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Africa: Sub-SaharanTrying to learn Pidgin
This is totally off topic, but I just want to complain.............. One of my students walked in during the break and stood over the top of my head. She then proceeded to shout that she didn't know I had a weave. Pisssed off I am. I work at a "non-diverse" school so I had to school her how "black" women don't appreciate people trying to dig their fingers in their sad.gif hair. Her answer: Why? My answer: Because I said so. Now go on your break.
chispasFemale02008-01-08 13:37:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanTrying to learn Pidgin
That's ok I pretend to teach one language while typing another. Then my laptop's cursor still jumps around the screen and I end up with posted #######. I don't care, this is more interesting than work anyway
chispasFemale02008-01-08 13:32:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanTrying to learn Pidgin
Pidgin and Patois sound the same to me. When I was in the English-speaking part of Cameroon, I understood everything they were saying once I masterd the pattern. However, there are variants based on country, region, tribe and even familiies. You may want to check with SIL [http://www.sil.org/linguistics/] to see if they have resources. This is a group I worked with who assists in translating the Bible into little known languages.
chispasFemale02008-01-08 11:33:00
Africa: Sub-Saharansomething to make u smile
Really soothing. Thanks
chispasFemale02008-01-14 20:24:00
Africa: Sub-Saharandocuments of support like letter form bank emp's
QUOTE (one love @ Jan 13 2008, 11:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (one love @ Jan 12 2008, 11:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How far inadvance can i get my papers ready like for I134 and letters from emp's k-3

so why my lawyer wants to go ahead and get statement form bank then,, If i do not have interview dat yet which wii most like be in march


Don't be too surprised if you are asked for the documents again when you are closer to the interview. On the economical side, if you are paying him/ her by the hour and they charge for handinling the financial papers, you might be charged again when they ask for next month's paperwork. I had a lawyer once who constantly asked for information and each time I gave the information I was charged while they handled the paperwork even if I submitted the same thing 5 times already.
chispasFemale02008-01-13 22:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanWe are approved
:energetic:
chispasFemale02008-01-15 15:03:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanJENDA: A JOURNAL OF CULTURE AND AFRICAN WOMEN STUDIES
A gentle reminder of the Terms of Service.
chispasFemale02008-01-13 22:53:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanK-1 Visa Approved!!!
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chispasFemale02008-01-14 23:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLOADED
QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 17 2008, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Loaded probably means that they have the electronic version in their system.

I know that you want all this to go quickly but you need to give them time to do their processing on their end smile.gif


Good one. Didn't think of that definition. Duh
chispasFemale02008-01-17 16:46:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLOADED
Loaded gun = ready with bullets
Loaded = drunk or under the influence of some drug
Loaded (financially) = full of money
Loaded question = one that might solicit a strong or sensitive answer
Loaded = full of whatever

Edited by chispas, 17 January 2008 - 10:59 AM.

chispasFemale02008-01-17 10:59:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE
I am soaking up the scriptures that you guys post. Great idea and great to read
chispasFemale02008-01-08 17:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanFinancial differences between USC and SO
Good question and much to ponder ahead of time. Good job for bringing this up. In my case, we have a "melange" of income levels going on. His family was part of the governmental machine, so they were used to having oodles of money. Then, Dad dies one day and the family has for a free-for all with the money and property.The properties were divided up and the immediate family lived off of the businesses.
Then mother dies, the dookie hits the fan as further money mayhem ensues. So then they are left with property and hardly any income as the lessee doesn’t pay rent often and the telephone cabins are robbed frequently.
Me, I lived very comfortable, went through a divorce and now I am a working stiff. Together, after spending much of my savings through the waiting process and other things, I am still a working stiff. However, I used much of my savings upfront and wished I had been more cautious. I think it is a good practice to not raise the financial bar so high that one can’t keep up with the standards set.
chispasFemale02008-01-06 02:38:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanNigerian Comic
QUOTE (Efia06 @ Jan 17 2008, 09:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I honestly dont like him visiting extended family so far away from his town because they all know he will be leaving soon and you never know what jealousy can do to a person. He knows his stepbrother has always resented him. You are right about "visiting" family. I could feel the jelousy amongst some of them and didn't like it.

chispasFemale02008-01-18 10:30:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanNigerian Comic
I guess they afraid of repeating what happened in 1978
chispasFemale02008-01-18 10:21:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanNigerian Comic
QUOTE (idocare @ Jan 17 2008, 08:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nice, I keep forgetting about u-tube. Thanks for sharing.


Youtube is my friend. It keeps me occupied these days. blink.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-17 23:50:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanNigerian Comic

chispasFemale02008-01-17 23:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanDV
QUOTE (Mr. Big Dog @ Jan 17 2008, 05:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Nani's auntie, her husband and their two kids (15 and 11) have been granted diversity visas yesterday. They'll move early summer and it looks as if they'll try to settle around here. This is great as we'll have some family around. biggrin.gif


Make sure they bring lots of (teff) kicking.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-17 10:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanPlz help asap
Just wanted to know if you have easy access to Adobe. One_Love, but are you currently here in the US?
chispasFemale02008-01-18 19:55:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
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Yes, we could ignore the onslaught but then the thread would get derailed like the last time. I received a pm from Ewok after the last splitt to remind everyone to stay on topic as the OP of the thread.

Thanks for putting this in your note. I feel it was necessary for everyone to know that the OP has the responsibility of keeping everyone on the topic that was started.
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chispasFemale02008-01-18 13:53:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
No book yet for me
chispasFemale02008-01-18 12:29:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Just quick Zee is my lawyer who types friggin fast. Philly people don't waste time. Jomo's girl checks around VJ to bring back news.of what else is out there when we are fixed on our issues here. Sorry Mrs. J. whenever I think of your name I think of that guy on America's next top model. That is why I type Jabow****.

Edited by chispas, 17 January 2008 - 12:41 AM.

chispasFemale02008-01-17 00:41:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Gracias,
This is my third time trying to post this without my laptop blinking out. My mentors are so many to mention here. I will tell you I have a prayer guard lifting me up at every turn. Omoba, Boaz, Idocare, Bensa.., taureen, Mrs.jib, Zee and Guianese girl too. More when the laptop cools off. You will find that it takes an army to marry one person from the village.
chispasFemale02008-01-17 00:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Chispas at the mic for a sec.

I can't wait to read the book to see what it says about all of our concerns, but in the meantime I can try to explain the language portion. You are right about the language question. I taught ESL many years ago for a local University where the students already had degrees from XYZ country. One of the groups of teachers I had were representatives from various African countries, both English and French-speaking. One reoccurring issue was some teachers felt insulted to have to take classes in English, being so educated already.
Those who wouldn’t follow the curriculum ended up failing and not being able to get their certificates. Other enterprising ones paid others to write their papers for them and moved on. So, it will be up to your husband to find himself floundering or people not being able to understand him so he can get the point. If he intends to go through a program to “brush” up on his skills, then you may be able to encourage him to take advanced ESL classes. All depends on how quickly he, and his family, realizes the realities of life here.

Expect that he will see the "light" once he arrives and prepare for the meltdown. You do have the advantage of looking ahead and asking questions "before" the issues arise. So now you can sort of steer him in a healthy direction based on your knowledge. If you think he won't listen to you, have a trusted wise male friend/family member available who won't mind talking with him. The operative word here is "wise" male friend/family member. good.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-16 23:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 16 2008, 04:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sharing my space with a boy is going to be very interesting seeing that I have no experience behind me laughing.gif

Do you make Philly Cheese steaks too? whistling.gif

chispasFemale02008-01-16 22:25:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Wow,
I'd admit that we didn't have these discussions on Sub-S when I was waiting for my husband. I thought I had covered all the bases by going to a blended-family program the year before he came. When he came, it was still strange to have yet another person walking around "my" room or "my" kitchen without asking "my" permission. smile.gif each time. However, the situation that might catch you off-guard, is when family and friends visit "his house". I was taken by surprise when his family came to visit and acted like I was not par of the equation in my own kitchen. They were used to visiting him at his family house and what was his was theirs. So it was tough when family bombarded my kitchen and started banging their forks or scraping the knives on my "good" china. Why the "good" china, because they ran out of plates and those were available. girlwerewolf2xn.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-16 17:15:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
True dat ting. I like to point out different things just to see how many items are similar to our culture. One thing we eat is (coo-coo) which they call (corn foo-foo). Jalof rice with chicken is our (arroz con pollo) Eaten very much alike
chispasFemale02008-01-16 14:17:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
QUOTE (Jomo @ Jan 16 2008, 07:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I admit it.....I'm lurking here. And, learning. Some of this stuff must be universal. My husband likes to say "you keep it".


Hey Jomo,
You are most definately not a lurker here. When I was in Africa, I was pleasantly surprised to notice we (from Latin America and the Caribe) acted very much like people there. Even some of the myths, gestures, foods, and habits were exactly the same. I tell everyone that it must be the DNA. That sucking of the teeth thing (tcho) was everywhere. So you fit in with us heart.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-16 12:12:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
QUOTE (unononehigher @ Jan 14 2008, 07:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Salutations all,
The other thing he is notorious for is saying "oh, a baby, it has passed, so lets not discuss it any longer." Is that avoidance, or manipulation? I don't get the "tell me whats on your mind now" stuff. I'm used to gathering my evidence and presenting my case, he wants discuss the case as the evidence presents it self. Is that a cultural thing or just him.
Okay, next speaker to the mic! wink.gif


I have heard the "it has passed" one before and yes I think it is avoidance. ( At least in my case I "feel" it is. ) I believe that bypasses culture runs on not wanting to go to "that uncomfortable" place.

Edited by chispas, 15 January 2008 - 12:06 AM.

chispasFemale02008-01-15 00:05:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
QUOTE (Omoba @ Jan 14 2008, 02:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Welcome my sister Taurean !

QUOTE (chispas @ Jan 14 2008, 04:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Omoba You made me laugh loudly! (kids doing seat work right now.) jest.gif One of the girls in the front asked if I am still blogging. I guess my cover is blown here so now I have to fake work another way.



At least you didn't have a drink in your mouth at the time .... smile.gif


Did I tell you about the Chai tea incident? blink.gif A few weeks ago I was tutoring while drinking my venti, soy, chai, extra hot tea. I am not sure what one of the kids said, but I wound up spitting a mouthful of tea across the table at them. They were both grossed out and I was mortified. They joke about it now, but I know they cringe when then see me with something in my mouth. laughing.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-14 20:19:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
The not talking about something doesn't bother me that much, but leaving anything without resolution troubles me greatly.
chispasFemale02008-01-14 17:14:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Omoba You made me laugh loudly! (kids doing seatwork right now.) jest.gif One of the girls in the front asked if I am still blogging. I guess my cover is blown here so now I have to fake work another way.
chispasFemale02008-01-14 15:00:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Kids are back. Gotta stop reading now. Darn
chispasFemale02008-01-14 14:31:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
I may have missed it, but will the format be Chapter by Chapter and for how long before moving on to the next? (This is the teacher side of me talking)
chispasFemale02008-01-14 14:06:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
I can't even contribute about the book because I am also in the 2 week window for arrival. Shucks sad.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-14 14:01:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
I didn't get a date. I chose regular shipping.
chispasFemale02008-01-10 17:13:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
gracias
chispasFemale02008-01-10 14:28:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 9 2008, 09:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (ZeeNusah @ Jan 9 2008, 09:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (JJWashington @ Jan 9 2008, 01:09 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes excellent idea. I tried to order at Amazon and it was out of stock. I ordered from C and B Books. It allowed me to use paypal so I did not have to use a credit card with an unknown site.

http://www.cbbooksdi.../suggfeb07.html



This is where I ended up ordering my copy too.


Yeah, so I ordered this book last night and this morning I got an e-mail that they did not recieve my payment for shipping and handling. They had a screwy system, but anyways, you can pay with Paypal, which is awesome. Don't know if anyone else had the same problem but just a heads up smile.gif

I just had the same thing happen to me. Got an email saying that I didn't pay for shipping. Did you go back and choose a different receiver the for shipping?
chispasFemale02008-01-10 13:58:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
I just ordered my copy through the above link. Thanks. The Paypal was easy
chispasFemale02008-01-09 14:08:00
Africa: Sub-SaharanLoving the African male
Omoba,
This was an outstanding idea. Great way to rally the troops (m/f) . dancin5hr.gif
chispasFemale02008-01-09 00:35:00
Africa: Sub-Saharansupport
I didn't think you could use child support as income.
chispasFemale02008-01-17 10:52:00