biggish data

support

I didn't think you could use child support as income.

chispas

Female

2008-01-17 10:52:00

Sending money out of Nigeria

Interesting economics. They can receive money of all sorts, just can't send it out. Wow. I would look for Citibank or another International bank. I have had money sent as a wire transfer through Citibank from Cameroon before.

chispas

Female

2008-01-19 14:51:00

What has happened in this Forum?

Well,
I am awaiting my book and I still intend to read it when it arrives in my hot little hands. As for the thread, I believe sticking to the topic is always the healthiest thing to do for all who are concerned or are truly interested in being part of the Sub-Sah forum. Let this be a reminder that even though this is a public forum, there are rules (Terms of Service) that we all have to abide by.

chispas

Female

2008-01-19 14:48:00

Changing your last name

I already had that double Hispanic name before, so I replaced my husband's name in place of my mother's name. It is still long, but I have dual nationality and didn't want the hassle of going through that process in another country also.

chispas

Female

2008-01-23 23:21:00

Did it Make a Difference?

Sorry to hear you won't be able to make it to the interview and I understand the let-down. On one hand, you aren't allowed into the interview session with your SO. On the other hand being there (country, embassy etc.) definitely shows solidarity. I doubt that you not being there will be cause for the embassy to reject your application. All of us who have gone through the process have held our breath during that dreaded interview and prayed for a positive outcome. You'll have success too.

chispas

Female

2008-01-23 22:24:00

Update

QUOTE (LadyLove2006 @ Jan 24 2008, 05:00 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hi All:

Just wanted to update you all like I said that I would. So many good things have happened since my last post. I give God all the Praise and Glory for the things that He has done for us.

As you all know in my last post, my husband received his EAD card in December. Not too long after that he applied for his Social Security Card and received it the second week of January and applied for his Driver's License and received it the same week. After receiving all of this, he began looking for work and he was called this week and he started work on yesterday. God is truly Awesome!!!

All of the above is really good and the most wonderful news is that our baby daughter was born on January 13, 2008. This is truly Awesome and she is beautiful and she is already spoiled by her daddy.

I thank all of you for your support and encouragement throughout this journey. We still have a few more miles to go. If I don't come around as much, please don't take it to heart. I really do appreciate you all and this site. I thank you and my husband thanks you as well.

Be Blessed!

LadyLove2006

I pray all continues to go well for you. It makes a huge difference when things go smoothly in the beginning.

chispas

Female

2008-01-24 11:00:00

Very Serious Question

Efia,,, I could just hug you girl. Don't even sweat this one.

My husband actually lived in several different countries and did not have any of the visa stamps to show it. He did have a diplomatic at one time and when his father died, that passport was yanked back. However, he did provide police reports from those countries and it was not a problem. He did say that during the interview he was asked about each country and was also asked general facts about being in those countries.

chispas

Female

2008-01-27 23:04:00

Brotha In Distress

Hola Ladies,
I am posting a link here by a brotha who is going through some stuff. Most often it is us ladies opening up about our issues, but this time the guy is going through stuff. Hugs all the way if you can.

http://www.visajourn...h...d=1534399

chispas

Female

2008-01-29 13:49:00

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 29 2008, 01:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Jan 29 2008, 11:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (rupa @ Jan 29 2008, 07:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

o.k. I've been lurking in the shadows reading your posts, and all I can say is man, I love you gals. I'm just getting started in the process and am scared and unsure of what lies ahead. All I know is that I love my man and it hurts like heck to be in this situation. It helped me a lot to hear your hearts, you sound like strong women. God bless.

Welcome to the journey Sister. Stop by anytime.

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 29 2008, 07:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Jan 28 2008, 10:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 28 2008, 01:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm a bit emotional today. I want to get my interview date. After the weekends maybe I feel a little sad. My schedule is less hectic then, so I have too much time to think. I'm going into my third week of waiting and I'm not happy about it. I wish they would schedule an interview date for me, so at least I have something to look forward to and I could get airline tickets and start some more planning. I must say, I've never hated anything quite as much as I hate this.

Ok Zaina.. Your turn for the back home pep talk. Wah u want guial? Ah?? Wah u vex fa? Noting rang wi yu. (kissing the teeth sound here) Wah u guain on wit?

Feel better now? Ok den... How about a dollar wine?

((((( hugs)))))

Okay you made me laugh. That's true back home sympathy for you! I swear you sound like one of my cousins.

Thanks girl!

Thanks guys!

This is a process we should surely be medicated through and wake up when it's all over.

Cent.. Five cent... Ten cent... Dolla Wine...

Dolla Dolla Dolla Dolla

Burning Flame was the last carnival I stomped through......the good ole days [sigh]

Eastern Parkway in Brooklyn for Labor Day dancing to Tiney Winey and Sugar Boom-Boom! Then run from the people shooting each other. I remember I lost one of my extensions while running from bullets. I actually tried to go back to pick it up! That was crazy

Edited by chispas, 30 January 2008 - 12:02 AM.

chispas

Female

2008-01-29 23:59:00

QUOTE (rupa @ Jan 29 2008, 07:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Welcome to the journey Sister. Stop by anytime.

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 29 2008, 07:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Jan 28 2008, 10:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 28 2008, 01:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ok Zaina.. Your turn for the back home pep talk. Wah u want guial? Ah?? Wah u vex fa? Noting rang wi yu. (kissing the teeth sound here) Wah u guain on wit?

Feel better now? Ok den... How about a dollar wine?

((((( hugs)))))

Cent.. Five cent... Ten cent... Dolla Wine...

chispas

Female

2008-01-29 11:01:00

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 28 2008, 01:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ok Zaina.. Your turn for the back home pep talk. Wah u want guial? Ah?? Wah u vex fa? Noting rang wi yu. (kissing the teeth sound here) Wah u guain on wit?

Feel better now? Ok den... How about a dollar wine?

((((( hugs)))))

Edited by chispas, 28 January 2008 - 10:22 PM.

chispas

Female

2008-01-28 22:19:00

QUOTE (ose_n_me @ Jan 19 2008, 07:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Sylvia_n_Joseph @ Jan 19 2008, 07:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I think we should schedule some sort of meeting A yearly event for those of us from VJ. It would be nice to see everyone and trade secrets of getting though things. We can even hold an African fashion show. I do think mutual help groups would be great.

I was thinking the same thing! Like a reunion! I am in Cali too! (northern) Where is everyone else from?

Northern Caly here

chispas

Female

2008-01-20 03:21:00

QUOTE (taurean @ Jan 18 2008, 02:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I started typing a reply earlier today but ended up deleting it. However....JOMO said nearly exactly what I would have. The petition, then visa interview part and being separated IS difficult, and I feel your pain with that. It's sometimes very isolating to be in a situation where you are dealing with life apart from your SO. Isolating because as much as they love and care for you most of your friends and family just don't understand. So whatever feelings you have are pretty normal...the elation....and then the deflation. All I can say is that you are one step ahead of the game in recognizing all the feelings that come about during this process. No one can truly prepare you for the highs and lows, but if it is meant to be....you will get through it!!!

Can I hear an AMEN

chispas

Female

2008-01-18 19:57:00

JOMO, I knew I could count on you to say what I couldn't get out verbally. All true what she says

chispas

Female

2008-01-18 12:28:00

All of your concerns are valid. After going through the process and anticipating his arrival, I freaked out right at the end because now the reality of the situation all came to a head. More in PM

Just had to edit as I noticed you are two hours away from. I was up in your area last Sunday. OK now I am off topic

Edited by chispas, 18 January 2008 - 11:05 AM.

chispas

Female

2008-01-18 11:03:00

Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp

I had the issue like We_Destiny with my husband giving away things. When he arrived in the US he came with his bare hands and nothing else. He said he gave away the things I had bought him because he knew he could get more here. That was a shock to me, but now I realize that although I told him how tough things were in the US, I was not showing it by the number of gifts and items I had bought for him. I was the one who wanted to buy him nice things and I set the bar too high for me to keep up with. Coming here I put his name on all my financial matters prematurely and he made quite a few financial mistakes before I could catch my breath. I am literally paying the price for that now.
We learn and live.

Edited by chispas, 21 January 2008 - 12:54 AM.

chispas

Female

2008-01-21 00:49:00

Husband and family think I am RICH! Hellllpppp

QUOTE (Leedah @ Jan 19 2008, 02:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Anyway, his "buddies" are filling his head with insane idea's that I must have married him to get "some". Many women actually come their to get a man to have relations with. I told him that I wasn't rich at all and and doing my level best to even get him here. (barely making ends meet for myself).

Hmmm
I truly felt a pain in my heart when I read your post earlier today and really had to think about which item stood out in my mind.
I won't restate what everyone else has already said about the money and the pressure to send money because I feel all was well said. However, women going there for a**.

I wanted to vomit the first time I heard a group of men sitting around a bar talking about women coming from overseas to pick up their guys for sex. I wanted to kick scream and slap the others into reality until I actually saw it happening in my hotel. There were European men picking up women and European women picking up local men. Some of the same men who were on my flight from Paris would be out every night with a different girl and sometimes more than one at a time. My husband's family told me that this happens all the time in Africa and it is nothing new and it has happened for years. I believe your husband is being fed this #######, but if he really loves you and sees you as his wife, he should not even entertain that thought or even mention it to you for any reason at all.
Here is a link to a story by MSNBC about this very subject. This is very sad.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21976983/

chispas

Female

2008-01-20 03:09:00

Another question Wedding attire choice

QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jan 27 2008, 04:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I wore a champaign colored gown with a bolero jacket. I thought it was a beautiful gown and so did everyone else. And yes, I can wear mine for multiple occassions. They have very reasonable prices and a variety to choose from.
Good luck

www.plussizebridal.com.

I did the exact same thing. Actually mine does have an embroidered bolero jacket too. I wonder if it is the same outfit?

chispas

Female

2008-01-27 23:17:00

Interesting Video Report - Ghana

This a darn good documentary. Thanks for posting it.

chispas

Female

2008-01-23 22:40:00

Interview date

chispas

Female

2008-01-29 13:51:00

Need form help

QUOTE (Ricca711 @ Jan 30 2008, 02:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hey everyone,

I have a question and I thought this post would be a good time to interject. Samuel has both packets 3&4. Now, I have been looking at them and everyone else seems to be helping their SO's with the forms. Samuel has not asked for any help. Of course I certainly do not want to question his intelligence. However, should I approach my honey about helping? He is so independent and I am sure he can handle it. I guess in a way I would love to help, because it would keep me busy and from going crazy while we wait for the interview.

Thanks

Erika

P.S. Zee are you packed!

That is good! I did everything and in the end he really didn't understand how much work had gone into the process. This way he knows a portion of the stress and it balances out

chispas

Female

2008-01-30 18:01:00

Need form help

QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jan 30 2008, 02:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hi guys, sorry to make a whole topic for this question but Im not that savvy about forum protocol and where to go to post this but since you guys are my peeps I figured I would ask u

On form ds-157 we are to list last employers for 10 years but when using accrobat it prevents you from putting full address. I already disabled java so i do have a little bit more control but I could only fit douala CM for cameroon or should I just put cameroon? Im a lil OCD so having to mark it and put in a second sheet is sloppy to me

but I will if I have to. Do you think the embassy would accept the douala CM? if not how do I "mark it" to add the second sheet. Thanks for all your help.

Does Acrobat shrink the size of the font when you type in too much? Mine does that and I don't know if it is a standard thing with this fill-in forms. For employment areas, I too just put in Douala or Yaounde as many of the individual addresses weren't complete at all. I was quite ####### and even used the proper French punctuation. There was no space for that " yellow building next to the mango tree on the hill" type answer.

Edited by chispas, 30 January 2008 - 05:58 PM.

chispas

Female

2008-01-30 17:57:00

African Nation's Cup

[quote name='ZeeNusah' date='Feb 3 2008, 10:59 AM' post='1550678']
Ghana 2, Nigeria 1....despite the fact that we were playing 10 men for 30 minutes in the second half!!!!!

GO GHANA!!!!!!
[/quote

You're too much Zee

chispas

Female

2008-02-03 14:11:00

African Nation's Cup

LOL, I also hook up the computer to the TV and watch it. I remember calling in sick because I wanted to stay home to watch the match.

chispas

Female

2008-01-16 22:21:00

GHANA VISA

QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jan 31 2008, 10:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Bassi and Zainab @ Jan 31 2008, 06:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Girl, you know they are not going to deny you a visa to go to Ghana. Would you stop stressing yourself out!

Zainab I try not to stress out but I cant help it. Everything is coming down to this day. I cant leave without him I havent seen him in over a year! I just have a lot on my shoulders even more than just this immigration stuff and I need some help and things would be much smoother with my partner shouldering some of it here with me. Im just tired of being the one in the family that everyone counts on and goes to, you know? Im ok with it because im the only one in my family who is sane but it can get overwhelming for me and I feel at my breaking point right now. I just try to leave it in God's hands but then I turn around and snatch it back up out of his palms. Thanks for your answers and help here. I thank God I found this forum.

Look at it this way Efia. There is no way in

that a weak person could ever go through this process. That being said, you'll do just fine. Let other stuff just roll off of your back.

chispas

Female

2008-02-01 11:41:00

$$$$

I used to keep track of the bills and I could have bought myself a nice computer car with the amount of money I spent calling Africa. Like everyone else, I didn't realize the process would take so long and towards the end of the wait I started scheduling time to call in order to budget. Don't fret, it doesn't stop when your SO arrives because he'll have tons of people calling him once he gets here. (snicker-snicker) I think We_Destiny has one of the best answers to that. Having the two cell numbers is a great idea in that case. Even a Go phone is good for those incoming beeps.

chispas

Female

2008-01-31 10:57:00

Interview date!!!!!

Things are speeding up here. congrats

chispas

Female

2008-02-07 12:48:00

Could this be the end our our Journey???

QUOTE (moon1968 @ Feb 4 2008, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hi Everybody!!!!
Or will this be the end??? Im going crazy........

Not the end baby girl.

Just another path in the journey and that you and your husband will take together.

Just make sure that you don't forget us when he arrives cuz your sistas and brothas here will be wondering how you're doing.

chispas

Female

2008-02-05 00:39:00

Goodbye

QUOTE (idocare @ Nov 29 2007, 11:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Heather sorry to say that this sounds all to familiar. IF YOUR HUSBAND IS TRYING TO GET AWAY FROM U . you can expect lots of disarray in your near future, with the results ending in him moving out. So sorry to say that many people that have been members in the past of this same forum, fell in love over the internet in such a short time then ran to Nigeria to meet their " true love "

Once bringing these men here and app;ying for their adjustment of statis or they receive their green card things seems to change , now th little arguments/ misunderstandings become blown up and the person that you brought here is no longer the same person. They become confrontative, secretivr, and manipulative towards u, u probably feel as tho he thinks your the enemy.

Trust me many that went thru the journey with me back in 2004 r no longer with their Nigerian husbands. NOT ALL but for many americans both women and men, it just a plot for us Americans to assist them in getting out of Nigeria; a total scam. Unfortunately for us Americans we don't find out that we've been scammed until it's too late, they r here have their green card and now ready to get out of this marriage and go their way.

You think that this Nigerian threats u like the enemy sometimes is because in their mind u r the enemy, they no that they have love or someone back home that they want to be with, and they r patient enough to do what's required to get to America, and if it means marrying u then so be it, they aren't afraid of marriage, and they know it's something that only temporary, and that they don't have to stay married once here in America.

Us Americans r too trusting and some Nigerians are too manipultive so u won't see it coming until they r ready to move on and end the marriage, But in the mean time you will have a great visit in Nigeria everyone will treat u with respect and you will be the only person that don't know he's just marrying u for visa benifits, heck his girlfriend/wife in Nigeria may be sitting in the room with you all being introduced as his cousin or someone.

I know cause it's happened to me and many friends that I met here on this site. So I just want too caution u all that if it seems to good to be tru and u found true love on the net from ANY other country it just may not be true, or it wait , it will be true for a period of time, cause they need u to sign for their papers. or to get them a visa to come into America.

IDO**** You PM Box is full

chispas

Female

2007-11-29 16:46:00

Goodbye

Even though I only cruise by and have not posted, I have followed your journey. Good luck and take care of yourself. Remember, you don't have to always post something. Eventually one of the family members from will post something that you can relate to.
Ciao

chispas

Female

2007-11-26 14:30:00

QUOTE (idocare @ Feb 13 2008, 11:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (JJWashington @ Feb 14 2008, 01:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Happy BELATED Birthday!

Wishing you many many more birthdates.

You know I be old right?

chispas

Female

2008-02-14 23:20:00

QUOTE (panamania79 @ Feb 12 2008, 07:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (Boaz @ Feb 12 2008, 01:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I count it a joy to know you. So today (like many others), I pray that you enjoy yourself to the max!

Happy Birthday Chispas

Feliz Cumpleanos !

Gracias Pana

chispas

Female

2008-02-12 22:11:00

Thanks Todos.
My last class of the day and I just had a pizza party. Woo-hooo!

chispas

Female

2008-02-12 17:11:00

You caught me off guard girl. I thought I would be able to fly under the radar today but you got me.

Thank you all my VJ family, this really means a lot to me today. Gracias, Merci
Chispas

Edited by chispas, 12 February 2008 - 03:21 PM.

chispas

Female

2008-02-12 15:21:00

Valentines Day Blues

chispas

Female

2008-02-14 13:03:00

QUOTE (one love @ Feb 15 2008, 07:57 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Explain what exercise you talking about

QUOTE (chispas @ Feb 14 2008, 07:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Bask in every minute of this excitement and make sure you do lots of KEGEL excercises while you are waiting.

huh what are you talking about

Lovin has the right instructions. After childbirth, they sure help bring your "body" back in shape.

chispas

Female

2008-02-15 13:27:00

QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Feb 15 2008, 06:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Feb 14 2008, 11:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Feb 14 2008, 03:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Feb 14 2008, 06:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Bask in every minute of this excitement and make sure you do lots of KEGEL excercises while you are waiting.

You crack me up

Yea,,, but they work right? Tell the truth

I can honestly say I have no idea

chispas

Female

2008-02-15 13:25:00

QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Feb 14 2008, 03:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE (chispas @ Feb 14 2008, 06:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Bask in every minute of this excitement and make sure you do lots of KEGEL excercises while you are waiting.

You crack me up

Yea,,, but they work right? Tell the truth

chispas

Female

2008-02-14 23:19:00

Bask in every minute of this excitement and make sure you do lots of KEGEL excercises while you are waiting.

chispas

Female

2008-02-14 18:14:00