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QUOTE (*JG* @ Aug 17 2009, 04:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do not fall for that PayPal BS. I still have a dispute with them from like 7 years ago. They did not back up their policies and when I had to finally get my credit card to withdraw the payment, the came after me. To this day, I refuse to pay them that money so I buy everything with a M.O. off Ebay. I will not back down on that issue.

That sucks!!! mad.gif Paypal...leave JG alone.



It's so silly for like $70 something. I have refused to back down on the issue thus far.

Just create a new account smile.gif
MOs give you NO protection whatsoever.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 16:40:00
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QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Aug 17 2009, 02:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd cheerfully slit my wrists if I found out I was preggo *shudder*....

No more EVER for me...



Jaenglish - you're not going to try for one little girl?? You and hubby make beautiful babies!!

noooooooooooooo....two are FINE!!!!!

Hubby would LOVE a girl...but when I was pregnant with this last boy, I asked him if we were thinking about me getting pregnant again and he KNEW it was going to be a boy, would he want me to get pregnant, he said no. So - no more.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 14:25:00
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I'd cheerfully slit my wrists if I found out I was preggo *shudder*....

No more EVER for me...
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 13:54:00
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QUOTE (MrsBuggy @ Aug 17 2009, 11:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Look who saw this weekend......

Sanaa is getting sooo big!!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 13:25:00
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QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Aug 17 2009, 10:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
JaEnglish, I can relate to your story a little bit. Steven wants to get into aircraft mechanics, so I found an FAA-accredited school in Houston: The Aviation Institute of Maintenance. But there were red flags all over the place. First, the admissions lady was VERY reluctant to send me any brochures/material about the school. Nor did she want to send me tuition information. I thought this was so strange that it wasn't on their website and that she didn't want to send it. After about two months of emailing/calling back & forth, she finally emailed me the application (not on the website). It was a crooked, scanned copy! I was so taken aback at the lack of professionalism. Then I get the info in the mail, and these people want $36,000 for an 18 month program. Maybe if they came across as top of the line, I could see that. But to be that raggedy as to send me a crooked, scanned copy of the application after MONTHS of requesting it, there was no way. I actually drove by the school one day and it was this small, one-story building with a small sign. Just seemed shady.

Follow your gut yes!!

Word to the wise, make sure Steven brings his HS diploma and his transscripts in a sealed envelope from his school!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 12:33:00
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Not sure if I told you I was looking to do a degree in graphic design....The Art Institute of Pittsburgh was recommended as being excellent.
Well, was a little suspicious as to why the 'assistant director' of admissions was saying things to me like, 'you sound very intelligent' and 'would you say you are a creative person?'...So much so that I asked my husband if college staff were supposed to be sounding like salesmen.
Anyways, continued the process and was majorly suprised at the handholding they did, down to telling me the best answers for my FASFA form to ensure I got the most money. There was a small problem with my Jamaican diploma, in that I don't have it and my school opens in Sept.
Well, these lovely people assured me they would give me time to get it, just enroll today!! So I asked when the next start date was, they said October the 8th. 'But you want to start NOW! We get VERY busy!'
I asked what would happen if I didn't get the diploma in a timely fashion. 'Let's worry about that when it happens, let's just get you enrolled today!!'
I am digging my heels in now. So, he puts me onto a guy who is the 'Director of Admissions' who tells me again how very intelligent I sound and stresses I NEED TO ENROLL TODAY!!! Guy also mention he's Trini, chat with him about that.

So, out of interest, I google a local college, for class prices etc.
These people want $78,000 for a bachelors, my local community college wants $20,000!!!!!!

Call my 'assistant director' of admissions back and say I think I am going to cancel. He says he needs to put me onto the 'Director of Admissions'. I am expecting the Trini guy, lo and behold, this one is Spanish!!
He tells me firmly I get what I pay for and that he knows this college well and they offer a substandard education. I ask him politely what the college is called since I can't remember telling him the name of it.
Also asked him how many directors of Admissions they have. He blusters around saying that it isn't important.
Tells me he's giving me the weekend to think about it and come up with the 'right' decision and hangs up.

Then I decide to google reviews, and the TRUE story comes out.
Basically they are a 'for profit' college and every aspect of their conduct reflects that. Heard stories from people who started the courses, attended the first two sessions (that is required for the 250 'assistant directors' of admissions to get their commission) and then dropped like a hot potato.
So, I called them back as soon as I read the review and told them to cancel me.
The guy says to me, 'so all of this time I spent helping you, you're just going to throw down the drain??? You just going to enroll somewhere else like that?'

Tried to stifle my laughter.

Moral of the story?? MAKE VERY sure you research your college!!!!
Google them FIRST!!!!
I lost just $50, the application fee, other had done the degree program only to find their degree wasn't accepted by employers or even tried to transfer and found the credits wouldn't transfer over.

JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 05:52:00
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QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Aug 16 2009, 10:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (jawi876 @ Aug 16 2009, 10:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have been cleaning this weekend in prep for A's arrival Thursday. I managed to "whitewash" the inside of the house...it looks so nice with freshly painted base boards and sparkling white doors and cabinets. Tomorrow Baby Father will be shampooing the carpets for me. I managed to get a pretty decent amount of space in the closet for A...and a entire 4 drawers in the dresser. I'm proud of myself.

I need to vacuum down cobwebs and clean the ceiling fans because men don't think of those things...then I will Febreeze my sofas since Baby Father loves to fry fish and chicken. Just to make sure the house doesn't smell like the inside of KFC or Church's.

My shower curtain liner is all fresh from being washed in hot water and a good dose of bleach....Things are finally looking like I like them...with my touch. The house was decent but it was definitely being cleaned by a man/boys for a long time.


That's awesome that you cleared 4 drawers for him. I only have 7 total in my dresser (3) & chest (4). I cleared 2 for Steven. I realized I could use a dresser with more than 3 drawers, but when I priced them, I decided we'll need to make do. I couldn't believe how expensive real wood furniture is! Don't laugh at me, but my bedroom furniture came in a box from WalMart (headboard, nightstand, dresser) for like $200. Despite its low cost, it has all lasted just fine for over 5 years so far, so I can't bring myself to buy a wood dresser for $600+. When I go to the homes of other people my age, I feel like they are living a more "grown" lifestyle since they have more expensive furnishings & decorations... but then again, my frugal-ness at home are what allow me to travel.

I had to laugh at myself when I read that you cleaned your shower curtain liner. For some reason, that didn't occur to me with mine. The housekeeper told me that I needed a new one because mine had a bit of mildew. At least, that's what I THINK she was saying, since she only speaks Spanish and I only speak English. But reading your post made me realize that I could've just bleached (or had her bleach) the old one & saved $15.

Frugality!!!!


*pats self on back*

Edited by JaEnglishGirl, 17 August 2009 - 05:31 AM.

JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-17 05:31:00
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QUOTE (887643again @ Aug 16 2009, 09:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks JaEnglishGirl. I am doing ok with this possible 'revelation'. The free-spirit part of me reminds me that everyone comes into your life for a reason, but not everyone is meant to stay. I don't regret having a relationship with him, as he taught me things and there were obviously good times. The spiteful b**ch part of me says hehe, since we are married, he is stuck in JA until HE files for divorce. devil.gif Oh, he's never been here. We got married out there.

Girl, I never regret anything. If I can't think of anything good to come out of a relationship, the LEAST I will accept is that it happen to make me more appreciative of Mr Right....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-16 10:01:00
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QUOTE (887643again @ Aug 16 2009, 09:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok, so to shake things up a bit..

It looks like my days are numbered as far as my husband and I go. If I am 'right' in what I'm seeing in our relationship, his sole purpose was to get a green card through some sucker who was willing to pay for it. If I am 'wrong', at the very least he not motivated enough or have the ambition to do anything to help himself in his immigration process outside of signing papers.

I guess time will tell...

Sorry to hear sad.gif

But yes, time reveals everything.....

Wish I had a crystal ball or even just a flash warning of what's to come...but life isn't like that dammit!!

QUOTE (887643again @ Aug 16 2009, 09:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks Nat, been married a whole 18 weeks LOL.

Well, the silver lining is that with such a short time, you can ensure if you are right, he'll go back without his green card....I find there's nothing that soothes a broken heart more than some good old fashioned revenge....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-16 09:25:00
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QUOTE (MrsBuggy @ Aug 13 2009, 09:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok.. so he can build HIS credit if I add him to MY bills and stuff?? WOW!!

Hey Bunz, KK, Dada, Shaun, and Justucia!!!

Not any more!! That USED to be how things worked until Dec 2007....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-14 04:32:00
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QUOTE (MrsBuggy @ Aug 13 2009, 08:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Nelly & Nat!!! Hope ya'lls day was well.

I am sitting here and I just finished applying for a cc for derron... and he got denied!! He has even applied for a Radio Shack card and been denied!!!

How is he supposed to BUILD his CREDIT??????

Ok oldheads.. I need some help:
How did your SO build up their credit????

Hey Mrs. Ells!!! lol

I got a Macy's card, JC Penney's card and then an Amazon credit card and a Gap credit card.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-13 20:24:00
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QUOTE (jawi876 @ Aug 13 2009, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When you start caring about the people behind the screen then yes...you can be sickened and disgusted by what gets posted here, and real friendships do have an impact on your life.

I'm choosing to leave not because of people talking about me...I'm a big ooman too...as big as they come. I am choosing to leave because I can't continue to bite my tongue to appease some people that want to live in a fake as$ bubble...then come back later and say why didn't anybody say something or I got used/duped for a greencard. I'm tired of watching women get played or hurt...and not being able to say something because then the majority wants to burn me at the stake.

You and me are alike it that respect. You are a little brasher than me though, I have learnt to hold back. I do get my point across, but tend to be a bit more subtle...More power to you though!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-13 19:27:00
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QUOTE (finesse @ Aug 13 2009, 01:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ok, who else wan leave vj?

I am a member of a messageboard where members kill and eat their own young....suh nutting whe NUHBADDY seh pn VJ even ruffles my feathers...
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-13 19:21:00
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QUOTE (jawi876 @ Aug 13 2009, 11:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My sister's situation almost ripped my heart out because I knew before he even got here...I tried to tell her things to look out for...things to be careful of...she just told him everything I said...and he avoided me and the "pitfalls or red flags". I then said okay...I can't warn her anymore...all I can do is try to support her and be there for her when the foundation comes crumbling down. There is a rift in our relationship that I don't think will ever be repaired because I can't pretend anymore. She wants to believe in him...so I stay in my place. She was hurt because I don't want him at my wedding...I want her there so I conceded...even though it is my day. She wants him and A to hang out...and that is an absolute NO WAY! He didn't like A because A tried to give her advice too...oh boy I'm rambling...it's the medicine.

All I want to say is that you have to stop being so defensive and heed some of the warnings. Listen to your own intuition...I mean really listen. It won't steer you wrong...but I see so many women turning it off, ignoring it or lying to themselves that everything is gravy when they know in their heart of hearts it's not.

I know I ruffled a lot of feathers...but everything I said was not done in malice...it was with pure intent and wishing the best for all of you.

There are some people that I want to scream to the top of my lungs "WAKE UP" sweetie...but nobody wants to hear that when they are in love...so I bite my tongue and pray for the best. I have been about 99% accurate on the ones I know are not what the woman thinks they are...it is scary...but it's not for me to publicly forecast or denounce.

There are no guarantees in life...we just have to roll with the punches and pray/hope for the best.



I feel your pain girl....my approach is this. You are my friend/loved one etc, I will tell you ONCE of how I feel.
If you don't want to hear, I'm done. I'll there for you when it fails, I will bite my tongue and never say "I told you so."
Learnt my lesson a longgggg time ago.
Let him come to your wedding. If A wants to hang out with him, let A make the choice. Who knows, maybe A can inspire him.
But your sister WILL need you, that I know and I refuse to pretty up my words. It IS going to come crashing down, and you will want to be there for her. Let her put her hnd in the fire, stand by with a band aid for her.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-13 19:15:00
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QUOTE (Bunzarelli @ Aug 13 2009, 01:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
how do you know though when someone is using someone just by what they post?
i assume more intimate details are shared under the quiet
i haven't seen anyone post here who i believe in my gut is being led into a relationship for the wrong reason

I have and do....but tried once to give advice to them about a small thing and they ignored it, so I'm done....But then again, who am I to be able to say anything definitively?? Maybe they want to take the chance for themselves...
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-13 19:09:00
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Kimmy, meeda BEX nuh bloocleet tuh.....FRIG taking a WHOLE dyaam suticase when she neva have di MANNAS fi even CALL him and ACKS him fi cyaryy nutting!!
Mek him lef him OWNA rass clothes if him a guh cyarry dat.
Or mek she pay fi a EXTRA piece.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-11 07:01:00
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Kimmy, weh yuh a duh yah suh early??
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-11 06:49:00
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QUOTE (Thompson2B @ Aug 8 2009, 06:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm thinking this goes for all men, no matter where they come from. I'm just curious though if you all think jamaican men are more sexual or have less patience?

I think I have more knowledge of Jamaican guys, I grew up with them, they are my cousins, friends, brothers, uncles etc....And culturally, ain't no way in HELL a man is going to marry a woman he never slept with, no matter how 'holy' she is....I would hazard a GUESS that other men are the same, but I can't say definitively, because I don't have the knowledge of how they operate...

Can't even compare them to other men, because I haven't been around them!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-08 18:24:00
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QUOTE (dancehallquana @ Aug 8 2009, 11:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Aug 7 2009, 10:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

What has always intrigued me is that I haven't ever met a practicing Christian who actually practiced abstinence. I could also never EVER imagine any Jamaican man I know actually putting up with waiting.
I, of course am MORE than open to be proven wrong!


u have found one jae!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when we first met he thought after 3 or 4 days we were good to go in the sex arena cuz we were getting a long so well, .. i told him NO.. he was a lil peeved cuz i do think heavy petting is permissable so that was a lil misleading to him. he got over it and the whole rest of our trip (11 days).. he understood and honored my decision..he has told me b4 that he didn't know whey cuz USUALLY if a woman is not putting out, he would find someone that would.. not being a ####### or anything (i guess) but sex is REALLY important to him and most jamaicans as u say jae

now after knowing him a good 4 mnths.. i did make the decision to do it cuz i LOVED him and yes i did feel bad compromising, but so it go...

Most recently i started praticing abstinence again, WHY?? its what i want to do, my body is not his and i don't owe him the right to it just because we are together.. i feel i need to sacrifice and resist temptation right now for my own spiritual walk as well as start our marriage off fresh. Roger was very upset, about this decision, like STORMING out of the room upset..not talking to me for a min upset LOL but after the initial shock he has been taking it like a champ.. he knows that our love is WAY past physical.. we enjoy other forms of intimacy .. hugging, kissing, and to me thats just as good.. it gets hard, but when we feel we're getting to the point of no return.. i stop and he stops.. he never takes advantage of my weak points.. heart.gif


so anyway of course this is not a LONNNGGGGG drawn out abstaining period that he has had to deal w/, just a few weeks here and there. so maybe i am not the BEST example.. but i do believe that he could handle it long term IF we had to

i for one was SHOCKED at how serious he took NOT HAVING SEX, ya'll he was HOT...kisteeting,, pulling away from me.. but i see now from ur comment its a pretty big deal.. after the first couple of days he said he just got used to it..

so what i will teach my kids is BOTH abstinence cuz i believe it IS possible to wait till marriage if u choose AND about safe sex, cuz i know the flesh is weak and i don't want them to be uninformed and make stupid decisions

QUOTE (^KK^ @ Aug 8 2009, 11:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Quana - u must be at work?


yep at work.. bout to go back to work.. soooonnnnn as i get caught up LOL



Congrats for sticking to your principles!


I guess I find it almost impossible to believe that the average non-christian Jamaican man would wait until marriage to sleep with his woman for the FIRST time. If BOTH of them were christian, yes I can see it.
In your situation, yes I can see him abstaining with you, because you have already reached a certain level of intimacy.
But to be honest, I am of the opinion that NO Jamaican non-christian man is going to be involved in a relationship for a year or so where there is NO sex involved UNLESS he's sleeping with someone ELSE. It may be possible, I stand to be proven wrong, but I don't think there's a chance in hell of it happening.

JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-08 13:52:00
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Morning ladies...

anyone heard from Culture?
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-08 08:44:00
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QUOTE (*JG* @ Aug 7 2009, 10:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yeah, I admit I was wondering, Jawi. But, wasn't going to go back and look at anything. Cause in the end, I don't really care. To each his own. You know me.

OK, though. I remember that line. For me, I've heard so many lines, I don't believe any of them. I think they are cute and all; but give me a line and you sure as hell better be backing it up with some actions. Cause words are just words are just words.

when I heard the line I must admit I thought something different....believe 100% he did say it, Jamaican men are known for things like that, but I would always laugh in their faces after a line like that.....maybe I'm not romantic or poetic lol
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-07 11:02:00
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QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Aug 7 2009, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I know some Christians who are firm believers & practicers of abstinence before marriage.

Jamaicans????
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-07 10:58:00
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Ps....I am a practiced and seasoned fornicator and proud!! Well...USED to be, had to give it up once I got married whistling.gif
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-07 10:33:00
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QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Aug 7 2009, 09:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Aug 7 2009, 09:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Now I know I'm nosy and this is NONE of my business, it goes without saying you aren't obliged to answer.
But I wondered, how do you balance being involved in the church and your relationship? Ie, was Steven ok with waiting for marriage or um....do you ask forgiveness for your sins?? whistling.gif


I had a class in college where the teacher wrote each of our names on a card. Every time we had class, he'd shuffle the deck. When he had a question, he'd pull a card and ask the person whose name was on the card to answer. If that person wasn't there, their grade suffered. If that person was there, they could either answer the question or say "pass." A pass didn't affect your grade, because he at least knew that you were in class & awake.

My answer to this question is "Pass."

What has always intrigued me is that I haven't ever met a practicing Christian who actually practiced abstinence. I could also never EVER imagine any Jamaican man I know actually putting up with waiting.
I, of course am MORE than open to be proven wrong!

Edited by JaEnglishGirl, 07 August 2009 - 10:28 AM.

JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-07 10:28:00
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QUOTE (NatPatBen @ Aug 7 2009, 09:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What's going on this weekend?

I'm going to a forum at church on "How to Date Holy." I know it doesn't really apply to me anymore, but I'm curious.

Tomorrow, heading to a crab/shrimp boil. Then, if I feel like a long drive, a game night birthday party.

Now I know I'm nosy and this is NONE of my business, it goes without saying you aren't obliged to answer.
But I wondered, how do you balance being involved in the church and your relationship? Ie, was Steven ok with waiting for marriage or um....do you ask forgiveness for your sins?? whistling.gif
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-08-07 09:28:00
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QUOTE (Gooden @ Sep 2 2009, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Shemmy @ Sep 2 2009, 12:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Gooden - can I ask a question - is there an age difference between you and your hubby? It doesn't mean anything....I am just curious.

Either way - thanks for sharing your story. Best wishes to you.



Yes, there is, but people are always shocked at my age they say I don't look it. I'm 38 and he's 28. I have a photo or two of us in my profile I think. Maybe due to his age though, he wasn't done shopping, but wanted residency so I wasn't informed.

You're beautiful Gooden!!
See such a smiley, bouncy person looking out at me in those pics!

Don't let him steal your joy, write him off as a chapter in your life that God wanted to to teach you a lesson with.

Mr Right who will walk through fire, suffer through cold for the Queen you are is oit there for you. This will only make you appreciate him better.
Be very aware though, once he realises he needs you for the rest of the process, he'll be knowcking down your door saying ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want to hear. Be prepared, that will be the MOST difficult part of the whole process....

My prayers are with you.....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-09-06 07:12:00
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Happy birthday Miss Diva!!!!!!!

Lawd she mussi feel she big now!!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-09-06 07:07:00
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Kimmy, nuh mek mi an yuh roll enno ROFL
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-06-02 11:27:00
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QUOTE (Rick Ross @ Jun 2 2009, 11:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Jun 2 2009, 05:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Goats don't bite lol!!


As for the patois thing, it's funny when I'm here, I speak the Queen's English straight. None of my co-workers think I can speak patois. When I'm in Jamaica, you honestly cannot hear a trace of an accent.
Remember one time I went downtown and was buying some earrings in a shop and the saleslady was passing remarks because she was saying I was uneducated because my patois was so thick ROFL ROFL
Even this past trip was talking to a Brinks security guard and he asked me how long I'd been away and I said since 94, he then asked me how comes I never caught the accent abroad rofl.gif



Can you please teach me Ja

Would be happy to!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-06-02 11:12:00
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Goats don't bite lol!!


As for the patois thing, it's funny when I'm here, I speak the Queen's English straight. None of my co-workers think I can speak patois. When I'm in Jamaica, you honestly cannot hear a trace of an accent.
Remember one time I went downtown and was buying some earrings in a shop and the saleslady was passing remarks because she was saying I was uneducated because my patois was so thick ROFL ROFL
Even this past trip was talking to a Brinks security guard and he asked me how long I'd been away and I said since 94, he then asked me how comes I never caught the accent abroad rofl.gif
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-06-02 05:15:00
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QUOTE (KKHoliday @ May 31 2009, 12:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey Yardies?

So for citizenship it's 3 years after marriage or 3 years after having greencard?

Man..my husband is trying to work me to death this afternoon. He is washing the deck and wants..my help.

I quickly came down to the computer..but back to sun and cleaning for me.

Have a great day everyone.

3 years after greencard.....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-31 15:45:00
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QUOTE (solsoeur @ May 30 2009, 09:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for the heads up JaEnglish. While I don't like to paint everyone with the same brush I just like to say that the behavior you are speaking about it EXTREMELY UNSAVORY and DOWNRIGHT despicable and frankly it does not paint Jamaica in a good light! I am a Christian woman and I do not see how people can call themselves Christian or even a good person and behave in such a manner! The ends do not justify the means! We are to look to God as our provider and our SOURCE for EVERYTHING not other people! I have been up and I have been down and God brought me through all of it sometimes he used other people to help me along my way but I NEVER USED ANYONE....YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW IS ALL I CAN SAY AND GOD BLESS ANYBODY WHO THINKS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS IS OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You see it!!

While I am the FIRST to jump up when people try to put ALL Jamaican men in the same light, I am under NO illusions as him scheming SOME can be.....Not being a hater, but make sure you LEARN from the mistakes of others....To be honest though, not sure how EITHER woman could protect themselves from men like these...
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-30 15:06:00
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See, a BUSINESS marriage I can understand, when both parties KNOW what they want.
But tis is I guess everyone's secret worst fears.
Now, this is not to scare anyone, because TRUST me, there are almost ALWAYS signs!! But listen to them!! Trust your intuition!!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-30 10:07:00
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QUOTE (sus @ May 30 2009, 08:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ May 30 2009, 08:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On my last day there, this couple was sitting beside me on the beach. She was English, he was Jamaican. He was being very attentive to his wife, rubbing suntan oil on her, kissing her, giving her little hugs, laughing with her.
So, a guy passed by and made a comment to me, I answered him with an insult in patois, so the husband started CRACKING up and started talking to me.
He said he was a 'beach boy', he went around and slept with the tourists to make a living. Said he did it to survive. So he was telling me, while he slept with ugly women, huge women, nasty women, he was on the look out for one he could 'stomach' living with until he got his stay.
He told me his wife was cool, he liked her because she was naive, believed any story he told her, any excuse he came up with. Said he made up his mind there he was going to marry her because he would be able to 'do his thing'.
They had been married for 6 months, and they were in Jamaica for a month, he boasted of how he had his girlfriend come down and stay in the same hotel and told his wife she was his cousin. Laughed about his wife bringing down clothes for his girlfriend.
I was taken aback, speechless. And he was saying most of this with his wife just out of earshot, but while attending to her needs. She probably thought she was in PARADISE, had the most thoughtful, solicitous husband ever.....
And I guess what amazed me was that he felt the need to sit there telling me all of this like it was something good.


Wow - Was this the couple with the baby?

Nope, don't think you had come out yet, they were sitting to my left, she was in a black and white bathing suit, he had red swimming shorts on. She had braids in her hair, kinda larger woman....
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-30 10:05:00
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QUOTE (sus @ May 29 2009, 10:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
All and all, the trip was a good one – lots of quality time, lots of family time – And meeting JAEng was awesome, we had an instant connection and it was like I met my long lost sister!

Awww, same here, that's why I've been stalking you ever since LOL!


Had two very interesting conversations in JA which seemed very relevant to the board.
They have some people employed as 'Tourism Corps', basically for tourist information etc.
Got talking to one of the guys, he was decent looking, very clean cut. He told me he had been with his childhood sweetheart for 15 years, they had two kids together and lived together. He said he had met this American woman who fell in love with him, and even though his 'wife' didn't like the idea, he was going to marry her, come to the States and diverced her as soon as he could and bring his kids and the girlfriend over.
I asked him how on earth his girlfriend was happy with him doing that. He said that she wasn't too happy, but she realized that it was for the kid's best interest and even for their best interest as a family. He went on to say he took his American woman round to meet her and the kids. He said his mother was a christian, and while she wasn't too happy either, she didn't condemn it because he had to do what he had to do. Said his mother talked to his American girlfriend all the time, cooked for her etc.
Another thing he said that he was using to justify the whole scenario is that he said his American girl was older and had on 'weight', so she couldn't possibly expect to get a young, fit guy like him for her own just like that.
Asked him if he mentioned that to her, he laughed.

Just shook my head.
On my last day there, this couple was sitting beside me on the beach. She was English, he was Jamaican. He was being very attentive to his wife, rubbing suntan oil on her, kissing her, giving her little hugs, laughing with her.
So, a guy passed by and made a comment to me, I answered him with an insult in patois, so the husband started CRACKING up and started talking to me.
He said he was a 'beach boy', he went around and slept with the tourists to make a living. Said he did it to survive. So he was telling me, while he slept with ugly women, huge women, nasty women, he was on the look out for one he could 'stomach' living with until he got his stay.
He told me his wife was cool, he liked her because she was naive, believed any story he told her, any excuse he came up with. Said he made up his mind there he was going to marry her because he would be able to 'do his thing'.
They had been married for 6 months, and they were in Jamaica for a month, he boasted of how he had his girlfriend come down and stay in the same hotel and told his wife she was his cousin. Laughed about his wife bringing down clothes for his girlfriend.
I was taken aback, speechless. And he was saying most of this with his wife just out of earshot, but while attending to her needs. She probably thought she was in PARADISE, had the most thoughtful, solicitous husband ever.....
And I guess what amazed me was that he felt the need to sit there telling me all of this like it was something good.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-30 07:41:00
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Wakey, you're gorgeous!!! What was that fool thinking????
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-26 04:51:00
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Wakey, don't know what is going on in this chick's head, but there is no way in hell she can get ###### from you. Things happen for a reason, and maybe the reason is to strengthen your resolve to get the MAN that created this mess out of your life for good. As for embarrassing you on here, girl, LET HER TRY!!!!
In fact, maybe you should pretend you're deathly afraid of her posting here so she goes ahead and DOES IT!!
We would SLAUGHTER her on here, trust me!
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-24 07:19:00
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Heyyy people....got to Ja safely, have free wireless networking so sitting here on the poolside typing away loll
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-22 18:39:00
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I see that ELF email is still going round! It's a marketing ploy to get people to think they're getting a bargain...

ELF is not being bought by Nordstrom.

They are a dirt cheap cosmetics line, that's the NORMAL price.Target stocks them. They have always been $1 for most items.
JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-20 16:10:00
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I read the comments about the 'dangers' of social networks etc. Not discounting anyone's experience, but are you going to let your man out alone???
Will he go to a club??
Go to work??
Believe it or not, 100s and 1000s of people hook up at work and at the mall!!

When I first moved to London from Jamaica, the loneliness was awful. Didn't have any friends and had just my grandparents around me. And they ate different food, had a totally different culture. Yes, they tried to make adjustments but it wasn't enough.
Then I started using sites like Jamaicans.com, jamaica-netlink.com etc.
Was I there to meet someone?? Hell no!!
At that time, I was actually in a long distance relationship with my ex in Jamaica, so my aim was to just to talk to fellow Jamaicans.
Now, I am not saying lock your men in a room with 70 naked virgins, I am saying let the man go talk to FELLOW Jamaicans, people who may be going through the same thing as him.
YES, he may meet women, but hell every time he walks out of the house he will meet women!!
And wedding ring or not, they'll throw themselves at just for the accent alone!
Do any of you women use Facebook? Or Hi5??
I'm sure you do. Do you go on there and hook up with men behind your SO's back??? I'm sure you don't so why should he??

Treat your man like a dog, and he will become one.
Don't trust your man, and he will become untrustworthy.

In Mr Buggy's defense, I can say I have 4 GOOD males friends that I've known since I was 11 -15. And when I was in England on my own, they called me day and night. When times were rough they called me day and night.
When I moved here and sat home for a year, they called me day and night. And I thank God for my husband, because he never had a problem with it. Yes, a few of my female friends called too, but my best male friend lives in NY, and he'd call me really often because he sits at work doing nothing. Never ever EVER would I cheat on my husband, and he knows that.
Before you decide to take a man as your husband and spend the rest of your life with him, you have to KNOW he'll honor and respect you.
A cheater will always cheat. A decent man will not cheat, he'll leave.
If your man goes online and in the space of a few months goes and hooks up with someone, he was always a cheater - you just didn't know it.
And if it wasn't online, it would be somewhere else.

JaEnglishGirlFemaleUnited Kingdom2009-05-19 05:05:00