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WHO ELSE IS WAITING FOR INTERVIEW?????

HELLO I HOPE EVERYONES DOING GOOD. STILL WAITING ON MY HUSBANDS INTERVIEW TO BE SCHEDULED, CALLED NVC EVERYDAY THIS WEEK SO FAR, THEY TELL ME THE SAME THING - INTERVIEWS ARE SCHEDULED 2ND WEEK OF EVERY MONTH BLA BLA BLA, BUT CALL BACK AFTER MAY 15 TO SEE IF U GOT JUNE INTERVIEW- GOT NOTHING TO DO BUT WAIT, HOPE IT COMES FAST, MAYBE WHEN I LEAST EXPECT IT. MY HUSBAND WILL BE WITH THE JERUSALEM CONSULATE IN PALESTINE. THERES NOT THAT MANY MEMBERS HERE FROM PALESTINE, SO I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THEM. IF ANYONE HERE HAS HAD THEIR INTERVIEW AT THE JERUSALEM CONSULATE, WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ANY ADVICE AND EXPERIENCE!!??? WISH EVERYONE THE BEST IN THIS JOURNEY.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-06 21:51:00

MISSPELLED MIDDLE NAME

QUOTE (tngirl21809 @ May 17 2009, 09:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

might cause an RFE.. but as explained. just make a cover letter and explain your typographical error.
present a birth certificate showing the right spelling.

good luck! do not worry so much... things will fall into it's rightful places in time.

thanks but his package has already been forwarded to the embassy for the interview. There were a few vowel misspellings here and there, but they make lots of mistakes like that in the old country, like on my marriage certificate my name is nidah but they put nida' like a long a. I hope its not a problem, my husband actually has a really good friend who works inside the embassy everyday! My husband asks him for any questions he might have, and hes been a great help to us. I will try to stay positive. He will have hs birth certificate at the interview, thats all the proof they need.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-18 10:20:00

MISSPELLED MIDDLE NAME

hi again. well on my husbands birth certificate his middle name is spelled like this Jamil, but on his ds230 and everything else, its spelled like this Jameel, same name but i put 2 e's instead of an i, is this a problem, will it be a problem at the interview???????

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-17 18:09:00

UPDATE!

Hi everyone, i just talked to my husband about our little misspelling problem and he just talked to his good friend who works inside the embassy in jerusalem. His friend told him its not a big deal at all. its common for there to be misspellings here and there when you get an english translation of something in jerusalem. He told my husband dont worry about it, its fine, and it wont cause a problem (he works there everyday so he sees everything) Well i guess that just gives me happiness now, i pray to god everything goes well and were reunited soon!!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-19 10:17:00

Case Complete!!!

QUOTE (IamGodsProperty @ May 5 2009, 06:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

My case completed today! To God be the glory!!!

interveiw wont be this month, but at least the case has finally completed. I'm so thankful for all of the encouragement, and questions answerd during this journey, God bless you v'jers

yaay! congradulations!!!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-05 21:25:00

HOW IS EVERYONE FEELING????

Hey everyone, hope everyones doing good. Just sitting here thinking about my husband and im getting soooo nervous about his interview!! I just want everything to go well, then i start thinking about the what-if's. OMG i couldnt handle anything to go wrong!!! Im so tired of this paperwork immigration process. Its been about 18 months of paperwork and now the interview is just a few weeks away. What if he gets ap, what if he needs more documents?? Im just soo nervous, and stressed, i feel sick to my stomach with no appetite! Ya rabbi inshallah everything goes well and i see him so sooon!!! Im just so worried, he has a very common name Mohammed, but so does 99% of the population in palestine, gosh... all i can do is wait, and wait. Im praying to god everything goes smooth. I need a miracle- i need my husband.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-22 19:22:00

ds230

QUOTE (xylide @ May 26 2009, 08:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

will it cause an RFE if u forgot to put the date on ur ds230?

i need reply asap.. thanks

im not sure, you should call and ask, but i dont think itll be a big problem, just call to make sure but i think its not really a problem.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-26 22:26:00

ALLRIGHT I AM DONE WITH NVC , CASE COMPLETE

HEY CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR CASE COMPLETE!!!!!! WELL THEIR GNA START SCHEDULING INTERVIEWS THE SECOND WEEK OF MAY, HOPE U GET ONE FAST, IM WAITING TOO!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-06 22:53:00

INTERVIEW EXPERIENCE

Hi everyone, my sister is in the immigration process as well and her husband, my brother in law, had his interview today at the embassy in jerusalem, the same place my husband is having his. He had a very successful experience and was APPROVED!! YAAY! his visa should be ready in a few days. An asian young woman, nice too, interviewed him and asked him a variety of questions, he was the first one interviewd and already out of the embassy after 45 minutes!! Very quick and smooth and its nice to know because my husband has his interview there in a few weeks!!!! Omg inshallah everthing goes well, for me and for everyone here waiting!!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK EVERYONE.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-26 16:24:00

FINAL REVIEW

QUOTE (Dean Cain @ May 28 2009, 03:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Called NVC awhile ago after a week upon receiving my papers, it is now on final review. So i guess by next week my papers should be complete..I was hoping it will be complete this week...Any idea when will i get an interview date after the approval? Any possibility that i will get it within a week or two for a July interview...Thanks!

hi when i was on final review, the next day my case completed, so you might get your case complete within next day or few. Yes its very possible your going to get july interview. Good luck!!!!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-28 19:08:00

WHY????????

thanks everyone for their replies, sorry i just find it easier typing in all caps but i will remember for next time, i was in no way shouting or yelling or wasnt trying to be. I immediately found itzallgood's comment hurtful because i was just trying to get an answer to my question. Maybe someone else might not be offended by it but i sure was, that just shows some people dont think before they type. I wish everyone luck on their journey and kindness towards other people!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-31 13:49:00

WHY????????

THANKYOU FOR SUCH HARSH WORDS, AND EXCUSE ME FOR BEING IN THIS PROCESS FOR ALMOST 20 MONTHS AND WANTING ANSWERS TO MY QUESTIONS, NO MATTER HOW SMALL OR HOW COMPLICATED. YOUR A VERY RUDE PERSON, AND I DONT WISH SUCH DISRESPECTFUL WORDS ON ANYBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-31 00:45:00

WHY????????

WHY IS THE BENEFICIARY ALWAYS FINGERPRINTED BEFORE THE INTERVIEW???? IS IT TO SEE IF THEYVE EVER BEEN ARRESTED OR HAVE A CRIMINAL HISTORY??? OR IS IT JUST PROCEDURE??

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-31 00:28:00

GOOD LUCK JUNE INTERVIEWS!!

good luck everyone!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-06 23:29:00

GOOD LUCK JUNE INTERVIEWS!!

Hi everyone, i just wanted to wish everyone with upcoming interviews good luck!! My husband Mohammed has his interview in 18 more days, getting nervous and keep thinking "what if, what if", i guess its normal but i wish us all good luck!!!! May we all be reunited with our spouses soon!! I guess we should just think about positive things like when they get here. Me an Mo wanna have our first child when he gets here, i know im only 20 and that might be a little young but i love babies and cant wait! BUT, gotta get through the interview first!!!!! GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-05 23:06:00

WORDS OF ADVICE

Hi everyone my husband mohammeds interview is in 11 days, any words of advice?? What will they be looking at? I have just sent him an updated i864 and i864A and also my 2008 tax returns, all our phone and cell phone bills, wedding and engagement pictures, pictures off my cell phone of us together, my flight itinerary from when i came back for us to get married, phone card receipts, all the inbox and sent logs from the emails that we send each other, am i forgetting anything else?? we have everyhting we need i guess, my only worry now is the way i spelled his middle name which is Jamil but i spelled Jameel. Omg i just pray to god that its not an issue and he passes with no problems, he has no record both in palestinian and israeli police certificates, all i can do is wait and pray. Any advice anyone??

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-12 13:01:00

Hey maybe someone can help me??

Hi everyone my brother in law had his interview on may 26 2009, and today is june 13 2009. His interview was for a cr1 visa and he had a very successful interview with a very nice co, he was in and out in 45 minutes. The co told him he'll get the visa in 1-2 weeks. It has now been 2 weeks and 4 days, and he hasnt received it yet. Is this normal?? I mean he had all his documents in order, everything was perfect, but he hasnt received his visa yet, what do yall think. Do you think its still early to be worrying? He had his interview at the consulate in jerusalem. My uncle actually mentioned yesterday that they are giving out the visas on the 15th of the month. My brother in law also went to the aramex place where they deliver the visas and they told him that its normal for the visa to take this amount of time. My sister also wrote the consul an email about 3 days ago, how long does it take for them to respond??

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-13 16:57:00

IS THIS NORMAL????

Hi everyone, i posted a previous post about my brother in law not receiving his visa after 2 weeks. Well, yesterday we called DOS and they said that the visa was issues on MAY 28, when the interview was MAY 26!, thats 2 days after the interview. Anyways, how come he hasnt received the visa yet??? Could they have forgot to send it out??? MAybe they forgot to mail it? He went to every aramex in the city and no one had his visa.... What should he do? Hes going to the consul tomorrow. I mean DOS clearly stated visa issued may 28, so what do yall think?

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-16 12:01:00

FIND OUT TOMORROW NGHT!

Hi everyone, tomorrow midnight my time my husband will be going to his interview, which is 8:30 am his time. I will be awake awaiting the results. I have seen so many successful interviews so far on vj and i hope to have the same success. My only only only worry thats just driving me crazy is when we filed his papers, his middle name is jamil but we spelled it like jameel, same name just 2 e's instead of an i, but on his birth c and our marr cert, it states fathers name is jamil, .............................and after i sent in his ds-230 and instruction packet and copy of passport and all that stuff, when i received his appointment letter, nvc had actually changed his name on the appointment letter with the exact name on passport, without my knowledge, so basically they have him under his passport name spelling, which is a good thing i guess, i never received an incomplete or rfe or anything, they changed it themselves. Now interview is here and i praaaaaaaay that everythings quick and hes approved. Wish us luck everyone and pray for me!! i wish everyone good luck, i hope i have good news soon....inshallah.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-21 21:22:00

INTERVIEW RESULTS

Hi everyone my husband had his interview today, he said the co was very nice and and that he was approved BUT they co wants me to send a small "no tax" note stating that i dont work therefore i dont file taxes, signed and dated ???????? He gave him a paper stating that " It cannot issue you a visa at this time under section 221(g)" also, " In order to complete processing of your visa application, please provide the following" and it says "no tax note from petitioner". Basically just a few line stating that i dont pay taxes because i dont work, and i am dependant on my father because in our customs it is not necessary for the female to work. it does not say he needs further review or that he is denied, just that to complete processing send tax note.

I cant believe it, i started crying when my husband told me, he was assuring me that the co told him everything was perfect and as soon as i send this note and my husband sends it to them then they will call him to send his passport.
I have already typed out the letter and i will overnight it to him. HAS ANYONE EVER HAD THIS KIND OF EXPERIENCE WHERE YOU HAD TO SEND IN ADDITIONAL DOCUMENTS????????? HOW LONG DID IT TAKE, I FEEL LIKE IM ABOUT TO BREAK DOWN!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-23 10:59:00

CAn we do this??

Hi well my husband was requested an additonal document after his interview, the embassy will have it next week. Can my husband send his passport along with the additional document or is that a bad idea?? Ive seen on a few posts here that some people sent their passport along with their requested documents. Or should i wait for them to call him?

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-25 09:51:00

SO HARD

I never thought id feel this way after my husbands interview. I never thought this would be the hardest year of my life. I wish i could rewind time so i could be back with my husband. I dont care about living in america, as long as hes with me i dont care. All day i try to cheer myself up but im just numb now. He passed his interview but they wanted an additonal document from me which ive already sent to him. I just feel scared, how long until they call him to send his passport? what if there are additional delays?? I hate not knowing, i hope it doesnt take long. All i can do is pray hard that it doesnt take long, inshallah. Our 1 anniversary is a couple weeks away, it would be a miracle if were together. I feel like visa journey is taking over my life. Why cant i just be with my husband like a normal couple. My husband wants me to be strong, he always assures me that inshallah everything goes quick and its not a big deal that they wanted an extra paper from me. I pray that they approve it quickly and call him. I cant wait til this is all over, whenever that day is. Ive learned in this process that i dont deal with pain that good, i cant handle it.
I would love to hear from someone who was requested to send in additonal document after their interview and how long did it take til they issued the visa, someone with the same experience, it would surely give me hope, cause i need it now.

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-24 18:25:00

What do you think?

QUOTE (gogo @ Jun 26 2009, 07:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

if you take too long, USCIS might not think you are serious of your visa..

Hi thanks, the embassy will have my requested letter on the 30th, thats 7 days after the interview, it wouldve been earlier but usps dont overnight to po boxes

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-26 09:51:00

What do you think?

Hi again, just another question popped in my head, i was reading about approvals after 221g just recently, and do you think when addtitional documentation is requested after the interview, its better to send it ASAP rather than later, does it make a difference?

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-06-26 00:17:00

What is the next step???????

Hi everyone my brother in law arrived to america last week on a cr1 visa. We want to know what is the next step? what does he have to do now?

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-07-02 19:04:00

HAS ANYONE HAD ANY EXPERIENCE AT THIS EMBASSY????

HI HAS ANYONE HAD ANY EXPERIENCE AT THE JERUSALEM CONSULATE IN ISRAEL???? HAS ANYONE HAD THEIR INTERVIEW THERE??? PLEASE TELL ME UR EXPERIENCE, HOW WAS IT? DID THEY ASK A LOT OF QUESTIONS? WERE THEY FRIENDLY?? WHAT SHOULD WE EXPECT????? ANY ADVICE WOULD BE VERY MUCH HELPFUL AND APPRECIATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HOPE TO HEAR FROM SOMEONE SOON, ANYONE!!

married1989

Female

Israel

2009-05-03 19:13:00

When to file petition for K-1 visa ?

I believe the fiancee visa is good for 6 months once approved. The process itself could take anywhere from 3-12 months realistically based on which countries are involved and if everything goes smoothly. So technically that gives you a 9-18 month standard window to work with for planning.

I would imagine if you started now, you would be safe. If the process moves more quickly than hoped for, you can slow it down yourself.

Basically, with the 6 month window after approval, if you are approved on or after May/June 2008, then you are very much in the safety range for making plans in October 2008.

I would certainly get started right away if it were me.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-10-21 07:47:00

About Original documents ...

I have read both of those links probably 50 times over the past months.

Both basically state the same thing:

"Consular officers may ask to see originals of documents. The applicant may submit a photocopy of a document along with the visa application but should bring the original document for the officer’s inspection."

They just never say "which" original documents must be submitted.

I'd just like to know specifically which ones are required to be original. There doesn't seem to be a list anywhere that I can find.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-10-21 19:33:00

About Original documents ...

First of all, I'm a brand new member! Hello everyone! The information I've found on VisaJourney has been most helpful in my quest to avoid the use of an attorney to do my dirty work.

Anyhow, as for my question:

I have prepared quite an amazing Affidavit of Support package, awaiting now the arrival of my NAO2 still--even though the the email said it was mailed on the 4th of October...

...however, I have read many articles stating that I need to send my beautiful fiancee the original documents from my I-129F packet for her interview.

My question is what original documents is this referring to?

Do I need to send her all of the cards and letters she's sent me in the mail, my receipts in the Philippines, my original bank statements, cell phone bills, etc? I was under the impression I only needed to copy these items.

What exactly "must" be original that she is going to need at the interview?

Any advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-10-21 08:13:00

Is NAO2 Hardcopy required at interview?

Well, that's good news.

I was hoping that would be the case.

Thanks for the information all!

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-11-19 07:02:00

Is NAO2 Hardcopy required at interview?

Hello.

Arlyn and I have not yet received our NAO2 Hard Copy, and our interview will most likely be on December 21st at this rate.

What are we supposed to do now?

Can we pass the interview without it?

I have called CSC and had them request a new one, but it still hasn't arrived.

I have emailed them, and only received an automated response that we had been approved--which was redundant.

I don't want us denied the Visa simply because CSC hasn't given us our NAO2 Hard Copy.

Can I simply print out the approval email notices and provide the NVC letter in place of it if they do not send us that Hard Copy in time of the interview?

Help!

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-11-17 22:17:00

What is an "Amended Notice?"

QUOTE (chris4gretchen @ Nov 29 2007, 08:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

its your NOA notice that you requested.

Chris

Thanks, I sure hope they haven't "amended" anything though.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-11-29 22:44:00

What is an "Amended Notice?"

I got a strange update and email from USCIS today...

QUOTE

Application Type: I129F , PETITION FOR FIANCE(E)

Current Status: We mailed you an amended notice.

On November 27, 2007, an amended notice on this case was mailed describing how we will process your case. Please follow any instructions on the notice. If you move before receiving our notice, call customer service. If this I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E) is still pending, you will be notified by mail when a decision is made, or if the office needs something from you. If you move while this case is pending, call customer service. If this case is still pending, we process each kind of case in the order we receive them. You can use our processing dates to estimate when this case will be done. This case is at our CALIFORNIA SERVICE CENTER location. Follow the link below for current processing dates. You can also receive automatic e-mail updates as we process your case. Just follow the link below to register.

If you have questions or concerns about your application or the case status results listed above, or if you have not received a decision from USCIS within the current processing time listed*, please contact USCIS Customer Service at (800) 375-5283.

*Current processing times can be found on the USCIS website at www.uscis.gov under Case Status and Processing Dates.
*** Please do not respond to this e-mail message.

Sincerely,

The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS)

What on earth could this mean?

Our case is already in Manila and we have our interview date already.

I'm so confused!

Anyone else get something like this so late in the process?

Could it simply be them sending me another NOA2 Hard Copy perhaps, since I requested one?

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-11-29 19:07:00

Question about Notarization of the Affidavit of Support...

QUOTE (slamber2578 @ Dec 21 2007, 10:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

mine cost 50 bucks for 2 pieces of paper LOL

What on earth?

If you have a bank account, just go to your bank.

They will do it for free just because you're a customer.

Wachovia notarizes everything for me at no charge, and even gave me all of my required records for the Affidavit I needed (stacks of paper) showing all my deposits and withdrawels, history, etc, all neatly organized, and done month by month. I'm sure it took the gentleman a good 2 hours to do, and they charged me nothing.

In the end, if your bank charges you anything for some strange reason--just switch to Wachovia!

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-12-22 21:35:00

Affidavit of support question.

QUOTE (sofia2009 @ Dec 18 2007, 10:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (YuAndDan @ Dec 14 2007, 11:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Look closely at the example forms, http://www.visajourn.../Form-I-134.pdf

I-134 is used for more than K-visas, other non-immigrant visas like student, and visitors, the sponsor can indicate how long and how much they will sponsor, this is not the case for K-visas, so 11 is N/A for the NON-Immigrant K-visas because they have immigrant intent.

aFFIDAVIT OF SUPPORT QUESTION # 11. Why on the example form the answer is "N/A (K1 visa process for permanent residence)..Does it mean the petitioner do not have intend to support the person named in item # 3 which is the beneficiary?What is the correct answer for that? Any respond will greatly appreciate!!!

I can assure you that it does not matter at all. They are only interested in the employment letter and whether or not he meets the poverty guidelines. There is no need to change the information there for that line, because they won't read it anyways. There's no set in stone saying that must be placed there. You can elaborate on your intended support, orput N/A. It will make absolutely NO difference for K1 visa applicants.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2008-01-19 06:07:00

QUOTE (Queen Jenn @ Dec 3 2007, 10:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

And even though we must endure the separation (and the lack of enthusiasm-or outright disapproval of the relationship), it is worth it in the end because we have that REAL, DEEP, ENDURING, TRUE LOVE.

Absolutely. I have explained the situation to a number of people and have had some old-fashioned, lazy American comrades say specifically: "I could never love anyone that much, and go through ALL of that trouble for true love."

My response to them usually is, "Why not?"

In modern-day society, everyone is so slack on marriage vows and too comfortable with divorce. They really don't care about true love. It's all about money, status, and appearance to the majority of them.

Well, I find myself wanting the real thing--living a life of long happiness and experiencing the "until death do you part" quote cited during the wedding vows.

What makes us different from those people is we will go any lengths to find true happiness and love until we have it. They, for the most part, are just simply lazy and settle for what they can get due to lack of patience and concern. The common, "Wow, she's hot--I'm sold" attitude. Although, sometimes you'll find that rare couple that ran into each other as childhood neighbors and enjoy a 75 year marriage--however, I feel those days are quite behind us in the States now. That type of local love rarely takes place anymore due to the upbringing of our modern society and accepted liberalistic lifestyles.

Edited by Stibnite, 04 December 2007 - 02:56 AM.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-12-04 02:54:00

Something else I will add to this since I can't edit the post now...

QUOTE (Stibnite @ Dec 3 2007, 07:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

...however, the visitor who knows nothing about football, or the team, walks by and sees everyone screaming, and has no clue why, nor does this visitor care, because he knows nothing of the situation. Instead, he will think everyone is a little looney for screaming and yelling over something so trivial. He has no idea how close the game was, or how hard the athletes worked to make the comeback win in the final seconds.

(Nor did he spend any money purchasing tickets and travelling 1200 miles across the nation to be there for his visiting team all year long. The visitor knows nothing of the committment and investments and support the football guru has given. Remind you of us at all?

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-12-03 08:37:00

QUOTE (StoryAngel @ Dec 3 2007, 03:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm in the same boat. We've been apart for 8 months and we're going to be seeing each other next week - after less than 2 weeks together this year. I'm also only 2 weeks away from my interview so the largest part of the wait for us is over, thankfully. But it has been very hard for people around me to understand what it's like. It's difficult for me not to take it personally when they don't get as excited... but I do think a lot of it is that they genuinely have no idea! The significance of getting NOA2 just doesn't mean much to someone who isn't clued up on the immigration process. I too find myself getting frustrated by the number of people who assume that if you marry a USC it magics you into the country... and when I've explained the K1 process and the waiting involved I've had a few people try and make suggestions on how they think it would be quicker if I did XYZ... As if we were somehow choosing to take a long immigration route and ignoring some quick route! It's hard at that point not to completely lose my rag. But I do try and remember that anyone not familiar with the process simply isn't going to appreciate the milestones along our visa journeys. That's why VJ is such a great place, to share such moments with people who really understand.

This is when you should counter them with something that catches them by surprise!

When they start making XYZ suggestions (proving they have no clue), then you should look at them and say, "Well, I considered taking that route, actually. However, I discovered that by doing so, we would be hit with immigration fraud which would bar my SO from entering the country for 10 years and I would be fined $250,000 and face other charges. Things are so complicated now due to threats of terrorism these days!"

Sometimes they'll look at you with this crazy look--because they simply have no idea of how severe the situation is. Then look at them and tell them, "In order the prepare everything legally and correctly, we just finished sending off this I-129F packet for the K1 Fiancee Visa application process. It was only about 5" thick and full of long tedious documents. Oh, and that's just the first packet! You should see the next four we've got to send out. This is only the begining of the process!"

Just be honest with those willing to listen, and who are caught by surprise by the smallest details. Those people sometimes even want to listen and learn a little about the process. If you say things with confidence, such as above, most of the time they assume you know what you're talking about, and listen. That is why I suggest saying I-129F packet for the K1 Fiancee Visa application process, rather than just Fiancee Visa. It lets them know that you know exactly what you're talking about, and they will not be able to side-track you with statements on a process they know nothing about.

Rather than looking for empathy, sympathy or understanding from these people--try educating them.

They "can't" understand unless they know.

Think of it like this... a football guru sees a touchdown that just won a game by his favorite team ... he might fall down in the bleechers screaming so loud that he loses his hotdog and drink, and spills it on his screaming neighbor--and neither of them care! Their team just WON!

...however, the visitor who knows nothing about football, or the team, walks by and sees everyone screaming, and has no clue why, nor does this visitor care, because he knows nothing of the situation. Instead, he will think everyone is a little looney for screaming and yelling over something so trivial. He has no idea how close the game was, or how hard the athletes worked to make the comeback win in the final seconds.

People standing outside of our Visa process view us the same way. We get our NOA2 notice, and we scream and dance around our homes and are like glitter for the next few days at work and in public--but those outside looking in have no idea why, and just think we've either won something or are crazy.

Look at it from their viewpoint before judging them, and think of ways to educate them on the process that won't bore them or turn them away from you further.

Edited by Stibnite, 03 December 2007 - 08:30 AM.

Stibnite

Male

Philippines

2007-12-03 08:28:00