ForumTitleContentMemberSexCountryDate/Time
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsReally belated email from the USCIS!
Yeah. It's been processed by the NVC and sent to the Vancouver embassy on the 24th. I'm just waiting for notice from the embassy that they've received it.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-05-04 19:23:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsReally belated email from the USCIS!
I just thought it was really weird. This is why all my fellow Jan filers shouldn't freak out over the internet-alert system, I think. :blink:
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-05-04 15:04:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsReally belated email from the USCIS!
I just got this email from the USCIS. My NOA2 was approved on APRIL 4th. I got the letter in the mail and everything.




The last processing action taken on your case

Receipt Number: xxxxxx

Application Type: I129F , PETITION FOR FIANCE(E)

Current Status: Approval notice sent.

On May 3, 2007, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E). Please follow any instructions on the notice. If you move before you receive the notice, call customer service.

If you have questions or concerns about your application or the case status results listed above, or if you have not received a decision from USCIS within the current processing time listed*, please contact USCIS Customer Service at (800) 375-5283.

*Current processing times can be found on the USCIS website at www.uscis.gov under Case Status & Processing Dates.
*** Please do not respond to this e-mail message.


Sincerely,


The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS)
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-05-04 14:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsSix months of waiting and I get an RFE?

Just a hunch, but I think that they might be taking a closer peek at your petition because of the incredibly short duration of your relationship. (I think I've heard two years being tossed around a lot on here?) Obviously, it shouldn't have taken six months for your RFE to arrive, but I think you might have to go out of your way to provide a lot of evidence as to your relationship...


Yeah, yeah. I know. Just thinking ahead and muddling through where the boy and I are in the process as well. The point: that the visa officials will probably hit the OP up for loooooooots of evidence.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-05-06 12:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsSix months of waiting and I get an RFE?
Just a hunch, but I think that they might be taking a closer peek at your petition because of the incredibly short duration of your relationship. (I think I've heard two years being tossed around a lot on here?) Obviously, it shouldn't have taken six months for your RFE to arrive, but I think you might have to go out of your way to provide a lot of evidence as to your relationship...
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-05-06 12:02:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsThe "No, Nothing Yet" Thread
Meeeeh. If it makes all you no-NOA2 people feel better, I'm still waiting for the NVC to receive our petition -- and it's going on four weeks. :blink:

It seems like you make it over one hurdle only to find another blocking your path.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-04-28 09:48:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers
I know there are a couple of us Jan filers who do have our NOA2.

Any of you guys had any luck with the NVC processing?
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-04-27 17:17:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers
Monday will be week four of our NOA2 approval, but the NVC still has no record of having received our case. Is this normal? Should I start freaking out because they probably lost it?!
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-04-26 10:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsJanuary Filers
NOA2 approved!

NOA1 received date was 1/12.
NOA2 approval date was 3/2.

I had a dream that it had been approved, which is what spurred me to get the mail today.
No touches/emails/online status changes, either.

I'm trying to make a list of everything that I need to get done now, but it's hard to concentrate!
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-04-08 16:56:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reportshow much money you spend on your wedding just curios
Court costs plus $200 for both of our rings.

We both wanted a BWW (it was the first time for both of us) but you just can't plan around the visa process so yeah. His parents have offered us $4,000 for a (late) honeymoon 'tho. biggrin.gif
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-06-15 14:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsHow can I let the USCIS know what I think of them
Eh. You get over the whole righteous indignation thing after your spouse gets here.

It's a phase most VJers go through. Some are just more vocal about it than others.
HannahPFemaleCanada2011-01-03 21:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsIs it just me or has going through immigration really put wedding planning into perspective?
My husband and I wanted a big white wedding but didn't get it. My father probably would have paid (he's fairly traditional and makes good money as a doctor) but we had to do everything rush-rush at the last minute for various visa-related reasons.

Our wedding was actually pretty sad. I wore a used dress and he wore an old suit. His parents were able to make it from Canada, thankfully, but only my parents and two of my nine siblings could attend. My dad snapped some shots on his camera but deleted most of them. I have, like, three pictures of my wedding day. I had to go to work right after so we didn't even have a dinner or anything "nice" afterwards. His parents offered us 4k for a honeymoon, an offer we haven't been able to take them up on four years later. My father swears to this day that he gave us some money as a present but he never did.

So my total wedding cost was whatever the marriage license cost plus $200 for both of our rings. His mom bought me a beautiful bouquet to "carry" which was sweet of her. :)

I think the hardest part was the total lack of validation from any of our other family/friends. We sent out cards but got maybe a handful of replies? Only his parents gave us a present. It was like...we had to do everything so last minute so it wasn't a "real marriage" in the eyes of most of our family and friends. I had family asking me two years into my marriage when I was going to have a real ceremony!

Edited by HannahP, 13 October 2011 - 07:06 PM.

HannahPFemaleCanada2011-10-13 19:04:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress ReportsFrustrated at this broken, broken system
You'll get over it. Trust me.
HannahPFemaleCanada2012-07-22 19:53:00
Middle East and North AfricaConcerns and Trust

I smoked but did not inhale! lol lol lol

American women we are so loving and caring with a pure heart



Obviousy you haven't read the Russian forum :whistle:


Or the China forum.

Really, I think the MENA forum girls should get together with the girls marrying guys out of Nigeria!
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-07-20 16:37:00
Middle East and North AfricaConcerns and Trust

I would certainly question why he thinks his values, upbringing, religious tenets about marriage, can be thrown out the window just because he is marrying a western woman.


Now I'm just curious. The way you phrased it makes it sound like most cultural and religious sentiments in the Arabic world are pretty strict and uniform; can an Arabic man have "Western" beliefs?
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-07-20 10:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaConcerns and Trust

But the fact remains, he is not coming to the marriage in any way the same he would come to a marriage with a MENA woman, and he is not participating in his marriage the same way either if he leaves just because he can because he is here.


That's true, and that's not something that I've had to deal with in my relationship and thus not something I've put a lot of thought in to.

Is it "fair" to hold him to the same standards that he would be held to in his country of origin? (Picking and choosing what is convient to you is very...Western in itself. Religion, et al.) Would *you* personally consider his non-adherence to traditional marriage customs to be fraudulent in itself?
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-07-20 10:24:00
Middle East and North AfricaConcerns and Trust

Huh.

As an outsider who married a Canadian ("Oh, he's just Canadian. That's practically American anyway!") but trolls through the other forums from time to time...it's been my observation that there are plenty of jerks in all countries. Surprise!



Hannah - thanks for dropping by and being a voice of reason. You stated so much better what I was trying to say, but I got bogged down in the arguement of culture.



And I will just add, that there is a pattern common to many relationships here (not exclusively MENA although I do see it here because there is so much talk here) that may doom the relationship from the start. You've touched on some of those- quick engagements, very little time in real life together. I think many men and women come into these relationships lacking. it's not just an internet relationship thing- many couples with same nationalities get themselves into marriages that do not work.



This is pretty much what I was trying to get at!

I see it a lot in my friends, so it's not just an international/internet thing, not at all. Being in my early twenties -- a lot of my friends are shacking up, getting married, etc. And all the ####### I get for doing just the opposite, going into a committed long-term relationship at such a young age and then getting married. ("Not enough life experience!") So much of it is just covering your ears from the naysayers and barreling forward, although I suspect that's what gets a lot of relationships in trouble to begin with!

But the short engagements, not really knowing each other in real life (even those who stay with the SO for a few months -- I vacationed with my boy in Canada for months, but setting up a house with him for two years was a different beast entirely), uprooting at least one partner from friends/family/culture...are all almost universal factors in VJ relationships.

The fact that engagement and marriage are *required* aspects of the immigration process -- we think of marriage as being sacred and forever, but the harsh reality is that marriage in a long-distance relationship is just a stepping stone. Distance, as well as governmental regulations, retards the whole dating process for so many of us. We're getting married at a point when a "normal" couple might consider moving in together or even simply becoming an exclusive couple. So you can't really apply traditional concepts of dating and marriage to this board, which is what I think many people (especially outsiders) tend to do...
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-07-20 09:56:00
Middle East and North AfricaConcerns and Trust
Huh.

As an outsider who married a Canadian ("Oh, he's just Canadian. That's practically American anyway!") but trolls through the other forums from time to time...it's been my observation that there are plenty of jerks in all countries. Surprise!

No, but really. Why argue the *Arabic* mindset when MENA is just another high-fraud consulate? How many American men get left by their Russian or Chinese wives? Or American women by their Nigerian husbands? (Or for that matter -- US citizens by their Canadian spouses?) You just don't hear about the failed relationships much on here - shame, I guess - or you hear about them second-hand in the "I know someone who..." game.

When I first joined visajourney, what shocked *me* was the incredibly short duration between meeting/engagement/marriage. Of all nationalities. I couldn't fathom meeting someone online, chatting for a few months, visiting them in person for a few days, and then getting engaged/married! My own experience was so different and so normal compared to the experiences of most couples on here.

So you read about the failures. Or you speculate about some of the crazier stories on here, right? You troll through the high-fraud forums (MENA only being one of them!) and notice a lot of similarities. I'll admit that, as an outsider with a fiance from an industrialized country and two years of living together already behind us, I've probably passed too many judgements on relationships that I simply couldn't fathom. Why would anyone think something like that would work?

But the longer I stay on here, the harder it becomes to untangle the fraudulant from the usual problems that any international relationship is going to face. So there's a lot of generalization (which may or may not be true) about the *Arabic* culture and *Arabic* men; but why single that out as the negative factor? Culture may play a part of it, but you guys also have to deal with a high-fraud consulate (although I liked the "going to church to find a Christian partner" analogy & think it very relevant), the usual hardships of an international relationship, and the profound culture shock that your spouse is probably experiencing. How do you untangle what is what?
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-07-20 08:45:00
Middle East and North AfricaWhy you got Married/engaged to your spouse/fiance?!!!
I don't think that I could ever marry a person "just" for love. It takes a lot more than love to make a relationship work!
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-11-02 01:01:00
Middle East and North Africatrust issues
QUOTE (wahrania @ Nov 14 2007, 12:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have never thought this......but if you do not have something kind and encouraging to say or good advice.... and your man is here already... and you arent in the middle of these trials and tribulations

You need to get your ### off the boards. What you said to doodle was uncalled for to begin with...

And here you are with your husband here... Can't you be a little compassionate?

WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE ON HERE?



Good god, what is WRONG WITH YOU? Maybe you wouldn't be a complete nutcase over being separated from your husband if you stopped obsessing over it. Get a hobby. Smoke a joint. Relax.

You act as if you (&the other unfortunate MENA couples who are going through a prolonged separation) are the only person in the world who has ever been apart from a loved one. Hate to burst your little ego-bubble, but there are plenty of couples who've had to go through separations. My sister was separated from her partner for 18 months when she got deployed to Iran; next year, they will be separated for over two years because she's getting deployed to Kosovo.

You could at least pretend to have an ounce of self-respect.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-11-14 01:03:00
Middle East and North Africaalgerian american citizen married to algerian citizen
QUOTE (Jomo @ Dec 7 2007, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Visa in hand! @ Dec 7 2007, 11:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I love this! The attitude "I am of the same culture, so only my relationship is real". This is the US, have you looked around lately? We are a nation of multi culture in every way, including marriages. My ex, for example, american married to an american. He sits on his lazy a$$ at home while she works 2 jobs. Using is nothing to do with a specific culture, it is of a specifc personality. Why is this so important for you to point this out to us anyway? I suspect you hold some sort of grudge against american women, not that you want to help them. You have real issues.



The funny thing about when I read something like this is that I see it all the time when Jamaicans are speaking badly about American/Jamaican marriages and visas. I swear, word for word, I have heard the same things as the thread starter stated in that linked thread. Is this common with all countries I wonder.

I have to agree with the above post. You have said exactly what I have wanted to tell every one of those naysayers too.

Absolutely nothing is guarenteed in this world.



Death and taxes!
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-12-07 16:54:00
Middle East and North Africaour yisa
QUOTE (Meriem_setif @ Jun 22 2007, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (micky-sabry @ Jun 22 2007, 03:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (deemabrouk @ Jun 18 2007, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (micky-sabry @ Jun 18 2007, 10:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
sorry for all the confussion blush.gif i applied in dec/05 for K1 it was sitting in cairo embassy from feb 2006 thru till i withdrew it dec 2006 . nothing was getting done just sitting on someones desk collecting dust. so we got married and i applied for the spousal visa and it was approved june 5 2007.20 days it took to the date at the california center . vermont had it for 10 months without processing it so it was transferred to the calif. center no time and we were approved.now we are waiting for the packets from the nvc . then to cairo again. hopefully he will be here by the end of the summer. sorry to all i hope i cleared it all up for you, micky good.gif


MABROUK micky... I know you have ben waiting a LONGGGGGGGGGG time... hopefully your processing will speed up smile.gif



thank you mabrouk. as os june 21 my case is finally at the national visa center.i am so excited i can see the light in that long tunnel now lol.and i got a letter from the president telling me he has contacted the homeland security to find out why it was taking so long. last week i got a letter from the vice president. so if you are having troubles email everyone or write letters to everyone you can .. it helps


You know occasionally the President will answer his own mail and messages. I have a friend that is married to an Algerian. She was raised by her grandmother because her mom died in an car accident. One summer my friend, her husband and son went to Algeria and stayed about a month and they were having so much fun that they never checked in with the grandmother. The grandmother became worried and called the White house and left a message saying her granddaughter and family went to Algeria and she has not heard from them and she was worried. One day Mrs Peggy got a call and it was President Bush himself. He told her he understood how our children make us worry about them and that he would contact the Embassy in Algiers and let her know something soon. A day later, she received another phone call telling her that they had located them and they were all well and enjoying their vacation. Needless to say they never neglected to call her again.

Meriem rose.gif


That's the best folk tale I've heard all day.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-12-08 23:57:00
Middle East and North AfricaDoes your MENA SO have children?
QUOTE (i adore you @ Dec 26 2007, 11:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You were what-20 when you brought an 18 year old teenager from another country to marry him. Most young women at 20 these days are not even thinking about marriage. I guess you had to take what you could get when you could get it. Correct, you are not like most of the MENA women. You brought a teenager here to America to marry.


Um, stretching much? Since when is a two year age difference considered robbing the cradle? I was eighteen when I went to live with my twenty year-old husband. Good lord.
HannahPFemaleCanada2007-12-26 16:08:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (steve55 @ Oct 22 2009, 01:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (HannahP @ Oct 19 2009, 08:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (steve55 @ Oct 17 2009, 04:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (msacano @ Oct 16 2009, 08:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Steve55,
It is ignorant of you to categorizes all American women into one category. I think relationships are about compromising, and love. I don't expect any man to take care of me that is why I have a degree. I expect us to be partners and love and respect each other because that is what a relationship is about.

Edit: sorry typo


I never said ALL american woman are that way. I always say "In general" or "most". Even match.com shows about 70% of american ladies having minimum income requirements of $50K +. That's evidence enough that western ladies are looking for a man to make a certain amount of money for a certain lifestyle. !


Is that a Cali/NY $50K or a Midwestern $50K?

Poor Steve. He chose to be poor and now blames American women for not liking him. (Apparently, teh Asians don't like him either.)


LOL, Im not poor. That is a ignorant asumption on your part. This is strictly a moral issue for me. What, you think that if I made alot of money that Id want to date a woman who I know in my heart would not be with me if I didnt make a certian amount of money?? Think again!



Wasn't one of your original bitchings about how no wommins wanted anything to do with you, the poor grad student?
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-10-23 21:55:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (steve55 @ Oct 17 2009, 04:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (msacano @ Oct 16 2009, 08:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Steve55,
It is ignorant of you to categorizes all American women into one category. I think relationships are about compromising, and love. I don't expect any man to take care of me that is why I have a degree. I expect us to be partners and love and respect each other because that is what a relationship is about.

Edit: sorry typo


I never said ALL american woman are that way. I always say "In general" or "most". Even match.com shows about 70% of american ladies having minimum income requirements of $50K +. That's evidence enough that western ladies are looking for a man to make a certain amount of money for a certain lifestyle. !


Is that a Cali/NY $50K or a Midwestern $50K?

Poor Steve. He chose to be poor and now blames American women for not liking him. (Apparently, teh Asians don't like him either.)
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-10-19 20:46:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Trompe le Monde @ Oct 11 2009, 12:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
but I suppose because they are Chinese they are not "materialistic" for marrying a man with more money than they have, but if an American woman did the same they would be

Most american women don't need a man for financial security either - they are no treated liked second class citizens in their own country (though I'm sure many here probably wish they were - too bad for them it isn't going to go to how it was)


This. smile.gif

But if steve wants to marry a hawt woman and steve's hawt woman wants to marry a hawt American...aren't they well suited? At least until one of them grows butt-ugly old?

I mean, /personally/, I married a Canadian! and he didn't even make ANY money! and now I'm stuck in nursing school to hopefully pay teh billz one day!11 My sugar daddy hasn't come along yet, but y'know.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-10-12 00:48:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Trompe le Monde @ Sep 18 2009, 01:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I doubt very much my own spouse could guess how much I weigh, much less quote my BMI to one decimal point....he can barely tell when I cut 4 inches of hair off


Aw! That's kind of sad. sad.gif
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-09-18 21:44:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (justashooter @ Aug 25 2009, 10:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Donna A @ Aug 14 2009, 04:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
does it ever accure to anyone that the men here wanna continually compare american woman to pinay woman saying how fat we are and how nice and thin they are?

do u realize guys if u compare urselves to a pinay man that ur also fat?

just my 2C's on the matter.


in some asian cultures women like to have men who are not thin. traditional chinese, for example.

in china, the most revered dynasty was the Tang, in which everyone was prosperous and rotund. paintings and sculpture from the period depict the people and their buddah's as very well fed. the climate in china during that period of history was particularly favourable to agriculture, so life was good.

subconciously, today's chinese equate a man who is slightly overweight with wealth and happiness. this because he obviously can afford to eat well, and does not have to work hard. women, on the other hand, are caught up in the western expectation for body shape, so girls in china under 25 all try to stay under 45 Kg, and most are under 50 Kg, unless over 5'6", which you usually see only in women from north china. women over 35 and having child are allowed to weigh up to 60 Kg before being seen as undesireable.


I think that this is why I have been in the hospital (eating disorders unit) with many, many Asians.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-08-28 22:47:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (pushbrk @ Mar 28 2009, 02:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (MonkeyJuice @ Mar 28 2009, 11:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can see where your coming from. To put it in a nice way, you want a more traditional 50's type wife. One that looks after her husband, likes to cook, clean...

I don't mind doin all that stuff but it's nicer to be a team & work together.

I hope you get the woman of your dreams. I also hope you are the man of her dreams and not some lazy, chauvinistic bore because she'll soon become tired of being your personal slave when she becomes "westernized".


I share some of the sentiments but would encourage you to consider that many traditional 50's type wives worked as a team with their husbands and found it very nice indeed and that she may or may not ever become "westernized" or want to. Some would even go so far as to opine that the "westernized" marriage represents a couple working more like individuals than like a team.


Righto.

I don't think team-work has anything to do with the type of marriage that you want. I know that feminists = feminazis but if you actually read the books, MANY traditional 50's wives felt alienated from their families.

Equally, yeah, many "new" relationships tend to diverge as each partner does their own thing.

But, really.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-03-28 20:44:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (LaL @ Mar 20 2009, 05:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (justashooter @ Mar 20 2009, 03:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
middle easterners still see their women as baby factories and nothing else, except maybe a green card.



right, of course they do! and of course you would know that! thanks mr shooter once again! good.gif


He likes to wikipedia.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-03-21 00:36:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Old Dominion @ Mar 19 2009, 03:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ole Ben was certainly a player. When he made that observation, he was barely 40 years old and so he had in mind a 21-year-old. He was a brilliant man. I'm sure none of the wome he knew had anything akin to ####### envy, which seems to account for some of the comments from women in this thread...which has taken on a life of its own.


Dude, he was Ben Franklin. Of course women wanted to sleep with him. Comparing him to men like Steve -- not so much. However, before inflation, perhaps they made the same amount of money per year.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-03-19 19:38:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Craneman @ Mar 18 2009, 02:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I beleive it was Benjamin Franklin who said that the perfect wife should half the mans age plus 1 year.


Women in Ben's day tended to die in droves during child birth, however. It was very common for a man to go through two-three-four wives in his lifetime, and not because they were leaving him for richer and more powerful men. tongue.gif

/also, Ben was a playah

Edited by HannahP, 19 March 2009 - 03:29 PM.

HannahPFemaleCanada2009-03-19 15:29:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
Dude, I'm telling ya'all...."they" go for men that most westernized women wouldn't because they don't understand the economics of living the US. At least until they get here. Then they dump their loser husbands for a VAWA. tongue.gif
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-02-10 20:54:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
I want my Indian husband to make me delicious curry dishes.

Unfortunately, I didn't marry one of those. sad.gif
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-02-04 20:52:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Happy Bunny @ Jan 23 2009, 09:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How can a woman not be strong if she is to be a partner to a man who is not financially strong? I infer that you just want a woman who will be happy with what you give her, and nothing more. You don't want an equal partner, you want a woman who will run and hide when the dishwasher blows up. There's this saying 'give a starving man a stale Saltine and he'll think it's the best Ritz he's ever eaten.' Are you a stale Saltine, Steve? Is that why you're afraid of expectations?


Isn't that why people like steve choose to seek out partners from developing countries? Many don't really have any idea about how far a dollar goes in the US. Anyone with a job in the US may seem rich in comparison to how they live. (You hear over and over again about how others from developing countries don't realize how hard we work for our apartments paved with gold.)

Y'know...my hubby and I married as students, making less than $10k a year. I certainly loved him then. And I love him now, making $40k a year. (We're young - no kids, no mortgage, no car payments...) I'm not exactly sure how you only make 18k a year. Hubby's degree wasn't very useful but he still manages to make a decent entry-level salary.

Yet I loved him as a starving student and I love him now. It's amazing how you can grow with a person. biggrin.gif
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-01-23 22:06:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Cham @ Jan 17 2009, 10:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Corinthians @ Jan 16 2009, 10:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (HannahP @ Jan 15 2009, 06:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
anything above a BMI of 25 is considered overweight

But, BMI isn't good at accounting for muscle mass. Maybe he lifts alot?


exactly...not all people who have a higher BMI are *fat*
headbonk.gif

and so what if that person is overweight...ack



Oh, as a recovering anorexic, I totally understand the shortcomings of BMI. But still. I thought it was hilarious that he's conventionally considered overweight, yet he's complaining about American women who are overweight. Hypocrisy, much?
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-01-18 22:55:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Old Dominion @ Jan 15 2009, 09:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (HannahP @ Jan 15 2009, 08:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Troy W @ Jan 11 2009, 03:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
4 I am 6’ 3” and weigh 215 lbs, finding a woman with the above qualifications that does not weigh more than me (no matter what you say sexual attraction is important in a relationship I just am not attracted to a woman that I cant put my arms around or that I cant breath when she lies on top of me)



For anyone curious -- 6'3" and 215 lbs is a BMI of 26.9, anything above a BMI of 25 is considered overweight. I believe the "average" American woman is 5'4" and somewhere between 130-140, with a BMI in the "normal" category.



ahhh...but he's rich devil.gif


Indeed! what ARE the top 10% making these days? Six figures? Seven?
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-01-15 22:24:00
IMBRA Special TopicsThird K1 Visa
QUOTE (Troy W @ Jan 11 2009, 03:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
4 I am 6’ 3” and weigh 215 lbs, finding a woman with the above qualifications that does not weigh more than me (no matter what you say sexual attraction is important in a relationship I just am not attracted to a woman that I cant put my arms around or that I cant breath when she lies on top of me)



For anyone curious -- 6'3" and 215 lbs is a BMI of 26.9, anything above a BMI of 25 is considered overweight. I believe the "average" American woman is 5'4" and somewhere between 130-140, with a BMI in the "normal" category.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-01-15 20:41:00
IMBRA Special TopicsSex Offender Applying for K1
QUOTE (MsZ @ Jan 30 2009, 05:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (dwainsrockin @ Dec 18 2008, 08:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
i am a convicted Sex Offender ( position of trust... ) ... there is also a considerable social taboo regarding Sex Offenders, especially those involving rape and/or underage pers ons, that has become the scarlet letter of the day. now i could go into all the ramifications of this issue but let me focus on this idea, that once you are convicted of a crime, serve your sentence and satisfy the courts decisions, you are not in jeopardy of being convicted of that same crime again. however, we all know that Sex Offenders are the scapegoats of the day and that this is a very clouded issue to deal with. if you are a violent predator, you continue to act out and hurt others making more and more victims and you willingly break the law then it stands to reason that you will/deserve to be punished in this life and the after life. with this all said my point is that if i have paid my debt to society then why does our federal goverment feel the need or have the right to decide whom i will choose as my wife? who has ultimately given this power to the uscis or secretary of homeland security? this is still America! we must stand up for our rights or we may loose them...


Position of trust is the worst of all.



I dunno. I had a few teachers in highschool that I would have done in a heartbeat.
HannahPFemaleCanada2009-01-31 00:39:00
IMBRA Special TopicsSex Offender Applying for K1
QUOTE (Old Dominion @ Dec 1 2008, 09:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Under U.S. law, the OP was convicted as a child molester. For whatever reasons, the government did not provide any relief for those in situations like his, i.e., consensual sex with an underage person. We might disagree with the law, but there it is. What happened that led to the OP's being arrested and charged? How did the police learn about it?


You'd be surprised. An upset parent can lead to charges that cannot be un-done. Thank god, my mom had enough kids before me to figure out that, yeah, I'm probably having sex but it's okay. wink.gif

What always bugs me is that age of consent and the laws for stat rape are completely different from state to state. Why is someone from KS (16) different from someone from Arizona (18)? VA is only 15. What makes them so mature?
HannahPFemaleCanada2008-12-19 22:11:00