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K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
Well, Off-Topic2.gif .... I think you have to have a lot of faith and be as sure as you can that you want to spend the rest of your life with your fiancee. We know that the K1 visa is not a tourist/"let's try this out" visa, yet USCIS gives us 90 days in case.

I suggest spending as much time as you can with your fiancee, do a lot of talking to her, praying (if you believe), and some soul searching if you're unsure about your future together. I think it's normal to be nervous, even if you lived with your fiance in his/her country before applying for the K1.

I lived with my husband in Brazil for months before he came here, and I still worried that he wouldn't like living in the U.S., would miss Brazil, would have too much trouble with the language/culture/etc. I asked him to try it out here for a year since I lived in Brazil for a year, and if he didn't like it then we'd go back to Brazil to live. I never doubted his love for me, nor mine for him, it was always just a matter of where we would live.

We're happily married now and enjoy our life together in the U.S. However, we plan on eventually moving back to Brazil - together.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-07-26 11:13:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
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QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Jul 26 2008, 06:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You have a lot of odds in your favor:

1. Divorce is illegal in PI, so the PI woman is not raised in the mindset of if I am not happy I will get a Divorce.

2. What ever makes you happy will make her happy, this is the beauty of PI wife.

3. You are lucky to have Philippine Fiance, Common Knowledge is they make the best wives.



wow.


WOW

That explains a lot. I don't know if I am more offended as a woman or just as a human in general.



Meh, he's just trying to stir the pot y'all...I wouldn't pay him any attention. This sentiment has spun around VJ before. There isn't one nationality or culture any better than another. biggrin.gif



I was a bit offended too - I'm a female USC and a wonderful wife good.gif
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-07-26 10:59:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresLack ot letters, but 2,000 txts
QUOTE (Buksol @ Jul 31 2008, 03:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hello,

Im not a big letter writter. I have original cellphone bills showing my Fiancees overseas number for 2,272 text messages. (not the contents) Since January - July Would this help the lack of letters? We have exchange cards. She also has an ATM card we use for sending money. Beats the Western Union costs. The Bank statements states the city the withdrawals are made in for the last 9 months ++

I do have the usual pics from meeting in person and paypal receipts for eloads to her cell and copies of some calling cards I have bought online. How many chat logs should I send? I have about 1 years worth archived on Yahoo messanger? The evidence package Im sending her is getting very very large.

Thanks for any comments



No, you don't need letters - I don't think we showed that until the consulate stage. E-mails are texts are just other ways of "writing letters".

As far as your evidence package, I'd suggest sending a little bit of everything (phone bills, proof of texts, e-mails, pictures, etc) than everything you have. That's what we did.

Good luck!
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-02 18:48:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresOverdoing Evidence
QUOTE (joshhodg @ Aug 11 2008, 03:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well thanks for the help, I will try to cut down my evidence to just about 5 pages. I am just not quite sure how I am going to do that. The problem is I didn't know about any of this when i proposed to her so I don't have any of the receipts from the Philippines, not even the plane tickets.




I suggest sending a little bit of everything - that's what we did. We sent 6 pictures, but from over the years, a few e-mails/translations, one phone bill, used phone cards, copies of Brazilian visas/stamps, one itinerary, proof I'd lived/worked in Brazil...etc. I think you need to send enough that you feel confident that you're showing your bona fide relationship, but you have to remember that someone is going to see your application and will not want to look at 200 pages...
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-11 04:52:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresme again
QUOTE (nabiha raddi @ Aug 13 2008, 04:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hi me again pls tell me if time important. i met my husband just one time directly here in morocco (2 week) but we are together in net about 2 years
thanx
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It's ok that you only met in person once...as long as you did during the last two years.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-14 05:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresanyone fly together back to US after K-1 visa granted
I flew back from the interview with my husband, our POE was Miami. We both went into the USC line since I'd read on VJ that we can do that.
The officer asked why my husband was with me since he has a Brazilian passport. I showed the K1 visa and told him that my husband was emigrating to the U.S. The officer was nice and helpful after that, he directed us where to go...
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-20 05:28:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresMarriage Contract
QUOTE (DennisW @ Aug 19 2008, 11:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When I was in the Philippines, my fiancée and I had a commitment ceremony at the church.
We also signed and had witnesses by the pastor & her parents a 4 page marriage contract we created. Spelling out expectations, responsibilities, and procedures for marital dispute resolution in our church. It does say "Not a civil marriage" & "Not in the jurisdiction of family court" in the text but otherwise it reads like a marriage contract like what they might have had before licensing marriages by the state. with full expectations that it be honored.

And we did not have a marriage license from any government to do this. Totally a private contract.

Now my question is - would sending this to immigration be helpful as evidence of our sincerity of marriage ? Or would this upset them and ruin our changes. Should I leave it out or put it in ?


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No, do NOT send that in....
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-20 05:26:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhat am i supposed to write for our supplement?
QUOTE (Mocana87 @ Aug 14 2008, 06:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I started to write about how I met my fiance for our declaration of how we met and I started to become worried that I was writing to much information. I am not sure exactly what they are looking for in this part of the form. I just started by explaining why I was in Romania and how I met him. Then I started getting carried away describing in detail about when we started dating and how many times I came back to visit and how hard it was to leave. I just wanted to know if its a good thing that I am going in such detail or am I including the wrong details? Can someone please give a sort of outline of the main topics I should talk about?

I guess it should be
-How and when we met
-When we started dating?
.......

-When we got engaged?

Help please~ smile.gif !



I suggest sticking to the details and leaving out all of the "lovey dovey" stuff. You should give date/location of meeting (if on-line give the website) and then include dates that you were together....
You can also write when you started dating...
USCIS wants to know a synopsis, not a story.

Good luck!
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-14 05:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresPhotos included in 129F
QUOTE (Mocana87 @ Aug 28 2008, 09:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When including photo's of me and my fiance together is it necessary that they be actual photo's on photographic paper? Could it just be print out digital pictures on regular paper? I read the guide on the website but I dont understand why they would reject pictures that are not photos. Also what information should I write on the pictures of us?



I think it's better to print them on photographic paper. Remember, you don't need to send too many....a bit of everything seems to be the best.
You should write the names of the people in the pics (some couples send pictures of themselves with friends/family), the location, and dates.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-28 20:20:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresWhen filling out the g-325a for the petitioner...
QUOTE (Mocana87 @ Aug 29 2008, 09:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I was filling out my G325a form (petitioner) and I didnt want to leave the employment space empty so I was wondering if it is a good idea to write that I am a full time student at Rutgers? I know now because of all the awesome VJ users that my fiance's employment status is irrelevant but what about mine? unsure.gif



If you have never been employed, put NO EMPLOYMENT HISTORY. You do not need to show your income at this rate, so don't even worry about it. Although we know that being a full time student is a lot of work, it's not a JOB, so you don't need to write that.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-30 08:55:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedureshelp fathers name!!!
If you don't know his name then put UNKNOWN. That is what my husband did and there was no problem. For the information about mother's residence you should put DECEASED. Again, that is what we did at the consulate stage since she passed while we were in the process.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-30 08:53:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresG 325A Question
QUOTE (Dawes @ Sep 1 2008, 12:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On the G325A it asks about parents ,,, What do we do if my Fiancee has not seen her mother in years and does not even know where she is ?????
She has all the other info about her , but mother just packed up and left family , so she has no idea where she is now ..



We put UNKNOWN for my husband's father since he didn't know where he was (or his name)...
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-01 12:58:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresI-129F I think Im ready to send it out, Last minute question!
QUOTE (Mocana87 @ Sep 1 2008, 12:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How exactly should I put all of this information together? I have a type of folder with many pockets that I can use to space things out, and paper clips to hold papers together. Can anyone tell me how they sent there's out? any advice?



I used ACCO fasteners and organized my documents (with two cover letters).
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-01 12:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresBirthday/Thank You Cards as proof/ongoing relationship
QUOTE (Weralynn @ Sep 2 2008, 04:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (classicrock68 @ Sep 2 2008, 12:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Folks:

My fiancee gave me some nice greeting cards (one that says thanks for turning my life around, for instance) that I brought back with me to the US. Should I include those in the K1 petition along with emails/phone logs etc. I don't want to lose the cards. Has anybody included cards as part of the K1 packet (I imagine they would be very useful at the consulate interview). Any input/thoughts will be greatly appreciated. thx



I photocopied postcards and letters and also envelopes that had both our adresses as sender/recipient on them and where the stamped postage was visible. On the photocopies I highlighted the date that was stamped on the envelopes to show the timeframe and since I was approved in August I guess that worked for them.



Ditto. I sent a copy (and translation) of a birthday card I had sent to my husband and we sent copies of envelopes and brought cards/letters to the interview at the consulate.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-02 05:45:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDocumentary Proof of Having Met in Person in the Past Two Years and an Ongoing Relationship
QUOTE (chuja @ Sep 2 2008, 06:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi everyone!

I would like to ask you about "Documentary Proof of Having Met in Person in the Past Two Years and an Ongoing Relationship"
I do have so many pictures of me and my fiance and now I don't know how many pictures do I need to send them..
Could you give me some ideas?

Thank you.


This is what we sent for proof of having met in person during the past 2 years:

Copy of Brazilian visas from passport
Copy of stamped entries into Brazil
Copy of teaching certificate from Brazil
Copy of both sides of Brazilian residency card with translation
Copy of Flight Coupons and the itinerary from last trip
Receipt from hotel and business card with translation
Pictures (6) from 2004 to 2006

This is more important that the proof of ongoing relationship because you'll take that to the interview at the consulate. However, we did send some just in case....phone bills, used calling cards, 5 e-mails, a letter of affidavit from a friend, envelopes from letters we'd sent to each other....
I think it's better to send a bit of everything (i.e. only 6 pictures and 5 e-mails).
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-02 05:43:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresAll Originals to My Fiance??
QUOTE (Karin und Otto @ Sep 4 2008, 11:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Sep 2 2008, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
btw...the I-134 needs to be notorized which leaves a raised seal and has an original sig. I've never heard of a copy being 'ok' and I definitely wouldn't suggest it.

Just an FYI to others (so they don't panic) - quite often many notary stamps of today are done with a rubber stamp which does not leave a raised surface.



True true. My stamps were not raised.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-05 06:13:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedureshow long do we have?
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QUOTE (Hannah+Vito @ Aug 29 2008, 10:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
congradulations good.gif good.gif

i heard it was activate/use visa within 6 months of issue and marry within 90days of using it.

please dont forget timeline.gif



thanks for that, but does that mean I can wait in Australia for 6 months and then head to the USA and have 90 days to marry OR does that mean 90 days in Australia (to get ready/pack/finish work etc...) and then 90 days in the USA to marry?

Cheers!


k1 fiancee visa is good for 6 months so you can stay in australia (toget ready/pack/finish work etc) then when you decide to come to US keep in mind that K1 is ONE entry visa..once you're here you need to be married within 90 days..and then later on proceed to AOS application with that you will apply for AP travel document so you can go back to australia once you had the approved travel document..good luck,,congrats. good.gif

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Thanks so much for that. its not that i dont want to be back in the USA...lucky me has my US fiance out here with my waiting for the Visa t be approved fully so we can go back to the USA together. ALSO...if we had t go back 3 months after it was approved it would be too cold to be wearing my beautiful wedding dress 8grins*

|Cheers!
SO happy!

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Just make sure you're here within those 6 months and that you get married no later than 90 days after you arrive.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-08-30 08:56:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresProof of relationship in electronic format?
I also thought about CDs but who wants to deal with that?
We sent/took to the interview pictures - but like someone said, just a few.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-14 14:35:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresK-1 and how much you can expect it to cost
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QUOTE (KimandRuss @ Sep 13 2008, 11:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
$455 for petition
$200-500 approx for medical costs
$131 visa fee
$1010 adjustment/AP/EAD

Plus mailing, copying, printing, communication costs, travelling....etc...etc....

you could save yourself a fortune by getting rid of your lawyer. wink.gif


Not everybody wants to do it themselves.

Not everyone should.

A consult with a competent immigration attorney is the very LEAST a person should have before they begin this journey.

Advising readers to NOT seek legal representation is careless advice.

Yeah Kim. How dare you offer advice. What's wrong with you?


She's perfectly capable of offering advice and quite good at it.

But there's a disclaimer on the face of this board advising readers to never use this community as a substitute for competent legal counsel.

It's. That. Simple.

PS - I'm not sure if it's that giant chip on your shoulder or your entitlement attitude that affects your ability to read. When you figure out whichever one it is, come back and try to pick a fight with me.

You say she is quite good at it, while in the same breath you call her careless. Make up your mind.


I said 'advising readers not to seek legal representation is careless advice'. Read the words just as I wrote them and try not to interpret something other than what was said.



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Don't forget the cost of flights and any other travel costs.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-14 14:34:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresDenial of K-1 visa revisited
QUOTE (djacob7 @ Sep 14 2008, 05:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A few days ago I posted a plea for help on this forum for our K-1 visa denial.
The letter of denial to my fiance said:"Your relationship with the petitioner does not satisfy the legal requirements for immigration benefits."
An additional remark said:"The impending marriage between the Petitioner and the Beneficiary is for immigration purposes only."
A third statement said:"Your visa petition is being returned to the USCIS through the National Visa Center for proper disposition. Further inquiries should be directed to the USCIS office that processed your petition."
An additional notice to my fiance said:"Please come to the Embassy for a personal explanation of your ineligibility for the visa classification on OCT-2 2008 at 1:30 p.m. Present this letter at the Immigrant Visa Ticket Booth."

I (the petitioner) have 33 days from the issuance of the letter of denial (Aug 29 2008) to appeal the denial.
I have no idea how to go about that.
There is nothing in the letter suggesting how and where to appeal.
Any help would be appreciated.



Ooooh, they think you're doing this for a green card, not for love. You better prove this is love.
bora boraFemaleBrazil2008-09-14 14:32:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCuriousity more than anything....
QUOTE (Len_and_Bren @ Aug 19 2008, 04:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think so either. Also, does his student visa have a residency requirement? I've read here that folks with a student visa have to live in their countries for 2 years before coming back. Have you checked that out?



That requirement usually comes with some J-1 visas, not with F-1 visas. Student visas are usually F-1. If he has a J-1 and it does have that requirement, it would state so on his visa and his DS-2019. If he has an F-1 visa and an I-20, he should be ok.

Edited by KIMCORENE, 19 August 2008 - 04:27 PM.

KIMCORENEFemaleJamaica2008-08-19 16:27:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresCan Marry while waiting for K1 Visa
Wait until she gets to the US then marry. Better to be safe than sorry. All the best to you both.
warriorprincessFemale02008-09-13 22:57:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Proceduresknowing your fiance!!!
QUOTE (puppies @ Jul 27 2008, 06:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Does it make a difference how long you have known your fiance?????


I would say yes, not for the sake of USCIS but for your own sake. Do you really know this person? Do they really love YOU? or do they just want to be in the U.S. Think about it before you file. I am for sure.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-28 19:37:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
QUOTE (Damian P @ Aug 1 2008, 08:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The bit about me firmly believing that there are beneficiaries on here that are only after one thing (and it's not true love) is 100% true - make no mistake about that.



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baxxyMalePhilippines2008-08-02 04:52:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
QUOTE (Scarlett @ Aug 1 2008, 06:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Gemmie @ Aug 1 2008, 10:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm so pleased to hear that, I experience the same thing!

When I visit Bill, one day I can be excited about moving over and we'll be discussing our future. And the next day I'll be pointing out all the things I dislike about his country and a million other things will come up like how I'm not going to be with my friends because of this stupid process and I hate that we're going to be living in a suburb... and we'll end up arguing!

Of course I don't actually *dislike* the US really, it's just that I'll go through a day where I'm not feeling positive about changing my whole life for somewhere "unsure", and the more Bill tries to defend his country, the more it annoys me at the time. Once we've had a little fight and made-up, it's usually back to normal and I'll see the positives again.


Oh yes... We are not alone... And we are not insane... Although I fairly often think that I am. wacko.gif

I think we should all talk to our USCs about this, as it is important that they don't take it personally. Let's tell them we need empathy and understanding, not 'rationally talking out of it' wink.gif

I love this thread. Thanks Baxxy.



Scarlett, I'm glad you got something out it. I know that there has to be a lot of people on here who fear the same thing but are either too scared to voice it or have their heads stuck in the sand. I say whats on my mind, and I'm glad I posted this, I got some great feedback, a lot of tips, and have since felt better about the whole situation.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-08-01 09:00:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
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QUOTE (melusine @ Jul 31 2008, 07:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Also (and i don't want to be blasted about it) i think that to find someone in the same age range you have mean just more success than a 20 yo from the philippines with a 60 yo from US.... that would be dumb to think a GC or $ have nothing to do with it.


Melusine, I have been DYING to say this ever since I joined this site, but refrained from doing so to avoid incoming abuse. Fair play to you for saying it - you've made me feel a whole lot better. I've looked at photos of some of the couples on here, and quite frankly, I'm embarressed for the guys. I mean, do they really think these pretty young things are in love with them, and they're not going to disappear just as soon as the GC is in hand?

As a wise man once said: no fool like an old fool.


While I understand what you're thinking, don't you feel it's a little....well....mean to even mention something like that? Maybe it's just me but even when I think something like that, I won't voice it in a public forum where said people come. To me, this forum is essentially for the purpose of making people happy and helping them to be together with someone they love. Who are we to pass judgment on the validity of their relationship just because of an age difference. What about people who (in one person's opinon) is less than beautiful and is marrying a stunning partner. Should we assume the love's not there and they're only in it for the green card? Be happy for the people on the board. We need to support each other and help each other out. Going around saying things like that isn't going to do anything but hurt feelings sad.gif


Sorry Michelle, but I call it as I see it. It's not that I don't want the relationships in question to work out, it's just that I very much doubt they will, and I don't like to see decent people being taken advantage of, that's all.


But you know nothing about their relationship outside of a picture you see that makes you immediately think "Nope, won't work. He/she is using them for the greencard." And again, that's not what this forum is about. People come here for help and support, not to be told they're being used or that it will never work. It's perfectly fine to have an opinion about another person's relationship but it's another thing to state it so blatantly.


Just the way I am I'm afraid - if I think it, I say it.


I agree with you 100%. Unfortunately some people don't like to hear opinions that are different to theirs, but oh well! whistling.gif No offense Michelle, but there is a lot of people on this site whose relationships are bogus.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-08-01 08:54:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
QUOTE (Damian P @ Aug 1 2008, 07:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (melusine @ Jul 31 2008, 07:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Also (and i don't want to be blasted about it) i think that to find someone in the same age range you have mean just more success than a 20 yo from the philippines with a 60 yo from US.... that would be dumb to think a GC or $ have nothing to do with it.


Melusine, I have been DYING to say this ever since I joined this site, but refrained from doing so to avoid incoming abuse. Fair play to you for saying it - you've made me feel a whole lot better. I've looked at photos of some of the couples on here, and quite frankly, I'm embarressed for the guys. I mean, do they really think these pretty young things are in love with them, and they're not going to disappear just as soon as the GC is in hand?

As a wise man once said: no fool like an old fool.



I'm with you Damian P.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-08-01 08:49:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
QUOTE (melusine @ Jul 31 2008, 08:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Alright... for my 2 cents....

About tallcoolone comment, my first reaction (because i already read that many many times and was shocked before tongue.gif)... this time my first reaction was more.... AHH!! you think that ! Well good luck !

But anyway, about your concern Baxxy, it's very understandable and at the first place wanting her as an equal (and not as a maid, cook etc) is a good start.
Like many said before me.. you guyz need to spend time together !!!! waayy less costly now than if it ends up in divorce, affidavit of support for 10 years etc.
Something i did with my sweet was that we both bought a book about 1001 questions to ask before getting married (pink book) and it brought up subject you don't necessarily think and might light up a couple of cultural difference... and let her answer first so she will say what she feels and will not try to adapt to your answer.
In our couple, having talked in advance to what might happen, make things waaayyy easier when things do happen.


Also (and i don't want to be blasted about it) i think that to find someone in the same age range you have mean just more success than a 20 yo from the philippines with a 60 yo from US.... that would be dumb to think a GC or $ have nothing to do with it.



I will certainly check that book out, thanks for the tip melusine. Good pointer also about asking her the questions first, she usually is the one to ask me most of the time anyway. Also, your comment about the age thing, I agree 100%, (I mean seriously I've seen couples on here where the USC is old enough to be their grandfather, wow.gif ) oh and don't worry about getting blasted, it's your opinion and you're entitled to it, the thing about people on here who "blast" are either 1) people who post something and ask what you think, then when you say what you think and they don't like your answer you get blasted or 2) you hit close to home, it's a fear that they have inside and you voice it, thats a big no no lol... then they get mad and start ranting at you ranting33va.gif . I also am planning another trip over there soon.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-31 19:42:00
K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & ProceduresFear of it not working out
QUOTE (ronjie @ Jul 31 2008, 08:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (baxxy @ Jul 25 2008, 01:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (Dias Melhores @ Jul 25 2008, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Forget the stats and the odds.. There is no 100% guarantee for a happy marriage based on stats.


Another reason I'd like to see some stats is because there are SO many filipina women that have been married before and have difficulty getting out of the previous marriage(s), (as witnessed on here) based on that fact alone the success rate doesnt seem to be too high, im a little concerned that a lot of these women (mine included) just want a green card. From what I can see, she loves me very much, but i cant help but have a little doubt. I'm very sceptical when it comes to this, I have one failed marriage already (not a foreigner) I certainly dont want another one.

insecurity and doubt will cunsume you worse than cancer. devil.gif


on NO you didn't LOLOLOLOL...eb0dfafc.gif
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-31 19:14:00
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QUOTE (nata1 @ Jul 29 2008, 08:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you can not trust someone from overseas / other country. Please, stop looking a gril friend or wife from other country. Just married a women from USA who does not need an immigrant visa. That's my 2 cents.


If only life were perfect !!!
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-29 10:18:00
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QUOTE (Scott and Iryna @ Jul 28 2008, 04:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (baxxy @ Jul 28 2008, 02:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I dont think you would be saying that if it came time for a divorce and you have to dish out more money, not to mention what you could lose. So not only would you be losing your "love" but a lot of other stuff that you love too. mad.gif

That's why it is a very smart idea to have a fair prenuptial agreement drawn up.


Excellent advice. I have no intentions of splitting my material belongings, that I obtained by myself, with anyone should things not go as planned.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-28 15:33:00
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QUOTE (Jomo @ Jul 28 2008, 02:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.


Nice n mushy, however to me thats a load of *bleep*. I dont think you would be saying that if it came time for a divorce and you have to dish out more money, not to mention what you could lose. So not only would you be losing your "love" but a lot of other stuff that you love too. mad.gif
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-28 13:34:00
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QUOTE (tallcoolone @ Jul 26 2008, 06:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You have a lot of odds in your favor:

1. Divorce is illegal in PI, so the PI woman is not raised in the mindset of if I am not happy I will get a Divorce.

2. What ever makes you happy will make her happy, this is the beauty of PI wife.

3. You are lucky to have Philippine Fiance, Common Knowledge is they make the best wives.



Are you serious? come on, thats the dumbest thing I ever heard. If they have the mindset above as you say, how come so many of them are on here trying to get annulled/divorced? And as far as "they make the best wives", thats insulting to women everywhere, you have got to be kidding me with that one. I dont want my partner to be submissive to me, I want her to be my equal in every way, what you're implying above is that they are obedient, and submissive. Thats not what I'm looking for.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-28 11:24:00
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QUOTE (Sinergy @ Jul 28 2008, 10:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (MichelleN @ Jul 26 2008, 12:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I actually understand what you're feeling. I just sent off the I-129 today and even now I still worry. I'm not worrying because I don't know if I really love him, I worry about the future because that's the kind of person I am. I worry about what can go wrong much more than I dream about what will go right. On a daily basis I go through feeling elated at the idea of spending my life with him and then later, scared to death at the thought of it. I think a little apprehension about making such a huge life choice isn't unusual. But you need to be careful about how you handle those fears and what choice you make. For me, I'm trying to push away the worries and focus on the fact that soon he'll be out here and we'll be a family together smile.gif

Your worried you dont actually know if you love him??? and your spending the money and immigrations time on your application?? blink.gif


I believe shes saying that shes NOT worried that she doesnt love him, shes just worried about the future. Its understandable.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-28 11:16:00
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QUOTE (Dias Melhores @ Jul 25 2008, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Forget the stats and the odds.. There is no 100% guarantee for a happy marriage based on stats.


Another reason I'd like to see some stats is because there are SO many filipina women that have been married before and have difficulty getting out of the previous marriage(s), (as witnessed on here) based on that fact alone the success rate doesnt seem to be too high, im a little concerned that a lot of these women (mine included) just want a green card. From what I can see, she loves me very much, but i cant help but have a little doubt. I'm very sceptical when it comes to this, I have one failed marriage already (not a foreigner) I certainly dont want another one.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-25 12:08:00
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QUOTE (Dias Melhores @ Jul 25 2008, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Forget the stats and the odds.. There is no 100% guarantee for a happy marriage based on stats. If there was a 100% guarantee then someone would market it, package it, and become a billionaire selling it.


Just wanted to see out of curiousity, of course I know theres no guarantees, but id like very much to see the numbers anyway.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-25 11:56:00
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QUOTE (Damian P @ Jul 25 2008, 08:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Easy - I went over there for 2 years on a student visa. She only kicked me out once, too - that's when I knew we were meant for each other. laughing.gif


Nice that you could do that, however, not everyone is in the position to do that including me.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-25 11:52:00
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QUOTE (Scarlett @ Jul 25 2008, 09:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, this is a good thread. Well done for being so honest.

You know, I would love to see some stats on how well immigration marriages last compared to the 'norm'. I would like to think that we work so hard at being together in the first place, that working at having a happy marriage will be second nature.

And bear in mind, that in the old days no one lived together before marriage, and it seemed to work just fine, perhaps better?



I also would love to see some stats, anyone have any idea where we could get this information? I liked what you had to say Scarlett, however your comment about the old days, well, i dont entirely agree with that, people back then stayed in miserable marriages because they felt it was the right thing to do and put on a happy face for the rest of the world.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-25 11:08:00
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QUOTE (brnidokiegurl @ Jul 24 2008, 04:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
make as many trips back as you can, and take the time to know



I hear you, but again, when you see each other for very short periods of time, your always on your best behaviour, i dont think its an indicator of what real life is going to be like.
baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-24 15:56:00
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I cant help but have this fear about things not working out when my fiancee arrives here, eventually. I mean shes coming here alone, she has no family or friends here, I am it for her. Now the thing is, what if things just dont work out for us here? Ive been to visit her a few times already and the most we spent together straight was 2 weeks. We had great times but that was just a vacation. You never really know anybody unless you live with them, it doesnt matter how much phone/IM communication you have. So what if things dont go like we thought? Does anyone here ever think about this? Does anyone know of this happening to anyone?

Edited by baxxy, 24 July 2008 - 03:30 PM.

baxxyMalePhilippines2008-07-24 15:29:00