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Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies at home and a farrin, Part 27!
Hello my friends! How is everybody? What have I missed???? ;)

I actually have a visa-related question. I am helping a friend of my uncles do his K1 visa petition.
His fiance is from the Ukraine.
I am just going back and looking over k1 visa guides etc, trying to remember how to do all this. Thankfully he is VERY organized.
Where do find out how much I write the check out for? I know fees have changed and I don't want to screw his stuff up.

Thanks!!!
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-06-21 11:05:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1
Good Afternoon People!! Hope everyone is doing well. I would really like a "run down"... anyone willing? ;)

A little good news, Louis finally has his driving permit!! We went to a big empty lot yesterday and I let him drive in circles. He did pretty good, and I have a manual car!!

~Irie
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-10-19 11:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardie Party!!! Come as you are - Part 1
Just stopping by to say hello! Hope all is well with everyone. :)
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-10-12 08:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDisheartened
I am amused most times by the looks we get from others. When I was living in St Lucia I was "the WHite girl" and Louis got such $hit for being the Rasta with the white girl. I would say 99% of the time we would laugh it off.
Now that he is here we are getting different kinds of looks. We live in a 99.99% white community. My light brown daughter is the minority! LOL
But Louis got here right before she finished school and of course she wanted us to pick her up so all her friends could see him. So this one lady and her son (about 11 I would say) were walking in as we were coming out and she says OUT LOUD and so happily... "Oh Look, a REAL Rastaman"... she was so happy! So the looks Louis and I get here dont seem to be hateful... more like and exotic anomoly that no one has seen before.
I think Louis may feel a bit awkward sometimes but he thinks its kinda funny too.

Hateful people are just so miserable with their own lives that they want everyone else to feel the same way. I always say, we are all pink on the inside! LOL
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2008-06-25 20:08:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSky miles
Thanks and I love that message u have at the bottom.......soooo true!!

QUOTE (UNO... @ Sep 15 2008, 11:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Sep 15 2008, 10:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I sent u a message but I'm not sure what "pm" is??


QUOTE (totes @ Sep 15 2008, 10:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (one love @ Jun 16 2008, 01:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good.gif Hey guys and dolls I have 45,000 sky miles from Delta .. anyone want to talk


I have some I might be willing to part with. PM me if you're interested.



private message star_smile.gif

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-09-16 00:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSky miles
I sent u a message but I'm not sure what "pm" is??


QUOTE (totes @ Sep 15 2008, 10:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (one love @ Jun 16 2008, 01:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good.gif Hey guys and dolls I have 45,000 sky miles from Delta .. anyone want to talk


I have some I might be willing to part with. PM me if you're interested.

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-09-15 22:37:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanSky miles
What sort of deal are u looking for to get rid of the miles?? I am hoping to plan a trip to see my husband within the next 6 months and was just curious. Thanks

~Michelle

QUOTE (one love @ Jun 16 2008, 02:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
good.gif Hey guys and dolls I have 45,000 sky miles from Delta .. anyone want to talk

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-09-15 19:34:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanFlights USA 2 Africa
I used Delta.....it was a good flight some minor problems, but nobody's perfect. Plus its a direct flight from Atlanta to Lagos and no long layovers for me. Feel free to PM me with any questions.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-10-13 13:15:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanRunning Out of Time!!
I'm not sure about Senegal, but they don't accept them in Nigeria. NO traveler's checks or money orders. Its a good thought, but I think you would have a hard time using them.



QUOTE (WhidbeyGirl @ Oct 6 2008, 09:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The thought came to me in the middle of the night (not sleeping very well these days). Would it be better to take travelers checks?

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-10-13 13:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanOn Flight Home!
Yeah!! Glad all is well and he and you made it home safely.....happy reunion!!
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-20 11:52:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPounded Yam
Did you try any of the african markets in Portland?? There are several in the congress street area that carry African foods. I'm not sure if they have what ur looking for, but worth a shot??


babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 12:13:00
Africa: Sub-Saharanhi there
QUOTE (chispas @ Dec 29 2008, 03:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
More than Yum. Make sure when he comes, he stocks up with all of the yummy spices and brings them with him.



are they able to bring those through customs without a problem??
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 15:05:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan~ waiting ~
QUOTE (Omoba @ Dec 28 2008, 12:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 28 2008, 12:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi All............I'm not in Ap or anything like that, but my SO is from Africa and I am waiting just like everyone else. Its been almost a year since I've been with my husband and this waiting is getting harder and harder each day that passes. I know that there are many that have been waiting much than I, but doesn't make my process any easier. Just looking for a little support I guess.......

~Michelle


Welcome to the waiting thread Michelle.
We are here to support each other. rose.gif



Thanks a bunch!


babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 13:53:00
Africa: Sub-Saharan~ waiting ~
Hi All............I'm not in Ap or anything like that, but my SO is from Africa and I am waiting just like everyone else. Its been almost a year since I've been with my husband and this waiting is getting harder and harder each day that passes. I know that there are many that have been waiting much than I, but doesn't make my process any easier. Just looking for a little support I guess.......

~Michelle
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 12:43:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDriver license
QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Jan 9 2009, 02:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Called Maine DMV.
He can drive on his internation liscense for one year. kicking.gif
Send in applicaiton for the test. Then they will schedule a drivers test.



Are you sure about this?? I called the dmv yesterday about this very thing. They told me they can only drive on their international license here if they are a student?? I'm not doubting you, just frustrating when two people get two different answers to the same question.............
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2009-01-10 15:34:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Oh no worries......its okay. I'm sure I just took it the wrong way. I was just kind of suprised in the direction the post had gone since I had originally posted my question, but I guess that's the chance you take when you put something out there for all to put their two cents in.......


babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2009-02-03 16:38:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
WOW, I can't believe how far this thread has gone. This was not my intention when I started it and now I'm not so sure it was such a good idea. Some have made assumptions about me and my husband that are totally incorrect, but I'm not going to waste my time justifying my relationship. I'm sure it would just be a waste of time.


babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2009-02-03 13:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (chispas @ Dec 31 2008, 01:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (NigerLA @ Dec 31 2008, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My wife and I have been married now for almost four years and it has been like any marriage. We've had great moments, terrible moments and trying times. Looking at everything in comprehensively, I still love my wife and would not trade her for any other woman.

The truth is that we are all different in our own way; Americans, Nigerians or wherever you are from. Nationality does in no way determine success in marriage. At the end of the day, we put all things in God's hands.

Happy New Year to everyone and may 2009 be a blessed, healthy and prosperous one for you and your families. smile.gif


Always great to hear from the guys in the forum. Thanks and Happy New Year



I totally agree...........nice to have a male perspective on things once in awhile.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-31 20:53:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Ya I wouldn't exactly call it "retiring" amongst a war..........
Who is predicting that??

QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Dec 30 2008, 01:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Joseph and I are considering the retiring in Nigeria option. Between the SS benifits and the money the Nigerian government will be paying us we can be confortable there. But there is the prediction of a major north/south war by 2025 so we will have to see.

QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 30 2008, 08:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Retiring in Nigeria huh?? Now that's an idea!! Your friend is right they would NEVER do that to those they love. Its a totally different way of life.
Your soooo right Mrs. Jibowu. That happens alot. We tend to live by "do as I say not do as I do"............

QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Dec 30 2008, 11:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes, it is more then just respect. It is a reverence. Parent do not lecture their children by saying.. "respect your elders", then turn around and be disrespectful to someone. The children learn by watching their family respect people.
It is true sincerity!



QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Dec 30 2008, 11:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Years ago when I was first learning about Nigeria from my best friend he said that he would retire there. I asked why. He said when you go there look to see if you find any nursing homes. Nigerians would never do that to their elders.





babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-30 13:52:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
Retiring in Nigeria huh?? Now that's an idea!! Your friend is right they would NEVER do that to those they love. Its a totally different way of life.
Your soooo right Mrs. Jibowu. That happens alot. We tend to live by "do as I say not do as I do"............

QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Dec 30 2008, 11:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes, it is more then just respect. It is a reverence. Parent do not lecture their children by saying.. "respect your elders", then turn around and be disrespectful to someone. The children learn by watching their family respect people.
It is true sincerity!



QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Dec 30 2008, 11:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Years ago when I was first learning about Nigeria from my best friend he said that he would retire there. I asked why. He said when you go there look to see if you find any nursing homes. Nigerians would never do that to their elders.



babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-30 11:43:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Dec 30 2008, 08:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Very well said merijan.

My husband's culture has such a high admiration for in-laws. At our Christmas eve family gathering he greated my mom and dad (now serperated & remairred) as if the King and Queen had entered our home. I know it made my dad uncomfortable, but to know the love and good intention my husband has behind his greetings made me that much more proud to say he is my husband. Several days later my dad was quickly dropping off gifts from extended family he visited with. My dad being the stop and go guy he is was surprised when my husband jumped up to great him at the door from accross the room. My dad wasn't in my home long enough to shut the door behind him and didn't even come in to ask how everyone was doing. Yet my in-laws all had to speak with me at lengths about how I am. I just can only hope that my husband is not offended by my Dad's behavior.

Even my son's father arrived he jumped up to shake his hand and invited him to have a seat. Now if anyone of you knew just an hour worth of mine and my ex's past you would have gasped. Too funny. I have come a log way baby!


QUOTE (merijan @ Dec 30 2008, 07:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think that all of us struggle with the cultural differences no matter where our husband is from. The main thing is for both to have respect , accepting each others bad habits as well as good. And I find alot of times we Americans grow up thinking that other things in other cultures are so strange and how do they think like that or why do they do that... so on. However if we just take the time to know the culture and understand enough to respect that difference we can actually learn from each other.




I know exactly what you mean. I feel the same way about my husband and his family. His culture has such respect for their elders (as well as peers) and we in America don't see that much anymore. Its kind of sad. I was brought up to be very respectful of my elders as well, but I don't think to the degree they are in Nigeria. I love the way they greet each other. My husband even taught me how to greet them properly, which they all loved for me to do. I think we all live such busy lives in America especially and we forget about how much the little things really mean. We all could benefit from a major SLOWWWW down! LOL.

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-30 10:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I'm soooo glad others have found this helpful as well! I hope others continue to post some more good things for us all........

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babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 22:07:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (Staashi @ Dec 29 2008, 01:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 28 2008, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (charles! @ Dec 28 2008, 09:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 28 2008, 12:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry guess I didn't realize how to post the question?? Or where to post it for that matter.......I tend to hang out in the mena forum more than others and still kind of new to vj so my apologies if I irritated anyone with my question...........

not a problem, it's what some of us live for tongue.gif



Thanks Charles I'm noticing that to be very true the more and more I hang around here and read the posts! tongue.gif


Michelle, please know that this is what I was trying to get for you. I have seen you in the MENA forum, but I knew that your request for information would be better served in the Sub-Saharan forum. I just wanted you to gain the best access to info that you were looking for. good.gif

All the best to you - and we'll keep on keeping on over in MENA! star_smile.gif

Thanks so much for looking out for me Staashi. I'm still pretty new to this site and still learning things. I tend to hang out in the MENA forum mostly cuz I have gotten to know everyone there more so than anywhere else. Hopefully you all won't kick me out just yet?? LOL. I am definately feeling much better and did get some of my questions answered even though my post offended someone from Nigeria, which wasnt' my intention, but oh well "such is life" I guess. Can't make all the people happy all of the time can we?? Thanks again!


babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 18:21:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (MrsJibowu @ Dec 29 2008, 08:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (galaxy_2008 @ Dec 28 2008, 06:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is sad that some people are trying to use this forum to sample the view of people about those united states citizens that marry to Nigerians.

On the contrary: it is fortunate that this forum is here to help people with the good, the bad, and the ugly. This is the best place to discover other people who might have been a victim of Marriage fraud or whose relationships are struggling because of the cultural differences.
It is unfortunate (sad) that good God fearing devoted men might experience the backlash of the negative perception many Americans have regarding the high fraud country Nigeria.

If you are in a relationship based on visa fraud chances are you would be in a similar deceptive relationship with a USC.
If you were in a previous unhealthy relationship and did nothing to improve yourself emotionally or spiritually, there is a good chance you are in a similar type of relationship over seas.



All very good points Mrs. Jibowu.......Thanks! I'd like some of those recipes too Forchika......always looking for new ideas.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-29 08:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (forchika @ Dec 28 2008, 09:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello babynursetobe....we will be married two years in April and will be filing for removal of conditions in the next five months. I like to say that we are still adjusting in our marriage but, so far so good!!!!! Husband has adjusted well here in the US. The only problem he had was that it took him awhile to find work and when he did it was part-time. Which was fine because he decided to attend school full time. He did have some problems with banking in the US ( withdrawing money from account and using debit card for purchases), he would sometimes overdraft his checking account....got the hang of it after the bank kept hitting him with those $39 charges. He had no problems driving and getting a liscense. He adjusted well to the food here in the US and loves hotdogs and pizza!!!!! He is open to try anything that I cook. I have learned to cook many of the African foods and we alternate dinner menus. The one thing, I love about my husband is his frugalness, he can go into a thrift store and find brand new $100.00 Nike's for $10.00. He mainly goes to church, school and work and we hang out with our mutual friends on occasion. He does not like to see me upset and will quickly mend all disagreements. He has shared that he has heard that the women in the US are quick to want a divorce. I say ......as long as you are faithful, honest and trustworhty we will have no issues. The cross cultural marriage is a continued adjustement and we are beating the odds so far with the help of GOD!!! I wish you a speedy visa journey!!!!!!!


Thanks so much!! That is exactly what I was hoping to learn. I am worried about him finding work too, but I'm sure he will find something. Even if it does have to be part-time for awhile until he finds something more permanent. I just want him here and hopefully we can work through it all as it comes along......so thanks again!

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 22:22:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (charles! @ Dec 28 2008, 09:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 28 2008, 12:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry guess I didn't realize how to post the question?? Or where to post it for that matter.......I tend to hang out in the mena forum more than others and still kind of new to vj so my apologies if I irritated anyone with my question...........

not a problem, it's what some of us live for tongue.gif



Thanks Charles I'm noticing that to be very true the more and more I hang around here and read the posts! tongue.gif
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 21:17:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (Afrilaskan Queen @ Dec 28 2008, 07:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi! I was reading your post today and was interested to ask you something, after three visits, pics, emails, etc, today you're wondering how many women get duped into a false relationship. Is it possible others have given their opinions about your relationship? You said you were asking in general - I'd be curious as well. When I met my husband I was very sternly advised from an elderly person who had known someone who experienced marriage fraud. I may be wrong but my opinion the dramatic stories always get the headlines, these are individuals not a state group, as individuals with different backgrounds the possibilities are endless the intentions and motives of all people arn't selfish and bad. I imagine many american marriages where partners deceive for their own gain - the definition of fraud. Love is falling and trust and trusting to fall, no one wants to be hurt but I believe every experience is valuable and you create your own experience with your thoughts and views just as much. Yes, I have seen Nigerians faithfully married. I knew a couple too where the man was considerably younger and attractive and many many years later their relationship answered the doubts.


There was nothing inparticular about today that made me post this question. Yes, many have given their opinions of my long distance relationship with my husband (both good and bad). It wasn't being duped into a false relationship that I was concerned about. More so the transition once they are here and how difficult it is I guess. Anyway, thanks to all of you who have answered my question thus far both in this forum and personally.

babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 19:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (galaxy_2008 @ Dec 28 2008, 06:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello,
It is sad that some people are trying to use this forum to sample the view of people about those united states citizens that marry to Nigerians. pls i am using this meduim to inform my hononorable member that this site have been of great help to many people in all worth of life. so please let anybody decided whatever he or she want to do about there marital decision. Nigeria is a very good country with alot of potenciality so we are not only know for scammed and many other fraudlent act. pls people should be mindful of whatever they will be saying about fatherland,i am a Nigerian and i am proud of my country so member should be mindful of using a bad word for my country and i will implore my fellow Nigerians to let us stand up and correct the bad impression about my country. We have the bad,good and ugly citizen everywhere in the world.


Wow, I meant no disrespect to your country or the people from it. I am married to a Nigeria myself and love him and his family very much. I think you totally misunderstood what the meaning of the orignal post was so I am sorry if I offended you or anyone else for the matter that was NEVER my intention. I am trying to learn as much as I can.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 18:52:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (chispas @ Dec 28 2008, 03:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Check with Zee. She started a Yahoo group, not sure if its what you're looking for, it might help some. There're too many old members who no longer come to the board, so its hard to tell who is married and who is not. I'm taking the position that yours will work out well so no worries. kicking.gif Marriage is marriage and there are hurdles, Nigerian or otherwise, so we'll pray for a healthy marriage for you. Take care



Thanks I'm actually already part of the support group.......lol. Maybe I'll post a question on there as well. I'm sure It'll all work out fine too.....just been feeling down with the holidays lately and reading too much stuff for my own good if u know what I mean??

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babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 15:40:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (boo boo @ Dec 28 2008, 03:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello babynursetobe,
I wish you the best of luck on your journey and you have come to the right place. There are alot of threads in this forum that could probably answer all of your questions and concerns about USC/Nigerian SO. If you have anyother questions, please let us know and I am positive that everyone would give you some good feedback.
My husband and I have been married for 2 yrs and our K1 visa was a very short journey, but my hubby had his interview in The Netherlands because he was going to school there, so I could not give you alot of info regarding having an interview in Lagos.
When my hubby arrived in the States...there were many cultural differences and to this day there is stilll some differences. For example, my husband had his 3 school backpacks next to his night stand (near bathroom door) and I was getting tired of seeing them and moving them...so I put them in our closet for now, since we are on winterbreak. When he got home, he noticed the backpacks in the closet...and questioned me about it. He told me that in Nigeria a husband could "fire" his wife for moving his stuff. Is this true? I really do not know and did not want to make it a huge deal, so i said "Sweetheart, I was just trying to clean up alittle and since school is out right now, I thought you would not mind." He was understanding and did not say anything after that. I avoid conflicts at any expense and I respect what he thinks and feels...and he reciprocates from that.


Thanks for the reply. I am learning that I have to sacrifice alot being married to Ademola. Avoiding conflicts seems to be a common thing that one must do. The whole reason for the post is really just to learn as much as I can about what to expect. Things are wonderful between us when we are together, but then sometimes the seperation basically sucks and causes conflicts. I've just heard soooo many bad things about Nigeria and I want/need to hear some good things.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 15:20:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (charles! @ Dec 28 2008, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Staashi @ Dec 28 2008, 09:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (babynursetobe @ Dec 28 2008, 10:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm married to a man from Nigeria......I'm just curious who of you are still together (those of you who are married to a Nigerian that is) and how long has it been? I'm specifically wanting to know how its all worked out after your SO has come to the states?? I have seen several case where Nigerian males have come to live in the US with a spouse and they left as soon as they were able. Not wanting to judge just want a poll to see how many are successfully still married to a Nigerian. You only hear of the bad cases. Thanks for your help with this.


Have you asked this yet in the Sub-Saharan forum? They might have a better answer as there aren't really too many Nigerian spouses here in the MENA forum. I hope it all works out for you, and that you aren't asking because things might be going downhill. unsure.gif But if they are, well, best of luck on making things work. I will say that Lagos is known for being one of the very highest fraud USEM and it got that recognition because of the fraudulent relationships that do come out of there. So, there is a reason - but that isn't to say that there are truly valid love affairs that make it out of Nigeria, but they definitely are few and far between.

Good luck! good.gif

exactly what i was thinking. nigeria isn't north africa, so mbc from mena to sub sahara (All of Africa except the five nations bordering the Mediterranean.)



Sorry guess I didn't realize how to post the question?? Or where to post it for that matter.......I tend to hang out in the mena forum more than others and still kind of new to vj so my apologies if I irritated anyone with my question...........
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 13:56:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
QUOTE (Staashi @ Dec 28 2008, 10:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
One other thing, just make sure to document your entire relationship...your hubby is going to need all the proof he can get of a valid relationship. His interview at Lagos will be hell on wheels as I have never ever heard one to be easy. His family will most likely get home visits from investigators as well. Tell him to prepare himself for whatever comes and get ready to board the rollercoaster.



Thanks for the info....I wasn't sure where to post the question?? Anyway, my eyes are wide open and I do realize that Nigeria is known for all sorts of scams. Things aren't really going south for me, but I've read soooo much bad stuff I was looking to balance it out with maybe a few good stories?? I also am aware he will need lots of documentation for his interview.....I believe I am well prepared. I think I killed at least a few trees with all the emails, Im chats, phone records, documentation of communication with his family, and the over 200 pics I have printed off (I've gone there 3 times to visit he and his family and maybe going again in march).
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 11:23:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanMarried to a Nigerian and still together?
I'm married to a man from Nigeria......I'm just curious who of you are still together (those of you who are married to a Nigerian that is) and how long has it been? I'm specifically wanting to know how its all worked out after your SO has come to the states?? I have seen several case where Nigerian males have come to live in the US with a spouse and they left as soon as they were able. Not wanting to judge just want a poll to see how many are successfully still married to a Nigerian. You only hear of the bad cases. Thanks for your help with this.
babynursetobeFemaleNigeria2008-12-28 10:10:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWhich phone company or services do you use to make calls?
QUOTE (JIM & A.D. @ Jun 16 2008, 11:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello VJ members,

I need some recommendations or advice, Which phone company do you use to call your significant other?

I'm trying to save some cash if u know what i mean, spending at least $110.00 a week right now is not on my budget plan.

I'm trying to find a good company or service that has good rates and also keeps a good record of calls made.

I don't mind calling through the internet either. I'm been using lowrate voip, rebtel, pennytel and some others but they keep

changing rates on me and taking to long to deduct payments from from my bank. I would love to pay 0.20 cent or less to

call Sierra Leone mobile. So any feedback of companies i can try would be great.


What I have used to keep in contact with my wife is Skype if you have the internet. It is downloaded at Skype.com. It is free to call computer to computer and have web cam available at a click of a button if you have a cam.
JhatchMaleBulgaria2008-06-20 10:29:00
Asia: East and PacificAussie Visa Waiver Period After Marriage
Will do - Thanks!!

dan
Dan and KatieNot Telling02007-02-01 12:42:00
Asia: East and PacificAussie Visa Waiver Period After Marriage
Hello All!

I just got engaged to a beautiful Aussie, whom I've been dating in the US for a bit over a year. She is now in Canada working (her J1 visa ran out). We would like to get married in late June and know that there isn't time to process a K1. Our plan is for her to come back in to the US for a month or so before the wedding - us get married and then begin the K3/IR1 process. My question - after we get married and file the I-130, is she still held to the same 90 day restrictions on the Visa Waiver Program? Has anyone been in a similar situation and might have any advice?

Thanks so much in advance for your help - this site has already been way more help getting us started than any lawyer I've talked to!!

Dan
Dan and KatieNot Telling02007-01-31 17:41:00
Asia: East and PacificLAND DOWNUNDER
Hi All -

A few of you have suggested I check out this forum - Thanks!! I've read through and am relieve to find so much information about the situation my fiance and I are in now. I haven't found a situation quite like ours, so I thought I would spell it out and see if anyone has any advice.

My fiance Katie and I met about 2 years ago when she was living in the States and working at the same resort as myself. We dated for about a year, then her J1 ran out and she had to leave. She got a job in Canada so we could be closer together. We got engaged about a month ago and are exploring our options.

We'd like to get married in late June so her family can come over during Uni holidays. She has a visa in Canada until August. We have explored the K1 option, though it looks like it is improbable that she would have a visa in less than 5 months. We've had one lawyer tell us there is no way, and another tell us it could happen, though they can guarantee it. As for a K3/CR1 - we don't really want to be split up after the wedding (as I'm sure no one does). She can be in the country for 90 days on the Tourist VWP - we thought that if she comes in a month or so before the wedding and we file immediatley afterwards we'll have at least the first 2 months together, by which time hopefully things will be progressing and she will have to go for an interview anyway. I've also read that coming in on the Tourist VWP is illegal if you intend to change status while in the country.

Sorry to write a novel - but this situation seems pretty complicated and we've had lawyers tell us that we can and can't do pretty much any option we can think of. I'm just starting to get discouraged and confused by all this.

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or know of one?

Thanks so much in advance for your advice!

Dan and Katie
Dan and KatieNot Telling02007-02-01 13:25:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies a home and a farrin, Part 24!
Good Morning! TGIFF!

Hope you don't make it on TV tomorrow Tee. ;)

Congrats Nat on the card production...

Didn't read all the way through, so I hope there was lots of good news etc.... :)

Going to the GS dance tonight with the family. Hope we have a little fun and maybe Tierra can get a slow dance out of Louis..aawwwwww.

Then Louis has a playdate!!! hahaha! One of the mom's of Tierra schoolmate and I have hit it off. Well her husband is so cool and Louis finally met him last night. So he invited him over tonight to hang out... they seem to have some things in common. ANNNNND he own a lanscaping biz.. so maybe Louis can get a friendship and maybe some work oppurtunities out of it over the summer. Louis likes that kind of stuff.



morning all
any updates from sheka yet?



Oh yes! Cannot wait to hear something!
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-03-12 09:49:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies a home and a farrin, Part 24!
Good Morning ladies!

Shannette..those kids are so cute! :)
KJ..Glad your having fun w/ hubby and things are going well!

I am miserable! I really want to crawl back into bed today. I am exhausted, have a headache....
I feel like I am being sucked into a downward spiral!!! I need it to be friday night.. so I can sleep all day Saturday. UGH!!!
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-03-11 09:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South AmericaYardies a home and a farrin, Part 24!

I thought that buying more expensive sneakers would last longer and hold up better too... :no: not with him.


"decent" is usually under $30!! LOL
Actually my mom bought her some Sketchers.. those used to be cheap should.. not sure what happened but they can be $50!

Tierra only wears the sneakers twice a week on "gym day".
She likes her cheapie shoes better. ;)
IrieCatFemaleSaint Lucia2010-03-10 17:10:00