Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ May 6 2008, 08:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I had this hellish day at work yesterday. I was trying to make plane reservations for 5 of our guys from St. Louis to Denver and 2 from KC to Denver. They wanted special times cause of meetings. And I was frustrated cause everyone seemed to have a specific demand. Plus, my other 3 bosses all wanted something and/or wanted to talk to me about stupid stuff. And, my computer crashed in the middle of it all. What I thought were 7:38 a.m. reservations, were actually p.m. I was frantic. I had to make all these stupid phone calls and practically promise my firstborn to get them to fix it without penalties and keep them all sitting together. So, to say I left here with a headache is an understatement. I get home and my husband is puttering around the back yard. Since he started doing some part-time landscaping work on his days off, he's become obscessed with our yard. Last night, he mowed, he trimmed (with his shorts down around his ankles cause he was getting hit in the legs with stuff!), we had to go buy mulch and flowers, he weeded...........he was out there for hours. While I was crabbing about having to leave the house to go buy mulch for a yard that isn't even ours, he was sweet talking me about plying me with Cold Stone Ice Cream if I went with him. I'm sorry; but you just can't argue with ice cream! Welcome to the world of being a travel agent Yes, but I am NOT a travel agent. I don't envy you one bit, Kel. You must have a lot more patience then me. Oh and I think you know me by now....I have LOADS of patience !!! In the travel business....got to. Being a parent (a single parent for 14 yrs), got to and then being in a LDR relationship with a person of another culture....got to. Now put me on the road with DUMBA&& drivers, I have ZERO patience !!! and then there's the lack of customer service in this country....ZERO patience !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 08:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ May 6 2008, 08:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I had this hellish day at work yesterday. I was trying to make plane reservations for 5 of our guys from St. Louis to Denver and 2 from KC to Denver. They wanted special times cause of meetings. And I was frustrated cause everyone seemed to have a specific demand. Plus, my other 3 bosses all wanted something and/or wanted to talk to me about stupid stuff. And, my computer crashed in the middle of it all. What I thought were 7:38 a.m. reservations, were actually p.m. I was frantic. I had to make all these stupid phone calls and practically promise my firstborn to get them to fix it without penalties and keep them all sitting together. So, to say I left here with a headache is an understatement. I get home and my husband is puttering around the back yard. Since he started doing some part-time landscaping work on his days off, he's become obscessed with our yard. Last night, he mowed, he trimmed (with his shorts down around his ankles cause he was getting hit in the legs with stuff!), we had to go buy mulch and flowers, he weeded...........he was out there for hours. While I was crabbing about having to leave the house to go buy mulch for a yard that isn't even ours, he was sweet talking me about plying me with Cold Stone Ice Cream if I went with him. I'm sorry; but you just can't argue with ice cream! Welcome to the world of being a travel agent Yes, but I am NOT a travel agent. I don't envy you one bit, Kel. You must have a lot more patience then me. See and I LOOOOOOVE it !!! I've been in this craaaaazy business for 17 1/2 years. I started out working in reservations at America West airlines. Now THAT job I hated with a passion!!!! I mean you talk about STUPIDO people !!! OMG. I still have my notebook and everytime one of us got a "funny" call, we'd write it down in the book.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 08:53:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ May 6 2008, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I had this hellish day at work yesterday. I was trying to make plane reservations for 5 of our guys from St. Louis to Denver and 2 from KC to Denver. They wanted special times cause of meetings. And I was frustrated cause everyone seemed to have a specific demand. Plus, my other 3 bosses all wanted something and/or wanted to talk to me about stupid stuff. And, my computer crashed in the middle of it all. What I thought were 7:38 a.m. reservations, were actually p.m. I was frantic. I had to make all these stupid phone calls and practically promise my firstborn to get them to fix it without penalties and keep them all sitting together. So, to say I left here with a headache is an understatement. I get home and my husband is puttering around the back yard. Since he started doing some part-time landscaping work on his days off, he's become obscessed with our yard. Last night, he mowed, he trimmed (with his shorts down around his ankles cause he was getting hit in the legs with stuff!), we had to go buy mulch and flowers, he weeded...........he was out there for hours. While I was crabbing about having to leave the house to go buy mulch for a yard that isn't even ours, he was sweet talking me about plying me with Cold Stone Ice Cream if I went with him. I'm sorry; but you just can't argue with ice cream! (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS..............HUGS...........HUGS........ .......HUGS.............HUGS))))))))))))))))) Thanks JG -- I needed a laugh. Girl welcome to my world of making travel reservations. I support 134 people. Most of them Directors and there have been days when I wanted to walk. I had a VP complain last week because his hotel room smelled like TIDE...#######! Once I make the reservations, I have no control over what happens after that. If they have a problem with the hotel room, go to the damn FRONT DESK. I hate it when ADULTS act completly HELPLESS. Then I had a lady complain that I put her on a flight with too many kids and sick people. I threw my hands up in the air. I arrange the travel for one of our local banks (over 700 people), I love corporate travelers, it's usually easier and pretty cut and dry, but why on earth wouldn't your companies use a travel professional ???? Booking hotels is "free", airfare is the only thing that I charge for and I am "cheaper" than booking it directly with the airlines ?? It's a craaaaaazy up and down, challenging business ... I was just on the phone with the secretary of the owner of the bank and he's in Detroit and he's trying to make a 10:21 AM flight....and he's 21 miles from the airport, yeah ...okay ! Always good times	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 08:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 6 2008, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I had this hellish day at work yesterday. I was trying to make plane reservations for 5 of our guys from St. Louis to Denver and 2 from KC to Denver. They wanted special times cause of meetings. And I was frustrated cause everyone seemed to have a specific demand. Plus, my other 3 bosses all wanted something and/or wanted to talk to me about stupid stuff. And, my computer crashed in the middle of it all. What I thought were 7:38 a.m. reservations, were actually p.m. I was frantic. I had to make all these stupid phone calls and practically promise my firstborn to get them to fix it without penalties and keep them all sitting together. So, to say I left here with a headache is an understatement. I get home and my husband is puttering around the back yard. Since he started doing some part-time landscaping work on his days off, he's become obscessed with our yard. Last night, he mowed, he trimmed (with his shorts down around his ankles cause he was getting hit in the legs with stuff!), we had to go buy mulch and flowers, he weeded...........he was out there for hours. While I was crabbing about having to leave the house to go buy mulch for a yard that isn't even ours, he was sweet talking me about plying me with Cold Stone Ice Cream if I went with him. I'm sorry; but you just can't argue with ice cream! Welcome to the world of being a travel agent	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-06 08:44:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 5 2008, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ May 5 2008, 08:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ May 5 2008, 09:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Here's where I read it a little while ago.......... http://www.jamaica-g...lead/lead2.html Dang JG -- you're good. Can you hook me up with a link to the proverty guidelines for 2008. I read the Gleaner every single day and the Observer once a week. I have to keep Andre up to date you know! Your wish is my command, Tre.......... http://www.travel.st.../info_1327.html I used to, but I'm just too darn busy to keep up-to-date there. I just emailed my friend who is the President of the Jamaica Hotel and Tourist Association.... I'll get to the bottom of this mess!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-05 08:47:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Jomo @ May 5 2008, 09:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Here's where I read it a little while ago.......... http://www.jamaica-g...lead/lead2.html It amazes me how rumors fly.... and the "truth" gets all distorted. Thank you for that information, I just forwarded to the Sales Dept at HI. Amazing that they weren't "aware" of the details !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-05 08:38:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (luvtravlin @ May 5 2008, 09:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ May 4 2008, 08:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> ******NEWS FLASH******* Hey Guys, I just got a piece of sad news...for all of us H. I. peeps. Ken's friend just told him that HI will be closing their doors as of June! Of course I am sure they will renovate and be back...but that GREAT price for GREAT fun is probably long gone! Alright, enjoy the rest of your weekend! Bless-ed, Gill I just received an email from the Director of Sales of the Hol Inn Sunspree Montego Bay. He is currently in Jamaica and he is not aware of the hotel closing or being sold to anyone. He told me that the hotel is in **consideration** of renovating and if that happens it will be Sept for 1 month (because of the slow time). He was very interested to know who started this rumor....I said I just heard from a client of a client... If I hear of any other information, I'll be sure to forward it to everyone. Kelly Just received another email from the Sales office... The hotel was sold to the Hendricks's family (owners of Courtleigh & Sunset). They will be taking 1 block of rooms out at a time in order to renovate the rooms. We have not been told the hotel was closing. For now it's business as usual. Hope this helps ! Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-05 08:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ May 4 2008, 08:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> ******NEWS FLASH******* Hey Guys, I just got a piece of sad news...for all of us H. I. peeps. Ken's friend just told him that HI will be closing their doors as of June! Of course I am sure they will renovate and be back...but that GREAT price for GREAT fun is probably long gone! Alright, enjoy the rest of your weekend! Bless-ed, Gill I just received an email from the Director of Sales of the Hol Inn Sunspree Montego Bay. He is currently in Jamaica and he is not aware of the hotel closing or being sold to anyone. He told me that the hotel is in **consideration** of renovating and if that happens it will be Sept for 1 month (because of the slow time). He was very interested to know who started this rumor....I said I just heard from a client of a client... If I hear of any other information, I'll be sure to forward it to everyone. Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-05-05 08:20:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)	QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Apr 30 2008, 04:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (RoxcieJoe @ Apr 30 2008, 04:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Trelawny20853 @ Apr 30 2008, 03:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Does anyone remember the names of decent non expensive hotels in the Montego Bay area? I know the WEXFORD was one of them. I can't remember the others. Hi Trelwany, go back to page 375, that's where the Hotels for the Montego Bay area were discusssed. It starts there and continue on consective pages. I hope this is helpful. Be Blessed I did'nt go back far enough. Thanks baby girl. I've stayed at THE GLOUSTERSHIRE HOTEL, it was the Quality Inn at the time, but it was great (at the time) and that was about 8 yrs ago though. Not a big Montego Bay fan... I just looked in my computer reservation system, but the only one I'm really familiar with is Doctors Cave... EMERALD ESCAPE BEACH RESORT RELAX RESORT BUCCANEERS BEACH HOTEL DOCTORS CAVE BEACH HOTEL TOBYS RESORT BREEZES - MONTEGO BAY	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2008-04-30 15:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	i'd like to revisit the ganja use topic. it sounded like there are some people here that are in the health/mental health field. i know someone (a family member) who takes anti-depression/anti-anxiety medication and she smokes weed. obviously, she's emotionally unstable. she has terrible mood swings and she'd difficult to get along with. now this is her without weed (and yes, she's a hot mess lol). my question is, what is the potential effects of using weed along with these prescriptions? My best friend is a daily weed smoker (not all day long though) and she also takes several other medications, for depression for example.....she has NO short term memory. I've been friends with her for 10 yrs....and I have to remind myself all of the time not to say....remember yesterday when I.... I've done soooo much research on this and have material that my son brings home from school.... Effects on the Brain Scientists have learned a great deal about how THC acts in the brain to produce its many effects. When someone smokes marijuana, THC rapidly passes from the lungs into the bloodstream, which carries the chemical to organs throughout the body, including the brain. In the brain, THC connects to specific sites called cannabinoid receptors on nerve cells and influences the activity of those cells. Some brain areas have many cannabinoid receptors; others have few or none. Many cannabinoid receptors are found in the parts of the brain that influence pleasure, memory, thought, concentration, sensory and time perception, and coordinated movement. The short-term effects of marijuana can include problems with memory and learning; distorted perception; difficulty in thinking and problem solving; loss of coordination; and increased heart rate. Research findings for long-term marijuana abuse indicate some changes in the brain similar to those seen after long-term abuse of other major drugs. For example, cannabinoid (THC or synthetic forms of THC) withdrawal in chronically exposed animals leads to an increase in the activation of the stress-response system and changes in the activity of nerve cells containing dopamine. Dopamine neurons are involved in the regulation of motivation and reward, and are directly or indirectly affected by all drugs of abuse. Effects of Heavy Marijuana Use on Learning and Social Behavior Research clearly demonstrates that marijuana has the potential to cause problems in daily life or make a person's existing problems worse. Depression, anxiety, and personality disturbances have been associated with chronic marijuana use. Because marijuana compromises the ability to learn and remember information, the more a person uses marijuana the more he or she is likely to fall behind in accumulating intellectual, job, or social skills. Moreover, research has shown that marijuana’s adverse impact on memory and learning can last for days or weeks after the acute effects of the drug wear off. Students who smoke marijuana get lower grades and are less likely to graduate from high school, compared with their nonsmoking peers. A study of 129 college students found that, among those who smoked the drug at least 27 of the 30 days prior to being surveyed, critical skills related to attention, memory, and learning were significantly impaired, even after the students had not taken the drug for at least 24 hours. These "heavy" marijuana abusers had more trouble sustaining and shifting their attention and in registering, organizing, and using information than did the study participants who had abused marijuana no more than 3 of the previous 30 days. As a result, someone who smokes marijuana every day may be functioning at a reduced intellectual level all of the time. More recently, the same researchers showed that the ability of a group of long-term heavy marijuana abusers to recall words from a list remained impaired for a week after quitting, but returned to normal within 4 weeks. Thus, some cognitive abilities may be restored in individuals who quit smoking marijuana, even after long-term heavy use. Workers who smoke marijuana are more likely than their coworkers to have problems on the job. Several studies associate workers' marijuana smoking with increased absences, tardiness, accidents, workers' compensation claims, and job turnover. A study among postal workers found that employees who tested positive for marijuana on a pre-employment urine drug test had 55 percent more industrial accidents, 85 percent more injuries, and a 75-percent increase in absenteeism compared with those who tested negative for marijuana use. In another study, heavy marijuana abusers reported that the drug impaired several important measures of life achievement including cognitive abilities, career status, social life, and physical and mental health. Addictive Potential Long-term marijuana abuse can lead to addiction for some people; that is, they abuse the drug compulsively even though it interferes with family, school, work, and recreational activities. Drug craving and withdrawal symptoms can make it hard for long-term marijuana smokers to stop abusing the drug. People trying to quit report irritability, sleeplessness, and anxiety. They also display increased aggression on psychological tests, peaking approximately one week after the last use of the drug. I personally don't smoke, never have....and none of my friends that I hung out with growing up did (we just are social drinkers). I have a cousin that smokes everyday, and he is goofy. I have seen the effects of the HEAVY (we're talking an all day for over 10 yrs usage) 1st hand and I know for a fact that there are serious effects from the years of the abuse and the jamaican weed (as he tells me) is ALOT stronger than what we have here, more proof that he's messed himself up!!! Hope the information helps....	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-22 11:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	CONFUSED!!! I don't know if anyone can be of any help since I don't think anyone had this experience but the blue slip says to fax it back to the embassy when the information that they are requesting has been gathered (more proof of relationship). The consular officer said that we could come any tuesday or thursday whenever it is that i can come. Once the blue slip has been faxed so you think they will issue a new interview or they just need to have that on file so when we go it will be ok to just show up? Also, the embassy kept a lot of our information (both our birth certificates, no-impediment form, police record, passport, etc..). I just don't want to go there and then not be able to get in cuz we don't have an appointment. Also, my man's friend also had his interview yesterday and went without his girlfriend and he also got a blue slip requesting more proof of relationship but never said anything about her having to come with him. I tried calling the embassy but can't get through til Friday. I really need to get through to them to clarify what it is we are supposed to do....... I know if "I" hadn't been at our interview Craig would have been denied flat out. Our interviewer was a total jack*** !!! He gave me such a hard time and asked crazy questions. He was unbelievably rude and we had tons and tons and tons of "proof" of our relationship, but they didn't want any of it in hand, wouldn't even look at any. Me being there.............was proof enough. He ONLY interviewed me, not Craig at all.... I would highly highly recommend jumpin on a flippin plane and getting down there!! Trust me (and all of us), we know how difficult the finances and getting off work can be, but if you really want your man to be here, you gotta go there in person and show them *that* proof......unfortunately that does suck.... If you can go, than I would fax them back (on that blue slip) as to when your travel dates will be !!! Have you guys been together long? How did you meet? There is definitely a reason why they are asking for more proof. A Jamaican friend of mine is here, came here on a K1 ....he was given the same thing for more proof. She had to bite the dust and go there, for a day (this was 4 yrs ago) and they were approved. Can't believe Craig will be here one year (tomorrow)..... Good luck to ya... Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-21 13:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Ok so since we are always looking for topics I have a good one. It might be a little controversial but I am really interested to know...no matter what the opinion may be. So we all know that ganja is very common in JA. Not everyone does it but a lot do. I have been really reading up on this subject and there is all sorts of information out there. Do you think there is long term psychological effects of smoking ganja? I am not talking casual/recreational use. I mean for someone who smoked daily for years especially as a teenager (13+). Everyone knows that as a teenager your brain is still developing and growing and with heavy ganja use there has got to be some damage...at least IMO. What do you all think? Do you see signs from your SO/family/friends that were heavy ganja users? Again I know that for people that are still using there is effects but I am specifically asking about someone who did ganja for years but is now clean and doesn't smoke...do you think there is lasting damage from all the years of smoking? Well I hope that made sense...any insight as always is greatly appreciated. I am hoping we can have a very good informative discussion. Feel free to tell your opinon...no judgements here [/quote] Hey Jamie, I absolutely and truly KNOW that there is some type of effect. I've done ALOT of research on this entire subject. Craig has smoked since he was 15 up through last year (before coming here) ALOT and I mean sometimes all day. When I would visit, rarely because my son was with me, but he would leave and come back. Craig has NO short term memory and his long term memory is very questionable. Yes, at first (and still some things) are the cultural issue, but he can't remember conversations we had a hour ago. It is THE most frustrating thing ever. I've been extreeeeemely patient..........as you know, but it was put such a toll on our marriage. We're STILL working on things, we haven't filed for AOS yet because of us "working on things". The reason that I haven't gotten pregnant............I know for sure is that there are NO jimmies left in the tank because of the ganga use and he continually blamed on me until I showed him the research on-line that proves it !! I'm happy for you working it out. This is tough, no doubt about it. I would LOVE to live separately so he knows how to be responsible on his own, pay bills, etc etc. That is our LAST battle is finances, he still does NOT GET IT !!! There is an age difference between us and yes maturity is another issue. We're having (gonna try at least) to have a romantic dinner tonight since my son is at my parents. Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-20 14:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	they want my orginal birth certificate????? I have a huge problem with that as I'm from the U.K. and wouldn't know the first about getting it replaced. Why can't they just use the bio page from my passport?? does the embassy take both birth certificates? i was thinking they may only want the beneficiary's. They didn't take mine. They kept Craig's original birth certificate. In my original paperwork (way back-2 yrs ago), I gave them a copy of my birth certificate and I had it on me when I went for the interview, but they didn't want any of my info. The only items they kept...was the W2's and income tax stuff. No employment letters, no bank stuff, no other evidence, but....if anyone has read about my interview, I had a TOTAL jack** and he gave me a really hard time. Looking back....I wish he would have given me a HARDER time!!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-12 12:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	So I got my bank verification letter today. All it has is the date my account was opened and the current amount! I'm pissed because the lady I spoke with from the bank assured me that it would include the total amount of deposits for the last year. I paid $10.00 for that piece of ####### that ain't gonna help me! So, did anyone print out ALL of their bank statements for the 12 month period for the interview??? No. I didn't include any bank statements. I have no plans to send bank statements, my W-2 forms, pay statements, Job letter and insurance certificates are all I plan to send. My salary is pretty decent. I requested it from my bank and they are telling me I have to pay one hundred dollars, I will not spend that money, I really don't think I need to. I had a letter from my bank (Bank of America) for both of my accounts...business and personal. Date I opened the accounts and that I'm a good customer, something to that fact. They didn't want either. I went into my bank and the branch manager whopped out the letter signed it and I was on my way....at no cost.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-12 12:06:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	at least you've gotten your money's worth out of it. in the 4 years that i've known oliver he's never been sick. he just gets minor colds, and even that hardly ever happens. i told him he must've been a breast-fed baby because he's so healthy. his teeth are in great shape too. they're whiter than mine. [/quote] Just curious, what does breast-feeding have to do with never being sick?? I never breast fed my son and knock on wood, the last time he was actually sick was about 4 yrs ago. He never ever gets sick, has white straight teeth (takes after my side of the family). He had his adenoids/tonsils out when he was 5 but other than that?? Just curious.... as a parent... I don't have health insurance, scares me and I have to pay crazy amounts for the Gonno...unfortunately it's just waaay to expensive. My son is covered on my dads plan...has been since he was 4 months old.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-07 09:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Does anyone have an approximate cost to ship a large box to JA? What would be the best way to do it? I am thinking that I am going to send my guests wedding favors down a month early so that we don't have to bring all that stuff on the plane. I'm just trying to figure out how much it may cost me. I'm ordering them next month...On a side note, I wanted to put 2gether a little welcome bag for my guests coming from the states...any ideas as to what I should put in them? I'm not thinking anything too expensive, maybe 3 or 4 small items? Just an FYI, one of my clients did not take my advice and the Beaches Resort's wedding coordinators advice NOT to ship wedding favors ahead of time. I flew with the bride and groom, took her almost 3 hours to get her stuff and they wanted to charger her $400 US ...I was able to get them to charge only $20. It's because they consider it importing and exporting and you have to pay taxes both ways. I told her to ask a few wedding people (and myself) to take items down in their luggage before....we were there 5 days before the wedding. Thanks for the info...but I just have 1 question: was she trying to ship the stuff to the resort or to a local post office? would that have made a difference or not? I have 20 guests coming from the states, and most of us will be there 5 days before the wedding as well, so I suppose we can bring stuff down, I just didn't want to have to deal w/ possibly paying for the stuff at immigration... You will only pay at immigration if u say some of your wedding guests and or groom is living in JA, That's totally not true.... I arranged the travel for 90 of her guests coming from all places in the US to stay in Jamaica for my clients wedding. None were Jamaican, although everyone of them are African American. The bride took it upon herself to ship stuff ahead of time thinking she would save money, but in turn.....literally fought with customs for 3 hours and they would NOT come down on the $400 US price. I sat back and listened and then after not getting ANYwhere, I stepped in, made a few phone calls and was able to have a Sandals rep there at the airport go with her and work it out to a reasonable cost to have to pay. It was 2 yrs ago, it was a nightmare, but .....a lesson learned by them ! She wasn't shipping to the resort, I believe it was the FedEx office. I seriously can't remember, because they did it on their own and I wasn't involved. The Sandals Rep at the airport asked where they booked their wedding/moon package from and the groom said, a travel agent and the Rep said, well.....I would seriously be upset with that person and the groom said, she highly advised us NOT to do this. I tapped the Rep on the shoulder and said.....travel agent came *with* them to make sure things ran smoothly, but I wasn't aware that they were doing this ! This was the only mishap in the 8 day trip!! Just hide things, as everyone else said, take tags off, always say "no". I've brought sooooo many things, clothes, games, even electronic games, coloring books, crayons, shoes, deodorant, toothpaste, I mean tons and tons of stuff in the past 10 years. I was only given ALOT of grief by a woman checking....I had 4 bags and it was only me and my son. She kept saying are YOU SURE you don't have anything in there for anyone?? I said, please feel free to check. Never did and I was like...whew !!!!! Two of those suitcases were packed FULL of baby clothes and items for 2 of the girls that work at the hotel where I've been staying for 10 yrs. ALWAYS put a hotel on the immigration forms.....put a big name hotel, like RIU Negril or Beaches. Pick one in the Negril area because that's more "touristy".	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-06 11:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Does anyone have an approximate cost to ship a large box to JA? What would be the best way to do it? I am thinking that I am going to send my guests wedding favors down a month early so that we don't have to bring all that stuff on the plane. I'm just trying to figure out how much it may cost me. I'm ordering them next month...On a side note, I wanted to put 2gether a little welcome bag for my guests coming from the states...any ideas as to what I should put in them? I'm not thinking anything too expensive, maybe 3 or 4 small items? Just an FYI, one of my clients did not take my advice and the Beaches Resort's wedding coordinators advice NOT to ship wedding favors ahead of time. I flew with the bride and groom, took her almost 3 hours to get her stuff and they wanted to charger her $400 US ...I was able to get them to charge only $20. It's because they consider it importing and exporting and you have to pay taxes both ways. I told her to ask a few wedding people (and myself) to take items down in their luggage before....we were there 5 days before the wedding.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-06-05 11:30:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Yeah, me and finesse are on the same day. Wow, I hope that's not correct. I wonder if what was heard on the radio about not giving visas until June was referring to other visas? Isn't there a certain limit to the number of visas that are allowed each year? I don't know if it applies in K1 or K3 situations, but each country has a limit. On another note: I went to the store yesterday and picked up a file folder for the interview. It's a cute one, too. I was loading it up last night, labeling the sections. I started to get really nervous. Just looking at all of the documents, all of my information, all of the time that I've spent on this. Just got a flash of how big this is. When did you guys start realizing what a huge deal this is, this preparation for marriage and life with someone? Just last night I started having a breakdown with the ideas of how serious this is. I am getting married! That's it kuput, the end...of the beginning! I just started getting scared about him being here and starting a life together and all the struggles we will undoubtably face and I just broke down! I'm gonna be somebody's WIFE? What is that?! Whats good though is that we are able to openly talk about these things and he helps to keep me grounded. He reminded me to put my focus and faith to God and trust that he will help us through our lifes journey. I know that I can not get through this without God and HE has been my main companion in it all. When I feel lost in all of this I know that I am getting further from God and I need to bring it all back to Him and then it all begins to make sense to me again. I completely understand ya on this one!!!! I had never been married before, actually no desire to even "go there" until I met Craig. I was sooooooooooooooooooooooo nervous and anxious ALL of the time about the *thought* of being married and this is someone you'll spend the rest of your life with!!! Everytime I thought about or looked at the mounds of paperwork made me think.....this is it !!! Craig and I have been through ALOT, it amazes me all that we've been through!!! This entire relationship/process tests on you soooooooooooooooo many levels. Even after we got into a stupid little disagreement yesterday, we're all huggy kissy afterwards. He says....isn't it crazy how one minute we're this and the next we're "back" to our real selves??? It's totally flippin crazy !! I do know that I truly truuuuuly wish that I would have known, beforehand, what I know now about the stuff that we have gone through (like most others when their man/woman arrives here). Everyday, I still can't believe I'm married. Saying....husband...still feels kindof weird. Waiting and waiting for him to come through those white doors at BWI .............and then seeing him for real..........that's when I really knew ...wow, this is truly it !!! I hope everyone had a nice weekend ! My sons team made it to 1st place in their bracket and then lost in the semi-finals, it was a total bummer. It was hot and exhausting!! I felt like "I" played....	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-29 11:05:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I GOT APPROVED ON MY BIRTHDAY! I just got the email now! OMG! Thank God and thank ALL of you! I had to call Marlon and he is super stoked too!!!!!! Ummmm, what now? lol CONGRATS and happy b-day !! My b-day was last Friday ;o) .... We'll be out in your neck of the woods July 18-23rd...staying in Tempe. We're gonna try to also go tubing. Can't wait ! It's been awhile since I was back there, can't wait to see my friends! Have a nice, safe and enjoyable weekend everyone! Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-25 16:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	It's so slow today can't wait for this three day weekend . Hello yardie family My son has a soccer tournament in Virginia, all weekend. We'll be staying down there at my friends house, also cat sitting while they go to Florida. They have a hot tub....will be nice and relaxing, I hope!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-24 12:59:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Mine as well, it's unfornunate, cause hubby would not even call his mother on mothers day, not even on a day to day basis to check to see how's doing, says it too depressing because no matter how much money he sends it's not enough. He sent money to his father because he knew he woudn't blow it instead used it in the household to help them both, his mother was upset cause she felt like the money should have gone to her. Supposed ly called all the family talking all theis stuff about hose he'smaking all this money and not taking care of her I want to say where was she when he was walking around bare footed cause he didn't even have shoes to put on his feet :blush:This lady has a lot of guilt about giving him away when he was little. The two times I met her, she would cry cause she feels, or at least she told me that she was sorry for how she treated him when he was little, but when you talk to her it's a differnent story. Males me mad to hear stories like this......Heard so many instances where the so called 'parent' treats the child so badly growing up and yet as soon as they go abroad they feel their son/daugher owes them something.....What is frustrating is that often even though the son/daughter recognises the bad treatment, they often still feel because their parent brought them into the world, they should help. This is probably our BIGGEST challenge (next to finances--which goes hand in hand). Craig's mother calls EVERY Wed night (starting at 10:30pm)/Thurs morning (starting at 6am) and then just keeps calling until he answers....... asking for money!!! I blocked her from calling the house phone (because it's also my business line) because she calls at ALL hours saying it's an emergency!! She works too ! Craig will NOT be honest and tell her that he's not working, he just keeps promising her which in turn makes her call a million times. She "left" him when she was little (grandmother raised him) and came back into his life about 7 yrs ago. She's a nice person.....but.......the calling JUST for money drives ME absoLUTELY crazy !!!!!!!! Then he feels extreeeeeemely guilty and then takes that out on me, which is SO not right !!!! I said after we pay our bills, etc etc and if money "fits" into the budget, than we can send money...but do NOT promise it !!! I told him JUST BE HONEST !!! It's frustrating as all get out. She's the only one that calls and asks for money. Most of his closest relatives and friends are here in the states. I know that it's hard and a struggle, but we have "our" struggles here to !!! If she could ONLY call to see how he (we) are doing..............different story!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-24 12:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to all the moms (and moms-to-be) !!! Have a great weekend everyone.. Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-11 17:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Hope this helps.[/quote] Ok, now I'm officially scared.....I will be travelling at 32 weeks, the airline I'm going with says you can fly up until 7 months so I SHOULD be ok!! But so if they just look at me the wrong way they can deny boarding even with a doctor's letter?????? [/quote] If the airline you are flying on **allows** you to fly UP to 7 months, the ticket counter, gate agents OR flight attendants **may** ask you for documentation from your doctor **allowing** you to travel. I was 7 months pregnant, but noone could tell......it just all depends. It's just like when mixed families travel, I have all sorts of clients that are married, remarried, have all different names and I HIGHLY recommend to each and every one of them to travel with documentation from their "other" (especially if there is joint custody) that says, I so and so allow the childs name to travel ....dates (to and from)....where to....etc etc. Especially internationally..... I have a client that told me when they traveled over Christmast to Turks & Caicos that they were prepared with their letter to show, if asked. They were NOT asked, but another family checking in right next to them WERE asked for their documentation and since they didn't have any ..........the entire family of 5 were denied. Going to the Dominican Republic REQUIRES you to have documentation like that or you will be denied. I tell my clients, even those taking their grandchildren, even domestically with ALLL of the ####### that goes on in our F-D up world to be PREPARED!!! My dad took my son to Detroit in January and they were going over to Canada for only just a couple of hours, my dad was asked for "proof" that he was the grandparent.....not just some man stealing my son and the customs person was impressed that he had his information all ready for them. They didn't want to see my sons birth certificate, but asked for a photo ID. My son doesn't have a passport, but I had given my dad my sons ID from an "Identification place" that came to his daycare (when he went) !! So, ANY documentation, even though you may NEVER be asked, is better....in this day and age !!! It's way better than being denied altogether !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-11 10:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	so what do flight agents go by? they won't ask you anything..when i was pregnant they almost didnt care or chose not to see that i was pregnant You never ever know. I've been in the travel industry for 16 yrs, for the 1st 6 years I worked at America West airlines. I saw and heard it all!! Plus my 2 roommates were flight attendants. You just never ever know ....depending on how far along you are, if you are showing, how "uncomfortable" you may "look" when traveling. It is completely up to their discretion, especially if you are flying internationally. YOUR DOCTOR is the one to make the call. If you have a letter (on letterhead) stating that he ALLOWS you to fly, states how many weeks you are, that you've had a very normal pregancy, your due date, than you should be okay.....but again.... if the airline states that you cannot fly after a certain amount of time, you need to follow their rules 1st. If you're before the alloted time, per the airline rules, I would highly suggest bringing along the letter from the doctor! They CAN deny you boarding!! Hope this helps.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-10 19:47:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	P.S. Did anyone ever answer the how long does it take to get pregnant after you get off the pill question.... [/color] [/quote] I got pregnant 3 months after, but we used other methods of protection, but.....one little jimmy still got away ;o) ... A woman can theoretically get pregnant any time because of irregularities of the menstrual cycle. Usually the most fertile period is 5 days before her ovulation time and 5 days afterwards. This ovulation usually occurs at mid-cycle. However, since cycles vary greatly because of a woman's health, exercise or stress level (to name a few reasons), there is really no safe time when a woman can definitely say she cannot become pregnant.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-10 19:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I may be wrong, but I don't think your allowed to travel after 35 or 36 weeks..check with ur doctor [/quote] For me that would be sometime in mid-june [/quote] When I was pregnant (13 1/2 yrs ago), my doctor told me that after my 7th month....no traveling. At that time, I was working for an airline at the time and was traveling back and forth from Arizona to Maryland. I took his advice because I didn't want to have a baby on the plane!! It's up to your doctors discretion and of course the rules by the airline and each airlines rules are just a little different. Just an FYI.......When you also get to the gate (or on the plane), the gate agents (or flight attendants) don't need to go by the rules stated on the airline website or what reservations tells you.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-10 13:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	How old will you be? I don't wanna guess but you look like a baby. I will be turning the big 3-0 this summer...I can't wait!! Unfortunately, I think that a lot of people still think that I look like a baby---I still get checked at the movies sometimes!! lol I'll be 42 next Friday and I had to laugh, I took my son to a place called Game Stop 2 weeks ago and the guy asked me for my drivers license (or if I had an ID) and I asked him ....for?? and he said, we *have* to card everyone that is under 30 yrs of age that is buying a Rated "M" game and I chuckled and said, well....thank you, I appreciate you thinking I'm under 30, but I'll be 42 in 2 weeks and he apologized and said....I'm sorry maam. I wanted to say.....Maam?? now hold up a minute ! Then that Friday night, I went to get some beer and was carded at the flippin liquor store and I said to the guy....oh come on now, I know I don't look like I'm anywhere near 21 ..... a week after that, Craig and I went to a bar and I NEVER carry ID with me to a bar (not that we go that often) and the bouncer would NOT let us in if I didn't go alll the way to my car and get my ID. It's a GREAT thing ....but a hassle at times, but I'll work with the hassle ;o) .... What date is your birthday ?	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-10 09:13:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Updated 5/9/07 Poll How long did you know your SO in person before you applied for their Visa? If anyone wants to participate Less than 6 months 1 (Rhonda & Tony) 6 months to a year 2 AlienUKGirl and Marlita One year 0 Two years 1 Ebony Sean Three years 0 Four years 0 Five or more years 4 Jax, Anna, KimmyKashi, KKholiday Met in November 2004, went back in Mar 2005 (had trip already planned before we met in Nov), went for my 40th bday May 2005, July 2005 (talked about where this relationship was heading, etc etc....didn't really have a proposal, but knew we wanted to be together and have a commited relationship). Went back in Sept 2005 and Apr 2006 and then interview May 2006. Filed at the end of July 2005. I requested 2 extensions, because I knew we both were not absolutely ready......interview end of May 06...came here June 06. Dag, looking back....whew I do NOT miss the long distance phone calls !!! Talking everyday.... For anyone wanting to get onto the Yahoo site, you have to contact Ms Squitto (search for her in this VJ site)....she is the group coordinator and she has to be able to give you access. It is really nice to have faces with names, etc. We are going to apply for a SSN and California ID today. What should we take other than his passport and I-94? That's all Craig needed and we were in and out in 10 minutes. That was the easiest/quickest part of this entire process...so far !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-09 09:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	[Hope everyone is doing great and I miss you all! Jill [/quote] Jill, sorry to hear 'bout your little one.....I know exactly how you feel ! We had to put a kitten down 3 yrs ago (2 days before my bday) because he went into kidney failure. It was absolutely horrible.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-08 08:39:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	[quote name='nannygirl82' date='May 8 2007, 07:05 AM' post='893100'] yes we named him......baby cham and the name totaly fits him too.... Can't wait to hang out with the likkle booger next weekend.....I hope the potting training is in full swing	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-08 08:36:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Calling all Baltimore/DC area residents- I'm looking for a summer festival in your area-any ideas? Oh and if I can do it- I'd love to crash in on your weekend plans B) [/quote] Hey Michele you're welcome to stay here....we have plenty of room !!! We go to DC (on the train) to celebrate Jamaican Independence Day...will mostly likely be Sunday, August 5th. It's alot of fun !! Here was what was happening at last years... INDEPENDENCE SUNDAY MARKET (an all-day jamaican festival - August 6, 1pm) @ Gardens of the Orgnaization of American States - FREE; live music by Kymani Marley, Skatalites, Bare Essentials, Lovindeer, Image Band, DJ Romeo, Sprang International, Emcee Jerry D. Jamaican food, arts and crafts on sale. The year before they had ALL food and drinks for free, last year you had to pay for everything and the food wasn't as good as the year before ! If anyone in our area knows of any other ones....please post them. Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-08 08:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I always sent it as... Name Ewarton PO St. Catherine, Jamaica West Indies That is what I put on all the forms and it worked just fine. Where Andre lived they all just went to the PO and asked for their mail by name. They had 10 PO boxes that the PO but those were reserved for businesses or churches. Craig's.... Auldayr District Bluefields PO Westmoreland Jamaica West Indies No problems here... Craig always had to pickup his mail at a Post Office in Bluefields. Craig would ask if there was anything in there for him and they would give him his mail....in alphabetical order.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-07 17:18:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	This is for those that are US/American Citizens...... you may want to check with the Embassy of the country you would be traveling to. You can travel to ANY US (domesitcally) including ...Hawaii, San Juan and Virgin Islands You will need your passport and greencard to travel up to that point....you can only travel within the US territories. Your greencard gets you back INTO the US. The passport advisory that I tacked on at the end was only to serve as a reminder that regardless of the fact that some countries will allow US Permanent Residents to visit without a visa, that they still need to have a passport to travel - in addition to their PR cards. That was the sole purpose...please reread the introductory paragraph in my previous post. I did some extensive reading this morning for my own purposes and thought I would share info. After all, this is what the forums are about. Peace No worries, I'm a travel agent....no need for me to re-read...thanks !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-07 13:33:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Help! I remember seeing on VJ a list of questions that the embassy might ask. I'm getting sort of nervous because I won't be there with him when he interviews. So just trying to make sure all my bases are covered. I thought it was pinned in the K-1 VISA forum. I looked in the other forums but I can't find it. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? For *our* interview---but this was May 2006, "I" was only asked if "I" thought my relationship was going to last once he go to the states, if there was going to be the same passion that I found on the beach in Negril would be the same here in the States and gave me ####### about my income --because he wasn't reading the paperwork correctly. Craig wasn't asked one question....he made him go and sit down before he spoke to me. Here are some questions from most recent interviews (since March) --others that have been more recently can add on... How did you meet your wife? What does she do in america? where does she live? How do you keep in touch? when did you last see your wife? Where were you married and how many people were there? then he asked to see the pictures from the wedding. If he loves me and why? Birthdate? Where I live Where does my family live How many times I have been to Jamaica Where we (I) stayed those times Has he ever been in trouble with the law Has he has ever been to the states... Has he ever smoked weed	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-07 13:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Advisory: Beginning January 23, 2007 passports are required for travel between the United States and Canada, Mexico, central and South America, the Caribbean (excluding U.S. territories), and Bermuda. [/quote] This is for those that are US/American Citizens...... you may want to check with the Embassy of the country you would be traveling to. You can travel to ANY US (domesitcally) including ...Hawaii, San Juan and Virgin Islands You will need your passport and greencard to travel up to that point....you can only travel within the US territories. Your greencard gets you back INTO the US.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-07 11:43:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Ditto!!! I think, at least for me, I come here because we all have something in common. I agree with what Shamonya, whats posted here dosen't/ shouldn't make or break your relationship, but because we have that one very important thing in common, it's easy( at least it should be) to put yourself in the other persons shoes, and at least for me try to experience what that person maybe feeling before I/we just post what ever comes to my mind without really thinking about it. Although I have never met any of you, after almost three years of posting, you get to know certian things-ways about the posters character and of course you respect the opinion of those who have been supportive of you through the years. I just tend to look over the rest. In defense to Shaymonia and In respose to the "vet" who is posining the thread. I'm trying not to call anyone out here, but I'll go head and say it. I feel that Kelly used the thread to get her point(s)n across to her husband.( you can call me and curse me out if you want ) It kinda started the whole thing. Although her inital post was by accident...There were newbies coming in at the same time who didn't really know all the Kelly had been through and for whatever reason felt that she was being whiney and generalizing toward JA men and there has been bickering every since. It's hard to put your dirty laundry out here in public eye, I commend her..I've done it also for it, sometimes things seem so bad....you feel at the time you don't have anyone to turn to...you/we think we can come here for support because we all have something in common but really almost you can't. People are too judemental ESP those who know nothing about you. I have made some really good friends. Some know more about me than family who see me on a daily basis. So just know that if I make a post or a response to something that's posted, it not meant to be judgemental, no relationship is without problems. We should all try to positive by supporting and encouraging one another and not forget the purpose of this site, I think it's great that it has become something more, but some are not here for that, they are here for information and that's it, for the friends I've made so far, I'm glad to have you, I am greatful for the support and Kelly I hope you haven't taken offense to my post. I'm glad things are changing for the better for you and Craig. Mindy Bring your a$$ back here [/quote] Absolutely NO offense taken !!! Yes, what I posted was by accident, way back, but "I" know that I have helped more than the "newbies" really realize and yep, they were kindof right in the middle of all the mahem. Yep, I think some of it was kindof of "shocking", but I touched more relationships than I actually realized and it was nice to know that my relationship wasn't the ONLY one that had it's problems and similarities to others !!! I thank those that have been supportive and you know who you are !!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-06 20:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Thanks for saying that. I don't know if there is any ONE person that is "poisoning" the thread, but I really don't think its fair to say its the newbies. I'm not sure what classifys a newbie anyway....A person just starting the VJ process, a person with less than 4 or so squares, a person new in their relationship? I don't know where all the latest uproar has come from. I think we all need to just deal with the fact that everyone has their own opinions. This Yardie thread doesn't belong to the vets, or the newbies, it belongs to VJ and we are all just users and posters to it. Its hard to say things that aren't PC on here for fear that we might annoy someone. I can say that since I came on here, I have gotten tons of useful information. Whether from people sharing insight into their personal lives, or on my visa process. I also learn alot from people whose opinions are different than mine. I gotta say thats one of the biggest reasons why I love this thread.....the fact that not everyone has the same robotic thought process. I may not agree with some of the things said, but I dont have to, cause guess what that's life, thats America....freedom of speech. Now if people are being offended in a personal way by what someone says, they should make it known to the person who offened them. We shouldnt all jump in and attack the original poster. We should try to understand why the OP made the comment in the first place. I truly dont think that anyone on THIS thread is malicious. You all seem to be good friends, your welcoming to us newcomers, and you're all very informative. Sometimes we may not all understand each other, and sometimes we may not always get along, but thats how it is with any genuine relationship. If some of you feel the need to sign off, I can understand. It may be that the thread is very personal to your heart, and the negative energy can manifest in your daily lives....so to that I say good choice to sign off for awhile and keep yourself stress free and positive. I think these tiffs come in waves, but we should just handle them with more respect and compassion. [/quote] I love how you posted this. I *think* that "veteran" would be those of us that have been on here from 2005 and earlier.....if that IS the case, than I guess that "I" would be that "veteran" ..........if someone feels that way, whatever. For ALL of those that "feel" they need to leave..........I just don't get that. We NEED your valuable advice and PERSONAL experience, experiences !!!!! Yes, IF someone has a beef with someone that contact THAT person personally, but if someone can't STEP UP to "confront someone", that's just sad. We are ALL adults with a TON of different opinions, values, experiences, in different parts of the world, oh gosh the list goes ..... "I" think that my honestly about MY relationship HAS helped many!!! Actually "I" know that for a fact that MY open-ness and NO BS has helped others......as I am also PM'd and emailed by many and the advice has helped me in soooo many ways !!!! I have personally found this site to be VERY VERY valuable, both "negative" AND positive !!! and this does not affect my relationship, well wait, to be honest it actually HAS affected it .....but it's been positive for us !!!! I share what everyone says with Craig. He not once says we chat to much, but he takes it all in and it makes him understand that HE is not the only one that does, says, feels, experiences stuff by himself !! The only thing that bothers me is the fact when someone makes a comment or opinion with an experience THEY have never actually experienced 1st hand !!!!!! So pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't feel you have to leave !!!!!!!!!! I won't be leaving and if I don't like what is being said, etc etc I just move past that.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-05 09:00:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I think thats a good idea, to have someone your SO can relate to when coming to the States. This has to be a cuture shock for them and being around the "familiar faces" is sure to help in some sort of way. This also brings up the fact that these Black men are coming from a country where their race is the majority. They never knew what it felt like to be the minority in their country, or hometown, or HOUSE for that matter. That can drive anyone crazy, trust me. Do some of your guys live in a neighborhood or city, where there are not many Black faces? Not much Black culture? That makes a HUGE difference. Its not a racist thing its just a comfort level. I grew up in a city that was 80% Black. There were cultural events catered to my race, people looked like me, talked like me, and I was made to feel of a higher self worth by just having the support and understanding of my people. When I went to college......BAM culture shock! The Black race was about %15-20. It was extremely hard to relate and fit in. People joked about my "accent", asked stupid questions about my hair, I couldnt find Black hair care products, not many Black churches, no old school music,hip hop or R&B to listen to on the radio, I was the only Black person in my major classes for the next 5 years! It was VERY lonely! This country is HUGE on race. Its in our face all the time. So you have to know when coming to America, race plays a big part on who you are. This isnt an issue in Jamaica. I'm am sure everyone, no matter what your race is can relate to this, if you ever were placed in a situation where you are no longer the majority. I have heard some White people say how hard it was for them to first go to Jamaica, because they knew they would be the minority, or I have had White friend not want to go to certain clubs with me because they would be a minority. I'm sure these situations conjuer up anxiety of the unknown, and unfamiliar. The only thing is that many of those White people don't realize that Blacks and many other races do it EVERY DAY! Now think about this Jamaican man, who has to be the ONLY one, the MINORITY, coming from a place where Black faces own businesses, teach classrooms, are on the face of money. I think this is an issue that can cause depression, homesickness, resentment to the one who he lives with, etc. etc. So as far as giving your SO a support group, maybe we need to look at a bigger and wider type of support that may be needed. [/quote] Yes, I totally agree that about not seeing black faces. I believe that is very important. We live in a very "cultured" neighborhood, although we aren't in a "hip hop/city area. We live in Ellicott City, close to the historic part. It's very cool here. This is a "rich" county with alot of white "with money" area....shoot, not that "I" have any, but it's around us --well outside of our apartment complex. I am white and so is my son....but "I" have friends from all races.....most of my friends are black and all of my best guy friends are black and I have introduced Craig to all of them. He likes them and they like him back. All but one of my sons friends are black. I have raised my son not to "see" color (unlike myself....I was NOT raised that way). I do (and have always) only listened to hip hop/R&B/Reggae from waaaaaaay back when... since I was in the 4th grade or so. My entire apartment from waaaaay before I met Craig is "caribbean/jamaican". One of my good friends in Jamaica carves and I have TONS of his artwork throughout the place. I actually asked Craig today if he felt the apartment was "girlie" and he was like, heck no....I feel right at home. Within Craig's 1st month here, we went to the Independence Day celebration in DC. Kimani Marley played amongst other great artists and also took him to see my friends that play in a Reggae band. They gave Craig soooooo many "props" welcoming him into the states every other song. It made him feel so special. I've taken Craig (along with my son) to alot Hip Hop/R&B concerts since he's been here. He's a soccer freak, as I am too. Since I am the travel agent for our professional indoor team here, we've been to every game. I've been to Craig's neck of the woods in Jamaica and I've been the ONLY white person for miles. I thought that was VERY cool !!! When I first went there, his little cousins had NEVER seen a white person, shoot much less TALK with and interact with one !!!! "I" have never felt uncomfortable ever. Craig and I look at each other..........."I" don't see color either....he's human just like me [quote name='sjb1221' post='885280' date='May 4 2007, 10:18 PM'][quote name='Jamaica to CT' post='885279' date='May 4 2007, 10:16 PM'] Congrats Jax!! [/quote] Congrats [/quote] TRIPLE congrats !!! Hey Ms. Kim	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-04 21:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	ENOUGH.......What has this thread become????........ It sure was not created three years ago to have people be nasty and rude to each other for spreading "their" experiences!!! We all come to this thread in different stages, different experiences, different lifestyles and we SHARE!!! We certainly do not pick over peoples posts and make them personal......IF you are here for that than GO AWAY!!! This site has been a wonderful thing for many people.....me included. I NEVER dreamed that I would be experiecing some of the things that I have gone through and the words of wisdom from others have helped emensely. Alien.....you have a different experience than all of us because we are mostly dealing with JA men...like Kelly said...your experiences are helpful to anyone who has a similar situation......PLEASE Stop the the attacks....we have lost too many veterans who started this post because new people come on here and ruin it...I left for many months because I was sick of some of the same stuff...... ALSO......we have no right to judge anyone. Telling Nanny that YOU would toss him on the street if it was YOU...HELLO??? And telling Kelly that Craig is here for opportunities.....Is all this necessary??? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! Stop this NOW or LEAVE the yardies thread..... Darlene......Stay around lady...we will clean up this thread and make it back to what it use dto be and what it was originally intende to be when Ms. Squito created it..... THANK YOU KIM !!!! Eh, I do feel I am being somewhat "attacked", but it rolls off my back because for one, she's not a MAN and for 2, she hasn't come here yet and "experienced" the US !!!! When I read back what was written ....yep, does say OBVIOUSLY Craig .....opportunities.... "I" TRULY do not think that you would JUST kick your man out onto the street for some STUPID ####### they are doing, PART OF THIS STUPID thoughtless ####### IS part of THEIR ADJUSTMENT !!! Mike, Craig and whoever else that is HERE for LOVE WILL GET IT !!!!!!!!!! It just takes awhile and yes patience is a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE part of the adjustment "phase" !!!! If I had a penny for EVERYTIME my son did something "wrong" or "not right", made a "bad decision/choice"............shoot, HE would have been gone a long time ago, right??? We do NOT give up on the ones we love just that easy. Relationships, marriage and/or a COMMITTED relationship takes ALOT of work. For us that are "older"...and have more LIFE experience, "WE" DO have ALOT of patience !!!!! So, everyone have a nice weekend. I MISS the heck out of our veterans....	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-04 15:38:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I suggest you get your facts straight before you accuse me of 'trashing' Jamaican men. Actually, I am English. Suprisingly enough I am moving to the US for LOVE Come on.................lighten up !!!! This is exactly WHY we've lost ladies (and maybe some men) from this thread !!! That's awesome that you ARE coming here for love...............but................please remember we are **mostly** talking about the "JA" MEN !!!!!!!!!!! Just an FYI, here in our area (of Maryland) Craig not having a GED, has not prevented him from getting a job. He's applied (and has received) jobs from 4 different temp agencies ...not once have any asked about schooling. Just the technolgy school he wants to go to.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-05-04 13:00:00