do, too...pray for you and your fiancé's application and visa process to go by speedily. Bug them and ask them if they've been praying for you. The time apart from your loved one isn't easy on you as it is...and everyone needs true, sincere prayer from others.

God bless-
dj1206MalePhilippines2007-04-06 18:06:00
Middle East and North AfricaUSCIS-Calif Service center

Ok, first question.................what does it mean by being "touched" on here?
Second..................any news on CSC and their delays? Have they resolved it? I am still waiting as I know the rest are too for the NOA2. I am in my 93rd day (I think-need to check) Anyway, someone give some feedback on this and thanks. :help:



1) "Touch" means that the date that some portion of your petition was last touched by someone at USCIS. This is indicated on the CRIS web site, and only the date changes until the status changes (Approval Notice Sent, RFE, Denial Notice Sent, etc.).

2) You're probably in the 100-day stack like we were...hang in there. We had one touch on June 6th and at 1:37am or so my time (NC also!!) early the next morning, the status changed to "Approval Notice Sent." Maybe we got put in the cleaning lady's stack of petitions...1:37am here is 10:37pm there! And I'm reasonably certain that it's a 9-5 operation. As far as your delays question, is this regarding notice production/delivery? I know that we got approved on 6/6/07 and I received our NOA2 in the mail from CSC on 6/11/07, so there was no delay in ours, at least, outside of the 100 days they sat on it while I watched other VJers who submitted in mid-March get approved weeks before we even got a touch!!
dj1206MalePhilippines2007-07-02 19:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaNeed info about embassy interview in Jordan
QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 6 2008, 06:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If he could get the refugee than he would be entitled to everything a refugee is entitled to. In fact, Iraqi refugees are recieving the longest period of assistance. There is some information out there on what that assistance is if you google "US refugee benifits". This site will give you a little information about the refugee process:

http://www.immihelp.com/gc/refugee.html#CasePresent

As for the priority, right now there have been a limited number of refugees that were referred to the United States. So family members of US citizens should not have to wait too long (inshallah). I sent his application about 5 weeks ago and we have already heard from them last week about them wanting to bring him in to talk to him. Inshallah the process will be quick. I will let you know more as I know something.


Thanks that's awesome. Can you send me a private message I have a question I would like to ask but not on the general message board.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-06 17:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaNeed info about embassy interview in Jordan
also, I wonder if they put their name in for refugee resettlement will they be put at the back of the line of everyone who is waiting for resettlement? There's over at least a million Iraqi's waiting for resettlement.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-06 13:03:00
Middle East and North AfricaNeed info about embassy interview in Jordan
Wow, thanks. I wonder if they are eligible for a lot of help, education, employment if they come via the resettlement way?
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-06 13:00:00
Middle East and North AfricaNeed info about embassy interview in Jordan
QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 5 2008, 12:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Has your immigration petition been approved? Once mine was approved it also qualified him for processing as a refugee. I got a letter from the department of state about it and an application to apply.


No I haven't been approved yet but he has an application with the UN already.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-05 12:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaNeed info about embassy interview in Jordan
Hey my husband is an iraqi refugee in Jordan as well. When I submitted my application it didn't really ask for any info from my husband except the G-325A signed by him. I'll send you a pm, maybe our husbands can work together to work on having everything they need.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-04 21:54:00
Middle East and North AfricaI just lost it with my husband!
Yeah, stay on the meds and talk it out........those are the best things to get through this difficult time. Unfortunately many people who don't suffer from depression have a hard time understanding how disabling it can be. sad.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-10 17:03:00
Middle East and North AfricaRace relations: Share your family story
I'm of the opinion that racism has gone from completely to overt to mainly covert. Oh it exists but in forms that are harder to pin down and get people to believe it was racism. Which leads others to invalidate the opinion that racism still exists which just causes more of a rift between communities.

I'm married to an Iraqi and it's been an issue in my family. He says it's not an issue in his but I don't know that because they are stuck in Iraq and I haven't met them.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-12 00:48:00
Middle East and North AfricaPlease welcome a new MENA member!
Welcome! And count me in as one whose family wasn't overjoyed. smile.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-09 09:43:00
Middle East and North AfricaSunday.....
Well I went to sleep at 4:30am Sunday morning does that count? lol
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-14 00:28:00
Middle East and North AfricaWe got married
Congratulations!!

Funny your man from Jordan came to NC to get married and me from NC went to Jordan to get married. lol congrats again.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-09 16:13:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
QUOTE (a1angied @ Apr 15 2008, 06:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you would like to pm me I will give you my husbands email so that your husband can email my husband. My husband speaks arabic and came from Jordan, I am certain that he would be more than happy to help your husband out.


Thanks, I just don't know if my husband would ask for help from anyone but me. laughing.gif

Thanks everyone. I know I have places to go if I have specific questions.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 18:28:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
QUOTE (sarahaziz @ Apr 15 2008, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just respect to you, his wife, if you are ok with it and he is also then I will be happy to help.


Thanks. good.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 11:48:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
QUOTE (julianna @ Apr 14 2008, 11:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 14 2008, 08:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (sarahaziz @ Apr 14 2008, 09:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i can speak arabic if you need.

but im also a woman so i dont know.



Thanks.... but what do you mean you are a woman? unsure.gif


Sarah is probably alluding to the fact it may not be appropriate for her to speak to your husband from either her, her husband's, your husband's or your POVs smile.gif


Oh I see... well I can only speak for myself and it wouldn't bother me one bit. As far as I'm concerned my husband needs to get use to any and everyone talking to him if he's going to live in the US. wink.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 10:21:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
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QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 14 2008, 08:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just wondering if there was something in his native language. It would help a lot.

http://www.dvd4arab....splay.php?f=600 Perhaps this site, corner of expatriates by many useful topics, and members are cooperating to a large extent



Thanks I sent it to him.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-14 20:47:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
QUOTE (sarahaziz @ Apr 14 2008, 09:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i can speak arabic if you need.

but im also a woman so i dont know.



Thanks.... but what do you mean you are a woman? unsure.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-14 20:44:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes anyone know if there is an immigration site for the US in Arabic?
Just wondering if there was something in his native language. It would help a lot.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-14 13:51:00
Middle East and North AfricaPets and middle eastern spouses
QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 15 2008, 12:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How do you go about keeping doves? That sounds like it could be a nice thing to try.


beats me that will definitely be his thing. laughing.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 10:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaPets and middle eastern spouses
QUOTE (Pattu Rani @ Apr 14 2008, 02:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do MENA ppl keep birds as pets? I think some very orthodox Hindus do not believe in keeping dogs and cats in the house(maybe because they need to eat meat?) but I saw a lot of pet parrots in Nepal and India. My sweet Senegal parrot Lani Girl died in October '06 and I miss having a parrot in the house so much - she was my baby... cray5ol.gif Govi loves all animals as well and we have talked about getting another parrot - I have held off on getting another one because I want to get a bird that gets along with both of us.


My hubby wants Doves. He says his dad use to raise them. smile.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-14 20:14:00
Middle East and North AfricaPets and middle eastern spouses
QUOTE (cindishah @ Apr 13 2008, 07:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Rocketta, good luck on telling the MENA how he going to have to live with pet and so on in his own home..let us know how this oppositional defiant stance works for y ou in the long rung......


Oh it will work out one of two ways. We will live happily with my cats or he will live happily without me and my cats. That's not negotiable. I don't worry about dealing with a MENA man. He has to worry about dealing with an AA me. whistling.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-13 21:48:00
Middle East and North AfricaPets and middle eastern spouses
I suspect that my husband wouldn't want any pets in the house but he has no choice. I currently have 3 cats in the house and a spoiled brat of a dog in the house. I live with my mom and when I move she won't let me take the dog and the youngest cat but the other two are mine. There will be no discussion about whether they can come live with us. My cats are 17 and 14. I've known them much longer than him. They stay.. He says he understands but we'll see. Oh he also knows my dog Venus is going to try to tear him a new one when she meets him. She doesn't like males. biggrin.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-13 17:26:00
Middle East and North AfricaKeep us in your prayers!
I'll say a prayer, I'll cross my fingers, I'll wish you luck, basically anything as long as it works and you get reunited with your loved one.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 18:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaArab world sees U.S. in poor light:
Arab world sees U.S. in poor light: poll By Sue Pleming
Mon Apr 14, 1:35 PM ET



Eight out of 10 Arabs have an unfavorable view of the United States and only six percent believe the U.S. troop build-up in Iraq in the last year has worked, said a poll of six Arab countries released on Monday.

The poll by the University of Maryland and Zogby International, also found most Arabs did not see U.S. foe Iran as a threat and they sympathized more with Hamas in the Palestinian Territories than U.S.-backed Fatah.

"There is a growing mistrust and lack of confidence in the United States," said Shibley Telhami, a University of Maryland professor in charge of the annual poll.

The survey canvassed the opinions of about 4,000 people over the past month in Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Morocco, Jordan, Lebanon and the United Arab Emirates. It has a margin of error of about 1.6 percent.

Of those polled, 83 percent had an unfavorable view of the United States and 70 percent had no confidence in the superpower.

"You see this (mistrust) in the number of people who are more comfortable with the US withdrawal from Iraq," said Telhami, noting that more people in this year's annual survey wanted the United States to leave Iraq.

Last year, 44 percent believed Iraqis would find a way to bridge their differences if the United States pulled out but that figure rose to 61 percent this year.

Only six percent of the respondents believed the U.S. boost of troop levels in Iraq last year by 30,000 had worked to reduce the conflict and one in three mistrusted news reports that violence had declined at all.

Eight in 10 Arabs believed that Iraqis were worse off than they were before the U.S. invasion in March 2003, while 2 percent thought they were better off.

The biggest concern was that Iraq would remain unstable and spread instability in the region, with 59 percent voicing this worry over 42 percent last year.

In contrast to U.S. government views, most Arabs did not see Iran as a major threat and 67 percent considered Tehran had the right to a nuclear program.

PEACE DOUBTS

Over 80 percent of respondents identified the Arab-Israeli conflict as a key issue but just over half -- 55 percent -- did not believe there would ever be a lasting peace between the Israelis and the Palestinians despite U.S. efforts to broker a deal between the two by the end of this year.

The United States has sought to isolate the militant Palestinian group Hamas, which took control of the Gaza strip last June, while U.S.-backed President Mahmoud Abbas and his Fatah movement control the West Bank.

In the conflict between Hamas and Fatah, only 8 percent said they sympathized most with Fatah and 18 percent were more partial to Hamas, while 37 percent said they backed both.

In the Lebanese conflict, only 9 percent expressed sympathy with the majority governing coalition supported by Washington while 30 percent backed the opposition led by the militant group Hezbollah, which the United States opposes.

Hezbollah's leader Sayyed Hassan Nasrallah's popularity grew as did Syrian President Bashar al-Assad. Asked which world leader they disliked most, U.S. President George W. Bush was at the top of the unpopularity poll with 63 percent followed by Israeli Prime Minister Ehud Olmert with 39 percent.

Looking ahead to the next U.S. president, 18 percent of respondents believed Democratic contender Barack Obama had the best chance of advancing peace in the Middle East followed by 13 percent who saw Hillary Clinton as their best hope.

Only 4 percent chose Arizona Sen. John McCain, the presumptive Republican nominee for this November's U.S. presidential election. The remainder either U.S. policy would stay the same whoever won or they were not following election.

One in three respondents believed U.S. policy would remain the same, no matter who won the U.S. election and 20 percent said they were not following the U.S. election anyway.

(Editing by David Storey)

http://news.yahoo.co...a_arabs_poll_dc
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 00:33:00
Middle East and North Africafinding a job and being arab
yes I fear that my baby will have a hard time finding work. I hope I can convince him to go to school first because an American degree on his resume will do wonders to help him with employment.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 13:23:00
Middle East and North AfricaAmnio came back and prelimary
good news, but don't stress yourself out trying to please your family... go with a name that you and your husband love.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 17:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (estadia @ Apr 19 2008, 09:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OMG headbonk.gif STOP plz


obviously they can't it's like an obsessive compulsive itch that just have to scratch. Off-Topic2.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-19 09:07:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (julianna @ Apr 19 2008, 02:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Rocketta-- probably the biggest conflict we have is Shabbat. I don't want to do any work and he insists on cleaning every little thing every moment of the day. Other than that, our differences aren't cultural or relgious but rather personality traits smile.gif We're pretty compatible.


honestly I hate to say it right now but I would love to deal with the little differences and find out what they are. I have to wait and try to predict what are issues would be. sad.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-19 01:31:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
Ok People really can we get back to my topic? I'm really interested. Maybe I should change the title to specify 'culturally' so we can move past the religious debate because I'm not religious and neither is my husband but his background is muslim and mine christian and that surely colors our thought procees.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-19 00:27:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (brnidokiegurl @ Apr 18 2008, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Non-Muslims married to Muslim MENA, What are some of the issues to this relationship? Off-Topic2.gif


Well today, when I was talking to my husband I told him that I was going to dinner with a friend. The first thing he asks is it a girl or a guy? laughing.gif Well today it is a girl but it will be guys. It will be interesting when he's finally confronted with the reality of what I told him. wink.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-19 00:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
ok, it is not fair that you people had pizza and snacks and didn't even invite me. sad.gif

QUOTE (sarahaziz @ Apr 17 2008, 01:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 17 2008, 11:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
whoooo, ok I take offense to being calling a fornicator. laughing.gif

I'm of the belief that spiritual belief is personal and up to everyone to decide what they believe. So if I have kids and my husband is ok with them being christian I"m not going to look at him as something lacking in him, sorry. I wouldn't mind them being raised Muslim but I expect the same respect of my religious beliefs of my husband.

I'm glad I talked to my husband a lot about this before we got married. Just like I adapted my loud, brash American personality to the culture of Jordan when I was there, I expect my husband to adapt his personality to the country he lives in. It's all about compromise. If I can give up pork in my home, he can give up some of the ideas of women and men being friends. That's how I look at it. Compromise and communication is key. I'm not going to be the one doing all the compromising..... but my husband all ready knows that. smile.gif



I agree with you on everything. You know something though? I talked to my husband 100% about everything before marriage I'm just too independent and I make my say in everything and try to be compassionate to his expectations. But after marriage about a year of marriage he thinks he can change my views and my limits after we've already openly talked about it before marriage. (My response is regarding your "letting you talk to other men or changing his views on American ways") No matter how clear you make it to men from that part of the world they have still been babied by sisters, mothers, aunts where they are kind of I don't want to say childish but pretty much Childish! What he wants is what he wants. My spouse was spoiled in that way that he was the man and he could decide anything. I'm working on him currently it doesn't work that way we are 50/50%. Just wanted to give a heads up to all the ladies because it's tough on certain issues of standing grounds as a woman. Especially when a son has controlled his mothers, sisters, aunts activities. What is a wife next to a mother!!


Oh I totally suspect my husband thinks he will be able to convince me of certain things, like cooking. lol All I can say is that I will compromise but that's all I can do.




QUOTE (jpaula @ Apr 17 2008, 02:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is madness. And, it is a madness that is allowed to continute because people rely on scholars to understand their own religion. As I understand it, stoning is not found on the Quran. It is supported by hadith that contradict the Quran. Please, show me where in the Quran is it stated that stoning is punishment for anything? What does the Quran say is punishment for Zina?

Why is it that all of these discussion devolve into long scholar block quotes? Can no one other than VW show their own reasoning and knowledge of their own beliefs? It gets to be rather maddening. And, it is repeated here all too often. Let's spare ourselves another go round. Do a search for the previous posts on interfaith marriages. There are many. I think VW has laid out a pretty good case. Read it and judge for yourself. Or don't. But, please, please, please, long block quotes from scholars get really tiring.


Wow, you actually read those? ohmy.gif


QUOTE (julianna @ Apr 17 2008, 03:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Aymerlu @ Apr 17 2008, 02:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
nevermind


I think Rocketta is taking lessons from Bridget as to how to start awesome threads for those of us stuck at work smile.gif


Frankly, it's really not fair that this convo took off on the day that I'm not home so I couldn't even participate. headbonk.gif

QUOTE (morocco4ever @ Apr 17 2008, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (brnidokiegurl @ Apr 17 2008, 04:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes we talk all the time about this stuff, and i know he is spoiled by his mom etc etc but at the same time he also knows this is here not there. Alot of things have been discussed and fortunately we agree....I AM TO BE BOSS...no just kidding but he does realize things here are to be different


Lol...actually that is how it turns out to be in sorts once they get here. I pretty much take charge because I know how things are done here, and he doesn't want to bother with the details. The important things are decided between us. If we disagree sometimes it goes my way sometimes his way. I can't say my American ex was as easy to work with.

Now when we are in Morocco, he is the boss, I hate it, but I just sit there like some idiot that knows nothing because I have no idea how to do anything with their system.


I know what you mean. When I was in Jordan and got mad it was so hard just not to show my american tail. lol


QUOTE (desert_fox @ Apr 17 2008, 08:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have fornicated many many times, and hope to do it again. Does this mean that I will be stoned, or does it only apply to women??? like...yanno...double standards.



lol, my double standard I told my husband was if I cheat on him he can divorce me but if he cheats on me I would kill him in his sleep. devil.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-18 01:29:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
whoooo, ok I take offense to being calling a fornicator. laughing.gif

I'm of the belief that spiritual belief is personal and up to everyone to decide what they believe. So if I have kids and my husband is ok with them being christian I"m not going to look at him as something lacking in him, sorry. I wouldn't mind them being raised Muslim but I expect the same respect of my religious beliefs of my husband.

I'm glad I talked to my husband a lot about this before we got married. Just like I adapted my loud, brash American personality to the culture of Jordan when I was there, I expect my husband to adapt his personality to the country he lives in. It's all about compromise. If I can give up pork in my home, he can give up some of the ideas of women and men being friends. That's how I look at it. Compromise and communication is key. I'm not going to be the one doing all the compromising..... but my husband all ready knows that. smile.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-17 10:04:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
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QUOTE (ks71905 @ Apr 16 2008, 09:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
we dont really encounter any problems, because i am not practicing organized religion.....so anything of religious content, i just support him...the only thing i would say is make sure as a couple it is understood your children would be muslim....if the father was not insistent on this, i would assume something is very wrong.


I'm not sure I understand your point? Why would a father be insistent on this if he's not real religious and what is it a sign of if he isn't insistent?


Not sure, but Kelly probably meant that if a practicing Muslim father was not insistent on it, then something is wrong.


ok, but what would it be a sign of?


Maybe that the man does not really ever intend to have children with the woman?


hmm, ok. cool.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 13:29:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (Jenn! @ Apr 16 2008, 02:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Rocketta @ Apr 16 2008, 02:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (ks71905 @ Apr 16 2008, 09:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
we dont really encounter any problems, because i am not practicing organized religion.....so anything of religious content, i just support him...the only thing i would say is make sure as a couple it is understood your children would be muslim....if the father was not insistent on this, i would assume something is very wrong.


I'm not sure I understand your point? Why would a father be insistent on this if he's not real religious and what is it a sign of if he isn't insistent?


Not sure, but Kelly probably meant that if a practicing Muslim father was not insistent on it, then something is wrong.


ok, but what would it be a sign of?
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 13:17:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (ks71905 @ Apr 16 2008, 09:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
we dont really encounter any problems, because i am not practicing organized religion.....so anything of religious content, i just support him...the only thing i would say is make sure as a couple it is understood your children would be muslim....if the father was not insistent on this, i would assume something is very wrong.


I'm not sure I understand your point? Why would a father be insistent on this if he's not real religious and what is it a sign of if he isn't insistent?
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 13:05:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (Donna A @ Apr 16 2008, 01:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
we have no problem with the difference maybe because neither of us are really religious. anyway he has asked me once to convert and the answer was no...my forever is in heaven with jesus...ur just a temporary thing.

since we have no kids and are not planning on having them i guess there will be no problems there either.


Me and my husband are not overly religious either but we do want to have one or two kids. This will cause some issues I'm sure. It's not that I'm opposed to my kids being raised muslim but it would have to be an extremely open-minded progressive muslim sect. I would prefer if they were exposed to both and let them choose as adults.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 00:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
QUOTE (sereia @ Apr 16 2008, 01:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (HannahP @ Apr 15 2008, 10:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Muslim women can't marry non-Muslim men, can they?


Islamically? No. But who's stopping them? innocent.gif


hmmm, the Sharia court maybe?? mad.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-16 00:12:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
All very good questions. I know when I was in Jordan, I took a back seat and let my husband do all the talking but I know that when he gets to the US it will be reversed. I just wonder how he will handle it. Only time it became a problem for me was when I got mad because he wouldn't tell me what the shop keepers were telling him the prices were. laughing.gif
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 21:15:00
Middle East and North AfricaNon-Muslims married to Muslim MENA
I just wonder what are some the issues non-muslims have run into in their relationship with the Muslim MENA?
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-15 18:40:00
Middle East and North AfricaMENA married to Americans...
QUOTE (S and S @ Apr 21 2008, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am glad things are moving forward on my husband's refugee status since it will make him less dependent on me. They will even help him find work! Yet at least I know he will be with me for me and for nothing else though I have never doubted him in the least. Mostly I like that he is coming on refugee so no one else can say he married me for the visa. I get so sick of that question. They don't even know him, they just assume.


Yes I agree, I'm tired of my family thinking he is only with me for a visa. Plus I think it will do a lot for his self-esteem to know he is in the country on his own and is not beholden to anyone. I will probably always make more than him so it's a lot for a guy's ego to take.
RockettaFemaleIraq2008-04-21 13:49:00