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QUOTE (*JG* @ Oct 23 2009, 12:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I HATE Monopoly. So long and monotonous!

I am soooooo with you on that! Tierra begs me to play! I hate it!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-23 12:20:00

Aww Mstee... thanks!

My mom is the best at making costumes... she is a great Nana!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-23 08:19:00

Ladies, I am about to post Tierra's school pic on FB. Oh Lord... my daughter is so cute.. how in the heck to they butcher these school pics every year? LOL
The zoomed in so close... her head looks HUGE!!! ahahahah... Poor kid.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-23 08:09:00

Morning Ladies....

LadyC, your on your way. Don't be a wreck - it'll be fine!

Have a great Friday everyone!!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-23 07:45:00

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QUOTE (Mrs. Palmer @ Oct 22 2009, 01:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (1luv @ Oct 22 2009, 09:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Stepmoms HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

my stepdaughter wrote in her notebook that she does not like me because I disciplined her. Now her dad gave me the permission if she is out of line I can. She was doing good up until a couple of months ago. I saw this and I flipped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I punished her by writing 200 lines and no tv for 1 week. I did not tell her dad cuz she is scared of what HE will do!!!!!!!! What should I do???? Was I wrong??????????

Ok 1luv...I'm gonna play the devil's advocate/therapist role for just a minute. I don't understand why you punished her so severely for her actions? The problem that I have with this situation is that your stepdaughter has a right to her feelings, and you essentially punished her for having feelings. We are all entitled to feel different ways about things and/or people. To punish her for not liking you, I think, is a little much. You said that she wrote this in her notebook. She wasn't yellilng it at you or anything, she simply wrote down how she felt. Instead of punishing her, I think it would have been more therapeutic for you to have the conversation w/ her about why she feels like she doesn't like you. You could even have it with her father present. And start out the conversation with an understanding that no one is going to be disrespectful during the conversation, and everyone will at least be heard. She might also come around if she sees (and hears) that you all having a good relationship is very important to you, which is why you were so upset. Your feelings were hurt. I saw in a later post that you all talked. Which is good. Just remember that a huge part of relationship building is being able to trust. And she's going to have to trust that she is allowed to have her feelings (even if it's not what we would hope), as long as she is not disrespectful and expresses them in an appropriate manner. Once she begins to feel like she can trust that you will accept all the parts of her, then I can guarantee you that things will begin to get better. It's a work in progress, and there a probably a thousand other things that she's going to do to piss you off at some point. Just make sure that the punishment fits the crime. And do everything u can to keep the lines of communication open between all of you. Even though teenagers act like they don't care about stuff like that, they really do! Good luck to you all.

1Luv..just realized your stepdaughter is 7!

I still pretty much feel the same in my comments...when you think about it, teenagers and 7 year olds basically act the same!

lol I can vouch for that!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-22 12:49:00

QUOTE (yankeesgirl79 @ Oct 22 2009, 08:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 22 2009, 07:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Louis Tierra and I walked down the wedding "aisle" together... to Angel. Instead of traditional Here Comes the Bride...
Reception... we were sorta late and just walked in! LOL! I was drinking... so nervous of having my parents together!!! hahah
oh... that was a great day!

Kenny ROgers??? That is too funny! In SLU people either listen to reggae...or COUNTRY! They have like "honky tonk" nights! It always cracked me up!

OOOHHHH! Do something funny to Islands in the Stream!

hahahah so many people have said the same thing.....we are going to the traditional here comes the bride but i am not going to have the traditional music playing before hand....i am going to do alot of instrumentals of todays/yesterdays music....i love 1 2 3 4 by plain white tees and the instrumental is beautiful....

oh i plan to have honkey tonk badonk a donk played at the reception and cotton eyed joe......all 30 of my guests will be linbe dancing right along side me.....i cant wait to see the looks on the faces of richards guests hahahahahaha

Sounds like a blast!!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-22 07:33:00

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-22 07:20:00

Good Morning!

Yankee... so exciting about the dresses and the wedding! I cannot wait to have a St Lucia wedding!
Do you want an exciting wedding song, or like a love song?
Louis and I walked down the aisle together to Jack Johnson's "Angel".

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-22 07:05:00

Mrs Palmer .. I dont think you are crazy at all! I have 2 friends that are married with no kids and totally happy. Its not for everyone. I for one LOVED being pregnany but was not looking fwd to childbirth either... but I got through.
Louis and I want to have one, I am always telling him we have to be prepared 1st, want to get rid of my debt.. its not too bad but I want it gone! I want him in school working towards something better..
I am too scared about doing this on my own again.
Maybe you are not ready right now, but maybe you will be. When hubby is here, and you are together and happy the desire might just pop up!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 13:29:00

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 12:22:00

OMG she was so cute! LOL

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 12:20:00

Finesse - she is going to be in the newspaper the week of Halloween... holding a sign up with the weather on it! LOL

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 12:07:00

Jap - He is so cute!
Tierra loved Jamaica too. Let me find that picture! We were at Dr's Cave Beach and she had 2 lifeguards building sandcastles with her! LOL
She likes to tell everyone how she went to Bob's house and played his guitar!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 11:57:00

Tierra in her costume.. for those who havent seen on FB

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-21 11:40:00

QUOTE (finesse @ Oct 8 2009, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (MsSheka @ Oct 8 2009, 09:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I am thinking about christmas

my kids always want some EXPENSIVE #######

! last year it was the WII and DS LITE

my daughter (who will be 10) wants a LAPTOP!

my older son's birthday is next month my youngest son's will be December and my Daughter's will be January along with my hubby LAWD HELP MI!

$$$$$$$$$$$$

my son wants a laptop too! i saw some pretty good deals. You can get a decent one for like $400. I was thinking to ask his dad to pay 1/2....

Tierra wants a DS too! I told her IF I can afford she can have one, but daddy has to get the games. 1 big gift from me... thats it. She has enough family to get her other things.
I have to talk to Tierra, make her understand Mama is not rich and get her everything her little mind can think of.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-08 10:07:00

QUOTE (finesse @ Oct 8 2009, 10:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Give me your opinion....

Hubby and I were talking last night about circumcision and whether or not we will chose to circumcize our child in the event we have a boy.

How do you guys feel about it? Is it true that most Jamaican men born in Jamaica are not circumcized? Is it a cultural thing, a medical thing or other reason for not doing so? How about Jamaican men born in the US? Anyone on here have an American/Jamaican boy and what did you do?

sorry if i sound like an idiot but I'm really trying to get educated on the matter....

I would circumsize only becuase Louis is. If he wasnt then I wouldnt. Just so son can be like dad... does that make sense?
I always thought I wouldnt... seems a little harsh... but I saw a show or read something once how a boy general wants to be like his dad and would wonder why he is different.
Still I am not sure. Some people say it has to do with cleanliness but I dated a guy that was not and it sure wasnt funky or anything! LOL

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-08 09:57:00

QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Oct 8 2009, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 8 2009, 08:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Morning! Yay, can't wait till this 3 day weekend! I took monday off becuase I knew Tierra would be out of school.

What is the occasion for being out of school?

Colombus Day weekend. Is this just a Maine thing?

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-08 08:47:00

Oh Nat! * hours seems wonderful! No matter how hard I never get to sleep early. Its like I need to have that no kid, no work time at the end of the day so I stay up and play online.

Island... that lawyer is right! That would be the best place to live. Louis and I have been talking about it more and more lately.
Pay off debt, save money... MOVE TO ST LUCIA! Oh it will be great.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-08 08:39:00

Morning! Yay, can't wait till this 3 day weekend! I took monday off becuase I knew Tierra would be out of school.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-08 08:24:00

Wow Shemmy! That is so nice to do what you did! How old is your daughter? That was a wonderful thing for her to do as well.
I would have them on my mind too. Could you call the PD and see if they will give you any info? Maybe they could give the woman your # so she can call you to let you know how things are going. I am sure the police would understand you want to know if they are ok (from the accident).

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 17:55:00

QUOTE (finesse @ Oct 7 2009, 03:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 7 2009, 02:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

How old is your son Finesse? I forget...

Tierra says she doesnt want to be a big sister. She doesnt want to share and she thinks she will have to take care of the baby...LOL

he is 12

since he is a spoiled piece of work, i thougth he would be all mad about it and say some mean things but i was pleasantly surprised (other than the sex questions)...he said he was going to be the best big brother! and he would be more than happy to babysit...for a fee

That is so great! Big brothers rock!

I am sure when the time comes Tierra will be a proud big sis too. I have my fingers crossed for next year!
I am so happy for you! such great news!!!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 14:15:00

How old is your son Finesse? I forget...

Tierra says she doesnt want to be a big sister. She doesnt want to share and she thinks she will have to take care of the baby...LOL

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 14:06:00

So Finesse... when did you find out? I cannot hold info like that in!! How is hubby? Sooooooo excited??!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 13:16:00

QUOTE (finesse @ Oct 7 2009, 02:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

TIMES TWO!!

WOW! All those sexy parties paid off! LOL
CONGRATULATIONS!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 13:09:00

QUOTE (phillyfashionista @ Oct 7 2009, 01:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 7 2009, 12:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I am so irritated right now! I just found out a couple that Louis and I considered friends (in St Lucia) have split up and sent their daughter to live with strangers because "they dont want her"!!!??? HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE? How can you not take care of your daughter... man I wish we could so something. I just pray that the people taking care of her show her love and support. That is the only thing I can think of!! I feel so bad for this little sweetheart.

Then I also find out this woman (same as above) was calling me the "white itch" behind her back. OOOHHHHH so mad. Smile to my face and call me your friend. This is not a woman...

Say What Irie??? that is crazy the worse part of it is the child is suffering because of it

I hope and pray whoever has her is taking the best care of her.

Oh and that was "behind MY back" not "her back". My daughter considers her daughter a friend. Some people.... *shaking head*

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 12:50:00

QUOTE (*SunRay* @ Oct 7 2009, 01:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (mstee @ Oct 7 2009, 01:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 7 2009, 12:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Then I also find out this woman (same as above) was calling me the "white itch" behind her back. OOOHHHHH so mad. Smile to my face and call me your friend. This is not a woman...

No she is not!

That's awful... Why did they do that. Your child! That's just crazy.

She IS crazy! SHe opens her legs to ever passer by ... and HE has no balls!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 12:41:00

Then I also find out this woman (same as above) was calling me the "white itch" behind her back. OOOHHHHH so mad. Smile to my face and call me your friend. This is not a woman...

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 11:58:00

WoooooHoooooooo! Mrs P!! Thats wonderful news... now have some fun celebrating! YAY!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 10:52:00

QUOTE (sus @ Oct 7 2009, 11:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Kuntriooman @ Oct 7 2009, 11:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

breadfruit is too DAMN expensive up here some places charge up to $4.99 a pound uknow how heavy those things are.

I will have to check - but I don't think they were that much at this market -

Next time I go Kat I will look to see if they have products from St. Lucia - I know they had Barbados ones -

The Lucian food brand is "Baron". Boy, Louis would love some Piton beer and Bounty rum! Just to see it would make him happy. LOL
I would have to make a CT run. I suppose I could find a place in Boston. One of these days we will go on a food run.

I think Louis will be visiting St Lucia on his own in a couple months. We just cannot afford a family trip right now. Maybe I can get him to bring some stuff back. How does one bring back breadfruit? Hopefully it will be in season!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 10:30:00

QUOTE (sus @ Oct 7 2009, 11:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 7 2009, 11:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Alright - who is going to go to the Caribbean market and send me a BIG shipment?
All that food typing has me hungry... I long for breadfruit!

LOL, I will - send a list and $$!

Ok, I will get on it!

My friend in MD sent us a box of dasheen! LOL... flat rate box.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 10:23:00

Alright - who is going to go to the Caribbean market and send me a BIG shipment?
All that food typing has me hungry... I long for breadfruit!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 10:19:00

Morning YArdies!

Good Luck vibes going out to Mrs P! Wooooo!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-07 07:00:00

QUOTE (JAPrincess @ Oct 6 2009, 08:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 6 2009, 05:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Your day will be here sooner than you know.

Is it only TUESDAY??? This week is dragging....

what is wrong with this message...

LOL! You know!! I thought the same thing as I was typing it. But.. after the weekend takes so long to get here, when its over we all think it went so fast.

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-06 19:46:00

Good evening! My mom took T and I out to dinner. Louis is working.
My2... it is a rollercoaster! But you know now that Louis has been here for a year... It doesnt seem like it was all that long getting him here. Your day will be here sooner than you know.

Is it only TUESDAY??? This week is dragging....

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-06 19:31:00

The candy bar thing is so cute!

Before I met Louis guys I dated... (Tierra's dad).... none of them liked chocolate or candy. I told my best friend that I would NEVER date another guy that didnt like chocolate. I told her there is something weird about a person that doesnt like chocolate... all joking of course....

Met Louis... I was being silly and asked him if he eats chocolate... he says "of course". Thats when I told him we would get married! haha
I would by him a chocolate bar every day.

lottery... we talk about who we would help too. I have a couple girlfriends. One who is ALWAYS there for me. She is getting a divorce. Tierra's godparents. I would pay her debt and buy her a vintage VW Bug! LOL
Then of course parents would all have a nice place to live (Louis says not his father!)
Another friend is a teacher in DC. I told her she would have to go on the payroll and be Tierra's private teacher cause we would travel all over the world. OH THE DREAMS>>>>

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-06 08:01:00

Jawi - that is a GREAT dream hubby had! LOL
I always think about the big house in SLU we would have WHEN we win!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-06 07:36:00

Morning!
Sus, you ok? Or just not wanting to work?
GOOD LUCK Mrs P!!

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-06 06:44:00

QUOTE (finesse @ Oct 5 2009, 04:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (IrieCat @ Oct 5 2009, 03:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hey! I am here... just took a shower.

I have no stories to tell, nothing exciting this weekend...
Oh we found some kick a$$ fabric for Tierra's Medusa Costume! Cannot wait to see my mother's magic!

My birthday is Saturday... trying to decide what to do. Oh and justucia and I have the same birthday!!

have a sexy party!

oops, i meant to use the boobie smiley, not the war smiley!

LOL! Louis has to work that night and cannot get out of it. Going to dinner with mom, tierra, aunt and cousin (thats the normal routine)... then out with my friend. We just cannot decide where to go. I love Melissa .... but no sexy party with her! LOL
We never have any good "shows" in the area... especially when its getting cold. We will probably go to the swanky club in Portland and check out the hotties in suites! hahaha

Maybe I will wear my fancy black dress...

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-05 15:57:00

IrieCat

Female

Saint Lucia

2009-10-05 15:53:00