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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEngaged via email, wearing no wedding ring.
I am confused if a trip would be fruitful in the Philippines? Do you think I would get in? Do you think they would want to talk to me? From what I understand, it depends on the interviewer and I am not so informed as to how successful I would be. This is Philippines specific.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-18 09:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEngaged via email, wearing no wedding ring.
Pushbrk - I know one couple that just filed and they are using mostly Skype to communicate and visited only once. This might be enough if they are sincere and honest ?

I live in the real world and I am limited to one trip a year and being a key software engineer requires me to jump through hoops to get two weeks off straight and that is not always guaranteed. How people travel 3 times to meet their mate, I don't know but I wish I could.

We will be using every method possible (Phone logs, letters, cards, presents) on a continuing basis. My view is we will do far more than required and I actually think all the communication will strengthen our relationship. We are aware that it is the totallity of the evidence and how well the fiancee interviews which will make the case. I am so thankful to hear that there are many couples as crazy (or certain) about their choice that they Skyped for months, traveled only once and get engaged like we did. This was the most encouraging statement I have seen.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-18 09:18:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEngaged via email, wearing no wedding ring.
Heheehee. Teeth do not prove a relationship. :rofl: . too funny. Good advice. I think the advice will do some good in helping me focus in on what is a relationship. We will present them a basket of goods. Maybe the book I got my fiancee about pregnancy might signal a relationship more than paying for her teeth? Yep, I did take her a book on "pregnancy and what to expect" because we are both intetested in having kids which neither of us have. We are excited about it all.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-17 10:02:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresEngaged via email, wearing no wedding ring.
I met my fiance once. I did not ask her to marry me when I was there because it is customary to ask when you present a ring. I did not have a ring for her because we decided for her not to wear one.

Her parents live in a high risk area and a Filipina woman was just kidnapped from there the week before who was married to an American. We don't want to advertise that she is engaged for her family's safety. She is from Zamboanga City which is near Abu Sayyaf and his violent rebels.

We are now wondering if this was a mistake not to bring her a ring. Not to wear a ring. Also asking to be engaged over email. We are working hard to provide all the other support.

I am spendning a great deal of money on her teeth and maybe this would provide some evidence that we are serious.

Are there any couples out there that have been approved without a ring ? I realize that it says it is unneccessary but I want to hear from some that have been in the same situation.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-17 08:52:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresis this enough??
Has anybody gotten by without an EMPLOYMENT LETTER ?

My house is almost paid off and I have 3 years of proof of high income (pay stubs/IRS records) however I do work for the family and hate to ask them since they are only marginally supportive of me marrying a foriegner.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-24 13:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresReady to Mail
I used Fed Ex.. they charged me $ 61.00 from Florida to Texas. It was 2.55 lbs. I was shocked it was this much but money was no object at the time I mailed it :0
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-22 09:02:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresApplication Revoked
Based on my experience, I am 53, I would cry and move on. She's got a gut feeling you are not right for her or something is wrong in her mind. You'd be supprised that if you suck it up and move on, you might find someone way better for you. I did and we are filing now. I don't think fighting is nautural in a good relationship. If you click so well to get married, you shouldn't be fighting up front. There will be something to fight about along the way but not going into it. It's a bad sign.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-15 13:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLifetime Ban To US - Prior Drug Use - Modified/Lifted
This doesn't apply to my fiancee but it might apply to someone who has been rejected for truthfully answering this question and having a lifetime ban. I just thought someone would like to know this.

http://www.philstar....ubCategoryId=64

http://www.ajdigital...A_08_06_D 1.pdf

Edited by DaleFlorida, 26 August 2011 - 10:51 AM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-26 10:50:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresskype chat and call logs?
Jimbo, I think your post made me realize that most everybody has sent money to loved ones in the Philippines. Haven't they? Now I see that it is likely not a red flag in most cases. It can't be if done properly and within reason.

If I didn't work for a living, none of this would be an issue because I would be there with her.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-23 19:33:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresskype chat and call logs?
We used to do screen shots in Skype but the Skype version just upgraded and the snapshot is not in there anymore. We will get back to that as soon as I figure out a way around it. I read where they don't even look at chat logs sometimes but maybe they do. I'd be looking at something else as proof just to be safe. I use Phonecardasia.com for an occassional phone conversation and that lets me print my history. The rates seem competitive and their service seems to be pretty good if you can operate the web site which I think is good. Also, I think selecting weekly emails might be another alternative for you.
It is expensive to send cards but I think that is worth it every now and then too.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-23 18:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLifetime Ban From Entering the U.S.?
Somebody opened a can of worms... lol. I agree with the OP that this was not really about drugs but more about being aware that there are items that can get you banned.

I believe the OP was correct. If you don't, I would take it up with this guy, a lawyer who started the whole topic of saying that is true. Send hate mail to :

http://www.gurfinkel...2006_Dec_31.htm
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-26 22:27:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLifetime Ban From Entering the U.S.?

Don't use drugs... How simple is that?


That's right Bill Clinton included ! and half our senators.. and the police force...judges... all of them !
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-26 16:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLifetime Ban From Entering the U.S.?

Admitting to using drugs is not a life time ban. Being convicted of drug usage, sale etc beyond 30 grams is a life time ban. Being convicted twice of using drugs can lead to a life time ban.

BTW, I am sure being convicted of MURDER will get you a life time ban.


Maybe the attorney that wrote the article was wrong ? I don't know. Here is more information on it.

http://www.visajourn...se-at-st-lukes/
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-26 14:20:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresIs my relationship to new to apply for K1?
A prominent divorce lawyer answered my question on what kind of advice she could provide on selecting a partner next time. I asked her if it helped to date for a long, long time ? She told me:

"Marrying someone quickly is no indicator to how long a relationship will last." She went onto say that her parents were married within a few months and are still married 40 years later. The lawyer went onto say "The best indicator of how strong the bond is will be is WHEN YOU GO THROUGH HARD TIMES. That is when you will know what you have in a mate."

I think she was right. I dated someone for eight years, broke up at least twice that I couldn't marry. I stayed too long to try to help her (lol). Today, I got engaged within a couple of months and it feels so right and she is so sweet. Be confident because when you know, you know and to me, that might be a better indicator than dating someone for years in some cases but not all.

Good luck but back up your relationship with evidence. There are books out there that list 100 questions to ask before you get married. I would start there and discuss everything to make sure you are truly right for each other. Me and my fiance will go far beyond that. In our view, approval for the K-1 is important but we truly want this to last forever and we are both onboard to make that happen. We will truly know everything about each other and our families history when we walk in the door for the interview.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-27 08:51:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures6 months still waiting for NOA2

I got Approveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee today. The time is coming for all of us


Congratulations ! Maybe they make us wait to strengthen our bond. I can see how the weak ones will end their relationship after this grueling process.

I believe a six month wait and review should be a requirement for ALL American to American marriages as well. :D

Edited by DaleFlorida, 29 August 2011 - 12:23 PM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-29 12:22:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresShort Engagement Ongoing Evidence Submittal

me and my fiance (now my husband) met only once in the Philippines and were together for 14 days. Just collect as much proof as you can for her to bring to the interview. with my case, we also talked twice a day through Skype/google talk, did not have love letters or emails for each other expressing our love, and fortunately consul only asked for pictures of us together.


God Bless you for posting this. I was hoping to get someone in a similar situation that could inspire hope for us. I think if you can do it, we can do it too.

We are already prepared for the worst. We discussed and decided that we will never ever quit until we are approved. We are really committed but I will share your statement with her to give her hope and inspiration that we might too be together seven months from now.

Thank you so much !



Edited by Kathryn41, 13 October 2011 - 03:43 PM.
to remove personally sensitive information

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-29 20:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresShort Engagement Ongoing Evidence Submittal
We had a short engagement, we have met for 11 days, my only concern is if they want to see more proof of a bonified relationship than was sent in with the I-129f. We communicate everyday, usually twice a day. We will have alot of proof. I have no concerns there.

My question is, is there a point where you can submit more proof of evidence while we will be building this evidence as we go along or will she have to just haul this into the interview in case it is asked for.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-29 10:30:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLosing US Government Benefits

^

Yeah, I think he's hiding something from me too. But that's what he told me when I txt him earlier about the benefits. He says he's working but right now I cannot tell you if this is true because I don't think I can trust him anymore.


Just be thankful that you have friends who are saying something sounds not right. You need to get to the absolute bottom of it. If he doesn't put it all on the table then he is hiding something. You would be a fool to not know the entire picture so you can understand your risk. If he doesn't clear it up, I would get out of that one.

I was a fool once :bonk: and it cost me $ 100,000 dollars because I believed everything they told me was true :wow: . Now I don't trust anybody and this is how I found a wonderful, wonderful woman. She shares everything with me and I do her as well.

Edited by DaleFlorida, 29 August 2011 - 02:37 PM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-29 14:36:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLosing US Government Benefits
What if his benefit's change ? There is a backlash in America about this now. Just be informed and be aware that if you have no work history, you will never get ahead. Building a career and experience and the road to more money takes experience and time. Don't waste it. Be very informed on this subject and be aware that the benefits could change 5,10, 20 years from now. America is burdened with debt and there will be pressure to reduce benefits to those who don't need them or take them away.

http://blog.heritage...ent-assistance/
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-29 12:50:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresArrested for domestic violence in the past

He needs to have this esponged from his reacord. that can be done at the court house clerk and involves a fee. It is worth getting the arrest record off. the criminal backgorund check does not state if convicted or dismissed. It just states charged and arrested in this case. so, he really needs to get it dismissed.


Regarding an expungment, you can't get a dropped case expunged if you have any prior criminal convictions, and that includes a DUI. I am sure the US government could still see it even if the case was dropped/abandonned.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-31 14:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresGot RFE for "divorce decree" but I already included it
I would pay someone to go there and sit and retrieve it if you can't go there. I also had trouble getting to the courthouse and I was looking up college kids until I figured I could get there by 8 AM and be back by 9 AM before work.

Call a business near buy the court house and tell them you will pay someone to go stand in line and retrieve this document for you. Maybe a lawyer near by the court house will have a secretary due it for a reasonable fee. My lawyer could have walked there in 5 minutes so they can't charge you more than $ 100.

I got the highest court proof they had and they called it an exemplified copy, and it had a few pages of the the agreement. A couple of judges signed it. I might still get an RFE but I think I am okay.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-01 12:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMoving along K1 process.

Ok, well I filled in the 'how we met' portion.

Besides proof reading my g/f papers when they get here tomorrow, and going over mine again...I am down to the passport style pic and also the other pics for proof. I have a million on my phone, a bunch on my laptop...I've not done this before, but I guess I can create an account and transfer pics from my puter to Walgreens, (or someplace like that), and pick them up later?


I put mine on a USB and walked them in. The self help software on the printing picture machine was so good, that it took no time to select and print. I think I went to a CVS if I am not mistaken.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-01 16:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMoving along K1 process.
how you met letter? I was able to complete my story of how me met within the given box by using Adobe Standard edition, typing it right into the form itself. It would be hard to convince me that you need a letter when they give you a box to provide the information in. This is only a petittion which is to see if you qualify to petition them.

These people are likely busy peole and will skim through it to get to the point. Now, if someone's whole relationship is sketchy, I'd write a story because when you get to the interview, they'll pour over everything. In my case, we met on the internet, communicated via emails, skype for a while, I flew there and met her on 7/20/2011 at 6 PM at a specific resort. We can prove we met. It's getting the Visa with the totality of information that I am focused on.

If you really want to pull on their heart.. do like I did and drop a tear on a photograph, smear it and appologize for the tears. :devil:
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-31 20:11:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedureswhat to say
This pressure from outsiders is worse than the process. :bonk: People in a village have nothing else to do most likely than talk about others. Maybe you could tell her to handle it with humor. She could explain to them that "My US fiance got eaten by an Aligator and I am not going anymore." :devil: Then maybe they will all shut up. Meanwhile she will know in the background that everything is still going ahead. That will get them off her back.

I just got off Skype with my fiance in the Philippines. She told me to stop telling people. The reason is we have gotten postive responses and negative responses from USA family and friends. We both agreed that it is better just to be quiet about it and let them judge us when they see us together and not before. People can be so hurtful. It really is nobody's business but yours and the US government.

Your fiancee was obviously excited to tell others but since they are doing nothing but harming her with their words, she might try the diversion tactic that I mentioned above or tell them that you died in a plane crash or something and smile when she says it.

I think I will use the same advice when someone ask me about my fiance. I will tell them she was kidnapped by Abu Sayyaf or something like that.

Sorry for your pain.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-04 13:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAbout debt
Just make sure she pays off any American debts she incurs...
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-09 06:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDoes petioner have to be at Interview?

Haiti is close, so I would go. My fiancee is in the Philippines, and a trip there is a 2 week long effort, and one which I already did this year. I don't have enough vacation time for multiple 2 week long trips per year. So, I have to stay unless interview is next year (and I hope its not that far!).


Shouldn't you be getting a NOA2 anyday now ? I hope so. I just filed my I-129F.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-08-25 14:49:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBrought fiance. And things didn't work out. She won't leave
az110965- Yes, he got somewhat lucky that she at least left. Now, he can deal with the heartache and regroup. There are good women out there. I certainly got one beyond my expectations but you have to be skeptical and untrusting of all of them at first. This was how I found mine - by not believing anything they tell you at first. A foriegner can somewhat mask their personalities too by not knowing English perfectly. Picking a good woman requires skill but not using your eyes, using your head. For the most part, if a couple is fighting during their relationship, I would bail.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-09 20:22:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBrought fiance. And things didn't work out. She won't leave

Do not let her back into your home, Any belongings get them out and change the locks. After the k1 expires, see if you can gets her friend to take her to the airport. If she files an assault or domestic abuse you are toast. Stay away, no talking if you can help it, talk to her friend, sounds like she is just getting money for tickets at this point..


I am no lawyer but I watch cops on TV :D . In most states you can't change the locks or not let her back in. Once she brings her belongings in and stays one night (check your local laws)... she is there. This is why I said you have to move out. Leave her with the house. If you plan on staying there, I wouldn't. I think you can get her out in 3 days if you have no lease... but you need to start proceedings immediately with a real estate lawyer... which is way cheaper than a criminal lawyer.

Edited by DaleFlorida, 09 September 2011 - 08:02 PM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-09 20:01:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBrought fiance. And things didn't work out. She won't leave
az110965 word of caution should be underlined. When a woman comes from another country, they CAN push you under the bus to die if it means they will survive here. Not all of them but some. Based on what I know, I would absolutely pack my suitcase and move somewhere and have her evicted if you are living together. All she has to do is cut herself, bruise herself and you will find yourself in jail :help: and when you get out, you will not be able to come home to your own house. If you argue :ranting: at all with her stop because she might be drawing you into a trap.

If she is a manipulator and lies on occassion.. this is a real volital mix with a hidden survivoralist instinct. Be afraid but you know your situation better than us.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-09 19:47:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact

hiya guys,

there are two things to ask you,which is more important her job or going to get a vis???and yes there are many kinds of excuses to make so she can attend the medical and interview,think about the one that will work,she stil need to have a good relationship with boses because once she approve for visa she would have to have a letter from employer stating that she has a good moral and good character while at work"some kind of letter that need to show at departure that she is done working in philippines and no more obligations and dept something like that...

so anyways,if she convince her bosses that she is sick in that way she can attend the medical/interview but she has to show medical to the bosses that she was really sick(some medical clinic(doctor can arrange that)no worries,
tell her to prepare her stuff for medical during her spare time,and stuff for interview that way she can answer those forms correctly,hmmmmm good luck buddy


This is news to me about the letter ? I would like more information on that if anybody else knows anything about a letter from the employer?
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-15 12:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact

I'd get her to just say "Look, I am unavailable those days, you'd better find somebody to cover because I can not, and will not be here". Employers can be jerks sometimes, especially in customer service jobs, and you've got to be firm. Tell them you're taking those days off, don't ask. Don't call in sick, don't quit. She'll want her money to save for her trip until she has a work permit, and like others have said, just in case something goes wrong or gets delayed. Burned bridges are difficult to repair.


Thank you. I think this is the one I will advise her to use. There will be 500 people waiting in line for her job but they will not be her. If they are so short sighted that they will deny her a few days off and let her go, then she doesn't need to be supporting their bottom line either. I don't like calling in sick. That is not truthful. :innocent: I think putting this in writing and delivering it to her supervisor will allow them to make the decision.

Supporting her will not be a big burden on me. She will be busy as soon as the NO2 gets here and I want to visit her again. Sometimes work just gets in the way of life, doesn't it ?
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-15 09:36:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact

I don't know what information u got for you to come up with such bad impression about employers here in my country but I disagree with you..13th month pay and back pays are given just that it takes time.. one has to go through the process to collect monies. No matter how low life is in here,.employees are still protected with labor laws.

I had my interview yesterday at manila embassy and I am on a sick leave for more than a month now LOL..It was not asked during my interview..although the pre-screener was conversational about my earning, I guess she read I work in a call center as sales agent and filipino knows that is a high paying job here but NO did't ask my work status whatsoever. It is not practical to quit job until visa is on hand unless of course you are willing to support her financially all through out even should visa got denied.. :) :) :)


I am willing to support her remotely in her country for years to come into the future if need be. We both have a committment to each other. I do what I say I will do. She is THE ONE for me. This is my soulmate that I have been looking for. No doubts. :thumbs:

Edited by DaleFlorida, 15 September 2011 - 09:29 AM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-15 09:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact

Make sure she has a family member collect her final pay. Employers in the Philippines are notorious about not giving things like separation pay and 13th month pay to emigrating employees.


To be honest.. they can keep it if they are that much of a low life to do that. :angry:
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-14 20:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact
I think I am going to try to get her to call in sick or stick to her guns and say she has to have these days off. These people work so much, for so little,
with no benefits.. its just not right. I think it is near slave labor because the resort room rates are $ 200 a night there. It really changes the equation
when I am behind her and she knows that. I'll have her work right up till the interview if possible.

Her next job will be Domestic Goddess. (L)
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-14 12:46:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBeneficiary Quiting her Job - any impact
My finacee in the Philippines will have trouble getting time off for the medical/interview.

I told her if it comes down to it, she must quit her job. I also told her a steady job looks better for us. My question is, is there any impact if the beneficiary is unemployed, maybe there is but I have told her that she can tell the interviewer that she had to quit because she can't get time off.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-14 11:53:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresHow long does it take for NOA1 to show online?
It's not a big deal. As of last week, the Vermont CSR told me that the web site data is not being updated. This is common where one system feeds another system and something breaks. They are just not real good at fixing it because it's hard to keep good technology people. The main system that they use is likely a green screen system, one that is their central system that updates the web site. As the CSR explained to me that the Web system was not being updated consistantly.. she typed in a few key strokes and said, I am good. I am in the system.

First off, if you have a NO1, you are in the system and being processed or you wouldn't have gotten that letter. Don't put any faith in the web system because it is a secondary system, not a primary. If you want to do anything, call them up, give them your NO1 and ask them to check if you are in the system. You will be I am sure if you have the letter.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-18 17:49:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresuscis account?
Actually.. if you get a letter from them with a NO1, you are in the system.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-17 16:29:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresuscis account?
I got a NO1 in late August. Nothing showing on the the web site this week so I called them on Monday or Tuesday. She told me that the web site data is not updated recently. They have had problems with it for two months. At that point, I could hear her typing on her keyboard and since I am a software professional.. I could tell she was checking the main system, the ones with the green screens, the old reliable ones that feed the data to the web site. After about 30 seconds.. she said "Yes, you are in the system. You are being processed."

The bottom line is the web data is not getting updated . They are having problems with it and someone is working on it but who knows when and if it will be fixed. I would probably try to get through and make sure they have it in the main system but from there all you can do is wait and maybe check the web site every couple of weeks to see if they get it fixed.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-17 15:53:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresService Center
Compare your forms to the examples forms on this site to make sure they are filled out correctly. :thumbs:

Edited by DaleFlorida, 21 September 2011 - 05:15 PM.

NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-21 17:15:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresNo pictures with parents, what to do???
[quote name='Farsider' timestamp='1316502712' post='4910207']
There's always Photoshop. :rolleyes:

Not only is it not a good idea but I am sure the USCIS has photoshop too and if you enlarge the photo large enough, you can see it was Photo Shopped in my opinion.
NoneYaMalePhilippines2011-09-21 10:41:00