Forum	Title	Content	Member	Sex	Country	Date/Time
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 24 2007, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My hubby's bday is Sunday and I will be in JA with him. I am wanting to do something fun that day or at least go eat somewhere where he can get a surprise cake brought out to him and a happy bday song. Can anyone suggest a place in either Negril or Mobay. Also if you have any other suggestions on a good bday excursion or idea for that day let me know. Thanks There are so many places in Negril. Sweet & Spice, great food, good prices. There's a great little romantic place right on the beach called Mom's Place, very inexpensive. Kuyaba is nice, but expensive. Rock House is always really nice, but expensive. Great food at Norma's...yet expensive....went there for my birthday and my best friend surprised me when I got back from the bathroom, she had "hired" 3 guys from the beach to sing happy birthday. Roots has GREAT food and jazz night is on Sunday's. How about the Wild Thing has a GREAT excursion to Rhode's Hall Plantation..includes snorkeling, horseback riding if you wanted to and a great lunch. There's also the zipline tour through Chukka Adventures. I love the Black River Safari with the YS Falls. I've been all over that area.....gosh and have done so many different things. Hope that helps. Kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 20:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Oct 24 2007, 02:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jonesie @ Oct 24 2007, 02:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 24 2007, 10:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (brownnskinn @ Oct 24 2007, 09:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 24 2007, 11:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> thankyou but after Jonesie's post I'm trying to get them deleted QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 24 2007, 11:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Gill, I had a big strong drink last night!!!!!!! And, while I wanted to tell you all sooner, I kind of believe in not jinxing myself. Better to wait till the end and give you all the story, anyhow. I'm glad everything worked out ok. Oops sorry. Let me see if I can remove them. Just an FYI to all...we ALL have an internet signature/identity even if you post on Yahoo Gorups. Nothing in cyberspace is completely private so if you are worried about cyber identity its most likely already been compromised. I work in this stuff daily and its amazing the stuff you can find on someone with a little effort online.....sorry don't want o scare anyone But I think I remember Jonesie having a girl use her pics on mypace...that was ridiculous. Blackplanet, Myspace (I'm not members of either site)...and those are the only ones I know about. Every now and then ppl from high school contact me and ask me "did you post your pic on so and so..." I like our little community on Yahoo but I know nothing is totally secure. Damn shame how gyal waan fi front like dem a mi. Dem cyaan hot like mi How do I see the Yahoo photos of our group?? Gill I posted this information a couple of pages back..........a couple of times. Go onto ... http://groups.yahoo....oup/JA_USLinkUP and sign up. Ms Squitto needs to give you permission to be able to join the group and that's where alot of us have posted our pictures	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 13:58:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Here's my big cat..he's about 30 lbs. The 1st time Craig saw him (in person) he almost had a heart attack....now, dear lawd...Pippen is his buddy !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:46:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Craig's 1st snow...	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:43:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	After the ceremony... we got married at the park right up the street. It's so darn beautiful there...	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:17:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Wedding Day.. Wedding Day..	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:10:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	This is when he 1st got here and lost a ton of weight...	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:07:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Lets see if this works. Here are pics from last year....I'm looking for some from this year, but I haven't even had my fild developed in forever..	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-24 09:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (clairern @ Oct 23 2007, 10:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Oct 23 2007, 10:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Ok...did this work? No dahlin!! Do what JaEnglishgirl advised me to. Go to Photobucket.com and upload your pics there, then click on [IMG] and right click to copy and patste into your Yardies reply. That's all and I got it. There's already an establised yardie thread on Yahoo that has everyone's photos in there. Just email her and ask her to let you join that group and then post your pictures on there with everyone else.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-23 09:41:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Here's a link to where we've all kept pictures... http://groups.yahoo....oup/JA_USLinkUP You need to "ask Squitto" -she's the coordinator of the group and there you'll be able to post your pictures among allllllll of the other VJrs.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-23 06:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	If anyone was able to watch Oprah today..........OH MY, it was truly and absoLUTELY inspirational !!! http://www2.oprah.co...?promocode=HP13	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-22 15:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Ms Squitto @ Oct 21 2007, 12:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wow...well I see this post is ever growing and still going strong. Almost 600 pages and this must be like the 4th installment. I never thought it would have grown so much over the last two years when I started it. I'm glad that it has become a place for all yankee/yardie couples to meet, chat, share advice and support one another. I know I've been really bad about coming in to visit but life has totally gotten in the way. There was a time that I was so engulfed by the immigration process that I guess once it was over it was nice to take a break. But don't think for a second that you all are not in my thoughts and prayers. I have a bit of news to share, Squito and I are expecting our first child in April. I guess another one bit the dust huh, lol. I remember when Rhonda had me at the top of the baby list. We should've put some money on it because look at how many others got knocked before I did, lol. Anyway, just stopping by to check in and say hello. Hope everyone is doing well. xo, Mooma Squitto Hey Woman !!! CONGRATS !! I'm soooooooooooooooooooooo not drinking the VJ wata !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-21 19:29:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (clairern @ Oct 20 2007, 05:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Oct 18 2007, 03:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 18 2007, 03:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 03:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Oct 18 2007, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> yes mike is/was 24...he will be 25....but more like going on 5.....here is a good example...last night whinning that he doesn't have everything he wants...he wants this and that...and wants someone who can buy him whatever he wants...blah blah blah keeping ME up till 12 am...complaning...singing just being a jerk...and then like a little child asks me if i am mad at him when we got up....it just never ends Well good Lord does he have a job? Does he say these things cause he expects you to buy them for him. I find this to be a Jamaican trait. LOL. I thik it comes from the misperception of how much money American make or have. Yes as well as Craig. He does the same thing, but not to that extent. Before Craig went to Philly last week, he whined that he didn't have ANY clothes (meanwhile, he has a TON) !!! but...ya know, not "name bran sh&t"....so he kept saying, so are you going to buy me something? and I'm like, um....NO....you have a job, budget yourself to go and BUY some stuff. We went to Walmart and I did get him a $5.93 shirt! He picked it out and he LOVES the shirt, but I was not going to buy him shoes, pants, etc etc. OH HECK NO !!! Mike is a picky booger when it comes to clothes !!! Craig was to for about the first 2 months, then he started working (at a football warehouse) and saw HOW expensive clothes really were! So when I brought home 97 cent shirts (about 10 of them) with the price tags of the original price still on them, marked down....he was SHOCKED !!!! I LOOOOOVE Old Navy ....... that goes out to you kelly Damien is a "label ho" but I don't have a problem with it because he buys it with HIS money. He doesn't waste money, pays bills on time, takes me out on dates, buys my daughter and I stuff all the time so I can't complain. He'll ask my opinion before he buys something expensive....no, I don't understand it but he deserves it. He works at least 30 hours overtime every pay period. He'll buy himself something nice every 3 months or so. I'm glad Mike is very mature and not into labels. Those things cost a fortune. Imagine making these people whose names are on these items richer. Riduculous. I but them but at Marshall's, Ross and such. Yeah, I remember back when Craig was mature ...........but...............allllllllllllllllllllll things changed when he got to the states !!!!!!!!!!!!! Craig was NEVER into labels, until he got here, but then that quickly went away when he saw how much things cost !!!!!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-20 18:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marie87 @ Oct 19 2007, 05:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 03:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> How old was he when he got here? It would be interesting to know the ages of ALL our SO's when they arrived here. I don't know how old my guy will be when he gets here...so we'll see as time progresses. Wow...I think I'm the youngest on here..me and my SO are both 20. Not sure how old he'll be when he gets here. I feel like a baby compared to you all BUT I love this thread because of all the honesty and how everyone shares their experiences. I'm learning so much from you all and I appreciate each and every one of you Wow, that's young....oh, those days to be 20. Do NOT rush into things, you have your entire life to live.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 16:48:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	How does stuffing envelopes work?? Does it pay well? [/quote] I'm the "computer operator" for a financial advisor, been working here for 2 1/2 yrs. I do all the "behind the scenes" stuff...including stuffing flippin envelopes of his client letters (BS, who cares letters) every month. It's about 400 and then another 400 next week. It's a VEEEERY easy job. He works out of his home in a nice "business" setting, he just recently hired 2 new people (the guy, service asst... is very cool, but the girl, sales asst... is VERY high maintenance and a bee-atch..thinks her you know what doesn't stink!--which is difficult to deal with, we don't even speak to each other) and since there's no room "in the office", I'm now in one of his daughters (huge) bedroom that's here in the basement. So I have PRIVATE time, a TV and getting the phone hooked up soon. He can be extremely difficult to work for sometimes...having OCD. I also babysit (the have 4 kids), sometimes for them as well. He pays me pretty good, for what I do and I just got a bonus 2 wks ago. I got this job from a temp agency, here in the area.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 15:22:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	I'm bored sitting here at my pt-time job stuffing envelopes....and searching the web. I LOVE, love, love the author Terry McMillan and was checking to see if she's writing a new book (I've read all of her books to date)...this was interesting what she wrote ... http://www.washingto...7061901718.html I LOVE the diary of a Gigalo !!! Excellent.... you should email Terry and get that darn thing published. There is also something on www.amazon.com about publishing !!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 14:31:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (JA Tam @ Oct 19 2007, 03:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 19 2007, 02:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Interesting interview !!! http://www.visajourn...showtopic=92383 That was very interesting. I hope it works out for them and they don't get stuck in the immigration blackhole Especially this part ---- well and after that he said u go outside so i did i went out side and he start talking to my wife. he just wanna make sure that everything doing ok. he asked her if she sure that she wanna give me the green card, and my wife said sure i am sure he's my husband, and he said yeah but we hear everday so many people using each other for this thing i mean to get the green card and to run lol. it's Funny. and she said yes i know and i love my husband. he said ok no problem i just want to warn you. and he said seem everything in order here just get what i ask u to get	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 14:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	Interesting interview !!! http://www.visajourn...showtopic=92383 Interesting interview !!! http://www.visajourn...showtopic=92383	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 13:56:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	JG and Yardie, I agree 100%. It sounds as if some of them come here and loose all the maturity that they displayed in Jamaica. I always told my ex that I was teaching him things so that he could be able to maintain our household for our children if something happened to me. He thought I should be happy because he was putting his entire check every week on the dresser. I thought is was cute in the beginning, and I would take enough for bills...then give him back the rest. Then, I said okay...you don't want to man up...then I will force you to. So, I started keeping the entire check...every week. He started complaining about not having gas money or money to eat out with his co-workers at lunch. I told him, that was your choice to manage your money that way. I was trying to get him used to setting his budget and managing bills. I handled the mortgage, and he was supposed to handle all the utilities. He would have had more than enough money left over if he had taken the time to manage his own paychecks. He went as far as letting his checking account close because he was overdrawn by $10, and he wanted me to handle it because he was embarrassed. I refused, so the account closed. QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Oct 19 2007, 12:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Happy Birthday Jawi! Gosh try over $1000 from Jan-April ..being overdrawn and he overdraws his account by hundreds each month. It truly amazes that his account has NOT been closed yet !!!! and I tell him all of the time, one of these days you're gonna go to pull out money and don't be surprised when your card doesn't come back OR if you go to buy something and you are REJECTED !!! QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Oct 19 2007, 12:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jengles @ Oct 19 2007, 08:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 19 2007, 11:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Oh, Kel.....I had to have that conversation with Andre too. He met some guys "at the park" and not for friendship. After many conversations, I had to tell him not to frequent the park and what concerned me about the whole thing. I think the statement from me "if you get arrested for this and jeopardize this entire visa process, I will kill not visit you in prison" that got to him. After seeing my reasoning, he has since stopped going there altogether. I also feel very lucky that he did not want to befriend these guys. He said he's not into more people latching on to him and since they don't seem to have regular jobs, he can see where they would hinder him anyhow. I think that was very mature of him to see that...and also to notice that the hang out thing is different here vs. in JA. mr jengles used to play "Ludy" not sure if i'm spelling it right, down in JA, but with guys who worked and after work would get together and play. but up here I wouldn't want him hanging out with guys who played dominos in the park at all hours. totally different kind of crowd. That is the key right there! Back in JA Andre hung out with people from work and in his neighboorhood and from church. He got a job here at a place that is "drug central" in our community - a processing/manufacturing job. It is a good job and he likes it because it pays well...but they hire any and everyone and they are always hiring. So he doesn't have the best crowd at work then the whole community/neighbor thing here is way different. It is nothing like in JA where everyone is friendly. They all stick to themselves. So no friends there. Then he couldn't find a church that he liked for all sorts of various reasons. So no friends from a church. So then the only place for friends was from work. You can voice your displeasure in their choice of friends (I did very loudly ) but at the end of the day it is their decision and you can't play mama. Eventually the consequences of the poor choices caught up to him and in hindsight he sees the problems and how they arose. Sometimes you just have to step back and let them fall and get in trouble and NOT bail them out. Let them realize the magnitude of the problems they now have to deal with and no longer have someone (a spouse) to bail them out all the time. Once Andre had to start dealing first hand with the severe and painful consequences he wasn't so quick to do it again. It is hard to step back and let your SO fail and falter to a degree...but in the end it made him realize a whole lot more than my cussing and nagging and tears ever did. I could talk until I was blue in the face but until it impacted him directly he just didn't see how bad it all was. He learned that I was and always will be there to support and love him but I am not going to fix all the problems he finds himself in based on his bad choices. So well worded Jamie !!! I'm just sick and tired of training !!!!!!!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 13:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 19 2007, 09:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Yardiewife @ Oct 18 2007, 05:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Hello everyone! First off...Marie I am so sorry for the loss of your uncle Hope all my Yardie family is doing well So as for the recent topic... Andre was 27 when he got here and is 29 now. He has changed a lot since he first got here...I am sure I changed a lot as well. I think the biggest thing was going from a "vacation/no worries attitude" to a "real life/work/responsibility attitude". Andre has a hard time realizing that what people have didn't happen overnight and it won't happen overnight for him. I don't know how many times I have had to explain that they have ______ fill in the blank because they have worked hard for YEARS to obtain that and it is crazy to expect to have the same things in only a matter of months. We also had a hard time with what I call the "kid in a candy shop" syndrome. There was just so many "new" things here to do and with the money he was making he liked to go out and buy tons of stuff and spend it on "wants" instead of "needs". He got caught up with the wrong crowd and reverted back to the "bachelor" life forgetting he was now a married man. The adjustment for us has been brutal. It is still something we deal with almost daily 25 months later. I think each person adjust differently and each person will go through struggles...some more severe than others. All in all it takes a boatload of patience and understanding and sometimes some good couples therapy if you can get them there Just my $0.02 This is a great post. Seems the common thread is all of them is if the man gets caught up in the wrong crowd. I seem to see that over and over again. How do you ensure your SO doesn't get caught up in the wrong crowd? And, how do you tell them that even if they do, they are grown men and have to take responsibility for their actions? Depending on the job your SO takes/gets. Craig started at a warehouse job. Loads of thuggy thug, no responsibility, come and go when they pleased, drugs and cigarette smoking. Craig lost focus on priorites, but he's with them more than he saw me. So trying to talk "sense" into him was a HUGE challenge. I've never met any of his so called "friends", no desire to. I remember one guy (african) picked him up and didn't bother to come in to meet me, he just honked his horn. I let Craig have it !!!! There's a loser/goofball lookin (drug guy--weed) that walks around past out place in our neighborhood, Craig and this guy call to each other and I tell Craig EVERY time, and when someone sees you they all KNOW that "I" don't associate with that type of person, neither should you !!! It's a lost cause sometimes, because it is that fine line.....they are "supposed" to be mature adults right ?	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 10:08:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (rhondapayter @ Oct 19 2007, 02:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 01:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> So as far as how you would like to raise your kids, you may just have to compromise and in some ways raise them the way he would like also. Its all about respect and understanding of one anothers culture in the end. I know one of the "issues" my friend had when they had their baby was that he wanted to pierce her ears immediately after baby was born and she was totally against the idea. I guess it's very typical for little babies to get ears pierced in JA right away. Well, it was a big argument and they didn't do it. Now the baby is over 2 yrs. old and she wishes she would have gotten them done when she was a baby! Now she's at the age where she'll play with them or pull them out etc.. What do you ladies think? Since I'm having a girl, I'm sure this is going to come up soon in my house! I don't know why there's a rush, yes it looks very cute...but, having to clean them everyday, make sure she doesn't pull them out, get stuck in something, lose them, swallow them, etc etc. I personally would wait until she was old enough to be able to take care of them herself. I wasn't "allowed" to get my ears pierced until I was in the 8th grade....my 1st pair. With the circumcision.....since I was on assistance then and didn't get "approved" when my son was born, he was 18 days old !! It was crazy, he made no noise until they moved him from the warm table to the cold table.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 09:52:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (12/11/2006 @ Oct 19 2007, 07:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I saw a question that I thought would be a good one to ask here in this particular forum. How would you feel about your SO viewing a gay porn website? Gay porn..........um, can someone say RED FLAGS ??????????????????? Porn altogether on the computer should be a HUGE no-no, the millions of viruses you're putting onto the computer ....not worth it !!! Craig has no clue how to use a computer, nor will I allow him to use the one that I have at home because it is my livelihood. Since I own my travel business and work from home, 98% of my work is done on my computer. I'm not having Craig (or my son) get on it and get into things that will f**k it up!!!! My son knows how to use the computer and he knows NOT to go into certain places, Craig on the other hand..... will !! One time I had a neighbor watch Austin while I was in JA. He browsed and browsed and SCREWED up my computer like crazy....I was PISSED because it took me almost a week to clean it all out and that was a week of lost business, hence I didn't pay him for watching Austin because "I" lost money!!!! If the computer was misused by my SO, than he would be LOCKED out of the computer !!!!! period...	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-19 09:43:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 04:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jengles @ Oct 18 2007, 03:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> the problem i forsee with mr jengles is how much money he wants to send down to JA, my man said he wanted to send down $150.00 a week, so i calmly informed how much daycare will cost for our little bundle of joy, and stated that we need a bigger house. After that he did wig out a little bit wondering if he could get a job that would pay him enough so that he could meet his "personal responsibilities" as he put it. So that is where I said this is why u are getting your GED and will go to school for your CDL. The only thing he's asked for since he's been here is a pair of sneakers and I told him I don't buy footwear for men and kept it moving. Yah, that is a problem. The money home thing. Good luck with that. Gets especially hard when they start putting more pressure on him. The shoes things cracks me up. Been there on that one. AND the big one........is when family/friends in JA find out he's working !!!! Than expect those calls to come in like crazy !!!! Craig's mother called every Thursday night at 10:30pm (knowing he gets paid every Friday) !!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 19:20:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 03:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Oct 18 2007, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> yes mike is/was 24...he will be 25....but more like going on 5.....here is a good example...last night whinning that he doesn't have everything he wants...he wants this and that...and wants someone who can buy him whatever he wants...blah blah blah keeping ME up till 12 am...complaning...singing just being a jerk...and then like a little child asks me if i am mad at him when we got up....it just never ends Well good Lord does he have a job? Does he say these things cause he expects you to buy them for him. I find this to be a Jamaican trait. LOL. I thik it comes from the misperception of how much money American make or have. Yes as well as Craig. He does the same thing, but not to that extent. Before Craig went to Philly last week, he whined that he didn't have ANY clothes (meanwhile, he has a TON) !!! but...ya know, not "name bran sh&t"....so he kept saying, so are you going to buy me something? and I'm like, um....NO....you have a job, budget yourself to go and BUY some stuff. We went to Walmart and I did get him a $5.93 shirt! He picked it out and he LOVES the shirt, but I was not going to buy him shoes, pants, etc etc. OH HECK NO !!! Mike is a picky booger when it comes to clothes !!! Craig was to for about the first 2 months, then he started working (at a football warehouse) and saw HOW expensive clothes really were! So when I brought home 97 cent shirts (about 10 of them) with the price tags of the original price still on them, marked down....he was SHOCKED !!!! I LOOOOOVE Old Navy ....... that goes out to you kelly	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 14:26:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Oct 18 2007, 03:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> How old was he when he got here? It would be interesting to know the ages of ALL our SO's when they arrived here. I don't know how old my guy will be when he gets here...so we'll see as time progresses. Damien was (is) a baby...he came here 22 years-old...3 years ago. We're almost 11 years apart. Someone raised him right !!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 14:12:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Oct 18 2007, 02:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 02:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Well, I now know that "immaturity" has a HUGE factor one that was brought out in FULL FORCE after he got here. Never saw that person, ever before. I mean in my situation, pure stupidity is the reason for his lack of adjustment. Trust me, I've been patient, I have compromised to the fullest extent....now LEARN from your mistakes and grow from the experience !!! Talking and doing ....easier said than done (in alot of cases) !!!! Bash him....shoot, that's just tooo darn funny !!! Then again, I think my relationship is different from all the others?? Question for those that have their SO's here AND have been here awhile........how many can say their SO "changed" when they got here? In my case, oh absolutely. But, I think for the better. And, mostly cause he sees things differently now. He's adapted well to married life, step-kids, and all the new situations he's faced. I think your situation, while not unique, Kelly, is definately different then most on here. I get exactly what you are saying, yet I have a heard time imagining it. Probably cause I am not in that same situation. I know I respect you for being a better person then I would ever be able to be in that situation. He would not have lasted in my household. You are wonderful for putting up with it all. And, yah, I agree, some things are easier said then done. Until you are actually in the situations, you just don't know. I agree with Jomo's girl. Damien changed for the better. He stepped up to the plate and handled his business. I never have remind him of his responsibilities. His overall adjustment has been well...no major complaints. It's tough sometimes but nothing prayer and patience can't handle.... That's awesome and trust me, I envy both of your relationships!! Dag, I WISH Craig was the person (mature & responsible) man that he was "before" he got here..... but....Kelly, "my" situation is SOOOOO not unique, because "I" know that there are a TON more yardies (past and present) on VJ whose men/women ....well, lets just say Craig is a good boy !!!!! Ya know, I just chose to tell "my story" outloud while others keep it to themselves. As we've said a trillion times before on here, we respect that they do that.........but...........knowing that they are NOT alone, helps tremendously !!! QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 03:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Oct 18 2007, 11:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 18 2007, 02:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 01:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 18 2007, 06:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 18 2007, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 09:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. everything he want to compare like how we raise our children to the way they raise there children its really getting on my nerve Sorry, but this makes me laugh.... because this stuff will continue to be like that even AFTER he gets here!!!!! Doesn't matter (as we've posted on several times in past posts), they don't "get it", "feel it", "know it" UNTIL they get here!!!! Craig STILL throws in my face.....even last night......well, in Jamaica we did it .....that way!!!! I have to remind him (15 months later) that you are IN THE US OF A !!!! We do NOT do that here !!! Just to comment on how these antics may continue when your SO gets here...I think thats all well and true cause just cause they get to the US doesnt mean that they are all of a sudden "American" and checked their Jamaican identity at the door. I think the adjustment is better depending on how un-selfish your SO is, and how much they are willing to compromise with you. I sometimes think that we as Americans are so used to many people of different countries and cultures coming here or living here but we like the fact that those people "melt" into our pot rather than just get "tossed" in. So don't hold on to the idea that he will be the same way when he gets here. Let him know how you feel and how the two of you should begin working on your compromising skills now cause you are both coming from 2 different cultures and societies so BOTH your ideas and notions are valid and correct its just that they dont always agree with each other. You can't really bash him for having a different opinion than you cause his opinion is all he knows. So as far as how you would like to raise your kids, you may just have to compromise and in some ways raise them the way he would like also. I think these are all just the BASIC concepts that come into a marriage whether from 2 different cultures or not. I think some of us on here have more problems cause of how fast the marriage came before the discussion of these types of compromises....so you just have to work a bit harder in the beginning. Its all about respect and understanding of one anothers culture in the end. Well, I now know that "immaturity" has a HUGE factor one that was brought out in FULL FORCE after he got here. Never saw that person, ever before. I mean in my situation, pure stupidity is the reason for his lack of adjustment. Trust me, I've been patient, I have compromised to the fullest extent....now LEARN from your mistakes and grow from the experience !!! Talking and doing ....easier said than done (in alot of cases) !!!! Bash him....shoot, that's just tooo darn funny !!! Then again, I think my relationship is different from all the others?? Question for those that have their SO's here AND have been here awhile........how many can say their SO "changed" when they got here? ok i just re-read this....mike and i had LONG talks on what i wanted from him and what he wanted from me way before he got here...i told him there were a lot of things that were going to be differnt here and that he needed to get that into his head before he got here...example....not being to hang out on the streets, having to save money for things...money doesn't grow on trees...there are not taxi cabs everywhere people will not stop for you...i would like some help out around the house i work 10 hour days with likkle kids....and his response was that is fine as long as i am with you i don't care about that stuff and will all work out....i thought we had talked and compermised on certain things and that he was going to get when he got here....fast forward a year later....we are STILL STILL STILL working on everything we talked about before he got here...yes i think his age has a lot to do with....when he got here he was a kid in the freakin candy store....with everything he saw he wanted.... How old was he when he got here? It would be interesting to know the ages of ALL our SO's when they arrived here. I don't know how old my guy will be when he gets here...so we'll see as time progresses. Craig was 27 ....now 28.....going on 10 !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 14:02:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 18 2007, 01:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 18 2007, 06:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 18 2007, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 09:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. everything he want to compare like how we raise our children to the way they raise there children its really getting on my nerve Sorry, but this makes me laugh.... because this stuff will continue to be like that even AFTER he gets here!!!!! Doesn't matter (as we've posted on several times in past posts), they don't "get it", "feel it", "know it" UNTIL they get here!!!! Craig STILL throws in my face.....even last night......well, in Jamaica we did it .....that way!!!! I have to remind him (15 months later) that you are IN THE US OF A !!!! We do NOT do that here !!! Just to comment on how these antics may continue when your SO gets here...I think thats all well and true cause just cause they get to the US doesnt mean that they are all of a sudden "American" and checked their Jamaican identity at the door. I think the adjustment is better depending on how un-selfish your SO is, and how much they are willing to compromise with you. I sometimes think that we as Americans are so used to many people of different countries and cultures coming here or living here but we like the fact that those people "melt" into our pot rather than just get "tossed" in. So don't hold on to the idea that he will be the same way when he gets here. Let him know how you feel and how the two of you should begin working on your compromising skills now cause you are both coming from 2 different cultures and societies so BOTH your ideas and notions are valid and correct its just that they dont always agree with each other. You can't really bash him for having a different opinion than you cause his opinion is all he knows. So as far as how you would like to raise your kids, you may just have to compromise and in some ways raise them the way he would like also. I think these are all just the BASIC concepts that come into a marriage whether from 2 different cultures or not. I think some of us on here have more problems cause of how fast the marriage came before the discussion of these types of compromises....so you just have to work a bit harder in the beginning. Its all about respect and understanding of one anothers culture in the end. Well, I now know that "immaturity" has a HUGE factor one that was brought out in FULL FORCE after he got here. Never saw that person, ever before. I mean in my situation, pure stupidity is the reason for his lack of adjustment. Trust me, I've been patient, I have compromised to the fullest extent....now LEARN from your mistakes and grow from the experience !!! Talking and doing ....easier said than done (in alot of cases) !!!! Bash him....shoot, that's just tooo darn funny !!! Then again, I think my relationship is different from all the others?? Question for those that have their SO's here AND have been here awhile........how many can say their SO "changed" when they got here?	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 13:21:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	The guys in JA are so bold-faced. I was leaving JA and checked into the airport at 4:30am and spent some time outside with Mike before I had to go through customs/immigration. As I was going through security this guy was trying to pick me up. I looked at him with disbelief in my eyes. It is so sad, because most of them is just looking for an easy ride and don't care sho they pick up. [/quote] Ummmm....in the 10 yrs I've been going to Jamaica, that's how they've ALWAYS been !!!! Anywhere, everywhere...even with my son at my side !!! Everytime we've gone out to catch our ride to Negril, the group of men/boys sitting there.... "1st time to Jamaica" and proceed to TRY .....and I've been 26x !!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 10:00:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 10:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> So yesterday............The limited the race to 50 guys. Butt ugly shoes. Do men actually see us as wearing such ugly shoes? One guy had zebra striped KISS boots. They taped the shoes on to try and limit casualities. Made them sign all kinds of waivers. http://i51.photobuck...621337_0002.jpg http://i51.photobuck...621337_0001.jpg 10 groups of 5 men raced. Whittled the winners down to 2 groups of 5. Whittled down to 2 guys. The prize....4 front row Hanna Montana tickets and 4 back stage passes. (BTW....whoever commented on the Jonas Brothers in a previous post....they are the opening band.) http://i51.photobuck...621337_0003.jpg http://i51.photobuck...621337_0004.jpg http://i51.photobuck...621337_0005.jpg Andre won his first race. Lost the 2nd. At least he didn't fall, dive on the concrete, or lose a shoe like some men. And, he got a free t-shirt. I have never laughed so hard in my entire life. (Ah, the things we do for our kids!) Tooooooooooooo darn funny. I would have pee'd my pants watchin !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 09:57:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 09:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 18 2007, 08:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 18 2007, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 08:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DonnaJay @ Oct 17 2007, 06:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We have been together 2 and half months now. The time has speed by for us. We are thinking that we need more time past the expiration on her K-1 visa. What options do we have? If she were to go back to Jamaica would we have to go through the whole process from the beginning? What if we married in Jamaica the first quarter of the year? If we were to file a K-3 or CR-1 where would we start? Oh, Jay. What happened? Yes, if you go back to Jamaica, you have to refile. Same with the K-3 and CR-1. You would start from the beginning. QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 09:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. What do you mean? Like going out all the time? everything he want to compare like how we raise our children to the way they raise there children its really getting on my nerve Sorry, but this makes me laugh.... because this stuff will continue to be like that even AFTER he gets here!!!!! Doesn't matter (as we've posted on several times in past posts), they don't "get it", "feel it", "know it" UNTIL they get here!!!! Craig STILL throws in my face.....even last night......well, in Jamaica we did it .....that way!!!! I have to remind him (15 months later) that you are IN THE US OF A !!!! We do NOT do that here !!! Andre does that too, Luv. But, not in a mean way. Well, sometimes in mean way....like when he couldn't seem to pass the driver's license testing and he pretty much screamed in frustration that in Jamaica he would just buy one. All I did there was say.....is that really a good idea? to have people who can't pass the test actually driving. Think about it. He did and he saw a different perspective. And, I've found that Andre is not always complementary to JA in his comparisions. Yesterday, he got a tatoo here. I have always said his Jamaican tatoos were not as professional as some I had seen here. (I balked yesterday when he told me the guy did the one he has in 20 minutes....now, I know why.) Yesterday, after his tatoo, he immediately, he said to me....I see the difference. I guess my husband doesn't do a lot of that complaining and comparing stuff cause I usually just say, get used to it. Craig wasn't saying in a mean way, just a stupid way.... like not thinking way....which is totally typical !! Craig wants a tattoo as well, but they are veeeery expensive in our area. The one he would like to get....ugly !!! He HATES needles and when I tell him about getting a tattoo, they use a needle and it HURTS LIKE HE&& (cause I have one on my ankle area)....changes his mind up real quick.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 09:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 18 2007, 09:43 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Jomo @ Oct 18 2007, 08:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (DonnaJay @ Oct 17 2007, 06:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> We have been together 2 and half months now. The time has speed by for us. We are thinking that we need more time past the expiration on her K-1 visa. What options do we have? If she were to go back to Jamaica would we have to go through the whole process from the beginning? What if we married in Jamaica the first quarter of the year? If we were to file a K-3 or CR-1 where would we start? Oh, Jay. What happened? Yes, if you go back to Jamaica, you have to refile. Same with the K-3 and CR-1. You would start from the beginning. QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 09:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. What do you mean? Like going out all the time? everything he want to compare like how we raise our children to the way they raise there children its really getting on my nerve Sorry, but this makes me laugh.... because this stuff will continue to be like that even AFTER he gets here!!!!! Doesn't matter (as we've posted on several times in past posts), they don't "get it", "feel it", "know it" UNTIL they get here!!!! Craig STILL throws in my face.....even last night......well, in Jamaica we did it .....that way!!!! I have to remind him (15 months later) that you are IN THE US OF A !!!! We do NOT do that here !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 08:51:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 10:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JA Tam @ Oct 17 2007, 09:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 10:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (JA Tam @ Oct 17 2007, 09:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. Oh Ms Nelly, I had that problem with hubby. Even though he is considering Miramar, Kingston 21, he will experience that things do run differently here than in Jamaica. Honestly, he is going to have to experience it for himself before he understands where you are coming from. HE REALLY MADE ME MAD THE OTHER HE CALLED BUT I WAS WASHING MY HAIR THEN HE CALLED AGAIN I WAS IN THE TUB HE WENT OFF LIKE WHY U DIDNT ANSWER THE PHONE I DONT LIKE THAT AT ALL AND HE SEEM TO NOT UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM BUSY In this regard, you going to have to let him have it. You need some time for yourself; what...him expect you to be at his every beck and call? Does he have trust issues? Nip this in the bud before he comes here thinking he is going to be a ruler over you, is equal partnership we are dealing with here I KNOW I MUST NIP IT NOW, ITS LIKE WHEN HE CALL AND I DONT ANSWER HE CALL RIGHT BACK AND BACK HECK I WORK 2 JOBS A SISTA BE BEAT SOME DAYS Shoot and when he gets here and you're still working your 2 jobs (me included) they do NOT understand "or get" why we're soooooo tired and "we" neeeeed time for ourselves!!! I wish I could sit on the couch for 10 min and channel surf without ALONE !!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 07:37:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (MSNELLY @ Oct 17 2007, 10:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> MY GUY IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF, ITS SO HARD TO GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND WHEN I SAY I AM TIRED I JUST WANT TO REST ,AND ITS LIKE HE ALWAYS TRYING TO COMPARE HOW THINGS ARE DONE IN JAMAICA TO HOW WE DO THINGS IN THE USA DO ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS PROBLEMS. All I gotta say, is good luck with that.....it's 50x worse when they get here and when I say you need LOADS of patience !!!! Trust me on that !! He will NEVER "get it" until he's here and a year goes by....	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-18 07:34:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (AlienUKGirl @ Oct 16 2007, 08:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (rhondapayter @ Oct 16 2007, 03:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (BelwinMills @ Oct 15 2007, 07:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Wow Shauna you are so lucky never to have blood drawn before. Man they never made me drink nothing to give my 6 tubes of blood. I got poked twice. One arm ran out of blood so they poked the other. I am so use to nurses not being able to find my veins I just laugh. Just wait until your IV those things hurt. Giving blood is a piece of cake. I have been in the hospital numerous times and the IV's always get me. I think this is my first and last pergnancy with all the morning sickness I can't take it. Jax, you probably just haven't had your glucose test yet. Most docs do it around 28-32 weeks. I've had surgery 5 times so I know all about IV's too You should start feeling better soon. Once you hit 13 or 14 weeks, the nausea and sickness should subside. The 2nd trimester is a piece of cake compared to the 1st If you're lucky!! Mine lasted until almost 20 weeks, then the heartburn started Didn't actually stop throwing up for my entire pregnancy, if I got something stuck in my throat and had to cough, everything would come up urghhhh HATED being pregnant, NEVER again!! I LOVED being pregnant!! I never felt nauseous ever. I had heartburn and horrible backaches in my 4th month till the end. I'd go through TUMS like it was going out of style!! My "ride" was a 10 speed bike that I rode up till the day before I gave birth (didn't have a car) and riding the bus sucked sometimes. My son constantly got hiccups, that was about the most annoying thing. I never had any other reasons to have blood drawn until my pregnancy and they drew a ton!! I could never sit and watch.	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-16 08:23:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Jengles @ Oct 15 2007, 11:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> hey everyone - I'm back to work today, so i will be posting more, mr jengles is home with the baby...he's not feeling that exactly but i told him it is what we have to do for now, he wants to work something i am pleased about but i have to work on feeling out his aos papers. I know alot of men don't "get" that they have to be a responsible parent when they chose to get a woman pregnant ....but um, helllloooo??? Whose gonna when we have to go to work !! ??	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 12:28:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 15 2007, 01:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Oct 15 2007, 07:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Had my blood taken today.....yuck....first time i ever had it done...... OMG!!! How old are you?! This is the FIRST time you ever had blood drawn? Are you sure? Shoot, I was pregnant at 27 when I had those viles of blood taken from me. I had never had blood drawn like that up to that point?! and now that I'm 42, hasn't happened since that time.....	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 12:24:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	TOO FUNNY !!! well, sortof... My little cat (he's 4) is running around the apartment trying to catch this fly that's driving him crazy madness !!!! He's jumping in the air, jumping on tables, walls, etc.... the big cat, laying around looking at him like he's nuts !!! I'm trying to work ....ugh !	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 09:16:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (nannygirl82 @ Oct 15 2007, 09:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 15 2007, 07:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 15 2007, 02:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 14 2007, 06:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Oct 14 2007, 09:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 14 2007, 09:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I've met Craig's brother...last May when I went down for the interview and hung out with him for 48 hours.....but still.....invitation in writing ???!!!!! What trying to save flippin 41 cents ???!! TOTAL FLIPPIN BS !!! True but why didn't Craig tell you?? I'm sure he didn't find out 2 weeks ago that he was the best man. I would be more angry with Craig than his family. Oh trust me Shemanya I'm totally pissed off at Craig although he has absolutely "no idea" as to why!!! When I brought the whole wedding thing up or tried to discuss it, it was truly like talking to a 10 yr old!!! I don't know this and I'm not sure of that.... and I'm like whatever !!!! Of course "I" look like the bad guy for not being there and not picking him up. "I" could really and truly care less!! Asking his brother questions, where are you getting married?.....answer: in a church. What area? answer: here, near to our home....where is that ? Ardmore, where is that ? couldn't answer ... (he's been here over a year)...one worded answers. What time is the rehearsal dinner? no answer, Where is the rehearsal dinner? no answer....What time is the wedding? ...answer: in the afternoon ...I asked, exactly what time? didn't answer. I didn't have the extra funds available for a hotel stay and trust me, for the weekend in that area, nothing was less than $150/night!! I asked if there was a hotel that they set up for out of town guests, he's said, I don't know. That's when I said (nicely--cause I like his brother, he was nice to me) .............sorry I won't be able to make it. I could tell that I was not really "wanted" there, which was absolutely fine with me. It was a weekend ALL TO MYSELF (my son was still here) !!!!! Which ....was very very nice !!! and no arguing and bickering about STUPID ####### !!!!!! I was just gonna say it was obvious that they didnt want you there and for a specific reason but it seems that you finally figured it out. Things are not always so complicated sometimes the answer is right in front of you. This may sound harsh but we gotta keep it real sometimes and quit dancing around a situation in order to conclude it and solve the problem. I think you know what the issue here is, and now its on to solving it. I guess I should have been a Bee-atch to "auntie" and said, the real reason??? Ask your nephew, it was so obvious that I was not wanted there ...... but seriously, I truly had NO desire in going. YES YES YES, I'm pissed at Craig....but what else is new. Solution to this entire problem........is that "I" have NO IDEA why he even bothered to flippin come back!!!! I told him ...please stay there !!! From anyone that knows me and my relationship with Craig, it has been downhill since the 3rd week of him getting here. We'll have some good moments, but most of it isn't good. "I" do NOT want to continue with my relationship and I would reeeeeeally like for him to get his you know what together and get out, he knows that and we've talked about it till the cows come home....................but...................he will NOT leave and as said in the past, since we are "married" I canNOT kick him out !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I want to proceed with divorce, in Maryland, you have to be "legally" separated for a year.......but.........again, he won't flippin leave, says (and threatens that he will), but never does!!! He says he loves me "to death" and wants to work it out, but he doesn't do SQUAT for me to even go there. For instance, last night in one of our conversations, he asked why I'm so upset with him, I told him (again) --he laughs, thinks it's ridiculous and I said....ya know you just need to kiss my a&& a little when you get home (I was joking, but being for real) and he said, you know THAT will never happen!!!! Craig has been the type (since he got here), that if we have any argument or disagreement......he will NOT apologize "first" or come to me to TRY to solve the issue. "I" have to be the one to smooth things out, start the conversation first.........and ya know after 15 months of him being here, I'm now exhausted with trying anymore. He's immature and irresponsible (still doesn't pitch in for bills, food, etc) and LISTENS (still) to others --ie cousin, brother, guy/gal off the street of how his life SHOULD be, etc etc. I am one of those on here that TELL my story, for real and don't BS the truth as to what happens in these types of relationships. Do NOT jump all over me about this doesn't happen in ALL relationships.......I know that, but ......in most that I have met on the yardie thread, it does. I'm am totally envious of those that are on here that have men that know what their priorities and responsibilities are, unfortunately mine has totally lost sight of that !!!!!!!!!!!!! HAPPY MONDAY yup..... well kelly i think craig new that you weren't wanted....he should have been man enough to stand up to them and say if she isn't wanted then i am not coming.... Yeah, but you know Craig........balls??? He doesn't have any !! That would mean that "I" have control and not him !!! Hope everyone had a nice weekend ! We've gone right from summer to winter !!! This weather is just sooo darn crazy !!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 08:59:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Deyoungting @ Oct 15 2007, 08:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (rhondapayter @ Oct 15 2007, 03:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 14 2007, 06:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Anyway, question that I have is..... should we have been sent a wedding invitation? I mean 150 people were coming to the wedding!! Craig had no clue what his brothers wife's name is. That is absolutely crazy!! Of course you should have gotten an invitation! We only had about 30 people at our wedding and we still sent out invitations to everyone! That's just rude of them. Not to mention, a little more notice would have been nice. Marlita, I have to agree with Rhonda on this one! Even if it was an e-vite via the internet something. However, I do think you hit the nail on the head that they didn't want poor luvtravlin' there to begin wid. Which would make me REALLY pissed wid Craig, cause trust me, I know Ken. If I am not invited, then he is not going ...period! I remember when I was down in JA. in June, there were some kind of African Pride rally going on in country and one of Ken's friend said "Nuh bodda fi bring deh Browning, we want 'REAL' black people deh!" Well, who told him to seh that? Ken went off!! Him tell 'im friend all kindda claat and then said 'Bwoy, mi neva realize how fool you is! This is what keeps us down. You look at my Empress and doan find she 'dark' enough fi be black. My Lioness know more about our history and culture den your dounce ### does!" He has never spoken to that Brethen again. No matter how much he apologizes to Ken. He is not trying to hear it! That ish would piss me off to high heaven. I'm sorry Luvtravlin, but Craig needs to come correct with that ish! Blessings, Gill OH TRUST ME, I'm noooooo dummy. I SO get that I was not wanted there, but reeeeeally "I" had absolutely NO DESIRE to go there in the 1st place and I was totally excited to have 3 days without HIM being here !!!!!! This also goes back to the black/white thing. Most of that side of his family don't "like" white people. Craig asked if we had extra pictures around so that he could take pictures with him to show everyone our wedding pics and loads of other pictures we've taken...trips, the cats, my son playing soccer....so I made up a little photo album before he left, but just went through his bags, ummmm where's the photo album??? So who has it ??? very bizarre !!!! I also gave "C" a disposable camera to take pics of himself (cause I've never seen him "dressed up")..........and pictures of the wedding, his father, etc etc........dumba&& never bothered to open it up !!! What a total jerk-off !!!!	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 08:04:00
Mexico, Latin & South America	Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)	QUOTE (Marlita @ Oct 15 2007, 02:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 14 2007, 06:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (sjb1221 @ Oct 14 2007, 09:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> QUOTE (luvtravlin @ Oct 14 2007, 09:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I've met Craig's brother...last May when I went down for the interview and hung out with him for 48 hours.....but still.....invitation in writing ???!!!!! What trying to save flippin 41 cents ???!! TOTAL FLIPPIN BS !!! True but why didn't Craig tell you?? I'm sure he didn't find out 2 weeks ago that he was the best man. I would be more angry with Craig than his family. Oh trust me Shemanya I'm totally pissed off at Craig although he has absolutely "no idea" as to why!!! When I brought the whole wedding thing up or tried to discuss it, it was truly like talking to a 10 yr old!!! I don't know this and I'm not sure of that.... and I'm like whatever !!!! Of course "I" look like the bad guy for not being there and not picking him up. "I" could really and truly care less!! Asking his brother questions, where are you getting married?.....answer: in a church. What area? answer: here, near to our home....where is that ? Ardmore, where is that ? couldn't answer ... (he's been here over a year)...one worded answers. What time is the rehearsal dinner? no answer, Where is the rehearsal dinner? no answer....What time is the wedding? ...answer: in the afternoon ...I asked, exactly what time? didn't answer. I didn't have the extra funds available for a hotel stay and trust me, for the weekend in that area, nothing was less than $150/night!! I asked if there was a hotel that they set up for out of town guests, he's said, I don't know. That's when I said (nicely--cause I like his brother, he was nice to me) .............sorry I won't be able to make it. I could tell that I was not really "wanted" there, which was absolutely fine with me. It was a weekend ALL TO MYSELF (my son was still here) !!!!! Which ....was very very nice !!! and no arguing and bickering about STUPID ####### !!!!!! I was just gonna say it was obvious that they didnt want you there and for a specific reason but it seems that you finally figured it out. Things are not always so complicated sometimes the answer is right in front of you. This may sound harsh but we gotta keep it real sometimes and quit dancing around a situation in order to conclude it and solve the problem. I think you know what the issue here is, and now its on to solving it. I guess I should have been a Bee-atch to "auntie" and said, the real reason??? Ask your nephew, it was so obvious that I was not wanted there ...... but seriously, I truly had NO desire in going. YES YES YES, I'm pissed at Craig....but what else is new. Solution to this entire problem........is that "I" have NO IDEA why he even bothered to flippin come back!!!! I told him ...please stay there !!! From anyone that knows me and my relationship with Craig, it has been downhill since the 3rd week of him getting here. We'll have some good moments, but most of it isn't good. "I" do NOT want to continue with my relationship and I would reeeeeeally like for him to get his you know what together and get out, he knows that and we've talked about it till the cows come home....................but...................he will NOT leave and as said in the past, since we are "married" I canNOT kick him out !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I want to proceed with divorce, in Maryland, you have to be "legally" separated for a year.......but.........again, he won't flippin leave, says (and threatens that he will), but never does!!! He says he loves me "to death" and wants to work it out, but he doesn't do SQUAT for me to even go there. For instance, last night in one of our conversations, he asked why I'm so upset with him, I told him (again) --he laughs, thinks it's ridiculous and I said....ya know you just need to kiss my a&& a little when you get home (I was joking, but being for real) and he said, you know THAT will never happen!!!! Craig has been the type (since he got here), that if we have any argument or disagreement......he will NOT apologize "first" or come to me to TRY to solve the issue. "I" have to be the one to smooth things out, start the conversation first.........and ya know after 15 months of him being here, I'm now exhausted with trying anymore. He's immature and irresponsible (still doesn't pitch in for bills, food, etc) and LISTENS (still) to others --ie cousin, brother, guy/gal off the street of how his life SHOULD be, etc etc. I am one of those on here that TELL my story, for real and don't BS the truth as to what happens in these types of relationships. Do NOT jump all over me about this doesn't happen in ALL relationships.......I know that, but ......in most that I have met on the yardie thread, it does. I'm am totally envious of those that are on here that have men that know what their priorities and responsibilities are, unfortunately mine has totally lost sight of that !!!!!!!!!!!!! HAPPY MONDAY	luvtravlin	Female	Jamaica	2007-10-15 06:50:00