Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (clairern @ Feb 7 2008, 09:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 7 2008, 09:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Feb 7 2008, 08:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Whats a family policy? Family policy versus what? sorry, it`s a `household` policy I meant....covers your spouse and dependents in the house....Not sure if you have to have full coverage in order to have it. Wow English; I love, love this picture of your little boy. He is sooooo cute. TOTALLY ADORABLE!!!! He is so darn photogenic!!! I just want to munch on those chubby little thighs!!! I love chubby babies! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-08 08:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Mrs. Scott @ Feb 7 2008, 07:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I miss Mo Bay. Kevin and I met at Doctor's Cave Beach. The Brewery is a party spot for the locals. Friday is the night to go to Pier I. Margaritaville is good on Thursday & Saturday. If you want to keep it low key, then go to Coral Cliffs and listen to some live music (2nd floor). Kevin got his Georgia driver's license today. It brek 'im hart fi leggo di Yardie license. I was also able to add hubby to my auto policy (only $6 increase for the next 6 months). Congrats Mr. & Mrs. Scott...that's GREAT NEWS!! Just $6!!! WOW, maybe I need to move to ATL sooner than I thought! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 19:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Feb 7 2008, 06:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JALOVE @ Feb 7 2008, 01:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 7 2008, 03:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 7 2008, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok people don't kill me. But i've never been able to get into MO Bay...Negril was nice, but nothing really going on but the beach...I LOVE Ochi, cyan just walk out and u in the middle of things...that hip strip is boring, where do u all hang out when u go there??? Ya'll talking bout places and i'm like where is that. I like mixing up with people when I go to JA. I like going to the Dead End Beach in Mo Bay! Across the street, they have a likkle restaurant there and billards table wid music at night! It's nice, everyone a hang-out and enjoy the vibes. I also like Pier 1 or the club above The Pelican on a Friday night and The Ville on Thursday. A nice likkle club in Falmouth on Saturday night. Sunday we usually go to Sunday Breeze in Long Bay. I like MoBay...I am definitely a 'MoBay' Girl! Negril was nice too! I REALLY LIKED Scrub-A-Dub/Striptease...that place was OFF THE HOOK! Trust me, if you go to Negril in the next few months tek yuh Man...they will appreci-RATE it!! Especially the Go-Go dancers....it's not gully or grimmy...it's just fun...wid good vibes. Ken dared me to stick a dollar bill inna dem g-string...he must have forgotten who he was wid. ..I went right up there and DID IT!! They also have a pool upstairs on the roof! Bless, Gill lol lol rub a dub striptease and car wash lol hahahah that is funny that sign i be crackin up lol that is in negril right them girl be climbing up all the way to the roof on the pole there is a very small/short (i dont want to say the wrong word ) man at one of those clubs ok im have to PM you hahah yes dead end bar i hear they remodeled there is always this older man in there playing drums or somethin they say he is from TX he came to the island a while back and he still there pelican cost too much! but have good blended fruit punch market day in falmouth i enjoyed that shopping Oh the Pelican...thats the name of the restaurant....yes it do cost alot...more like US prices than JA ones...but the food is yummy. I like the fruit punches too. Never ate at the Pelican...but the club upstairs( The Brewery...Thanks Mrs. Scott ) was off the CHAIN!!! That was were Ken & I went on our second date! Bwoy, mi pudung a pissa dancin' dat night! That's when I knew I was fallin' for this guy...cause I was SWEATIN' and he would just tek out his rag and wipe my face! LOL Lita, wid the pool place!!! Wi doan knoa yuh a 'Crazy Yankee Gurl' LANG time! Love ya, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 07 February 2008 - 07:32 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 19:30:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 7 2008, 04:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 7 2008, 12:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok people don't kill me. But i've never been able to get into MO Bay...Negril was nice, but nothing really going on but the beach...I LOVE Ochi, cyan just walk out and u in the middle of things...that hip strip is boring, where do u all hang out when u go there??? Ya'll talking bout places and i'm like where is that. I like mixing up with people when I go to JA. Don't feel too bad...I am way outta the loop as well I was only in Mo Bay for the airport and stayed for a night or 2 when they lost the luggage but other than that nothing. Never been to Negril. Been to Ochi more than anything but even then it wasn't much. The Island Grill, the mall, the movie place, KFC Now when you all start talking about Spanish Town, May Pen, Town, Linstead, Mt. Rosser, Ewarton...I will be able to contribute I truly feel like a country girl! Chica, you sure do sound like one! Ain't nothing wrong with DAT!!! Ken's Dad is in Linstead...I used to go there too as a kid! Always busy!! Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 07 February 2008 - 06:40 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 18:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 7 2008, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok people don't kill me. But i've never been able to get into MO Bay...Negril was nice, but nothing really going on but the beach...I LOVE Ochi, cyan just walk out and u in the middle of things...that hip strip is boring, where do u all hang out when u go there??? Ya'll talking bout places and i'm like where is that. I like mixing up with people when I go to JA. I like going to the Dead End Beach in Mo Bay! Across the street, they have a likkle restaurant there and billards table wid music at night! It's nice, everyone a hang-out and enjoy the vibes. I also like Pier 1 or the club above The Pelican on a Friday night and The Ville on Thursday. A nice likkle club in Falmouth on Saturday night. Sunday we usually go to Sunday Breeze in Long Bay. I like MoBay...I am definitely a 'MoBay' Girl! Negril was nice too! I REALLY LIKED Scrub-A-Dub/Striptease...that place was OFF THE HOOK! Trust me, if you go to Negril in the next few months tek yuh Man...they will appreci-RATE it!! Especially the Go-Go dancers....it's not gully or grimmy...it's just fun...wid good vibes. Ken dared me to stick a dollar bill inna dem g-string...he must have forgotten who he was wid. ..I went right up there and DID IT!! They also have a pool upstairs on the roof! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 15:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Feb 7 2008, 03:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> just got back from a check up....everything seems to be fine....heart beat is strong and everything seems to be good!!! even though i am fighting off a cold.... i have my brother to thank for that....so i am just going to sit back and count down the weeks....and eat everything i see.... That's great news Nanny...you know the routine...drink lots of liquid for the cold! Feel better soon! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 15:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JALOVE @ Feb 7 2008, 02:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Feb 7 2008, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 7 2008, 03:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 7 2008, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Feb 7 2008, 12:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ever thought about the mid-west? It's boring yes, but affoardable. I think we need to move to KC then cause I need a little boring in my life. ROTFDWL...As soon as I saw Brownie's post...I was like uh-oh ...Where's J.G. ...I knew you wouldn't let that slide without a comment! I know she didn't meant any harm! Love ya'll, Gill I need to check out St Louis, cause nuttin nah gwaan ova dis here wey. One problem wid tx im fearin i will not be able to find any of my carribean groceries!! I need my Lasco Vanilla Soy drink my Foska oats, baba roots, supligen, grace ####### soup mix, callaloo uh oh. There are tons of spanish markets there maybe by chance they will have some other carribean things. Gurl, that's my fear too! I hear Yardie talking bout all her crazy shipping fees and get scared!!! That's one thing I love bout NY. I work 5 minutes from Sam's Caribbean Market/ Golden Krust/ 20 minutes from VP! (Yardie, link mi if yuh waan mi fi guh pick hup deh CD han mail hit tuh yuh at this point! ) Like, my Sister was BEGGING me to move to Md. about 10 years ago and I was like I want you to take me to your closest Jamaican Grocery...Gurl we were driving for mussi 90 mins!!! I was like NOPE!!! (BEFORE MY BELTWAY FAM STARTS BARKING) ...I know it has gotten ALOT better now! Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 14:47:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 7 2008, 01:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Gill, Don't if feel soooooooooooooo GOOD to have a GOOD man in your life. I think I have to go home in March...I'm about to PULL OUT MY eyelashes. Yeah, it's like that. But I have so much to get in order. I think 4 days won't kill mi. Bwoy Lawny, True ting dat mi love!!! Han yuh knoa wat...mi tink WE appreci-RATE dem so much more...because we know how bad the bad ones are!! Lawny, Please lef yuh poor likkle yeye-lash dem alone!!! YOU SHOULD GO DOWN IN MARCH!!! Sistren, if hennyone has EARNED a dyam trip...you have!! Head up and blessings plenty , Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 14:06:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 7 2008, 01:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Feb 7 2008, 12:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ever thought about the mid-west? It's boring yes, but affoardable. I think we need to move to KC then cause I need a little boring in my life. ROTFDWL...As soon as I saw Brownie's post...I was like uh-oh ...Where's J.G. ...I knew you wouldn't let that slide without a comment! I know she didn't meant any harm! Love ya'll, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 07 February 2008 - 02:01 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-07 14:01:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JALOVE @ Feb 19 2008, 09:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 19 2008, 09:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JALOVE @ Feb 19 2008, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi everyone im here at work watchin the clock ! i wanna go home. I think i need a new job but i better be thankful for the one i have right now but im bored i wanna be doing something else. Hope everyones night is goin ok. Hey JA-JA, Can I tell you I LOVVVVVVVVVE your picture!!! Gurl, YOU LOOK SO DYAM GOOD!!!!!! Hush, I know deh crazy hours ah mad yuh. ...Hush Sweets...yuh soon done! Love yuh MUCHO, Gill lol thanks! still bored but im here till 1130 since this process im very interested in immigrations. I have been thinking about a change for a while maybe ill go for it. But my first plan is to move to tx. Im praying they say i can come. To kill time im thinkin about what i want in my house lol grill top stove game room and theater room. I love the houses there they are so nice and cheappppp. HI kimmy how u feel betta soon and trelawny i feel u i miss bein creative i used to do nails i kinda miss that. It was one job where i never felt i was at work. It was comforting knowing i made someone elses day great by hooking up their nails. It was like being a therapist, folks tell all their issues and sometimes leave feeling better just because their nails look nice. Now i what i do its a numbers game how much work you can finish in 8 hours and if others here do work faster then we go by that average so i know i gotta get the hell out soon! it used to be a set number to do based on your position. I know how you feel!! Somedays I still get a feeling that I don't know what I want to be when I grow up! I love most of my jobs for six months...then they are no longer challenging and I get bored! The only job I still love is being a mother! Hang in there ya'll! Alright ya'll...I'm out of here! Love, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 22:02:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 19 2008, 09:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Look like mi a go deh yah ole night..cause mi stil no have a clue... QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 19 2008, 09:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Mistress Benz, Yuh finish yuh paper yet? ...Mi a watch yuh! , Gill Gilli all a now..if mi nah lay down mi a vomit or mi just cyant come up wid nuttin wah mek sense..at this point mi just want hand in something wah mek likkle sense...kissteet Look, mi nuh need yuh fi stress ova dis sittin'...is there hennyway yuh cyan ask him for an extension, given your current condition? Gilli	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 21:52:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	Mistress Benz, Yuh finish yuh paper yet? ...Mi a watch yuh! , Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 21:43:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JALOVE @ Feb 19 2008, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hi everyone im here at work watchin the clock ! i wanna go home. I think i need a new job but i better be thankful for the one i have right now but im bored i wanna be doing something else. Hope everyones night is goin ok. Hey JA-JA, Can I tell you I LOVVVVVVVVVE your picture!!! Gurl, YOU LOOK SO DYAM GOOD!!!!!! Hush, I know deh crazy hours ah mad yuh. ...Hush Sweets...yuh soon done! Love yuh MUCHO, Gill P.S.- Yuh a guh haffi git mi through deh next part (AOS), suh nuh boddah fi tink seh yuh done afta Ken reach! Edited by Deyoungting, 19 February 2008 - 09:41 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 21:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (typee0 @ Feb 19 2008, 08:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> What ever a person puts out comes back on them. That is for sure. From what I have seen you are a good person. Who deserves better. Continue to stand tall and keep the Faith. Health and Wellness Always!!! Hey Typee0, Welcome!! And thank you for your wondeful comments...I'm sure Yardie will appreciate dem! Blessed, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 20:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 19 2008, 04:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 19 2008, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Yardie Wife............As far as the lifting of conditions.......have you applied for it? If not, I would file for divorce and let him figure out how he's going to lift his own conditions. He is eligible all on his own. He just has to prove the marriage was (oh I forget the word), you know, on the up and up, from the beginning. I would give him some of the paperwork he needs to file like tax return info. or whatever, since you mentioned before he has never wanted to learn how to take care of all that stuff. Anyhow, I'd give him copies of some of the paperwork he needed; but I wouldn't do any of the file work. Tell him to look up the local office, call and make an appointment or whatever, and let them help him figure out what he needs to do. I would not go out of my way to help him. If he wants to stay, he'll figure it out. If not, not your problem. Please do not stress over him and this anymore. You have done plenty. I have always admired your patience and grace. You are a really special person. Keep your chin up! Thanks Well he will be getting help from our little duppy guest Let's just say that THE MINUTE he left the counseling office he must have gone to see them because I was informed this morning that they printed the forms for him. Really shows where his mind was after hearing that he was getting a divorce. WAIT...AH WAT DIS YUH A SEH JAMS?!!! Yuh mean fi tell mi seh some nasty stinkin' hole skettle ah report back ah wah gwaan pon dissa thread! Bwoy, wat a wickid deh fuh dem when dem finally realize...wat goes around COMES around!! Han hit a guh LICK dem HARD...when dem nasty shyt a come back pon dem! Doan figgit...ah deh same weh yuh gitti ah deh same weh deh next ooman...or man ...ah guh getti! Jams, I am convinced now more than ever...yuh a mek deh right move!! Mi ah put 2+2 together...Sistren, yuh see ah vibes & a spirit like yours...that is a once in a lifetime ting fuh hennyman! Em NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH guh see dat agen!!! MI A TELL YUH DAT RIGHT NOW!!!! Yuh ah 'ear mi Sis!!! A ooman like yuh is a ONCE IN A LIFETIME TING!!! Suh Duppy..duh mi a favor...tell Missa Andre fuh mi...'Yuh BLOW IT,my youth!!! YUH PHOCK HUP BIG TIME...HUGE!!! YUH DYAM CLAAT!! NOW EM LEAVE WID A SHADOW OF WAT EM WIFE WAS!!! ...Yuh A shadow fi REAL DUPPY!...yuh cyan't even lick deh toilet dat our Jams shyt inna!!! Suh Duppy inna deh mikkle a deh night when yuh 'ear em susu-susu pon em phone...or when em a mek hup similar hexcuse em did mek hup tuh be wid yuh...MEMBA...IS MI GILLIAN...TELL YUH DUMB, PHOCKING FENKY-FENKY RASS DIS DAY WOULDDA COME!!!!! Nuh boddah fi guh Bawl pon NOOOOOOO ONE SHOULDER!!!! Cause yuh pussyclaat...how yuh nasty rass git em...is ow yuh nasty rass a guh keep em!!! Guh run back han tell em DAT fuh mi!! Han PUHLEASE...HENNY BLOODCLAAT TIME YUH OR EM READY...FI GROW A SET A BALLS HAN COME FROM OUTTA DEH SHADOW...I will GIVE YUH MI PHONE # ...suh mi cyan tell yuh dyam dummy duppy rass PERSONAL!!!!!! Jams, good riddance to old trash!!! Sis, yuh Man nuh reach yet!! Andre seem like a dyam Man Sample!! He was an appetizer...trust mi a pretty, sweet girl like yuh nah guh haffi wait round long fuh yuh REAL MAIN COURSE FUH REACH!!!! LOVE YOU CHICA...HAN HOLD YUH HEAD UP!!!! LET EM GUH SWEETIE...HE WAS NOT MEANT FUH YUH!!! Yuh too dyam good fuh dat now! Blessed love ALWAYS , Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 20:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 19 2008, 03:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> another story....some background info. the passport ..spoke to someone at the consulate last week who said the passport would be at the passport office in Kingston TODAY!! so the consulate calls me at home yesterday, looking for mr. jengles. I guess they don't get to take off american and jamaican holidays like the u.s. embassy in kingston does. I said to her isn't the passport supposed to be on its way to kingston, here this..she wants to know the circumstances behind it. I said he lost his passport at the airport and it was returned to your office. she says Well, how did he get to J.A.. At this point I'm thinking a what di rass is going on here. I said your office gave him a travel document. She's like Oh!!!!. I just came out and asked her what day is the passport going to be in J.A. She tells me Wed. this week. I had the sense to ask her, for the number to the passport office and a contact name he can ask for. Lucky for me. I told mr jengles to go the passport office late this week, never gave him an exact day because I'm starting to understand J.A. a little bit. but my girl sat on the passport after is was given to her last week, because she wanted to know the circumstances behind how it was lost. They have a police report on file at the consulate about this same passport. and she a call mi. why can't people understand that all i want to do is go to Disneyworld!!! *sigh* *cha* OMG-DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!! Is wat deh RASS dees people really playing hat Dear Lawd!!! His wat dat hell dem really want !?!? Em loose em passport...Dem find deh passport...he is anxiously awaiting deh rahtid arrival of his passport..IN JAMAICA...Give deh man em BLINKING passport han tap deh bumbaclaat foolishness!!! I can't Jengs...I am SOOOOOOO SOOOOOO sorry they are putting you both through halla dis!! Sweets, did yuh by chance tell dem deh RASS of a week yuh ave had!?!? Ave yuh told dees hidiot people deh amount a pressure yuh is honda righta now...han yuh CYAN'T TEK nuh more stress inna yuh life!!! Yuh jus need yuh husband back ya fi TEK HOVA!!!! Jengles, if yuh waan mi fi call han hexplain hennyting to deh consulate, passport office...couldda rassclaat Prime Minister Golding at dissa point...please PM me!! I'll be happy to explain your circumstances to them!! Cause I can't tek dis phockery no more!! Much love & bless, Gill P.S.- Hang in there...I don't know how you can...Cause I am about to FALL out wid dis madness!!!	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 16:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Feb 19 2008, 03:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 19 2008, 10:24 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Sorry to hear that you'll be out for a few days JG. You'll be in our prayers for a speedy recovery...Andre will be in our prayers too ( ) He'll be fine... I agree with Jengy...you can't MAKE her...but try to encourage her to go back to school! Like you said she is soo darn close! And it would help to take her mind off her problems...if only for a few hours! Thanks for the info on the Embassy! Seriously, I can't wait until these people are out of our lives for GOODWhat is that...like ten years from now right?...Gheeeszzzz! Well, be good and stay well Blessed always, Gill just wait till you start going through AOS..... Nans ...I can't...up until this point...ignorance has been BLISS!!! Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 15:55:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	Aright dissa Man a guh DRIVE MI MAD!!! (ajoke)...But still Suh Missa Young is still pouting about going tuh town...em jus call mi fi seh..."Guess What Baby Gurl?" 'Wat???" "Mi call deh Post Hoffice han dem ave deh sittin from deh Embassy?" "Which sittin' would dat be Mi DHHHHHARLIN'???? Could never be deh Hinterview letter dat mi hask yuh if yuh call deh Post Hoffice dis Mawning fuh? Hmmmmmm???" " Ah deh same ting! Dem mussi JUS' getti tiddeh!!' " "Wow...imagine dat! Same time yuh need deh sittin' hit reach! Appy Appy Joy joy!! Duh...guh pickki hup tiddeh jus fi mek sure!!" Em jus start fi laugh!! Likkle Wretch!! Em suh dyam appy yuh see! ARRRRGH MEN!!!! So, now should I sen an email back to the Embassy...mi hall git a supervisor from the Visa Center fuh elp mi hout pon dis wan! I don't want them to think he skipped out pon the pick-up interview! Lawd...wat a trial & tribulation!!! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 14:50:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	- Call it Bad Timing... Just got word from Jawi...is a officially a single woman again... and very thrilled!!! She apologizes for not telling you herself, but her computer is down! Bless, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 19 February 2008 - 01:41 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 13:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Feb 19 2008, 01:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well... Not to put a damper on things but I really wanted/need to get this out... A and I had a counseling session last night after a no contact separation (we have been living separate since last May but still in contact) for the last 30 days - sort of a last ditch attempt for him to realize the severity of it all. As much heartbreak and pain as this decision has caused me it has been decided that we will be filing for divorce Never in a million years did I think this would happen to me. After attempting to work on our marriage for almost 2 years and to still be in square 1 with little to no progress...well there is only so much one person can do. I feel like I did everything I could to save our marriage and I did it with integrity. So as much as my heart hurts I know that it was a necessary decision at this stage in everything and there is no uncertainty in the decision. I am at peace with it as hard and heartbreaking as it is. I am not going to go into too many details here on the public forum but I wanted you all to know what was happening. I am not sure what is going to happen with the whole removing of conditions...I don't even want to think about that right now. So anyways...thank you for all the love, support and prayers, I know a lot of you were rooting for our marriage to pull through. Please keep the whole situation in your prayers. It is definitely one of the worst times in my life. Oh ((((((((((((((((((Jams))))))))))))))), I'm so sorry to hear. Chica...I KNOW YOU TRIED!!!! Sweetheart, as you already know a marriage must be a 'we' effort not an 'I'. As always you are in my prayers. Love you Jams and I am always here & rooting for you! Bless, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 19 February 2008 - 01:38 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 13:36:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (dancehallquana @ Feb 19 2008, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello everyone, I am quana (dancehallquana) I been getting alot of good wisdom as well as laughs from VJ over the last couple of months, and just recently decided to join. My prayers are with all of you that have experienced heartache and discouragement this past week and hope that you are all encouraged and strenghened through it all. I am not yet on a visa journey, but have been enjoying getting to know a special friend that I met in Jamaica Jully 2007. RG will be applying (for the second time around) for his visitor VISA or B2 I think?? I wanted to know if any of your SO had ever applied in the past before filing for their current VISA's. I have heard that it is pretty difficult to get approved. I know that this kind of VISA is not normally discussed here, but if anyone has any insight or experiences they would like to give, I would appreciate it. Hola Quannie, WELCOME WELCOME!!! Girl, I have no idea about the visitor visa thing...But like Kimkim said...nothing ventured...nothing gained!!! Don't be a stranger...come back soon! Hi to the rest of the Fam!! I just got an email from the Embassy....Ken can go pick up the Packet 4 on Thursday!! Suh, mi call mi dyam facety man fuh tell em deh good news...han hit wat em seh!! "Ow come heverytime yuh a sen 'hemail' his fimi rass haffi guh Town!!! Is when yuh press deh 'send ' key pon yuh keyboard...hit mussi link hup tuh mi batty... cause is really me yuh a send!!" Dyam houtta order! Mi haffi tell em..."Den mi love, doan boddah fuh guh...han I won't boddah fi come! But jus memba...if I nuh come...yuh nuh.....come!" Then mi git..."Arighty den suh bright han hearly mi a guh lefhout fi town pon Thursday mawning!" Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 12:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 19 2008, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (kimmykashi @ Feb 19 2008, 11:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> English..where ever those pics were taken I want to be there RIGHT NOW !!...ahahaah but please forgive me...but u know seh mi a Jamaican...why this girl standing next to the bride inna white TO ? a 2 bride ? double wedding ? LOL!! What happened wit this wedding was that I was staying at the Holiday Inn in Montego Bay and mi an mi fass self decide seh mi wah tek pics of a wedding since mi neva have nuh experience. Suh, mi juss walk up to these people when mi si dem a set up and acks dem if dem mine. Dem neva mine at all, suh mi end up tekking 600 pics! Funniest thing, dem did book the hotel photographer, and HATED his pics!! They tried to pay me about 20 times for them, but I refused to accept lol, when I came back to England, they sent me a cheque lol..... The bride is half Jamaican half Irish, the groom is Irish.... They were so much fun to work with though!! Love was so apparent in their eyes...They'd met when they were in PRIMARY school! I knew it looked familiar! Very noice Chica!!! Good Job...you were saying about coming to NY...	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 12:42:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 19 2008, 12:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 19 2008, 10:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 19 2008, 11:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Mrs. English...u still no ansah mi yet bout takin my wedding pictures. My co-worker has 2 PT cruisers I've driven them several times since 2002 and I like the ride. I just don't like DOMESTIC cars. It has a lot of room and it does very WELL in the snow (I've had to drive her home several times)...she's afraid to drive in the snow. And well, you live in MD so you know about 495. The Beetle (my dad is a mechanic)...he calls VWs disposable cars. I'm a SUV/minivan mom. So, go with the PT (my co-worker) has never had any problems. She lives in Clarksburg, Maryland and drives to work (in DC) everyday. That's a lot of mileage. Her husband drives the other one and he works even further (in Lorton). I would LOVE to lol!!! Done a few weddings before (well TWO!), loved doing them soooo much!! Here's a link to them http://s64.photobuck...raphy/Weddings/ I love our SUV, but my husband raises hell each time I drive it, can't be bothered wid him cussing, suh mi seh mek mi mek haste and get mi own!! He says I can't get another truck because of the gas consumption...grrrrr I am definitely looking harder at the PT cruiser with all these positive comments!! Those pictures are beautiful. I had to go back and look again cause on first pass, all I could think of was how painfully sunburned those people on the beach looked. I'm cringing just thinking about it. I was thinking the same thing!! Like OMGoodness...they are lobster red!! Beautiful shots though Engy!!! Very nicely done...coming to NY anytime soon Bless,Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 12:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	Sorry to hear that you'll be out for a few days JG. You'll be in our prayers for a speedy recovery...Andre will be in our prayers too ( ) He'll be fine... I agree with Jengy...you can't MAKE her...but try to encourage her to go back to school! Like you said she is soo darn close! And it would help to take her mind off her problems...if only for a few hours! Thanks for the info on the Embassy! Seriously, I can't wait until these people are out of our lives for GOOD! What is that...like ten years from now right?...Gheeeszzzz! Well, be good and stay well Blessed always, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 19 February 2008 - 10:26 AM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 10:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	Question- I still have NOT received my interview letter from the Embassy. Ken & KJ's medical is next week!! He needs the letter to do the medical! What now?? Has anyone else been in a similar prediciment? Calling 202 # & Embassy#...to no avail! I will keep trying! Any other ideas?? WHY DO THEY HAVE TO MAKE IT SO DYAM DIFFICULT!!!? Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 09:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	**********TUESDAY CHUCKLE********** Good Mawning again, I just thought some of us might need a little chuckle. I hope no one takes offense. Have a good day! Love ounuh, Gill ****************************************************************************** Things You Will Never Hear A Jamaican Man Say 1. "No, wifey, tek my cyar instead." 2. "Waiter, this steak is overcooked." 3. "She 'ave a nice body ... but 'ar batty too big." 4. "Whaapen Mr. Deejay, yuh cyaah play some more calypso?" 5. "De pill doan gree wid me wife, so ah gweh get a vasectomy." 6. "No, Chooksie, ah cyaah tek anodda whites(rum), mi haffe drive all de way to Kingston, an' it wet and dark outside." 7. "Some ah mi closest bredren-dem gay, yu no se'et." 8. "Size doan matter." 9. "Yeah man, me nyam unda two foot table. 10. "Nuff respect to Brian Lara."	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 09:03:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	Mawning Family, I reached out to some of my friends and family in JA. And was able to gather this info for JG's-SIL and any other young lady that our VJ family may think needs some help: Women's Crisis Centres Kingston: 929-2997 Montego Bay: 952-9533-4 Woman Incorporated Office: (876) 929-9038; 926-9398 on Wayback Machine Hotline Crisis Shelter Crisis Centre Victim Support Unit, Ministry of National Security & Justice, 12 Ocean Boulevard Kingston Mall, (12th Floor): 922-0080-8 Police Emergency: 119 (Hot Line, Corporate Area: 927-7778) Crime Stop: 1-888-991-4000 Legal Aid: Kingston Clinic: 922-379213761 131 Tower Street, Kingston Montego Bay Clinic: 959-2183 17 Orange Street, Montego Bay Legal Aid Council: 922-0080-9 12 Ocean Boulevard, 12th Floor Norman Manley Law School Clinic, August Town: 927-1007 Please let's keep all rape victims in our prayers and thoughts...regardless of their country, color, or religion. This whole thing really upset me. Ken kept asking what's wrong...your vibe seems off? I played it off for the most part. When I finally told him last night he was like...'Here dat appen? Inna Mo Bay? Is wat em look like? Wat kinnda car em drive? She git em license plate #? Cause mi han mi Bredren dem nuh tolerate dat deh phockery deh bout!" He hates hearing about stuff like that...especially when I told him she was just coming home from school! He calls them crabs...Crabs can't stand tuh see a next crab progress...suh dem prefer hold down every last one that looks like they may have a way out! He is going to see if he can find some more counseling services available in the area for me. If he finds anything else...I'll pass it on. Have a bless-ed day all, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 19 February 2008 - 08:51 AM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-19 08:50:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 18 2008, 11:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'm not thinking anything coherent right now, Gill. I hear ya Chica. Look this is the organization that funds Pum-Pum Power! I think they would be a good place to get info on Rape counselling in MoBay! If I get a chance this week, I'll call them... Contact Information Jamaica AIDS Support Snail Mail Address 4 Upper Musgrave Avenue Kingston 10, Jamaica W.I. Telephone numbers Tel: (876) 978-2345 Fax: (876) 978-7876 E-mail: info@jamaicaaidssupport.com website: http://www.jamaicaaidssupport.com/ JG, Don't let bitterness eat at you. Gurl, I feel your pain and even more your's & Andre's frustration on not being able to protect her from this. But, same rules apply to both of you. You did nothing wrong. Unfortunately, we can't be everywhere for everyone! Just be there for her now JG...Let her know that she is loved and cherished and that you are both there for her! Many Many Many Blessings and prayers for your family at this time Chica! Be well and stay well, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-18 11:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 18 2008, 10:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I don't know about counseling services for her. It's MoBay so I'm sure there is something available. Once they calm down a little, I'll bring up that topic. Gill, Tre, JAE, Kimmy.....you guys actually make me believe in the goodness of people again today. I think I need to get "the gang" together and whip up a little VJ justice!!!!! Not to leave out any of the rest of you....I love and appreciate you all. It's just that some on here are a little tougher talking then others and those are the one's I want to help me avenge right now. The thing about the whole 3rd sister thing is that the other two are not doing that great in the after effects. One died of AIDS, although they are not sure it is from the rape, and the other is kind of "off" if you ask me. The whole thing just angers me while it makes me incredibly sad. What are you thinking JG. I am also looking into counseling for her. I know of an organization down there called 'Pum-Pum power'. I want to see if they have a branch in MoBay! She needs something...I can't have this be the end all of do all for a 16 year old girl. Especially after hearing about the fates of the other 2 sisters. Bless, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 18 February 2008 - 11:30 AM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-18 11:29:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 18 2008, 08:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ha Ha......me too, JAE. Me too. And, I don't really feel bad about thinking that. Tre.....I was thinking the same thing about your story.....how did he think he was going to get away with it if they all knew him? The good news on my SIL story is he did wear a condom. I guess I can say Thank God for that much. If I wasn't feeling sad enough all weekend, Andre said this is the 3rd of his 6 sisters that have been raped, one being gang raped. I shudder when I think of the two sisters that are still not in their teens. I had such high hopes for this sister. Believe it or not, when she was about to enter her teenage years, they came to me and asked me to talk to her about making babies. We had such long talks on how she needed to be safe and careful. We had talks on how she wanted so much more then her older sisters and mother and how to accomplish that she needed not to pop out babies until she was financially and emotionally stable. She has been doing so good.....in school and with the boys. She is set to graduate this year and she had some sort of internship set up. I just hope this doesn't derail any of those plans. I pray she finds a way to live with herself. It all just makes me so sad. JG, I added your SIL to the Prayer Chain at my church...I thought about her the whole weekend! Everytime I think about it I feel the bile rise in my throat and my eyes water. Then to read seh it's the 3rd out of SIX of his sister to be raped!! WHAT THE HELL!!!!? I often see reports about some African nations were 70 % of woman have reported being raped! And I think Bwoy, that's bad...but then to start to see that Jamaica is getting to that point...is just PISSING me off!!! Is when Jamaica git suh bad? Is when deh RASCLAAT men decide fi hurt our gyal pickney and stop protect dem? Is like Yard a ton inna Babylon fuh real, Man!! I pray that one day she will heal...I pray that this does not stop her on her path to greatness...I pray that one day she will be able to find and know what true love between a man and a woman should feel like...I finally pray that this does not crush her little spirit and self-esteem and she knows that she did NOT deserve this!!! Unfortunately, bad things really do happen to good people! JG, please reiterate that to her. Many rape victims, begin to feel like it was something they did wrong. Dress a certain way, or spoke a certain way, maybe if she fought harder!!! It's like they put themselves in a self-appointed prison. SHE DID NOTHING WRONG!!!! JG, keep telling her that! Whether she asks you are not! ...HE WAS WRONG, NOT HER...HE IS A GROWN-A$$ MAN!! Bwoy, but you know that old saying...what comes around...goes around! His time is coming! G-d, will deal with him! Blessed love always, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 18 February 2008 - 10:41 AM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-18 10:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 17 2008, 10:16 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ladies, thanks for your support...I only cried at the hospital and now when i read the PMs I got. You should all be glad we communicate via computer because i don't cry pretty...like on tv.. I had a rough week and walking up and down two flights of stairs with two bags and a baby every day and having to shovel snow on wed. didn't help. I'd been spotting all week, but thursday night it was VERY heavy and prompted me to go the ER friday night. god always has a master plan, so I'm trying to leave it in his hands. I have 2 other children i have to hold it down for right now. one of whom is teething. JaEnglish, i'm not offended by anything u said at all. ok so back to the regularly scheduled programing. because ya'll know i always seem to have a story The same school that was giving me so much grief the other day. actually had the nerve to call me on friday at work to tell me. there was no afterschool that day. they called me at 4pm and wanted me to get there by 5pm, whatever. I got there at 5;45 but that ain't the story yesterday on the way to pick up my kids(they were over a friends house) I stopped by the bank to cash a check to myself. I went to a bank in a differend neighorbood a lot more upscale than mine. so anyway, i go up the teller and present him the check. he asks me if i have an account with the bank. i said yes (in New York city, u can right out a check to CASH instead of putting someone's name in the to section of the check, so technically he may have not known that I was the owner of the account) i stated yes. he then said are u mrs jengles. i said yes he then asked me to swipe my bank card, no problem, he then asked for ID so he can right it down. now i'm sort of like huh, because if i just swiped my card and put in my pin, that should be all the id i need, but ok, show him my drivers liscence. then my boy looks at my account and asks me a question. i didn't hear him so he repeated the question 'the credit from xyz place is that your tax return?" i said no its my paycheck. then i asked him why did he ask me that, oh he wanted to make sure everything was alright with my account. his job is to make sure the funds are available in the account to cover the check i presented not to get into my personal business. and yes he was of another color. the black teller sitting next to him just kept on looking at him and laughing. my teller couldn't look at me in my face anymore. On my way out, i kindly asked for his supervisor and spoke to one of the personal bankers who agreed with me that he had no business at all asking me that question and said she would speak to him. Dyam Bright han houtta order! I would have said..."What are you jealous!!! Sweetheart, if you buss your behind the way I did and Do...one day that paycheck could be going into your account!!!" Oh, that's right black people can only get a large amount of money once a year...God forbid we actually WORK for it!!!!!!! I get that all the time here on the Island...people automatically assume that I live or am from large minority neighborhoods! When I tell them where I do live (Upper class, white neighborhood)...you can see the question in their eyes "I didn't know any blacks lived there!" But what they say is 'Ohhhhh, very nice!'- With that fake -a$$ smile! The funny thing is My town used to be a the part of a huge plantation were the slaves lived! I love to tell them my ancestors have been there for almost 500 years! (Is a dyam lie...but yuh doan knoa mi arready ) Just hignore dem yah Jengy! Love ya Chica, Gill Edited by Deyoungting, 17 February 2008 - 06:24 PM.	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-17 18:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Feb 16 2008, 09:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Feb 16 2008, 08:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (mommy2B @ Feb 15 2008, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello there, I don't know if this is the appropriate thread to post in but I'm new to the board and I'm getting ready to start the intense K1 Visa process. I was initially going to pay someone to take care of it for me but decided it be best to do it myself and now I'm feeling overwhelmed. Anyway, a bit of info on me: I'm 24, fiancee is in JA and we are expecting a baby sometime in October (which I'm excited and terrified about, its my first time). We couldn't be happier except.... my family doesn't know about my relationship, I was afraid to tell them because they were very judgmental about a previous long distance relationship. I know they are going to be very disappointed in me and I almost can't bear it. Any suggestions on how to break the news? Also worried my fiancee won't make it in time for baby's birth.. plus my work is very stressful.. I have to figure out a way to tell them too PS: I'm really feeling this thread Michelle Greetings and Welcome Momsie!!!! Glad to have you with us! First of all congrats on the baby ! Mich, although you are scared right now don't forget a baby is a blessing, never a curse! Remember Chica the good Lord never gives you more than what he thinks you can handle! I know how you feel about breaking the news to your family! Iam going to tell you a secret...I just told my Father & many of my other family & friends that I filed for Ken a few weeks ago...(Gurl, I filed in JULY!!! ). For the same reasons as you! I have been pretty much been 0/0 on picking guys ...BEFORE my Kenny . I just didn't want to hear all the judgements and negative comments that go along with stepping out and taking a leap of faith! ("He's just using you for a Green Card" or "Gurl, did you NOT see what happened to Terry Mcmillan?" ) However, I have to tell you Mich...the burden of carrying that secret around with me for SIX months weighted heavily on me! I couldn't share my excitement, fear, joy (getting the NOA2) anything with my family! When I finally told them abput the interview date a few weeks ago! My Father said..."Hmmm, ok...we'll see." and kept it moving! and my other friends were relatively happy, although a little apprehensive. So, all the built up tension and stress was for nothing! Mich, I finally decided to tell them because of the following reason ...1). I am a grown woman and this is the path I have chosen for myself! Be it right or wrong...I will walk through it! 2). Ken deserves to be in the light, not hidden like some dirty dark secret! Momsie, good or bad, right or wrong...there is no turning back now! This is your path and MOST importantly THIS IS YOUR LIFE...NO ONE ELSE'S. You seem like wonderfully bright young lady! You are aware that it is not all going to be roses...but you are prepared for that! So, I would do this...pick one or two or your closest friends/family members and tell them. However, ask them not to tell anyone else until you have had an opportunity to do so! Then tell your parents. Look, I KNOW how damn hard it is!! I'm 13 years older than you and I was so concerned about disappointing my Father yet again... But Sweetie, like Jomo said Parents have a way of surprising you. Ultimately all a parent wants is for you to be happy! Not to mention, a visa application you can hide ...a pregnancy...hmmmm...likkle harder to do that! Better to tell them now, get it off your chest and give them a opportunity to get use to the idea. As far as the Visa application...never say never! They bulk of the backlog seems to be thinning out now...so you have a shot! You may not be able to go down for the interview...be he will hopefully be here for your child's birth! ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH GOD! So, whatever road you decide to take to tell or not...we will be here to help you along the way! No judgements here Sweetheart...just love and good vibes!!! *Ok Ya'll Gill is stepping down from the soap box!* Bless-ed, Gill Oh and feel free to PM anyone of us if you need too ******** Gill, I worried about that all of one week. Even my people in Jamaica was trippin. When I took him my District in Trelawny...they came out of the everywhere. But you know what, I don't care. This is my decision and God will guide me. Gill, I have a question...is it a bad idea to take my son on the interview. I could leave him with family, but I'm not sure about that. I'm not sure if the embassy would refuse him entry. Lawny, I thought about taking my boys...then decided against it! That day is going to be stressful enough...why place more stress on myself-trying to keep my eyes on them, answer questions, handing in paperwork! We will be taking KJ, because we filed for him also. Whether they will grant your son entry I don't think that would be a problem. But call 202-663-1225 and ask them for sure. Love ya, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-17 06:15:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 16 2008, 03:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Can you guys add one more person to your prayer chain? We woke up to the phone ringing off the hook this morning. Andre's 16 year old sister was attacked at knifepoint last night by a taxi driver on her way home from school. Not sure we are getting all the details right now cause everyone is pretty much hysterical. It's not good. Oh Lord Kels, I am so so sorry to hear that... water just came to my eyes reading that...Poor Baby...just 16!! Lawd, what is our poor country coming to when a young girl can't walk home from SCHOOL and be safe! Sweetheart she, you and Andre's familyare most certainly in my prayers! I sincerely hope it is not as bad as I think! Blessed love always, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 17:59:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 16 2008, 08:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> uh oh.....it's still there dammit... I know Engy!!! I tried to get to it...but it's there! Don't stress...hopefully people will just pass it by! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 08:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (mommy2B @ Feb 15 2008, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello there, I don't know if this is the appropriate thread to post in but I'm new to the board and I'm getting ready to start the intense K1 Visa process. I was initially going to pay someone to take care of it for me but decided it be best to do it myself and now I'm feeling overwhelmed. Anyway, a bit of info on me: I'm 24, fiancee is in JA and we are expecting a baby sometime in October (which I'm excited and terrified about, its my first time). We couldn't be happier except.... my family doesn't know about my relationship, I was afraid to tell them because they were very judgmental about a previous long distance relationship. I know they are going to be very disappointed in me and I almost can't bear it. Any suggestions on how to break the news? Also worried my fiancee won't make it in time for baby's birth.. plus my work is very stressful.. I have to figure out a way to tell them too PS: I'm really feeling this thread Michelle Greetings and Welcome Momsie!!!! Glad to have you with us! First of all congrats on the baby ! Mich, although you are scared right now don't forget a baby is a blessing, never a curse! Remember Chica the good Lord never gives you more than what he thinks you can handle! I know how you feel about breaking the news to your family! Iam going to tell you a secret...I just told my Father & many of my other family & friends that I filed for Ken a few weeks ago...(Gurl, I filed in JULY!!! ). For the same reasons as you! I have been pretty much been 0/0 on picking guys ...BEFORE my Kenny . I just didn't want to hear all the judgements and negative comments that go along with stepping out and taking a leap of faith! ("He's just using you for a Green Card" or "Gurl, did you NOT see what happened to Terry Mcmillan?" ) However, I have to tell you Mich...the burden of carrying that secret around with me for SIX months weighted heavily on me! I couldn't share my excitement, fear, joy (getting the NOA2) anything with my family! When I finally told them abput the interview date a few weeks ago! My Father said..."Hmmm, ok...we'll see." and kept it moving! and my other friends were relatively happy, although a little apprehensive. So, all the built up tension and stress was for nothing! Mich, I finally decided to tell them because of the following reason ...1). I am a grown woman and this is the path I have chosen for myself! Be it right or wrong...I will walk through it! 2). Ken deserves to be in the light, not hidden like some dirty dark secret! Momsie, good or bad, right or wrong...there is no turning back now! This is your path and MOST importantly THIS IS YOUR LIFE...NO ONE ELSE'S. You seem like wonderfully bright young lady! You are aware that it is not all going to be roses...but you are prepared for that! So, I would do this...pick one or two or your closest friends/family members and tell them. However, ask them not to tell anyone else until you have had an opportunity to do so! Then tell your parents. Look, I KNOW how damn hard it is!! I'm 13 years older than you and I was so concerned about disappointing my Father yet again... But Sweetie, like Jomo said Parents have a way of surprising you. Ultimately all a parent wants is for you to be happy! Not to mention, a visa application you can hide ...a pregnancy...hmmmm...likkle harder to do that! Better to tell them now, get it off your chest and give them a opportunity to get use to the idea. As far as the Visa application...never say never! They bulk of the backlog seems to be thinning out now...so you have a shot! You may not be able to go down for the interview...be he will hopefully be here for your child's birth! ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH GOD! So, whatever road you decide to take to tell or not...we will be here to help you along the way! No judgements here Sweetheart...just love and good vibes!!! *Ok Ya'll Gill is stepping down from the soap box!* Bless-ed, Gill Oh and feel free to PM anyone of us if you need too	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 08:40:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 16 2008, 07:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 16 2008, 01:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok ladies...bad news....I had a miscarriage...I just came back from the hospital....then too top it off i sent mr jengles the nastiest text from the hospital...i think i need to take some me time and stop trying to fix things around me. now i'm going off on tangents....later ladiesl Girl I am so sorry to hear this....I can't imagine how you feel right now, but what I can tell you is that the time just wasn't right....The man upstairs isn't sleeping....Sometimes we wonder why things have happened, there's no logical reason why we should be going through things, but God has a plan. You need to take it easy girl. If your baby is HALF as energetic as mine, you'll be run ragged! And I beg you, even dow yuh husband HAWD A HEARING, please go easy on him! Because right now, he'll be feeling like this is HIS fault, and he should have been to take care of you and the kids instead of going to down to JA. And mi know you have your own feelings on this! If you ever need to ring someone, my number is xxxxxxxxxx.....but nuh feel like yuh haffi call, just take it easy for now,, AND NUH GUH RUSHING BACK TO WORK!! You NEED time to recover from this, you just had a baby and now this, try get some proper rest!! Hope I haven't offended you by anything I wrote in this email... You are dead on Engy!!	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 08:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jengles @ Feb 16 2008, 01:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok ladies...bad news....I had a miscarriage...I just came back from the hospital....then too top it off i sent mr jengles the nastiest text from the hospital...i think i need to take some me time and stop trying to fix things around me. now i'm going off on tangents....later ladiesl Ohhhhh ((((((((((((((((((((Jengy)))))))))))))))))))), I am so darn sorry to hear that. Baby Girl, you have so much pressure on you right now! Let go and let God! Take your time to heal. Be good to yourself Sweets!! WE LOVE YOU AND ARE HERE FOR YOU!! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 08:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Feb 15 2008, 01:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I am always amazed when I walk in and he's chopping onions with the meat cleaver. ...That is soooooooo true!!!! Bless, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-16 08:01:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Feb 15 2008, 01:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok Ladies, I am gearing up to get outta here and head to see the Mister. I am sooooo looking forward to going out and dancing this time around and have been told about a few places in the Kingston area to check out. I wanted to ask you all if you've been to any of these places and what you think QUAD ASYLUM These are sister clubs and Quad actually sounds really cool. What do you guys think? Ever been to these or know of some spots I should definitley check out while in Kingston....day or night spots. Lita...have a wonderful time Baby Gurl...think about us!!! Love ya & safe travels! Bless-ed, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-15 14:00:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 5)	QUOTE (JaEnglishGirl @ Feb 14 2008, 08:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Engy, that is soooooo beautiful!! Thank you so much for taking the time out to think of all of us!!! Your'se a sweet and your likkle cupid is ADORABLE!!!! Blessed, Gill	Forever Young	Female	Jamaica	2008-02-15 08:51:00